 If in the long love making you are exhausted before your lover has reached her orgasm, you should allow her to roll you over onto your back and sit astride you, taking the initiative. Consider, she climbs upon you, the flower is dropping from her tousled hair, her giggles turning to gasps, every time she bends to kiss your lips. What a simple but utterly beautiful way of making the point that it's not about ego or duties or whose role it is to pleasure the other person, but rather that pleasure is mutual and this is the time where the two of you complete each other. You know, nobody brings a hundred percent of themselves to the love making every single time. You're going to go through a dip, you're going to go through a low energy point. Sometimes that dip can last for days, sometimes it can go on for years, but this is the point where your partner can step in and fill in the energy gap. The only thing, however, is that you have to be open to it. You know, so many people, when they go through this dip, they believe that it's all over and the first thing they do is they shut their partner out. Don't shut your partner out because pleasure is not divided between mine and yours or his and hers. Pleasure is what completes the two of you and pleasure can come in many ways.