 Welcome to sister to sister. This is a good show. This is an important show We're asking a question like this what someone wrote what do I do if my child seems gender-confused? And I'm confused about something okay Is it okay to spend money on luxuries or should we be giving all of our monies to God and to the needy ah? Stay tuned find out love our sister to sister music I do yes I really do and I'm really glad that you're with us You have joined a panel of five Opinionated women of God and we bring questions that you send to us from our hearts We put it on the table and tell you what we think so this first well first I want to welcome Angela Madden today. Hi Angela sitting in for a float today. We're so glad that you're with us So glad to be here. This is gonna be there's a couple tough questions in here So good luck is all I say okay. Oh as a matter of fact this one I can't believe you wrote this you did you wrote can your virginity be restored? Hmm. How do I deal with regret? Okay, since you're new Well, I love the question because I think that it speaks to God's character. He's the God of restoration He restores all things Jeremiah 30 and 17 for I will restore thee and I will heal thee of that Wounds say at the Lord because they called the an outcast Saying this is the Zion who no man seeketh after and I think a lot of times all throughout the New Testament We see Jesus the number one thing he was doing was showing compassion to restore The person and to heal their body and so I don't think this is any different from anything else that we need Restoration from and in that very place of restoration Not only does he restore our bodies and our minds and heal us from that But he also lists that weight of guilt and shame and so how do you deal with regret? You take it to Jesus and you keep focusing and centering on him until all you see is his love for you I'm so glad that you're here and you you bring a younger perspective two ways from your heart and also from your phone Okay, so young people just on their phones me With the papers Thank you, I like anybody else have anything about the virgin It's all covered up Look at John a how Jesus actually dealt with it the woman caught in adultery He not only forgave her He protected her from other people accusing her You're accusing yourself and she he protected her from herself. Yes, where are your accusers? She forgave herself. She did not stone herself and that's what we're doing When we think Jesus can't forgive us. It's unbelief and what does he say? He protects her from the those that stone they all go and he says Go and sin no more. How do we do it? Okay? You made a mistake. We all do we're all sinners Maybe in different places. I didn't make this mistake, but I've made other mistakes So what do we do we go and sin no more? We do our best to please our Lord And if we don't fall back Jesus come to the rescue again. We repent I love how you took the question and made it about all sin. That's so good But do you have something for virginity? There's actually like a movement I don't know there's a term like some people may or not have heard of it in Christianity called secondary virginity So, I mean you're technically, you know never going to be a virgin again, right? I mean that is something very special and once you give that up you're never going to be a virgin again but there's secondary virginity and you know, it's basically you're repenting of what you've done and There's a real key part to this And it's abstaining from sex Okay, and I think that's the part sometimes that virginity Is that you're repenting of it and then you're abstaining Okay, so if you want if you really truly want to say like okay lord, I realize I screwed up. I messed up I I want to you know put this before you I am going to now abstain Okay, so that's an important part of it. I thought the most important part is repentance for sure for sure But this next question is good too in a world of instant gratification How do I teach my children to trust have faith and keep their joy? While they're waiting on god to answer our prayer so so good Roxanne, what do you have? Yeah, and you know the thing about Bringing joy to your life is not fulfilling it with outside things The real key to joy is pleasing the lord So when we're trying to wait for instant gratification, we have to remember this It's not so much about what pleases me, but what is pleasing god Where is his stance on the gratification? Is it prayer? Is it praise? Is it worship? Is it a lifestyle? Or is it all these things that are around me that distract me and the key word I use Don't be distracted to all young people Don't cause what's in front of you to be distracted hit the mark the calling that god has called you to You're going to make mistakes. You're going to stumble. That's fine. That's a part of learning But hit the mark and don't be distracted From hitting the mark. Well, Amy, what are we doing that? We're they're waiting for an answer. Right. Well, I mean, what are we doing? I'm waiting I mean, I'm in a culture of instant gratification. I can be addicted to my phone I mean, I feel like I'm right in this with them But we're constantly talking to our children about two things self control and sacrifice If you don't sacrifice today, you will not have tomorrow If you've got to wait on the lord, you have to have self control Everything shouldn't be given to you all at once just because you expect it or demand it What we put the demand on is the promises of god for our life And we know when we prayed that he's heard us when we prayed he hears us He's going to answer us and we wait on his perfect timing and there's a million stories to back up Many scriptures on this but those who wait on the lord will renew their strength They will rise up with wings like eagles. They will run and grow. You know, you know, oh, did you hear that? That's really good. What do you have who has something for me? I literally said the same exact thing as any I was like they need to see it in our lives. That's how our children are going to learn it Is by seeing that we're not doing instant gratification And not just in like, I mean in everything not just in praying about things It's just like in everything like we're not just going out and buying everything We're saving up for things It's just in everything they need to see that example in our lives And you know, maybe we can't afford to like go out and buy something right now Or we can't like they like we need to tell the stories of the times where we prayed and prayed and prayed for something Or they need to see where we saved up and bought like that We need to share those stories of faith and times I prayed for my grandma to get saved for years and years every single day I prayed for her when I was a teenager and right before she died She accepted the lord as her savior. I need to share that story with my children So they can see that I mean we have those stories of faith in the word of god Of all those, you know, the people of faith that has passed down to us We need to pass that down to our children personal story to your kids too. What do you have, Angela? I love that sharing those stories and actually putting it in practice with your children in the little things Like don't give them. Oh, they want the iPad right now. They don't have to have the iPad right now Let's put parameters around that and teach them when you wait for it. Let me see how you wait, baby Are you gonna wait with joy? Are you gonna be excited and know that mommy is faithful and I Fill my promises or are you gonna be anxious and keep asking? You know, I think that really a lot of times like parenting We have to put it in practice for them in these little places So then when it comes to the big ones those are easy. Well, I love what you said You keep asking because sometimes with the lord I keep asking, you know, perhaps I've asked the same prayer Many many many years, but god knows my heart and hits his time not mine Okay, this last question is really good too This is the one that I talked about in the promo and you sent it to us. We appreciate this What should I do if my child seems gender confused such a hot topic for today? Amy, I'm giving it to you pastor. Amy. No, no, I mean this is just right in our face You know as we're celebrating pride month and we're seeing what's happening at target and we're seeing all the companies pushing Really a sexual preference agenda upon us whether we want it or not So I wanted to bring a book that I want to reference and it's called engendered What was god thinking by patsy camminetti? A phenomenal bible school teacher, you know my bible school very solid in the word And she breaks it all down So I just wanted to read a couple of lines from this new book that might help Actually, it's like within the past five years Okay, so that was written a bit ahead of like where we're at right now So like in the beginning god separated the sexes. Let us make male and female. He separated the sexes, which is important The sex chromosomes you're either xx or xy they're given at conception And how the baby develops before birth determines the sex identified when the baby is born We know that apart from a person's spirit. There is nothing more core to his or her identity than his or her sex This is why it's under such Huge violent attack because satan wants to attack our very Identity in the core of who we are The person's sex Determined by their dna at the time of conception is stamped into every cell of their body And remains the same in spite of all modifications And she's talking about in this gender dysphoria gender identity gender confusion And what that looks like and she said there can be a variety of reasons why a person becomes disoriented regarding the sex He or she was conceived and born as many of them are intimate some tragic some a temporary phase But she says this when the body and the soul are at odds with each other there is gender confusion And psalm 119 the entrance of god's word gives light. So if we see our children What we go to is not what we think not how we think it should be Not how we designed it to be not what the world is telling them or what that book said But we got we have to go to an absolute truth source and find out well How did god create you and then we speak those words of value and god's word and god's light into that child We are all dealing with identity issues And we all have to hear what god says about it and the entrance of his word will bring light And expose any darkness or hidden agendas of the enemy. I can't believe that book was written five years ago Because the bruce Jenner thing was that five years ago. So this is relatively new anybody Have something for us To talk to the people their child seems gender confused. I think one thing important though is to say um There's I mean there's really nothing that you can't do as a boy or a girl Except what's limited by biology So, uh, you know, I I just want to you know say to my little boy or my little girl like you can do anything You know what I mean? You're not limited by Like what career you want to go into or what toy you want to play with or you know, there's you know I think that there's You know, they there's this feeling like you're gonna you're so limited by What gender you are and I don't think there's yeah, there's there's not you're not limited On your roles and I think that I think that we need to you know Not limited them on their athletics or their toys or their the roles they want to play I don't think we have to say like okay my little girl You can't play with the legos or you can't play with like I think we need to let them play with nurses Doctors presidents pastors That's awesome, buddy Let me make sure we're keeping those lines of communications open and really listen to our child and make sure we're not shutting them down If they are coming to us with gender confusion and that we're not Being like super hyper like they're only gonna ever wear pinker They're only ever gonna wear blue and we're not gonna let them play with because they're confused I'm gonna be like super hyper to the you know one side or the other because we're so scared About their confusion. I think that we need to really be careful about that I have a question. What do we tell our children who are seeing this every day? That's even different question What do we tell our children? What do you tell your kids? Angela? So I tell them the truth and I say you know It's really sad because a lot of times people just get confused in their mind And we know confusion is not sourced in the father who is peace And when we trust in him his perfect peace comes in and guides and leads us into all goodness And so with this in particular I I apologize for the mom or the father who is really struggling in this space And I know it can be overwhelming and it can leave you distraught And I just want to let you know first and foremost There's always hope in jesus that prayer it by prayer Everything by prayer and so he is our source and just to encourage you there But um, I also think that it's really important. Amy hit on it in the book is that Identity as who we are in christ jesus through the word Let that word flow over them and into them that they may walk in the truth of who's they are first and foremost When you walk in the truth everything else is flooded You know, um, one of the scriptures that I like it says for where envy and self-seeking exists Confusion and every evil thing are there. So when we focus on ourselves so much It can get us completely off track and focusing on oh what's going on I'm so confused in here, but when you focus on the word it's set straight. Yeah, I have nothing to add To that. Thank you. Okay. We'll be right back. Stay there more questions coming up Wow just wow the sisters are bringing it today I'm so grateful for their hearts and I'm so grateful for you watching and sending us questions and this question I'm giving to amy because she's my bling girl. Well your quarry's my bling girl too, but listen to this Is it you said this? Is it wrong to spend money on luxuries such as designer clothes a special nails spas vacations Rather than giving it to god or the truly needy. Oh my gosh pastor. Amy. Okay before I say my opinions The scripture is this seek first the kingdom of god And his righteousness and then all these things are added under you Those things are not what we seek. I I don't live for things. I don't live for stuff That's not the center of my focus. That's not the center of my heart. That is not my purpose however I am a king's kid And my king my father has streets of gold Gates of pearls when I get there He's going to give me crowns and I'm going to lay at his feet that are full of jewels and He created everything in the earth for our enjoyment and our pleasure And so I do believe that When your priority is first the kingdom And god blesses you I think that he wants you to enjoy life as well Some people enjoy it in different ways, whether it's Exquisite trips or a designer belt or shoes I mean when I walk in the shoe section, I feel the angels. It's like heaven and god's like this is for you Amy, you know And with great wisdom I shop for that amazing perfect shoe, you know But that I don't live for shoes. My focus isn't shoes. It's not what I'm dreaming of thinking of I'm thinking kingdom building his kingdom And I am a huge giver that I will say confidently and you know what? I do enjoy nice I wish that your shoes fit me If I need something you're the first person to say come over to closet amy Amazing Yeah, I'd like to say something about this when I look at the scripture There was the self-righteous rich young ruler. Yes. Yes, there was the perfect man and then there was the tax collector So the perfect man comes I've obeyed all the law. So how can I what can I do? I love god and and and jesus says well sell everything you have and follow me He tested him In his self-righteousness He was self-righteous. Jesus doesn't ask everybody to give everything up, but he said he was perfect But you lack one thing you feel yourself righteous So you got to give up these things and follow me He couldn't do it because he held on to them. Amy said you see gods So then there's the tax collector In uh luke 19 He repented. He was rich. What did he do? He gave Everything back. He stole wrong four times over and gave half of what he had There's the self-righteous soul that jesus demands from and then there's the repentant soul He didn't tell him go give four times back. The man was repentant. It was his own Conviction I need to give everything back. I stole one four times over and I'm gonna have half of what I give to the poor Yep. Oh my gosh. This question literally drives me crazy. I cannot stand This kind of question it even asking this question to me is like self-righteous Honestly, it's like it's like ew. Isn't it wrong to have luxuries? Isn't it wrong like like people that like look at other people People that look at other people and they're like look at their house. Look they just went on that vacation Like look at what she's wearing. Look at her shoes. Look at my shoes. Oh my gosh Everybody look at my shoes write a letter into cornerstone television Like I can't get my leg up there I cannot get my leg up here I just this drives me crazy. You know what the lord calls on us To give with a cheerful heart. He calls on us to do that because it's a personal issue it's not on Help your friend give with a cheerful heart. Okay, it's a personal Giving issue everything we have is the lord's everything I own is the lord's I have nothing without the lord. Okay, and so I give back to the lord with a cheerful heart because That's what i'm called to do and it's a blessing to do so Okay, and so there's always something more we could give there's always something we could literally have nothing We could give it all back to him because he didn't ask for us to give it all back He asked for a certain amount for us to give Give back and with a cheerful heart and that is what we are called to do Okay, miss bling. Okay, but my bling girl I want to ask you about speaking the truth and love though because you are speaking the truth and love with this Very much. Okay, but think about effusions for forces that speak the truth and love So how do you non-judge your rich people? Okay, go ahead. All you rich people out there. I'm gonna speak some truth to you Here's the deal that you don't sacrifice truth For love and you don't sacrifice love for truth. That is how you speak the truth and love You don't sacrifice one for the other Anybody else because i'm not crazy about that this one Only because if somebody okay if someone I don't like their outfit and they ask me how's my outfit. I'm not speaking truth I'm loving them. Do you like this? Yes, I love it and I love your nails. Okay somebody else speaks the truth What about like the characteristics of the holy spirit? Okay that we should be operating in as we are speaking the truth In love and I just wrote a couple of things. He's honest loving loyal. He guides he corrects. He's also your advocate He's an instructor. He's a trusted friend. He's truthful wise Peaceful nurturing so like is there a way we could approach speaking the truth in love with that sort of Holy spirit guidance I think one of the big things like when jesus goes into the temple and that's always where everyone goes Well jesus got upset. He turned over tables. He was in but if you continue to read that passage It also says and after these things he healed in that same temple If when you are sharing truth The end goal is not healing and to lead them to jesus truly and really with the love of christ That says I love you even when you remain in sin If that is not your goal, then you're not doing it in love. Oh my gosh, and I really do love that church I really do and I know that some of you write to us and say, oh my gosh, kori is showing her shoulders again But that's I do love this. I do love I love you so much Okay, and I really love you and we're gonna wrap this show up because this is a heck of a show today Stay there. We'll be right back Well, that was a crazy show today. You were in for a little bit of a wild ride there We talked about a lot of great topics today We talked about secondary virginity and instant gratification gender confusion Luxuries and speaking the truth in love and I am really grateful that my sisters Speak the truth in love. Well, most of them at least And you know, we always end the show with the scripture and today's scripture is in the psalms psalm 25 verse five. This is a psalm of david Guide me in your truth and teach me for you are god my savior and my hope is in you All day long Is your hope in your savior all day long? Or is it only in your hope when you're singing those worship songs on sunday morning? Or maybe only when your keys are lost or when you're just praying that prayer over and over If you want your hope to be in your savior all day long Dig into those scriptures and you will see that hope over and over As it is repeated in god's word And you will find the hope of jesus isn't that the truth that you will find the hope of jesus in the scripture So we always encourage you to check it out and check this one out too as iron sharpens iron So does the countenance of a man or a woman or these sisters? Sharpen the other and then I always add this and it's so true. They make me a better kathy. See you next time