 رموات السماء طبال العدي إذا جدنا ما رموات فالخير وفيرا انصر ما ينجي المأثوم من النار واشدوا أن سيدنا وعظيمة حبيبي قلوبنا النبي المؤية والرسول المسد ومصطف الأمجد والمحمود الأحمد حبيبي الله العالمين أبل قاسي محمد صلاة الله وسلم وعليه وعلى آد بيته الطيبين الطاهري صفن النجاة العلام مكي بسفينتهم النجاة ومن تخلنها هاليكة وغرك ثم أما بعد باستخدام أخادي السلام عليكم جميعا رحمة الله وبركاته today we are also continuing from where we left from yesterday we spoke about the rights of the tongue today Imam Zain Al-Abideen moves on to speak to us about the right of hearing because sometimes also we are unaware of what we allow those to hear and that times causes us to deviate or stray from the right path and I'll show you what the Imam says and I'll explain inshallah the Imam says فإنه باب الكلام إلى قد إليه ضروب المعاني على ما فيها من خير أو شر ولا قوة إلا بالله he says the right of your hearing to honor it from being the path into your mind الله أكبر look at these words because it's your hearing that reaches your mind so you must be very attentive to what reach your mind because if something is wrong something untrue something false reaches that mind then it will have an effect on how you think and how you relate this so he says the right of your hearing is to honor it from being the path into your mind unless for a noble practice that creates a virtue in your heart you should only allow yourself something that will create something good in your heart when I hear someone saying I want to sing like lady pink she comes stage and say I want in meaning I don't want to be a good person I want to do everything harab and you're listening to this day and night day and night day and night day and night can it happen to your heart your heart is going to be the vessel that holds within it something not right okay when I hear a backbiting gossip slander what will happen to the heart the thing is the path to the mind what rests in the mind affects the heart right in Ramadan I think I shared this story with you two women we're gossiping about some other women Rasulullah sent Bilal to them they said ask them to break their rosa oh ya Rasulullah how could we break our rosa we are fasting for the sake of Allah so they refused so the prophet called for them to come when they call when they came over the prophet had prepared for them buckets you know what a bucket they said break your rosa and vomit in this bucket so they did the vomited pieces of meat pieces, releases of meat in the bucket so Rasulullah said to them do you know why I told you to break your rosa what is the benefit of a rosa when you sit and backbite about people so much so that the effect of that biting is so physical vomiting blood and the flesh of the ones you're beating since the morning so why do you want to allow your hearing to listen to something that is not right that is not healthy and Rasulullah and the scholars of Islam say you have two options when Gheba and Namima is being done only two options option number one is to stop them from continuing option number two to leave the place you are in option number three you are party to the Gheba and Namima even if you don't say a word so I did not make part in the gossip by virtue of listening to it Rasulullah and Imam both of them have a hadith they say the one who listens to Gheba but does not participate in it is a party to Gheba itself so why why stay and Allah SWT says in Surah Al-Hujurat أحب أحدكم أن يأكل لحم أخيه ميتا would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother alive while gossiping and slandering him surely it is an apparent act to eat the flesh of your brother alive imagine someone comes and says I want to bite your hand I want to bite your size I want to bite your shoulder alive and true that meet of your living brother he says impossible something that the human you know mind cannot comprehend or accept so the Imam SAW don't allow your hearing to receive anything except that which will create a virtue inside your heart listen to the Quran listen to a good speech listen to music if it is good music not bad music like أيت الله خميني أيت الله خميني of Iran according to his takli he himself he says before I became a Marja because now he wants to be extra careful of course before I became a Marja I used to listen to Beethoven you know slow music because it is not haram to listen maybe some Ayatollah say it is haram something else that some Ayatollah allow it he says if you listen to something that is healthy for example in the west they've come up with a type of music which is totally based on nature sound of whales sound of birds and they mixed in the background a little bit of soft music they say it is one of the most relaxing things to listen to and subhan Allah if you do listen to it you find that you are emptying all your stress away when you listen to it because why it is Allah's natural sounds the sound of whales the sound of birds the sound of you know and things like that so when you want to listen to something listen to something healthy train your hearing to always listen to something that is healthy then the Imam says what or by which you may gain a decent manner يعني if you listen to something good you may practice that good by practicing that good you what you will gain a new dimension to your mannerism you will become more decent of a human being more decent of a human being by virtue of training your listening to listen to something good what happens to you you find gradually that you only talk about something good you don't find it in yourself to speak about something foul right it becomes a natural reaction that everything that flows from your mouth after that is something that is decent even if you try to swear you can't because it cannot come part and parcel of your setup anymore because you don't hear anything but good so if someone does not hear anything but good where is he going to be able to use foul language from but if every day I'm hearing foul language and every day I'm training my hearing by repeating the foul language as well then where will I find good language and sometimes we complain that our children have very bad mannerism but where is that bad mannerism coming from it's coming from the way the mother speaks to the dad and the dad speaks to the mother right the abuse that is happening between mom and dad is from the outset when the child is growing up all he is is fighting mom is shouting at dad dad is shouting at mom mom is saying curse today I know you the father is saying I hate your guts and your mother and your father and everything that comes from your family right if the child grows up in that environment what the child is going to become an Imam of a mosque is not going to become an Imam of a mosque of course he will repeat the same language and terminology as what the parents will do if the parents tell lies the child will grow up to tell lies if the parents tell the truth then the child by nature will grow to tell the truth so the Imam says or by training yourself to listen to what is good you will gain a decent manner the hearing then the Imam says is the gate into the mind and to which it delivers various types of either noble or evil meanings the first thing that registers in the mind is what you hear and what you see Allah will get to the rights of seeing as well so the Imam emphasizes that for example people say how can we change ourselves and become good mu'min you cannot separate your parts from one another you must train your hands your sight your hearing your tongue your bodily parts your mind your soul you become a good mu'min but walla sheikh can you give us a dua so we can like a magic wand you know the the asa of mousa فضرب بها البحر so he had see with it it's split into parts sometimes you know what we want we want something like that a dua splits our head change the cheap of bad put a new cheap that is good then close it it's not going to happen Allah says you cannot claim to be a mu'min or someone righteous until you struggle in our past أحسيب الناس أن يتركوا أن يقولوا أمن لا يفتنوا هل يعتقدون أنه فقط يجب أن يتكلم و يقولون بلب أن نحن مميز و لن يجب أن يكون إضافة للتحاول يجب أن يكون إضافة للتحاول so when you are facing a situation where people are speaking about foul things توقفهم توقفهم جيدا تغيب the direction of the speech تغيب the direction of the setup لا تجب أن تكون أو تجب أن تكون أو تجب أن تكون شيء that revolves around gossip because 90% of our chilling out and chillaxing right is what we say to one another if we don't talk about someone else there is no value to the whole session it's not nice it's so dry amazing imagine if the one that is being talked about is you will you love to be in that session and trust me and this is a guarantee from me to you everyone that sits in the same gathering and talk about someone else the minute you leave the whole conversation will be about you and if this person leave it will transfer to him again the next one that leaves the talk will be about you and it's a vicious circle until everyone talks about everyone a true friend is the one who is true to you in your absence and in your presence right not the one when you turn your back he begins to smack at you or begins to attack you no that's not a friend huh and that's why the Imam says that it is the gateway to every noble or evil things and there is no might except by Allah so if you want to exercise the ability to shun yourself from listening to something that is bad make sure that you always you always take the assistance of Allah Subhanahu و تعالى into account then the Imam moves on to speak about the right of the site the right of the site he says what و أما حق البصر فغضه عما لا يحل لك و تركب تداله إلا لموضي عبرة تستقبل بها بصرا أو تستفيد بها علما فإن البصر باب الإعتبار the Imam says the right of your site is to lower it from what you have no right to look at huh huh so the young men شيخ can I go to the beach yes you can go to the beach what happens if someone is in a bikini should I look I didn't ask her to wear a bikini but she didn't ask you to come to the beach either right and if you want to go to the beach go to a beach where there is nothing haram to look at or if there is haram avoid to look at it because we don't want you also not to enjoy life you can enjoy life Islam says you can enjoy life and this goes for both genders genders not only for for men or women no for both genders men should not look at women women should not look at men unless there are their husbands unless there are their mahrams right if you look around the world why do you think there is so much premiscuity around people in the world why because because people are never content with their partners secondly because they are always gazing and eyeing someone else but if every woman became Prajet Pardo for her husband and every man was Tom Cruise for his wife then no one will look outside right but if men don't groom themselves someone comes home with a beard that big where do I find your mouse where do I find it I have to go through where do I find it if I want to be sitting next to you for you to give me a hug you smell like grease or like garlic or like onion or like dirt from the street how is it I'm going to feel I'm going to be inclined towards you what will draw me towards you flip the coin when the husband comes home and the wife is still with the kitchen clothes who cooking all day and the smell of her dress is bakora I don't know what all this tendouri chicken how is this going to appeal to the husband that's why you find our girls are so infatuated with what titanic twilight days of our life why because they give you something which is not realistic it's fantasy they show you the wife is always immaculate right she can be immaculate but this is not realistic but we must try our level best Imam Ali said our level of a woman at home is to beautify herself to her husband to do everything under the sun to go and shop every week at La Senza I'm sorry to say that all right but if this is not going to take place then our husbands will look outside this is a fact this is a fact there is no denial about it if you think that you can keep your husband at home on the basis of being dressed in the same dress all day then you've got something else coming and it's not going to happen at all no matter what when he used to travel and he used to come back home from his travel he would never go home at night to his home he would spend the night in the mosque he was asked why ya Rasoolallah he said because when I'm traveling I'm tired it shows on my face I don't want my wife to look at me and think I have changed towards her so I would spend the night in the mosque relax take a shower in the morning put my new clothes on and then I will go to her because she's always familiar to see me in that way look at the way the Prophet dealt with his wives and not only that the Prophet used to keep a comb under his spiller every day he would wake up before anyone would see him he would comb his hair and his beard and when he sees that the hair on his beard is not even he used to trim the beard which is not even he used to trim the beard that is not even in fact once one of the companions of the Prophet came and he had a very messy beard he said to him when Allah gave you that hair he gave you that hair to look after it and to trim it because you're not a goat you're a human being and your wife has a right on you that when she wants to see you she wants to see you groomed she doesn't want to see you in a way that she cannot relate to you as a human being so you must always be in a position to groom yourself because what you see has a lasting impression in your brain when you come to pray in Salah why do you often get flashbacks because the brain registers what it sees so every time you see something haram when is it going to haunt you at the time when you are trying to be at peace with Allah it flushes comes out to distract you from what from connecting to Allah so they say that the looking at something haram is like an arrow that goes straight to your heart so much so that every time you look at haram the prophet explains your heart will get a black dot on it every time you look at something haram you get a black dot so the prophet explains then after a while the heart becomes so black because of looking at haram because of looking so you can't find the light of Allah coming into your heart and then what do you say Quran doesn't move me anymore I don't feel being moved when I hear the dua being played when I am in prayer why because our hearts are black from looking at haram how is it going to see the light of Allah or be moved when the Quran is being recited or the dua is being recited or even any good is being recited even if someone speaks to you a word of good you will not recognize it anymore why because your heart is so black and the prophet says the best way to read yourself of a hard heart is to keep away from haram don't look at haram then your heart becomes so soft when you don't look at something haram so the imam says the right of your sight is to lower it from what you have no right to and stop misusing it unless for a lesson by which you may gain sagacity or benefit some knowledge if you look at something where it will make your iman grow for example you contemplate on the horizon at night you sit and you look at the stars you look at the moon you say سبحانكه ما خلقت هذا باطنة الذين الذين يذكرون الله قياما وقعودا وعلى جنوبهم ويتفكرون في خلق السماوات والأرض ربنا ما خلقت هذا باطنة فقنا عذابنا الذين يذكرون الله while standing while sitting while on their site and they contemplate on the universe and they say surely oh Allah you did not create this in vain you did not create this for game so protect us from hellfire and do not allow us to enter the abode of your hellfire by looking at these things that's why then we can learn and appreciate the statement of امير المؤمنين علي ابن عبي طالب when he said every time I look at something I see Allah with it above it and inside with it above it and inside it okay then can I look at a good man or a good looking woman you can without ريبا ريبا means a feeling in the heart that lowers you to be with that person in a haram way but if you look at a woman from the perspective that subhan Allah created her in a nice way praise be Allah for his creation and nothing else apart from that but that requires training especially when it comes to men because men the first thing they look at a good wife are bed and that's a fact so you are better off doing what don't look them if you can't control yourself and you are not in control of yourself and look what the prophet says he says if you look at a woman and you desire her what should you do now alright your louis are what flaming inside you the prophet says if you look at a woman and you desire her go to your wife go to your wife because she has more right on you than this woman this one doesn't belong to you does not belong to you so go to that woman because she is yours she is yours Allah says نساءكم حرث لكم your woman are yours go to them whenever you feel and your men are yours so go to them and create that love atmosphere who among us here who are married decided one day at night when a husband is coming back to let up some nice candles for him switch the light a little bit down dim it put some of these you know perfume the essence incense and dress in something nice and wait for him you think if your husband if you do this to your husband he is going to look outside then he would be mad if he does he would be mad and this is what you should train your daughters you don't expect your daughters to know this by themselves they need to be trained that if you want to keep your husband at home be the woman he wants you to be and if you want your wife also to be at home be the husband she wants you to be it's double fold it can't be one sided it has to be two sided in that in that regard then he says unless it is for a lesson by which you may gain sagacity or benefit some knowledge as the sight is the gate for learning subhan Allah when you see something your mind begins to function as to now i want to know more about it i want to know more about it when i want to know more about it you become more knowledgeable in that then the imam moves to the right of the legs even your legs have right now we don't think about any of these bodily parts the imam says لك ولا تجعلهم أمطيتك إلى الطريق المستخفة بأهلها فإنها حاملتك وسالكتك بك مثلك الدين والسفق لك ولا قوة إلا بالله والله the imams when they speak they speak only logic and they speak amazing language he says the right of your feet is not to use them but you have no right to يعني or be the means of hindering someone's pathway يعني don't stand in the middle of the road and block someone's way you have no right رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم was speaking to his companions in Medina once and he said it is better أخلاق not to hang out on public road he said that is the only place where we can chill in Medina they didn't have bowling alleys they didn't have cinemas the only thing they had is that one road in front of the mosque he said even there we can't sit he said if you have to then you must observe 3 rules and this is the right of the pathway on you look even the pathway has a right they said يعرسول الله what are the rights of the pathway on us they said number one not to block it you know sometimes you see a group of youth 10 of them standing and a lady wants to pass she doesn't know where to go even if there is a barrel of water there they would not even move if she has to move into or walk in the barrel of water that's disrespect to the human dignity move because public road means what it's for everyone's use it's not for you to block it he says I don't know why people want to hang out on public road if they hear what the prophet says he said you must remove all the debris from people's way broken glass he become a council worker you see a banana peel here what do we do we are all tossers you know what a tosser open the window cigarettes bottle of milk and you know what why is the muslim world so dirty because we are dirty because we can't even keep a plastic bag inside our cars to chuck things in it even a tissue out of the window you know in the west you chuck something out of the window 200$ that's why you go to singapore honest to god you can eat off the road that's how clean this place is you know in singapore chewing gum is not allowed you know why to preserve this environment and this world for people to enjoy I was my first visit to singapore I came out of my hotel at lunchtime I saw everyone standing at lunchtime smoking but guess what everyone had an ashtray in his hand what a sight I said this is unbelievable people are so disciplined you are not allowed to tip your cigarette and the ashes on the floor everyone is tipping it like you know the small ashtrays they buy for about $2.50 and then they go and empty it I said I wish the muslims would learn this I was making in kaaba someone in front of me I said brother you are in kaaba and you are spitting in masjid al haram like what manners are these where did you learn your manners no wonder why I often say people who needs to go to Hajj must go for 2 weeks they should learn the etiquettes of what it means I was with my wife in Hajj once I was seated here and my wife was seated next to me and there is a person from the up we were going to Arafa and you know how the buses they are jam packed so the window was down my wife was sitting next to me and there is a guy in the other bus I look at my wife and she is crying I said this man in his ahram clothes sitting on the other bus he is going like this to me I said you are in Hajj what discipline what audacity Muslims have and then we say after we do that we go to kaaba you are the devil himself you are the devil himself who is Allah going to answer your prayers and then what do they tell you they tell you in Hajj you should not react what should not react here you should react because يعني the one who wants to create mischief and evil in Hajj then Allah will take care of him he will fix him up that means you should not keep quiet when volm is taking place in Hajj under the premise of what don't waste your Hajj don't waste your Hajj they want you to always keep quiet against what is false and this is a systematic way of how the Saudi authorities function in Hajj you shouldn't speak about something bad why? so that you would not lose your Hajj I'm not going to lose my Hajj if I stop something evil Imam Hussein left Makkah all together so that evil will not take place in Makkah when he heard that some people are going to kill him he left Makkah all together he was on the 8th day about to take he was in his Ihram clothes that Iwayah says he changed his knee took his Ihram clothes and withdrew from Makkah and went to Karbala in order to stand for the truth Imam says don't allow your legs to carry you to where they're not supposed to because your legs and your feet are going to talk to you on the day of judgment why did you take us to sin club why did you take us to I don't know what bar you're going to be asked by Allah SWT don't think now if you go to sin club or I don't know what bar no one can see you Allah SWT can see you the right of your feet is not to use them in what you have no right to no do you make them look at this word no do you make them your mount you write them your mount on the path that despises its uses do you know what your feet will begin to hate you for taking them to a haram place so this goes dancing floors because what happens the Prophet SAW says a person will be resurrected on the state he dies on so if you die big wing you're going to come out of judgment shaking left and right and imagine in front of all the creation of Allah from Adam till the time of qiyamah people all are saying and you are dancing and you are shaking left right and center and have you ever seen someone in a car with the music on and you're standing next to him and you can't hear the music what he's doing look at him what do you see other than a monkey jumping up in the car because you can't hear the music look at him and says is this guy for real is he alright are you ok I'm just listening to music and then you understand this guy is freaking out he's moving he's jumping and the car is pumping because they have 300 subwoofers in the back 300 subwoofers you know what the 300 subwoofer they don't even use it in disco floors and the car is pumping on the road and everyone is looking show me show me the subwoofer oh man what an audio system you have in the car but this is you are going to it with your own feet and your own feet said we will testify on the day of judgment against you don't make us testify against you on the day of judgment so then he says don't make them your mount on the path that despises its uses for they are your carrier and drive they are your carrier and drive you of religion your feet should drive you and carry you towards the path of righteousness go and visit a sick person go on a nice holiday some jurists were asked can I travel in Ramadan they say yes absolutely you can travel no matter what the reason except if it is for one reason if you travel for Haram you are not allowed to travel and if you travel and knowing that you are going to travel for Haram it is not allowed for you to break your rosa you have to keep it subhanallah the only time you have to keep your rosa when you are traveling is 2 times if your work is traveling you are a truck driver or a pilot or a train driver or a bus driver then you can't break your rosa if you are observing rosa why because you are traveling in that case become Haram and you have no right to break your rosa subhanallah and how many people travel I remember in 78 I was telling some of my sisters and brothers a Kuwaiti airline 747 was hijacked during 78 there was a lot of hijacking in the Arab world this plane was hijacked 70% of the passengers on the plane told their wives they are going for Omrah guess where the plane was hijacked in Thailand what a bunch of liars men we are saying women we are saying men and their creative evil nature they think that if they lie if they lie to their wives Allah will not get them caught and you know what after he has given you so much chances he doesn't make a scandal of you in your community no he makes a mockery of you in front of the whole world because the whole world knew about this issue and you know during that particular month when they came back it was the highest rate of divorce in Kuwait in that month all the women said are you going to Omrah or go to Omrah go to Thailand we don't want your Thailand you are lying and taking the name of Allah in brain who took that person to that plane his feet don't allow them to be the mount towards Haram no train them to walk towards what is right and what is Halal I will conclude insha Allah and then he says the prize will be yours if you train them what is right and there is no might except in that by Allah سبحانه و تعال and then the Imam goes and speaks about the right of the hand but the right of the hand is very long سبحانه و تعال because there is so many things you can do with that hand so many things so I will stop here I will take some questions because I need to preserve my voice for tonight I am losing my voice I take your leave may Allah bless you may Allah make us aware of the right of our bodies on us so that they can be the excellent aid for us towards religiousness and towards closeness with Allah سبحانه و تعال و آخر دعوانا الحمد لله رب العالمين و صلى الله وسلم و بارك على محمد و آله طيبين و رب العالمين حسنًا هل تأكدت تفعيلة جئة؟ هل يريد أن تأكدوا عن المرور أم تأكدوا عن المرور سبحانه و تعال سبحانه و تعال سبحانه و تعال يمكنك أن تكلم عن شيء that you know عن another person إذا كنت انت اخذر عن هذا المرور عن مجارة من ذلك لا تستطيع أن تفعل المعلومات لا تستطيع أن تأتي ونقول ذلك أسف؟ لا، فأخرى يجب أن تأتي ونوقفه ولكن إذا كان يساعدك لا يساعدك أن تأتي ونقوله سأخبرك أصدقائي أحد يأتي وقلت أنه دور كنت أخبرك أنك أصدقائي أحد يأتي وقلت أنه دور وقلت أنه دور أحد يأتي وقلت أنه ك Bitcoin غذبت أنه شرطينك رحلت أن أنها شرطيني سوى أن انقلت لن يأتي فهي يحصل على فرطة فرطة ، فأنا سأحصل على أمام. فالمن يأتي بك ، وقال لك ، لا تأكدني أنك لا تأكدني في مجموعة أمامك ، فقال لك ، أمام أنا أفعل شيء جيد لك ، وقال لك ، ما تفعله كانت جيدة لك ، لأنه ما هذا المخطب بقال ، كانوا أرز that missed their target ، لأنني لم أسمعهم ، ما فعلتك هو أنت تأخذت هذه الأسلحة وقامت بها في حياتي لأنه لو لم أعلم ما كان يفعله أو ما يقوله فأنا لم يكن لديه أشياء معه ولكن لأنك came and told me now I am enraged with hatred and I don't want to be in that position إذا لم أعلم أن أحد يتحدث عنك هل أنت تشعر بأي شيء؟ لا but if he comes and tells you even if you are the biggest movement you will find something in your heart at least you will be sad why is this man or woman speaking about me so don't be in a position where you transform or transport in use because the companions of the prophet said to him يا رسول الله what is غيبة he said to mention something about your brother that he doesn't like you to mention in public then they said then what is Bohtan Bohtan is a worse level than غيبة he said to mention in the first case he has that habit but he doesn't like anyone to know about it in public but you go and speak about him it's غيبة he said Bohtan is to fabricate something about him which he doesn't have to say something he is greedy but he is not but you hate him so you fabricate something about him in that regard this is a worse form than غيبة itself it's slander it's called slandering the dignity and then the prophet had taught us when your brother Muslim or sister Muslim does something that you become aware of which is haram you must make sure you hide it from the eyes of the people من سترا عيبة أخي whoever covers and conceals the shortcomings and the mistake of his brother or sister Allah will hide his shortcomings on the day of judgement سبحان الله so imagine if you know something about someone let's say for example it came to my awareness that this particular person drinks alcohol but no one else does it I have no right to tell people about him because maybe there was a scholar who went to a man's house to visit him knowingly that he drinks alcohol but he wanted to teach his students a practical lesson of how to preach Dawah in a nice way so he went to his wife the minute he went in he saw a bottle next to the مولانا he took his عباية and he covered the bottle with it his students noticed that they saw what he did so when he spoke to the man not once he mentioned to him why do you drink alcohol not once he just said we miss you we haven't seen you in a long time masha Allah your father was this and that and you're a good man I hope one day we will see you in the mosque سلام عليكم that night that man came to the mosque he said do you know مولانا every مولانا before you that came to the mosque he used to tell everyone don't go to that man's house because he drinks alcohol you are the first مولانا that came and hid the bottle with your blessed عباية so that you will not make a mockery of me I make Allah bear witness that from this moment I am repenting to Allah because of the approach and the method hide the secrets of your brothers and approach them in a healthy way they will change their ways but you make a mockery of them that person he will say I am sinning and I am sinning I might as well enjoy it then everyone knows I am bad now so I might as well God is not going to accept me and the community is not going to accept me so let me chill the way I want to chill right then you have closed the doors of tawba and repentance for your brothers in that regard yes yes yes yes I didn't understand the question correctly if a person has somebody and a family who does not pursue an opportunity maybe in the real world now to a medical reason okay does that pay same person another way to pay some value to you if she is unable to do that deed because she is exempted for medical reason and she has knowledge about the religion right she has a right to advise the person but not to dictate to that person yeah she has the right to advise in a nice way if she knows the law about this particular act but if she is just wanting to make a comment or chuck a comment then it's better that you remain silent not you of course wherever the person is absolutely absolutely yes yes no she should demand that's her right she tells him she should tell him that if you want me to be beautiful I want you to be I love you I want to see you beautiful right it's my right I want to feast my eyes on your beauty right what's up until when until when I'm going to do what happens if I go and I get an ugly one later on no it's good to do but in doing but in doing it doesn't it doesn't hurt but do it in a nice way يعني let us if our husband stops to be husbands let us not stop to be wives right and if our wives stop to be wives men should not stop to be husbands right yes sister آيات الله and all of the آيات الله majority of them they say that if you take make up as a sign to attract people and it is so obvious right that people will be attracted to you it's Haram how try it Haram some Maraj now they say if the community you live in they ascribe to a very modest modest form of let's say for example foundation a blush very very subtle lip colors okay but it's not very obvious right then it is allowed otherwise it's Haram in the community even if it is subtle and the community you live does not ascribe to that form of make up it also becomes Haram that's what I said both if you are in a community that does not allow you that it becomes a sign of attraction even if it was subtle you cannot wear it according to آيات الله it's time whether it's heavy or whether it's subtle yes like for example if you go to the west many women in the west they put apply very light make up okay some Maraj say if you do it where it does not become so obvious right then it is not a problem the other question you tell me common sense what makes a non-muslim less of a human being what makes him less of a human being does it make him less of a human being and let me tell you something sister if you train yourself look what the Imam says train yourself not to be obscene okay if you train yourself to make غيبة on non-muslim wouldn't that lead you to make غيبة about Muslims so leave both of them it does not make sense right absolutely absolutely I mean that's what I say Islam is common sense Islam is natural if your natural instinct says it does not make sense then it is not Islam right yes yes sister okay okay okay okay I think that personal space that teenagers often ask for has to be earned right if you want that space take that space no problem and parents should accommodate that space but are you worthy of that space are you wise enough to take that space mom trust me I know what I'm doing you slipped okay I forgive you mom why don't you trust me you sleep again okay then you are not I'm not saying you please I'm saying in a general sense okay then that child how could that teenager be trusted by his parents when he is already abused that trust once and twice and three times and four you want your space take your space but act in a dignified manner act in a manner that when your mother who is not around and you are not responsible for your mother by the way or your dad you are responsible to yourself and Allah Subhanahu Wa Ta'ala so when you go out and your mother is not with you or your dad with you don't think that now I'm independent I can do anything I want because no one can watch over my back no Allah is watching over you but you're not responsible to your mom or dad okay when you go outside and you behave in an immaculate way and someone comes home says you know what you know auntie your daughter is amazing in public finish you earned your trust right but when someone comes says auntie you know we saw your daughter today oh my God I don't know where to start from right you've already abused that space that you are talking about and that's why I say to my teenagers you want space your parents will give you all the space you want but act accordingly you know and earn that space in a dignified manner and the sky is the left right right okay I just want to keep my question and then most of the women and one and the other they pay profit and the most they pay profit and the most they pay profit and the most they're so because right they're really their they're really sorry they're really they're they're and they're突iders something that is right because you know because it's never never never never never لذا لا يتكلم من المؤكد من ما يشعرون المسلحة لذا يجب أن يكون مجموعة وضعية لذا عندما يجب أن يكون مجموعة وضعية سيكون أسعر باية فيها لأن المجموعة وضعية لتكلمة العالمية و الإسلام تباقاً لها مرحباً هذا هو المنزل المرحب 2 إنها مباشرة أن الشخص لا يعرفون حقهم لكي يمكنهم أن يسألونه مثل هذا هل تعرفون الإسلاميكي؟ وهذا هو أكثر من المباشرة المباشرة سأضع في باكستر هذا هو المباشرة الأطامية هل تعرفون أن الشخص يتريد أن يتعرفون المقاومات before they sign their marriage contract هل تعرفون أن شخص يستيبلون أنك لا يمكنك أن تهتم من المقاومات أنك لا تمكنك أن تهتم من مقاومات أريك أنك تتعرف من المقاومات هذا هو المقاومات المباشرة أثنان إذا أحدث عن هذا من المباشرة في أحد المال你的 إمام بارغا سيكون أشخاص أخرى سأرد من المباشرة ولكن المدينة لا تستطيع أن تتحلم تكلموا شيئا عندما مقاومة تهتم ما هي أولا المباشرة التي تريد أن تصمم هل تصميمك؟ هل تصميمك؟ لا لا لا قبل ذلك سريعاً أنها تصميمها لتصميمها و هذا مقلس الإسلامي هل تعرفت؟ الإسلام يقول يقول أنه مجرد أو ليس مجرد بطبق أبوه لذا يجب أن تصميم شيخ جيهاد إسمائيل شندو أو أبوه أو أبوه أبوه أو إسمائيل أنها مجرد من شخص رزا أو تكي أو أبوه أنها يجب أن تكون سارا إسمائيل أنها مجرد من تكي هيفن تكي هيفن تكي ولكن لا تحسنك هذا هو شخص رزا هل تعرفت؟ نقول إسلام لا يجب أن تصميم أبوه هذا هو شخص رزا هل تعرفت مجرد من شخص رزا أبوه أو إسمائيل لا أبوه أو إسمائيل يجب أن تتكي شخص رزا و يجب أن تكي إسمائيل سأكي سأكي ثم سأكي لذا أبوه أبوه ولكن لا تتكي إسمائيل لأنها مجرد إسمائيل و سبحان الله سبحان الله كيف أن الله يجب أن يتكي أبوه أبوه ليس من أبوه من فاطمة ليس من أبوه أن أبوه أبوه كأبوه الأول أبوه أبوه أبوه ليس من فاطمة ليس من أبوه و لكن نتكي أخبرنا أبوه فأنا أبوه و دعنا أن نتكي أبوه على موضوع ما يمكتل الله أسف عندما تريد أن تكيب رزا لا تكيبهم من أبوه لأنهم ليس من رزا تكيب رزا من الله لأنه أبوه رزا لا تكيبهم من أبوه لأن الله أخبرك رزا لأن الله أخبرك رزا لذلك why are you asking a man like you to give you your right when Allah has already given you your right right why you want to demand it from a man he does not own it it is Allah who owns that right and you can only do that by educating your children your girls but if I go now home and every other mother goes home and we will fall back to our traditional way of dealing with our kids then why ask for change you think one man can change the world no it takes a whole society to challenge the status quo and change the situation at hand teach your let there be one in the community that becomes the sacrifice of the community let one person say okay it's not my daughter let's see a parent who is a male says if I want to marry my son I want to demand that the girl takes preen up against him right let's see then the situation will be fixed right because if a girl will start it she will do what she will be the talk of town she's a rebel she's a tomboy right she becomes the tomboy of the community but there has to be sacrifice at some stage has to be if you read تفسير العياشي تفسير العياشي that she volunteered she said I'll cook I'll mine the kids and I will sweep the floor anything outside the door I've got nothing to do with it you do everything outside the door right but guess what happened even when Imam Ali came inside the door he also still helped say the Zahwa in household work there is a Rewire when the Imam when the Prophet came when he saw his daughter grinding wheat and holding Imam Hassan in her hand you know what he said to Imam Ali what did he say he said Oh Mashallah my daughter is a good daughter she's a good wife to you okay let's chill and have Shisha did Rasulullah say that he said to Imam Ali pick one of the tasks either mine the children or grind the wheat so we can give her some break so Imam Ali said I'll grind the wheat Rasulullah said then I will play with Hassan let Fatima have some rest if we can train our kids to have that sort of a life then when they grow to be husbands and wife then it becomes a non-issue then the husband before even his wife have to tell him this he will get up he will wash the dishes he will be at the sink he will wash the his clothes he will iron his clothes what's the big deal does it take his manhood away if he picked his plate up and went to the sink and washed it you know it's unfortunately we have families that you know the whole family gets up who has to clean that poor daughter in law you know she has to pick up the whole table she has to clean yes she will get the reward but don't take a ride on her back she's a human being as well and she has rights right because if that was your daughter you would not allow it and you will be cursing your son in no day right right right so why allow it to other people's children or daughters in that regard because they are cultural based they are not Islamically based they are sorry can I be a step further they are Hindu based yes all the practices you have at home they are covered by a screen called Islam but the core principle standard of living the traditional sub Indian subcontinent home is Hindu based which is unfortunate which is very unfortunate Islam does not say that Islam says no you have equal rights as the husband is so why allow yourself to be dictated by Hindu based culture rather than the Islamic based culture but that's not an excuse sister okay I affiliate with you sometimes that some Maulanas do also abuse the rights of women I'm not saying no however there are so many Maulanas who spoke so eloquently about the rights of women you know and the biggest Maulana that spoke about the rights of women is Rasool Allah who more do you want than Rasool Allah to grant you the rights right so we must claim our rights but not from men from Allah this is God given right to you it's double fault it's a society the people themselves for not speaking out and partly the Alama for not educating the women about their rights so it's double fault it's not one fault yes sister sorry what was the beginning of the question no you shouldn't stay quiet yes definitely you should not stay quiet not should stay quiet I think you should voice your opinion when women rights are being abused yes absolutely you have every right I mean what for example are you married okay what are you going to do when you get married I'm not praying in your personal life but a husband comes to ask for your hand are you going to take a prenup no then how is the community going to change after I've already lost my voice right talking about I'm not taking it out on you sister please don't feel offended but after I've lost my voice after I've been talking about women rights for the past 10 nights and when I asked the first girl what are you going to do when you get married I'll do it the traditional sorry I'm just saying I'm just saying that no no I'm just picking on you that's all honest to God I felt picking on you that's all I'm saying is that someone has to take the initiative to say no is no and enough is enough abuse of women's rights right and trust me I've got nothing to lose right I'm with all due respect to this community I'm not from this community right although all of them are my brothers and sisters but when it comes to speaking the truth and what I feel Islam told me to say I will say it no matter what happens right however challenging a community which has been used to so much abuse you cannot just come and all of a sudden change the community you have to have some gradual change so that the community also does not lose trust in you right so slowly maybe what you can start doing is educate the women themselves about their rights conducts right I'm sure there are so many educated and learned women here that know about Islam and the right of Islam or the internet is an amazing amazing machine these days which puts knowledge at our fingertips right go and research women right go and read a book called rights of women by Alama Mutahari right or it's called sorry the status of Muslim women or the rights of Muslim women by Shaheed Mutahari it is an amazing book when it speaks about the rights of women in Islam if anyone comes to challenge you quote the book these guys and I told Allah is a mustahed right and that way you empower yourself you know why men do not wish you to know your rights because they don't want to empower you and Islam came to empower women you know I know when men listen to me they think is this guy a man yeah trust me I am a man and I will speak forever you know what happens I don't like to boast about myself well Allah it's not my but sometimes I gave a similar lecture in Friday in a month in my mosque once after I finished my خطبة a group of women came to me they said can we borrow your wife for five minutes I said take they went five ten fifteen I said I want my wife I love my wife bring her back to me so when they came back they said you know what you are someone that practices what he preaches because we ask your woman what you do at home and they told us something that was amazing do you know for a fact just letting you know and I even told I said next time I come here I have one condition you put an iron board and an iron in my room because I don't allow anyone to touch my clothes I have to iron them myself and you know sometimes when I'm iron my clothes my wife says can you iron this hijab for me I said yeah bring it no problem no problem but we have to take the initiative right we have to do something at home and not speak from it from the member because it's not going to come from the heart people will know that you are a fake person when you speak a woman writes and you don't do it at home so we need to take the initiative ourselves in order to change the status quo yes yes because and for you know what in that case what a woman should do is leave the man for two days at home to do the home chores and just go out and then they will appreciate how difficult it is one day there is a story a man came home and the wife has not done the homework nothing she did not touch anything so the husband asked what happened today the wife said nothing nothing he said what do you mean she said nothing he said she said what do you mean what happened today she said the house is an MS she said that's why I said nothing because when you come every day and you say everything immaculate you never say what happened to the house today right because you don't appreciate the work that goes into it right it's hard work it's hard labor no wonder why Allah said in the Quran the wife has a right to demand what a wage when she cycles a baby do you know that for 6-8 months when you cycle a baby your husband has to pay you wages why because this is taking sorry who in our society came with double the choice she did not say she was she's not double the choice sister she's not doing double the choice she's doing quadruple the choice she's doing her home her home her in-laws home her parents home right who sometimes her children's home and you know what it is unfortunate that when we marry a woman we don't marry her to be equal with her but we marry her because she's a washing machine she's a dishwasher she's an oven and she's a vacuum cleaner absolutely without a doubt and if she doesn't know how to do these 4 things where a bad wife she is as a matter yes yes yes you should because that's what you need to promote in the community by Allah I would not have spoken about my personal life if I didn't feel the need to promote it but we have to promote it and we can't promote it unless we do it ourselves right but that's wrong that's wrong then you know the men what should they have men should have a woman a men men men club for advocacy of women rights so will me and your husband will form a club for women rights and sure I have another question yes sister yes you are allowed to sketch anything unless you are not involving someone who is not decently dressed so if someone is indecently dressed firstly you are not allowed to look at them right so you know but anything else you are allowed yeah you can sculpt there is no problem no problem no problem there is no problem in sculpting a human body yes yes no problem yeah and yes yeah yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes yes excellent I mean that's that's a practical family that they did not abuse the fact أنك فعلت ذلك وفعلت ذلك لهم كانوا كذلك جميلة لكي تقولوا أنك تعرفوا أنك تعرفوا أن تأخذ فرنب فقط فقط في حالك لكي تأخذ فرنبك لذلك جميلة لديها 17 كنديسين هل تريدونهم؟ لديها 17 كنديسين سيستة في سيدني لا نفعل محاولة 60-80% من محاولاتنا are فرنب محاولة لذا لدينا محاولة لكي تأخذ فرنبك والأخي في البيت لذلك before they get married they come and sit with us for about an hour نذهب to the printer نفعل على ما يحصلونهم ونقوم بعملها ونقوم بعملها لذلك يأخذ فرنبك نعم تحتاجك تحتاجك سيستة تفهم ما تحتاجك هناك تحتاجك محاولة ليست محاولة لكتب محاولة لذا يأخذ فرنبك ونقوم بعملها ونقوم بعملها ونقوم بعملها يجب أن تكون محاولة لكي تحتاجك لا الموضوع أننا نفعل هذا هو لأسفل الثالث ولكن إذا لم تريد أن نعمل محاولة لكي تحتاجك لا يجب أن نكون في كل مكان نعم لا سأخبركم why سأخبركم نحن نقول that a man has to spend on the wife even if she earns and earns inheritance from her parents even if he is poor and she is rich she is under no obligation to spend on him number one a woman is not under any obligation to spend on her parents but he is the man pays the dowry and the woman does not pay the dowry right I don't know about here who pays the dowry here the man right so the man has to so he has three expenses the man has to do when the woman has to spend nothing so when Allah SWT comes and he divides the inheritance because of her expenses are limited he gives her because it will be what it will be substantiated from other expenses and that's why at the end of the day you will find that the expenses of inheritance and the share of inheritance and the expenses involved in as far as men and women will be more in favor of women than men if you do a calculation and that's why I say women should not demand anything less than what secure the future when it comes to their مهر that's their حق and they should ask for it in advance that's another right by the way for a wife is that she can ask for her مهر and haق in advance and in full I really have to leave thank you so much for your attendiveness I hope to see you tonight but before we leave can we please all read صورة مبارك الفاتحة with the Nia of Shefa for our sister Zohra I feel it that way صلى الله عليه وسلم