 Y254, imagine. Thank you for sticking to Y254 TV. I hope you're having a lovely evening. My name is Sherry Blessing, and you are watching The Power Talk Show. Right before we went on a break, we were talking about the value of investing in our health and our wellness, and joining me live in studio is Monica Mushemi and Dr. Jared Odawa, who are both in the health and wellness field. And right before we went on a break, we were addressing a negative body image that causes people to seek alternative surgeries and maybe some supplements that may cause negative impacts to their health later on in life. So I want you to go to our social media platforms, write me a comment, ask me a question if you have any, and we will sample that later on in the show. So we were talking about the health aspect. Now let's go deeper into the wellness aspect, because negative body image and all that is part of the wellness. It's because of your mental state use, psychological state, all those things. And this is partly because of the media influence. And like Dr. Jared said right before we went on a break, the campaign about black is beautiful has really caused a positive star in even the younger ladies right now. If I can pick a point on you. Do you know the funny part is that when it comes to the word of women, the slim one wants to be fat. The fat one wants to be slim. Dr. Jared knows us. As the funny part, the one who is blonde takes a black paint and has a brown skin. But I wanted to give a point. They are just victims of the media. In France, slim is beauty. So they advertise, okay, I'm going to go to the magazine, they advertise beauty is a slim lady. But when you go to the Mexican people, they love women with big weight. So they will advertise fat, big women as beautiful. Now you see, depending on people like the negative, if you're big, you look for the advert, the slims are beauty. So you want to slim. So it's also with the media that we choose. Yeah, it is. Now let's, on that note. And that's the one you want to pick. And the one you want to show, you want to. It's because, yeah, if I have been told I like this way. I'll do no effort to lose weight. You'll want to maintain. I would want to maintain that way. And it's also because of the quality of the time. It is. Because there was a period when slim was considered beautiful, then we went to the thick women, and now it's a bit of a mix of both. Let's talk about weight control, Monica. Because as ladies, the way Dr. Jared has called us out, that was so loud. And it is, weight control has given us a lot of problems. As ladies, Maura, we don't want to eat. We don't want to eat. In fact, today I was talking to a lady, but she has lost weight. Because she has been doing intermittent fasting. And I know she's listening to me. Yeah. She has lost her weight so well because of intermittent fasting. But during this intermittent fasting, what is it you're missing in your meals? What is it you're putting in your meal? So what I would say is that even as much as you want to lose your weight, we need to have it a balance. Because again, you don't want to lose your weight and you start looking, you have saggy, I don't know, some muscles have, you know, they are flabby. You want to lose it in a way that it looks all well. It's healthy as well. It is healthy as well. Some conditions such as bulimia and norexia can come about where you don't want to eat because you want to lose weight. Or you eat and you force yourself to throw up. So why would you advise people to avoid this? Or what is the benefit of them regulating in a healthy manner for them to feel good about themselves? One, it is going to be short-lived. You know, you'll do it for a month. You see, you have lost weight and now to maintain that trend of you continuously keeping that fit. So I would rather you do exercises. Engage in an exercise regime. Make it upon yourself that you be doing exercises, you know, either in the morning, in the evening so that, again, what you're eating. There's no point of you do exercise, then you come and eat a heapful of Ugari or rice on pizza, a whole one of it. And you know, as ladies, you know, we just love that. And by this age, anybody above 35, by the way, I hope you're not taking sodas because that is direct sugar. In fact, a bottle of soda, it is that 10 spoons of sugar, the coke we take. That is wild. That coke, that is that 10 spoons of sugar, that is converted into fat. What are we saying? So there's no need of, you know, you do intermittent fasting then in the evening you take a soda. Those are the 10 spoons of sugar. So we have to be very, very careful on what you're eating. If you're going to take a drink, then it has to be water. It has to be juice that you have made, you know, a fresh juice. We may not have the fresh juice because, again, the economy does not allow us that, then take the water. Because water, even if we are saying it has toxins, at least it is not as bad as taking the 10 spoons of sugar with the coke or with the phanta we want to eat. Again, we want to eat the pizza. You want to eat the burger. You want to, all those things are full of toxins. By the end of the time you're 40, you're already being diagnosed with cancer. And what does that then lead to? We are going to have a lifespan of by 41 we cannot work because we are ever in hospitals. So weight control then becomes very, very important as soon as early as now when we are still very young. Young in quote that, we have not gotten to the age of our parents where, you know, you cannot tell my mom now to start losing weight. I mean, what activities would she started doing? I mean, with all this. People have to walk around the house at the same time. But I can be able to control my weight as early as now because maybe I will do activities. I'll check on what I'm eating. I have a balance in diet activities and whatever else I will do. If I have a supplement that is going to help me control my weight, then I'll take it. And if I have a supplement that will help me not, you know, not to eat too much, then I'll take it. But then it's not everybody again who is able to do this because remember we are saying the economic that we are in with the diseases that are arising and with the taxes that we are getting, we're not going to afford, you know, even a healthier life. So it is now that we start living this healthier habits so that in future, then our bodies are, you know, they are healthy, we are able even to live at the age of 70 when we still have our brains that are functioning well because of they have not developed, you know, other things like dementia, you know, what of, and weight is very bad because when you have heavy weights or when you are obese, you're exposed to other things. You're exposed to having hypertension. You're exposed to having diabetes. You're exposed to having, you know, a lot of lipids in your body. You're exposed even to having, you know, you are, you are... There are so many diseases. There are so many risks. Exactly, so many risks. So it is very, very important to check your weight as early as you are able to. And I like the way you've said it as early as now because every day, today is the youngest you will ever be. So if you start becoming healthy and incorporating the lifestyle today, then you will live longer than if you started next week or next month because people tend to, especially with the working out, dieting, they're like, no, I'll start next week. I'll start on Monday. I'll start at the beginning of next month. And it's like that because I know there's someone at home who made a commitment to go to the gym this year as a New Year's resolution and has never seen the door of the gym. Sheryl, every morning I do a post on my status. It today is, like today is the fifth of October, 2023. Have you done your well? And somebody's told me, gosh, Monday you started saying this in January. I have never done. Think about it. Because now we are 10 months into the year and we have a few months left and people are still not active. And you're reading that every day. At least I make an effort. I do your wellness assessment. Why? Because I don't want you to find me in the hospital. And I'm telling you, you have stage four HIV. You have stage four cancer. So it is time to do it. It is time to lose weight. It is time to control what you're eating. It is time to go for wellness. And in alignment with that, if with now, immediately... I'm trying to laugh. If your statement is true, I can go political and I will be president of Nobel Prize. Because he decided to give us a Wilber or Siebel, even though I'm ancient. I didn't vote for him, but I'm hoping next election, he will put a change in the Wilber. Let us not get into politics. Yes, because it is going to... No, Jared, allow me. You will be fit. Allow me to... You will make everybody fit. Allow me to talk about the media in relation to that, because we touched on the media we are exposed to. There's different cultures and different advertisers based on the market, on the target audience they have. What is the value of looking at the right media? Because someone who's following Monica is probably healthy and well. But someone who's following someone else who posts junk food and they just... There's this thing called mukbangs, where people just sit and eat. If that is the content I follow, versus someone who follows someone who goes to the gym, what is the difference in our mental state and our health physically? But I'm trying to tell you, selling madness is very easier than selling... Stuff that I... In other words, we have a social media. You know, mainstream media, you have to audit content, you have to benchmark materials, but we have a full platform of the internet where you can go wired as you wish. Therefore, to the dark side, it is the generation we are living, we are exposed, we are overexposed to more risk. What we can just tell, that's why we are here for this show, to bring soberness in the chaos in the public, because we can give them sober material, sober content for them to live healthy. Otherwise, that's why we are here and this is the value of this show, to educate them so that they cannot rely on actually celebrities who do their plastic for a day, they post, they train. And they are living healthy behind the scenes, but they are projecting an unhealthy lifestyle. So we can be able to save the public. Because it's a gender setting. And that means that they are selling you what they want you to buy. If I want you to become slim today, I will put models who are skinny, all over the billboards. If I want you to gain weight, we will do the opposite. And that's another thing that people need to be aware of, the times change. What will be considered beautiful today is not going to be considered beautiful next month. So you have to find beauty within yourself. You have to check yourself within your heart and your soul. How are you feeling? If you don't feel okay, actively work on it. So that brings me to the mental space over everything. Because in the space that we are in, the media, the economic times, the pressure of your friends and whatnot, everything impacts our mental health. And especially the youth are deeply affected because they lose their identity. They have no guidance of what they're supposed to do and they figure it out blindly. In the recent years, it's become worse and worse. And we get so many people being suicidal, being violent. So Monica, in your experience, how can you advise people to take care of their mental state such that they do not get to a depressive state or worse? Our first is that they need to open up. Regardless of the situation you find yourself in, whether are you a female, you're male, you're married, you're not married, you must open up the issues that are hurting yourself. Because remember, it is more up to you how you feel because I will only see the outward, but how you feel inside it is you. If you don't tell me, I'll not know. If you don't tell the person seated to you, they will not know. And the only other thing we'll know is that Monica took a rope and she hung herself because I have been keeping things, piling things in myself. Is it finances? I keep it. Is it stress? I keep it. Is it my husband beat me? I keep it. I don't share it with anybody else. And so it is very, very important to open up the issues that are frustrating you, the issues that you're going through, get somebody, get a confident, share them out with somebody and that way you get help. Otherwise, taking a rope is not going to sort the issues. You leave your family with problems. You leave your children with problems. I mean, you create more problems than you solve with that. And Jared, based on your line of work with the forensic psychiatry, sometimes you deal with people who have mental issues in the prison systems and in incarceration systems. So in your experience, what do you think gets people to that level where they commit a crime because of the mental state they were in? Let me build it spoiler-poorly and maybe give a statement to our artist. Our artist have a bigger platform to influence the public. Look at the dance or music. They have said the sensual. They have said this image of fat or thin lady to be beautiful. We can give them a word to readjust their production of their songs. They can entertain us without victimizing a society. And that's a message to our artist. They can readjust that because it affects people mentally. They want to keep up with the Jonas and the Peters because they have been projected using our artist and their music. Therefore, from that side, we can issue a word to our artist. Number two, I can issue a word also to men. When it comes to body email, the way he was saying, maybe the wife has added weight. And then she lacks the moral support and the emotional support from the husband. That's why they go to the extreme to do surgery, to change their facial. Because look at this. If she has added weight and you've picked a second lady who is thinner, is to say, thin is beautiful. You understand? So it affects her. It affects her. I esteem. If now she's thin and you go and pick a fat lady, then it means fat is beautiful. She starts adding weight to the other side. And I don't know if I can ask this, but I have never understood why. Men will go for the complete opposite of women. Then I'm issuing a word to men. And you wonder who is your type. I'm issuing a word to men. They move with the wave. They move with the wave. Yes. Go for someone who's thicker. I don't know if it's because what you miss is what you go for. I don't understand. It's because of our artist. If it goes to a club right now, check the screen. Who are the beautiful lady being projected? They dance some music. They hip-hop music. They project the sensual of either extreme. So they are not going to influence that in the psychic of the public. And therefore, I can just issue a word, support the family. Because I want to pick a point on family medicine before I pick a point on mental health. Let me pick a good point in terms of mental health for women. You know, women can suffer from depression after birth. And this is normally quite a challenge because of expectation. Because the looks you had as a girl is no longer there. And the expectations changes. Maybe you had dreams, but they change. Now the dream is to sire a child and bring them up. And now you are from ravishing your nails into diapers now. In a fraction of a few months. Ravishing your nails first of all. Wherever. Jared is very personal. I'm trying to say. There is an agenda. I'm trying to say. Okay, but basically, let me say this. You are out from doing high heels into getting boost to build a house for your family. Because you've changed. Things have changed. You're like a new person. You have to fit into this role. You're not doing high heels anymore. You are now at the construction site trying to get your house done. You know, you're a different person. You're no longer the former youth. And that's also with the levels, different levels of life. Because it gets to, people are stressed with the exams. When you finish the exam, you go to the workplace and you're stressed out. You get a family. So with every level, there's a new level. There's that quote. They are called transition. And this is where stress comes. Anxiety, depression. They hit much on transition. When you have, look at the uptake of drugs. It's normally this transition of teenagers to manhood. You want to find yourself. You get into, you know, I realize also bang is so cheap. It's normally not a luxury. It's a drug that is cheap and has a big effect. And it's economic and it's available everywhere. So basically they want to go high within budget. So they have to go for bang. So if it's accessible and cheap, they go for that. They go for that. The stress of the transition. And then now look at this. Now our artists take these as a vibe. You will see every show they take somebody with a puff of bang. So it's a cool thing. But it's just something worth 50 to 100 Bob that ruins our destiny. It is not, you know, it's not something even when you calculate in terms of monetary value. It's effect, long-term, is so destructive. So I want to speak on transition. When you are facing transitions in life, you are now becoming a mother. You are now becoming a widow or a widow. It happens. Yes, in the faces of life. When you are going through transition, look for support structure. That is my statement. He said, share up. Look for support structure. And you see, that was a point that most people are not very attentive about. Because they'll just assume, no, I'm stressed because there's this child, but it's a transition. And you have to understand this stage again. Now let's talk about that's with the stress and transition affecting wellness. Monica, tell us how it will affect your health, your physical health when you're stressed out and when you're anxious and you're depressed. How does it affect your body? The body is made up in a way that it is able to, we have hormones that regulate our body functions. When you have stress, then that means the hormones that are supposed to regulate your body function, then they are stressed up. And they're not able to function as you're supposed to. I give an example of men. Once men are stressed up, the man himself does not work anymore. And then it's just your books about men are hard. And when we are stressed up ourselves, it changes even the way we look. You start developing pimples, rashes on your face, you start overeating, you add a lot of weight because of the stress. And what does that happen? It affects your health. So the stress, the anxiety, that even going to an extent of taking drugs, then it affects your wellness. It affects your health and your productivity again. So your health and life expectancy again, it is reduced because of the inability to transit well from one situation to the next. And I've been talking to people who are in college, from four leavers in college, they like taking alcohol because you can walk into the supermarket and you just take anything. Research has shown that once you have taken alcohol during youth, the brain damage that happens that time, it is not reversible. It is damage that will not be reversed. And no wonder we have men who are not now producing because they damage to their brain. Of course we have said that the brain is the control of every other organ. And so when your brain is damaged at the age of, you know, the teenage, the teenage, when between the age of 18 and 25. And this is because, you know, you go to university, I give you money, you see how Fred is buying, you know, those thoughts, I don't know what they are called. And you drink them. The damage to the brain at that time is so detrimental that it is not the same effect if my dad is drinking because this is the time the brain is developing. And once you damage it, then you damage any other vital organ in your body. And it is, therefore I'm talking to the youth. Let me just talk to the youth at this time. Don't walk to the supermarket and just take an alcohol because it is going to ruin your brain. Once your brain is ruined, then you are not able even to form a career because you not go to the next level of the next transition. You will not go to the college. After you've not gone to the college, then you don't have a career. You cannot work. And when we assess the youth, how many are working? How many do have jobs that you can say they are relying on? They are very few. Why? Because they started drinking when they were very young. The brain is damaged. Now they are not even productive. So in some way, the brain becomes stunted. Exactly. It is damaged. I've heard you are trying to be very polite on men. Yeah, sexual dysfunction is very serious on men. Just say it as it is. And actually, it's found in that with the things that I don't see. Let me say that somebody is watching us in a club. It's not that men love the club setting. It's not the most comfortable place. The smell is not the best smell. It's not the best perfume. If they are escaping the duty at home, they have to drink up their subui. And I can say the sexual dysfunction, because now the marriage is now, they are suffering in between. The syllables do not touch me one on one. And I'm tired 2.5 because they can't function. I don't want to say that there is a cure for them. And that's why we are here to empower them. You don't have to run and live now in a club. Change the equation. I know. I was at a place the other day and they were saying, when you're stressed at home and your wife is Mocha Quotia Bandi, you look for every single fellowship and meeting and you're there wondering which one is next. Can I go to a Bible study? Can I meet this person? So it's because they're avoiding that. And then they take things that impact their physical health. But we are here to support them. It affects their mental health. It affects their performance. And we are here for them to help. And I hope you're listening actually at home. I hope you're paying attention and you're aware that there are people who are made to help you. Literally, we are here to help you and support you in your journey of being healthy and well. And so if you are those who already have sexual dysfunction, that is erectile dysfunction, ED, if you are already in that situation, we have supplements that are reversing that. You can always reach out, speak it out, go to the doctor, just say that, no, nowadays I don't. How are you? Now, since we'll give our numbers at the end of the show, I wanted to pick a point on the same. Escapism is not the solution. The solution. You can't run, you can't outrun yourself. It reaches a point you have to stand and face it. And we are encouraging you to be bold enough to take a stand and face the situation and get the help you need. And that is why we are here to give you the support you need. Thank you. I really like our guests today because they're literally here for you. And in regards to that, I know people run away from so many things. Drugs, they go to the, they'll either, maybe I have a body dysmorphia where you feel like I do not look good and I want to look better. I will not go to the gym, but I'd rather go drink something to avoid that. Let me, I want to forget a point on just saving our women the emotion or torture, sometimes adding weight is a hormonal issue. It has nothing to do with you and you are dead. And you have to understand, these are some of the things that you have to understand. Because even with the hormones change through the, through the mind. You don't have to be guilty. Some women are very guilty about themselves. They are guilty, they are fat. They are guilty, they are eating a minimum of three plates, minus one, plus one, you know? I'm saying, you don't have to understand the hormonal aspect. And therefore, you know the hormonal therapy program, it is there. If you know you are struggling with the hormonal issue, you're obese, yes, reach out. Don't feel guilty, I seek help. And you know sometimes, as long as you're healthy, it doesn't matter if you're eating too much or people presume you're doing too much. If you are healthy and you are well, prioritize yourself. So let me also talk about sleep because there's also the essence of sleeping and getting enough rest for you to function at your most optimum state. Tell us how many hours does adults, because I'm sure it changes through the years with the kids, you get to teenagers and then adults, how many hours are we supposed to rest for us to make sure that we are functioning at our very best every single day? At least the studies have shown, if you sleep eight hours, you'll be able to function optimally during your next day. At least eight hours, yes. She has said at least, because I know there is someone at home who is probably, they are functioning on three hours of rest. I tell you, but I've been leaving. In Nairobi, my friend, you're waking up at 4 a.m. to catch up with traffic and you have to queue at the bus stations, and you get home at 10 p.m. So the only time you have to sleep is five hours. And then the following day, when you go to work, then you cannot, you're not productive because you didn't rest enough. Yes, yes. And that's why people are also tired, you know? There is this program, therapy program of taking a nap, intermittent naps, in the course of the day. Because trust me, in Nairobi, getting an eight-hour sleep, unless you take a holiday to Naiversha. It's tricky. And even when people go to Naiversha, they go for a shower, because they're not going to sleep. Unless you learn this program, you know, you can take a nap in between work. For just during lunch hour, when you've taken some meals, you can take 15 minutes nap. There's a program that can aid you to tune your system like that one. And I also feel like, unfortunately, most places do not even facilitate nap, if they catch you. There's this video that was going around of a lady who went to work and she was saying, can I nap, can I nap, can I nap? People posted and they were like, this is where are you working? We need to come there. So we probably need to talk to companies as well, figure out how to sensitize them and educate them on the value of increasing nap time for the productivity. Because I'm aware there's a large company globally that has that. They have a room, people go rest so that they're productive. Now, in alignment with the diet or overall wealth, Jared, talk about the importance of being, having positive self-image and your body image. What is the value of that? And also having your spiritual life in check, such that it balances all around. Let me just, because you've mentioned the aspect of our spiritual life on how to strike a balance, let me just recap on a verse concerning maybe the growth of Jesus in the book of Luke one. The Bible says that Jesus grew up. Number one, in stature. Meaning, he was under good nutrition for him to grow in stature to full height. Physically, you need this physical stamina for whichever mission you have in life. You need the physique. So you need to have your dietary right. The wellness expert is here. I can guide you along with the supplement necessary. Number two, he grew in favor with men. This is a problem, people who are isolated. You know, lonelangers, they are alone. They are wolves who are wandering alone. It's because they have not grown in the second grace, growing in favor with men. We interact so socially, so easily. I didn't have a problem approaching you, having a chat and getting contact and moving along because I have been much of this grace of growing, relations growing horizontally with favor with men. And they also say no man is an island. Yes, so understand how to build social support structure. Yes, I don't know if you like church or you don't like church, chip in once in a while. There are other support groups. There are charmers, there are event, there are farmers organization. Have a social life. Grow in favor with men. Number two, he grew in favor with God. So, work on your spiritual orientation. Grow in favor with God. And the bit of it is that he grew in wisdom and in understanding. I want to tell people, even fools grow old. You know, people think they will be wiser by the virtue they have grown older. But I want to tell them, if they don't shape a sense of pursuit of understanding and wisdom, they will grow old like fools. Have you ever seen an old man who are trying to respect them when they are dancing with a young lady? But you're struggling to respect them. Or even they speak and say something and you like it. Yes, yes, yes. Because of your age, I will give you the respect. Yes, so they have also to work on the aspect of understanding and wisdom. Because we are summarizing our show, I want to tell them, this is the foundation. It's the basic to introduce us, to introduce the program. Next time, we'll deal with one-on-one. Let's build the conversation around real issues. If you're having a hormonal issue, share. Say we need to address this topic of hormone. If it's sexual dysfunction, if it's your lacking social connection, share per point. So we can have mean one guy, mean one guy, so we can keep talking. Has this issue. So that we can have a talk that is market driven. Because we are winding up, you can just maybe allow me to leave my number. I'll give you a time. I'll give you, right before we come to the close of it, I'll allow you to do that. So to close it off, you mentioned supplements and you mentioned about erectile dysfunction. So talk about some of the supplements that you have. Because as we wind up, because we mentioned it earlier, I'm aware that there are ladies who suffer from with the hormonal imbalance. Because of the body image and the image they have, because they detach from maybe the feeling of being feminine, even with the men. Sometimes they feel like I'm not masculine enough and therefore they will even disconnect from man. And next time we'll address this aspect of sexual conversion therapy, the LGBTs. Next time we'll have a very thorough debate on it. Because that's the aspect of masculinity. We'll address it next time. We definitely will have a conversation about that. So just touch on the supplements that are there. So we have, okay, I work with a company that have supplements that sort so many body issues. And even maybe before I talk about the supplements, I'll just need to say that we are exposed to a lot of toxins, the air we are breathing. If never came here, they will tell us we are unsafe, the air we are breathing in because of the fumes from these machines, from everywhere else. The water we are drinking, the food we are eating has been, you know, it is genetically modified. So those are toxins. So our bodies tend to get immune, you know, the immune becomes lower because of the toxins. So we have supplements that boost your immunity, even as you progress in age. Again, as we grow, our cells degenerate. So we are exposed to a lot of diseases. So we are exposed to diabetes, we're exposed to hypertension as we progress in age. Our parents, maybe those who are above 80s, 70s, they are now to the age of getting dementia. We have supplements that work on to the brain cells. For those parents who are already in dementia, they have forgotten their husband, the names of their children. We have supplements that reverse that and your parent or your loved ones start recognizing you all start functioning again. We have supplements that okay, control weight. As again, as we control, I learned the other day that even men develop a hormone imbalance. And so we also have supplements that balances your hormones because again, as you continue to age, you have your hormone imbalances and the body, you know, you get tired, you're sweating, your hot flashes, mood swings. You know, you even talk to a cat in the house because of the hormone imbalance. And men usually don't know that. They think we are, you know, we are insulting them, but it is because of their hormone imbalance. And those are things that they can work on. That we, we, that can support that and they, you know, they change the whole scenario of their body. Monica, can you tell us your number? I'm sorry, the director is telling you running out of time. My number is 0722-916-446. 0722-916-446. Can we also find you on social media? You can find me on social media, I'm on TikTok, Monica, wasm. I'm on YouTube, Monica wasm. I have a Facebook channel called Wellness with BF Summa. So you can follow me there on Wellness with BF Summa. I'm a product of those products. I was overweight, I was everything, Adam. And you're a testimony. I'm a testimony, I know what I have. Thank you so much. That's very good. Thank you so much, Monica. Jared, kindly give us your details as we wind up. Yes, just let me leave the number, phone number, 0708-67-2271. I'm on social media because it's 2.5 for one answer. That was too far. My side, I appreciate you kissing. That was all, 0708-67-2271. 0708-67-2271. Social media, will I get the time to respond? Just what's up. Just call Jared. Just what's up me. Because he may be inactive. But thank you so much for staying tuned. Time is unfortunately out tonight, but I hope you've gotten something from this conversation. This has been The Power Talk Show and my name is Sheryl Blessing.