 make sure I ain't gonna see what the 10, 30 pop on here. My wife was combing out my son, how getting him ready for his trip. So I say, let me get on on here and do a little talking cause I posted a video on Instagram and it got a decent amount of plays on there. And I want to come on here and touch up on that and help y'all understand something that a lot of times people don't understand. And just one of the things that has to be understood is the difference between men and women. And a lot of times we don't think about that but there is right now in this season that we in it's a lack of accountability for men. And what you'll notice is a lot of men don't talk to men. A lot of men don't talk to men. And ironically, some of the guys I see talking to men is the guys that used to get picked on in school. But on average, you don't really see men talking to men. And I want y'all to understand and to know that the reason why you don't see a lot of men talking to men is because men know men. So when you think about it, the reason why nothing is geared to men is because the world knows men. So you seen the man say, when you famous, you could grab him by the pee. You grab him by the pee and all. And what he became, he got elected. Had all kind of discrimination lawsuits from apartments he owned and got elected. All kind of allegations and got elected to run the whole free world. There is not a lot of accountability for men. And that's the thing. Accountability for men only is in the household. It only is in the household. You really can't hold men accountable online. Meaning with messages online. Because at the end of the day, a man is going to do whatever he is allowed to do. A man going to do whatever he could get away with. Whatever he get away with, that's what he going to do. And that is why I talk, I got videos and so many countless women will hire me and say I've been watching your videos and did everything the opposite of what you said do. The reason why she did the opposite of what I said do is because a man is going to do whatever she allow. And what women have to understand is a lot of times is so many women that won't. The message is just to go to the men or to go to the men because the same way a woman may fear a man is the same way men be fearing men. Now, I'm largely disliked by men. Here's the thing. Men respect me, but men can't really publicly support me. But men respect me and men will talk to me but not necessarily promote me. I'm typically promoted by men who trying to get their wife or their girlfriend back. That's typically when they come around to the message. And the reason being is because the message steps on my toes. My message step on my toes. So if I'm the one who's given the message and I'm stepping on my own toes, you best believe I'm stepping on 99% of men toes. If it's coming out of me and I know right from wrong and I'm stepping on my toes, you know I'm stepping on the toes of countless other men who listening. So as a man, what you're not going to do is you're not going to repost and comment and share a video that could shine a light on your dark spots because your woman could be blind to your dark spots. But as a man, if you taking share a message that's going to shine a light on anywhere you may be lacking, where you may be a grown boy, then you are exposing yourself. So that's why there's not a lot of accountability with men and here's the thing. Men come to a place to where men don't trust women. Men don't trust women because of what they've been able to do with women, what they've seen some women do with other men and what they've heard about women. So men don't trust women for the most part, on average. And the reason why there's not a lot of accountability for men is because if a man is coming at men, if more men are holding men accountable, then that mean that man is alienating himself. When I wrote my first book at 22 years old called What Daddy Never Told His Little Girl, my best friend from kindergarten stopped talking to me. And he said, man, I ain't reading your book because I know what's in there. You ain't doing nothing but telling on us. You ain't doing nothing but giving away the game. And guess what he did? He went through a divorce. He went through a divorce and almost every other guy that I knew either went through a divorce, never got married, but down the line, my security guard went through a divorce. It probably happened before my book. My barber went through a divorce. My daddy went through a divorce. My best friend from kindergarten went through a divorce. It's like, it's so many people that was right there in my circle that went through a divorce. And the reason being is because, for one, a relationship ain't easy. It ain't easy. Two, there is not a lot of accountability in the home for men, but that's where it come from. So for the ladies who say, hey, hold a man accountable, make videos for the men, make videos for the men. Raise your son to be a man. Hold your nephew accountable. Look at how little boys, look at how majority of boys handle their mama. Majority of boys, unless they have an edifice complex, majority of boys really don't listen that much to their mama. Really don't listen that much to their mama. A lot of boys don't listen that much to their teacher. A lot of boys don't listen that much to their friends. When a male start to listen, it's typically from his daddy, his mama when he need to or he have to, and then the woman he end up being with if he falls in love. So a lot of times women tell me, oh, why ain't nobody holding the men accountable? Why ain't nobody holding the men accountable? It's because men, we know that talking to a man online is like talking to a brick wall. Because just like the city girl said, that thing speak English, Spanish and French. I could get on here and talk till I'm blue in the face. When he see that water clapping in his face, it ain't nothing that Tony Gaskin said that's been to stop him from doing a deep dive into that water. He finna dive in that water like ain't no tomorrow. But what women have to understand is that God gave women influence. What did it say? What do it say? Why you think I titled this right here? I titled this a woman's influence because God gave women influence. When you listen to men who have become successful, who do they think? Nine out of 10 times a man is thanking the woman in his life, his wife or his mama. Nine out of 10 times. Now remember what I told you? Little boys don't really listen to their mama. They listen to their mama. They hear their mama when they get in trouble. They hear their mama when they sitting in the back of that police car. They hear their mama when they got that one phone call from the jail cell. That's when boys typically hit a mama or hit a mama when she on her deathbed. Hit a mama when she bought to be gone or when she is gone. That's typically when a boy hits mama. Do you know I got a home boy that I've never met his daddy? I've known him since kindergarten. I've never met his daddy. That our entire life, his daddy has been in prison. So he says, he ain't never seen his daddy. He ain't never posted a picture with his daddy. He ain't never talked to his daddy. And do you know from the couple of times he talked to his daddy on the phone, he ain't never forgot what his daddy told him. He ain't never forgot what his daddy told him. I talked to guys who wasn't even raised with their daddy but he got to see his daddy on the weekends or see his daddy in the neighborhood and credit his daddy for who he is today. Being a solid man, being a stand-up guy, give his daddy the credit. And the reason why is because the only man a man really listened to is his daddy. The only man a man really listened to is his daddy. Like, they'll hear me, but they don't care nothing about me. They're not finna change their life for me. I don't pay their bills, but what God gave women, God gave women the ability. Men have it too, but choose not to use it. See, when men change is when they lose everything. When men change is when we lose everything. When we hit rock bottom, there's a quote that says, success is how high you bounce after you have hit rock bottom. That's when men change. When you pull the mattress from up onto his booty and he got to hit rock bottom, that's when a man listened. The only time a man hired me for relationship coaching is when his woman leave him. The only time, not when they, not when they argue or not when things ain't going all the best, the only time a man hired me is when his woman is gone and he trying to get her back. See, the thing about men, what's in men is that hunter's nature, that go getter nature. See, men like to go to the edge. Men like to go to the edge. And that's why a lot of women never have the influence in a man's life because a man will call your bluff. Who are the biggest, most addicted gamblers in the world? It's men. Now, yeah, you got a, yeah, all of us got an auntie or grandma or somebody that liked to gamble, but very rarely do you meet a woman who gamble on the level. The worst woman is half as bad as the worst male gambler. Men take chances. So what a man gonna do is a man gonna come into a woman's life and he gonna try to get away with everything he could get away with. He's not listening to me. A man ain't gonna change for me. What he's going to change for is when that woman pack her bags to leave and he know now he finna be a weekend daddy for his kids and he finna be playing child support and alimony. That's when a man wake up and wanna change. He don't wanna change because I post a video talking to him on a TikTok or a reel. That's not how men are built. If men was built like that to listen to another man tell him how to behave as a man in his relationship then we wouldn't have wars. We wouldn't have poverty. We wouldn't have had slavery. If men listen to other men, men listen to consequences. Men listen to consequences. I'm gonna give you a prime example. I got a 15 year old son. We go out of the country. We went to Cancun. Cancun. We over there in Cancun. In Cancun my wife say, listen, you need to wear your rash guard. It's like a swimming t-shirt. But cause my son got eczema and my son got, my son got eczema. And, but he 15 so his skin got a lot better. It's real clear. But that son, it activate. That was in his skin. And so my wife told him wear your rash guard but he done found him four abs. He done found four abs. He got a little, got a little leaner. He never been that. So what he wanna do? He wanna wear, keep his shirt off. Whole body break out. All these fine bumps. All these fire bumps all over his chest, all down his arms. Skin started to change colors. Whole back break out. Sore to the touch, burning, itching, hurting. That's when he got his lesson. His mama told him before cause she know how his skin work. She know how his skin work. He ain't listen. This a 15 year old child. What make y'all think? A 30, 40, 50 year old man finna listen to me. The man not finna listen to me. That's why the whole world talk to women because the whole world know women got common sense. And women hear. That's why. Why do you think the teacher make the little girl her teacher's aide? Why do you think the teacher let the little girl be the lying leader? Why do you think little girl start talking way earlier and way better than little boys? Because of the difference in how we are. Why do you think the commercials? Watch the commercials. The commercials are geared to mom, not to dad. The commercials for dad is by testosterone pills. But every commercial is geared to mom. Listen to the music. The thuggist of thugs is making music for women. Talking about breaking somebody by talking about what they all in they woman doing. Talking about how they love, how they so in love, how they sick in love, the thuggist of thugs. You listen to one song where he talking about he sliding and the next song he talking about how the woman got him strong. The thuggist of thugs, nah. He making music because he know he got to count on the women to buy that music. You know, women gonna download that music and be streaming that music the most. The reason why is because and right now it has always been the most powerful dollar is the dollar of the woman. It has always been. And the reason being is because typically the woman is the CEO of home. She is the backbone of the household. And if she by herself, if she single then she definitely calling all the shots and see what men do is will take a lot of most men will squander their money. But my wife just told me about, my wife just told me about this podcast she was listening to on Dateline where this man was getting on, he was on dating apps and he was meeting women who were successful women, doctors, lawyers, nurse practitioners, business owners. He meeting these women, he was hitting these women for a 250K, he was cashing out they 401K. He go over there with them, he shoot a little game to them. These women who got master's degrees, got doctorate degrees, but ain't got a fifth grade education in men. But yet women so mad that men online giving women the game. We giving you the game because for the men who care, we realize that no matter how much success you get, you know, zilch about men. It's doctors getting played. It's lawyers getting played. It's multi-millionaires getting played. I see women every day who is multi-millionaires and I could tell their husband do not love them. I know their husband is with them for the money that a man wasn't even looking twice at them before they became a millionaire. And the woman can't see it. The woman can't see it. That it's women that got a man because of who her daddy is. You know a lot of rich men, kids be in the struggle because they spoil so they get to eat all the donuts, all the cookie, all the candy. So a lot of times their body might not be healthy or their daddy's so busy with work, they have no identity so they're sleeping around from the age of 10. So a lot of times it's women who daddy rich, they be ran through or they be out of shape because of just how much access they had. And then they will have a man and they cannot tell that that man is with them for the money, for the status, for the position only. Listen, I see this happening to women of the cloth. So women out here complaining and getting mad about men giving way to gain, you better be happy that it's a few men giving way to gain. You better be happy that a man trying to help prepare you for what you finna run up against because for the men that's giving way to gain, the men really ain't got no male friends. The men have chosen to be alienated and ostracized for the men who giving the real game now. Now it's men, I see men online, who they giving the fake game. They giving the game that's gonna serve you up on a platter. I seen that man video on TikTok. Somebody sent me the TikTok of the guy who he writing on a piece of paper and he's telling about a woman who sleep with a man in 72 hours versus a woman who saving herself. And he say that, you know, why would you hold out something from a man that he could get really easy? Like what does it benefit you to hold out sex when he could get that really easy? And that right there video is serving women up on a silver platter. Women opening their legs because this video is telling them there is no benefit to saving yourself and that's a lie. If it don't benefit you, nothing else, you ain't gonna catch no STD saving yourself. If it don't benefit you, nothing else, you ain't gonna concede no child saving yourself. If it don't benefit you, nothing else, it's gonna do that. But here this video, it hundreds of thousands of views and man ain't bit more married than a man on the moon. And so listen, when you see, for those of y'all, for y'all ladies who you mad and you fed up with a few men giving women the real game, let me tell you what my daddy told me, don't be mad, you better scratch your booty and get glad because let me tell you what my wife told me. My wife say this man, it was on date line, she lives in the park here. She say this man got on dating apps. Now he ain't talking about the Tinder Swindler now. This ain't even the Tinder Swindler. This a whole nother man. This ain't the Tinder Swindler. This a whole nother man. She say this man got $20 million from women. How do a woman got a doctorate degree, got a master's degree, got a bachelor's and don't know nothing about men? That's why the faithful few of us is out here giving away the game. You know why I'm giving away the game? Because 99% of the women that I met before the age of 21, from 15 to 21 slept with me on the first night. That's why I'm giving away the game. The reason what made me start giving away the game is when my mom and dad divorced, my mama was 44 years old. When I wrote my book, my mama was 44 years old and she was calling me with questions that was eighth grade games. My mama at 44 was asking me about men and it was games that I ran in middle school. I said, oh my goodness. When I seen my sister, who almost took a cup of men life for my sister and I'm not exaggerating, I'm talking about literally, almost took a cup of men life for my sister. When I see my sister went from relationship, relationship to relationship and give everything of her and all she got was pregnant and left. That's what made me start giving up the game. That's why I tell y'all, when you see men talking about relationships, you got to ask a man, why are you talking about relationships? What is your passion? What is your purpose? What is your motive? Why are you talking about this? Because a lot of men today talking about relationships for the money only. I started talking about relationship before there was any money involved. There was no money. I didn't make a dime from talking about relationships for three or four years. And when I made a dime, it wasn't a dime that could take care of my family. I ain't go full time like really making money for five, six years. And it wasn't just relationship though. I was ghost writing. I was life coaching on business, author consulting. I was doing speaking engagement, but not a lot. But when I started taking my family, it wasn't just talking about love and relationships. I had to have multiple streams of income. Ghost writing $10,000 per book. I had to have multiple streams of income because there was no money in talking about love and relationships. I had to do that out of purpose and out of passion. And but see today after I opened the door, it became a blueprint. Steve Harvey came after me. But the money he could make from TV show, the money he made from a relationship book, pales in comparison to the money he could make from a TV show. And that's why Steve Harvey don't talk about relationships no more. Because he made more money doing TV shows and radio show. It's not beneficial to just talk about relationships. Not when a man comes from nothing, sleeping on his mama couch. If he could make 100,000, that's some money. That ain't no money to Steve Harvey. And see this what a lot of women don't understand because a lot of women just think men getting rich. No, that's relative. A lot of these men that's talking about love and relationship, they selling books and they selling coaching sessions. That ain't rich. That ain't rich, nor is it wealthy. Now, if he come from section eight, if he come from the projects, then yeah, $75,000, $50 is some money to him. $100,000, that's some money to him. But so that's why a lot of men talking about it and they single. And that's why they ain't giving away the whole game. They not giving away the whole game. And that's why I separate myself. That's why you don't see me going on tours and trying to team up with guys who talk about relationships, I don't do that because I don't trust them. I don't trust them because I know this not natural. I know this is not natural. For a man to talk about love and relationships, we don't desire that. That's not natural. So you got to have a purpose behind why are you giving away the game as a man? You got to have a real purpose. And that purpose need to be known and it need to be stated, but guess what? The world do not care about the difference between real and fake. The world care about the picture you paint. So I literally, I came to a point to where it became so many fakes in the love and relationship space that I stopped talking about it. And I'm actually called to it. I stopped talking about it for like a year or two. But people just kept coming to me for it and that's what people knew me for. And people started, guys started getting raised up but they were single talking about relationships. And then they women started hiring me for coaching. And they say, yeah, this guy right here who do this relationship talking, he told me this line, that line, that line. He told me this and this, he told me this and this and this. And I'm like, aw man. And then I talked to my wife about it and she said, listen, she said, I know you don't like doing it. I know you don't like talking about it. I know you don't like being lumped in with guys who faking, but she was like, you can't run from your calling and run from your purpose just cause fake people show up. Because when you run from it now you letting fake people ruin people lives. So you need to come back in and you need to, you know, talk about this. Hey, when I say somebody name, this ain't for y'all to say somebody name. So share, you see somebody mention somebody name. We ain't talking about, you know, people. And Gina, this is not a Q and A. This ain't no Q and A. And so listen, my wife told me, you got to get back in there. You got to get back in there and you got to do what you call to do. And I am here reluctantly. I'm here reluctantly. Every single day I wanna transition my brand from talking about love relationships. I'm tired of talking about love relationships and talking about love relationships, it is lonely. It's lonely because I can't have female friends because I'm married and that's dangerous territory. But guess what? I also can't have male friends because men not gonna be your friend when your message is exposing them or stepping on their toes. The only time a man really gonna be your friends when it's something in it for him or if he's single, you know, single and abstinent. But I really don't have male friends either because it's uncomfortable. It's like I just had a Krispy Kreme donut. If you like you a Krispy Kreme donut, you don't wanna be friends with somebody who eaten kale with balsamic vinegar. You finna go find you somebody that's eaten Krispy Kreme donut. So for me, talking about love relationships, a man don't wanna be around me if he wanna watch porn. If he wanna control his woman, if he wanna manipulate his woman, if he wanna put hands on his woman, if he wanna cheat on his woman, a man don't wanna be around me. If I'm talking about, you know, loving unconditionally and I'm talking about, you know, just understanding your strength is your gentleness and letting your woman keep her voice and respecting her mind. If a man don't wanna do that, he don't wanna be around me and most men ain't trying to hear that. Most men ain't trying to hear that. And so this is the thing. I reluctantly wanna be here, but I'm called here. You know why I'm called here? Because I'm talking to women all the time who got all the sense in the world, all the degrees in the world and know this much about men. And I'm like, this can't be this hard. This can't be this hard. Thank you for that blessing, Nah. You didn't have to do that. I say this can't be that hard, Crystal. And that's why I'm doing it. But a lot of people don't understand that though. A lot of people don't understand. So my last reel I posted on Instagram, I seen a few women in there who talking to the men, who holding the men accountable. Their daddy got to hold them accountable, but he grown men. So let me tell you about the influence that a woman has. See, the woman is the receiver. The woman receives a man into her body. So the woman has all the power. And that's what a lot of women don't realize. Like, if you tell a child, don't eat that candy, but the candy is there, is open, and is free. That child gonna get to that candy. That child could not for a little while, but that child gonna get that candy. Unless you put a lock on it, you put it up somewhere, or unless there's repercussions for getting to that candy. The same thing is with men and women in relationships. A man is not going to listen to me online, unless his woman leaving him. That's when he gonna say what you got to say. Cause she listen to you, she feel like you, what you saying, you know what you talking about. So what you got to say now? When I go through my emails, from the emails I have from men, that's what it's saying. I don't ran my woman off, I don't dog died, I don't mistreat, I don't did this, and I did that, now I'm ready to listen to you. Men ears get big when they booty gets soft. And they ain't talk about no other kind of stuff. Talking about when that booty hit rock bottom, that's when the men ill perk up. Other than that, it ain't happening. But you know what power the woman have? The woman could say no playboy, I ain't getting down like that. We ain't finna be in that bed, no we ain't finna do all that. And that's why the real people, that's why the real people is talking to the women too. And we'll have messages for the men, but it's not gonna be the only same thing because for one, the world not even set up like that. It's we trapped in the world, it's also the system. Do you know if I make a video for a man, YouTube do not show that video. The women who subscribe to the channel won't even be shown the video. I show you on Friday. Go to my Friday, if I make a regular video, it'll get 20,000 views, 10,000 views. If I make a video geared to a man, it'll get 1,000 views. The system don't even promote to men. Do you know when you go to write a book that unless you got an insane following, like unless you got multi-millions of followers, you're not allowed to write a book to a man. The publisher won't let you write a book to a man. You have to write a book. Y'all forgive me, my little thing popped up. You have to write a book to a woman. The publisher won't let you write a book to a man. The reason being is because 75% of readers are women. So the business side of publishing, they won't do anything for a man. Look at reality TV. Look at reality TV. All reality TV is geared to women. Do you know when you go to Hollywood to pitch a show? If your audience for the show is men, they won't do the show. About 10% of the shows they would do for men. Remember like Pimp My Ride? But even with that, women were very intrigued with Pimp My Ride. But if you notice, Love and Hip Hop Alarm, Love and Hip Hop Miami, Love and Hip Hop Hollywood, Housewives of Atlanta, Housewives of Potomac, Housewives of Dallas, Housewives of wherever, all show, you know why? Cause I sat in LA because I signed with one of the top three agencies. They sent me to all the big production houses. You know what the production houses told me? Tony, your show won't work because it's a male cast. I had a show called Rookie Camp of Love. And I had professional athletes on the show and we shot a sizzle. And what I was preparing these male pro athletes for was to be a husband. So they had games and exercises and challenges that would prepare for them to be a husband and a father. The network said, we can't do a show with a predominantly male cast because men don't watch reality TV like that. So the cast needs to be women and the show needs to be geared toward women. And I say, well, women gonna love to watch a show of men competing on things that relate to being a husband and a father. I knew that because my whole audience was women. Majority of my audience was women. And I knew that, but the people, they just had the system, they got a system that they follow and they don't even know what they're doing. They don't even know what they're talking about. So that's why you see the relationship experts on these shows. Like the shows call me, the shows write me, but I could tell when they show me, the show reached out to me that y'all watch, married at first sight, 90 day fiance, like the production company of them shows, they reached out to me, but I turned it down because I could tell it's not real. They're not trying to change nobody life. They're not trying to, like I did the Zoom interview with them. And they say, well, how do you feel about, you know, love at first sight or about, like not the show, but about the actual in real life? When I give them real advice and tell them how this gonna turn out, you know, relationship that up ends the show. There is no show because what they're doing, it's not practical. It's not wise. It don't make sense. So that's why you don't see me on the TV shows because that don't make sense. You should never marry nobody at no first sight. And you should never be no 90 day fiance or whatever. Like the shows don't even make sense, but it's for entertainment. It's for entertainment. And so that's why I can't go on there because I'm too real for TV. I'm not finna go on there and perpetuate a cycle. And so I don't have been in the meetings with all of these companies because when they see you going viral online and they see you got any type of audience, they wanna put you on TV, but look at this. Like somebody just sent me a show and they had a relationship expert on the show that's not even married. I'm like, what is he talking about? This man don't know what he talking about. And then guess what? I looked up the guy. He didn't even have an Instagram in his name. I'm like, how are you on a whole TV talking about you an expert in relationships and you don't even have an Instagram in your name. I'm like, this is fake, this fake. And so that's the thing. That's why I got to be here on YouTube because, and then guess what? Guess what? You make more money for your gift on YouTube than you do on TV. What YouTube will pay you in one month. That's what the TV shows pay you for a whole season. Did you hear what I'm telling you? So why is somebody who real gonna go on TV and be watered down, be turned into a game, turned into a fake, turned into a circus monkey and still be broke? No, that don't make no sense. So listen, women is being played. I remember watching Millionaire Matchmaker. How you got a matchmaker who's single? They call me by that show by being one of the sidekicks. Then they had another matchmaking show with a black lady. She was single. I say, how are you gonna be a matchmaker and you single? You don't know what components make a happy, healthy relationship. So how are you gonna be a matchmaker? So when they call me by the show, what I do is I go watch an episode. I go watch an episode. The matchmaker, the me now matchmaker, she taking tail of the lady. Okay, so when you go in, I want you to go into this bar and that man, he's sitting at that bar and what I want you to do, I want you to go up beside this man and I want you to put your hand on his shoulder and I want you to rub down his shoulder. You gotta get his attention. You gotta do, I fell out my chair. I say, is this woman telling this woman to go into the bar and to rub down a man's shoulder? I say, do this woman know what's been to happen to this woman when she do that? Chief thing to be what my teammate used to call nail to the cross. Lord forgive him and Lord forgive me for repeating it. That's what he used to say though. He say, wow, I nail to the cross. I say, you better stop using that reference before you get struck by lightning. Listen, I say, so this is national TV. This national TV now and they got a woman who is single during matchmaking and she tell the lady to go to the bar and to rub down a man's arm. I say, that is like a gazelle walking up to a lion and say, hey, how you doing? When have you ever seen a gazelle or a zebra or a zebra or a bison or a buffalo or anything walk up to a lion and say, hey, how you doing? I say, this is on national TV. I say, I will throw up in my mouth. I'll throw up in my mouth. They wanted me to be a sidekick on the show like one of the people that the matchmaker meet with. I say, ain't no way in the world I could sit up under somebody that don't know that ain't got a clue what they talking about. Don't know men no more than a can of paint, then the man on the moon, then the bubblegum on the bottom of their shoe. I say, ain't no way in the world. I could sit in no huddle and have no conversation with somebody who don't know what they talking about. So listen, this I'm trying to tell y'all later. Y'all better be glad that it's a few of us trying to give you the game. Y'all better be glad that it's a few of us. And I'm trying to tell you it's less than five of us trying to give you the game. And the only one, the only man that I feel that I know he ain't perfect cause I know he a man and I'm a man. But the only man that I stamp that I could see that's doing the best he can and Lord keep him is brother R.C. Blake's. That's the, and I don't watch the brother videos because I don't like to carry nobody else's message. So that's I don't watch his videos for that reason cause I don't wanna be regurgitating what he's saying but I done seen three, four minutes of three, four different ones. And see when you real, you know what real look like. And he is as close that it come. After that, the list drop off. After that, the list drop off. And listen, let me tell you something. It's some other guys who is not real but they give an all kind of relationship advice ain't got no wife, but what they take and do, they team up and they go on a tour. Now not to say that me and somebody might not go on no tour one day but we'd have been out here all these years and they went on no tour. They went on no tour together cause that ain't the thing what it's about. That ain't what it's about. It's about bringing real change. And guess what? That's the only brother that y'all done told me that and said my name. That's how I know that the brother trying to do something right because the other guys, they never said my name. And it's a reason why I don't say they name cause real recognize real and he got don't look familiar. But guess what? Somebody guy got the game in a chokehold. They going and they getting massive platforms telling lies, going and getting massive platforms telling pieces of the game, telling pieces of the game. Going up and let me tell you who they be pimping. They be pimping and the brothers don't know what God bless them. But if you not cut from a cloth, you don't know what the cloth look like. You said, I'm saying if you don't know what the cloth look like, they be pimping the brother out there on Louis house, school of greatness. They be pimping the man for his show. They go hop on that man podcast and to reach millions of people telling lies, telling half the game. Listen, I'm too real for TV and too real to be teaming up. Unless I feel in my spirit that it's real. And a lot of it is fake. And so listen, I'm trying to tell you like this right here, I can't wait till the day Lord retired me from talking about relationships. I can't wait. But as long as I see as much pain as I see, as long as I see miss messaging that I see, like I'm gonna tell you, I'm gonna be honest with you. I struggle posting relationship messages because I know I'm stepping on every man toes cause I'm stepping on my toes. I'm talking to me, I'm teaching me. I'm punching myself in the mouth. I'm punching myself in the gut because as a man, as a man, don't you know I wanna be controlling? As a man, I wanna be insecure. As a man, I wanna be toxic. It feel good to act out from the wrong way from your pain. It's like if you got any hurt, if you got any trauma, it hurts to address it. It hurts to fix it, to the feed into it. That feel good. If that's why they say hurt people hurt people cause it make them feel good when they hurt somebody. But it hurts to change. It hurt to grow. That's why it's called growing pains. So listen, on my Instagram, I got number one draft picks that follow me. I got a lot, a lot of repicks. Lot of repicks in the NBA, the first 14 picks. It's a lot, a lot of repicks that follow me. And a lot of them guys are single. At that level of money, very few guys is gonna be faithful to they woman. So it's hard for me to share my message cause I know I'm stepping on a lot of toes. Take me, hey, Tony. Ah, goodness. Hey, why you getting away the game? But guess what? I'm gonna tell you one thing. I ain't never, I ain't never had a man come up to me. I ain't never had a man come up to me and say, hey, Tony, you lying. Tony, you on lying, lying. Never, never. Every man that came up to me, there was a guy who had like a, like a shooter energy that I bumped into in Dallas. And God bless you, brother. If your wife or girlfriend watching this, if your boyfriend or husband was in Dallas, I feel like he would light skin with a beard. He was like, hey, man, Tony Gaggy, what's up, boy? Hey, what's up, boy, hey. Boy, hey, keep telling the truth on them. Hey, keep telling the truth on lying. Man, my wife always be sending me your stuff. You need to watch this, you need to watch this. Hey, but I ain't gonna lie though, boy. I was mad at first, but you be telling the truth. You be telling the truth. I was walking through the airport one time. God, he passed me, he stopped. He ran back up. He ran back up and he said, hey, Tony Gaggy. Hey, boy, hey, boy, ain't gonna lie. Boy, you be telling the truth, ain't gonna lie. That's all a man say to me, because men know men. Men know real from faith. That's why don't come for me. That's why they don't come for me. Not a man with some sense now. Cause for one, he know, I ain't telling no lie. And two, he know, the Lord's still working with me. And he might get laid down. Like a man ain't fooled by, oh, he got color eyes. So that mean he soft. Yeah, we look at some guys and we say that, but when a man hit my story, he know the Lord's still working on me. He know that all the work ain't done. He know that. So that's why I really don't have no problem with God. Just call him my name, call him my name. The reason being is because they know ain't telling no lies. They know ain't perpetrating because everything that I done, I tell about it. I put it in a book. Any wrong, any dirt I done. I tell about it. I ain't trying to ride in like no knight in shining armor. Like I ain't never did nothing. My story, I've done. It's all like that on videos, on books, everything. But see what I'm trying to tell y'all ladies is that, listen, don't nobody wanna do this. Don't nobody wanna get up and talk about no relationship. That is against the nature of a man. That's my own trust. 90% of the men who talk about relationship because I know as a man it's against our nature. So you either doing it for month, for purpose or for profit. You're doing it for purpose or for profit. The way I know that I'm doing it for purpose is because I was doing it four, five years before I made a dime. Before I got booked. Before speaking, I wrote my book on relationship in 2007. Do you know my first speaking engagement on that book was at Bethune Cookman University? You know how much money I got paid? $65. $65 in 2007. This ain't 1907, but Bethune Cookman University paid me $65. But see, after I got out here and I started building, you know my first real check for love and relationship talks came in 2010. I had been in the field for three and a half years. And do you know how much that check was? $1,500. And I had to fly way to St. Paul, Minneapolis or something like that. So I think of Minneapolis, somewhere up there for $1,500. And what is $1,500 gonna do? And do you know in 2010, that was my only paid speaking engagement. And I had been speaking on relationships in 2007. But then guess what? After my stuff went viral, it opened the door. People start doing relationship events. So then the young men that came after me, they came right in to $5,000, $10,000 checks. When you sleeping on your mama couch and somebody gave you $10,000 to do a relationship talk because you write poems about love, you're not finna change what you're talking about. And that's what them guys started doing. Now, when it come to speaking, my biggest love and relationship check from speaking on love and relationships or speaking engagement was $5,000. For the people who say, oh, it's about the money, oh, it's about the money, it was $5,000. Do you know what the average pay for love and relationship talking events is? $2,500, $1,500 to $3,500. For the people that think, oh, that's just so much money. Oh, that's just so much money. Listen, you got to be, but see, for some men that money is good. No, I got bigger dreams than that. And that's why you see a lot of these men who talking about love and relationship single because a wife costs, a wife costs, a wife costs. This week alone, this week alone, I got to pay. This week alone, my family costs of me $16,000. I'm taking my son to Germany for soccer. It costs, it costs $3,500 for him, $8,000 for our flights, $3,000 for me, for this hilltrip. This week alone, then you're not making that money from love and relationship talk as a married father. But that's why you see a lot of these guys who talking about love and relationship, they're not making that much money, but that's why they staying single. They came for the woman. They came for the woman. One of the guys who was talking about love and relationships looked like he had money. He messed around and started dating one of my clients. My client, it come to find out, man, he had no money. I already knew it. That's why I got over 50 streams of income, meaning that's why I don't wrote 20 books. That's why I got 30 courses. That's why I use my gifts. That's why I ghost write for $10,000 to $50,000 because I wrote this book in five days. That's why I ghost write for people because it ain't no money in talking about love and relationship. It ain't no money, but see people got that confused so they think, but not to a single man, yeah. To a single man, yeah. $50,000, $100,000, that's some money. That could take care of him. And a lot of these men who talking about love and relationship live with their mama. They live with their mama. Listen, listen, they live with their mama. I'm trying to tell you, they live with their sister. I don't live with their sister or their mama. A lot of them live with their homeboy. Why you think the podcast called roommates? Ain't no grown man making no podcast called roommates? It called roommate because they living with each other. I can't have no podcast called roommates and ain't nothing against them guys. But listen, I don't see what them guys talk about. Let me tell you something. And I don't see who they bring on there. They bring the guys who fake on there. They bring the guys who pushing the narrative that they wanna push. People tell me, Tony, go on the roommate podcast. The roommate podcast ain't never reached out to me. They ain't no, I'm right here. I ain't hiding. Everybody got my email. My email right there on my Instagram bio. But see the thing is people know what smoke look like. People know what smoke look like. So if you're gonna come in and you're gonna talk realness and it's gonna be real and it's gonna hold a man accountable and it's gonna ask a man, it's gonna ask a man to level up and to be a real man. Don't nobody wanna sit down with me because I'm putting the mirror up. I'm putting the mirror up. And so you don't wanna sit down with a mirror in your face. You wanna sit down with a harp in your ear, singing your music, what you wanna hear, listen. Every single day I punch myself in the mouth. Every single day I fail. Every single day I see where I could be a better husband to my wife. And every single day she see me get up and try. And every single day I still might say something slick out the mouth. I still might slip and be done, energy be off. And I got to get back up. And so I know what the truth look like. I know what it feel like. And I'm gonna tell you, I'm tired. I'm tired of talking about relationship. But guess what? For me, I don't believe in all this Zodiac stuff. But people say, oh, it's cause you are March 8th, baby, that your heart is like that. How about they gonna play a joke on me? I'm born on March 8th. 95% of my YouTube subscribers is women. How about they gonna make March 8th my birthday International Women's Day? Come on now. Come on now, don't do me like that. Don't do me like that. And see, listen, this what a lot of people don't understand. There was a lot of people don't understand. I was a nightmare to women that looked like a dream. I was a nightmare disguised as a dream. College athlete, eight pack of albs, right poetry, talk game, Southern accent, Southern charm. I was a, got a car, got my own car, cell phone, come from a two parent household, daddy or pastor. As a woman, if you meet a man and his daddy, he come from a two parent home. He raised by daddy. He athletically built. He got a talk game. He claimed to know God. I was a nightmare disguised as a dream. So I played the whole game. So I didn't have issues with women. I mean, I didn't have trouble getting women as an athlete. And so I didn't have trouble. So I learned the game. I saw where women was falling for the game. I saw where women was slipping up. I saw the whole game. So when I changed my life, that's why I gave the game away. That's why I gave the game away. And see, a lot of people don't like confidence. They confuse confidence with arrogance. I bought, I had to block a lady today to my Tony. It seemed like you two proud about being, about being a faithful. It's like, yeah, I'm proud about being faithful cause I slept with over a hundred women by the age of 21. So me being faithful, absolutely I'm proud of that. That's like a drug addict being proud of being clean. That's like a, it's like an alcoholic being proud of being sober. She talking about people who don't murder aren't bragging about or proud because they don't murder. Yes, they do. If they used to murder, if they come from the streets where lives get took and they choose a better route. Yeah, they proud of it. Yeah, they gonna say I walk past games every day. I walk past the streets every day. I used to do this and I do this. I'm absolutely 100% proud to be faithful cause I've never been faithful in my life. And the other reason why I'm proud to be faithful is because I never met a faithful man my whole life. Never met a faithful man other than what I knew of my father to be faithful. And of course I've met two or three men that have told me they are 100% faithful. And but to be honest with you, like women say, women say a man is only as faithful as his options. How many options you think I got out of him? How many options do you think I got? So I got options. You know why? Because a lot of women just care about a man having money. So if a woman go on my page and she see me in a Bentley, she see me in a Mercedes Sprinter, she hit me in a Hellcat, she see my wife with Chanel and Louis, then she know that stuff ain't free. So you know what's coming in my DMs is women who they just want to be taken care of and they don't mind being a side woman. So I got options. So yes, I'm proud to be faithful to my wife because I could be cheating. And oh, just be faithful because you're a good person. I'm faithful because I'm a good person, but I'm also faithful because I love my wife and I'm also faithful because I love God. It take all of that. And the fact that I have to always been faithful in my life, I'm happy about that. And so this is the thing. So I had a block that lady, I had a blocker, woman. Yeah, I wrote back to her. Y'all see it, it's on my last video where I'll talk about the three Bs or something. Some of them I'll talk about. I wrote back to her, want me to stay out my comments, telling me what I can and can't be proud of. And so listen to me, this is where we going wrong. And I'ma tell you, ladies, this is where a lot of women going wrong is getting mad about a message for you. Listen, don't ever be mad by the message for you because if a message for me, I'm only gonna get mad when it's holding me accountable. And so like on the video I posted, that said, what's the title? Above My Head, I posted real. And I put it on TikTok. What I wrote above my head. Oh, it says stay out the bed. And I posted it as a short on YouTube too. It says stay out the bed. One lady coming to comment on my wear condoms. Women are sexual too. It ain't that she got low self-esteem or she don't love herself. Yes, it is. Because I said in the video that if you sleep with somebody in 72 hours, you got low self-esteem. The man and the woman got low self-esteem and you do not love yourself. Because what can come from sleeping with somebody? Well, STD and a baby. So if you're gonna jump in the bed with somebody inside of 72 hours, you don't love yourself. You know why? You know how I know? Cause I used to do it. And I did not have any respect for my body. I ain't respect my body and I ain't love myself. And that's how I know. Cause when you done been in there, you know the feeling. Ain't nobody getting in the bed with somebody just because you sexual. Because it's a lot of repercussions. It's a lot of consequences to being actual. So when you love yourself, you wanna save yourself. You wanna save your body. You wanna get to know somebody. Get to know them. Y'all probably even today going to take tests together to look at your results together when you love yourself. People don't wanna hit that though. People don't wanna hit that. And so here we is. And then there's a few other ladies. Oh, we need to hold them in a column. Ain't nobody holding the men accountable. Listen, for me, I struggle giving a message that just don't feel like it makes sense and don't feel authentic. And me coming on here, I said now, but me coming on here and saying, listen fellas, you need to stop sleeping with women. Listen fellas, you need to stop sleeping with these women. You need to stop trying these women. You need to stop trying to get these women in the bed. It literally is like saying to a dog, hey, listen. You need to stop eating that dog food. Go talk to your dog. If you got a dog, go talk to your dog and say, listen, you need to stop eating that dog food. That dog food ain't good for you. Like y'all need to have a ceremony and you need to walk down the aisle before you eat that dog food. That's what it is like to say to a man on the internet. Listen fellas, you need to stop sleeping, trying to sleep with a woman. That is not gonna work. That is not gonna work. I am a man. I know that is not gonna work. Listen to me. Listen to me. And this is what I try to get women to understand. It's on the woman. It's on the woman because you the receiver. So here I am and see people don't wanna hear this. I told y'all slept with over 100 women before the age of 21. That's a real thing. That's how I know the game because I was in the field risking my life, risking my body, risking my future. Didn't know I was gonna be doing this, but God say who better to turn into a person who give away the game than somebody who played the game in a very foul way? Why do you think he had Apostle Paul write 13 books of the Bible? Because Apostle Paul was Saul and Saul was a persecutor of the church. So who better to convert than Saul into Apostle Paul? A man who ain't really played the game should not be talking about no love relationship because he don't even know how it go. Listen, my freshman year, I went to college. Yes, and this is what women don't believe. She said over 100, but listen, this is the thing. And see, this is what I be trying to tell women. Listen, I had slept with 22 women by the age of 18 and I started at 15. And you know how I know the exact number because that is how we defined ourselves as young men. Like our goal, when we went to the club, it was like, hey, whoever get five phone number win. We weren't in the club dancing like we're brown. We weren't in the club. We was in the club hoping our breath won't stink, hollering in people ill. We was in people ill. We were in people ill, in women ill. Hey, what's up, hey, can I have your number? Screaming in an ill, trying to talk over the music. Or on the way out the club or when the lights come on, try to run and get your couple numbers. Or when you walking outside, before she get to her car or she got away from her mama to pick up, try to get a number. And that's what we did. I had a hot boy van. My mama had a van. It was a Dodge Caravan. It was supposed to get painted. It had got sand down. So I was driving around in a sanded down van. I was in a sanded down van. My homeboy, Tiger, he made us business cards because he was computer savvy. He made us business cards. And it said hot boy number one, Tony. And had my pretty, had my nickname on there, had a slogan on there with my phone number. Then he was hot boy number two and my other homeboy job was hot boy number three. When we was in high school and my mama started letting me drive at 16 years old, we was in her van and we was ride round and we go pick up our girlfriends. And we had a front seat. We had the middle seat and we had a third seat. We were getting that van and we will each one of us will be on one of them seats. Splack of valley, yes. This was real. And when I told my homeboy, I said, well, man, we will sit down in a circle and be like, man, what's your number? And we said, I said like 50 or 100. I can't remember. My homeboy who was five foot six, he said, I'm at 600. I believed it because he lived with a pro athlete. So they always had women. My other homeboy, he said, I'm at 300. I knew it was the truth because they were telling me, they're like, man, we were suddenly such sleep with 13 girls in the same day. Here I was broke. I was broke with no money now, but what my mama didn't gave me. When I was 17 years old, I heard my mama tell her friend, I know my son ain't climbing on top of no, on top of no girl, cause he too shy. I was at about 17 girls at that time when my mama told her friend that my mama thought I was a virgin at 17 years old. I had lost my virginity in a baseball dugout, in a baseball dugout. And let me tell you how that happened. Let me tell you how that happened. I literally somebody gave me a condom and I had the condom in class in the ninth grade and I showed it to a little Caucasian young lady. I showed it to her. She looked like she might have had some mix with her, some kind of mix in her. And I showed it to her. She was like, and later that night, she was on the bench ineligible for the basketball team. I walked up to the basketball game. She was sitting at the end of the bench. I walked in the gym. I did it like this. She got up off the bench. She walked out the gym and we walked over across the parking lot to the baseball dugout. And we got on the bench. We had splinters in it. It was a wooden bench. It was painted. The paint was gone. Splinters was in there. And that's where I lost my virginity at 15 years old, the forbidden fruit. So what you got to understand, the reason why I got a thousand videos giving away this game, cause I played the game on another level. I played the game on another level. My homeboys, when I went to college to play football, my first semester, I slept with 14 other young ladies at the college. My first semester, 14. The next semester, 14. I remember the exact number because that is how we defined ourself as young men. And this, and then when I tell women this, see most men don't share numbers because we know it's nasty. And then some men ain't got numbers to share and some men lying by numbers. But it ain't nothing to be proud of. It's very disgusting. And that's why, but it was disgusting because I didn't love myself. I didn't respect my body. And my parents didn't talk to me because we was in the church. So in the church, they gloss over stuff. They weren't real real. They'd rather just try to hide you from it or not talk about it instead of talking to you about it and thinking that if they don't talk about it, you ain't gonna do nothing. You ain't gonna do nothing. Hey, God bless you. You're right, you're right. God bless you. And so listen, I'm in college playing football and my teammates, they would be in the room all together almost every day. And they would be watching one or two things. The porn or the football games on Saturday and Sunday. I probably one time out of the three years I was at that college playing football, went in that room and watched the football game with them boys. I was with a young lady 24-7, 24-7. I was with a young lady 24-7. The first girlfriend that I started talking to in college was because I was sitting in the library. And I looked up and she kept looking at me. She was another Caucasian young lady. She kept looking at me. We in West Virginia is 1% black. And either she asked me for my screen name or I asked her for her screen name. And we went to IEM and I said, hey, you wanna leave him and go to the room? She said, yeah. We went to the room and in less than 30 minutes we was in that bed. This is a real life true story. If for me it was, this is why I got the game that I share. This ain't coming from just something made up out of the hour. I see and I learn the weaknesses and where women did not know the game. Just, it happened just like that. It happened just like that. And so then the next day she said, see I'm telling y'all real stories, but see I wrote about this in my first book what that never told a little girl. I exposed myself. I went on Oprah and exposed myself about being a toxic, abusive boyfriend in college. The next day she said, hey, what you doing? I wasn't doing nothing. We school had just started. So then I went back over the room. Boom, boom, boom, boom, same thing. The next day. So then what she started doing is she went on her sports team and she told all other girls about me. She told all the girls about me. Next thing you know, the whole team started DMing me. She was bragging about having her a black pole in her life cause it's West Virginia. Guess what? The sorority girls that was in her dorm started writing me. The other teammates on her team started writing me. So I was in a different room every night. See, I do the work that I do today to right my wrongs with God. And cause it's by the grace of God that I don't have 10, 15 children from 10, 15 different women. It's by the grace of God that I don't have a STD. When I wrote my book at 22 years old, my first cousin called my mama and said, do little Tony, they call me little Tony, do little Tony got AIDS because she could not believe what she read. But guess what? It's because women had no clue. That's what every man was doing or trying to do. She was shocked. I used to say she got less than five bodies for majority of women. That is true. For majority of women, that is true. Now, see, men don't believe that now. Now, of course, the older you get, the older you get. Now, when I talk to certain women, and see this, so these, y'all right now, these women, they wanted to experience a black man. Do you know it was one of the young ladies in college, all she would do is get on the IM and say, hey, you want to come over? And I would say, yeah, I'm gonna come over. I go over there and we literally would not say a single word. She would open the door, she would climb up to the top bunk, I climb up to the top bunk, all of that right there, get up, put clothes on, leave. Do you know the next day at school, that young lady would walk right past me like she don't know me, would walk right past me. I ain't love myself, I ain't respect my body. I was dangling in a jar. And I was the fix, I was jangling, jangling, not with no man, but I was the fix. These women were calling me to their room. And just like that, not even talking, these real stories, not. So when you see me talk about what I'm talking about, that's because of the mess I live. That's how I understand the game. That's why I got over a thousand videos talking about this. That's why I be talking to women, talk to the men. Listen, the men don't have a problem. Let me explain that. A lot of people don't want to hear what that mean. When I tell you the men don't have a problem, meaning the men is doing what they want to do. The men getting to use women. The men getting to sleep with women, however they want to sleep with you. The men don't have the problem because they get in the layer of the land. They get to do what they want to do. Men getting to run, what they call it, ramp shot, ramp shot in through everything. Hot, and listen, now on my team, we have one other guy. Let me tell you, see men talk. Men, especially when you young, you kiss and tell as a man. So every young lady that a man sleep with, we talking about it, we telling it, we telling it. And so this young lady, she became my PR. So she telling all of these young ladies, so now all these young ladies, they coming to me. So she was doing the recruiting, but she didn't do it intentionally because she didn't know they was gonna hit me up. She didn't know that. They went behind her bike, stabbed her in the back. And then when they did that, guess what she did to me? She went behind my bike and started sleeping with my teammates. She slept with four of my teammates and one of the basketball players. And then, but while I was with her, I cheated on her with eight other young ladies. When I broke up with her, I got in another relationship. When I was in that relationship, that young lady, I cheated on her with 26 other young ladies. That's why I get a game I give. Cause I lived it. I lived it. And I'm doing this as a college student, no money. Men just be talking about, oh, this just money. Oh man, with money, no, I didn't have no money. I was in college. And listen, when I go to the club, I used to go to the club. You meet a woman in the club. It's West Virginia. Now, this was all, this was all white women because that's all there was there. That's all there was there. It was 1% black in the whole state. So at my school, it was what they call Junior Ivy League. It was 1600 people. So they was all white women. And the black girl was my girlfriend after the white girl who really was my girlfriend. It just, she kept hitting me up and I just ain't had nothing else to do. And then when I started hanging with her, the white girl, I realized that white kids had a college fund. Like she had money that her parents put up for her in a count to go to college. I didn't have that. So when I found out she had money, I'm over here eating Chinese, I'm eating fried chicken and yellow rice. I'm getting Wendy's every night. I'm getting Hardys, I'm getting Papa John and she had a car. A little Chevy Neon or something. Dog, not dog, Neon. Little Chevy Cavalier. I'm in there whipping. I'm in the car. And then, so I'm living. And so, and then what it was is she wasn't really known as a looker. So she, but me here, I'm a college football player. I got muscles, I had a chest and arms. I was built, I was a running bag. She took me to her hometown to show me off to the people I could tell she was showing me off.