 That's my plaque for when I achieved 100,000 subscribers. This was about a couple of years ago now. Now I'm steadily approaching 200,000 subscribers. I've got my little Pikachu there as well. I take it everywhere I go. And also my little Pikachu in Malaysia, Nala. It's been a few months without her since she was last live on the channel. Right on to the topic for this one. There's something that the narcissist does not want you to know. And it's about their new source. Their new relationship with this new person. Maybe you've seen it. You've seen that they're posting pictures on social media. Looks like they're having a great time without you. Looks like they're so happy now. All of this laughter, these forced smiles. Maybe these trips abroad. They're dining out at these fancy restaurants. They're driving around in their car together. Going for walks on the beach. It's very confusing though, isn't it? I mean it's such a contrast. I mean if you think for a moment it's like how is that even possible? It's like they didn't care about you. They're about everything that you were doing for them. And I mean of all people, you're like the kindest, sweetest person in the world. And yet they can so easily just abandon you. And forget about you. And it's like they never even cared about you to begin with. And yet they can go off into another situation with someone they've just met. And now they're having a great time without you. And they care so much about this person. Should we all just think for a moment about how that makes no logical sense? Because if they have the ability to care so much what happens with you? Why didn't they care about you then? And you were so kind and caring to them. I mean just look at how much you sacrificed for them. I mean if they were going to care about anyone in this world you'd think it would have been you. But that's the thing, they kind of resent how dependent they are on you. Yeah they end up hating you for that. Because it just reminds them how flawed they are. How inadequate they are. That they can't even provide that for themselves. And that they have to get it from you. But not only that, they couldn't even get it from you in the right way they had to manipulate and exploit you. Or even intimidate and coerce you in some cases. So it's very strange isn't it when you see them moving on to a new source. And it's kind of like they're trying to be rebellious and it's like this bold defiance against you and whatever they think you stand for. When it's like what did you put yourself out there to be? I mean the only way they could really perceive you is someone who was quite clearly self-sacrificing. Someone who loved them quite clearly unconditionally. I mean even after everything they did to you you were still there, you still remain loyal and devoted. You still supported them until the very end. And yet they have this bold defiance against you. And yet at the same time they portray it as though they have that which you were given to them and that you expected them to reciprocate back to you. Now they've moved on and they have that with someone else. Just think for a moment how does any of this make any logical sense? But there's so many contradictions. It really doesn't add up at all. The only logical explanation is that they're lying to you. Everything you had with them it was fake. It was a façade. That was a false character. How they treat you towards the end that's who they really were. And then they move on and they use the false character maybe with some slight adjustments to tailor make it to the new source to whatever they think the new source wants to see. And also whatever they think they can use to hurt you at the same time because they're expecting you to be watching. And it really is just manipulation and control. It's nothing that they really care about. They put on a show and they exaggerate it as though it's so important to them because they assume that it's important to you. I mean that's what you wanted from them isn't it? And they know how to hone in on that and then they portray it as though they've got that with someone else to make you jealous to make you feel like you're missing out. The reality is they don't even care about it. I mean they probably never even thought that way until you came on the scene. And then they saw what you were about and what you wanted what you liked until then they probably never even thought about people or relationships in that way. They probably never did. I mean think about it they were surrounded by fake people their entire life otherwise someone would have called them out a long time ago and they wouldn't even act that way to begin with. So yeah everything that you are everything that you value that you're about that you like that you're interested in I can tell you that I was completely alien to them until they met you and you opened them up to this world of love intimacy and connection and you're kind of like fueling their illusion with your energy and power because it actually does mean something to you and that's just providing them with this feeling of euphoria of feeling like they have something that you want. When the reality is that they only feel that way because it's powered by your belief and just because you believe that something is real it doesn't mean that it is. I mean you can believe that a rock is gold and you can believe that all you want it's not going to make it true. Same thing with the narcissist and the new source you can believe that they have this loving relationship together all you want that it it might make it seem more believable to you and it's kind of like you're supporting and encouraging their performance it's like you're giving them the cue for them to continue with it once they can see that it's affecting you but that doesn't make it any more real it just makes it seem more real to you because you're validating it that's all that there is it doesn't mean that it is real. You've got to think of course it's going to seem more real to you because what you thought you had with them that was real to you as well and all along you were being played you were being fooled and you couldn't see the entire time that that was not real all of those months or even years that you spent with them you know normally i do encourage people to trust their judgment but we got to look back sometimes and think hold on all of that time we thought it was real and then we see them moving on and we think that's real as well but we got it wrong once already so there's a good chance that we're getting it wrong again and that what we're seeing is just another mirage but then that being said we were manipulated so that wasn't really our actual judgment was it we were tricked and we're just being tricked again when we see the new source on their social media or even in person some of you so sorry if you have to see that i mean well not to say that the new source may not be attractive or anything but you know of course it's very hurtful to see it you know you had something with this person you thought you loved them you were close to them like they meant something to you and i know what that's like it's very painful to see someone that you were close with all of that time to see them as someone else and not just that i mean in a normal relationship a normal breakup they don't usually get with someone else until after a few months at the very least but with narcissists it's like overnight or they already had them lined up before they even left you they were cheating on you then you found out about it and it just breaks you i mean let's be real it does hurt a lot i've experienced it myself many times it's not nice you know especially if you're the type of person who takes relationship seriously and when you're with someone you want to believe that they're yours and that your theirs and that it's just you and them and it's exclusive no one else is involved they make you believe that as well they make you believe that it's like it's us against the world but then in the end they go and they betray you and then it's like just wakes you up just hits you all of a sudden it's like you were sleeping you were dreaming having this amazing dream it's like everything you ever wanted this person you thought you loved you thought you were going to be with maybe for the rest of your life you're going to marry and have kids with because that's what they let you to believe it's like you're just laying in your bed you're dreaming having this amazing dream and then someone comes in and just opens the curtains the sun comes shining through in your eyes and the dreams all over and then maybe it turns into a nightmare maybe you're late for work you're late for school then you're panicking you don't know what to do i mean that's how it goes isn't it and you've got to think like someone like ourselves you know the way we wear our hearts on our sleeves people know our intentions of course they're not stupid narcissists included don't be fooled they know exactly what we are like they know exactly what we are about what we want what we desire with love in a relationship our future yeah they play the blame and accuse game but they do know they're not that stupid they do know i mean just look at it when they go off the news source they're reflecting back to you what they think you wanted all along so of course they knew all along that you desired this closeness this intimacy with them for them to just be normal with you i mean that proves it right there that they already knew and yet it's like so the entire time you saw that i wear my heart or my sleeve you knew my intentions my motives you knew what i wanted you knew what i really cared about was just having a friend someone who cared about me just the way that i cared about them someone who could love me just as i love them someone who we could be with together and start a family build a life a future it's like so you knew all along this is what i'm about this is what i want what i'd like to share with you you knew that and you could still the entire time just manipulate lie future fake exploit me betray me and just feel nothing no remorse and not only that but at the end go and punish me by going off with another person or being with them even while you were with me and just feel nothing towards me you could do all of that and not only that it's also sometimes the smear campaign and isolation as well and you've got to think like of all people to do this to in the world you know they know exactly our personalities they know where empathic they know what we're like and they can still go and do that to us of all people like the people who care the most more than anyone it just really makes you think and of course if they can do that to us you really think that they can move on with someone else and care about them and love them but they could never do that with us the most selfless sacrificing people because i've heard the stories i've seen the comments everything that people have lost everything that they have given to these selfish narcissists it's just incredible sometimes you know the injustice when you think about everything they've done how they've impacted people's lives in such a negative way and it's like they don't even care it's like you look at it and it's like it doesn't even cross their minds like they don't even think about it and they're not only that it's like they're so disconnected from themselves and their own emotions that they can just go off and revert back to the false character with someone else i mean isn't that just crazy how they can do that you know if you're not so caught up in the illusion and what they're trying to portray to you doesn't it just reveal just how crazy they are like from how they can go from how they were with you and how they were treating you to then go into this next situation and then they've got the false character again now they're suddenly the most loving caring person in the world it's so contradictory it's like how is that even possible how can you be this heartless abuser and then at the same time you're this loving relationship partner how does that make any sense of course it doesn't it doesn't add up and this is how we should recognize that it is all fake everything it seems that they have moved on to it is a facade and it's intended to manipulate not only the new source to groom them and to secure them as their supply but it's also intended to hurt and punish you i do what we're thinking hold on a minute punish me for what what i ever tried to do was love them i sacrificed myself on many occasions just to try to make them happy i gave them everything i had what more could i possibly do so it's like why would they want to punish me but that's just it because by doing that you showed them what a real person is like someone who puts it all on the line for someone they care about someone they love you showed them unconditional love something they never had in their entire lives something they wanted a long time ago they couldn't get it so they abandoned their true selves they created a false character to try to get it but even then when people are by them they knew it was fake and it's like decades later you come along and it's like oh you don't have to do anything just you don't have to put in an act don't have to impress nothing you're just loved unconditionally for no reason at all you just accepted and to them i know it's hard to comprehend this but to them that's like a big f you it really is when you try to love who they really are despite all of the arguments still there you remain loyal you continue to sacrifice yourself to them it's like where were you 20 30 years ago it's like they had to go through all of that all of that pain all of that suffering they had to abandon their true selves and create a false character and then you come along and say what was the point in all of that why did i have to go through all of that when someone like you could have just been there all along to care to support them so when you try to love them that's really a big f you to the narcissist they hate it and not only that it's the dependence that they have on you for this unconditional love and acceptance because while they hate it they also need it at the same time so they end up hating you for that and they make some turn against you make some resent you it just makes them want to betray you in the end they really hate our empathy our love our kindness i know this is difficult to understand even for me it is very difficult to see it from their point of view from their perspective of how they really despise empathic people but it's true they really do when they see our love they hate it and that's why they go off with a new source and they really exaggerate it it's like they try to prove a point that they can be that they just can't be that with you they don't really reveal it to you why they don't give you closure of course the most obvious reason why i mean if they were to be that if they could be that with you and of course remember you're the real deal you're actually a real empath you have the ability to love and connect so if they were able to do that with you how could it ever go wrong if two empathic people came together how would that ever go wrong so then of course they have to blame you and make it look like it's you the empath the victim you're the problem and in fact they're the empathic ones now they're the ones who care so much and in fact they've met someone else they care so much about them so that's why they set up the situation in that way because they could never do that with you just you being around them what happened it just revealed who the problem was it really just brought out their dysfunction because remember they thrive in dysfunctional environments they're very uncomfortable with anything normal and functional so what they tend to do is they just they make it dysfunctional they cause all of this drama with you and then they move on to another situation and make it look like they found a way to thrive in something normal but that's because you're just looking at them and the new relationship you're not looking at how they treated you that's how you're left discarded broken miserable hurt because if you look at that then it's like hold on a minute how is this situation normal healthy or functional I mean if anything it's the furthest thing from that that is how you know they haven't changed nothing's changed they're still the same they're just using this false character to manipulate you to punish you to make you feel bad about yourself despite everything you did for them you sacrifice yourself for them and they didn't appreciate you and if they did that to you of all people you really think they're ever going to have anything normal or functional with anyone of course not they're never going to have that the best chance they ever had was with you and they're never going to find anyone like you again because what you have is very rare an empath you're loving and caring you're very considerate you care about people so that's really what reveals it that's what lets you know their future how things are going to go for them after they leave you it's all based on how they treated you because that's the thing you can't just do that to someone and leave them in that type of situation you can't just hurt and betray them and not care if you can do that how can you care about anything you can't i mean of course it's different if you were being physically psychologically or sexually abused especially over a long period of time i mean those of you who left you discarded them for those reasons you know that doesn't mean that you didn't care i mean i know many of you you experienced all of that and you still stayed for a long time after that because you cared that much but they were the perpetrators they were doing all of this stuff to you and then again they betrayed you even more if they discarded you and then they try to punish you with a new source as well that really reveals how much they care and that really reveals how much they're going to care about anyone else after you about anything else that they get into you know i think deep down they wish they could be like us so loving loyal passionate as i know that many of you are yeah they see it as a weakness as something for them to exploit but it's also why they end up hating resenting us because it kind of reminds them of how they're not like that and it's like you know that's what makes us human and yet at the same time it kind of repulses them and it just reminds them that they're not normal of course as we know narcissists they want to look normal they want to blend in they want to belong somewhere but they know that they can't they know they're never going to be like that so of course when they see someone who wears normal healthy and pathetic it really winds them up and it really winds them up because in their childhood and this is the really sad part about it especially if you consider the fact that they were children at the time as well in their childhood they wanted normal they wanted love they wanted acceptance they wanted that sense of belonging they wanted to feel appreciated by their parents or caregiver who denied them of that they were abused or neglected and that's why they abandoned their true self and created a false self who is unabitant they're all powerful superior arrogant entitled the best thing since sliced bread and there's also the darker side of the disorder as well to whether abusive they feel entitled to abuse you and to control you but for you you held on to that and maybe you weren't unconditionally loved and accepted by your parents maybe you were abused or neglected as well but you found some strength within yourself to hold on to your authenticity you carry that through your remained empathic that may cause you to still seek love acceptance and belonging just like the narcissist but unlike for them because you took a different path you can still achieve that but that can be something real for you but not for them and deep down i think they know that they're fully aware of it that's why it irritates them so much because they know that what is achievable for you it's not achievable for them and there's nothing they can do about it even though they may go off with a new source flaunt it in front of your face trying to make you jealous trying to hurt you even though they may try to do that deep down they know it's all fake they know it's a facade that's where they're trying to hurt you in the first place that's the whole point is because they know it's not real that's why they're not really happy about it they were happy they wouldn't even desire to hurt you it's because they're dissatisfied they're unfulfilled with what they have because although they act like even when you start to catch on it's like they try to pretend as though you're wrong and it is real you know the truth is they actually know as well they know that what they have is not real and they know that what you have inside of yourself is real even if you are alone even if you're isolated even if you have no support yes they know that it's you you are the one they know that what you have is real they really do they know that everything that they have is fake even their neighbours they're flying monkeys i mean of course they see it they know they're just bonding over your destruction of course they do question it sometimes it's like why are we all bonded over this one person's destruction i mean if we're good people if we're people who can love and care is that something that we would be doing if we were happy with what we had with our group with our relationships would we really be doing that of course yes somewhere in there they do question these things but then they deflect it they push it away i mean that's what triggers them to really like rage at you and try to make it out as though you're the problem and they try to drive you crazy that's what drives them to do that to you because if they felt sane and normal and as though they're the functional ones they were they wouldn't really care about you it would be self-evident they wouldn't need to push or provoke you to anything i mean that's the whole point they're trying to turn you into the opposite of who you actually are so that it validates their illusion and then they can feel like there's nothing wrong with them well in fact they already know they're fully aware that it is them they may never tell you it but they do know they do 242 live viewers if you're finding this video helpful please give it a thumbs up down below show your support to our wonderful community Brenda Baskin says we are family here god walks with us yes we are family you know i never really felt like i had a family my entire life like anyone who really cared about me so i can relate to the narcissist there in that sense i mean i i did have friends and yeah i've had friends who i i believe they genuinely cared about me in all honesty i look back and i feel like i took a lot of people for granted i never cared about them as much as i should have or could have i mean when i was younger i was quite self-absorbed myself in all honesty i really was and i look back and i do regret that i wish that i valued connection more instead of just my own selfish desires and needs yeah i actually do look back and think that way i really do and i wish that i could have given certain people more of the love but they really did deserve at that time but i guess that's what it means to be an empathic person that yes we will look back and think that way but then it's also like couldn't have other people have done that for us as well but that's always how it is isn't it it's always just about us and what we could have done more we always self-love and blame ourselves it's like we've always got to be the superhero saves the day saves everyone i don't know maybe i'm just getting sleepy but yeah i mean that is if there is one thing that i do regret in my life and my past it is just i wish that i valued connection more i wish i gave more love to people i wish i listened to them more i wish i took the time to understand them because in all honesty i've always been quite egotistical i really have i mean when i look back a lot of times it's always always been about me and my image and i have to present myself literally as this perfect person to the world i mean honestly i look back and i think not so much now definitely earlier on in my research and it's like there were always times where it's like was i the narcissist because i was so grandiose all the time i always had this false image myself i was very arrogant and entitled and i i did have the empathy i felt a lot of guilt and shame and it was always self-loathing i never deflected it onto other people that's how at this point in my healing of course i know i'm not a narcissist and i never was but i was definitely very unaware of myself i was narcissistic to the point where i had like a false character of my own this perfect version of myself and i had to live up to this image that wasn't even real just so i could gain aberration i'm just being raw with you in this one i mean i don't want anyone to think that i am perfect i mean i know the way i like style myself and everything one might think that i am trying to achieve some level of perfection and i do care a lot about my of my appearance and taking care of myself but when i get on cue i'm really just being raw and authentic sometimes i'm not sometimes i can still be quite egotistical and boast about all of the subscribers and the views and but that's that's also because i know that's what some people like to see they like to see me traveling the world living my best life boasted about my achievements people do glorify narcissistic behavior and i think also because i'm empathic because i've suffered a lot people want to see that as well and they want to believe that it's possible for them so i think that's a part of it as well but yeah that you know there's definitely more than one side to me as you probably can see in my videos just as i'm sure there's more than one side to you that i'm not just trying to portray one side of my videos to where it's like i'm just this fake person i'm just showing you what i want to show you i want to show all different sides to me and i think that makes it more fun it makes it more interesting sometimes i'm a little bit sleepy it's late at night but i'm in deep thought analyze it a lot of things reflecting on myself or my past behaviors sometimes i get like that other times are more loud extroverted and i just want to really shut down these knocks just give you this information it's just different sides to us depends how we're feeling in that moment right now i'm feeling pretty chilled and relaxed but yeah those are my reflections why but it's there for those who care to listen for those who maybe it resonates with as well if it does i don't judge you for that we've all got our past and of course when we're younger we don't have much experience especially if we weren't taught certain things by our parents we may have been a bit too wrapped up in ourselves we may not have been there for other people as much as we should have or could have and they may not have been there for us as well that's important to remember but yeah it's good to reflect on this because as i said for us it can be real for the narcissist it's always going to be fake just as it was with us but we can go on and have something real for real i'm sure you know that's what they don't like but as that's what they hate and resent us but yeah i do want to go on too long about this i hope that this message 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