 what can cause someone from having a perfect relationship to suddenly calling it off? What do you think Patrick? So what can what can cause someone from from having a perfect relationship to suddenly calling it off? Okay, so so I'm gonna I'm gonna make the assumption with a statement that you know she had been in a relationship with a guy and everything seemed to be going well and then all of a sudden he just decided that he didn't want to be in the relationship with her anymore. So I would say I'm going with my gut here as a general rule I would say that's pretty unusual just for there to be absolutely no warning signs and all of a sudden he just leaves. Usually there's some warning signs early on that tells you that there's strain in the relationship that requires increased communication to figure out what the problem is and really work on it together to fix it. But if if if that has been missed there's a good possibility he could leave because either he didn't feel there was communication there maybe he felt like he was trying to get something across to you and you weren't hearing him. And in you know in other cases in in in some rare cases the guy or gal could just leave a relationship really through no fault of yours at all it's something entirely with them and and that's a big challenge I it's you know that's one of I think one of the hardest things for people to accept sometimes is they feel that if someone leaves them that they're not a good person then right that is not true like you have tremendous value and being okay even though it's painful and and still being okay with grieving that process but still being able to let them go is a testament to your character and your strength right and I would say you know with someone in a situation like that I would definitely try to communicate with that person and ask and say hey you know why what is it that you feel that you have to walk away from this and if they're willing to communicate to still try to work it out but if if they aren't willing to communicate then to try to make peace with that and move on and in a lot of cases I would say you know if you really you know are able to find your inner strength that person may come back to you not to say it's a guarantee but if you don't continue to you know pursue them even when they've left if you you know make peace with it and move on in a lot of cases they're going to come back to you because they say man what did I do what did I give up so I just think that again this is kind of a broad answer to a question that I don't have all the details on but that's just kind of my impression no that was that was actually a great response you could probably be a relationship coach if you want that and I was going to say something very similar actually a lot of times it has nothing to do with you and a lot of times there are signs or there's things that built up I had a woman one time who said that there's this guy that was with her they were married for 17 years and then suddenly one day he left her and her kids and that she was like there was no reason for it and he just disappeared one day and there's no signs and it's like usually if a guy especially a guy that's been with you for 17 years and guys have kids together the likelihood there is no signs is almost non-existent right there what probably happened was that he was experiencing a lot of pain for a lot of time because men tend to just put their head down and just stay in relationships for much longer than than women tend to the statistics show that women are women tend to walk out of relationships about three times as much as men do and so if a guy has been in you know he's got kids he's got all these things it was probably really difficult for him to walk away from that situation and I don't know what situation this is but it might be that he experienced a lot of pain for a while and he just got fed up with it or it could be that he saw something and it just seemed so much dramatically right people leave and they go and do other things because of pain and pleasure right they they experience pain in the moment and they feel like getting out of the situation and going somewhere else is going to be so much more pleasurable that they'd rather go and do that than than spend any more time here and they feel like it's it's that bad because it sucks to break up with somebody it sucks to to let go of something that you've built and created and so usually people experience a lot of pain before they just up and leave and sometimes it doesn't have anything to do with you sometimes it has to do with them and their feelings of worthiness and their ability their feelings like they can actually do this and that this is the relationship that they really want to have or or whatever right and so it can it can have to have to do with a lot of different things and so it it could be a bunch of different things and just really depends