 So it's been a little over a year since Shane Dawson tried to rescue graveyard girls channel and since then not much has happened and in this video we're going to talk about why that is and what we can all learn from it. What is up everybody this is Chris from the Rewired Soul where we talk about the problem but focus on the solution and if you're new to my channel what I like to do is take a look at what's going on in the YouTube community and try to see what lessons we can pull from them to improve our own mental and emotional well-being so if you're into that stuff make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell and by the way did you know did you know my birthday isn't just two days so do me a favor follow me on Instagram and Twitter at the Rewired Soul. I would love to get my Instagram to 10,000 followers so I can get that beautiful little swipe up feature. All right but anyways to get started I'm going to give a little shout out to my girl Donna from the channel Psych IRL if you're a fan of Psych IRL let me know down in the comments below but anyways I was inspired to make this video after watching her recent video on graveyard girl because this is something that I've been thinking about for a while and then when Donna made her amazing video on graveyard girl I was like huh right and I wanted to just kind of share some of my experience maybe some tips and advice that can help you because again like one of the purposes of my channel is we sit back and we watch all this stuff happen passively but what can we take from it and say oh am I doing something similar in my own life you know what I mean so those of you who don't know just real quick rundown uh graveyard girl she was a huge channel she still is a huge channel but she grew in a lot a lot of popularity because of like product reviews and trying things that were from like I've seen on tv and all these other things right and she exploded and you know she's she's funny she's quirky and a lot of people could really relate to her right but in recent years her channel hasn't been performing as well so even with millions upon millions upon millions of subscribers she is not getting as many views she's kind of losing subscribers and everything like that well Shane Dawson was a major fan of graveyard girl and want to see what was going on so him and I think Garrett went out there and Ryland and Morgan they went out to Texas to go hang out with Bunny and talk to her about her channel and see what's going on and something that they talked about a lot in that video was you know having to change right but it was also good seeing them communicate too because here's the thing like and this isn't just for youtube creators like this is for everybody out there like we all need to be open to criticism and be willing to make changes and just take in new ideas but it it holds a lot more death and weight when it comes from somebody who is in that field and like Shane Dawson could relate to what graveyard girl was going through right and this is important like for example not only is my birthday in a couple days but it's also my sobriety birthday so on Sunday I will be celebrating seven years of sobriety and nobody could get through to me for a very long time nobody could get through to me and it took somebody who's actually been through that experience well a lot of people who have been through that experience to finally get through to me right like it was it was easy for other people like you know heck doctors family members who had never struggled with a drug or alcohol addiction to tell me like you need to stop right but when I finally sat down with other people who are in recovery and doing this thing that I wanted to do like they understood the pain and the suffering that I was going through so even if you're not an addict in recovery just check and see like how receptive are you to criticism and feedback coming in if it's somebody who hasn't been through it and this is why I highly suggest that everybody gets a mentor in different realms of their life whether it's like you know if you're going out to school like up to college like find somebody who's been to that school before talk to them what helped them get through that journey you know what I mean if you're trying to climb your way up the corporate ladder like find somebody who's already done that ask them what they did how how their experience was right like I personally try to help out other YouTube creators who are smaller than I am because it wasn't that long ago when I only had a thousand subscribers and I can share some of my experience and by the way if you're watching this and you have experience with something like pass that wisdom and that knowledge onto somebody else who's trying to accomplish the things that you've accomplished all right but anyways something that Shane Dawson talked to graveyard girl a lot about was like being you know more open and more honest and more authentic right and sharing about her own personal experiences and letting people into her life and everything like that and you know that is pretty huge here on YouTube like depending on who you are and when the series first ended like graveyard girl did an excellent job doing that right like she opened up she got vulnerable with people and you know she was talking about what was going on in her life and things stayed pretty good for a while she was still gaining subscribers getting a lot of views like off that tailwind of her series with Shane Dawson and some of you might remember the the Starbucks fiasco I made a video about that a long time ago but she kind of went on this like rant about Starbucks and talked about her anxiety and everything like that and that was like a speed bump in her journey because I think she got into the mode of sharing like what she was going through and everything like that and then she shared a little bit too much and she got some flak because a lot of people felt that she was being entitled and all these other things but anyways since then and something that Donna did a great job pointing out on Psych IRL is that we've seen we've seen graveyard girl revert back to kind of her old style of videos and kind of doing the same things to stop gaining views and traction so the primary thing that I wanted to talk about in this aside from like finding someone who's been where you want to be and getting advice from them but it's our own personal resistance to change right and what are my favorite sayings and if any of you know this exact quote you know what it is like I always butcher it but you'll get what I made right but one of my favorite quotes was this it was like when the pain of staying the same becomes too great finally we let go and have the willingness to change right like we are these people who hold on to the same thing for so long like that that hot coal that's just burning us right and finally we have to let go and we have to change like this is something that happened in my life for many many years I refuse to change I was stuck in my ways I'm like this is the way I'm gonna do things this is the way I'm gonna live my life unfortunately it took me down the path of drug and alcohol addiction and it wasn't until I got to the point where I stopped being stubborn and I just asked people for help and I said listen you probably know better than I do what do I need to do so in your instance even if you're not in recovery maybe it's taking advice from your therapist right or a family member or a friend but here's the thing like we actually have to do those things we can't just take it in and then not turn that that suggestion into action but for a lot of us and I see this a lot working in the sphere of addiction recovery as well as you know people who struggle with mental health issues and things like that like I'm not a therapist or psychologist if you don't know me but I was working at a drug and alcohol treatment center for a few years doing groups working with clients one-on-one just kind of like peer-to-peer support but anyways there are a lot of people who get into you know that honeymoon phase or in recovery called the pink cloud and they're doing everything they're taking suggestions they're on a role they're just doing everything that's suggested for them but when things start to get good they start to fall back into their own behaviors so in the case of graveyard girl it's just her channel right and I know that's her livelihood and everything like that but when it comes to like especially like drug addiction alcoholism those of us who struggle with mental health issues it can be detrimental to our lives like a relapse kills people right but when we stop working on our mental health when we quit taking those suggestions like this is one of the reasons why I highly recommend people don't just only go to therapy when things are really bad like go to therapy while things are good like something that's really important especially like when it comes to our mental health what I've realized from my experience is that we have to be proactive about it we have to set up these daily habits like I have a lot of daily routines that I use for my mental health and many days I'm having amazing days but when I'm having a bad day it's already a habit to do those things right because I have to make sure that I don't fall back into those old behaviors all right and this is something that we all need to look at like take a moment just take a pause and ask yourself like if you're struggling right now if you're experiencing suffering right ask yourself are you falling back into old behaviors right like this is one of the reasons why I preach mindfulness to people so much is so we can pause and be like oh wow I'm acting the way I used to act I'm doing that thing that I used to do right but to circle this back to graveyard girl here's just my final thoughts on that situation and this is for you as well like if graveyard girl realized that her trying a new type of content you know opening up and being vulnerable and being honest and everything like that if she found that that wasn't making her happy and she wants to just keep doing product reviews and just being goofy and things like that like you do your thing boo right because the reality is is that we're all in control right we have control over what we do like when I'm sitting down to make a video it's like okay like there's a trade-off right like do I want to make a topic that you know like that I'm really excited about like and a lot of times I am really excited like I'm glad I get to talk about this video right but sometimes I'm just like okay well this is a trending topic maybe I'll share my thoughts on this right and it's this kind of trade-off right but we all have to understand in our own lives like what do we want like where are our values at right are we looking for you know the fame the money the followers the views whatever it is or is it like I just want to do what I love right because the thing is when we get to a place where we don't need too much we can do the things that we love and we don't have to worry about buying that fancy house or the expensive cars or anything like that you know what I mean so if buddy is happy doing her thing do you boo all right hey but anyways let me know your thoughts on this down in the comments below let me know if you struggle with change if you struggle with bouncing back to old behaviors and all that kind of stuff all right but anyways that's all I got for this video if you like this video please give it a thumbs up if you're new make sure you subscribe and ring that notification bell because I make a ton of videos and a huge huge thank you to everybody supporting the channel over on patreon you're all amazing and if you would like to help support what I'm doing here get copies of my books for free some other perks and benefits you can click the top right there all right thanks again so so much for watching I'll see you next time