 Hi shoes seven. I'm back. Okay. Don't let my head. Okay. I'm having a bad hair day Plus I've been running around so I just want to pop on and do a really quick video for y'all Okay, single ladies single ladies. It's about to be Valentine's Day. Do not get desperate about now Okay, you don't need a Valentine's Day date to validate you. Okay, do not start getting desperate now Don't start taking people's crap. Okay, everybody knows as close to Valentine's Day and women are desperate Do not fall for the okie-dook. Okay. Stay strong. Do not give in I don't care if you're feeling lonely Don't stoop to the level that you would not stoop to do not lower your standards Instead use Valentine's Day or this time to manifest make lists about, you know, the type of man You do want. Okay. It's a very good time of year to do that because everybody's so focused on love You know what you're missing. You know what you want, you know, you just don't have it yet write it down You know Take yourself to a spa day. Go get your nails done do something for yourself. Do not Do not get desperate right about now. Okay I know a lot of women are clamoring and getting desperate because they feel like they need a date for Valentine's Day Well, half the people who have men are not even gonna go on a date for Valentine's Day They're just gonna stay home and watch TV. Okay, so don't feel like you're being left out of anything because you're not believing You're not I know you are gonna be clicking on YouTube. Oh, get ready with me Valentine's Day Have them people don't even have a boyfriend or plus, you know Their boyfriend or their husband is not going to take them to these extravagant places where they actually get to wear these outfits And all these makeup looks that's just for YouTube. Okay, so y'all don't get hype You know get caught up in the hype stuff like that and get desperate and lower your standards and end up, you know Somewhere you don't want to be next year because of Valentine's Day. Don't let it get to you Throw a party invite all your friends over who are single do something. I don't I know I've done this type of video before but Like I said, please don't get caught up in it because I know a lot of women have been writing me lately asking me about men They love reading since this man cheating on me If you have to ask me if your man is cheating on you if he's hiding something the answer is probably most likely Yes, because you it's putting doubt in your mind and when a man puts doubts and questions in your mind That's a red flag in a sign. Okay, so don't get caught up. Don't get desperate stand your ground men and Valentine's Day, they don't really care about that holiday. That's more of a woman's holiday Okay, they're gonna exploit you to the fullest if they can so don't don't don't fall for it. Okay, I remember One year when I was single we all this guy waited till the day before Valentine's To say, oh, do you want to go out? Do you want to be my Valentine? I'm like, oh No, I'm sorry. I just you know, you're gonna ask me the day Right before Valentine's Day if I want to be your Valentine. I said what happened somebody else told you no I'm like, no, you should have asked me like a couple of weeks ago so I could make plans get an outfit Do this do that do that? No, I was like, no I've already made plans click even though I didn't have plans. I Was not gonna go out with him because that was like a low Standard move on a woman's part to go out with someone at the last minute That means you are the backup plan and oh, she said no, so I'm gonna go out with her Okay, and they think you know Sex is guaranteed or something on Valentine's Day if you bring if they bring you some chocolate and a cheap Carnation or something no And ladies who are in relationships for Valentine's Day don't expect an engagement rings Okay, unless y'all have been together for a while and you kind of know that's coming Don't expect these diamond earrings like you see on TV Don't expect all of that unless that's what you specifically asked for and you know, you're getting it Be happy wherever the fool gives you I call them a fool Be what be happy whatever that man gives you because men do not get into Valentine's Day. Okay, birthdays. Yes Christmas. Yes, stuff like that. Yes, but Valentine's Day, you know, they're gonna get you something cute nice affordable You know, it's right after the holidays that they've spent all this money and you know now they sell man I gotta buy something that's not too cheap, but I don't want her to be mad at me And I don't want to think I don't want her to think that this relationship is going to the next level if I buy expensive jewelry So how do I what do I do? So if they buy you something cheap don't get mad just like, oh, thank you so much Just kind of make a little sly remarks like oh, thank you so much. This will go so cute with Some outfit and it's like, oh, yeah, I'll wear this one day Don't don't go overreact and say, oh, I love it because you know, then they're gonna think that's good enough for you And they're gonna be like, okay. Well next time I don't have to you know, get Get anything too grand because she likes this cheap stuff. So no you you say oh, this is gonna go so cute with my My outfit or my shoes that I just bought at Target Don't don't give him credit if he didn't do good y'all but still compliment him Okay, do not give him credit if he didn't do good Like I remember one year my husband bought me something. I don't know. I think it was for Valentine's Day or Christmas I can't remember but before we were married and he gave me some crap that I would not even buy myself I was like, this is cheap and I took it. I said, oh, this is cute. Thank you and I put it away And I never wore it and one day he like opened the box and how we never wore this How come you never wore this? I was like because it's not really my style. It's too small I would never wear this. This is for like a little kid and it was like just some little earrings like sapphire earrings and like a little necklace that have the pendant that you can hardly see I get a magnifying glass I'm like, this is like something I had as a child. I'm a grown woman. I need like grown woman joy and So he was like, oh, okay, and then like I never wore it and he got mad one day We were arguing and he was like, well, you don't even appreciate anything I do for you. I gave you joy You never even want Y'all I was mad because we weren't even married at this point. I was just like This is why I say you have to stay in your ground. I Said, you know what? I don't wear this cheap stuff I said, this is what your other girlfriends are used to but I'm not used to this stuff This stuff I can buy for myself. I said, I don't want this. I said take it back Give it to somebody else who will appreciate it. I don't want this. I was really I wasn't really bad back then, y'all I was really bad. I kind of feel bad for that But that's because my standards were so high if I would have accepted that I would have to like hide it Because I would have been embarrassed to wear it, you know, so The next holiday rolls around and guess what he went to Jared. Okay. Yes He went to Jared and I had some nice jewelry after I let him know that I can't rock that I'm too good for that. Okay, so don't don't overreact if the gift sucks Y'all say thank you put it away. Don't use it and when he notices you're not using it and the conversation comes up It's like, oh, you know what, you know, that's not really my style. It's not my taste. I didn't want to hurt your feeling I like a more sophisticated jewelry or I like a more, you know, noticeable jewelry Or this is something I wore as a kid Like if you're cool enough talk to him like that, you know But sometimes you got to let people know what you like because a lot of women They they feel like they feel validated through gifts and how well their men knows them and how well they know their tastes And they keep buying them cheap stuff. This is what your work. This is theirs. They're telling you This is what you work this cheap piece of jewelry and when you say no and you say no, I don't know They're gonna have to up their game. Okay, so happy Valentine's Month y'all don't get depressed You know next year you can have a man if you now follow Certain protocol and don't get desperate y'all and I'll see you later