 Our topic of discussion today is, can an older woman get married or rather be in a relationship with a younger man for it to work? And we're talking about, you know, the older woman and the younger man because, you know, we are here, we are ladies only. If we had a man, we would probably ask the men as well. But what do you guys think? Can a relationship with a younger man work? If you're younger than me by like five, six years, I feel like I would not look at you as my equal first of all and I would be looking at you like a child. Talking to a guy because he was born in September and I was born in May. So that means it was, oh my God. He was like three months younger than me and I was like no, I cannot. So for me, I don't know why I feel protected and I feel such a strong masculine energy when the guy is older than me. I've interacted with people who are way older than me and I feel like no, no, no, no, no. The emotional maturity is on the low end, you know, and I've interacted with other people who are younger, other men who are younger than me whom I feel actually think straightforward than the older ones. So I feel like age really doesn't come with maturity. No, it does not. You are watching Friends Vibe. All feelings are represented. Now, the topic of discussion today is can an older woman get married or rather be in a relationship with a younger man for it to work? And we are talking about, you know, the older woman and the younger man because we know we are here, we are ladies only. If we had a man, we would probably ask the men as well. But what do you guys think? Can a relationship with a younger man work? Younger by what age? Depends. Younger is younger. You know, even one month is younger. Sometimes it can, but the age difference doesn't have to be that much because I believe for women, we mature faster, right? Yeah. So imagine you are 35, you're dating a man who's 24. Honestly, first of all, let me speak for myself. If I was dating someone who is way younger than me, I would lose some respect for you. Let me say personally. So I don't think it will work. Younger with you is so many years old, kid or whatever. Because right now I'm in a relationship that someone is younger than me by one year. But if you're younger than me by like five, six years, I feel like I would not look at you as my equal, first of all. And I would be looking at you like a child. For me, I feel like it's a deal breaker for me. I've once stopped talking to a guy because he was born in September and I was born in May, so that means he was, oh my God. He was like three months younger than me and I was like, no, I cannot. So for me, I don't know why I feel protected and I feel such a strong masculine energy when the guy is older than me. So I would definitely prefer to be with someone who is older than me. Okay. Personally, I feel like age for me is not quite an issue, but the age difference is an issue. Like if it's big age group, age group is okay for me. I would date someone who is in the same age group as me because again, they say age really doesn't come with maturity. Sometimes age comes alone. And it's quite unfortunate because I feel like being brought up, we were told you should marry someone who is way older than you. That's why they are able to protect you or to be available emotionally to you. But I've interacted with people who are way older than me and I feel like, no, no, no, no. Their emotional maturity is on the low end and I've interacted with other people who are younger, other men who are younger than me whom I feel actually think straightforward than the older ones. Yeah, true. So I feel like age really doesn't come with maturity. No, it does not. Yeah. So what age group do we think that... I mean, for Lisa, I said age is you have to be older. It's a factor. Have you interacted with people who are younger than you that you felt that, you know, they were actually mature? Actually, no, it's not even about maturity. Any advice from older people? By older people, I don't mean by their age difference of 15 years, 20 years, 20 years. I would prefer 10 years or less. Then something else, like for me, especially this feeling became so strong when I was in campus. When I was in campus, I was juggling school and work and I was feeling people my age or people in the same class with Kasi Likwa, you know, and me, I'm just out there like working. So I've never really met someone who's like really young, young, young, but I've met someone who is maybe younger than me, two years younger than me, and we are never on the same page. But I do agree. There are some people who may be older than me but they're childish. Yeah, so I think it depends, but I would prefer someone who is older than me. Yeah. The age group, the age group, I feel like, yeah, the age group thing have to also date someone who's in your age group because you can't be 35 and you're dating someone. Let me say my age right now, 25, and I'm dating someone who's like 21. Come on now. We will not be on the same page every single time because I feel like his brain is trying to mature. Trying? He's in school. Yeah, he's in school. And I'm here. I'm working. The things I want, the things I prefer in life, the things I want for my life will not be the same things he really wants for his life. He will get there, but not now. So obviously, Takwana, Nakosana right now, I feel like this boy is just... But now I feel there's a difference between when one is 25 and another one is 21 and one is 35 and another one is... Most of them, yeah. That's what I'm saying. Yeah, so I feel the age group thing, yeah, you have to date someone who's in your age group. You get 35-year-old mid-30s. Yes. 30-year-old early 30s. You get 30-year-old mid-30s. So obviously, there's conflict there. I feel that makes much more sense than 25 and 21. Yes, yes it does. And also, you see also, when it comes to actually thinking of an older man, when they are way older, then they are more experienced. They have... You have less experience as them, so you might also not be on the same page. So I really... Personally, I feel like age group is really important, whether they are younger or way older. You have to be on the same page. On the same page. In the same age group. Yeah, yeah. Then another danger of, you know, dating someone who is younger than you is maybe less ex... Less past. Because you see, if you date someone who is way older than you, they have a lot of past. And baggage. And baggage with them, you know. They could probably come with kids. Be divorced. Be ready for the kids. They could come with divorce. Are you ready to get to a relationship with someone who has been divorced? Baby mama drama. Baby mama drama as well. So they come with less past for sure. So of course, there's always an disadvantage and advantage of something. What are some of the advantages of dating someone who is younger? And in this younger, we mean same age group. Not like way younger. No, no, no. Same age group. For me, I feel like when you date someone, I mean, same age group, you're on the same page. Exactly. You are on the same page. More likely. And no one is belittling the other when it comes to probably achievements. True. Because I mean, the younger people were really achieved, you know. But again, they understand and I didn't achieve this because of my age. I achieved this because I did one, two, three. So you're probably on the same page. Then again, when you date someone who is younger, you're likely to enjoy the same activities and the same things. Yes, you are. And I mean, I feel like that's, that's what is fun. See, I mean, imagine like trying to hike with your 70-year-old boyfriend. Trying to hike with your 70-year-old boyfriend. Imagine. It's not really possible. You know, as much as there are people who enjoy, you know, and like to date way older people, but they have their reasons. But I feel like if you really want to enjoy your marriage or your relationship, you need to be in the same age group. True, true, true. So what are you guys, what are your final words or final thoughts on, you know, where women dating younger men? Because you've seen someone like Zary, Zary Hassan is dating Shaqib and Shaqib is like 30, Zary is 40. That's a 10-year gap. And she always says that this is a grown-up. You guys are calling him a kid. He's not a child. But you know that's because, like you said, according to us as a woman, you're supposed to get someone who's way older than you for the protection part, for taking care of you in terms of financial, because maybe he will be way ahead of you and all that. Yes. But in this day and age, 18-year-old are getting money way more than 35-year-olds. Very true. So it's not really about that and also being protected. They are, how do I say, they are men who are older or women who are older and really they are not doing anything for themselves. Yeah. So things have changed. It really doesn't have to be a T.O. I'm dating. We are dating. We are dating. I have to date someone who's older than me. You get. So as long as, first of all, as long as you both love each other and there is a bit of maturity, not a bit, there's maturity on both parties. So you both have the same kind of goals. You have, you get along well. You're compatible. You're well compatible with each other. It's a bit of a thing to do. Yeah. Liz, your final thoughts. Well, I feel to each their own, but definitely same age group makes sense. But anything plus or minus five years may be tricky, especially, I don't know, that's just what I feel. Unless, but I keep on saying, there's a difference between 25 and 21, 35 and 31. Yeah. Yeah. There's a very big difference. I think in the 30s, plus or minus five is okay. But below 25, it is not, because you cannot be 16 dating someone who is 23. Oh, you're 21 dating someone who is 20. You can, but sometimes it may be difficult. Yeah. Okay. Personally, I feel like if you wish to date a younger man, it's okay. As long as the emotional maturity is on the same level, because if your emotional maturity is not on the same level, there is going to be problems. Yeah. And number two, if it's in the same age group, your priorities are right. You're together. You're thinking the same thing. So it's okay. I feel like at the same age group, there is really nothing that could make a relationship not work. As long as both of you are committed and you're willing to be together, no one is belittling the other because of age, matters and all that. But I mean, if the emotional maturity is there and you both of you love each other, then it can work. So go for your younger man. I mean, I feel like people really are afraid of being judged by the society. Yeah. But the problem also comes when, as an older woman, I am providing for you. Okay. That's tricky. Yeah. I'll start looking at you like my child and I'll start treating you like my child. Yeah. You get. So there will be no respect. But that's why, like you said, age group. Yeah. But I feel like women are just, you know, because men are born providers, even for the man that is not providing, they might feel like they are. There's already securities. Yeah. So is Shakip providing for Zare? Of course not. Of course not. Maybe it's just love. You know, you know, love can, love can do things for sure. It's not really enough. It's not really enough in this day. It's not enough for sure. Yeah. It's not enough. I mean, those are very important. Yeah. Especially if you're dating someone for long term. Yeah. I mean for marriage. Yeah. Obviously, I do not expect to just be providing the whole, the entire time. It's a shocker. But I think Shakip is married. Shakip is married. Yes. He probably doesn't really have as much money as Zare. But he's married. That's also good. Yeah, come with your money. Don't let, yeah. If the problem comes when I'm fully providing for you, then up on Nio. Yeah. It's a bit tricky. Yeah. All right guys. Let us know down on the comment section if you're a woman, would you date someone who is older than you? And if yes, at what age do you think Nana, that cannot work? Make sure to leave a comment but also subscribe to SPM bars. That was a French vibe. Until next time, it's goodbye from us.