 Hi y'all, I'm live. I'm getting ready to post to my group that I'm live so you have to come on over and See if I can post up here There it is. Can I post? Why can't I post in my own group? Oh wait, nevermind. I'm live. Come to She was having Hey How y'all doing? Okay, so I titled this What a woman sacrifices to marry up, okay because There is a lot of sacrifice and I also asked a few people, you know, what they want me to talk about in this Live video, so I'm gonna be reading on some of those as well throughout the video So Let's see So what people sacrifice to marry up a lot of women are young, okay? A lot of women are young and they're still trying to get the rules of the game. They don't understand The rules of the game yet, so they don't understand marrying up is a sacrifice. It's not something that you're gonna, you know have a Fairy tale lifestyle. It's not like that at all So I'm gonna tell y'all what a woman sacrifices. First of all You're not every man is perfect And they're not gonna be in a perfect package And they're not gonna treat you like a Prince terming all the time, you know what I'm saying, so If you're going into, you know looking for a man of means thinking that then you're very mistaken When a woman marries up or marries for financial you know Reasons That's her goal. That is her goal. Nothing else. That was her goal. Okay, so if you're On the fence about this and you're saying, oh, well, I want a man But I want love too and I want this and I want that You're a lot of guys will say this in the comment. You're gonna be single forever because Nothing comes in that perfect package. Okay, unless you were that perfect package, you know what I'm saying So if you're not that perfect package Why do you think I mean, do you think you're gonna also receive that perfect package? You know what I'm saying So it's important to I'm trying to find this post if y'all Notice I'm looking away when I find it. I'll let you know, but it's like You know, you're gonna have to sacrifice looks you're gonna have to sacrifice something, you know And I don't like talk about my clients and their business. So I never use names. I just give examples For example, I have a client who I give advice to And there's this guy who's a multi multi millionaire and she says he's husband material He's not old. He's like 40 barely 40. Okay And she she has a problem with what he looks like So she sent me a pic and I'm like he looks normal to me. He just looks average, you know He's not something to fawn over but he just looks like the guy walking down the street, you know And she was like, be really you think so? He's ugly. I'm like, well, his money looks good. Okay, and he's not disgusting And you know, there's women that would date him if he were broke because he's just average looking Um, so a lot of women have these high expectations and things like that and they forget That these guys can have any woman like they don't need You they can have any woman. So being extra picky when it comes to dating men with money You will have issues. You know what I'm saying? You will have problems keeping someone or getting married. Okay So you're gonna have to lay some of those Standards a little bit of them down as far as the physical, you know what I'm saying What I suggest if you're young go ahead and date for love date for fun date for looks Get that out of the way get it out your system Like date pretty boys until you're blue in the face date Sexy man till you're blue in the face and then when it's time to get married You can't date those kind of guys because they're those type never really have money because they don't need it. Okay um, so Your taste must change when you get ready to get married if you notice um When you see a wealthy man and you know and and his wife or something like that You know, that's not that woman's type. You know, that's not her fantasy. You already know that Okay, you know that And you see her lifestyle. You see all her nice clothes. You see her jewelry. It's your home cars You know children, you know, everything is proper You know, she has plates for every season and holiday and Martha Stewart going on up in her house That's what she wanted. That's what she married. She didn't marry this guy for his looks. She married this man For this lifestyle. Do you understand because you know The lifestyle Is what most women want anyway, like after you get over the initial. Oh, I love you. I'm in love A couple years down the line. Okay That's gonna kind of wear down you're gonna be like, okay. I'm loving I'm still loving you. I love you. I love you But you know Our lifestyle is not improving, you know I can't save any money, you know So after that little feeling wears off now you're in struggle. What you call a struggle Look, but if you marry for lifestyle, it never, you know, it's it lasts longer actually If you if you're uh, somewhat, you know in love with the guy or if you like the guy It lasts longer and friendship and like builds to love and and all that kind of stuff. So it lasts longer You know I'm saying, um So you're gonna have to sacrifice a lot of that like young girls I have seen in the comments. Oh, I can't I just can't be with someone. I'm not attracted to blah blah blah blah Well, you know, that's what a lot of these women said who have like, you know The life that they don't want, you know, they went for looks And those guys with all those looks like I said, you know, they're Able to get any woman they want as well without even having money You know what I'm saying? So, you know, when you Think about it, it's better to get with someone who you look better than who has money You'll always be the uh attractive one in the relationship Plus you don't have to do anything except Be there and you know, oh say, I'm you know, I'm wife. I'm a housewife blah blah blah But you will have to sacrifice You know, maybe age Difference you're gonna have to sacrifice an age difference. Okay. So if you're if you think 40 is old then It's old but for me, that's young like I wouldn't even when I was 22 I wouldn't even date people in their 40s or below 40. That's too young for me because Mentally, I always say men are 10 years behind and I was always mature for my age. So Mentally, so I'm not like I couldn't I couldn't do no 40 year old I they had to be old. They had to be established. They had to have you know Things going for themselves. They had to have a real estate They had to have this they had to have that because that's what I want You know and being a Pisces and being who I am I already know I'm not going to put in the work to do that So what do you do? You go find someone who already put in the work who hasn't and all you got to do is Step on in and enjoy it. Okay. That's What marrying a man of means is all about it's not about oh, I'm in love. Oh, he treats me like a princess and You know text me 20 times a day and sends me Chocolate it's not about that because most guys who have that type of money are super busy working or you know Working on their business or whatever whatever and they're not going to sit there and text you 20 times a day Like a broke man would because he ain't got nothing else better to do Okay, so you have to think about you're going to have to sacrifice If you're if you used to dating a broke man with a lot of free time versus a man of means with uh limited time The time that he spends with you is going to be more meaningful. You're going to get more out of it And you know, you're going to probably get to go on vacations and stuff like that You know, he's not going to lay up under you all day like a broke man. Okay So y'all have to get that in y'all's mind You got to change your mindset when it comes to me and everything you know You got to throw it out and relearn Okay, if you used to dealing with broke guys throw all that out and now you have to relearn how to deal with men with money Okay, it's a huge difference. It's not the same if you're expecting a man with money to act like a broke man When it comes to relationships, that's when everything goes wrong. Okay, they don't have the time to text you 20 times a day Unless you know, they're they're super rich and they don't have to work and they just live off investments You know and even then they have hobbies and they have other things that they like to do, you know activities So they're not going to be like all up under you like some broke dude who you know has All the time in the world on his um, you know Because he's not working and you know Living in his mom's house and there's nothing to do. He ain't got no car. Okay, so think about it Okay anyways also Most women if you ask them Most grown women I'm gonna say grown Looks are not important when it comes to a man. It's their ability to provide a good lifestyle for Their family. Okay, you got the ugliest man in the room He can dress nice and be the richest man in the room and every woman will want him He can be the ugliest man in the room But if he has money every woman will want him. Okay, let me repeat that Okay, y'all already know All these guys who have have money They have their choice and pick of women most of the time they can pick and choose Broke guys they have to either trick you into dating them or they'll date you and when they're done They move on because you know or they'll use you. You know what I'm saying? So If you're in a situation where you have an equal match like you are just as attractive as your man Y'all are both making the same amount of money blah blah blah blah. Think about this As soon as one of you guys get a raise or start making more Things will change As soon as one you get a little older a few wrinkles Things will change as soon as one of y'all put on 10 pounds Lose hair things will change. But if you always look good 10 to 15 years younger than this man, no matter what happens. You still look good And better than him. You know what I'm saying? So think about it sacrifice is worth it like I would rather have What I have versus to be Blindly in love and all lovey-dovey snuggled up on a couch every night feeding each other ice cream type Marriage and just like some love story you see on tv I don't want that because I don't even like people being that close to me. I get hot Okay, just give me what I want what I need. I want my own space. I want to decorate my own areas I want to You know have this type of wardrobe. I want this and I want that and You know, yeah, we can sit down and have movie night and watch tv and snuggle You know, but that's not going to be every day And it's not going to be my priority because I have a life and things that I want to do too You know what I'm saying? So if that's what you're after Do it now while you're young With your boyfriend then when it's time to level up and marry Get somebody who's boss who can take care of you who can put money in your account Who can buy you nice gifts who can take you on vacation? Okay? That's the type of man you marry because that's the lifestyle you're going to want You're committing to this man for the rest of your life supposedly So you want a good life. You want a good lifestyle. You want your kids to have a good lifestyle You want your kids in a good school. You want your, you know, you want a nice car, you know, you want all that so Date for the logical reason Um, marry for the logical reason date and get all that out of your system Of, you know, all the things that you are attracted to in a man physically You know Oh So I'm back. I'm gonna look at some people. I mean, I'm gonna look some questions on here. Okay, so Someone asked me how to convince a rich man to marry you I always say this have other options A rich man has a huge ego if you If he knows that you are Um able to pull men with more money or rich men That is could be like, you know Richard to him competition or anything He's gonna try to get you first because you're a prize. Okay If he knows you ain't got no other rich man lined up and he's your only hope You know, it's gonna be harder, you know But if he knows you you have a way to get money get men and you know, you won't look back if He, you know, if you dump him He's more likely to marry you if you don't give him everything and make him work for it You know, he's more likely to marry you, you know what I'm saying If you put demands on him like You know Your nice guy, I really like what you do for me I could see us together for a long time. I'm getting ready, you know to be this age and I'm ready to settle down Um and come at it like you already know, he's gonna say no Come at it like this and I just really want to be married and have kids and get the house and all that kind of stuff So Thank you so much for you know taking care of me all these years. I really appreciate it And I know that I will always remember you he's gonna think you're breaking up with him All right, get up get get his hopes down And I just have to tell you that, you know, I'm ready to move on with my life and You know, it's not it's not you. It's me. It's just I'm ready to have kids. I'm ready to settle down I'm ready to go pick up the house and get married to someone And I always imagine myself, you know, getting married at this certain age Um, that's coming up. So You know, I really hope that you understand So now he's thinking you're dumping him and that you possibly found someone else or you're gonna go look for someone else So he's gonna come back with this. Well, why don't we go do that? Why don't we look for a house? Why don't we you know, I thought you were gonna marry me I thought I was gonna spend the rest of my life with you now you flip the script and you're tricking him. Okay When he thinks he got you that's when he's not going to Try to get married to you because he don't have to but if he thinks you're gonna leave go upgrade on him and find Another man and get married after all he's invested in you. Oh, no, he can't have that He's gonna jump in and wait Wait a minute I didn't spend all this money and you got you plastic surgery Got your boobs lips butt done and you finna go to some other dude and marry him Oh, no, look We getting engaged this year Play on their ego. Okay. All rich men have big egos. So play on their ego You know, thank them for whatever they've done. They don't think they're losing you The first of all They're not gonna be so eager to go find another one because they're gonna think they're gonna do the same thing to them Like oh, you're just gonna be used to be up some plastic surgery and you know This This lady that I've spent all this time with growing to like growing to know she knows what I like what I don't like You know, you know everything about him, you know what he likes on his sandwiches on his pizza on his subway on you know, you you know how Where his dishes go everything you know everything you already know what it takes to be his wife So he's gonna have to retrain Rekid to know somebody's gonna take a couple more years and spend even more money getting to know another woman While you go and take everything he gave you and take it to the next man Okay, so that's how you get a rich man and marry you play on his ego pretend You finna dump him and go get married to somebody else Even if you have no one else in mind just like I'm ready to go out and find a husband You know, and then he's like, what about me? I'm standing right here Oh, you would you would marry me like seriously? I didn't think you were the merry kind. I mean, yeah Well, you know, I never considered that and didn't make him work for it Huh, you know I could see us together. You know, that would be so cute. You would have on you know, your little polo shirt Do you really think that we would make a good husband and wife Get it in his mind trick him make him think it's his idea I always tell people you want something really bad make the other person think it's their idea. That's the oldest trick in the book How do you handle a rich man who has lots of options have more options If a rich man has lots of options have either the same amount of options or more options Even if they're fake options Um, oh, yeah, you call rich guy who looks good. He can get any woman. Okay, so Oh, you know, I'm Make it up. You can lie. They can't check it. You know make it up. Oh, you know, I'm having lunch with my friend her Her brother owned some type of company Um, or you know, oh, I'm having lunch with my friend and you know, her dad is the vice president of They make something up, you know, um, you know Surround yourself with a lot of money and a lot of options as well You know, oh, I'm going to the four seasons and having lunch with my friend, you know her Her, um Her cousin or her brother, um Owns this department store and blah blah blah and make it up. I don't care He's gonna be like really? Wow. So when he knows that you're around a lot of other rich men He's gonna be more wanting to keep tabs on you More wanting to go where you're going or take you out and keep you away from them Because like those girls that he has options with or diamond doesn't Okay, those rich guys that you're surrounding yourself with are not Okay, so You have to even the score up Okay, uh my advice For women who are dating for love only Enjoy it Okay, have fun get those memories get the get everything, you know and you know But don't you know don't commit to any type of marriage situation unless that person Is financially stable and able to take care of you know what I'm saying Um, and I have a lot of women who keep asking me, you know Oh, I look good, but I'm with this guy. He doesn't have much but you know, I love him But I want to level up. I want to have money and love and I want to do this and I want to do that. I'm like Well You know, you have to either a wait for the band you love to get rich or be Upgrade on him And enjoy life, you know, it's it's up to you Like I said, you have to have a purpose anyone who Want something they have to put a goal on it, you know Do you want love then focus only on that do you want money then focus on that Who knows if love is going to come after the money who knows if money is going to come after the love That's a gamble that we take, you know, but I know which gamble I'm not risking Okay, thank you. Thank you. Okay, so Thanks for complimenting my makeup look Uh, I'm going for like this retro Housewife slash These are sugar skulls y'all I don't know what I have like on a card again and like one of those housewife dresses But they're the print is skulls and then I don't know. I don't know what I was doing I was just playing having fun Because I have a lot of time Um Anyways, let me read some more of these questions Uh, let me put on my glasses. Y'all know I'm blind Because I gotta read the computer far away Okay, someone's asking me about self-esteem how to feel more How to see themselves as better Fake it till you make it like part two of fake it till you make it um I have a I have a theory that oh, it's not really a theory, but I have a belief that if you Love yourself and think you're all that and act like you're all that that's the vibration you're going to give off And other people are going to feel it and also respond to it in the same exact way You know, you always see those actresses who are not that pretty or maybe a little bit overweight And they're always the star of the movie. They're the the life of the party. They're the You know, they have enough confidence to put on anything you know a supermodel would put on and still pull it off and You know have it trending, you know, so it's about how you feel about yourself and about You know how you don't care what other people think because if you care what other people think That means that you don't have your own Sense of self and when you don't have your own sense of self Then no one is going to know who you are And they're not going to be able to You know fall fall for you because you don't even know who you are Who are you? Who am I falling for? You know what I'm saying? So Own who you are own all your flaws You know, I'm quick. I'm I will be quick to say. Yeah, I'm not thin. I'm not skinny. I'm not perfect I'm you know, I'm older I would be the first to say that because that's the first thing people will look at and think are my insecurities But they're not Because if they were I would I would change them, you know what I'm saying If you feel insecure about something and you know, you're never going to accept it you got to change it for me I'm I will accept myself Right now Long hair fat thin. I don't care. I know who I am and I know what I want and I have goals I have enough self-esteem to pull it off. You know what I'm saying if I didn't and and I started feeling um a little bit You know conscious of something then that means I need to change it. You know what I'm saying? It means I need to change it so let's say I gain 30 pounds and I don't feel as confident as I did before then I'm going to change it But if I gain 30 pounds and I still feel just as confident, I'm not gonna it's not going to bother me You know what I'm saying? But I know everyone has their own limit on how they Where they feel confident at and where they know they got to change So if you don't feel confident because of something that you can actually change then go change it You know a lot of women don't feel confident because they have a a certain um Skin tone or problem skin or acne or weight or their hair ain't all that go get a wig Go get some makeup and go get some slim fast. Okay. That's all I can tell you me When I'm when I when I have an issue, I will fix it. I'm like, you know what? I look bad today, you know, I need I need to drink more water because I'm getting bags Oh, you know what? I look bad today. I need to wash my face and put a mask on because I'm getting acne You know, oh, you know what? I feel my hair look a mess today. Let me go get my hair done Or let me put on a wig or let me wash it and try something new, you know, oh, you know, um Um My feet look terrible. Let me go get a pedicure. Um, when I walk in a room full of people, um And I feel like all of these all these people look better than me Or or something like that or you know, I'm there. No one's gonna pay attention to me or whatever. Whatever. I'm like You know what when I walk in this room I know somebody's gonna look at me and wish that I was they girl for it. Okay Hmm That's how I think about it and Even if it's not true, it makes me feel good. You know what I'm saying? Because subconsciously, you know, I'm like, yeah I know they're checking me out. They can't have this, you know I lie to myself even if it might not be a lie, but I will say it and it'll make me walk stronger taller more confident and I I feel like It works for me. Yeah, and sooner or later somebody will approach it And say hey, let me buy you a drink Or hey, what's your name? You know or you know something like that But if I don't feel comfortable in my own skin No one else is going to feel comfortable around me either because I'm giving off that vibration Not to feel comfortable. Okay So if you know, you look bad go do something about it. If you don't feel good about yourself Go do something about it. You know, I was at the store the other day And the cashier she would not look me in the eye. She kept looking down, you know She didn't do anything nice with herself. She just stick out here in a ponytail and came to work Like she felt I could tell she had low self-esteem I was extra nice to her just so she could know that she Is a person too and that I see her and I acknowledge her and that she needs to see herself You know what I'm saying? Don't walk off the house looking looking bad I keep telling women this if you don't like yourself if you got low self-esteem The last thing you need to do is walk out your house looking crazy. Okay Right I'm not saying you got to be skinny and thin or whatever, but To a point where you feel good about yourself. That's that's all you need, you know There are plus-sized women who get paid to be plus-sized and model clothes They feel good in their skin. They're getting paid. They got money. They got mint. Okay Whatever you feel good at that's where you need to be. Okay, you don't feel good where you are changing I mean when I was young You know when I was young my weight goes up and down my weight goes up and down all the time That's just who I am. That's just what my part of my life is, you know And I accept it and it doesn't matter I got like three four sizes in my closet Which one I'm wearing today Okay So What if he loses his job? I don't date men with jobs I date men with careers. You got to marry somebody with a career if you date men and marry somebody with a job Then you messed up and get a man with a career if somebody loses their job with a career This is what happens. They move on to the next Level of their career there they up their resume with their last job Which gives them more experience which will give them higher pay the next place they apply Okay, so that's why you get a career man. You get a job, man He's going to be making the same amount for for a longer period of time and he's never going to get a career salary Okay, so stay away from job men and go for career men and okay Most of the time career men are also working on their own business to start because they get all this experience and a career They have a title. They have a degree. They're able to actually start their own business Freelancing or contracting if they want to on the side, you know what I'm saying? Like my husband does he my husband contracts his services and he also works. He has a career Every time he moves from one job to another he gets paid more Okay, even if he gets laid off The next job he goes to They will his resume will increase his experience will increase He will have learned new skills from the job. He just left and he will level up. Okay. That's what you need. Stop working Stop dealing with these job men. Okay. I keep telling y'all bypass that Don't that's why everybody everybody come in your room. What if you lose your job? Then good that means more money for us because you're gonna level up and go get another one Um, you know, I had a plan it I had a plan in my mind. I'm like In my early 20s, I had a plan and that's what most people need I'm I'm not having kids at a wedlock. I'm gonna marry a man with money and I'm gonna be taking care of That's the three simple plans for a 20 a young 20-something year old and I got and I accomplished all those plans And then I have more plans that I've already accomplished as well along the way But that was my goal. You know what I'm saying? Goal accomplished If you don't have goals, if you don't have nothing to aim for and work for and you're just aimlessly dating You're not gonna get nowhere. You know, you're gonna just end up with disappointment I'm thirsty wouldn't What what you know women sacrifice A lot of things when they marry up like for example My husband, I can't okay If I want something new And he has a lot of money if I want to go on vacation and he has all the money And I want to go one place and he don't we got to find a compromise. You know if I was you know Equal if I earned the same amount of money or If I was the breadwinner, I would say where we would go where we would go. You know what I'm saying? Now I got to wait on him. I got to do this. I got to compromise, you know Um, this isn't that because he holds the money You know what I'm saying? But I can always get him to change his mind if I really want it to but I'm just saying The sacrifices you go through with someone what that makes more money than you is having to compromise. Okay now, um If they know that you really want something and everything else that they do won't please you of course, eventually you're gonna get it You know what I'm saying? Um You also have to sacrifice like for example if I married an older man And I see other ladies walking around with their young husband, you know doing all the things that young people do I gotta look at my my situation. It's like dang. I have an older man and he can't do that no more We can't go hiking in caves and stuff, you know looking for crystals and all that kind of I can't do that I mean, I mean we could but you know It was slow us down. So what I'm saying is yeah, you sacrifice a lot You can't go to the beach and and chill and take off and have him like take off his shirt and be all muscular and Hold hands and and have all the uh, the women envy you you can't do that Unless he got a nice body, you know You know, it's a sacrifice, but he takes care of you every bill is paid You have everything you ever wanted your kids are getting education Living a nice house driving nice cars having nice everything And at the end of the day, he loves you more than you love him and You have the lifestyle that you always dreamed of. You know what I'm saying? Um, so it is a sacrifice Like my daughter My daughter Layla says, you know, daddy's so old. He's like a grandpa. I'm like He he is old enough to be a grandfather, but You know, if I was dating somebody my own age, you wouldn't have this nice house You wouldn't have those nice clothes you got on you wouldn't have that computer you got you wouldn't have this you wouldn't have that You wouldn't have I named a bunch of stuff. Okay. I said you'd be living in this neighborhood You'd be going to those type of schools. You would you know, I would have to work You would be in somebody's daycare. I named everything and she said mama. I'm glad you married So I was like, you you know it okay so Layla understands now I said, well And when you grow up, you know, I say I dated young guys my age I dated a lot of cute guys showed a lot of my ex-boyfriend's picture. She was like That's like, yeah, that's I dated that but I couldn't marry it I said because I wanted you to live good. Okay If I would have married that dude, you'd be living in a roach infested apartment Okay, so Layla I had a reason to do it And so she now understands she understands she's like, oh, okay. I get it now And you know, my other daughter Sasha, she don't care as long as she get her toys and her food She's fine. You know, she don't care. She don't even look at stuff like that right now But I did have to explain to Layla why her dad is a little bit older But in the neighborhood we live in most of these guys are older at least 10 years older than their wives, you know So it's not such a big deal and like at her school. I mean, there are grandpas walking around and I'm like That's probably her daddy So, yeah I don't sugarcoat stuff for Layla because Like my daughter because she has to know the truth. She has no true You know, I have a cousin that is one year younger than me and you know They don't they're nowhere near financially stable. So I told her I said, you know, you're a cousin such and such He's one year younger than me if I dated somebody or married somebody at the same age We'd be living like that. Okay. So he was she was like, oh Never move I said So, yeah, you got to sacrifice all that, you know But it's worth it and then it really is Okay, let me rate some of these questions Okay, let me see I'm reading it. It just says How to make it so that only Affluent men are attracted to you and not bums or 50 50 hers So how I make it so that only man of mean approach approaches you You have to look like the part you want Okay, and and The part that you want is housewife to a rich man. So that's how you have to look dress act talk Okay, and that's what you're going to attract if you're looking like somebody's video Girl, that's what you're going to track If you're looking sophisticated pulled together but not richer than the man that you're attracting Not looking richer than the man you're attracting. Great. That's what you're going to track If you're a classy and things like that And you don't and you speak, you know properly and you You know all these things It's what's going to attract that type of person. Okay Now you don't have to be all those type of things to get a rich man. I'm not saying that but This lady just asked me. How do you only attract this, you know And you have to play the part to only Attract this and go to the places they hang out and stay away from the places where the other people hang out You know if you want to only meet these type of men Go to exclusive places that only allow these Men to come in like there's a membership fee. There's an entry fee that most normal 50 50 years or broke guys can't pay to get in, you know, I used to work at a tennis club a long time ago And you had to have a membership to get in to even get through the door $35,000 a year is the membership fee and you know what kind of man was it up in there? Okay So go to places like that work at places like that, you know what I'm saying Usually they give you a free membership To their gym when you work at places like that So on your day off you can go put your little clothes on your little workout clothes on go to your job and work out And meet those type of people, you know hang out on the side of town They live at stop hanging around the the side of town where Guys with money don't live. You know what I'm saying? So it's up to you You have to change everything about what you do where you go how you dress how you speak The you know what you wear your nails feet toes, whatever, you know, you gotta you gotta tone it down And dress for the job you want Okay, okay Now let me let me see if I can find another good question Put these glasses back on you y'all y'all know I get contacts, but I'm too lazy I like I'll fall asleep in them. Okay How to date within your age group? Oh god, who asked it? I don't know I never dated within my age group. I would feel like a molester because Men my age I feel are too young for me. Um I Would feel like a mother if I dated a man in my own age I would feel like they mama or they auntie so I paint I don't know. I can't answer that question. But if I try to answer it I would say Date someone have fun with them You know But don't look up to them because They can't do nothing for you because they're the same as you they're you know They're not gonna take you seriously. They're not gonna value you as much So, I don't know. I couldn't do that I mean the closest I ever dated to a man my age was Oh, it was disgusting. Oh, I felt like I was dating my brother. I couldn't do it. It was like lasted two weeks I was like Gotta go I was just it disgusted me. Basically. I was like they still had the habits of a high school person and Talked like they were still in high school and I was like, I'm done. I can't do this in my mom. Let me go find me somebody. Oh Somebody born before the 70s Yes, I couldn't do it child. I couldn't do it um Let's see what else what else did y'all ask me The male psyche and how it works. What do men want from women? They want what what do men want from women? They want they want a challenge. They want a chase They want a trophy. They want a challenge. They want a prize men or hunters They want to keep chasing you there the thrill of the chase is what makes men want you even more If they catch you If you give yourself to them If you don't challenge them Their ego cannot Function because You're not Stimulating it at all. Okay So If you get a man and you treat him perfect and nice and do everything for him Have this food ready when he gets home have sex with him whenever he wants Um, you know, do all that crap for him wash his clothes Pay half the bills you do all that stuff. He don't want you you're his maid and his mama He's not gonna find you sexually attractive because you you're not a challenge. She can't chase you He can't tell you lies and try to impress you and you know stuff like that So after he gets bored of that he's gonna go find someone else to chase so The male psyche wants to chase you and he wants you to challenge him and When when you challenge a man, you only make them better Okay, because if they can't if they can't face that challenge That means they failed you You know, uh, they can't up if they can't level up that means they're not growing as a man You know if you want something and they can't get it to you, they ain't a man their ego is crushed But if they say, oh, I'm sorry, baby. I came by, you know, birthday gift this year and you say, oh, no, baby That's okay. He ain't got nothing to work for or forward to he can just stay mediocre If you get mad at him and say what you can't buy me no birthday gift. I don't believe this, you know what? You just disgust me right now. They're gonna look at themselves in the mirror and be like, oh my god She bought me a nice birthday gift and I can't even get her one because I'm such a You know a loser. Let me do something. Let me go level up. Let me go up my resume. Let me go look for a better job You know women push men to that next level and that's what men really want Even though they don't know it they want somebody pushing them to that next level Even though they like what's easy They're peaceful with what's easy. They're happy with what's easy, but they're not gonna stay there They want a woman that's going to push them to their next level of life but not emasculate them. Okay You can't emasculate them You need to push them like, you know what? I know, you know, you didn't give me a birthday present this year I'm super pissed. I'm mad. I'm not going to forgive you for it. But next year you make it up for it Don't let them off the hook. You know be pissed off You know whatever whatever He's gonna make it up to you before the end and then get you a better birthday present next year because this butt will have leveled up because He understands that you ain't gonna take this much longer and you're a good woman to him You know stuff like that. So the male psyche works off of ego And challenge if you can't stroke his ego or challenge him without emasculating him You ain't no ever gonna, you know, get the benefits Okay You're not gonna get the benefits Now there's some women who think that they can create the man that they want And emasculate him into changing but that's not how it works because Then you're gonna try to take all the credit, you know what I'm saying And they're not gonna feel like a man with you anymore. Therefore they're gonna go find another woman who doesn't know all their past their failures and you know after he levels up He's gonna go to another woman who makes him feel like a man who won't emasculate him So it's very important not to emasculate your man, but just have disappointment and sadness and like you failed me You know, don't compare him to other guys and don't say you should have did this this and that, you know, you just said, you know I'm really upset. You know, I don't I don't feel like that. That's right But you know, I I don't I really don't forgive you but um, you know, whatever, you know, make sure you make it up to me next year um, because It really sucks. You know, I feel bad And if you say something like that, he's not going to feel emasculated. He's just going to feel bad about himself You know what I'm saying on on his own you're not going to have to do it He's just going to feel that guilt already, you know um But if you're being used And you know you're being used, you know, then that's a different story If you if you didn't do everything for you him and he he has money to do business That with his boys and but you don't get a birthday present He's using it But if you really can't afford it because he don't have enough money and stuff like that And you know that for a fact and he's not spending money when he's hanging out or on rims or clothes or whatever Then that's when you show your disappointment because that's what's going to get him to the next level of trying to increase his Money, you know personally If that were me, I would already have somebody sending me a birthday gift through the mail To make up for his shortcomings That plan b he always got the birthday present Plan b always got birthday presents alone. Oh, they got your amazon wish list and everything How does a woman become a trophy then? A woman who's a trophy wife looks better than her husband It's a woman that he couldn't get if he was broke. That's all a trophy wife is A woman who looks good who her husband could not have unless he had money. That's all that is I'm reading some of these comments y'all um, let's see Someone's in the comments saying the female psyche works the same way um, I would say The naive female psyche works the same way the smart female psyche is crafted for example um A lot of women are ruled by emotions If they don't feel like they're being paid attention to they get upset, you know The smart woman that has a plan and a goal and a mission and a strategy. She don't think like that And neither do the men with a strategy. They have their own agendas now If you're a woman you need to always have an agenda if you're just going to Take whatever's thrown at you in life. That's fine. But Like I said, if you have an agenda and a goal Nothing can really deter you from it. You know what I'm saying? No one can trick you out of it. No one can talk you out of it You already have it in your mind and your in your vision This is what you want and you know the steps to take to get to it You don't stray because you already know what you want You know, so a lot of women get confused. Well, he said this and he said that no, I you know, no You know, you don't go about what people say you go by what people do Okay, um That's the number one thing women come to me. Well, he said this I said, but what did he do? What What did he physically do do you have something to hold? No Okay, well words are meaningless without action You know what I'm saying? I don't I can't go by what somebody said. I need evidence. It's like the police Police try to bust you in a crime By you know, someone said something they need evidence to back it up They can't lock you up with no evidence If you you know for murder if somebody just said oh, they did it They don't need fingerprints proof. You were there video footage all that. Okay so You need to be like that and get what you Can hold touch see and you need evidence You can't just go by what somebody says because I can say anything too, you know So a lot of y'all women y'all just y'all y'all are so nice y'all just want to believe You want to believe but you don't believe in aliens They got all these ufo's flying around on the tv And they got pictures and all this stuff Oh, I don't believe in that and then the guy comes up to you and say oh, baby. I love you I'm gonna marry you But I got to leave my wife first and I'm gonna get divorced and And just wait on me and and I love you And and you know, you don't believe that You still living with her But you believe that But you don't believe what you see on tv about ufo's and they have evidence of pictures and stuff like that so You rather believe someone's word because of You know, how you feel about them versus something that they've actually proven Have, you know, something tangible for Divorce papers Taking you to the lawyer's office. They do nothing that for you. They didn't do anything, you know Comforting you by showing you the process of the divorce you're actually going through Giving you a ring as an engagement Whatever putting you on their insurance policy, you know, if they can't do none of that And they if they're telling you stuff and not doing anything you might as well Not even believe anything that comes out their mouth. So Don't come to me talking about he said I don't want to hear what did he do Okay, right So Let me look let me read some of these Okay Y'all, you know Guys that say women offer nothing but sex, you know, that's all we need to offer That's all we got off. It's the highest thing in the man and the world Okay, this is the most highest value commodity since the beginning of time. So If we took it off the table, you wouldn't chase us you wouldn't want us So Yes, that's the only thing we Need to offer and sometimes we don't even offer that and still get what we want just the promise of it So Whenever y'all say, oh, what do you offer besides sex? I want to you offer besides I don't offer nothing. What are you offering? Okay, I'm not offering. I'm the woman. I don't offer What you offering to be in my presence darling Um Like I said, y'all don't ever answer that dumb question. I don't offer nothing. What you got What are you offering? That's like coming to a king You know how in the old days in the old school movies how when you come and visit a king You have to offer him a gift or a queen you got to offer them a gift, but they don't offer you nothing Exactly. Okay, you're the queen You don't get offered, you know, you don't offer anything. They offer you they've come bearing gifts to you Okay If they can't do that, then okay. Well, I don't have anything Um, you know, you you're coming to me. You're approaching me. Why do I need to offer you anything? You approached me You get it if a man approaches you you don't have to offer him nothing That was enough to get him to come over to you. That's all you offered him You know You offer him your attention and time to prove himself. That's it Well, what do you bring to the table? What are you offering? I'm offering you five minutes to prove yourself to me that you got something to offer me. Okay And then on to the next That's what I'm talking about You can't don't ever answer that question unless you can check someone at the same time with it with the answer I offer you five. Look, what do you bring to the table? What are you offering? Oh, I'm bringing my stopwatch to the table and give you five minutes to convince me of what you're here to offer me That's about it. If you can't offer me nothing I damn sure can't offer you anything Not even Five minutes, so Yes, okay, so let me let me put all my spectacles And read some of these online questions if y'all still in the group y'all can keep asking questions because I'm still up here reading it Okay and Try to keep your wealthy partner interested and not bored once you get him and how to boost his ego I struggle with that man always think I don't care You have to treat men like children Don't keep telling y'all this I don't know why Hold on one second. I gotta show y'all something You have to treat men like children. Okay My daughter will come up to me and she will show me this Mama you like my drawing Okay, I don't like this drawing. It's not that good But I'm alive. I'm gonna say oh, baby. That is so pretty. I love how you did some eye It's so cute. Look That is that is very creative how you make the eyes look like that. He kind of looks evil, you know And she'll feel good about herself and she'll go back and draw something even better. She'll improve See and improved She started off with this I said, oh, baby. That's good. I love how you did that And with that compliment she felt good enough to go out and do better And she did that. Okay So what I'm saying is Yes fake it Act it's called acting. You know, uh treat them like children. Oh, baby You look so handsome in that in that uh sweater. Is that new that color looks good on you really brings out your eyes Oh, you know, uh I can't wait for you to get home tonight and uh Blah blah blah make it up. Who cares treat them like a kid. That's what they want to hear You know, we do it for our kids. Why can't we do it to keep the man paying for us? You know what I'm saying? Um, oh, you know, you've been working out. Oh, you know You're so smart. I didn't know that. How did you know that? You know Little comments here and there is just enough, you know, too much is overkill and they'll know you're faking it So just do it, you know sparingly, but do it every day. Okay um And how to keep them interested Stop giving them so much Of your time, you know um Give them time but not all your time They want to know that they can miss you if they can't miss you then I get bored with you Change it up switch it up. Don't look the exact same every day. Don't look like you did Three days ago. Don't look like you did one year ago change keep continuously evolving and changing whether it's colors styles makeup hair whatever keep changing because um, it's going to keep him guessing It's going to say oh, I like that look, you know versus oh that looks kind of strange But it kind of turns me on in a weird way. I kind of like it But I'm not oh, then oh now you're back to normal. Oh, I missed you. You look so cute like that You look good like that. Oh, you know just Change it up, you know, you don't want to be predictable and boring You don't want to look the exact same every day be predictable and boring, you know, um Stuff like that you like like this morning Since I cut my hair my hair stick straight up in the morning like Like this. Okay. My husband said oh my god What is going on with your hair? I'm like, I don't know. I never had short hair before Um, so I don't is it sticking up. He's like, yeah And then he started doing like that. He's oh, that feels cute You know, um, because I never had my hair short like this before so he was touching it Oh, this feels cute in the back because it's really short in the back and later he's oh, this feels so cute And he's like playing with it so, you know, it's almost like getting to have a totally different woman because uh You you change so much. It's like you still have the same personality. You can trust you, but you look different and You know, you're unpredictable, which is good because men like Variety they like they don't want to come home to the same boring Thing every day, you know, that's just like eating the same food every day Change it up like I got on red eye shadow. I mean how how many people you know can put on red eye shadow and get away with You know, it's like change it up. You know, you don't just need cream brown and nudes all the time And just mascara. Okay when I go down he's going the tension is going to go straight to my eye. Oh different, you know Exciting stimulation to your brain do different stuff. Yeah, um So I I used to say change it up I don't know. That's what I do Um And you see Oh, and if you just walk around the house and uh sexy clothes That'll keep his attention If y'all don't have kids like if you don't have kids walk around in lingerie That's what I used to do before we had kids Like for my uh for my wedding gifts I got a bunch of people bought me lingerie and like long housewife silk rolls with negligee for wedding gifts or bachelorette party I'm like, I'm gonna wear all of this Um, so I was just wearing it. I was It kept him very interested, you know, men like lingerie for some reason I really like it. So if you're not married, I mean if you don't have a bunch of kids everywhere, you know lingerie is how you keep their attention Fantasy Okay Online dating how to create a banging profile and what kind of picks to include I swear I've been on what's your price mist travel and millionaire matches and have bad results Simple is best mystery is best pictures looking classy Not trashy, okay um Look In the pictures you don't look like you look in your everyday life. Show a picture of yourself Looking classy like you're out for drinks or lunch like he's gonna see you on a date. Okay. Um A lot of people will do their whole body And um, you know, give it too much away. I say do a half a body shot To leave that mist mystery Do a face shot At a good angle when you have all makeup and your hair is dead And when you show up to the date, that's how you need to look as well And it needs to be a recent picture. Don't put no picture up there from 10 years ago or 20 pounds ago Put your most recent picture up if you don't do that Then you're just fooling yourself. Okay, so keep it short and sweet like hi, you know, um I'm a I'm a fun lady or I'm a fun. I'm a fun woman or you know, they like fun. So an adventure and uh surprises and mystery So it's like, oh, I'm just someone who is You know about having fun I'm looking for a gentleman that likes to spoil their woman and also You know I'm full of surprises You know, um It's very simple. They don't want to read a book when they scroll when they're scrolling through These dating sites. They want to see three main things. Are you fun? Are you adventurous? And Do you have enough to intrigue me to inbox you? I'm full of surprises. That's a good line Half a body shot um Face makeup hair cute recent picture and uh mystery I'm looking for a man who knows how to treat a lady who will spoil her and You know Be her Hero or something like that You got to put in there that you want somebody to take care of you if that's what you want You know, I'm looking for A gentleman who knows how to treat a lady and spoil her give her, you know, um Which what makes her happy And in return, you know, you will be very very happy and full of surprises. Okay Automatically their minds going to go to sex automatically they're they're going to say oh, you know, she she seems like She's very appreciative. She knows what she wants She's attractive. She's not trashy Um, you know, I wonder what the rest of her body looks like I got to go see her in person. Okay That's how you do it. You show them everything. Oh, she got a nice booty. Oh She got a flat, but oh, I don't want to go see her. Oh, you know What's that? I don't like them pants. Why she why she wear, you know, holes in her jeans That's I don't like that. But you know, I like it But you know, some guys will judge you on your full body and you don't want that you want to do half a shot Get them in enough interested like You know, and then they'll say well, I'm gonna go see what the rest of her looks like, you know You give it all up. Then they have more options. They're like, okay. This this girl got a nice booty I'm gonna go meet her. You know what I'm saying? But what if you really liked you and clicked with you and the other girl was like A no-go. So you don't give it all away. You leave mystery But make sure you put in there. You want to be spoiled and that will And when you put spoiled make sure You put the s with a dollar sign Okay, that way, you know, it's not spoiled with being massaged and Netflix and chill Yeah, and like cover yourself in the shots like don't have your cleavage up to here all out in the face You know what I'm saying? It has to be classy. Like if they can't show this picture today mama, don't put it up there. Okay Cause think about it What if you do get married? Oh, how'd you meet your wife? Oh, she was up on a millionaire matchmaker with her boobs all sticking up and it was love at first sight So how many men do you think she dated and looked at those profile pictures? Oh about thousand Okay You don't do that you want your picture to be classy so that it don't come back to bite you And also if you give this guy your email or if they can figure out your email and how to look you up on google You don't need to have a bunch of trashy pictures out there either Like, you know what I mean? Because a man will google you. They'll be like, let me get this girl email They'll find it some type of way and then they'll look it up and they'll see all these bad pictures of you Oh, no, I can't wife that that's just not classy at all By pass, you know, so take all your stuff off the internet Is that you don't want exposed Y'all think about this when y'all are taking them stupid butt shot pictures and looking stupid online showing everything full free Like if you're gonna show something get paid, okay These dumb women online who's showing everything for free and not getting paid. They're just doing it for a thumbs up It's dumb It's dumb Okay If your IQ is that low you don't deserve to marry nobody with the money I Sorry anyway How can a chick keep self loving her appearance without her mate thinking she's doing otherwise keep it up don't ever stop it like if I wake up every day and I put on makeup every day unless I'm sick or something But mostly every day When I do this and leave the house my husband don't think nothing because I do this every day If you only do it every once in a while and just started it it's going to look suspicious because That's not who you are So if you're going to do it do it every day that way he gets used to it and he doesn't think anything of it You know, just like oh, you know, I just really want to look more pulled together. I'm getting older more mature I need a more classic look, you know, so um, you know, I've been watching all these youtube videos I'm very inspired, you know makeup is my new passion blah blah blah blah blah, but you've got to stick to it You got to do it every day. Okay. You got to dress better act better. It's like, you know I'm getting older. I want to be more classy, you know Either he accepts it or he doesn't but he can't tell you not to do it And if you do it only once or twice a week, it's gonna look suspicious That's why when you start something you got to keep it going. You know what I'm saying? That would be like your man buying new underwear and starting to work out And he only does it for you know a couple of months And then he just all of a sudden stops and then he starts getting new cologne And you're not gonna think he's trying to upgrade and look better for himself You don't think some other chick is involved, but he if he was doing that from day one, you wouldn't think anything You'd be like, oh, okay. He's going to gym. Okay. Oh, I like that new cologne. He got on that's nice He always buying new underwear You know He sold into himself, you know, that's normal So if you can't if you can't do You on a daily basis and keep it up. He's gonna be suspicious You know, I know a lot of these women be looking plain Jane walking around Looking like they just woke up and then all of a sudden they see You know, they want to start improving their looks their man gets suspicious. That's why he that's why he's with you because you are plain You're not a competition, you know, you don't That's why that's why a lot of women say, oh, you know guys like natural looks and plain look And blah blah blah blah, but as soon as you put on some makeup, they worried about what you're gonna do, right? Where you going? Who you going to see because men already know the power of makeup Okay, that's why he got you at home looking homely and when he steps out He's looking at everything walking by with makeup. Okay, and I'm trying to tell you if you are a plain Jane and you think you know Oh, my man likes the natural look No, he like his wife or his woman to have the natural look so nobody else will look Okay Now put on some makeup and go walk around and see what he started doing He's gonna get mad. He's gonna be like, what are you doing? Where you going on that lipstick? Where you gonna have makeup? Where you going? Where you dressed up? All up in your grill Well, if you don't like women with makeup, I don't see, you know, you shouldn't find this attractive You shouldn't be jealous if I walk out, you know The house like this it shouldn't be a problem because you think whether what makeup is ugly, right? Right, it's not attractive, right? So think about it. Your man keeping you home looking plain is for a reason Don't fall for the oak joke It's makeup that serious Well, you know, it is very it is it's like it's like this They don't put Victoria's Secret models on the runway With no makeup. They don't put actors on TV with no makeup. They don't put The president on TV without makeup. Okay, even the man have to put the makeup on they don't Advertise products without someone wearing makeup unless it's a skincare routine and the lady still got on concealer. Okay, so Makeup is important to a certain degree. Okay It it takes you from looking frumpy to looking pulled together. Okay, and Even some jobs will not hire you if you don't wear makeup. It's sad, but it's true if you're uh, if you're Meeting with a lot of people high up corporate America and you come in there with spots all over your face Playing looking like you just woke up. You ain't gonna get promoted. You ain't gonna get that job talking to high-end execs. No And I'm like, you're not presentable. You don't look professional. You don't look pulled together, you know By you know, you stay down there and you do the research So it is important So, yeah, it is it is important. I know a lot of women don't think it is because they didn't grow up With their mom putting on makeup in the mirror in the morning and looking her best and you know doing things like that um A lot of women didn't have time to do it because they were struggling and they didn't have a Husband to help them. So they just wake up, you know, watch they face and go to work, you know, it's It's also a symbol of you know, like Think about it if you see a lady with a nice face of makeup and then you see another lady with no makeup on and you know You're gonna all automatically assume one has more money than the other You're just gonna order and especially if the makeup is done classy, you know, we like Okay, this if you just have to say, okay, which one do you think has more money? You be like, I'm sure that one does with the makeup because you know, she has time to put makeup on she probably has a good job Um, or you know, she probably has a better choice of men and this woman over here She kind of looked tired like she just woke up like she got a lot of stress Uh, you know, like blah blah blah She just looked really plain like she don't really if not into material things and she probably you know, I don't know They're gonna say that and that's what it is. You know, so Makeup is important. It is to me. Anyway, if I wouldn't wear makeup I wouldn't have got I wouldn't have met my husband. I wouldn't be married today Because he would have bypassed You've been like, ooh, she looked like she grew up having a hard life hard time. She looked like she went hard time You know She looks sick, you know She looked drained, you know, because without makeup, I'm very pale I look and I look way younger too. Like He would probably thought I was underage Because I was 22 back then so imagine what I look like with no makeup Look like a teenager So, you know, sometimes it helps you look more mature when you look young Sometimes when you're old it helps you look younger and sometimes it just helps you look pulled together and classy Like you're presentable and you know Will look good on their arm too, you know the thing I know a lot of y'all gonna argue with me. No makeup. No makeup. Do what you want to Do what you want to do Um, I feel like uh, let me look some more Let me see Okay, here we go What What do you do? Oh, somebody posted some nice pictures in here So If you look at all these Videos like sugar babies or Women who married rich men and stuff like that most of them like 99 percent of them were were makeup Okay, 99 percent wear the makeup. Okay The only person That I've seen in media Who has a very nice lifestyle And doesn't wear makeup And can you know scam any rich guy is Joanne the scammer But that's a man and he got a beard so I'm just saying Alicia Keys I like Alicia Keys, but I'm just gonna be honest with you. She looks better with makeup I'm just sorry. She looked better with makeup. She looks cute without makeup But she looks better with it, you know Oh, Rihanna is getting ready to come out with her own makeup line You know, that's gonna sell out quick. It's gonna be like, um, fenty Her makeup line is gonna be fenty coming out this year Yes So y'all looking for that girl I know I'm gonna be behind someone. I like Riri Um You said let's get off the subject of makeup. Okay, the sacrifices you have to make This is the sacrifices you gotta make if you're gonna be married to somebody with money You can't walk around looking like you just woke up like like they're made you can't walk around looking like the maid. Okay so Another sacrifice is you gotta keep your looks you gotta you gotta wake up Get dressed Brush your teeth Calm your hair put on makeup Get ready for the day, you know, you can't walk around In a head wrap and flip-flops Looking like the maid You just can't because that's not who they married. That's not what they wanted. You know, um Can't walk around looking like Sealy and you live in the lifestyle of sugar Avery Okay, you can't do it Okay, so Another thing you have to sacrifice is Your friends Just like Sean said in her video That the the the lady I interviewed who married a multi-manager You're gonna have to sacrifice some friends because when you marry up You're gonna lose a lot of friends. They're not gonna want to hang out with you no more Or they're gonna try to steal your man Or flirt with them right in front of you And they're gonna come like They're not gonna tell you like for example I used to have a couple friends before I got married And my husband came and told me three times look such and such came on to me Such and such came on to me and I couldn't believe it. I'm like really It's like, yep and That was it. I was like, okay, don't worry about it. I knew I never mentioned it too. I'm gonna just stop Communicate and I was just done with them and I might see him out every once in a while and They'll smile and they'll still like look at my husband like oh hi And you know 10 years later, I still look I still look the same. I still look good and they look at all crazy You know and I just like oh, yeah. Hi. It's been a while. How you been? And I'm obviously knowing that it hasn't been well because they look bad so Yeah, you gotta lose friends because you got a man with money. They want a man with money and they can get one They want yours So you gotta watch your friends, especially your friends Your female friends around your man, okay? Um, if you have a good man, they'll tell you if you don't they might take them up on the offer So make sure you make sure you don't bring Other women are around your man. You don't do that unless they're Very unattractive and you know your man ain't gonna go close to that Or you know Make sure that girl got the old man who got more money or just as much money, you know what I'm saying Be equals and you're not if you're not with equals and they don't have just as much as you It's not gonna work out You know what I'm saying if you have if you marry up and then you have friends that still date and losers They're gonna look at your man like a piece of meat A payday You know, um So and if you got friends Make sure they got a man with money too who's spending on them too That way they ain't trying to take yours Okay, so another thing you gotta sacrifice Where you go You you level up in life. You have nice cars jewelry and stuff like that. You can't go riding around On the bad side of town Okay, you can't keep going over there. You might you know get robbed um And you can't go backwards. You can't try to stay in your old lifestyle While you're in a new lifestyle, it's not gonna work. You know so Move on and move up and move on move ahead, you know, um And then there's certain people that you're not going to be able to hang around them more because They're not going to be able to keep up on your level And they're going to either a embarrass you or embarrass themselves or embarrass the person you're with You're husband, you know what I'm saying? So you're gonna have to get new friends Or no friends like I don't have no friends. I like I have one best friend from you know Whatever but that we don't see each other that much but You're gonna have to lose friends or get new friends and I don't like new friends. So I just lose friends Um Unless they're on the same level, you know, you can meet new people And hey, look you're on this level. I'm on this level. You ain't got nothing to lose. You don't want what I got because you already got it okay, so more questions What about rich man only looking for sex? Look for money then if they want sex get some money. Don't do it for free You know, they're only looking for money. I mean sex and you only looking for money Okay, unless you don't want to do that and bypass and go find someone who's looking for more But don't give nothing to anybody free. I don't care how much money they got Don't give anything away for free even if they're rich because if they didn't spend money on you If they didn't give you nothing in exchange for what you're doing for them They might as well be broke Just because you just because they have money Don't still still don't give nothing for free. Make sure you get something in exchange always That's just how it has to be Okay, because the guys will come out here and they have money and they think oh well This girl will sleep with me just because I have money. I don't have to spend nothing on You know, and if you keep letting that happen Then it's going to multiply and more rich guys are going to expect free sex and that's not how it works You know, you got to invest in this this is an investment piece. You know how you go Think of yourself as clothing as couture clothing Um You want to go out tonight, right? Okay, you need a cute dress Okay, you're gonna run to the mall and go to one of the stores in the mall and grab a dress. That's cute, right? It's trendy. It's cute It's a throwaway dress because in two years it's not going to be a style tomorrow, but it's good for tonight Okay, you spend about 30 dollars on it and you're good But when you have somewhere nice to go if you have a really nice place to go or if you want to take photographs You're going to go get something more expensive a couture piece a vintage piece an investment piece a designer piece You know what I'm saying? Um, you're going to invest in that it's only going to increase with value as time moves forward That's the kind of woman you want to be you don't want to be a trendy off-the-rack Mall dress you want to be a couture or a vintage piece Something that they have to invest in in order to you know, um procure And if you don't know what procure means it means to buy So be a classic piece be a vintage piece. Don't be an off-the-rack piece Okay, you off the rack and yeah, he can afford you. He can impress you you can you can be that But you know He's not going to send you to the cleaners. He won't throw you in the washing machine and wash Dry you shrink you whatever But your couture piece or vintage piece you're getting dry cleaned put in the plastic bag you're gonna be in a displayed You know, you're gonna a one treatment. Okay Don't be no off-the-rack chick Seriously Make them work for it. You know if they want you they got to save up. They got to put in some effort. They got to invest Okay Anyway Keep going I think if you are married you shouldn't always be available sexually so that he craves for you and values you more and more That's true That's the one thing that most married men complain about is either there's two things not getting enough sex Or being bored of the person you're with so you got to keep it in the middle. You got to keep it in the middle um it's just He don't know when he's gonna get it if he's gonna get it why he's gonna get it what date what night um But if he gets it, he knows it's coming and he's gonna anticipate it and wait for it and be surprised So you can't cut him off totally But you can't give it to him always. It's got to be a surprise like Um, and if he approaches it, I'm not tonight. No, I'm sorry Then he might get a little mad but then do something nice. Oh, let me give you a shoulder massage or you want some ice cream, you know Um, just I just don't feel like it, you know, and then the next night When he when he's least expecting it walk around some lingerie Then he'll know it's time, you know Be very selective don't give it up all the time because if he wants it right then and there and he could have it There's no challenge men like to chase Okay, there's no challenge Um, sometimes. Yeah, you can do it when he wants to blah But not all the time not all the time you can't do it Otherwise, he'll get bored like dang this is easy. I get this. Okay. Now wasn't it what I'm I want I want to chase I miss the chase. It's not the women. He misses. It's the chase Okay Looking for more questions on here. I think I answered most of these The ones that I wanted to answer Mm-hmm some of them were, um obvious Okay, where's this posted? Okay What do you do when the rich elite men in your city run in the same circles? How do you deal with the possibility of them telling each other? Don't sleep with any of them. They can't say nothing You'll be the challenge Highest bitter wins If you sleep with all of them They ain't gonna marry you So if you don't sleep with somebody do it out of town, you know, you live in a small town. That's what happens Um How to mentally prepare yourself for a new life while you are in transition Letting go of old habits not self sabotaging and choosing new friends Keep your eye on the prize Make a plan make goals to reach, you know, uh, if you if you have a problem with self-suff sabotaging yourself Um Make sure you understand why you're doing what you're doing, you know, uh Let go of habits that no longer serve you and replace them with new habits that do serve you Uh, when you let go of something you need something to replace it with So if you drink a lot and you like to party and you like to hang around thugs or broke guys stop drinking Stop going to those clubs go to a higher class of place You know replace the the replace the low life with the high life You know, it's not going to be like you're losing out. It's going to be like you're gaining and who doesn't like the gain You know what I'm saying? um Once you have done that in transition, you don't want to go back. You ain't gonna want to go back You're gonna be like, uh, I'm I'm above that now But you need something to replace it with so Make sure you're working on the replacement and not just feeling like you're lacking And if you feel like you're gonna go backwards Oh, uh, I can't pull this off. Let me go back to where I know all the men will be after me You know I come in this nice bar and only one guy approaches me and over there every guy approached me, you know Think about it. Why did every guy feel it was okay to approach you at those places? And why only one guy approached you here? You go to that place. They know they stereotype you. Oh, she easy. Oh, she looking for attention. Oh You know, um, she gonna like me because you know, she come to this place. So obviously she likes guys like me You know, you go to the nice place one guy comes up to you offers to buy your drink has conversation with you He might not be that attractive But he saw something in you that was valuable And he stepped up to you and he said I want to get to know you. I want to buy your drink. I think that you are Uh, beautiful but well, you know, um And if you want to and if you start to self sabotage because you confuse quantity with quality Then you have to understand that you're not ready Not ready to move up You'll need to understand that quality Is better than quantity Okay, I can walk down the street. I can walk through the mall. I can walk in a in a restaurant in a club and 20 guys will try to get my number I can go to a high class place sit down Maybe one person will approach me. You know what I'm saying? But I would rather that one person person approach me than them 20 losers. You know what I'm saying? So you got to think about it like that. Don't lose hope if one if you get approached by one person you did good Okay, um, you have to stop thinking about How many guys used to you know, try to talk to you versus when you go out to a nice place How many guys approach you? You know when you go on the sugar daddy or millionaire matchmaker Websites and you don't get as many Hits as you do on the broke websites You have to realize You got to be a high caliber woman to get a high caliber man You have to step up your game and you can't move backwards You know if you used to get in 20 inboxes from broke men versus one inbox from a millionaire Which one do you want? You know, it's not about the quantity So get it get it together and remember one broke I mean 20 broke numbers is not as good as one number of a man with money Okay, okay. I like this question. I want to answer this but I I just found it okay How do you attempt to execute your ideas when you don't have the means? Or the connections to execute them? How do you get into opportunities that are highly selective? So this could go with for relationships or job opportunities or things like that You have to be You don't have the means to do something. You got to find a way to get the means to do something. Okay Um, or you got to find a way to get around having means to do something You got to put yourself in the environment. So for example, if There's a job you want or if you want to own your own business, but you don't have no startup money Go get some startup money Find a way to get it, you know, I have, you know sell something You know put something up on ebay sell something sell some jewelry Get your startup money. Um Ask somebody for it, you know You don't have the means get the means. I mean money is Cyclic that means it can it flow like water. You know what I'm saying? There's there's There's no reason why you can't get the money You know, um If they crack head can get money to buy crack You can get some money to buy and start a business. Okay They don't have no job. They don't have no references. They crazy And if they can get money And find ways to to to get there high so can you you don't want it bad enough That's what I'm saying. If you don't want it bad enough, you're not going to get the money That's all I'm saying. I will If I have an emergency, I'm getting that money if I want something I'm getting that money. I don't care how I'm gonna get it I'm gonna get it. Okay um Legally still, you know But generally you find a way to get the money or you get somebody to sponsor you You know or an investor Uh, let's say you want to start dating up And you don't have the money to buy the wardrobe Or the makeup or to look decent enough to go hang out on a certain side of town to snag rich men start off online Go go to the Dollar Tree get you some Dollar Tree makeup Start off online You know, look they have dollars Dollar Tree has upgraded their makeup look y'all And I bought this for my beauty channel to show The Dollar Tree has upgraded their makeup selection. You think you got nice packaging now three dollars you got Bronzer blush and contour right here for three dollar. Okay three dollar. You got lashes Okay, you can do this for what five bucks That's all it takes. Okay, get online Do some makeup take some pictures get online That's free if they want to meet you They want to meet you get on the the app, you know, what's your price? That means they will pay pal you before you even accept, you know, before you even meet them So They put a hundred dollars in your account. You got money To get a uber or a cap to meet them or they can send you one Dang, there you go. You're on a date and you only paid a few dollars for some makeup you know When you buy clothes buy classic clothes that never go out of style go to the thrift store You know what I'm saying go find you a nice cute wrap dress and some heels in a thrift store And bam, there you go. You don't have an excuse. You only don't have enough drive Okay No drive if you can't do it that means you don't want it I can do it like I have to like look me I used to go out With my husband before we got married And he lived on the whole different side of town than the place we used to hang out And he was like, let's we're going here tonight and I'm like, I'm not dressed for this. I don't have I'm not dressed, you know, I need my makeup. I need He's like just go to the store and buy something, you know, you know, I'm like, well, I can't because Uh, I don't have this and I don't have that and so he would give me money to go buy whatever I want you know what I'm saying, so You get it that way too Live on the totally opposite side of town and you don't want to take the time The guy that you're with don't want you to run back and take the time to go Drive and get dressed and then, you know, try to find your way back over there. He's gonna buy you some clothes You know how many outfits I got out of my husband for that reason? I get a new outfit every week, you know, oh, I didn't bring no clothes. Don't bring clothes. I didn't bring no clothes I didn't bring no shoes. I only bought these flip-flops Well, I wanted to go out. I wanted to go, you know, listen to live music I don't want to go to this whole nice hotel club bar or whatever. Well, I'm not appropriate. Well, let's go to the store Let's go buy something I know what I was doing That's how you bill your wardrobe What? There's some guys in here that are saying, oh, that's why your husband cheats on you with online women I don't know who we talking to but 86 percent of men cheat so poor or rich married or single They don't cheat anyway If you got the lifestyle that you want, that's all that really matters. You know what I'm saying? They could cheat all they want I don't care as long as I've got my bills paid my clothes my jewelry my hair my you know all that I'm good I didn't marry you for your Love anyways, you know what I'm saying? I mean I did but I didn't marry you Because I was that hooked on you. You know what I'm saying? You like me more than I like you so It would be dumb of you to cheat Because I would benefit from it. You know what I mean? When you get married to somebody that loves you more than you love them They're not gonna really go look for somebody else and if they do you benefit from it like Say my husband were to cheat and I found out. Oh my god. I'm devastated All I'm gonna see is dollars. I'm gonna say okay. So how much I can get for cheating? um you know That's how I look at stuff everything I see Has to make sense Logically, I'm not gonna emotionally react to anything. I'm gonna say what can I do to profit all of this? That's an alchemist I think I use uh, you know, it's mentalism. It's mental alchemy every situation that occurs If it's negative you figure out how to make it into a positive That's just that's my mind automatically now because that's how I've trained it to think So if my husband ended up cheating on me, I'm like, okay, now how can I make money off of this? That's not you know I've had boyfriends I've had Very attractive boyfriends cheat on me broke boyfriends cheat on me rich boyfriends cheat on me It don't matter They all gonna cheat eventually or sooner or later or if they do they do if they don't they don't it's not It don't bother me as long as I'm getting paid and I have what I want and my kids got what they want I don't care. You know, some of y'all will be out. Oh, you know, my baby daddy This and my baby daddy that and he got a girlfriend. I got a boyfriend. It's the same thing You know, you got kids together. You slept together. You have responsibilities together. They're sleeping with them You're sleeping with them, but y'all not getting paid Okay, that's the difference Someone said well, what about love? I love my kids. I love myself If someone cheats on me, why would I love them? You know what I'm saying? I love my husband and what he does. I love how he takes care of his family I love the fact that he loves me and that's great, but If he betrays me or does something against me and I don't like it and I don't want to stay Then I can still make money off of it. You know, I set it up that way on purpose because I don't want to leave empty-handed, you know Love is temporary And it's not conditional in marriage Um, you know, no, it is conditional What I meant to say love is conditional in marriage. There are conditions on lower than marriage You know what I'm saying? And if any of those things are broken, then the marriage could end, right? So why would I base my marriage on something that's not solid okay People stay in marriages longer for money reasons than they do for love That's why I'm saying if you get married for love, your husband will be gone with the witness But if you get married for financial reasons and you're financially Involved and invested in the marriage. Oh that y'all will drag that marriage on for years and lifetimes You're gonna be old by the time y'all finally decide to get divorced because of money Okay, money keeps you married longer than love and I'm not I'm not lying If my husband was broke, I've been divorced 10 20 years. Well, I'm gonna be married I've been divorced 10 years ago And my husband was poor. I've been gone on to the next but since he got money. Oh, no, I'm staying I'm gonna reap all the benefits of all it All of it So yeah, I'm gonna do love if y'all want to I'm here for the I'm here for the long haul I'm here for the college tuition. I'm here for the will. I'm here for the benefit To be the beneficiary. I'm here for the house land the cars The jewelry the bank accounts the money market the 401k. That's what I'm here for. I'm here for all of that If I was here for love and not none of that and didn't have none of that I'd be a fool A fool that gives too much of herself and receives nothing in return That's what I'd be and I'm not a fool. I'm very smart, you know I have two degrees and if I were if I were any, you know If I were married only for one reason then I would be stupid. My IQ would be low You know what I'm saying? I would be like, I'm only gonna marry for love. Forget everything else They don't make any sense and I don't make sense on paper either, you know So I'm looking at these pictures Okay, someone says my boyfriend pays my bills But I know I could upgrade should I stay because I love him If you're not look stay with your boyfriend Until you get ready to get married then go find a rich man to marry You date the ones you love You stay in relationships with the ones you love and when it's time to get married you go get the money Okay, so you have to stay with your little boyfriend Get all the good memories Have fun be in love experience love and then go get your rich husband That's what I suggest like it sounds harsh. It sounds cruel But That's just reality, you know, that's reality Um, it's just like men. They will date someone who is not wife material They will date someone who is not wife material for the longest get them pregnant. Have they have baby's bomb You don't child support bomb, but they go marry him As soon as someone comes along that he deems wife material He's gonna marry that You know what I'm saying? Why can't we do the same? I don't you know I will date you I will date you all day long, but I'm not marrying you You're not marriage material you date material, you know, and doesn't mean I don't love you It just means that I can't marry you marriage to me does not mean love it means A partnership would you go into business with somebody just because you love them or because they had something That's gonna bring bring you profits and you know good Lifestyle, I don't I couldn't go into business with somebody just because I love them, you know, the business don't run a love I got I got to have stuff in order and that makes logical sense on paper. You know what I'm saying? So it isn't wise for me to marry for love If you marry for love and y'all are broke Love don't pay the bills Okay, that's all the same If you marry for love make sure he got money too You know what I'm saying? Don't marry only for love is what I'm saying make sure he's financially able to take care of you and provide You know if he loves you more than you love him that he'll do that Most the biggest mistake women make is marrying for love And loving their husband more than their husband loves him That's the biggest mistake women make It's just sad to watch it dwindle, you know How do I go about finding a man to marry? I'm in new york. Oh new york Go somewhere else. Okay. That's the hardest place to get married Unless you live in the country part like not the big city Um, just go online and put looking for a husband looking for marriage My adult date somebody from a foreign country because they just want the green card Go get somebody older who's ready to settle down who don't want to spend the rest of their life alone and They're they're ready to get they're ready to get married, you know If you're trying to marry somebody your own age and you're young, they're not going to be ready You need to at least go 10 years older With someone who's already Been there and done that and played around experienced dates and having fun and you know going out And gotten it out of their system and who's ready to settle down That's what you need to find most guys are Who are ready to do that or like 40s and up, okay? My husband is way older than me Um, but he doesn't look older than me like I mean he does look older than me But he doesn't look his age like because he's you know black don't crack So people still think he's like in his 40s, but he's old Um So I think he's like 20 20 something years older than me, but he doesn't look that older much older than me He probably looks about 15 years older than me or 10 years older than me, but You know Men like men his age They you know, they look they don't they look older than him. He looks young for his age, believe me That's why I didn't I didn't think he was as old as he was when I met him What do women really want to give me the hard truth women want money lots and lots of women want actually Women want to feel safe and have a nice lifestyle And you can accomplish that and you could do that for a woman. She's good She wants to know that her children will be going to nice safe schools In a nice area. She wants a car that's not going to break down on her She wants to be able to stay home and raise her kids and her man have a career And and provide and protect that's what they want You know, they don't want this 5050 junk They don't want to go out and work eight hours under some other man While they only see you for a few hours a day. They don't want to do that Unless they're unless they have their own career and you know, you're number two Um We want to be spoiled We want To be taken care of We want to raise our kids in a good environment. We want a nice house and a nice car It's not that hard. That's what most women want and you know Love and faithfulness A lot of women want that too, but they want the other stuff with it So if you can pull it off and do everything great. You're the perfect man Mm-hmm Any advice for american women who want to marry rich men outside the united states Go for countries that still you know go to men and countries that are You know Also wealthy, okay go to wealthy countries Wealthy countries don't go don't go to the unwealthy countries. Don't go to countries where women are oppressed either Stay with the wealthy countries where women have freedoms and Just say I won't get married to I've always dreamed of marrying someone that was from such and such You know and they like your accent. You like their accent get on the dating sites in the other countries You'll find something Make sure they got money so they can fly you overseas I have a friend who is never approached by men. Why? I don't know. What does she look like? What does she smell like? What does she Maybe she intimidates them if she looks too good, you know, it just depends. Maybe they don't feel like she's approachable There's lots of reasons Um Why do you want a rich man where you can be rich yourself? Even if I was rich, I would still want a rich man. Okay. It's not like I want a poor man Um If I could be rich myself, I would still want a rich man. I don't want no broke man Okay, I'm not Janet Jackson. Janet Jackson learned a lesson and she married a billionaire got paid. Okay I'm not finna. I'm not finna downgrade because I have money Okay, if you if I'm rich, you got to be richer I'm not marrying Anybody that's poor even if I'm poor, you know what I'm saying that makes no sense Yes, I could become a millionaire. Yes, I can be rich. Yes, I can be over. Yes, I can do this. Yes, I can do that Yes, I can do it But even when I do it, I'm not gonna be or be with somebody broke I'm be with somebody richer. I gotta go get a billionaire if I'm a millionaire You know what I'm saying? I keep I can't date a thousand there if I'm a millionaire I gotta go get a billionaire at that point So It's about the power, you know Why do I want more power than the man that I'm gonna date? I'm the man at that point You know, I can't respect you and I can't get turned on by you if you're broke That's just how it is. Can't do it You know, even if I'm a millionaire I still want a billionaire or a multi-millionaire. I can't do it. It just it won't click with me You won't turn me on. You know, you won't Keep my attention, you know, it's it's a power thing. It's not about it's not really about the money It's the power that women like I mean like the power that comes with a rich man Even if she's powerful, she wants a more powerful man Unless she likes to control and dominate The man then that's a different story. But as far as for me I need I need a man. I need to feel like my man is powerful I can't I can't feel like I'm more powerful than my man Do you need to demand marriage from your rich boyfriend before marriage? You have to make them think it's their idea I said that earlier in the video if you just tune in go back and listen to that part how I tell you how to get a rich man to marry you That's why Nicki Minaj couldn't stay with that rapper dude She was wet because he was he didn't make as much money. She was she was more famous than he was people were clowning him He didn't have no power. He didn't have no Cloud nothing they were making fun of him making fun of her for being with him So she had to she had to break up with her. You know what I'm saying? I know that's not why they really broke up, but It just don't work. You know, you can't be more powerful than your man and be respected Or respect them. How do you know once you marry to get children? How do you know to get children? You just get pregnant. It's like Stop using protection. It's like I'm pregnant hey At least wait a couple years though because you want to live that nice lifestyle children free And travel and have fun and when you get bored and there's nothing else to do You done everything then that's when you have kids. That's what I did when we got married I did we did everything we traveled we went to now these nice restaurants went out drink When it was like everything was bored and settled down and all those feelings were like starting to settle It's like, okay, I'll get pregnant Bring something new into the relationship, you know, how do you know how wealthy a man is google Networks Backgrounds They'll tell you what they work How much their net worth is? They've been married divorced all that background check Statement and opus is over slaves Notice she ain't never married statement Yeah, you know open never married statement. I bet you a statement was a billionaire. She would marry When she was a millionaire if he was a billionaire she would marry him She was protecting her money By not marrying him and a lot of people say she gay too, but you know gay people still get married So what up like to to you know Men or women They don't stop them. You know marriage is a merger. She didn't have nothing to merge with him She already had everything she needed, you know, she was with him for companionship But if you had a billion dollars, she would have got on that deal My man takes care of me, but it's annoying as hell. What to do get a hobby Get go out like when you're out and about with someone they're less annoying like Invite friends or invite other people to get the attention off of you, you know what I'm saying Go to lots of public places Um He has to be all up on you, you know, I'm saying or find things to do where you can't talk to each other like go to the movies Go swim, you know the thing go go to places where you can't really talk too much Like we can't Someone says they think Oprah did marry statement. I don't know about that. I don't look that up online real quick Let me get my back straight Did Oprah marry statement did old Bra with H marry a step I don't think she did These are like rumors though It says rumors. Oh Oprah Winfrey called statement grand wedding rumors not true That's from e entertainment news The moment he asked me to marry him I was like, oh god now actually The It's saying that she didn't so if she did it's a secret If she didn't add a name still mystery There's so many ups like yes, and then there's something no he knew says no um So I guess she didn't marry him and why would she marry him unless he had a prenup or something? I don't know but Um Would you marry a man you were with for eight years and he finally gave you the ring Does he have money because uh if it took him eight years to get you a ring How long it's gonna take him to get you a house and a car Do you have money? I don't care if it took him eight years. Did he have money? Like are you gonna live good if you marry him? Are you gonna be working? And struggling okay, it's not about eight years and the ring is about the money When am I going live on my spiritual channel? Maybe I'll go live tonight Like not tonight, but closer to Yeah, maybe tonight Maybe after eight o'clock central Where were you doing something important in those eight years? Okay, somebody said Um, how long did you and your love been dating before getting married five years? Five years. Um, met him in 2001 got married in 2006 Um five years and In those five years, I didn't live with him until he gave me a ring And not not like I spent the night and stuff over his house like but I never officially Because I felt like First of all, it wasn't about the ring. I wanted some jewelry and I was like, you know what? I'm gonna use reverse psychology on him I was always thinking I was always a strategist. I'm like, you know what? If I tell him I want a ring and it's just a promise ring or a friendship ring or just a ring He's not gonna think anything of it But if I put this ring on and people see us out, they don't think we engage and then they're gonna start to say Oh, y'all got engaged. Oh, you're engaged and he got to say yes He's gonna have to say, oh, yeah, he can't just say, oh, no, that's a promise ring She's still on the market. He's gonna he's gonna claim you. He's gonna like yes. Yes, and then then he's gonna start Planning and thinking that y'all are getting married and before you know it Y'all gonna start playing the win. You know what I'm saying? So It's it's important to get a ring because it leads to More even if it's just a promise ring It's gonna people gonna see it on your ring finger and they're gonna be like, oh y'all got engaged Oh, I'm so happy you're not gonna want to disappoint them. The man is not gonna want to disappoint your parents Oh, you got engaged. Oh, finally, you're gonna be a good honest You're gonna make an honest woman out of her. He can't say no man. That's just a promise ring I don't really want your daughter yet. Oh, yes. Yes. Now. You got to live up to all of that Now you got to live it live up to it and After everyone keeps mentioning it you're gonna be like he's gonna start thinking and he's going to forget It's a promise ring and he really gonna think it's an engagement ring. He's gonna be like, okay. Well, now I'm engaged Well, that's my fiance, you know Level up by any means necessary Okay No, I I told him I said I need something To keep me off of me because everywhere I go without you they coming So I need something Oh, he ain't got that ring real quick You know everywhere I go Man trying to give it a number man range rovers Porsche, you know They say I'm not really With anyone because I don't have a ring. It's that I'm still in the market. They said I'm not really attached I can't even check. I have to check single on every box. I'm not I'm not taking that's what they keep telling me Oh, you ain't got no room and you ain't got a ring So what you got to do? I'm gonna get you away Everywhere I go Maybe if I had a ring, they wouldn't approach you sending me out here with no rain All it is you send it all it is out here with no rain You better put a ring on it if you want, you know And what really got okay. I'm gonna tell y'all a secret. So it's so funny What really pissed him off one time is that he stood me up one time when we were dating We were supposed to meet at this place. We always go to And like all his friends hang out there. It's like a bar at a restaurant And he didn't show up one night And I was pissed. I was mad and I was like, oh, no, he didn't So I saw my friend in there my sister's friend Uh, it was a guy but my sister used to date him, right? So we knew each other from a long time ago, but nobody else knew that they just thought it was some dude Trying to pick me up, right? So his friend saw me talking to this guy and Was calling him on his was calling my husband on the cell phone But he wouldn't my husband back then we were just dating So it's like, you know, one is sitting up here talking to this dude And you know, uh, blah, blah, blah, blah And he knew the guy the guy had money. He's like, yeah, he's he got money He had the raindrover and they looked like they getting ready to leave so We were getting ready because he was going to drive me to the next spot Because I have been drinking so he was going to drive me to Um, this club or whatever that we were going to go to Mind you, we're just friends and that happened. He used to date my sister. So I go get in his Range Rover My husband's friend still watching he walked out to the parking lot Talking about I see you I see you I say good. Tell him Tell him if you stand somebody up, they can get replaced like this I don't have a ring You know, I I was bad like I would do stuff like that just So to send the message look you are replaceable with quickness. I can replace you like this You know Never stood me up again And I got the ring so And then when he confronted me, oh, that's my sister's friend. Yeah She's the date him. I was too drunk to drive. He was nice enough to drive me this for whatever You know, he's cool. You know, you met him Play it off. That's you have to do that. You got to scare him. You got to scare him into Doing the right thing This is why man cheat This is y'all act like women don't cheat Let me tell you something a man can cheat five times in a woman will still take him back because of what he's doing for her But let a woman cheat on a man. He's gonna think the world just ended. He's gonna be crushed sad Crying in the fetal position if he thinks his woman cheated on him is one time Okay, so when guys talk about oh, that's why man cheat Oh, we don't already know that we know man cheat 86 of them That's why your woman cheat and you never know you will never find out Unless they want you to know Okay, so that's why women cheat because They can and they can get away with it And they will never admit to it unless They are willing to let you go forever And if they do admit to it and they're not ready to let you go they made a mistake and they're dumb Don't if women if you cheat on your man and he asks you to confess never confess They don't want to hear the truth. Believe me. Keep denying it and deny I didn't do it Deny never tell a man you cheated on them and expect them to stay with you Okay, or treat you the same don't do it. It's not like they're not like women. They don't forgive you like Y'all somebody was calling me Don't call me Um, yeah, somebody come in the phone. Yeah, lady I don't care if you cheated on them and you wanted to get them back and you did good You got your you got them back. You know what you got them back, but don't tell him you did it Okay, never tell a man you cheated if you do you're making a big mistake They have to think But you never cheated on them in their mind even if in the back of their mind They they think you might have if they never know it's not going to be as impactful Don't tell them Deny deny deny. I'm too good for that. I'm not that kind of girl. Who do you think I am? Don't do it so Like I said, uh, y'all man could talk about that's why I'm here in cheap. We already know that That's why we have all these strategies because we know what we won't our Our goal is we don't care. That's why we take you back so many times. Our goal is something totally different. Okay Our goal is not ooh I want my man to stay faithful and love me forever. No, I want that 401k. I want I want this house. I want these nice cars. I don't want to work. Okay You can go and sleep with you know, whoever you want as long as these bills paid Okay, you know, uh, that's how a lot of women are after a certain point, you know If you cheated on somebody five times and they had left you yet and you working and they staying at home You know what I'm saying? They're not in it for you They're not in it for you. They don't love you enough. They don't love you that much Okay, they love what you do for them There's a difference Think about it men if a woman cheated on you five times, would you still be with her? Hell no, why because she ain't doing as much with you She's not doing anything for you. You don't have much to gain from her because She's probably not providing and taking care of you If she was if you did live off of a woman and she cheated on you five times What are you gonna do? You don't have no place to live you live with her. She pays all the bills. You're a house man You stay home. You take care of the kids and she's out cheating on you. You're not going nowhere. What are you gonna do? Cheat on her when she's gonna work, right? You're gonna cheat on her when she's not when she's gone Right and you're not gonna let her find out, right? Because you don't want to lose your spot Your money your free life. You're not gonna do that. Oh, no, baby. I wouldn't do that to you So it's the same way when it comes to me y'all men think women Are like Y'all think we in it for y'all Not in it for y'all in it to win it At least I am. I don't know about y'all, but I'm in it to win it It's like the game of monopoly you know You pass go You land on this you got to move back or you go to jail you do all these things And when you pass that go you you collect 20. I mean 200 dollars You land on this you somebody lands on your property. You collect that money, too You know, you're not worried about um This isn't that you're saying look where is my money? What can I get out of this? You know blah blah blah blah blah if especially if you didn't if you married for a minute, especially if that's the reason The main reason you marry You're not worried about that other stuff. You know it comes just like those women who marry athletes They're not marrying you to so you can be the most faithful person in the world. They married you for your money They know you cheat when you're on those away games. They know that They're out shopping. They're at the Gucci store Why are you cheating? They spending your money Okay And they probably cheating too, you know, that's the whole funny thing about it You can't stop a man from cheating and you can't stop a woman from cheating The only thing you can do is come to an agreement And stay as long as you can put up with it or leave as soon as you can profit from it doesn't matter I'm an athlete and I want one woman You're an athlete Soccer don't count Unless you play for a major league, okay, let's you play for the league Playing in your uh neighborhood don't count playing on a minor league don't count Playing outside at your park don't count Being an ex-athlete who don't have no money don't count If you coaching high school and lost all your fortune it don't count, you know, I know athlete I'm a professional kickboxer. Do you make millions of dollars? You have a salary That can sustain a lifestyle That a woman likes They teach kickboxing at my gym. Okay. What the heck? How do you date generous men in Sweden? I don't know about Sweden child people say it's 50 50 over there Go find you the ugliest man with the most money They might go 70 30 Go find you an ugly old man They will pay it all because they'll be lucky to be with you. Okay, you go if you live in a 50 50 country you got to sacrifice something Okay, look all the women gonna catch on and like oh, she put that old man and he didn't ask her to pay half the check Let me go give me an old man. All right. Let me go get me a ugly man Like if you're in Sweden and you see someone that you know nobody wants go get him He ain't gonna make you pay half. I promise you right think about it when I was young When I was young I had friends they were broke they And our goal was to get everything paid for by men. We would not approach no cute man We would not walk by the cute man. We would walk by the ugliest broke ugliest looking man Who looked like they had something, you know We're not going up to the cute guy. We're going to the ugliest man And of course, you know, they're gonna stop you. Hey, baby. You want a drink? Sure The more you drink the better they look Okay, get them free drinks and then oh I feel sick. I gotta go home Pretend like you never throw up and leave you got your free drinks move on to the next club Okay What about men who want the perks of a relationship without the title? They don't get the perks You don't get the title. They don't get the perks Tell them. Oh, you know what? We're you know what? I'm not your girlfriend. So I don't feel comfortable doing those things but You know, you're free to go and do whatever you want with other people Let them let them handle your needs When you're ready for a girlfriend, you got my number. I don't do that You just tell them sure I don't do that outside of relationships You know, you can go over there and be friends with benefits with her her her and her but I'm worth more than that I don't do that And I'm I rather hold out for somebody that's with more class Tell him he's classless in a nice way. I'd like to hold out with someone with more class and respect for me You know, I really don't do friends with benefits, but good luck You know, be like that if you're so desperate and we'll take anything and oh I friends with benefits and then you fall in love with him and he tells you you know what it was when it started Don't be mad because you agreed to it. If you start off with standards You end up with me with standards Okay, so Don't even go there and a lot of women do that. I don't know why like why would you do that? You know, why it's like working for free You don't do that. Do you go to your job and say I'm here to work? I'm not gonna. I don't need no paycheck I'm here to work You know, I'm desperate for a job I just want to be working. I'm bored. I need something to do. I need recognition. I need this and I need that But don't give me no paycheck It's done. Don't do it If you ladies if you're sleeping with a man who does not do anything for you give you anything do nothing in exchange for it You're getting played It's okay if you just you know, if you're just learning all of this and it's at least you're trying to change, you know It's not Women didn't know any better. You know, we've been taught To give stuff away for free to take the least to put ourselves last to take to take anything You know But why when we don't do that with everything else in life? I said this before you don't do that on your job You don't do that with your clothes. You don't do that with appearance You know, you don't do that with business. You don't do that with school. Why you do it with with with a relationship. It makes no sense You do everything right and then when it comes to relationship, you do it wrong. It's like No You are my presence and taking at my time. I'm getting compensated. That's just it. You know, if you're going to um If I'm going to do this and that with you, I'm going to need to be compensated for my time and energy. You know what I'm saying? um if I'm going to You know being a relationship with you. I need to benefit from it. Otherwise I can be single so If I'm going to be in a partnership at a company, I'm going to need to make some profit if I'm going to be uh If I'm going to work at somebody's job, I'm going to need a paycheck, you know I'm not going to be in somebody's relationship and I have and not anything to show for at the end of the day, you know I'm just like If you break up with me or I break up with you in a relationship. I'm going to leave with something Okay, something more than what I came in with. I'm going to leave with jewelry I'm going to leave with all the gifts you got bought me for birthdays and holidays I'm going to leave with a bunch of savings in my account because you've been paying my bills And I've been saving my own money. I'm going to leave with more than I came in with and if I can't do that I I'm not going to be with you. You know what I'm saying? So That's what it's all about Especially when you're older when you're young you can date for fun, whatever Leave with memories And after you get tired of leaving with memories you're going to start getting stuff Okay I Have a lot of memories, but I got more I got more of this now When I because I got smarter, you know, uh, I got a list of good finding memories with my exes But I like for example My first boyfriend my second boyfriend and my third boyfriend. I have nothing to actually Show that they've ever bought me Nada That all I got is memories But I got a deed now I got a title I got I got a lot of stuff now. Okay. Why because I wise up and I'm not stupid And I feel like a lot of you women don't have anything to show For all the crap that you put up with all the pain that you've gone through. You don't have nothing to show You might even be a dad behind it When should you kiss a man while dating? I don't like kissing strangers germs Don't kiss them on the mouth kiss them on the cheek If they are expecting a kiss Give me a kiss on the cheek Well, I want to kiss you on the mouth. Oh, no, I don't kiss on the mouth unless I'm in a relationship And in order for me to be in a relationship This is what you got to do abcd pay my bills You know I need you to pay these bills if you want to be in this relationship if you want these kisses But you can like kiss on the cheek give them hugs get close to them, you know, give you know Make them want the kiss make them want to move to the next level, you know, I want the relationship I want the money. I want you to pay my bills and get these lips, you know Someone said they found them a sugar daddy. Well good for you My boyfriend bought me a fake ring Fake ring. Hmm. That means he got fake lives and fake money Maybe you should um Maybe you should say, you know, did you tell those fake because uh, I was like, this is fake This doesn't be a joke. Where's my ring? Someone said buy him a fake vagina They sell those now. Oh, no, my my husband when he gave me my ring. He gave me the paperwork with it I know my ring real He gave me the paperwork and everything like I got The contract paperwork where you bought it from The value of it all that is that if he can't give you that Everything every every jewelry he buys me. He gives me the paperwork with it. So I know how much it cost And it's insured, so you know like Or has like a warranty or something. I don't know wherever jewelry store you buy it from I've got the paperwork on it And the reason he does that is because I custom out one good time when we first started dating and I think I told the story I custom out one good time when he gave me some cheap stuff and I'm like, what the hell is that? I took it initially at first and I would never wear it and he and we like one day we were arguing about something and I threw the jewelry box that came in with at him. I said this why I don't wear this cheap ass jewelry I said you bought me something for a four-year-old. I think I don't wear this crap I said I can go buy this myself I said if you don't give me something give me something. I can't get myself. You know what I'm saying? I said, I'm embarrassed to wear this Never did he ever do that again every time you use the paperwork Is what you got nice. I'm going to Gerrit's whatever, you know, tiffani. I'm not You gotta just do it one good time. Like I don't accept this You know, it's not good enough And he's never repeated that mistake. Believe me. Okay Sorry, I just couldn't I couldn't accept it because like When you're When you're arguing You know, you know, you're emotional. You don't hold back and that's about I was like 23 or 24 You don't hold back when you're emotional and you're young and you're arguing with somebody you telling the truth You're like, I don't want this cheap jewelry You know And he was just appalled Come correct Okay A well paid man i'm dating is taking me to Gerrit's tomorrow, which is like sacks avenue For dinner, how do I get him to buy me a nice handbag? Do you want to buy you a handbag right at that time? Well, the saleswoman will help you out Go after dinner say oh i'm gonna go walk around and um look at something real quick that I um Look at something real quick walk over to the handbags Ask the sales lady. Can you um show me this? And she's going to take it out and let you see it and let you hold it and touch it and try it on Look at the mirror with it with your man and you just Kind of let the woman know you want him to buy it just like You know whisper something like when he's not looking I need him to buy this for me. Can you help me out girl? And she'll she'll like Try to boost his ego like oh you need to buy this for her. It looks so good on her. What do you think? I mean, I know she would love it I mean Such and such came in here the other day and bought this for his girlfriend and she you know She was just like, you know, they'll help you so get the salesperson involved Whenever you want something get a saleswoman involved. They know how to sell Okay, and you just not you just sit back and let her do to work You just look happy and smiling and rubbing on him like he gonna get some Afterwards, even though he ain't make him think he is Is it okay to date an MGTOW man? I I would have to work hard As a home market and I think I would be less valued respected, but I think I would be happy Okay, I think that's a troll. I don't know if you marry one of those type of men They don't get married. So what? If you date one of those kind of men You're going 50 50 Yeah, it's okay to date them if you done. Go ahead It's okay to be done. Don't worry At least the more rich guys for us or other women who are not done Let's see. I'm about to get off in 10 minutes. So y'all y'all better ask me whatever I'm doing um Baby daddy will not commit Because you don't have to I keep telling y'all, you know Why would somebody commit to you and they already done everything that a husband and a wife do, you know It's like saying it's like saying let's go on vacation when you live in the Bahamas Let's go to the beach when you live in the Bahamas Okay I don't want to go to beach I live on the beach. I live in the Bahamas. Why do I need to go to the beach in Florida? You know, that's the same thing you are already married basically except you don't have no contract or no rings This is like my best advice if you've already had a child out of woodlock and you trying to get baby daddy to commit He not move on get go get somebody who's ready to commit. Okay That's what I'm saying, you know He's a baby daddy. He's not a husband Go find a husband He's already gotten everything that a husband gets out of a wife He don't need to marry you go go find someone who hasn't gotten everything out of you and His husband material, you know masculine attraction Okay, yes, of course um And I know a lot, okay too many women That's my last point to make and If you if you are not in this situation yet Do not get in it. Okay Too many women agree to have a man's baby before they get married Why It's supposed to be the other way around You're not supposed to do that. It's the wrong order Okay Because they're never gonna commit to you ever Why would you do that? That's like giving it's that's like It's crazy, you know for me because I already knew that It just never Pans out the way you want it to like yeah, some people do get married But the majority never do Because they don't have to that's just like It's just like going to college for eight years and never getting a degree Yeah, you got all the information you got all the knowledge, but you ain't got no degree You might be smarter than that phd over there. You might be smarter than that Uh persons with a master's degree, but you ain't got no degree. You don't have a degree It's just the same thing is you having a child out of wedlock You have all the You've done everything as a wife You've had the child You committed to some man. You have a child. You don't want to commit to you It's the same thing is going to college and never getting a degree It's like you waste it all that time and can't even benefit from it You know, so don't do it it makes zero sense Love has nothing to do with it Does it make sense on paper if it doesn't make sense on paper? Don't do it. You know what I'm saying? Oh, he loves me. We in love We're gonna have this baby out of wedlock because we're gonna be together forever And then two months later he's gone Don't have babies with men before you get married if if you already did that don't do it again. I keep telling y'all Every week I get someone who writes me or emails me or comments on one of my videos Asking me advice. I'm pregnant with this man, baby And What should I do? You know That y'all don't want me to tell y'all what to do because I have I have certain worlds and standards, right and Even a baby is not gonna keep me in Okay, what I'm trying to say is stop getting pregnant unless you're married Stop it. It just puts you back in the cycle of poverty Unless you are Well paid and have a career of your own where you could take care of yourself and that child and not struggle Okay, if you paid and you a career woman, you got it like that fine Have your baby But if you struggling you broke you ain't got nowhere to live and he lived with his mama and you stupid enough To continue to make the same mistakes over and over and over and over and then you wonder why your life sucks It's because you make bad choices And if you keep making the same bad choice over and over and you don't learn from your mistakes Then that's your fault. It's not your baby daddy fault. It's your fault And I feel like a lot of women Don't Realize that when a man asks you to have a baby before he asks you to marry him. He don't love you He don't love you. He's trying to trap you You don't love you Okay, if you have a baby for a man and he don't ask you to marry him And he knows you're pregnant and he don't ask you to marry him. You know what that means He ain't gonna marry you or he don't want to marry you. This wasn't the plan You know what i'm saying now he feels trapped and would attract people try to do escape So stop it. It don't make no sense. Stop. Stop. Stop like seriously If I could make a whole live video on Women who get pregnant by men who will not ask them to marry them I'm pretty sure I'll get a lot of hate comments and stuff like that, but it just don't make sense you know, um You're not gonna have the life That you could have had if you do that You then you see all these guys in the comments. Oh women come with baggage Oh, they laid down with a loser. Oh, they have eight baby daddies. Oh, you know, then they talk about you and you get offended but You keep making the same mistake. You know It's not right and sadly like Some of these women will have babies by these men to try to keep them and the man will eventually leave Then the the woman will not or resent the child and abuse the child and Treat the child bad and want to give the child away leave the child with the grandma leave, you know And it's just not good. Okay. It doesn't work out. Just Don't even do it like Don't even do it, you know, oh, but he said he want this baby. Well Marry me if you want the baby That's my if I got pregnant out of wedlock. Here's my ultimatum. Look If you want this baby, we need to be married quick and in a hurry or else I'm not having this child, you know what I'm saying. Um And you gonna pay For everything that needs to be done in order to resolve the situation That's how it's gonna be and if you can't afford it, you're gonna be on child support You know, I still I wouldn't even do that to myself. I will find some money to go and have my uh pregnancy terminated If I got pregnant by a loser that was not trying to marry me because I don't want to ruin my life Because I made a bad choice with you know Somebody who couldn't do anything for me. I'll be gone and I still you know what? Even if I got pregnant by a loser and he was broke I wouldn't I wouldn't have his baby even if he asked me to marry him Because I have bigger plans in my life and I wouldn't do that to myself or my child You know, I wouldn't do it. I wouldn't I wouldn't bring a child into a world of poverty With no daddy why because there's already enough challenges in this world and you're creating more Just wouldn't do it. Sorry But that's just me, you know That's my personal decision. Like I know women that that did it made it successful all that stuff But I I'm a Pisces. I'm lazy. I ain't gonna do all of that Okay Right How many dates is it okay to ask for an allowance? You that should be taken care of before you go out Like You already know why you're dating you dating that man for money. He knows you're dating him for money. Look I like you You know, he should I feel like you should be compensated The first time that you date like even if it's just a gift, you know Most guys bring a gift on the first date who are who knows that the woman is dating them for money, you know Especially if you're on the website to look for a sugar daddy, you know, it's like they know to come with a gift They know to come with something Or make the arrangement on the first date You want to see me again? Let's make up an arrangement, you know, I need allowance. I need some money. I need to go shopping Um, they'll give it to you You know, let's go to the ATM Just be direct. Okay, you'll have nothing to lose like you keep you go on five dates with him and you don't get nothing out of it You lost time You lost time. He didn't lose anything. He gained So first date make the arrangement if you don't if he doesn't agree to it never see him again Go on to the next it's very strategic. Okay, you can't this is a business. This is not Treat it like a business and you'll always succeed. Okay If you treat stuff like a business, you will always profit if you treat stuff like If you if you're passive and timid you're gonna get ran over and take advantage of Okay Oh my gosh, it is almost five o'clock and I gotta go soon. So I probably What is my spiritual views on abortion? My spiritual views on abortion is okay. First of all It depends. Okay, if I'm not married, I'm not having no children. Okay, that's my personal world That's my spiritual belief not to bring children into a world For them to suffer. Okay, so that's my spiritual belief I'm not bringing a child in the world to suffer to ask what what my daddy at You know to be disappointed on their birthdays when the daddy don't show I'm not bringing no being into the world to suffer so I would have the abortion simply Because I don't want to bring a being in this world to suffer, you know, um, I would wait until I got married Financially stable to where I can get my child everything And let them live in a happy nice environment where they can thrive Okay, so that's what I would do. That's my spiritual belief on abortion If you even Michael Jackson said you can't feed your baby. Don't have a baby. It don't think maybe If you can't feed your baby You'll be always trying stop that child from crying Okay So that's my spiritual belief. Y'all know Michael Jackson is my guru and if he said it is good enough for me If someone cheated on me I would go shopping and go on vacation with their credit cards Yeah, that's what most people do that marry rich guys and uh, or dating rich guys and they find out they got cheated on That's that's gift time because Okay, let me tell y'all a funny story. Um, this lady. I know she did she did some rich guys She found out he cheated on her but he liked her like he was she was the main chick, right? And so I said, so what'd you do? She said I got plastic surgery out of the girl I got my butt done. I got a liposuction. I got tummy tuck I got a new car. I'm like she said you need to cheat more I'm like, okay You know, you can you came up? so yep And a lot of people think because I'm spiritual I have different types of views on things But being spiritual doesn't mean that Your morals are going to be the same as the next person being spiritual means you have a choice On the same path on the path that you choose or a path that you create for yourself. So um And it's less judgmental than religion So being spiritual is more like I make my own rules and morals and that's what I live by And that's why I have the life that I have because I didn't go by some You know Set a standards or just a set of rules or things like that. I made my own which is why I can do what I do, you know And know a lot of people might not agree with that and they might oh my god But that's just my personal belief and it has nothing to do with what you do Or what you choose to do. I'm just saying that's what I would do, you know, because Of those reasons, but that's it, you know, um That's it Okay You know, a lot of people will fake and pretend. Oh, they don't believe in abortion And then they'll be mad about their pregnancy and talk about their loser baby daddy and then oh to it Oh, I had a miscarriage. Oh really you did Mm-hmm side Side. Oh you did, huh? Yes, they call it now, huh They calling it a miscarriage now Okay, so don't let them don't let them spiritual people fool you either They be on it too. They're like, I don't believe in that. Oh, I'm pregnant. Oh, I had a miscarriage Because you know, they want they having problems with they man that man don't want the baby They spiritual they can't oh I had a miscarriage Okay, whatever you say problem solved still whatever Um, you're hopeful with nobody So that's why I don't judge and that's why others shouldn't judge either because People do it all the time and they won't never tell you they were like, oh, I don't believe in that Okay, then didn't have five So just be real just keep it real, you know Just keep it real. Please share the lipstick in line. Do you like the lip? Let me go see let me go see if I can find it Let me see if I can find it. I'ma bring out with me. I said my makeup table over here y'all I have a rolling chair so I can roll on over here. Okay. I'm gonna show y'all Those who are interested in my makeup routine Okay Okay, so the liner is not really a liner. It's a liquid lipstick that I use like a liner I just put this on first like a roma loop And this is cap von D And the color damned like damned Okay, that's that's what's up here. And then I like did an ombre with this red By Too Faced it's melted matte and it's called lady balls Like if a woman had balls It's called lady balls And it just is a red color and it's matte. This is matte too This is really dark. It's almost like a dark dark dark maroon color Um, and this is really really red. So I mixed these two together like an ombre Yeah And it looks like this and that's what I got I'm scooting back got me a new chair Yes, that lipstick is kind of expensive. Um, so I got it at Sephora If they wanted to know what lipstick you wear they go to a strip club and ask Oh Someone asking about a long-distance relationship She wants him to pay for her lifestyle and he wants her to come and visit him and she thinks that He needs to support her Of course if if if you're in a long-distance relationship and he asks you to come visit him And he expects you to stay faithful to him. He need to be paying Okay Okay. Yeah, he needs to be paying. It's not too much to ask if you're not asking. You're done. Okay You're wasting your time I would just say look I'm in a long-distance relationship with you. I'm being faithful to you. You want me to come visit you? You need to put some money in my account. Okay, this is how much I need Bam, you got your money or You got your answer to move on or he'll put money in there either way. You'll be able to move forward Somebody said they was on a low carb diet and they was watching my video and they went to dunk in donuts and got some donut. What? well You can always start back again tomorrow Eat some donuts Cheer up, would you date a virgin a virgin male? Yeah, if he was rich, he wouldn't want nothing and I get everything Y'all keep asking me what I date this what I date that if you rich, yes Virgin shorty Whatever long as you got some money. I'm good But I'm married so I can't really date right now, but if I was single I've taken some guys for jennedy one time That's it. I didn't know it was a virgin. He told me afterwards. I was like No wonder what are you was terrible and I had to do all the work but hey When I date a guy shorter than me sure if you got money What about a dude that was rich but was dominating and controlling in bed They'd have to be like super rich and Like super rich and I'd have to be into it Like because a lot of women are into it. That's what they won't You know, I don't think I want that But if I were into it, hell, yeah, I'll do it. Um I would rather be the dominator in bed um But yeah, I wouldn't If he was super rich and that's what he liked and wanted and I was I would I would sign up for it at first And then it would dwindle down like and I don't feel like doing that. That's stupid. You ain't in control of real I've flipped the script like let me dominate you now Let's switch positions. How tall are you? I'm five nine Five nine and when I wear heels, I'm six three Or six two I need a man that's tall or I have to wear flats Or I need a short man as rich and don't care My husband is like five 11 so Um, I'm he's he's taller than me, but when I wear heels, I'm taller than him What's considered old in the dating market for women It just depends on how you look like if you don't look old and you look good, you know You're good, but if you look old And I feel like guys won't date anybody over Like most men who are looking for like a serious relationship or a fling or something. They're not going to date a certain age of women over like um They might do mid 30s if they're older like if they're in their 50s or something else 30 is young to them like 30 something's young, but most of the time when the women are over 40 It's like they'll glance at your profile online. They'll be like, let me see if she looked good for her age, you know If she looks good for her age Then they'll say if she looks younger than 40, but it's 40 they'll still date her But if she looked 40 and she 40 They're gonna have to be like 60 and 70. You know what I'm saying? Um, so it just all depends It just all depends it just all depends on their taste and the women and what they're looking for Uh, blah blah blah Okay Yeah, someone said wow you wear heels. Yeah, I used to wear heels I was Like when I used to go out when I was single I wore heels All the time like I would be very tall and that's why I got approached a lot by athletes Because they were already tall and I wasn't tall to them, you know So when I would go out to the club like basketball players would approach me Tall people football players and stuff like that because I was tall And then I had on them heels. So Plus, you know broke men Little short men They were, you know, the short man who had money would approach. You know, like, hey, baby I like you tall glass of water, you know Um, so you know which ones had money because they would approach Other guys would be like, oh, she's too tall, you know, no, you know But if you was an athlete and you was six five and uh, I was short How do I turn a rich guy I'm dating into a sugar daddy I helped somebody else out with this problem and it worked So I'm just going to share it with you the where I said, um Come up with a fake emergency Come up with a reason why you have to go get a night job at a cocktail bar And wear a skimpy outfit to earn extra money And tell tell your rich boyfriend like, you know, I need to pay bills I need more income. I got to go get a second job at night So I'm not going to be able to see you on the weekends. I'm going to be working at this Bar lounge whatever and they want me to wear like shorts and fishnets and all this And heels and stuff so my feet are going to be hurt. I'm going to be tired So I'm only going to be able to see you like this, you know Maybe two days a week now because I'm going to be busting my butt trying to get some extra money He's like what no, you know enable place that Lots of rich men go to, you know So he knows you can be surrounded by rich men and like in and skimpy clothes, you know cocktail waitressing And He'll be like, well, how much do you need? I don't want you to have to go work in someplace like that. How much do you need? And oh just about a thousand extra dollars a month Or you know, blah, blah, blah, blah, I'm trying to save for this and that And he was like, well, I'll just give it to you. Don't worry about it You know, that's how you do it. You have a fake emergency Give yourself a fake job wearing skimpy clothes working around rich men If he really wants you and likes you, he's not going to let you do it If he don't care about you, he'll go, oh, we'll have fun You know a good look A real man won't let you go out like that. Okay, that's how you can do it and you get money Yeah, I'm a liar. I don't care. I still got what I want That's the point the goal the goal is the finish line The goal the outcome is what we're looking for. Okay Not how we get it, but But you know the after That's what you need, you know, uh people aren't here judging, you know what whatever Y'all said, okay People will judge you for doing what you want to get lifestyle and the money that you want But then they go to church and pray to Jesus for money to pay their rent And then they put money In the basket to the pastor who's going to the strip club and giving that money Jesus money to the stripper And y'all talk about the stripper the stripper got your dollar and her draws. Okay, so shut up I'm serious like y'all can't do that. Yeah when y'all try to judge y'all just get played Y'all just get played because your church money that you put in the basket is in a stripper's g-string And she going and paying to get her nails deed or whatever with your money. Okay, and you still waiting on it that miracle Okay, meanwhile, she's living living the life that you're praying for Now shut up That I was talking to a troll Y'all know I gotta get them Do rich older men care about a woman in her early 20s still in college and not in the workforce? No, they want to sponsor you they want to help you they want to go to sugar daddy.com They say oh, I want to pay for your education baby. You don't even got to pay tuition It's like I saw a profile that said I want to help a young lady who was in college or Starting out to help her either start a business or pay for her tuition That was their words. So, yeah, they're guys out there who want to pay your tuition in exchange for time and and Dates and stuff like that. Yeah So Yeah, there's guys there's men that's so rich. They can't even spend all their money in one lifetime They will pay for you. I'm serious like They'll date you You'll be your sugar daddy. Your college tuition will get paid. You'll get your degree They might not marry you. They might not be with you forever, but you got that taken care of you Don't have no student loans You know Why not? It's a good opportunity. You're gonna be sleeping with men for free. Anyway You might as well get paid and get your and get your college tuition and degree with it, you know Be smart. Don't be dumb like You'll have women struggling paying for college Dating a broke man who can't do nothing for them You know when they get out of college got to find a job can't find a job got to find a place to live Can't find a place to live Got student loans coming, you know, all that probably could have been solved a long time ago by date some old dude For one or two years You know what I'm saying and getting gifts and traveling It's it's silly that women Will do that to themselves and then then when it's time, you know to Get get their career and stuff They're they start off in debt and didn't have to This is one reason why marriage is doomed in this country Marriage is not doomed. I'm married. I've been been married for a long time Don't plan on divorcing. It's not doomed. It's only doomed if you're going in it for stupid reasons, which is like reasons that can't Benefit you now. That's a stupid reason if you marry and you're not benefiting from your marriage Then you marry for a stupid reason See I could have been a madam someone says I could have been a madam Someone asked me if I'm married for money or love If I married for love you would see some roaches behind me and some the walls would be dingy and The landlord might be banging on that door asking for rent. Okay. I Y'all already know the answer Why would you ask me that? Um I I I love my husband, but I did not marry for love. That's not the reason I got married. I married my husband Okay, y'all Got interrupted again. That means it's time for me to go. Okay. I gotta go people keep calling my phone Okay, I didn't want to talk to me um I I didn't insult virgins. I just said I took someone's virginity when I was young Um Anyway, I see y'all later and Yes Don't be offended by my lifestyle choices. You don't have to make them. I just made them because They were what you know, those were the choices I had to make To get to where I wanted to get Okay, you can you can take a totally different path Do it different as long as you get the end result that you want. That's the most important. Okay So I'll see y'all on the next video And hopefully Um, I'll see y'all tonight if I can get on on my other channel On my spiritual channel and I'll get on tonight after eight sometime. I don't know it'll be late night. All right