 Welcome back to Welcome back to The Power Talk Show with me Dominik. I have a few comments that have come on our Facebook page and I want to thank you for keeping these comments coming. They're quite a number, but so I'll just read a few that are there. Good evening. This is Eman James, my fan from Umbasa, Kakadominik, Tukondani as always. I'm just following the show Khinli, Siwezi Kubojenzakidude, Asante Sana Eman James, Sae-Raz Muti and Asema Munga Nua Pendasana, Sante Sana Sae-Raz Muti Sae-Ra. Then Yata Sivikta, God is there for everyone. Disabilities not in ability. Tuned in from Eldama Ravine. Thank you so much. Saitaniam, Dibabzi, Christopher. May God comfort them all. Mufat, may God comfort them. James Chai, Disabilities not in ability. Kirinyaga Kiajia, give us tune. This is Maina Francis Karish. And then Migos Rapa. Yes, is to have confidence. Kaila tuned. So keep those comments coming. I'll be reading them as we go by. So if you have a question also, you would like to ask Richard Bukachi. Feel free to send that. If you have a question that you would like to ask Bukachi or a comment, please do feel to do so on our Facebook page at WaitifyforChannel. And we're going to be reading out your comments. And if you remember we're talking to Richard Bukachi about the power of hope. He is telling us his story since having suffered an accident and having living disability. And he is sharing his story about how he went about that. So right now I'm going to give it back to Chris Judah. And then we continue with the conversation with Richard Bukachi. So don't go away. It's a line with the topic of today. I hope you will be blessed. The main point is that you are special and unique. The main point is that you are special and unique. So are you going around? We are special and unique. Doesn't matter even black or white. Doesn't matter even rich or nice. Kitu chamaana we are special and unique. So are you going around? See ya pata someone special like you. Nime zunguka zunguka. See ya pata someone special like you. I see ya pata someone special like you. Nime zunguka zunguka. It is so much important. Skill'amto nu'a mahana. My mahana is so impotant. Kwa niwamaana naasmuka is so important. Additionally if you qisha where you reach for today Kill'amto nu'a maana Kwa faro niwichu na matanging. us about how you got how you got the accident and the challenge and went through that and being told M nervous job I did a kiyote as you said I never employed a kiyote a cripple it's a really devotee it's a jere tagio time and we can say persons living with this ability but many people like to move to kiyote in Dhunisha in Dhunisha ka fa kusana now you mentioned that you went through depression correct Ni senne na urehuwe naangani? ... kwama mtenggadwe hwana kwau mahmantihu. Gamu mteginiru kwa kuikikini wunga kwa kiko nula kiauwe mteghisha k主a. Ksi mtegha ni kwenu uvunm게 kuia kwa wen markedhisha kwa kwa kikini wenga. Kwa kikiniru kwa kikini wunga kwa kikini wunga kwa kikini kuikikini. ... kwa kikini wunga kwa kuikini wunga kwa kikini wunga. seasoning pwiyaha Nama kwa wajibwe Notes Atm Nisha Mika Nisha Mika Mika Liko Liko Liko So they came to my house and they told me we had been sent to come and take your things because you've defaulted. I said but I've talked to the landlord, they said we don't care. So they were ready to start picking the things but one of them, but before then they had gone to the little shop which was attached to the compound and literally pulled my wife out of the shop. Now that is the only hope we had to get milk and to give us food. They pulled her in the middle of customers and they shut the door. So when they came to me now wanting to remove me, I said you can remove me, if you've pulled my wife away you can also remove me from the bed. So I said have you done this? Kwa sababa mimi nimilema, they said yes, utafanya nini. But at that moment there was some intervention, a pastor came and intervened. So we moved, I put my things on a hand cut, mkokoteni to move to that house, that wooden house which later on was robbed. Now when things became that bad, I cannot even reach where the toilet is because in a slum environment there's not that luxury of a toilet in the house. You have to go, the toilet was down the river. I can't afford going for physiotherapy. I am in a lot of pain. By the way I suffered a lot of physical pain. I would scream like a woman who is in labor. I have been to, I know I have two children so I am aware of that. I would scream, I would literally have an injection, anesthesia, ilia yakulala. To just have an x-ray. If I am seated like this you cannot turn me. I used to have what is called muscle pulse, they are called spasms. They would lift this leg up, sometimes that a choina fungoka. Sometimes they would twist you like this and twist you. Some people say they are demons. So they would say I am possessed. You see how people, I was a Christian all through. So I know what demons are and I know what neurological problems are. So I went for another surgery again. So when I came back home I was depressed. I felt like I was, I can use this analogy. I felt like I have been thrown in a swimming pool in the deep end and never swam. That's how I felt helpless. But while I was going for the rehabilitation of the spinal injury hospital, I met a lady. She had been injured earlier than me. Her name is Bright, she is my friend. But then when she tried to talk to me I said don't talk to me, I don't know you. Why? Because in depression you have anger. You have denial. You have confusion. You are projecting on people. Anybody trying to come your way you throw. Even my wife, the black rose, I gave a lot of difficult time at that period. I would refuse to wash. Because I would ask, I'm washing going where? To do what? I am a finished man. I did not shave. I never looked at a mirror for about five years. Because I feared when I looked at the mirror it would show me who I am then. I didn't know that was depression. I never used to sleep. In fact there was some medication I was given to try and help me come and sleep. And I almost got addicted to it. I also had pain medication. I'm forgetting the name. Which was a very high dose. Those type of medications doctors call them dangerous drugs. So they keep the keys, they keep them on the lock. Because I could not stand pain. I could not sleep. I could not wash. I didn't want to see people. If you worked in my house and my wife said kuna mgaeni. I would ask, amekuja kuniche kelea. Anata kakuniona kwanini. I never went even outside to bask. Because I thought people would see me and wonder why is this man not working. And the worst of it I was put on a wheelchair. So wheelchair for me at that time was like an incarceration. Ni kama ni kwa kwa jela. But I didn't realize that a wheelchair is a mobility tool to help you access your movement. Most of my friends ran away. My pastor was a very helpful person. I will bless God forever for him. I come from a church called Gold Spells Centers International. Gold Spells Centers International. His name is Bishop Mulema. He is too by me. He is stuck by me. Helped me to pay most of the bills now when I was struggling. And there was another bishop also called Bishop Kefa of the Redeem Church. He actually gave his car. I had a driver to make sure that I go for physiotherapy. So when I met this lady after discharge. Bright is a born again Christian. She had an injury earlier. She was a road traffic. She tried to talk to me but I would tell her I am not interested in you. I have a wife. Why are you talking to me? Because I didn't want anybody to know me because they would not accept me. My esteem came down. But she kept on probing me. So I wanted to tell me what exactly is your problem. So she said I don't have a problem. I just want to talk to you. I didn't realize she was born again and she was a counselor. So I went through counseling. Then the spinal injury hospital where I was never had a counseling unit. So the physiotherapist would come and say I want you to pull this thing ten times. And I would ask them why? Why should I pull it? Then they would say ok. Kama na jifanya mujuwaji kutaka. Then they would say it is not good. Ebu na jaribu kukuvuta. Ebu na yanda mazwezi na se ma mazwezi anini. So I was very confrontative. So it helped me to understand that I was projecting my anger to people. That I was depressed. That I was a bitter man. That I was running away from my family. That I was even hurting my wife. Who is supposed to be my friend? A very good girl. And my wife helped me a lot. My wife, that's why I say family is very important. And I tell people, make good relationships with people. Kama ni kazini, kani sani, kazi ni umbani. If you have a wife, love her. If you have issues, talk about it. If you have siblings, my wife was a very good, one of the most important social support that I had. Apart from the counseling lady who helped me out. I came back and apologized to my wife that I was angry. She would have chosen to work out. And I may surprise you that 70%, these are statistics that was done about 2005, 70% of people with spinal cord injuries die 5 years after discharge. That's because of depression, preciousness. You see I'm sitting on this cushion. This cushion is worth 15,000 shillings. A cushion for sitting, it has air inside. If you sit on an ordinary cushion like yours, because you're not feeling. You see when you sit, you keep on turning. Correct, correct. As we just, because you're not feeling, you develop what is called a precious soul. A precious soul starts eating you because of poor blood flow. By the time you're seeing a scour on outside in Meoza and Nani, itabidi wakate wukumapaja, wana bandika. That is six months in hospital lying like this. Apart from not just working, blood problems. Because you can't push here, Yurina. I told you about the information from the brain, the reflex. When your blood feels, you can't feel. You just feel contractions, you feel, you sweat, you feel restless, but the blood is full. So you either use a catheter or you must be on diapers. And if that urine burns you also, you have precious soul. If you don't take enough water, because you must take at least three liters of water every day, at least to flush, because you can't push to flush. So the urine tries to get back. You get very bad urine at retracting infections. Normally it's women who get bladder problems because of their biological orientation. But for people with disability, with spinal cord injuries especially, you are prone to that. So it's a very expensive life. It drains you every time you have to take your urine to the lab for assessment. You have to do physiotherapy. You must be on medication. You need a wheelchair. I couldn't afford that. But like I said, something that turned me around was my pastor, my wife, and the hope of my children. I'll surprise you that my children and my wife never see me as a person with disability. In fact, I forget until I'm stuck. You know, what fascinates me is your family is stuck with you and your wife. We hear stories of someone, the man got an accident and the wife ran away. The wife got an accident and the man ran away. But your wife and your kid stuck with you. How would that mean for you? It meant a lot for me. I could say that was my stepping stone to being who I am today. And I had a choice of being bitter or being a better person. Bitter or better. And I chose just like a caterpillar. You know a caterpillar goes through that process of metamorphosis into a butterfly. I would have stuck and remained as a caterpillar. Being angry with people, being angry with my boss because he didn't even take me, he called me Kewete. People staring, sometimes for good reasons or bad reasons, friends running away, but I chose. First of all, I didn't die. God spared my life. He gave me a second chance. And then there's my children who would see my children. I thought I was dying. In fact, I would pray until God take me. This is too much for me. Physical pain, emotional pain, psychological pain. And just like you mentioned, I have friends whom I know, their wives walked away. Because when they married them, they didn't marry a person with disability. You can't control your toilet. You can't control your bladder. And much more for men, because sex comes from the brain. How you perceive for a man, how you see. Men, they say, nika majiko lazimo pepepe. So, because that communication is not there, there's nothing. It doesn't matter what you see. Now for a woman to accept to stay with you in that condition, first of all, sexual matters in an African concept areatabu, we don't talk about them. And when people say, I'm a man, you know what they mean. One of these is your sexual capacity. Yes, when they burst around a man, you know what they mean. And many people go through depression because of sexual dysfunction. Some people because of diabetes, because of different sicknesses and illnesses, and they feel lesser of people. And they get into depression and they commit suicide. If you look at the rates of suicide right now in Kenya, they are alarming. True. I want to bring back this. It's true there is a case of suicide and I don't want to downplay that. But I also want to celebrate the fact that sex is important in marriage. It is. And you said you were only 7, 8 years into marriage. Yes, I was in my 30s. And you were in your 30s. And this means that you can no longer have sexual intercourse with your wife. But this woman sticks with you. She stuck with me. You wanted to have more children but you could not. You know coming from an African family, people used to boast of their wealth and how many children they have. And the cattle they have. I came from a family of 10 people. 10 siblings. In fact they were 12. Two died. For now I just lost my sister a month ago. I'm still grieving. My condolences. So I thought I would also have a big family. That's what I thought. And nothing wrong with that as long as you can take care of them. But God gave me two children. That was it. I could not say any more children. Things that was distressing me. But my wife would look at me and say Who gave birth to these children? Is it not you? You made me pregnant. Why are you not proud of me? I have never said any bad word to you. As long as you are alive, even if you are on a wheelchair and I can see you are a man. Because immediately you are not there. I'm a widow. There will be so many challenges. You know what happens with some cultures when women are left. Things are taken from them. And you are there as a father. As a husband, I am proud of you. Now that gave me hope. That my woman loved me the way. That's why I call her black rose. Black rose is a very unique flower. Very rare flower. I see people fighting in families because of small, small issues. I can tell you. For me, I'm not saying that we don't have if I say that we don't have differences, I'll be lying. We've never fought with my wife. And our relationship became even stronger after this. I was arrogant to her because of the depression. She took me the way I am. And we are not just married, we are friends. In my house, I would even take her dress and iron. Even today. Not because it's a way of also saying I appreciate you so much. My wife would leave in the morning to go and work. She got some job that she does. I am doing counseling in private practice. And also have an organization called AFCA. Kana Ability Focuss Kenya Association. You look at the words ability... I'm not focusing on this ability. I'm focusing on getting the best out the little abilities that you have. What can you do with the abilities that you have? That is my turning point for that. And what also helped me is accepting my new life. Because when I stuck in believing that I will walk one day and things. And I went to crusades.って socialist prayer teaching cheaper betaki pa 1000000 judging drozo www.afttech.com Ni kusama I believe in miracles, but I said, but you are driving, so why are you going with the car because you can also tembeha. The guy left, I have learned the power of forgiveness also, it has really happened, the power of forgiveness brings a lot of hope. So we had to go home in a police, mi misi jwa ibebo nangariya police, maisha e hangu, lakini tuliku atuna pesa, tumeo achu wa tuwatu wa meenda, I was staying in a ruta to go town, that Peter thing almost came, I said, I forgive him. So with my wife, because of accepting me, I have friends who, wives, husbands have left them and they have not survived. I told you the statistics of death is, but hope, and for me one thing also that has another thing, don't allow the world to define you. God has already defined me, I am fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God, secondly it's never too late to begin again. I had to begin life from scratch, and family is very very important, social support for anybody who is recovering from any loss, very very important. Please if you have issues at home, mend them, kama mekosana, go back, I know men don't like saying I'm sorry to their women, what does it take, does it change me? I say sorry so many times, and this is the hope that I have to do, that's why I come up with this ability for Kaskanya to try and help people like me. People with spinal cord injuries. People with spinal cord injuries who are going through depression and have bad relationships with them, to turn them around, to show them that there is hope, even when a tree is cut it shall sprout again, job 14 was 7. Amen. Thank you so much, I appreciate. I want to read a few comments here as we finish up, and when I come back I would like you to just say possibly maybe a word or two, to just maybe in 30 seconds you mentioned something maybe to people who have spinal cord injuries, who have gone through experience like yours, what maybe, of course the whole story has been a message. It is also really okay. Everything you mentioned has been a message, it has been an inspiration and all. I just want you to like direct this, direct to them, and then we conclude. Correct. We will give it to Chris Judah to give us a performance so that we can come back and close it up. Judah, let's go. Thank you so much. Thank you so much. Thank you so much. Shida kona zote zili kuwazi menizuhiya Nili jadama suali muihoni hakuku wa wakuni chibu Laki miyazu au nili tibu Somchans baga mimi niki gohaswe Many times I am betrayed Laki ni kwa komi ni naste Nili somchans baga mimi niki gohaswe Many times I am betrayed Laki ni kwa komi ni naste Sozina wasi wasi Babana jua kona mi Ya esu na jua kona mi Kila step ni na jua kona mi Nimi zina wasi wasi Babana jua kona mi Ya esu na jua Mi ni na jua kona mi Thank you so much. Chris Judah, it's powerful. You're enjoying this music? Correct. It's powerful, right? I will invite them to my function. Absolutely. Even to my church. Absolutely. Chris, how was it for you listening to Mr. Richard today? I've noticed that some problems I had and I thought I had in my life. It's marvelous. It's beyond words. I've listened to history and I was like that some things have gone backyard and I'm telling God why have you not done this and this. And I think history is like a lesson to my life. It's powerful, isn't it? Before you react to God this is the response, the importance of response before God is very important. That's why I was closing this song as we were saying mi mi zina wasi wasi. I want you even after this as we close it up just continue that song as we close it up, I'll tell you when to go on. Just introduce your guitarist. He has not had a chance to introduce him because he doesn't have a mic with him. So his name is Bidan. Bidan. Mkwane kwa ziki for some time. He's a great friend from my father. Wasanga. Okay, perfect. So that's our home. Correct, that's it. Now just quickly, where someone who wants to follow you find your music? Chris Judah, every platform, YouTube, Facebook and Instagram. Perfect. Man, thank you for coming to my show. Thank you so much. And as he said, we can go back to that song. Okay. There are a few comments that have come in just to read them kidogo. Miraculous do happen in a miraculous way. For instance, I have lip-sync and when I was in high school nili kwa na che kwa sana. Eman James, thank you so much. Si sote hatuwezi kwa sawa na ulemavu naka soroyake usi che kele mo enziwe uju ya kwa ya keshoy. Kwa elika bisa. Sama sana James. Mungu hawezi muwacham jawa ke anaya kudara usiku mojata kusailimi ya kwaeshi mawasikata tama mungu yupo. Shikuru sana again. Eman James. Eric Koth. Tundin from Asimbo. Thank you so much for watching. So, asante nisana. God is there for everyone. Yata vikta. I had read that. So, I want to thank you for making it come to my show. But before we close it up, I want you to give me 30 seconds or so as Maximum told, we need to finish up to say a message directly to someone who is at that stage where you do not want even bright to speak to you. Correct. Yeah. And also maybe a message to those who are like Jen. Correct. Who have to stop their lives somehow in order to take care of the people they love. Correct. So maybe you can look at that camera 3 and see something. I want to tell people that this world has a lot of challenges and problems and challenges are inevitable. As long as you are alive, you will go through challenges. But you must have an attitude of positivity. Okay? Wake up in the morning and say, I will rejoice at beglarity. And take the best out of it. They say when they give you lemon, make lemonade out of it. Try to make the best out of the situation. I would choose to sit back and cry and blame everybody. But I chose to flip it around instead of getting stuck into a caterpillar, I chose to be a butterfly so that I can fly and reach my ambitions. And to tell people who are going through a situation like mine that it's a stage. It's a stage. The great things that God helped you that you're alive. Life is a gift. Celebrate it because you don't have two lives. Unless you're leaving this world when you go, if you're born again, you'll go to the other world. So that's very important. But as long as you're here, celebrate every moment that God has given you. And know that as you go through this rehabilitation, many people are watching you because this did not just happen for me. Now I'm able to come here and share my story of hope to other people and tell them there is hope. Secondly, for people like Jane, my wife, whom I treasure very much, and I talk about my wife without feeling embarrassed any way I go. She's dark and beautiful. She is dark inside and outside that at the moment of need she reached out to me. And that's how we need to reach out to any other people and look at your environment, in your house, in your family, in your community. Somebody is going through something. What are you doing about it? Let us not be only people who stare or wait to see what happens. Let's be people who offer solutions because we are told there are people who wonder what is going on. There are people who are part of the solution. So I became part of the solution. What about you? There is something that you can do. However small your story may not be like mine, but there are losses, there are pains, there are challenges, there are people losing jobs, there are young people without jobs, going on drugs and things like that. There are people who cannot sit together in a family because you will see somebody beyond the money. So God loves you. God has given you a second chance. What are you doing with it? Thank you so much. I appreciate it. Thank you so much. Richard Bukachi has been powerful. Thank you, sir. I don't want to add anything extra to what Richard Bukachi has mentioned. I hope you have been inspired by his story and I hope if you have someone that is living in disability that you are taking care of, don't leave them alone. Love them like Jen his wife, you know, Blak Rose, as well as being able to stand by Richard. I want to thank you all who have been part of my show. Those who have sent your comments, your greetings, where you are tuned in from. Thank you so much for being part of the part of the show. We will continue sharing stories of hope and encouraging each other because well, that is what this world is all about. I want to thank also my guest, artist Chris Judah with his guitarist Bidan. Thank you so much for being part of the show. I also want to thank the crew of the part of the show. Thank you so much and God bless you. Have a good night. See you sometime. Thank you for having me. Perfect. So I will close up with a song called Nitegeme Nani. Nitegemeo. Nitegemeo. Nitegeme Nani. Nim kimili nani. Nenolako nita Tamashani mwangu ehi Nenolako ni nuru nuru kiza ni Nim tegeme Nani Kamasi we Nim kimili nani Kamasi we Nenolako nita Tamashani mwangu ehi Nenolako ni nuru nuru Nitegemeo Nitegemeo Nitegemeo Nitegemeo Nangu niwe Naku kimili ya Nitegemeo Nangu niwe Naku kimili ya Nitegemeo Nangu niwe Nitegemeo Nitegemeo