 Listen, it's the message right here black boy. Tell me how you really feel Cuz I just want to build with you black girl. Tell me how you really feel. I Want to keep it real with you. I want to live better eat better. I want to love better sleep better Yeah, I want to feel so aligned So while back I made a video called hashtag relationship goals Hashtag relationship goals is toxic. That was the name of the video and I talked about how it's a Talked about how it's toxic, but I went down the list of the reasons why I think it's toxic. But anyway, the question is Why do y'all think romance Slash relationship goals Slash me and somebody son Slash Hollywood is love Especially nowadays you all go on Instagram you see this person and that person taking trips You see this person that person taking the cute pictures where you're like who the fuck is the photographer? You know I'm saying like they be in the bathtub together, and it's like like who took the picture, right? and Like especially me to somebody son like why do y'all think that is what love looks like Have you stopped to ask yourself? Why did we have a real example of love growing up? Maybe that's the first visual of love we have someone Taking us on these trips me and somebody son Celebrity power couple lose successful And for me I feel like the outside of my grandparents the first is this relationship I saw was of my friend's parents and My then I was in high school So If that's for me, and I feel like I had a pretty decent life growing up And that's the life if that's the vision for me. That's the first time I saw real love Imagine someone who had to struggle through life They may not have seen real love and to the until they got to social media So that is what they base their future love off of Um And even now like I said, I love me some me or somebody's son I know I feel like someone investing their time and investing their money in me is it's almost like it's proof That you really want to be with me. Why do you think so many guys dislike it? We'll be honest here. No, we met at me. I Feel like men don't like it. I feel like some men don't like it because They are not where they want to be in life as far as Really financially so they know of their girls on the relationship goals Hashtag or following the celebrity the hot celebrity couple couple at the moment or reposting to me and somebody's son I Can't afford to take my girl in like I can't afford to do that So I already have a vendetta against them. I mean, that's the enemy. I think I think that's tough because Because it's social media because of Hollywood because of me and somebody son I think we've created a lot of unrealistic expectations for men and women and I think You know speaking as a guy the reason a lot of guys including myself are annoyed by it is because it creates Not just an unrealistic aesthetic, but also an unsustainable aesthetic because it's like Part of the reason you fell in love with me is because I'm a teacher and I'm investing my time in the youth and the youth program I made $50,000 a year. We can't do the same shit as Miguel and his girl But if you keep holding me to that standard, I'm gonna come home Three nights out of the week and you're gonna be upset for no reason and you might not even know you upset Because you're comparing me Subconsciously to this image of what a relationship or what love is supposed to look like I think that's the reason most men Are annoyed by it because it's like we We can't wait for losing Appreciate your response, but you asked me But I do agree that They are unrealistic expectations and I do feel that Me harping on those unrealistic expectations has caused issues and Relationships not so much like boyfriend girlfriend relationship all the time, but relationships in the past. I Can review that part? So the next question kind of builds on that and this is this is a very black question and it's a question that a lot of Black men discuss and talk about and I think People like Kevin Samuels are bringing Putting a spotlight on it, right? so One of the issues that we have, you know, people say all black men and black women Can't understand each other need to communicate better part of the problem from the male point of view is Like I just mentioned it seems like our women are Unpleasable Sometimes right can't be satisfied can't be satisfied if you're a nigga who makes a lot of money She's upset that you don't have time If you're a nigga who has a lot of time, she's upset that you don't make a lot of money If you if you're a nigga who's you know, I'm saying handsome. She's upset that All these women want you if you're a nigga who's ugly. She's upset that Nobody wants you So it's like you can't win for losing. So the question is Why Do you not you but you the bigger you have such pseudo masculine expectations of black men and That involves like the whole big dick six figures six foot So some women are like you got to run a four-five even like they're specific to how fast they can run Thug slash intellectual slash eclectic slash this slash that like why Do y'all think it's okay? To project those expectations on us, I think it's the same reason why men project the expectation of BBL Redbone Long hair don't care Zero kids her own business Instagram model I think there's a correlation and you want the best though. It's why I can't want the best of the best I think we both have unrealistic expectations for each other Now this one you can speak for yourself. You can speak for your homegirls line sisters ex Friends whatever I Think when my homeboy sent me this actually Why are y'all in such a rush to get married for me? My rush to get married was Because I wanted to feel like I was valued And I didn't realize that until I got older that it wasn't really much of I wanted a guy or I wanted a man I wanted to feel like I was valuable to someone else So I kind of pressured relationships Even at like 21 22, I was already planning to get married by 25. I have my kids by 27 you know, I am 27 with none of that and Honestly, had I had any of that I would have been like Out of my mind like what to do. Um, I do feel that some people feel the pressure of society Which at one point I did feel that it's well And I kind of snapped out of it when I realized the people that were pressuring me to get married or find a boyfriend or get a man for people who were not married 50 in up and not married or not happily married And so I had to ask myself like why am I trying to rush into something they rushed into when they're not happy Then there was a point in my life where a Close friend of mine got married and I was like dang am I behind? I don't know just It took some time it took some maturity to realize I didn't have to rush that process like I could take my time and Enjoy me and sing going enjoy dating to really get to know what I wanted Damn, let's go That's gold and that's real Why don't y'all believe us when we say we're not ready. I don't know we believe you We just said we can make you ready. I Really want to a guy tells me they're not me ready and I can see the ways in which they are not ready however, I don't know for a woman in Life, there's so many things that you kind of have to make happen And that's one of the things where we feel like well if I can make this happen I can make that happen as well So we believe you But we feel that we can change you Most of us feel that we can change you I'm not looking to change nobody else no Thompson