 Welcome back to the 21 convention 2019 patriarch edition of Orlando, Florida Your next speaker is a very good personal friend of mine. I've got to know it for a couple years now Since 2017 when he first took the 21 convention stage at our 10-year anniversary in Orlando, Florida by 20 minutes up the road This speaker is the chief patriarch the keynote speaker of this event He is the Genesis the foundation for why it even exists or one of the major pillars of it He's also the founder of the family alpha and the co-founder of the fraternity of excellence This guy is the ultimate badass red pill father that I know this guy owns fatherhood like no one else and he has some serious competition Without further ado, please help me welcome hunter drew to the stage All right I'm hunter drew and that's all I'm gonna say about that because this isn't about me This is about us Before I dive any further into that I want to give some recognition to the man who put this on Anthony Johnson, it's not one of those things you do because it's the proper etiquette. He invites you you call him out No, this is a man who has Socrates has said so eloquently is very very single This man the stories This man is putting on a convention for fathers for fatherhood for patriarchy Not because he's a father Not because he's a patriarch with lineage under him, but because he knows there's a need for it Because he understands that there's a cry for it because he understands there are men out there We're having an impact on future. He always says, you know, the future is masculine. Well, how do you make the future masculine? You lead them to it Fathers create that the patriarch creates that so I want to give a round of applause to Anthony for putting on the most badass Patriarch event ever that's ever been put on so Whoever said the more you do this easier it gets is a fucking liar Being on this stage man. It's wild. Let's dive into why we're here Why you're here. This is about you. I Understand there's a lot going on. I understand we have the meet and greet I get it. You see these guys that you see online the personalities. You're like, oh, what's up? It's that guy. What's up? It's that guy. That doesn't matter You're here for you You're here to do work. You're not here just to mingle You're not here just to grow your network You're here to get some notes that you can apply to your life so you can make some changes to improve yourself Whether you are where you want to be and you want to get better or you're not where you want to be and you want to start Finding out ways to get there You're here for a reason Don't forget that this isn't just a hangout. This isn't just let's get together high-five and do our thing We're here to do work as men as patriarchs as leaders of our clans That is what we do. This is about you. So when you're here understand you have an opportunity To make a difference in your life. You have an opportunity to bring your family to where it is you want them to go It's about you. Don't ever forget that while you're here and having those dinners. Don't leave a question unasked Don't leave a conversation unhad If you want to challenge someone on their points, go ahead and have that conversation You have one opportunity you are here Take advantage of it. That's why we're here You guys came here for a reason do not forget your why at some point you bought the ticket You made the commitment because there was something that drove you to that point hang on to that Why especially when you get caught up in the there's so much going on like the taking knowledge from a fire hose There's gonna be a lot happening, but you're here for a reason you need to hang on to that You need to ensure that that itch is scratched by the end of this week and it's on you to make it happen We can't give you a magic pill the red pill take it. Every life is great. That's not how it works You've got to do work. You've got to find out and come up with the game plan to do work The mantra I live my life by is act non-verbal which is deeds not words You want to be a great father? Everybody wants to have a great family. You want your son to do well You want your daughter to do well? What are you doing to make that happen? That's what you have to ask yourself because it's on you It's on every single man in here to make that happen as you're taking notes Don't just take the notes of hey, that's cool. He said this here's a cool quote How am I gonna apply this to my life? How am I gonna actually use this knowledge? It's about the application the action stop talking about how you want to be a great dad and be a great dad Be a present father in your child's life stop saying you want these things and make them happen live that life Don't wish it into existence There are 15 ish speakers. I think it's 15. There are over a hundred of you You make a bigger bigger impact than we ever could we're already pushing this message We're already living this life, but you have the opportunity to join us on this front. We are that wall We are the ones putting the sound out there. We're sending the signal. We're lighting our beacons. We're saying hey It's okay to be a man. Hey, here's how you can be feminine. Here's how you can embrace the masculine There's a hundred of you You have such a larger impact than I'll ever have I one man You're a hundred being released Imagine one of you in each of your towns spreading that lighting that beacon all of a sudden our entire nation Starts to light up the globe starts to light up because you're out there doing something It's not enough to want it you have to do and each of you is required on your end to fulfill your commitment. I joined this Convention I appreciate Anthony giving the opportunity for it to be a family. That's my thing. It's been my thing since 2015 That's awesome. I'm living my life your side of it. You joined for a reason It's not just to hear me speak or to hear these men speak We've got a great lineup of gentlemen who will be taking this stage and dropping some excellent knowledge on you But that is not why you're here. You hear it. Then you go home and you fulfill your end I'm not giving you my time because that's cool. I'm giving my time because I know on the other end You're gonna go forward and do something with it So don't disappoint all the guys up here who are putting themselves out there for you follow that up It's on you as much as it is myself There is a sea of children out there who are lost in a dark world We have sons who are shooting up schools We have daughters who are living through Instagram because that's where they get their validation because nobody taught them better Sons who are committing suicide because dad keeps telling them to do it this way and they keep doing it this way But this way doesn't fucking work You've got to break the cycle You've got to teach your children about the harsh reality which we exist in and teach them how to thrive in it Teach them that it's okay to express who it is you are and it's not one of those Hey, go be yourself, but truly be your fucking self if you're my son takes pride in his muscles He's always talking about his mustache coming in my daughter loves art and all things beautiful I'm not saying hey daughter you need to go play football because after the boys are doing you need to go do it These boys do improve you can hang with the men. Why is it not okay for her to be a little woman? Why are we facing a society where anything masculine is challenged as something being bad? Where are the fathers who are saying no not my son? There we go one man put his hand up that's where the fathers are Listen, that's you You're the wall You're the only chance these children have in this dark world as Ivan Throne puts it It is a dark world that we live in and our children are lost and they're grabbing on to anything They can identify with and guess what fathers aren't around fathers aren't present fathers always trying to relax So somebody else takes them if you're not going to instill the values and morals in your children Somebody else will And when that person does they may instill something you don't like but guess what it's already been embedded in them They've already instilled what they want that child to do You know what you should do you should live through anything that supports the big message means true media follow us like what we like And you'll be popular Daughters if you give 15 likes your new profile photo you should probably kill yourself because you should have gotten 30 That's the fucking world we live in it's fucked up But our daughters are in that position our sons are in that position and the only people who can change that is you And I hope you understand the severity of what it is I'm saying to you that responsibility lays squarely in your shoulders if you're not willing to man up you do not get to Say I want the good life. You don't deserve it. This is a round table This convention is a round table and we're all peers having these discussions looking each other in the eyes Sharing and swapping notes saying this is what works for me. What works for you? Hey, I tried this and it didn't work. How can how did you figure it out? Could you help me? I've got as much to learn as all of you Every single one of you could teach me something and hopefully that can bring something to the table for yourself That's what this is a meeting of peers a meeting of patriarch sitting at the table saying hey enough is enough What are we gonna do because we're losing ground? We have literal skin in this game No, nobody else has any incentive to ensure that our future is bright They can watch the world burn. We don't have that opportunity We have flesh and blood that rely on us We have literal skin in this game and is on you to ensure that you're protecting it You're setting the example for it to follow because your children will follow your example not your advice You've got to live the message. It's not good enough to say you should read books You got to read books in front of them. You should work out. You've got to work out in front of them You should play sports you should you should take pride you should stand up for yourself You've got to do the same thing if your entire life is based on being passive and trying to be the man Do you think people will like as opposed to being who it is you are and standing your ground people challenge that? Your children do the same They're not gonna do what you tell them to do They're gonna do exactly what it is. They see you doing and unfortunately too many fathers right now Aren't doing what they need to do and that's why we're here To start having this discussion because maybe you are on point Maybe you are dialed in and you're here because you just want to sharpen that sword You want to ensure that you're with other like-minded men just to just to get the camaraderie This shouldn't be a special event. This should be the norm. This should be happening in neighborhoods You should be having your weekly meetings Maybe your monthly meetings at the town hall or whatever hall that you have in your club That should be a normal thing for men to have but unfortunately in this day and age. That's not how it works We're living in a time Where everybody's just split and fractured and everybody's doing their own thing and that's just that's that's death to men We're social creatures. We need other men, which is why we come together like this Build this in your home Build they don't a lot of the men in your lives. They don't have a hunter drew They don't have a 21 con they don't have all the men you're gonna see up here to help them You've got to leave here being that voice of every single one of us for those men Every single note you take every single knowledge a piece of knowledge you learn You take that all you bring it home and you are the culmination of all of us up here Because the whole is better than all the some of the parts It's the group that makes us strong and you're an entire group You're a fucking fortress and you've got to bring that and build that in other people's minds Some people will push back Some people will find that very uncomfortable because you're changing and you're doing things that are out of the norm Aren't expected aren't socially acceptable at this point, but you keep doing it and you don't back down Because you know what's right You know in your heart of hearts what the right thing to do is and it's not always the easy thing It's easy to get along right now. It's easy to be comfortable I believe it was Ryan Stone who said this is the first time in man's history that You've got to intentionally be uncomfortable. You've got to go out of your way to feel this comfort Think about that, but here we are having uncomfortable discussions Last night at the meet-and-greet several several conversations that I had were uncomfortable We were talking about things that are like wow like how do we handle this? How do we deal with that? That should be the norm again You should be having those conversations with your neighbors with your community with your children When's the last time you asked your kid how the day was and actually listened When's the last time you all sat down at a meal for a week straight? You had dinner together every single night It's on you What are you doing to ensure that these children in the dark world who are so desperately wanting something to connect with them? Some reason take pride in themselves. They've got their torch up Where's your flame? Are you are you able to bring that energy? Are you able to bring that fire to their torch so they can light it up and all of a sudden? Hey, I can see this is a dark world, but I can see my eyes have been opened I see what's going on. I see the strings and when you see the strings behind the curtain You see the old man behind the curtain. Guess what the fire and the big head in the Wizard of Oz It's not so scary because you see what's going on somebody's just messing with you Give your children that gift give them that sight light that torch My last speech is called the flame of freedom and I spoke about how we needed to light these fires inside our fellow man Because only a man who was lit and walking through the dark world can light the flame of another So we open their eyes We lit their torches and they've led their sons and their daughters to greater places and after that speech started getting messages Hey Relationships never been better. Hey, my son is all the sudden doing so well in this my daughter's achieving this That's real world change This isn't this Sometimes we get caught up in the we're just gonna have these talks on Twitter We're gonna have these conversations. No, we're gonna actually change things We're gonna change the landscape the things you do the ripples from this event going forward. We've got three days together And those that's gonna expand the horizon because you're gonna go home. You're like, you know what? We're done doing this laziness. We're gonna do the right thing here We're gonna have these uncomfortable things and your children are gonna pass that on to their friends Your son's friend is gonna ask his dad. Hey, why don't you work out with me and the dad's gonna be embarrassed Maybe he won't care, but hopefully he'll be embarrassed So you know what you're right and now that dad's working out Guess what that friend's friend and that's how it spreads. We have these conversations We live in a world where it is dark yet. We are not going out. We're not allowing our fires to be extinguished But that's on you and that's hard fucking work But you're here You've taken the first step. This is the hardest step is showing up the hardest lift in the gym opening the door getting in there You're here Make sure you came here for a reason hang on to that. Why? This was the hardest thing you could have done it'll be more difficult for you to go home and and not do the right thing and not Maintain these connections and not do what it is. You know is right Because in the back of your mind, you've seen the wizard and you're trying to believe in the eyes You're trying to believe in it But you know that you see the strings and you can't unsee that and that's why we're here And that's why I'm dedicating the time I am to this My son he plays baseball He told me that he wants his walkout song to be thunder from Imagine Dragons That's like cool. Whatever never heard it. I listen to it And because the way I think and the things we talk about what it is. I write about I'm like the lightning and the thunder That's what this is This is the lightning This is the flash of the pan it flash in the pan of your life How are you old you are whether you have a family whether you're going to have a family where they're preparing yourself? You know, you're the single dad and you just get the kids part-time It doesn't matter what your life situation is right now. You're having a flash in that pan of how many years you've been alive That's cool. You get to see it. You get to learn for three days. We're the lightning You're the thunder That's what's gonna roll deep. That's just gonna make the sound that people are gonna hear That's just gonna expand the horizon and go over the fields. That's just going to actually make a difference This conversation is great. I enjoy doing this with each of you But as I look at each of you I realize this is how I live my life. Are you ready to do the same? You've got to raise your standard and your level of performance and your understanding and education of your children Your involvement in their life. I understand the burden. It is heavy, but that is what we do as men We do hard things. We embrace that we go forward with it Heavy is the head that wears the crown. You say you're a king. Show me You say you deserve a good life Show me It's not enough to want these things. That's not how the world works So I'll wrap this one up with challenging each of you that as you go through these days And this is why I'm really pumped that Anthony allowed me to have an intro Heading forward for every speaker Make sure you have actionable advice taken. What are you going to do with the information given to you by the man who takes this stage? What are you going to do with the man to your left and to your right? When they give you information and you look over and you say, hey, how did you do this? Hey, I'm trying to build that. How are you able to bridge this gap? Hey, I'm having trouble with this You've got an opportunity to open up and I understand we live in a world where it's difficult for men to speak to men Because we don't do it that often. We're so spread out. But the beauty of this thing is we're not confined to proximity any longer We've come together Learn to speak to men like men have those discussions look them in the eyes and say, hey, I'm struggling with this I want to be better. Can you help me? The opportunity will close the window is open The lightning is flashing and it's gonna close and there's gonna be thunder for many of you But those who don't ask the questions and take that opportunity to network to build bonds to get contact information To keep each other accountable if you don't do that. This was a waste It was a waste of your time my time your money my money and everything else this entire thing's for you to disgrace to it If you don't leave here with action Don't disgrace the name of 21 con Don't disgrace the name of all these speakers. You are now a example of what it is we do If you leave here and make zero change that means this place does nothing and that's not how it works Write down your notes Have the conversations Get over your ego and and i'm an introvert i'm shy get over it Talk to people if you need to talk to them have the conversations look at the collection of men you have This is wild This is not normal for people to come together to speak in the way that we are speaking and to cover the subjects that we are covering Yet here we are you guys took the step you took the actions Let's go That's all I have