 The narcissist will never tell you this. Narcissists act arrogant and entitled. They act grandiose, as though they are better than the average person, as though they are deserving of privileges and special treatment. But deep down they know the truth. They know they have nothing to bring to the table. They might say that they have money, but it's never going to be as much as you need, or as often as you want it to be. Or they might say that they can give you sex, but they've already had lots of one-night stands with people who did nothing for them, people who were low-quality, and yet they expect you to earn it, which is why whenever they're forced to step up to the plate, they get really angry, because, deep down, they know they have nothing to offer you. When they meet a quality person, they're forced to accept this. But as long as they're able to trick you into looking at yourself, they're able to live in this delusional world. The narcissist will never tell you this, but all you really have to do is ask them whatever they have to bring to the table, and then sit back and watch their reaction. That will tell you everything you need to know, because they really have nothing to contribute to your life. They have no intentions of making your life better, because usually they just rely on their manipulation. They manipulate you with sex or money, but they will never admit the truth, because the truth does not serve them. But that is why they never grow. They hate accountability. They hate to look in the mirror. They hate thinking that they need to do something to be better. They just want to be the object of your desire right now, without putting in any work to be that. They don't want to think about what they have to bring to the table. In their minds, they are the table. In their minds, you're supposed to bring something to them, because they think that money and sex is all that matters in life. When you are dating someone, you need to vet them properly. You need to investigate them thoroughly, to ensure that they are suitable. Because these narcissists don't have anything to bring to your life, you can make your own money. And sex is very easy to get. You don't have to rely on another person for that. And it should never be the deciding factor of a person's value. You may be a productive person. You may have spent years working on the qualities and abilities that made you the person you are today. You may have your own business. So naturally, you're going to want to know what the narcissist has to offer you. You're going to want to know what they can bring to you. You're going to want to know how you can benefit from being with them. Are they going to help you with your business? Are they going to clean your home? Are they going to cook food for you? The narcissist is preoccupied with themselves. They're not even thinking about what they can do for you. Because in their minds, you're just an object that is meant to serve them. If they're helping you with something, that's going to take time away from what they're trying to do for themselves. But they think they're the best thing since life's bread. They think they're very good. They think they're very useful. But they're not. They're nothing but a detriment to your life, which is why when they get involved with you. The first thing they have to do is to make you doubt your own qualities and abilities. They have to make you doubt your own achievements and success. Because otherwise you're going to be asking this question. You're going to be wondering what they can do for you. But if they keep you in a state where you are constantly seeking their approval and validation, it takes the focus off yourself. So you never realise just how much you have to offer. And you never question what they have to bring to you. Which is why they have to make you feel like a nothing. So that you don't think you deserve anything greater. Because if you knew your true worth, you would expect a lot more. But as long as they make you question your worth, they're in control. They make decisions for you. They have this mentality of a child where they expect you to do everything for them and bring them whatever they want. But at the same time, they want to be the parent. They want to be the one who is in control. The narcissist will never tell you this. But just ask them, what do you have to bring to my life? What do you have to offer me? They won't give you an honest answer. But you just have to observe their reaction. Because they're completely delusional. They want to act like they're on the side. But then they expect the full depth of everything you have to offer. When you're only deserving of that, if you're all in, which is why you need to take the narcissist off the pedestal, see them as they actually are, recognise your own worth, and then you will start to expect more from them. Because the only reason you're so comfortable and accommodating of the treatment that you're receiving is because you've been trained to doubt your own worth. You've been taught to see yourself as less than you actually are. Thank you for watching. I hope this video resonates with you. Please like, comment, share and subscribe. If you would like to donate, my PayPal link is in the video description. Coaching inquiries. You can email me at coaching.naq-survivor.co.uk. Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon.