 And something about me is like, I want to understand things. I want to understand how people understand. And something about those stories always bothered me. And I thought to myself, well, how different would the world have been if men like my grandfather and other men like my grandfather stood up to Hitler and they didn't flee? Would World War II have stopped? Because obviously, my grandfather wasn't afraid of adversity. He'd stand up to 12 guys, probably not the best thing for a street fight. But he fled when Hitler was coming to power. And so I always pondered that. And I thought, man, why would he do that? And so one day, I was jogging. This is a true story. I was jogging in Manhattan Beach. And you get kind of meditative state sometimes when you're running. And this voice popped in my head. And it wasn't like I was hearing voices. I know the difference, but it was a thought. And this voice said to me and said, if you happen upon an injustice or a problem in your immediate world, if you happen upon an injustice in your immediate world, and you're strong enough to handle it, or you're strong enough to take care of it, it's your responsibility. And I thought, man, that's a pretty profound concept. How often, how different would the world be if men just stood up to the plate and took care of shit as it happened? How different would your world be, even if it's just a little problem? But think about governments as corruption wouldn't be able to exist. So the voice went on and said this. If there's an injustice in your immediate world and you're strong enough to handle it, it's your responsibility. If you're not, it's not. If you're not strong enough, it's not your responsibility. So my grandfather, as a child, he couldn't do anything to stop those men, right? He was strong enough to not speak out and let it affect him adversely later on. But one thing about trauma in children is it'll happen, they'll either become victimized their entire life or they'll strengthen their character. And so I believe that my grandfather's character was strengthened. And so this voice said, realistically, what would he have done in Nazi Germany? What could he have done? He was a farmer. He was a simple man. So he probably got himself killed. And it concluded with this. And remember, this is just a thought. These are probably my thoughts. But it concluded with this. And it said, and don't let the fact that although some things might be too much for you to handle, don't let that stop you from doing amazing things because you're certainly stronger than you think you are, even in times when your body tells you you're not, right? So think about that, guys. I think that's about our time. Or we could do some Q&A. Guys, do we have any questions in a second here? You can read it. This is pertaining to what you talked about. Masha Arts and Doronga Technica you think don't work. Yep. So it says, when certain techniques don't work in a pressure scenario, sometimes isn't it worth it to tweak the technique rather than throw it out? Yeah. Don't throw it out before you know it doesn't work, before you come to that. Any time you come to a conclusion, you're deleting something. And so you have to uncover the cause of your own ignorance. And oftentimes, people will throw things out before they really work them. So you really have to. It's a process of discovery. You have to figure out when you're throwing things out too soon or when you're sticking with them too long, right? And that's very difficult to do. It's a discernment. And it's something that you'll get from your experience. But it's also a very, it's human nature to do that. A lot of times we'll stick with things just out of stubbornness because we want to do it or because we see no other solution. Whereas other times we don't stick with it long enough, right? There's always see that meme of the guy that's chipping away and he's building a tunnel and then he turns around right when there's all these diamonds a few inches away, right? But sometimes when it comes to being spontaneous and creating more action, it's sometimes better to just drop it and come back to it later and do something else, right? In LP, what do they say? They're like, if what you're doing isn't working, do anything else. So depending on the context, be careful not to throw things out too soon. But at the same time, if you're in the shit and you ain't working, change it, do something else. Come back to it later on. And that's a good philosophy for Jiu-Jitsu. I know there's some guys that train. OK, there's three more questions here. How do you choose slash identify a good coach for martial arts? What makes them a good coach? Well, once again, that depends on you. We're all individuals and you can have the best coach in the world, but he could have the personality of a diet crouton, right? And if he doesn't jive with you, that's your first thing. If you feel uncomfortable around somebody, that's good. But also, one of the things you can do is look at them. Their training method, if it has the pressure testing, if they're spontaneous, if they drill, if he has an eye for reality, and also if the coach himself is not just there to teach classes, he's there to help you progress, right? That can be a rare thing, because sometimes guys are just clock in the clock, right? They're just clocking in. But you want to find somebody who is genuine and look at his students, look at his senior students. If those guys are good in their particular area, because maybe you'll just go to somebody for boxing, if you look at his students and they've got skill, then he's a good technical trainer. And then the rest of it is personality, right? And that's something that you have to decide. Because I've done this and I've spent years and years with people who are not the best to be around for other areas of your life. But as long as you're clear on that, there's no problem with going with somebody just for their technical skill. But once again, it depends on what areas are you trying to shore up and how good is that guy in that area. In my opinion, you want experts in each area. I'd seek out the top guys for everything, right? And it doesn't matter if it's martial arts. You want the best guys. So over time, you'll get the edge. I can look at somebody and see if they're good. I mean, I've got to see them move or do something, but within a short time, I can tell if they know their stuff or not. Okay, one, well, two more questions here. How do you spar without getting punched in the head so much you lose IQ points? How do you avoid injury? Yeah, number one, don't ask Steve. He does not know how not to get hit and punched in the face. You can spar with pressure without getting in the kitchen and being rock'n'sock'n'robots, right? You don't have to put on the headgear, but it requires good training partners. And there'll be some contact, but you kind of have in certain ranges, when you're close and you're throwing an elbow, you're simulating the elbow. You're not really gonna throw it. And the same thing with the punches, you'll, somebody's gotta have a certain level of skill so they don't really knock you out, right? And if you're going to go that route because you do need to experience that at some point, you will never know how you're going to react to a punch until you get punched. I don't care. I don't care what you say or what you think. If you've never been punched, you don't know how you're going to react. Everybody reacts differently, albeit similarly in different ways. So, those are some of the few things, but how do you train, you can improve, there are drills to improve your head movement and get somebody who has boxing gloves and starts slow, do it out of movement and move your head and you'll start seeing things. Sometimes a student's problem is their line familiarization, their visual acuity is in tune. And so you have to do attribute training, do weapons training to get them to start seeing different lines of attack, right? And sometimes the training method doesn't train lines of attack, like Brazilian jiu-jitsu doesn't train, isn't going to attack you with all this crazy stuff standing up. So you're never gonna develop that visual acuity and that's part of that attribute training. Okay, this last question is actually a combination of two, but one said, how do you increase your in-the-zone moments and the combination is, so I'm artfully doing, is what is it about violence or sex or extreme situation that taps us into that flow state? First question was, how do you get in the zone more often? Ecstasy. That's very good, that's it. Yeah. No, it's training. You gotta do the training methods with, you gotta be in situations that force you to be spontaneous that put you in the pressure and that have a liveness. You have to have a lot of movement and spatial relationship, right? Because it's the training, the focus, it's being able to see and move and respond to all the different stimuli in your environment and that requires being presently focused. So a lot of sparring, a lot of knife sparring, stick sparring, sparring on the ground, movement drills where your opponent moves and you're just maintaining a certain distance, anything with movement and also you can get into a very good meditative state while you're training and we call it thinking without thinking. There is no thought and you will notice it. There is no internal dialogue. And the last part was, what is about extreme sex and violence? Those are primal drivers, right? We are programmed as men to go out and procreate and continue the species, right? And part of that is once you get a band, once you get your tribe, you're gonna have to protect it against other men because we wanna be the top dog biologically, right? So fighting and fucking are tapping into this very similar types of primal instincts that are in us biologically, in my opinion, right? And so we're tapping in these primal drivers, like we probably have a species memory of just fighting for your life on the battlefield and or fighting off tigers and it's ingrained in you. And what I do suggest is that once you get actualized, these drivers become activated as well. And so you'll feel more confident as you walk through the world, right? Because I'm not a big, I'm not a tough guy, but sometimes I feel like my balls are this big just because of the feeling. And I don't really know where it comes from, but I suspect that it's something that's ingrained in us and we kinda turn it on. And some people have it more naturally and also I think it's being purposely shut down in men, through all sorts of mechanisms. So we gotta fight to get it back. It doesn't mean you have to be the alpha male and be all this, but you don't wanna negate that side of yourself. You don't want it to overpower you, be as much in touch with your feminine side as your masculine side and balance the two. But if you're short on the range in any one area, there's some guys who have never been in a violent, angry rage. And there's some guys who are always in a violent, angry rage. And you need to have that balance, but you'll have the behavioral flexibility through doing this type of expression. Because also with this training, goes back to my first talk, you're forced to turn the killer instinct on and off. That means you're channeling your emotions, all of your intent, all of your fear, your anger goes right into killing your opponent. And you have to have that commitment, but then shut it off. Because the moment your past doesn't work, you've gotta go back to, okay, gotta change my focus, gotta watch out for multiple opponents. But when you decide to make your entry, your killing shots, you go with 100% intent. And that in turn, that wakes up the real primal drivers. So if you haven't watched my first speech, it's all about that. It's all about that, I really believe it. So. We still have a few more minutes. Does anybody else have another question? Being a beginner in this kind of thing, if I wanna go down this road of martial arts or MMA, are there any particular systems you would recommend or how would I start down this route? Well, first of all, get clear on what you want. For me, I'm a lifelong martial artist. So I'll do some martial arts just because I wanna, I'll do Tai Chi just to experience a different thing. And I know that it's not directly translated into the street, although you can push somebody and there's about 1% of Tai Chi that you can use in the street. But there's so many other benefits. So you have to get clear on what you want. If you say, okay, well, I wanna be, because some guys are martial artists and they're competitors, right? Some guys want the experience of getting in the cage. If you want that experience, you wanna compete. Go to Brazilian Jiu Jitsu for the grappling, do competitions. If you want to get in the cage, do MMA. If you want to really get good at your kickboxing, do sava and do tai boxing, right? Find a really good G-Kondo instructor who's gonna have pretty much everything for you, right? They're rare, but they are out there. So a good G-Kondo and a good Krav Maga instructor will have, provide this school, if they spar and they do, sometimes it's really watered down. They'll look at, they'll take like two things from Jiu Jitsu and then they'll add it and they'll go, okay, we're a complete art. But they don't actually develop the ground fighting. You've got to, in every particular range, look at that range and look at the arts that are sparring within that range, right? And if they can actually apply it, then that's where you'll go to get that. But you have to get clear on what you want. And some guys, they wanna compete. Some guys, they're lifelong martial arts, but they're gonna take a certain period and just focus on Brazilian Jiu Jitsu or a certain period where they're just gonna focus on their striking or their MMA or even wrestling and judo. So all those things, combat arts, sombo, judo, wrestling, tai boxing, savat, boxing, Western boxing, Brazilian Jiu Jitsu, catches, catch, wrestling, shoot wrestling, all those. And if you get a good JKD guy, he's gonna have most of that stuff. Makes sense? Any other questions here? All right, let's give it up for Ed Aitman. Awesome guys, thank you, appreciate it.