 All right, Leah Hoover says question. How do you know when you're in love and it's not attachment or the amago? How do you know when you're in love and it's not attachment or the ah mago? It's very simple It feels good It feels good. It feels good When it doesn't feel good It's usually something wrong It could be it could be the amago it could be attachment It could be that they're a narcissist. It could be you're not ready It could be you know, it could be issues with you. It could be issues with them when it doesn't feel good That's usually your barometer. Now. It's very hard because in the beginning It's always feels good because when you're amped up on lust and limerence and you're all excited and you're amped up On dopamine and testosterone and estrogen it feels so good And then you fuck your brains out together and the sex feels great And then all of a sudden it stops feeling good and it's usually not feeling good because You don't share the same values your lifestyles aren't blendable or worse the emotional maturity for one of both of you is Almost non-existent. In fact, I truly believe that 80% of the single population dating today have weak Emotional skills at best. This is one of the reasons why I continually recommend reading two books To learn how to communicate better I highly recommend reading the book non-violent communication by Marshall Rosenberg and then everybody if you reside after me Before the penis goes inside the vagina you read the books together eight dates by doctors John and Julie Gottman Eight dates before the penis goes inside the vagina Because ultimately What causes most relationship to stress is that they're not Compatible with one another they're not emotionally mature with one another and there's usually either one person is You know, it's interesting. I did a poll I wrote myself a note here I want to share this with you you guys might find this interesting because I'm experiencing this myself I called resistance resistance Okay resistance If I'm feeling resistance, it's because either a I'm picking up on their energy of Resistance, I'm repeat that I'm picking up on their energy of resistance be My gut says we're not a match for one another my gut says we're not a match for one another or I'm feeling fear. I'm feeling fear and when I'm feeling fear it means I'm not ready When I'm feeling fear. So resistance is either I'm picking up on their energy My gut is telling me we're not right or I'm feeling fear It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter which one of the three is because the resistance is there Which means take a step backward and look inward within yourself Take a step backward and look inward in yourself And so coming back to your question How do you know when you're in love and it's not attachment? because it just feels right it just feels good and Most cup by the way talk to any couple that's been married a long enough time They will tell you it just feels right and when it feels off you've got to decide Are you picking up on their energy? Is it your gut talking or is it your own fear? Which means you might have to do some work great question. Leah. Thank you so much for that one. I really appreciate it