 You cannot have a genuine conversation with the narcissist, you cannot emotionally connect to them, you cannot get them to see your point of view and this is not due to a fault that you have made, it is because the narcissist is either incapable of having a genuine conversation with you or they just have no desire to do so. Narcissists are self-absorbed and lack empathy. They only care about their own needs, when you first meet them it may seem as though they are taking an interest in you, it may seem as though they actually care about what you want or how you feel but they are just using you for their own needs, they are studying you, they are trying to gather information about you so that they can then secure you as a source of supply. It has nothing to do with them wanting to get to know you, they don't even care about you, they don't even care about your feelings or your interests, it means nothing to them unless they can use it to benefit themselves in some way. That's the only time when it might seem as though they actually care about you, when then or getting their needs met or when they have to manipulate you to get what they want and it may seem as though they care, it may seem as though they are taking an interest in you but they really don't care, it's still all about them. The narcissist lacks empathy, they cannot understand you, they cannot share your feelings, they have a limited capacity to understand or feel what you are experiencing from within your frame of reference, they have a limited capacity to place themselves in your position, they cannot relate to what you are experiencing so they cannot help you, they cannot put themselves in your shoes which leaves you feeling invalidated, it leaves you feeling alone and as though your feelings do not matter, it makes you feel as though you don't even exist, rather than empathising with you or trying to understand or feel what you are experiencing, the narcissist will project their emotions onto you, empathy is seeing how others feel, the narcissist can only see how they feel and that is what they will project onto you, they will bring up their own feelings and experiences and then project them onto you, leaving you feeling invalidated, leaving you feeling as though they weren't even listening to anything you were saying and most of the time they won't be unless it relates to them in some way, if you are not directly talking about the narcissist they won't even be listening to what you are saying, they will be waiting with you to finish talking so that they can then bring up their own experiences and then project their emotions onto you, they have no interest in what you have to say, they have no interest in what you are going through unless it affects them in some way, unless they feel as though they might lose out on something, that is the only time that they will care and even then they are still going to project their emotions onto you, they are going to shift the blame onto you and make you feel as though it is your fault, you cannot have a genuine conversation with the narcissist, you cannot have a deep emotional connection, you cannot talk about the things that really matter or really mean something to you, the narcissist has no interest in anything other than themselves and they do not have the capacity to understand or share your feelings and this then leaves you feeling alone and invalidated, feeling as though you are in the relationship by yourself, thank you for watching, I hope this video resonated with you, please like, comment, share and subscribe, click the bell icon to receive notifications for my future videos, if you have liked this video then hey, my paypal links in the video description, coaching and inquiries you can email me at notforthercoaching at gmail.com, thank you for watching and I will talk to you soon.