 When the narcissist won't stop obsessing over you, when they're constantly talking and worrying about you It's because the thought of you preoccupies and fills their minds continually and to a troubling extent They keep thinking about you and they find it difficult to think about anything else They will attach themselves to you and they will try to get you to attach to them When you realize what they're trying to do You may try to avoid them But they cannot deal with rejection It causes a narcissistic injury It makes them chased after you even more They can't accept that you don't want to deal with them So they start talking about you to other people They try to assassinate your character They starts mere campaigns Because if you're not going to be with them They don't want you to be with anyone at all They can't deal with the thought of you living your life without them Their excuse for their behavior is Usually that they're meant to be the victim as though you did something to them and that is why they're doing what they're doing But it never makes sense It never justifies their behavior It doesn't make any logical sense for them to behave in that way They're just very emotional They're getting in their feelings because you don't want anything to do with them You've observed some of their behaviors and something doesn't seem right about them So now you don't want to be involved with them anymore You try to exit the situation You tried to get yourself out of harm's way But the problem with a lot of these narcissists Is that they are establishing relationships in their minds Without your knowledge and awareness Without your consensual agreement In their minds You are together This is a part of their disorder Their thoughts and emotions are so different They're so impaired That they have lost contact with the external reality They cannot give up their way of thinking and feeling about you Because of these ideas that they've created in their own minds Which you are not participating with If you try to leave or go no contact with them It will cause a narcissist injury They will feel like you have abandoned them Because they have these fantasies in their minds Of who they think you are And what they think you're going to be to them They don't want to accept that you're not a willing participant You're not choosing to be involved with them If it does ever come to their attention They will try to cause the disturbance and disruption They will try to cause drama and chaos So even though you don't want anything to do with them They're after you now They're hunting you down They will make it seem like you were more involved than you actually were As though you had planned to spend the rest of your lives together They're playing this out in their minds So when you try to move on You end up with a stalker You have this person who is obsessed with you This person who can't let things go Because they think it's more than what it actually is Because of these ideas that they've been entertaining in their minds They're delusional They cannot escape their own fantasy That they have created Once you decide to remove yourself from the situation They're not having it They're still coming after you They're on your social media While they're making false statements about you And trying to damage your reputation This is the crazy part about it Because if you don't like something Whether it's a food or a TV show You're not going to keep going back to it If you're a normal, functional person But people who are mentally, psychologically or intellectually deficient Will still return to the things they say are not good for them To the things they say are not right This is one of the first things to look for in most disorders When a person keeps returning to something they say they don't like When they keep returning to something that is no good for them There's something wrong with them Because a normal, functional person Is not going to entertain something that they don't like They're not going to entertain something That they don't agree with But these types of people will Because they have an obsession They can't just move on They have to constantly occupy your interest or attention They have to try to involve you in something They have to establish contact or connection with you Because they are mentally deteriorating Due to their inability to control you Or being influenced in your life You cannot be friendly with a narcissist They expect the situation to play out in the way that they see it in their minds They want everything to be their way So you have to completely detach from them You cannot remain friends Because they're going to see it as though you made an agreement or promised to do something for them Due to the fantasies that they made up in their minds So they're not just going to settle for a piece of the pie That's not going to be good enough for them Because you've already caused a narcissistic injury by rejecting them So even when you think you've got rid of them They're still creeping around somewhere They're staying around secretly Waiting to appear They're spying on you They cannot stop themselves There's something causing them emotional distress As a result of arousing feelings or memories Associated with a particular traumatic experience So now they feel the need to always check in on what you're doing Because they always feel like they may be missing out on something When it becomes more difficult for them to maintain control over you That is when they will act out even more They're very emotional So they're not thinking logically They're not thinking about what is right or not right to go against They're just acting on their feelings Narcissists are very sick people So they will obsess over you They will stalk and harass you Just be aware of it Protect yourself Because they don't have lives of their own They have nothing else to do Nothing that's more significantly important in their lives There's no meaning or purpose to their existence So they place significance and importance on things that are irrelevant Things that don't even matter in the grand scheme of things They turn molehills into mountains They're making silent agreements in their minds About things that you are unaware of Things that you did not agree to And yet they expect you to fulfill these agreements That you have no knowledge or awareness of Thank you for watching I hope this video resonates with you Please like, comment, share and subscribe If you would like to donate My PayPal link is in the video description Coaching queries You can email me at coaching.ncvver.uk Thank you for watching and I'll talk to you soon