 So if you are holding out for a perfect finish, a perfect closure, a neat tying up with a ball on it as it were, you may never get that. And what you get instead is you get the best that you could do in the circumstances that life dealt you. My father was not going to cooperate in me having a more complete closure than I knew I would get. So what do you do? You either live with the poor closure you got and it ripping into you for the rest of your life, or you decide I am not going to get this with their help. So I will close it by myself. And that's what I began to do, because closure does not need someone else's participation if that is not what's available to you.