 Well hello and welcome to understand men now. I'm Jonathan assay of Jonathan assay.com And I'm so excited to be shooting this short video for you today our topic how to build Trust trust with a high-quality man. How to build I'm thinking should be trust like this or like this. Well, and and don't lean back Really quickly if this content if after this video this content resonates with you and you'd like to learn more about what I have To offer check out the links in the description. I have an amazing group I've got a free discovery call with me to see if working with the coaches right for you. I've got book recommendations We got a lot to cover today. Okay, so how do we build trust trust with that high-quality man? What does that look like? I Demonstrated like this because I feel like trust is kind of a Mutual thing. So let's talk about trust today Everybody talks about how trust is so important in a relationship and actually trust is built by developing roots in the Relationship by developing roots. So trust takes time to build Okay Now the difference between an average man a high-quality man and what I mean by average man is someone who hasn't healed Childhood wounds and traumas who is still in the midst of chaos in his life It doesn't matter what you do It's going to be incredibly hard to build trust when someone's life is in chaos. They're going through a divorce They have a contentious ex they've got issues with children. They've got issues with work. They've got health issues They've got elderly parents in other words their time is consumed by the outside Well, not the outside world but come from your perspective. It looks like the outside world But they're their world is in a bit of turmoil or chaos It's incredibly difficult to build trust to build those roots in relationship But when you're with a high-quality man who and when I mean by high quality, he's emotionally available He's emotionally mature. He's an emotional grown-up and Watch my videos. I've got lots of video videos on emotional maturity so you can recognize that I even have a podcast called the five signs of emotional maturity on my podcast called the what would love do podcast Let me ask you have you listened to my podcast on Apple? There's a link below to my podcast check out the five signs of emotional maturity You're definitely going to want to watch this or listen to it So you can get a sense of how that high quality man that emotionally mature man shows up But and how do you build trust with them? Well, I said trust I did a meme called trust is built in the light in the light in the light in other words the light shining, right and in that light trust is trust represents vulnerability authenticity and transparency vulnerability authenticity Transparency in other words, it's about speaking your truth to a man Ladies you so many of you are stuffing your feelings you're stuffing your emotions because you're afraid you're going to lose a guy And you're not speaking your truth and chapter one in my book What the heck is self-love anyway chapter one is speak your truth do it with kindness loving yourself is Being able to speak your truth to anyone Well when I say to anyone to anyone that matters to you and There's another chapter in this book when it's sincere and from the heart You can never say the wrong thing to the right person So I want you to lean into being vulnerable with someone Now it doesn't mean sharing secrets or giving away, you know your heart to someone, but it's okay to be vulnerable It's okay to say I'm scared I'm nervous. I have insecurities It's okay to say that we men aren't going to shy away from that per se If we feel like you're dependent upon us to heal your wounds, then yeah, we're going to run away Because it's not our job to heal your wounds It's our job to support you, but it starts by being vulnerable and what that also means is leaning into authenticity Authenticity means it's sincere. It's from the heart It's not coming from this angry agitated place of fear and then Transparency transparency means sharing your truth the ladies we build when you demonstrate Trust to us by being vulnerable by being authentic to by being transparent week It's leading by example. It invites us to do the same and I'm going to tell you listen. I work with a lot of women I work with I mean every day every week. I've got number of clients many of them are in relationships Many are also single and looking for love and the ones in relationship every time they call me up in a panic over something I I frame what they say to their guy I'm teaching them how to frame things in a way that's seen heard and understood and then all of a sudden the guide responds back favorably Because and the reason why that is is because it's sincere and from the heart I'm able to to reframe what's going on inside of you So if you need help with that schedule a discovery call Because that's I'm a master at that but let me ask you Why are you so afraid? Why are you so afraid to speak to men that you care about please post a comment? Is it the fear of losing him because you can't lose the right person? Only if you sabotage it can you lose the right person? But that means you weren't the right person in relationship and you definitely need to be loving on yourself This is one of the reasons why I recommend so many books to read and if you haven't read the book eight dates by Dr. John Gottman you got to check this out to learn how a healthy happy relationship how trust is built You know, it's funny some woman wrote on a comment recently that Jonathan all you do is share books You provide no value and I'm like ladies. Let me ask you have the books been helping Have the books been helping because I like to think when we read and learn we can listen We've been living in this fantasy that Hollywood is gonna save us and Cinderella is gonna or Disney is gonna save us in the world of Relationship and that's not true. You have to read and learn the mechanics of a healthy happy relationship Have you been doing that? Please post a comment below. Let me know if you have because that's here what I'm here to invite you to do How is trust built With men oftentimes it's leading by example High quality men. Here's the deal though high quality men. They already lead but they they follow the four agreements They follow their four agreements. They're impeccable with their word. They don't make projections They don't make assumptions and they do their best The four agreements high quality men. You don't have to worry about losing those guys So if you want to build trust lead by example trust is built in the light vulnerability Anticipity and transparency is this landing for you? I hope it is All right If you found value in this and you do want to schedule a call to see if working with the coach is right for you Check out the link below to schedule a free discovery call. Check out my podcast Check out my book recommendations and if you can't afford coaching, I've got a VIP group Check out the link below to my VIP group for $20 a month You can have direct access to me through a Facebook page and a once a month webinar We can ask questions over the thumb. Yeah, I'm gonna wrap up this video as I always do first off giving myself a big gigantic bear Hug of self love. I'm gonna reach into the camera and give you a hug of love if that's okay I'm gonna ask you to turn to someone and give them a hug of love because hugs are a great source of love And we can all use more love in our lives. Thanks a bunch and wishing you a fabulous day. Bye. Bye now