 hello everyone welcome again to another Narks by the live video this time I'm at this lake the Sun is just going down in the back if you saw me in the live video yesterday you may have seen that I was in the mountains and then later last night I came down and then I drove again today to get to here this lake just traveling around exploring everything so in this one we are going to be talking about how narcissists feel when you get rid of them because we we should or rather you should probably already know exactly how they feel when you are around them sometimes they're manipulating you the love bombing you they're trying to make you feel good about being with them as a means for them to have control over you and use you as their narcissistic extension so that they can feel however they like through manipulating you but then other times they like to devalue you they insult you and put you down they make you feel like you are less than them without your badge you're crazy you're wrong whatever it may be and again that's just a means to gain power and control over you because as I've said before they are very insecure they have low self-esteem so they need an external regulator you know like most of us we have this thing inside of ourselves that helps us to manage our emotions so that our emotions don't lead to dysfunctional behaviors narcissists do not have that and instead for them to regulate their emotions they need an external regulator they need a narcissistic extension and of course that's what you were to them especially if you are an empath you're there as an emotional sponge to absorb their emotions and that's just what they use you for but the crazy thing is as you may have noticed even when you were doing that for them most of the time they were still miserable I mean sometimes they would abuse you they would put you down they would project these negative emotions onto you and then by doing that they would suddenly feel better about themselves they would suddenly calm down for a moment and sometimes you might see the narcissistic smirk as well because they're enjoying it they find pleasure in your pain especially if they are malignant but even then it doesn't last for long and they never really experience the depth of positive emotions that we can they can't experience true happiness as you may have noticed while you were around them you couldn't experience consistent happiness either because as soon as they saw that they had to take it away from you they had to break it down they had to do whatever they could to destroy it so that you could not feel that emotion because it reflected back to them of how they have these emotional issues they lack effective empathy and as I've said before there is a link that is the reason a lot of times why they cannot experience this depth of emotions because they really experience that high a lot of times it means that you need to let go of that resistance you need to give something out so that it then has that exchange of energy which is not so that narcissists do because they don't have anything to give all they have as a void and that's why you will find that you can't experience consistent happiness around them because even while you're giving energy out it's just getting sucked into the void and you're getting nothing back in return you're not being replenished so the longer that you spend around them the more that it just completely drains you and at times you even feel it in your chest in your solar plexus you will get this weird feeling as though it's just being pulled out of you and it's being sucked into this void it just disappears without a trace and then it's never seen again you never get it back so with all of this in mind I mean just think that when they're around you they've got this external regulator this person to regulate their emotions and then they can live vicariously through you so once you take you out of the picture and you're gone and you've left them behind you've gotten rid of them and they're left alone to their own devices of course yes they feel miserable it's not like how it is for us because yes well we're around the narcissist it feels more lonely than if we were alone but then when we get some time to ourselves we start to feel a lot better we feel more at peace with ourselves but it's not like that for them because they cannot regulate their own emotions from within they need an external regulator to do that for them which is known as their narcissistic supply and that's what you were to them that's what I've been to many narcissists as well and it's no fun it's no fun being that to a person it's just something for them to manipulate use and abuse so that they can feel better about themselves even then they can never even develop this connection to you even while they're extracting all of this energy and emotions from you because you're just an extension of them people are just extensions they're just objects that the narcissist uses to get their needs met and that's all that it is that's all that it's ever going to be it's never going to be anything more than that because there is nothing more than that all that exists within a narcissist is a void and I know you will have felt it just as I have if you spend enough time around them these arguments often they go on for hours at some point it gets to a point where you just feel completely drained because you've lost everything to this void you feel like you've had the life and the energy sucked out of you to this narcissistic person because they're using you to regulate their emotions they can't do that on their own they need to have a source of supply to do it and that is why a lot of times even when you try to get rid of them they will come back they will hoof at you they will try to get your attention again and if they think they've got a chance they may try love bombing you but if they know you're no longer susceptible to their manipulation then they'll just go straight to the devaluation they'll play the victim they'll just do whatever it takes to get your attention so that they get that hit they get that supply because that's all they're really looking for they're not looking for love they're not looking for a relationship they're not looking for connection none of that all they're looking for is someone to regulate their emotions I don't know sometimes it's confusing looks like they've moved on to someone else they've got this new supply but a lot of times that new supply is someone just like them it's just another narcissist and it may be one who is grandiose so they're portraying this illusion to you they're just manipulating you again to get your supply because they're struggling to get supply from another narcissist it just doesn't typically work that way with them I mean narcissists they typically know what each other are about but yet they still do like to play pretend because to see that that or what else can they do and then they use a solution to hit you because unlike them yes you do have energy and emotions you have so much more to give and they want that they want to get it from you because it fuels them and what really fuels them more than anything else is your resistance in any moment a sadistic emotional predator what they want more than anything else is for you to resist they want to mentally rape your mind and they do that of course as we know by triangulating you even when you try to get rid of them they bring in this other person and it's meant to disturb you disgust you it's meant to make you pull away because then this predator this this rapist pretty much is then getting their supply through your resistance you see they can't do things the way that normal people do it doesn't work that way for them because they suffered a lot of trauma in their childhoods they can't experience functionality they thrive in dysfunction by always being in opposition to you and getting you to oppose or resist that's how they gain their power over you which of course is very difficult to very different to a normal person I mean with normal people like if you ever met me or you talked with me and we were having a conversation it would be more about finding common ground things that we agree on I'm typically quite an agreeable person even if I don't agree with someone or something I'm not going to completely oppose them or completely resist them but that's what narcissists have to do because they have a void and I know it's hard to believe sometimes that there's really nothing inside of them but just look at it for what it is when you're around them how do you feel you could just feel the life and energy being sucked up with you it's being completely drained and then they're able to manipulate you and gas like you don't but anyway you don't even know who you are you lose touch with yourself because they have no identity of their own they don't know who they are a lot of times they don't even need a therapist that's an oncologist to even tell you that just pay attention to your emotions your intuition that will tell you everything that you need to know they are energy vampires it will suck the life out of you and at the same time they run off they try and get you with their new supply and act like oh everything you wanted from them everything they future fit with you now they're finally giving that to them no they're not it's all lies it's all fake it's all bullshit they just want you to believe in it so that they can get supply from you I saw that there is all they've got there's manipulation lies future faking these head games everything they do is just a means to get supply as I've said before the best whatever get from them is an illusion that's all you're ever going to get from me narcissist it is all fake and I know it's hard to accept accept sometimes for many years I did not want to accept it the last thing I wanted to think was that there really is nothing inside of a narcissist I at least wanted to believe that there must be this inner child this emotionally undeveloped self but you know the more I look into it and the more experiences I've had with narcissists the more it just proves to me but yes in fact there is nothing inside of them at all there really is nothing there and of course that's why they need us so bad so that they can get supply from us it may look like they have something in the beginning trust and believe the longer that you spend around them just pay attention to your energy your emotions you gradually start to feel more and more tired it's like you lose touch with yourself you start to feel like you're losing your mind the sun's gone down now the moon is out as you know I do love a good lake when I'm in the UK I often travel to the lake district I've done quite a few videos there already but it is getting quite dark out here may just walk back to the car now let's go back to the car turn the lights on then it's easier to see but yes you just got to remember how it was when you were with them in the relationship they were always miserable they were always angry but as I've said before a narcissist has two sides to them it's like Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde the nice side of them as we know yes that's fake people often refer to that as the false character but in fact believe it or not even the angry person the one who is trying to harm you even that character is fake as well neither of them are real they're both just they're just groups of behaviors that they've learned somewhere else and that's all that there is I saw that it is just groups of behaviors that they've learned from other people and then they use that against you and of course this is why it's like no matter who your narcissist is doesn't matter the gauge or gender or what part of the world they're from they all act exactly the same and that's how we're able to build these communities on YouTube and other platforms as well and when you see these videos just like we've already met the narcissist that you were dealing with even though we haven't but yes they are all pretty much the same they all react in the exact same way and whenever you're around them any energy that you have any sense of self just gets sucked into the void and you begin to lose touch with yourself and who you are which they then use to gas like you and call you crazy but then as soon as you get away from them you start to feel better and that's really how you know exactly how they feel because whenever you're around them you should notice the shift and your energy your vibration your emotions it all starts to go down which means that theirs is going up they're feeding off your energy and emotions and that's how you know that their natural state of being is very low they can't experience a depth of positive emotions like we can they don't have that level of energy they can fake it for a moment they can give you the illusion but over time you will see that it isn't real but no matter what you do they will always try and twist it on you they will project it onto you they will deflect it they will say that it's you you don't know who you are you're crazy trust me i know what it's like of being there before even i've had to deal with that myself as crazy as that may sound i mean just look at me i've got over five years of videos on youtube i still have narcissists gaslighting me making me feel like i'm not who i say i am i'm a fraud i'm all of these things it does not matter who you are what you do to a narcissist anything they can do it's just for their emotional survival and that's all they're really concerned with they don't care about anything else they will do whatever it takes to gaslight you into submission and they will use their new suppliers while to try and delete you to try to make you believe in their bullshit again but it's no different to what they had with you it was all fake and it will always be fake doesn't matter who they're with it's always going to be the same they are never going to have anything real if they were going to have something real they would have had something real with you they had the opportunity to have that with you so why didn't they how can they not care about you for all of that time and then they can move on and suddenly care about someone else that doesn't make any sense they don't just change overnight a narcissist can and will do anything they are capable of anything and you should know that by what you've experienced with them it shows what they are capable of and of course they are capable of that very same thing with someone else everything you see from them it's all fake it's an orchestration it's just planned to do to produce their desired effect to manipulate your emotions it's all just a show a false image a false appearance and the entire time that you are with them and I know myself I've experienced it you fall into this fantasy this illusion you actually start to believe that what you have is real or maybe you're telling other people you're saying you've got this great relationship you've met this amazing person you're posting these pictures on social media and everyone is convinced that you have something you found someone but it's all just a lie it's all fake it's all a fantasy it's just something that has been induced in your mind and it's a fantasy that you share with a narcissist but it's not even real and as time goes by you start to realize it but sadly you're the other one who knows because only you see what goes on behind closed doors yes I've experienced that I know what it's like and yet the narcissist still has the nerve to act like they've moved on and they found new supply I know they're so much happier without you they're posting their new supply on social media but again it's no different than what they had with you it's exactly the same it's just more manipulation and it's all intended to extract your energy and emotions because they live vicariously through you they can't experience anything directly authentically they don't have the ability to do that because they lack effective empathy and if they had effective empathy they would not have treated you in the way that they did they would never have done that to you so this is how you know that whatever you see from them on social media they are full of shit everything you see it's all a lie it's all a show it's a facade it isn't real but then that also includes us what we had with them that was not real as well it may have felt real to us but they just manipulated us they reflected back to us our own qualities and virtues so that it appeared to resonate with us when it wasn't even real it wasn't genuine on their part it was just a means for them to get their narcissistic supply but you're not alone I mean this is just the sad reality of the world that we live in today as I said I mean the only way you can really experience anything directly and authentically is if you do possess high amount of effective empathy and in this world that we live in only one to two percent of the world's population are empaths which is why when you look back for your life your family your friends your coworkers everyone that you've been involved with you look back and it's like you've never experienced a genuine connection in your entire life and that's why it's very rare I take these narcissists have the nerve to act like they've moved on and now they've suddenly become empaths when it's like hold on if you had high amounts of effective empathy you never would have left me in this state to begin with because the alarm bells would have been ringing inside your head and that is how you know that yes it is all a lie it's a facade and it's all just about getting your attention because you are the real one you are the real empath so if they can gain a hold of your effective empathy and use it as a means to control you and to validate the illusion it just makes it seem more believable and real for them it allows them to sink even deeper into their fantasy which is all a narcissist really wants if you shine the light of truth and reality in front of them they will push it away and in fact they may even go to discourage you because they want nothing to do with it they will only remain around you as long as they feel like they have the means to manipulate you to pull you even deeper into the illusion with them to pull you down the rabbit hole because that's all that they really want they want to live a lie or some of them they may not want to live a lie but they don't really have any other choice they've done so many things in their lives they've got so many skeletons in the closet so all they can do is continue to bear the truth all they can do is live a lie they're not going to come back to you and try to make things right they will hoover you but even then it's just more manipulation they don't really care about you they're just looking at it to see what they can get from for themselves I know the light today is very good in you you could only see half of my face but yeah I think this is an important message because I know it's hard for those of you who see it on social media after everything they did to you they abused you and then they always go to showcase their new supply like they're so much happier without you but that just isn't the truth they're just doing it to hurt you and to get supply from you that's all they're really trying to do so yes they are still miserable without you and no matter what they're always going to be miserable they're always going to be in pain it's always going to be that way for them because they just don't want to deal with the truth they have too much shame it's too painful for them to deal with so they bury it and they just live in this lie this delusion and that's just the only way they're ever going to be able to experience life by living vicariously through other people by trying to provoke feelings of envy and jealousy within you so that they can live vicariously through you and believe that what they have is real or special and deep down they already know that it's fake but if they can get you to believe it it's you as the empath then it makes it feel more real it makes it seem more believable to them and that's all they really care about that's all they really protect to defend is the illusion that's the only thing that really matters to a narcissist because it makes them feel good about themselves it tells them that there's nothing wrong with them and everything wrong with you which is why they will defend the illusion and the false narrative with their lives because without that it feels like life would deaf to them they wouldn't know what to do but as for you you should be thankful you should feel grateful you don't have to live a lie with a narcissist you don't have to live a fake life instead you can just be you you can focus on yourself you can do the things that you want to do and you can experience real genuine happiness which of course is something that a narcissist can't do let them continue with their games their silly manipulations they're doing the same things they've been doing their entire lives the exact same things they were doing as a child to manipulate their parents are the only differences now they've managed to find a way to use it to manipulate adults especially for the use of technology and social media that's all that it is but the inner workings of them that's one thing that's not going to change they're always going to be miserable they're always going to be angry they're always going to be pointing the finger at you and trying to make you feel bad about yourself the last thing they're ever going to do is self reflect because they are disconnected from themselves and their emotions again that's another reason why they can't experience the depth of positive emotions like we can so yeah don't let it get to you no matter what you see don't let yourself lose any sleep over it it is all fake it's not real what you have is real especially after you move on from them then what you have is very real so i don't want to stay too long on here i'm going to get something to eat and find a place to stay for tonight but i do hope that this video has resonated with you if it has you can give it a thumbs up down below and let me know what you think about this video if you agree with it or not in the comment section i read your commentary day and as always i will talk to you in another video