 That ain't my face, ain't oilin' now. My new, my new phase routine. Get marchin' right. Get this head set up. Let me see, now this should just be for the Blast Tribe members in here. Okay, Blast Tribe right now. LaShon, Scalinda, how y'all doin' Lisa? Make sure I got everything situated. Now can y'all hear me? All right, okay. Wantin' to pop in. I'm supposed to try to do live Q&As on Sundays, but I don't always get to. So y'all gotta forgive me. I just got back from the movie. Now, I don't know if y'all knew this, but AMC Theatres, the movie theater, AMC, they let you rent out the whole theater. And it's 200 and some dollars, and you can have up to 20 people. So it's kinda like if you got your whole family and your little friends, everybody, you know, been quarantined and safe, you could get your little theater and just split the price. Or some of y'all, you know, you can afford to just get it. Yeah, AMC do it. We went last night, went the night. You got to have your mask on going in there, then you can take it off when you get in there, you with your family, and then you can eat. You know why you eat, and you supposed to put it back on. Okay, yeah, see, somebody said they rented one. See, they sent an email. If you already go to AMC, you know, they sent an email. The night I seen something about an angry granddaddy, it was for the kids. We took the kids tonight, the angry granddad. Then yesterday I seen Tenet. And I just ain't got the education for that movie. That was Denzel's son. And he did a good job, but that just, he just picked the movie that's too deep. It's like, come on, bro, let's just do the typical love story. Tenet was too deep. You got to have a degree in physics. You got to have all kinds of stuff. So yeah, so now y'all remember the Q and A, put your hashtag Q in there so I could see it in the chat. Let's go and get started. Somebody should I go on a date with a guy if I know I'm not interested or he's not my type from first sight. A friend advised me to just go just to practice dating but I'm thinking it's a waste of time. You see, I would normally agree with your friend in 1950, maybe even 1980, but somebody sent me a video of a grown boy talking about that. If he take you out on a date, you finna come off some. And if you don't want to come off it, he finna strong on it. And he was like, ain't telling no joke. And he had to not be joking just because he used the whole word of what it's called. And so I'll be honest with you, if you're gonna go on a date, whatever, you need to take your love. Love. Let them boy show you how to use it, the kind where you hit that button and it pop on out of there. Take your love. Take you some of that and just be ready cause I don't know what's going on if guys like what he was saying, what he gonna do. If that's gonna be like trending, you know, if he gonna, cause he looked serious to me. And it's like, imagine if you bump into somebody that thing like that, where they take you out on a date and they finna get something. And so I wouldn't play around with it. I would just date intentionally, date with a purpose and don't just be going out there because today it's just too much craziness going on and you literally could be playing with your life. When we broke up, my ex called me dark, ugly, since then I developed a complex and think light skin and I think light skin plus beauty never had that complex and 30 years old. So you gotta understand the trick of the enemy. I was, a lot of men do that. A lot of men, because see every man who's been around a woman know how women are sensitive to certain things. So it's kinda like, you know, you can't say nothing about weight to most women because, Aaron D. God bless you, because it's a sensitive topic. You can't say nothing about skin complexion or skin texture or hair or it's so much that you really take serious. It's kinda equivalent to a man in his third leg, you know, that member. If a woman mess around and say something about that third leg, that's why it's little, little man, little man. He might not recover from that. The same thing applies with women sometimes, with what y'all feel about. And so a guy will say something just like that cause he knows it's gonna play over and over and over. Cause if your complexion was so bad, he wouldn't have dealt with you to begin with. But he knows what goes on in the world. He know what people are already struggling with. He know what women are already struggling with. So he gonna play on that cause he know the media already been playing on it. So you got to just literally understand that it's a tactic and go ahead and just renew your mind. Is it possible to be friends and co-parent with ex-husband? Nothing. Yes, it is possible. It is possible. A lot of people do it. Father of my son whom I am not with since January of 2020, I left after four years. He dropped our son off today with a female friend that he is having in a court with. Why? That's a double edged, double edged sword right there. My son, my oldest son, he always say that it's not sword. It is sword. I like little son, it spells sword, it's a sword. Okay, they shouldn't have put that W in there if they ain't want you to say sword, it is sword. I'm like, listen, that W in there, I'm finna use it. So what you got to understand, that's a double edged because for her, he's trying to show her you got position, you got rank in my life. I'm about to show you to my baby mama to let her know that you run this, that you in my life, that you matter to me. And that me and my baby mama got nothing going on and that's why I'm bringing you around. And then for you, it's to make you jealous. It's to make you jealous because he still could leave her where she need to be at the house and just have that exchange because that's a girlfriend. It ain't like his new wife. So he knew this, what it'll do. Just how you in here asking a question about it, mission accomplished. That's why he did it, right there. Cause he knew it'll mess with your head. LDLD God bless you now, how do you break a soul tie? I ended it, but I go to the same gym. He was my trainer, friends with him on Instagram and his friends, do I delete them? I am sad and emotionally eating lately. Need help in prayer. God bless you. Yep, you got to realize, in order to break a soul tie you got to cut all ties. That's the first step. You can't break a tie if you steal a tie. You see what I mean? So it's practical. It's logical. And also, I'm behind on so many emails and all these relationship questions that today on TonyGascansAcademy.com, TonyGascansAcademy.com I made all the love and relationship courses $10 because they normally $50, but I made them all $10 just because of the amount of questions that I'm getting. And literally, I got whole courses on this stuff. So some of y'all really just got to do the work. You just got to do the work. So that's on there. If you didn't know about TonyGascansAcademy.com, we got almost 30,000 students on there. A lot of people in the free course cause I got a free course on there too. But it's still available for you for those of you who did not know. This is just a blessing to you and your ministry. Other than my question, just want to say I am thankful for you beyond words. You bring me joy during this tough time and help you have helped me. So are your coaches. Hey, God bless you now. God bless you. When she say, or when she say your coaches talking about on my mentor.life. I know that you say not to date online, but what steps do we take when potential men try to date you through social media outlets because of that 19. Although we're not using social media today. Now see, that's one of the things that a lot of people confuse. When I say don't date online, I'm talking about online dating. I'm not talking about social media networks. See, and I only say don't date online for 49 and under. See, once you hit 50, okay, you old enough, you grown enough, you didn't been here long enough. You know about enough games to where you could kind of venture out there and get on plenty of sharks and, you know, Dumbled. And, I don't know all the names of these different ones that I ain't gonna be giving them free publicity. That's why I said Dumbled and plenty of sharks. When you hit 50, you old enough to get on there. Now what you have to realize Instagram is not online dating. Facebook, they got their little situation going on. Don't get on that, but on the actual Facebook, that's not considered online dating. That is a social networking site, so it's different. So when a man goes to a online dating site and he upload a picture and he put his lights and dislikes and he signed up and pay that money to be on that site, that's a whole different situation than going on a free social media networking site. So understand that right there. Coach Felicia, God bless you now, and he bless you now. Once I heard you say God is unable to bless you while you are in fornication, I turn my life around and I'm 100% abstinent. Life is peace for God bless you now, God bless you. That was God blessing right there, giving you the strength to get out there fornication. Scorpio, Diva, bless you now. When will the birthday book course be discounted again? Black Friday. Everybody mark your calendar, it's not Black Friday. Black Friday coming up, it's gonna be sell over lifetime. And listen, if you already got a course and you already paid for it full price, stood up, don't e-mail me, oh, I paid full price. Now you got it on sale. Instead, change your spirit and say, Lord, thank you that I was able to afford or I was able to sacrifice full price and that I don't need that sale. You see what I mean? It's all about perspective. A lot of people just scarcity minded. But for those of you who it's been tough, it's been a struggle, you need that sale. That's really who this for. For single mothers, for those who lost a job, for those who got all kind of bills, got a lot of responsibility to take care of other people. All that right there, that's what Black Friday for. If you blessed and you don't have to wait for that date, tell God, thank you. You don't tell God, thank you. How to tell a guy he's moving a little too fast. It's been three weeks. I feel he's a good guy, but he's planning future things and using terms like we already. I want to continue dating him. Well, that's a tactic that guys use, you know. And when you say how to tell him, you really honestly, you could tell him and waste your breath, you know, and offend him. But really, that's just a tactic of, for lack of a better term, it's just a tactic of lame guys. It's just a guy who not very used to women and just really knowing what he's doing with women. He kind of socially awkward with women. Even if he looked good to you and got swagger, he just still lame. And so that's just a little tactic. It kind of like some guy be like, hey, mom, what's going on, mom? Hey, hey, shawty, what going on, baby girl? Hey, sweet, hey, sweet cakes. It's just a lame, you know, he just don't understand. So it's like you saying that, it's really a waste of your breath because you just gonna offend him because he don't really understand or know what he's doing is lame. And so really what you do is you just don't play into it and you stay off your back. Because see a lot of guys when they're using it intentionally, they're using it because those words are trigger words for a lot of women and a lot of women will drop their guards when they start hearing we and when we get married and our children are out. A lot of women will be so desperate they don't be thirsty, they be dehydrated and they'll be. And so the man know that he understand that. So that's why he use those words. So you just got to understand that. Scorpio Diva, God bless you and I'll see you there. Lady T, God bless you and your friend, hey bless you and I, bless you, let's see. How can I make myself look more approachable? I feel like God has me hidden because men do not approach me. Plus my five-year-old is always with me. Now Erin don't ask all the questions now. Get on with my mental life. Okay, get to a session here. Really honestly, when you say I feel like God has me hidden then that's exactly what God has you. Meaning whatever you thinking, that's what you're showing. So if you feel like God has you hidden and if you feel like your five-year-old is a deterrent to men, then it is. So it's whatever's going on between your ears, it's hard to hide it on your face. It's hard to hide it. So that's why men not approaching you because of what's going on up here. But when you shift your mindset and you say I'm ready, it's time, today is my day. I'm about to meet my husband today. I'm gonna go, whoa, uh-huh, uh-huh, hey don't. Hey don't, uh-huh, uh-huh, hey don't, uh-huh, uh-huh. See when you in expectation, you give off a whole another energy, but you doubting. You see what I mean? You doubting and you questioning a lot about yourself. Is my hair too short? This is a new hairstyle. Do they like this hairstyle? What about my skin complexion? Am I in style or am I out of style? I just can't stop thinking about all these videos I'm watching and just, oh, these men here, they is not ready for me. I'm gonna slice them up with the truth. Come over here, grown boy. See what I mean? All that going through your head and it's showing on your face. To nail T. God bless your metal guy on Facebook that says I look conservative. What does that mean in guy terms? Can guys really make this judgment based off of a profile pic without meeting or knowing you even if it's not true? Again, that's another just lame guy. You know what I mean? A lot of guys is awkward with women. One of the hardest things for a man to do is learn how to talk to a woman. You know, he's kind of like a fish out of water sometimes. Yeah, I love your split ends. He just don't know what he's doing. He don't, yeah, you know what? This is my first time seeing women with a woman with long nose hairs. That is, you know, I like it because it just means you're comfortable with yourself and you're like, oh, excuse me. I'll be back. I got to go to the restroom to get my purse. I got to go to the restroom to be back, excuse me. You see what I mean? And he don't even understand that what he just said was out of line. So see, sometimes what y'all got to do is you can't take everything a man say serious. You can't take every man serious, okay? Y'all really a man say in it, you know what? You look like the woman from the moon and you're a little sleep that night. What does he mean? Do I got craters in my face? He said, I look like the woman from the moon. Was that look like I was floating? I don't understand. Oh my God. Let me get on. What does it mean when a man says you look like the woman from the moon? Next thing you know, you up for the next three hours reading astrology. You see what I mean? You can't accept everything somebody say to you. You feel me? Don't think about everything. Y'all try to make this too much like science class. And it just everything. If it don't compute, if it don't make sense, okay, he's a lame. Just talk it up, he's a lame. He's a lame, let me keep going. Sarah, God bless you. Best way to go about being in a relationship and developing a crush on someone, on someone else. Crush seems more godly, but worry grass just seems greener. Sarah, well, Sarah, you're wasting all your time in that relationship. You're wasting all your time. If you're in a relationship as a woman, cause see women are already a little harder than men. If you're in a relationship with a man and you're developing a crush on somebody else, that just a clear sign. You're wasting your time in that relationship. Ain't no best way to go about that other than sitting down the night and saying, hey, you know, I just don't think that this is gonna work. I just don't think that we're all the way up fifth. And I don't wanna waste your time. That's not fair to you. I don't wanna waste my time. And so I just want to, you know, just call it quits here and let you move on with your life so that you can attract your wife. Point blank period. And because you wasting his time and that's unfair to him to be holding him and then you falling for somebody else. And then the other man you're talking about, he's seen more Godly. It could be a distraction, but if you even open to that kind of distraction in the dating phase, that's a red flag all together. Black feminine look. God bless you and I. Hello, Mr. Gas, my name is Winter. I have been listening to you for some time now. I'm 23 and on my B-day, I'll be three years absent and making this choice has truly changed my life for the better. God bless you. God bless you. And I've been sent 20 blashes now. Hey, stay on that, stay on that. Now don't mess around and meet Mandingo and then see a print in some gray pants and lose your mind. You see what I mean? Don't mess around and meet no tall, chocolate muscular man that you think, oh my goodness, God took a time on him and then lose your mind. When you've made this commitment, understand you finna get tested. Okay, you about to get tested and you gotta stay committed to that. Cause a lot of y'all, y'all go all this time and y'all will be asking for all this time. Listen, it don't matter if you don't cross that finish line. Okay, cause you know, detail STD, detail babies. They don't care if you've been asking them for eight years when you open them up, whatever he got to give you is finna come. If that's impregnation, if that's STD, whatever it is, you don't get no credit for all that abstinence. So stay the course, keep your head on straight, stay focused. Nelson, God bless you, brother. I'd be seeing Nelson in the comments every now and then. Every now and then Nelson, I'd be like, man, why I must have offended Nelson? Cause I ain't seen Nelson in the comments in a little while. I must have offended Nelson. Good to see you done, my brother. God bless you Tony Gass. I got a question. Is there a healthy type of jealousy to have for your partner, for a partner? Thank you, TG, for all your video. Healthy type of jealousy. It's kind of oxymoron, you know, healthy jealousy. No, it's not a healthy jealousy. There's no such thing as a healthy jealousy just because jealousy, your heart is in the wrong place. So what you have to replace jealousy with is more confidence. You gotta know who you are. I get jealous sometimes because I love my wife energy. I love her smile. And I know she don't mean nothing bad. You know, if we had one of my son games and another man talking to her, but see, I know men. So what I take to do is educate her about men. I say, listen now, why are you all in that man face? Kiki, kiki, kiki, kiki. He undressing you with his eyes. He love that. So I say, you know, you got to have, you got to make sure, although you pure, you got to be careful with how you interact with men because a lot of men nasty. So I educate her on the mindset of men because a lot of women, a lot of women, they just feel like everybody in the world, a friend, nobody out to get them. And a lot of women have no clue the mind of a man. And that's why a lot of men are so jealous because a lot of men understand other men. So you educate her, which requires some transparency on your own part, but then you just got to remember who you are. You got to remember who you are. You got to remember what you bring to the table. And so that's how I got over that, you know, that jealousy I had to just, and, but see at the same time, too, now don't get, don't get a confused now. A lot of people think not being jealous means just letting your partner do whatever. No, it still need to be decency. So all it, all in other people face or the opposite side, all best friends and all in long conversation. No, you still got to have boundaries now. So you can have boundaries. You can have policies and procedures, rules and regulations without being jealous because it's about decency and respect. So that right there, what got to be understood and as men we got to learn that because a woman could be jealous of how we interacting with another woman and women have to learn that. And so what we have to learn is typically just keep it cordial. High and bye. I'm doing great. How are you? Merry Christmas. Happy Hanukkah. Happy Easter. Okay, see you later. All right, great to see you. All right, bye tootles. And then go on about your business and see a lot of people you wanna sit there and talk about the weather. You wanna sit there and talk about all this and that. That's when things start to cross the line because human nature start to kick in. Just how the young lady in the relationship, now she developing a crush for somebody else. Talk it too much. Talk it too much. You talking to that man, watching that man too much. Now she in her whole relationship and developing a crush for somebody else talking about the crush look more godly. Sound like devilish. You see what I mean? Just education about it. Juicy Vic. God bless you and I. Juicy only else. This is for juicing. All right. Go ahead now. Tried to give my husband a chance before divorce final. And he was okay them two months and I see the same issues drinking. He got a DUI. DUI now the mistress it hadn't and flaunting it like he is gonna change. One son heart broken. Hey, get the lesson. Get the lesson and move on. Now you see. Now you see the key right here in this space is make sure that you don't go into competition with that mistress. The one thing, the mistake that women make a lot is going into competition with the other woman. Hey, the night ain't got that long cause my batter ain't that strong tonight cause I've been out all day. Had, you know, soccer the day with my son then move it theater then. So my batter, you know, was on about 60%. Don't go into competition. You tried to give him a chance. He didn't want a chance. He really just wanted to get the last laugh. He gave you his butt to kiss. Now stood a kiss in it, kick it and go on about your business. Go on about your business. Your God, the Lord be with you. And the Novak, okay. Different kind of money over there in Puerto Rico. Love from Puerto Rico. I'm joking. Much love from Amsterdam. Oh, okay. You're in Amsterdam. Okay. Got all kinds of jokes. I was wondering like Puerto Rico, that's America. You got a different, you got that backwards E. Oh, that ain't Puerto Rico. But I guess. Amsterdam. God bless you. Now I was over there Amsterdam. I did not know anybody. I kept hearing people say the red light district. I was like, man, so what they like to do? Discos over there Amsterdam? Did you got a lot of dancing going on? Cause I heard red light district and I'm riding down the street in a, ooh. I look old. I see the woman in a wonder sitting on a wonder, sitting in a wonder in a chair with look like she had no pants on. Maybe had on like a boy short. So a little throne, but I couldn't see it. Cause all I can see was calf and thigh. And she had her name on the wonder. I'll see. What the ruck on? I'm in the front seat. My wife in the back seat, I'm like in the ruck on. Let later it was brought to my attention. I was in the red light district in Amsterdam. And then when I got out of the car, I'm walking, I'm like. Now hold on, now, there's some loud over here. Somebody's smoking up. I'm like, what kind of sun cover your nose? Hey, y'all, hey, come on sun's nose. That's how I know. They say in Amsterdam, you just allowed to walk down the street and smoke. Smoke weed. I'm like, whoa. I'm like, man, so y'all is potheads and loose booty. I said, I got to get out of here. I got to get out of here. They can't do that in America, but we two, we two spoil America, but it'd be crazy. They legalize all that, what they got going on in Amsterdam. But Amsterdam just was calm. It just was a calm day. They just walking past in wonder with no women have, naked in the wonder, just like another day in the park. I said, wow. Yeah, I saw the park cafe. I saw all the young people going in there. I'm smelling all that. I'm like, whoa. I got to get out of here. Black family, look, God bless you now. Thank you for your encouragement, Mr. Gaskins. Yes, I have been tested by quite a few men in the dating phase. I stand firm. I am waiting for marriage, working on the three B's and started a company this year. God bless you now. You're doing your thing. God bless you doing your thing now. Please explain the difference between breaking a soul tie and just not being able to get over someone you were with. Well, if you break the soul tie, that means you're getting over them. If you're not getting over them, then that means you can't break the soul tie. See what I mean? So it really, they opposites, you know? So with the soul tie, when I say breaking the soul tie and cutting all ties, it's really just getting distance and then getting new knowledge. So with anything you go through in your life, if you remove that from your life and then you start to get knowledge and you start to get support. So if you were scrung up, playing with your nose, but you live next door to the cry cow. When you move to a whole new neighborhood and then you start going to NA and then you get a sponsor, now with every day you get stronger and stronger and stronger. That's the same thing when you break in the soul tie. You cut off all ties to the person unless y'all got children together and then that right there is a business relationship. But even if the tie was real strong, then you bring in a mediator, your best friend or your mother, your father, brother, sister, cousin to talk to your ex for you and to do the handoffs and to drop offs and to pickups for you. It's a business relationship. So you have very minimal communication with the person you have a soul tie with. So you create distance, then you get poured into, you get the new knowledge. You go on tonigasandacademy.com today while all the love relationship courses is $10 and you go on ahead and load on up, then you start feeding your mind. You feeding your mind, so now guess what? With every negative thing, with every old thought, when you get something new, it's like you plucking it out and replacing it. Now you renewing your mind, you renewing your spirit because you're getting rejuvenated. Then you're able to move forward. Elvrenay, God bless, thank for all you do, Tony, planning on taking multiple courses and praying that I would do business with you and RC in the future in Jesus' name. And also, hi, Elmorella, it's been a while. Bless you, El. Y'all see Elmorella? I saw Elmorella in the comments. If that's the same Elmorella, you look like Elmorella doesn't change her profile picture. When it got face done, hair done, lipstick, Elmorella say, you even be talking about me. Brittany Brown, God bless you, now. Y'all to say, yeah, I ain't seen Elmorella in here. I might offend her. Hey, you know, it's everybody got their day on my channel to get offended. At some point, you gonna get offended. Nicole Moody, God bless you, hi, Tony, a male associate, expressed that he's only interested in women with big fun. I noticed on social media, most focus on the body. What about our heart and character? Well, heart and character. Well, sis, you know, in a perfect world, that question right there make total sense. I get you 100%. And it's sad that that's not the case, you know, that it's really need to get to that place. So what a lot of grown boys do is they go by preference. And I was like that too, when I was a grown boy. But then when I met my wife and I got to see what character looked like, see a lot of men ain't never really seen a woman with character. Because one thing I noticed, you know, a lot of most women are the same. It just kind of got all the same bad habits. You know, if it's gossiping, if it's materialism, if it's potty mouth cursing too much, you know, just if whatever it is, a lot of women are pretty much the same. And so most men, they kind of just see the same stuff over and over. So then they start to just lean all the way on their preferences. And I was into my preferences too. Me being in the South, you know, I wanted me a woman with old nice, you know, derriere. Then I met my wife and that one, how she was built. She was running track in college at the time. So she hadn't ran it off or something. But that's not how she was built, but her mind, her spirit, her belief system was there. And I say, oh, this is where I want to be. So sometimes you just take a man meeting a woman with character and heart. And now at the same time now, my wife, she wasn't built like that when I met her, but she joined this fitness team. And they started working out every day, like six days a week. And they started doing a little meal plan. And then they worked out, it had a lot of squats and it had a lot of stem master. So what it did is it lifted my wife's glutes. The way she always had the booty, but she had just never worked it out like that, you know, that focus. So it lifted her glutes. So then after we had child number two, it don't feel them out. So it hadn't lifted them, then it filled them. And then I said, Lord, look at the work of the Lord. Just a masterpiece of the art. Oh my goodness. I did not know that a booty could be built in the gym. I literally thought everybody was going to the doctor. Doctor, Miami doctor, New Jersey, but my wife in the gym. And it ain't, you know, crazy. It don't look fake enough. I remember my sister asked her, she said, did you get your butt done? Yes, she got it done on the stem master. So listen, ladies, if you single and you working on the three B's, one of the B's is body. So although you want a man to recognize you for your character and your heart, ain't nothing wrong with us doing a hundred squats a day. Ain't nothing wrong. Ain't nobody gonna be mad at you with a hundred squats a day. Okay. It's good for your heart. It's a longevity on your life. It's gonna help you focus better on your work while you're building your brand. So listen, ain't nothing wrong with a hundred squats a day. So, and then at the same time, now you got character, you got heart, but you to mesh around and stumble on a little Buddha too. And now it's like, oh, wow. Okay. Heart, character, and a shape. Wow. He ain't gonna know what hit him. So some of y'all just be like, you know, I'm, no, I'm not working out. I'm not doing no squat. You better love me for my character. But then he come over there with his keg and you like, uh-uh, I want a man with a six pack. He's like, oh, no. So you want me for a six pack and a man left for coming the other day. I said, hmm, no, no, that's something to think about. He say, hi women judge men by their height which men can't control, but then they get mad if a man judge them by their weight when the gym is open 24 hours a day. And it's controllable. I was like, man, you know what? That's the question though. I didn't ask it. That's what he asked. I was like, oh, single brother, he always be in the comment fishing for a woman. Any good women out here. I've been ready to block his butt, but I ain't blocking. I'm like, maybe one day this message get through to him. Aaron, God bless you. Now I'm going through family court for child support for our six year old daughter. My baby that had purposely lost his job not to pay child support. He never turned in his documents. What to do? Try December 9th. See, listen, when you find a monster, be sure you don't become a monster. When you dealing with a man like that to be honest with you, your best revenge, your best situation is going to be to get on your grind. Get on your grind and just say, I'm going to be around 100% responsible for my child. I'm not even going to depend on this. Sorry, no good, man. It ain't worth your time and your energy. When a man quit his job to not have to be financially responsible for his child, what that man got coming for him is so bad in life that you're going to be praying and asking God, Lord, please, please, Lord, please have mercy on him. Lord, please have mercy on him. He finna go through so much H.E. double hockey sticks with Satan that you're going to start to feel bad for him. So with a man like that, just get away from him because he toxic, he petty, he lost, he broken, he confused, he sorry, he lazy, he ignorant, he everything that you don't want to be around. So all you got to do is pray, Lord, reach him, touch him, get him out of that broken, lost, sunken place because and please don't let any of those traits come down to my child, Lord, please. We rebuke that in the name of Jesus. Them generation of curses that he dealing with, Lord, we rebuke it and just put olive oil on your child's forehead and just pray over your child and just make sure, you see what I mean, don't even keep going back and forth with him. Let's say God bless you. Left a very toxic relationship with my kid dad. Life has been much better, but I can't co-parent without him wanting me back. It's very difficult because he only do because he think I want him opinion. Well, you know, if he gonna take care of that child he gonna be there for that child and let him keep thinking what he thinking and you just keep sidestepping all his little words, all his little approaches. The only time you really get serious is if he start to get a little irate. He's like he want to get filthy. He like he want to get a little forceful. He like he want to be a little dominant. That's when you start, that's when you gonna cut it all the way off. And if you need to restrain it or to get restrained or to do what you got to do. But if he flirting and he just doing cause he think you want him, then let him go ahead, do what he do. But stay off your back. Stay off your back. Just don't feed into it. Cause a lot of y'all, y'all will say that then you be, I miss you too. And then you be on your bike. It wants a month, once every three months. Anytime is too much. So just make sure you not feeding into it and sending mixed signals cause, cause you know, it's making you feel like a celebrity and he your paparazzi. You see what I mean? Chika Renee, God bless you. Hi Tony, I watch your video on forgiveness. And you touch on reconciliation. When to reconcile and when not to. Thanks for the work that you do. You know reconciliation is something where if the person you're trying to forgive, they want to reconcile and they've done the changes. They've made the changes and done the work to become a different person, a new person. That's when reconciliation. See forgive and forget mean one or two things. It mean to forgive the person and not remind them of the offense. But then it also means that sometimes you gotta forgive that person and then forget that person. You don't forget, you can't forget what they did to you but it means you gotta remove yourself from that person so that they can no longer hurt you again. And so with reconciliation, that's not a one size fits all because it's so many caveats and nuances in there. If it's something that's really pressing on your heart, you're gonna have to do coaching on that because every situation gonna be a little different. Like I reconcile with my blood sister. I reconcile with my daddy, with my mama, that's blood. I'm not gonna reconcile with somebody that drove me crazy that I ain't no kin to, with an associate, with a colleague that don't benefit me. You see what I mean? I'm gonna reconcile with my wife that I love but that I committed my life to. But that's only if they change. I'm not, if I reconcile with somebody and then they show me they true colors again, then I'm gone. So you got to understand, just don't play the fool. Sandra, God bless you now. Good evening, Tony. I'm 20 years old and just come out of two relationships. One for two years and the other for seven months and just recently let go of my BFF. Any advice for young adults? I'm in need of direction. You're in the right place. Watch one of these videos every day. Watch all the Q and A's. You're gonna learn from everybody questions. You're gonna learn from everybody else's story. You're gonna get knowledge. The reason why you're suffering is because you don't have any knowledge. You're trying to go in love but you don't know what love looked like. You're trying to go get a man but you don't know what a man looked like. So you dealing with a grown boy and praising a grown boy because you don't know the difference between a grown boy and a grown man. You don't know the difference between love and self-hate. You don't know the difference between a healthy relationship and a toxic relationship. So that's why you're going through because what you see around you is so toxic and so ignorant and so draining that they make it look normal. You see it in the celebrities and all the gossip, all these pages, all these TV shows. So you see so much toxicity that you start to think it's normal and then you start to suffer because of it. But when you get new knowledge and you're in the right place you get new knowledge of what is real love. What is a healthy relationship? What is a real man? What is a real woman? What is a grown boy? What is a grown girl? Now you're able to decipher between the real and the fake. And that's what becomes your protection. My people perish because of a lack of knowledge. So once you get that knowledge, you're gonna be all right. Angelic worship of God bless you. I've been divorced three months. I met someone and we've been talking for eight months. Man for a little while. I'm starting to have feelings for him. Is it too soon to move on? Now you've been divorced three months. You met somebody and y'all been talking eight months. Now did I read that right? Told eight months. It looked like I read that right now. I'm gonna tell you what. The first mistake you made is talking to somebody before you was already divorced. That's the first mistake you made. And the reason why that's a mistake is because when you do that a man put you in a box. So he looked you already like a little sleazy. He looked you already like untrustworthy. He looked like you already just a little messy. You see what I mean? That little loose, little fast. So he already, you already sent the wrong message. Because now if you would have said to him, hey listen, you're a great guy. I'm glad I have met you but I'm still not technically divorced. And I just don't believe in mixing the two. This essentially technically adultery because I'm still married. And so, if I read that mouth right, you don't send the wrong message. So you could be setting yourself up for failure. And I haven't worked in the past. Yeah, people gonna tell you it doesn't work but can I just recommend it with a clear conscience? No. So you got to proceed with caution. Michelle, God bless you. I told you I completely switched my mind set around. Thank you and God bless you. Cam L, do you think it is wise for a single mom to move out family home with her son, three to apartment, talk to your home and tell business? Yes, go ahead and move out. If it's toxic and you can afford to move out. Y'all forgive my hat to scroll back a little bit. Cause I, T Johnson, I see I missed your message. I see some of y'all, when y'all put the great value questions up there, the teal ones, the blue ones, they delete, they get deleted. You see, that's like the Walmart great value versus the name brand. You see the name brand questions up there, the yellow and the orange, they lead them up there for some reason. But the great value, they be gone in the wind. And I just, so y'all forgive me when I miss those. Please, y'all forgive me. I don't know why you two do that. That they just need to leave all of them there for them so I can just scroll through them. They got them disappearing, doing disappearing acts. And I got to go searching for them. Then y'all mad with me, like I'm three, four, five people over here. Y'all regardless of ATG, and I'm 20 and never done anything before and dressed modestly. Yet feel like I won't get a man as I'd never get attention before and I'm hidden. What do you advise? Okay, somebody y'all listening to then told y'all hidden. That God got y'all hidden. That y'all hidden. Somebody y'all listen to then gave y'all the term hidden. You not hidden. Everybody can see you. Everybody can see you. You ain't no ghost. Every single man sees every single woman. You see what I mean? Every single man see every single woman. It just ain't your time. It just ain't your time. You just ain't met your match. You know it ain't rocket science but you just got to keep minding your business. Keep minding your business. Keep doing what you're doing. Keep working on you. Keep building yourself and understand that when you are ready, the man will appear. And to be honest with you, when you are ready, a distraction will appear before destiny. So you're gonna have to decipher between is this a decoy? Is this a distraction? Or is this destiny? So you got to be ready for that too. Cam, oh God bless you. Do you think single moms have to work twice as hard to be valuable? Look good, get a degree. Then childless woman to have a better chance at a good man. There's a man on YouTube saying a child makes us less valuable. You kind of have to look at it like when you look at a man. And you say, okay, if I meet a man and he has a child, what do I need to see in this man? For him still to be attractive and desirable to me. And then just flip it. So if you meet a man and he got a child and he's still attached to his baby mama, he's still chasing her. He's still lost and confused. He's still all over the place. And he looks emotionally unavailable. Then that's not going to be attractive. But if he looked like he got a routine, he got things in order. His life is in order. He got his priorities in order. And he's still taking care of himself mentally, emotionally, spiritually. And you don't have anything against children. You love children. Then he's not going to look any less desirable if he's taking care of himself. So it's not that you are less valuable. It's just that your pool changes because not every man has the mental capacity, has the maturity to be a stepfather. Not every man has what it takes mentally because you already see so many men struggling to treat a woman right with no kids. You see so many men cheating and lying. So when you come in with a child, it's more responsibility. And it's responsibility that is not his own. So he doesn't have any love for your child, any care for your child. So what it means is just your pool changes. To now you have to, instead of just being attractive to everybody walking and all the grown boys, now it's going to take a real grown man to understand what you bring into the table. So it's really kind of semantics. You could be in a unique situation and somebody could say, oh, that's less valuable. But if when you hear that word, it makes you feel like less of a person, then you have to stay away from anything that's going to make you feel less than and break down your self-esteem. You got to stay away from that. Redeem, God bless you. What causes a man to choose his new wife that he cheated on over his first born child, son, won't co-parent, wife involved in everything, miss his visits, won't publicly acknowledge son. Well, that's a hard one to understanding and you're not going to understand everything that men do. Some men just so immature, just so lost and really it's just really his upbringing. He probably didn't have his father. So he don't even really understand the value of a father. More so what he look at as valuable is what's between the woman and legs. And he values a woman more than he values a child, his own child. And it's probably because he didn't feel valued and he didn't see a good example from a father in the home. And if he did see that good example, it wasn't relayed to him. It wasn't articulated to him about the importance of a father. So a man could have his father in the home but his father could be present but yet still be absent because his father was a cheater or his father didn't articulate. His father didn't open up and express to him, this is how you treat a woman. This is what you have to do. And so this man and wrapped up his value in a woman. And then at the same time, you kind of have to look at that stuff like that and you got to take it like a blessing. Don't ever want somebody that don't want you. Never want somebody that don't want you. See, if this person is not good for your child, if this person is not good for you, then God could be hardening his heart so that you can move on with your life. Don't try to force somebody to love you or love their child because when you got to force somebody to love a innocent child that didn't ask to be here, that's an absolute terrible person. They're in an absolute horrible place in life and you want to get as far from that person as possible. But what y'all be wanting to do, y'all want to be fighting for the man. You need to love your son. You need to love your son. I want you to love your son. Don't want a hater to be a lover. Don't want somebody who won't distance to be close in your presence because that's going to be dangerous because if you try to coerce him to be there, he's going to bring toxic energy. He going to be talking down, little punk. You a little punk. I should have never had you. You should have scrapped up, little punk. That one want you over here, punk. He hang your son in the chair, he dump your son in here and you better not tell your mama because you a punk. You going to tell your mom. All right, tell her. Let her say something. Come back over here. See what I do to you. See what I'm saying? So your son to be getting over that bully. He getting broken down, his self esteem getting stowed. And you don't even know about it because big boys don't cry because he done punk them and scared them. The same way when people get taken advantage of and they say, don't hate it. Keep this secret between us. I don't heard so many people say, oh, I was taking advantage of but they said keep the secret between us. So they literally never told anybody. And then 30 years later they come out and then everybody asking them, why do you wait 30 years? And then people can't understand it but that in our place, the judge. So you see what I'm saying? You have to know who you are. And you got to know what you bring to the table. And any y'all that got kids, listen. Any y'all that got kids, that child is 100% yours. See a lot of y'all what y'all do is y'all see the child is 50% yours and 50% theirs. No, the child is 100% yours. If you laid down to have it, it's 100% yours. So understand that. Do not depend on nobody else to be there. Don't depend on nobody else to step up and to come and be there for that child. If you laid down to have that child, you got to say, listen, if they dropped the ball, I can't become half apparent. I can't become halfway focused. I can't become half good because they sorry. Because they then turned into a no good parent. You see what I'm saying? You can't do that and you got to move on. You got to move forward. And understand that. And that's the problem is what we do is stop begging people. Stop, because see a lot of times, it don't even be about the benefit of the child. You really want that man to acknowledge his son to get at that wife, to get at that woman. And say, hey, we over here too. Yeah, we was here first. He care about us because why else would you want a no good sorry man to be an influence in your son life? That's toxicity. Your son need good role models. Your son need men in his life who want to be there. So don't even look at it like that. Change the way you look at it. Redeem God bless you. Now what causes a man to choose his new wife? Okay, that's the same question I just answered. Stay it up. Now a couple of y'all questions got deleted. I got a little into that question right there. T. Johnson, a woman moves into a man's home with a met him 2020 few weeks and he says, just be friends. I told her to leave. She is torn at by says, I really can't get advice for other people that ain't on here because you ain't gonna, you not gonna relay it right. And she don't care the head if she ain't on here asking the question for herself. And if you listen to that question, you know, she shot out. You see what I mean? When somebody under the influence, they are dead to the son. You really, they're not gonna hear a common sense. Only thing that could teach that person is life. They got to hit rock bottom. They don't, they not gonna hear a common sense. She not gonna listen to nothing from me if she won't listen to you and you her good friend. You see what I mean? Some people, all you got to do is pray, all you could do for some people to pray for them. You could pray for them, Lord, protect them and keep them, have mercy on her that when she get this lesson, it don't take her all the way out. Lord, keep her. Aaron, essential God bless you. Thank you, Tony. Now, Aaron, you gonna need a session. You gonna need a session. Y'all paying to add on to the question now. This ain't no one on one session. So y'all got to understand if you got to add on to the question, you got to further elaborate, you need a session. This right here just for easy, just simple, easy questions. If it's all, if it deep like the Atlantic Ocean, that's what this right here for. My mentor.life, okay? So y'all get on on that now. All that extra explaining and all that, you need a session. Nigel God bless you. Now, I've been separated and divorced for about a year now and been dating for eight months. He has said several times that he wants to marry me and he sees me as his wife. How long should you wait to get remarried? You wasting your time. You wasting your time. I'm telling you like this right here. You wasting your time. Now, that's a blanket statement. There are exceptions to the rule, but you probably not it. You probably not the exception. Listen to me. Somebody already had the opportunity. They done already had you married. Y'all not already been married and they dropped the ball. Go on about your business. Go on about your business because I'm pretty sure before you got a divorce or before you got a divorce, you had some little breakups. Three day, one week, two week. You ain't just all of a sudden getting no divorce. So it was pit stops in there. It was times in there where he could've, you know, took a smart pill and still taking a stupid pill and he could've changed his life. But he kept trying you like a basal, like a crackhead and push you all the way to the edge. Then he got you divorced. Now he's talking about, oh, let me get you back. See, all you will to him is a game. He will get you back, cheat on you, dog you out again, divorce you and then cut you off for good. See, what he want now is the last laugh. He don't want you. He want the last laugh because if a person don't respect you enough to change for you before you have to divorce them, then that's not the person for you. So I don't believe in no remarriage. I don't believe in no remarriage. No, you had all the time in the world to get right. Gone by your business. Gone by your business. I'm gonna remarry. You've been talking about eight, man. You about gone by your business. This man wasting all your time. You not already gave him all that marriage. You got a divorce. It's time to move on. Okay, you had your chance. No, ain't no. Married go around. You get two, three, four, five shots at the title. No, got to go. I know already I'm done with you, gone. Y'all got to start playing the fool now, you see. And see, that's the thing. When that soul type go to strangling you, that's why y'all be keep dealing with this stuff cause of that soul type strangling you. Why? Cause you ain't get no help. You ain't do four sessions with a coach or a therapist. You ain't do eight sessions. You ain't do 12 sessions. You see what I mean? So you can't pop in here and think that you gonna saw the whole issue and one question when you ain't did no session to hear common sense over and over and over and over again. When you talk to somebody that's gonna hear you out and throw that bike at you, child, you ain't fooling nobody. When that coach tell you child, you ain't fooling nobody. Listen, you wrapped up in a soul type. Do you hear yourself? When you have somebody throw that bike at your face, you're like, you know what? You're right. I don't know what I was thinking. You see what I'm saying? So new, very rarely is you gonna be exception to the rule on that. I don't play with that. Marry's too serious. He still follows ex fiance siblings on Facebook. They dated for eight years. Said I'm insecure for asking him to delete. How should I respond? We've been together one and a half years. Well, see the question, the thing is, when somebody done with somebody, see he was with her for eight years. That's a soul type that he may have for the rest of his life. See, he was with her for eight years. He literally can have that soul type of her for a minimum of 16 years. So when you come into a situation like that, you have to ask yourself, is this worth me getting into? Can I deal with what comes with this? Now you asking the question at one and a half years in. So it's kind of like, that's a question you supposed to ask in the first three months to yourself. So you thought, oh, when I get him and I get in there, you know, I get in there with him, he gonna just cut them off. Now he just showed you different. Y'all a year and a half in and he still friends with his ex fiance siblings. See the way soul ties work is, if you got a soul tie with somebody, when you, every time he see their sibling, he think of her. It's impossible for him to see his ex fiance sibling and not think of her. And every time he think of her, it rekindles that soul tie. It adds another strand to it. It restrenthes it. So he following them on Facebook, because that's a way for him to keep tabs on her. So when they have a family reunion, when they have a party, when they go to her birthday party and they post pictures of all the family, he get to see if she got a new man. Because her siblings posting the pictures. It also give him a way to where he still can message the sibling, I miss your sister. Tell her I miss her. Tell her I want another chance. So if you had an opportunity to see his Facebook message, you might follow up. You might like, oh boy, this man all in the Facebook. He talking to his ex fiance on his sister Facebook. She end up, this is me. She let me use her Facebook cause I deleted my Facebook when we broke up. Oh, cause you got me blocked and I needed to get a message to you. You see what I'm saying? So if you meet somebody and you see they tangled up in a well of soul ties, go about your business because you're not gonna be able to beat that. A person gotta want to release all of that right now. I was with somebody two years right before I met my wife. I don't even know where the woman at. Don't know, no Facebook, no Instagram. She had all kinds, she had an army of siblings. Ain't friends with none, I ain't heard from nothing. Don't reach out, don't hear nothing. Nothing, because I ain't want no ties. See, people understand when you break up you gotta break up with family too. You gotta break up with their friends. You gotta break up with their family. People understand that because of how the heart is wired. Now some people gonna act ignorant. Oh, just cause y'all broke up don't mean we ain't family. I see you like a brother. Talk to the hand, got to go, talk to the hand, got to go. Cause I got to heal my heart. You see what I'm saying? Got to break, so people know, people know but they'll play the fool and act like they don't know. But everybody know, if you break up with my sister guess what, I got to break up with you too. We, yeah and you ain't my brother-in-law no more. Don't call me, don't ask me nothing because I'm not finna be tormenting my sister when she trying to heal and get over you and then you over my house and you posing pictures with me. No, if y'all ain't work out, we ain't work out cause we ain't blood. Okay boo, great to meet you. It was a season of reason but it ain't a lifetime. We gone. See what I'm saying? So if he don't wanna let them go and then what he's doing is the Jedi mind trick. Oh, you childish. Oh, you insecure. Okay, yeah, you're right. I'm insecure, I'm gonna get my purse. I'm gonna get my purse. Okay, yeah, I guess I'm insecure. I'm gonna take my mouse too. And then let me get a mouse pad. Okay, well, hey, y'all together eight years, have a good life, okay, bye. You see what I'm saying? You got to look at the situation, assess the situation and see where you fit in. You coming in, you think you finna compete with a woman he was with for eight years and he refused the, on Facebook cut off the friends or the sisters and brothers. Come on now, you can't, you find an uphill battle. You find the losing battle. Chocolate gold, God bless you, God bless you and your family, Tony. I've been in an on and off relationship for the past six years, which became toxic. He broke up with me, but showed up. He's a good man, but I'm afraid of the time. Past six years, since gone by the business. Since gone by the business. This man got you on here wasting $10. This man on here costing you money. Six and a half years on and off. Come on sis, come on now. Come on, you need to watch more of my videos. I see you must be new here. You must be new here. Sis listen, I don't believe in a relationship longer than three years if you ain't married. If you ain't married within three years, you wasting your time. Everybody you knew here, if you ain't married within three years and you over the age of 25, you wasting all of your time because it don't take a man that long to know. And guess what? When you're in a relationship, ain't no breaks. Ain't no on and off. You all in or you all out. Ain't no, I can't be going to my woman every six months. Hey, I need a break. Need a break for a week, I'll be back. I can't be doing that. No, you all in, y'all life partners. Every single day, we all we got because that's what a healthy relationship is. Y'all together, y'all teammates. Now y'all trying to conquer the world. All your dreams, all your goals. Y'all going at it together. Ain't no we own three months. We off a month. We own six months. We off two weeks. If you doing that on and off stuff, you not in a relationship. That's a situation shield. You wasting all your time. They ain't in a relationship. When you got to keep break up the makeup, break up the makeup, you might as well be single. You taking your heart through unnecessary stress. God bless you. Now see, Nigel, you coming in here to add on to the question. Now what I told y'all, all right, you got to eat confusing situation. I'll see what you talking about. You been divorced a year and dating a new guy eight months and he wants to marry you. I might have read your question, but I still need to answer that other question for somebody else. How long should you wait to get married? Now see, this is the thing right here. A man knows that if you his wife, but it ain't no timeline and how long you should wait to get married until you know what you need to know. You got the full healing. Make sure that this man not a rebound. Make sure you broken that soul tie with your ex that you was with. And for me, it's a red flag when a man talking about he wanna marry you at eight months. Yes, he knows, but a man with some sense, he really ain't gonna start talking too much about no marriage until about a year. About month 12. Between month 12 and month 18, a year to a year and a half when a man gonna go to talk about marriage. When a man go to talk about marriage because men don't even fall in love. Men don't fall in love that fast. It take a good, good, good man two, three years to fall in love, in love. Yeah, an average man is gonna take him five to eight years to fall in love because men keep a guard up. Because men warriors, men hunters, men fighters, when you built like men are, you don't just drop your guard. Men afraid to get hurt. So a good portion of men don't fall in love their entire life with a woman. See, they will fall in love with their son, with their daughter, with who they brought into the world for that flesh of their flesh, blood of their blood. So they don't expect their son or daughter to hurt them. But see, most men don't even trust women. So when a man eight months in time and he ready to get married, you need a coaching session because you need to look at this situation and say, okay, what does he bring to the table? What does he bring to the table? And is he coming to eat off your table? And what's his whole situation? Cause if he trying to make an ex-jealous, if he needs citizenship, if he needs somewhere to stay, if he needs somebody to go half on the bills, cause he getting ready to get laid off. He know he getting ready to get laid off, but you don't know he getting ready to lay it off. But the job and letting them know in about three months, we getting ready to do some layoffs. So he needs somebody that he gonna be able to live off in four months from now. You see what I'm saying? When a man go to moving too fast and he talking too fast about marriage, you got to look with them because that ain't how a man is wired. They ain't how a man is wired. So you got to get all the scenario. You got to get all the details out on the table with somebody that got some sense and know something about some love and relationship and then get some outside insight from a professional friend, family member. So you see what's going on. Maria, God bless you, God bless you. T, the oars and God bless you. High tone. I took the life coach certification. I've been going back and forth with how I can support others with autism. I am a sibling of autism. I've experienced the good and the bad. You could be a special needs coach on my mentor got life. You could sign up as a special needs coach and cause we got a lot of people that's, you know in need and that's hiring special needs coaches, meaning mothers with an autistic son or daughter. They hiring a coach to kind of get some tips and ideas and just some support, some moral support, some emotional support. So, you know, that's one thing you could do. You also can just sew your time. You don't have to get paid for it immediately. You could just reach out and join some Facebook groups and then offer your services pro bono for the first 10 people. You know, just to get some practice in there. Azula, God bless you. Good evening. Tony, thank you for all you do. May your night be filled with blessing and peace. Why is a married man asking me about what's in my bank account? We are just coworkers. And what he did, I walked away. And when he did, I walked away. I don't know, he's just talking again. When you, when a man do something, you don't understand, he's a lame. He's a lame. Just get your little box and just put he's a lame. Just put the box in your head. He's a lame. Anytime a man say something and you just don't compute, you just don't, he's a lame. That's all it is. Some men just don't know how to talk to women. Some men just, just never learn. Some men just socially awkward, ignorant. Don't, don't, don't get too caught up in it. Now make sure you got hashtag Q in front of your question. Just finish birth your book, uploading the Amazon KDP to Mark. Can you share your thoughts on KDP pros and cons? I use KDP for myself published books. Me personally, I think they the best thing going, you know, Amazon trying to take over the world and KDP Kindle Direct Publishing is one of their companies, Amazon companies, it's simple, it's smooth. I also use Nookpress.com, which is owned by Barnes and Nobles. It's more complicated. Then you got Ingram Spark, which is even more complicated. So KDP is great. I think now they take 40% though. They used to take 30%. I think they taking 40% now. Double check that. So that would be a con because they'll be taking too much money for a book that they ain't helped write and probably need to sign a petition and all the authors on there need to sign a petition to getting them back down to 30% if they taking 40%. But I can't remember because my last two books was with a traditional publisher. So I'm not 100% sure, but I love KDP though. And you get paid on the 28th or the 29th every month. After the first, the first 60 days you don't get paid. But then once you start getting paid, you get paid 29th every month. Can a woman heal from her previous relationship while being in one? Or should she take some time off, especially if the previous relationship caused problems in the current one? Well, you kind of answer your question right there. So you kind of answer your question right there. Read your question again. See inside of every problem there are seeds to the solution. So a lot of times you just got to read your question forward, read it backwards, listen to it, ask your best friend. And the answer right there in your question. Cause see me, when the Lord get ready to call me home, I don't want to look back over the breath that I wasted. Said, Lord, please give me that answer back. Lord, I just need that little breath right now. Just give me another five minutes with my family. You see what I'm saying? So y'all got to ask me a question that you can't answer. Okay, outside of paying. What things can be done when you both have day and night schedules to do quality time to keep the fire with two work schedules? You know, you're going to have to get creative. You're going to have to get creative. Handwritten letters, you go to visit him on lunch. He visits you on lunch or y'all FaceTime on lunch. You're going to have to get creative. Talking to a guy who wants to get into shooting, nude or harboring. I expressed that I was not comfortable with that side hobby. He said, I'm insecure. Thoughts, tracks, you live. Okay, well, I guess I'm insecure, yeah. Let me get my purse. Hold on, the purse got tangled up. Okay, so when I get this purse untangled, I'm going to show you insecurity. All right, nude photography, that's what you feel you're getting to? Okay, okay, all right. Well, hey, it was good knowing him. I'm good knowing him. You see what I'm saying? Come on out. Come on out. Now he know good and well. He barely know how to take cloth photography. He's not Picasso, we don't know his name. Show him this video. This part of, boy, you barely know how to work the camera. Them raggedy pictures, you nasty. You trying to see these women naked. Because everybody know what heterosexual male photographers try to do. Photographers, photographers always been known to get more women in that bed than anybody. Because a lot of the women used to sleep with the photographer for them free pictures because them pictures could add up. Them pictures could add up. So them video vests and the models, they used to, that photographer used to have her up on the wall in the studio to get them pictures. So listen, nude photography, I got to go. Gotta go, gotta go. All right, okay, all right, well, I'll tell you what. The first woman that let you take a nude photo of her, that's your wife, that's your wife, go ahead. And then guess what, I guarantee she ain't gonna want you taking no nude photo, no other woman. It shouldn't be nothing but a woman taking a nude photo of one. Shouldn't be no man doing that. He ain't that artistic. He ain't not that talented. To be wanting to do nude, no, brother, go ahead somewhere nasty, but nasty. See what he is, he'd probably be on his phone watching the little nasty sites that he but only fan, now he wanna go create it himself. Now he wanna go see it in person cause he tired of, he can't get through that screen. He tired of trying to get through that screen, screen all sticky from all of what he'd be doing, computer all sticky. Now he wanna go do some, but he boy, they be trying y'all with everything. I think God ain't got no daughter. I think God ain't got no daughter. Boy, that boy has such a hard time. He come in my house and so what you wanna do? Nude photography? Don't get out my house. Don't get out my house right now. Girl, go get in your room, you grounded. You grounded. Give me your phone. I think God ain't got no daughter. Vanilla cupcake, my boyfriend said he's tired of being in relationship, but said he's not going anywhere. Haven't seen him in two weeks. Gone by to business. Said he's gone by to business. Gone by to business. He is a cancer survivor during this time. Was engaged, last, was engaged, lost, mom, and engagement ended shortly after 2016. Had a child by a woman after ex-fiance, but said scared to propose again advice. Said he's gone by to business. He's gone by to business. He'd be counseled to God be the glory. He was engaged, he lost his mom, and then engagement ended shortly after. Then he didn't get married, he didn't get engaged. He just got a woman to pray. Had a child by her, and now he's scared to propose again. That right there, that right there, right there, is the definition of emotionally unavailable. Gone by to business. Because you're gonna hurt yourself. Mama's joy, God bless you. Man gets girl, and mom don't want him just help. Will he disappear or co-parent? If he disappears, will he come back to co-parent? I can't tell the future, okay? That's not what I do. You see what I mean? So if she don't want him, she just won't help, then he probably just gonna help. And if he already helping, then that's just who he is. That's what he does. So if she just won't help, then that's probably what he gonna do. But I can't tell what he gonna do, cause you know, every man different. I'm a 26 year old, and I recently watched an interview and she's 52, saying she wish she explored more sexually and did more in her 20s. Sometimes I struggle with this, how to help myself. It gonna be my last question tonight. Y'all don't send no more questions in. Don't send no more questions in with spirit getting drained. Then somebody just sent a question in, I can't let you waste your money now. Don't send no more questions in. So you got to take everything in context though. See, Turner Brassen has been dealing with a life situation. She's also in a very secular and evil industry where it's certain stuff that's promoted to them and that they are supposed to promote to the world. Promiscuity is never smart. Promiscuity is never healthy. People lose their life. People contract diseases that are incurable. People contract disease that will take their life. Promiscuity is never. I did it all in my 20s and I regret it. So tell Tony that. Tell Tony Brightston, Tony Gaskin said, I was out there, dirt dead a lot. Loose dangling all the way slanging and I regret it. If I could go back and save myself until marriage, I'd do it. I'll tell you the truth because ain't nothing beautiful, ain't nothing fun, ain't nothing healthy by soul ties, by so many holes in your spirit, by being attached to people. Do you know the thing? See, y'all wouldn't be able to deal with me if I had saved myself to my wife. Y'all would get so sick and tired of me talking about my wife. Y'all already tired of me showing my wife off on Instagram and talking about her. And I wasn't a virgin when I met her. So listen to what I'm telling you. Listen to what I'm telling you, nine. Don't listen to that foolishness. Don't listen to that foolishness. I can't remember if you say you're a virgin or you're saving yourself, but keep doing that. Don't ever listen to that, none of that foolishness. And Tony Brightston hush, okay? If that's what you want to do, then keep that to yourself. Don't go shan that with the rural because then you've got young people who don't know no better out here on their bike. So they say, oh, I'm finna go get this in. I'm finna get on my bike. I'm finna get this in and then catch HIV. Is Tony Brightston gonna pay your hospital bills? No. So listen, don't listen to these celebrities. These people don't know what they be talking about. Because a lot of them, they ain't had no childhood. A lot of them, they in the devil industry. They've been turned over to a reprobate mind. And that's how you know somebody gotta reprobate mind when they say they wish they would have spread their body around. What, the world? What is the absolute whole world is you talking about? That's ignorant. They ain't no but Satan talking. Trying to get all more illegitimate kids out here. More STDs out here. And you see what it be us. It be us. See, I don't even be all in the media like that and I already heard about that. But see, they'll let us say it. But then if somebody of another race say it, we don't see that go viral. It probably other people that have said it. But we don't see that go viral. Because they're not finna destroy their race. But somebody out here, it's like say it. Oh, we finna let y'all, you know what? Let's go get all on, eh, that's what they need to get. Let all of them get eh, let all of them get illegitimate. Let all of them stay po on foods down. Yeah, let them sleep together. Let them sleep together. Let them sleep together. They gonna be broken homes, sing them all, sing of that. Yeah, but eh, put that on rewind. Once you got a TV show on weed, Bravo, TLC, give them another season, give them another season and ask about that three more times. Woo, that's finna have a million women out here on their bike. You see what I'm saying? It's orchestrated. The devil know what he doing. And then people be ignorant to be a vessel for evil. Come on now, y'all got to use, y'all got to use, y'all common sense, don't let nobody listen, listen. Come on now, listen. I done seen, I was in the streets hustling. You can't, can't nobody tell me, boy, I wish I would have sold more drugs. Absolutely not. Got five years long enough for me cause I could have lost my life. I could have lost my freedom. Don't let nobody tell you when you doing right, stay on the right path, stay on the right path. I wish I would have listened to my mama when my mama said, boy, don't spread yourself too thin. I wish I would have listened. I wish I knew what she really meant by that. Coni God bless you. Now I married my husband in 2016 in three months. Needed green card. Who needed a green card? We have a three year old son discovered that he was having an affair and plotting with mistress to wait for me to sign for citizenship. Still have a soul tie and hook up. Still have a whole soul tie and hook up. Hell, since you're gonna need more than this Q and A, you're gonna need more than this Q and A. Now see, now everybody who see that now, take a lesson from what she just said. Take a lesson from what she just said. Huffing needed a green card, was plotting with the mistress. Now y'all are seeing me do little scenarios on this stuff in the video and y'all be thinking my scenarios be overboard and I'd be exaggerating. Nope. This how you what? Listen, listen, all I need is citizenship. As soon as she married me and we get married, I'm coming to you, baby. And then I'm gonna get you citizenship. Trust me when I tell you. Listen, okay, hey, here she come. I gotta go, I gotta go. All right, all right, I love you. That's what he doing. And so, so some foreigners, they get mad at me. Some women have got mad, oh, honey, it's not hard. As you say, a man might need a green card. I say, listen, I don't care. Nothing about how you feel. I know what's going on out here. A lot of these men out here who listen, the president trying to revoke DACA. So he ain't trying to build a wall. You know what I'm saying? So a lot of these men over here without eating papers, they trying to do anything. They ready to get married. That's why I always tell you, when you meet a man, and it's been three months, four months, six months, eight months, and he talking about marriage, check that citizenship status. Check that citizenship status. Cause he ain't got that citizenship. Listen, you might be a victim, listen to me. That's what they be doing. Don't a man wanna get married fast because when a man got citizenship, he be, and when he already a citizen, he got that one away in three years, five years, seven years, 15 years, 25 years. I don't see any awe when he got that citizenship. When he ain't got that citizenship, he don't even know her last name. Oh, you look like my wife. Oh my God, oh my God, you look like my wife. Oh my God, I need something to drink. I've been waiting for you. And then you so ready, so loose, you not thirsty, you dehydrated. Oh my goodness. I had to get my mama about that mess. I had to talk to my mama. That man don't want you. He wanna be a citizen. Cause they about to put that wall up. Come on now. Y'all got to use common sense now. If you ain't got common sense, give me a call. You ain't got common sense, give me a call. I'ma let you know. Pretty tired God bless Tony. Can you expand more on why men that smoke are not a good option? A lot of men I keep meeting smoke even if they are professional. Because anytime a man don't have control over his life, he unstable. You can't submit to a man who don't know where he gone. When a man has given his life to a vice, when he needs something every day, then, and it's other than his purpose that oxygen and food and love from you, then that's not a man. He, that's that thing that he's spoken, that's his crutch. So he need that. And when he's not in control of his life, that one I don't have, I don't let no vices. I don't, I'm not addicted to a video game, gambling, smoking, drinking, cursing, none of that pornography, masturbation. I cut off, uh, Hanzola. I cut off Hanzola because I ain't want nothing that I need every single day other than oxygen, God, my purpose and my family. So you got to understand that right now. You got to understand that. So when, and the thing about it is, see that what he's smoking, I used to sell it. And then one thing I'm gonna tell you, by being out there in the streets, I was in college, in class, with a quarter pound and a 380 in my book bag, I was out there and I never once smoked. I ain't never once rolled up no blunt. And you know why? You know why I ain't never smoked because I never seen nobody stay the same. Every single person, that's a drug. It's a drug, it's not recreational. It's not healthy. It's a drug. And every single person that ingests that, they get addicted to it. Then they smoking it, then it starts smoking them. First they take it, then it take them. It control them and truck. And it's a gateway. Cause eventually it ain't gonna be enough for them. Now they got to put something in there. Now they got to add something with it. Now they need some Hennessy with it. Now they need to crush up a pill in there. Now they need a pill in it. You see what I'm saying? Trust me, man. Lena C. God bless you, God bless you. Hey, now, I got to go. I'll put you on here an hour. But hey, I got the iPhone 11. I had this iPhone 10 for the longest. I only got the iPhone 11. That iPhone 10, that battery wouldn't have lasted this long. I got on here with 50, 60%. I've been on here an hour and a half. This is live. Okay, this is screaming. Streaming for those of y'all who speak proper. This is streaming. And that battery's still going. So I'm shocked. I'm shocked. If you have time, you missed two paid questions. A wild back. One from Leticia Davis and one from Gina. Y'all let me go back and see. Now when you say a wild back, now it's a lot of message in here. Lena, God bless you. They probably were pretty tall. Y'all let me find them questions I missed. Hey, no more questions. I don't put no more questions. Don't put nothing in chat. Because y'all, when you put something in chat, it zoom back down to the bottom and I'm trying to scroll up. Because you said I missed some paid questions. Now see, listen, these chats is free. Y'all got to understand that. These chats is free. So when y'all send a super chat and all of that, you know, when people do that, they're sacrificing, taking food off their table. That's why I try to make their question a priority. But I want y'all to understand these chats is free. No, don't look like I'm gonna be able to find Gina now. I'm gonna find Gina. Should you wait, okay, honey bee. Should you wait for men to mature under the age of 25, being honest and or being dishonest and or cheating and not wanting to wait for marriage. Thank you for your time. No, you should not wait. No, you should not wait. Because if a man is for you, then he's going to mature when you meet him. I met a man, you know, I got married at 23. And I was a doll before I got married. So you got to understand, if you, people say, can it be the right person in the wrong time? No, because love transcends time. Love supersedes time. Love crosses all boundaries and barriers. There's no roadblocks to real love. Can't distance, age, none of that. Love is so great. It's so grand. It's so strong. So you have to understand that he could be 18 years old. If he meets you and he feels truly that you are his wife, he will mature to husband status. Yeah, ain't gonna be able to get in question now. Cause I've been scrolling for a while. Okay, let me see. Okay, Gina, Gina, okay. Gina was a $10 question. They were supposed to stay up down. Let me see. Oh Lord, oh Lord, Lord, come on. I was tugging the question and then it disappeared. It won't let me go. It won't let me go old raggedy YouTube. But hey, YouTube, get your all stuff together now. Y'all out there in Palo Alto, all that money out there and y'all can't even let somebody scroll up on the chat. Come on now. Y'all sitting out there all day cold. Be buffering people lives and then can't even let somebody scroll all the way up. It's like, what you out there in Palo Alto for? You might have come out here in Florida. If you out there, can't, cold, cold, this where I can scroll up to the woman message. Now Gina, if you still on here, Gina, post your question just in the free chat if you're a member, if you're not a member. Gina was saying something about, she said it's okay for a password to give somebody a password but I can't really answer the question. Okay, now, Just Glenda, she out here working but Just Glenda say, we can't miss a single question. She even gave me a Latisha question. Now, Just Glenda, give me, give me a Gina question too. Now, Just Glenda, do you think a man who admits, uh-oh. Oh Lord, oh Lord, Lord Jesus, give me a strength. Hold on, Just Glenda, I deleted your message. I don't know how to use on this channel. See, when I held your name, when I held your name, okay, I don't hear you. Post that again, Just Glenda. I held your name, YouTube, doesn't block you. I ain't even hit that. I just held your name trying to hold it and read your question. Now I don't block you. Lord, Jesus be a developer, be a coder. Just Glenda, you got to post it again, I apologize. EP right there in Palo Alto in one second. Do you think a man who admits he's married, he married his wife for the wrong reasons, can learn to love his wife and be faithful over time after cheating on her for nine months in their second year of marriage? Now see, that right there question is a loaded question because it depends on who he telling that to. If he telling that to the side woman, if you the side woman, if you the side woman and he told you that, then he full of it. He married his wife for the wrong reason, he just a dog, he just cheating. If you the wife and he told you that, that he married you for the wrong reason, he been cheating for nine months, no, he ain't gonna be able to change. He not gonna be able to change. Hey y'all hold on on your question, now I'm trying to get Gina and Glenda, I mean the other person. Is it okay to not want to give significant other password to the phone, not trying to hide anything but also find peace and having privacy and not having to explain every little thing, not relationship related? It is okay not to give your password and you should not give your password if that's not your husband or your wife. You don't share passwords in dating, because y'all not one. In marriage you won, ain't no secrets. My wife got all my passwords, I got all her passwords and because we had a password, we really don't feel the need to check. Now I know the devil is real and I know everybody's human, so every now and then my wife might get my phone and get a couple of scrolls in and every now and then I get her phone and get a scroll then the other day she showed my old man who was a relationship coach, Negro do not follow me but follow my wife and responding to my wife's stories. I bite that ghetto, I say baby, should I write this man? But she say if you feel the need to write him, go ahead but I'm not gonna respond to him. You know, I'm just showing you the message. I say what? I say but now I don't see any Negro at a couple of events and I see him again, y'all might see me on the blog. Two Tony Gaskins arrested for assaulting battery, slapped the teeth out of man mouth for DMing his wife knowing that she married two Tony Gaskins and he a relationship coach. So I say, so the Lord was with me, I prayed because I already knew if I would have wrote the brother, it wouldn't have came off right. It would have been fighting words and I might not always feel like fighting. I might feel like shooting. And so I say, Lord, you didn't bring me this father leave me. So I say, okay, you wanna wash my wife's door or I'm finna get you son to watch. I'm finna get you son to watch. But see, that's how some folks feel. Miss Latif, God bless him now. Is yelling and masculating a man? If so, is there a way back or just break because he'll want revenge? It is a masculating a man when you yell because yelling is not communication. Arguing is not communication. It's noise. So it is a matchlating a man and he will want revenge, but it just depends on the man. If he was a savage before you knew him, it's best to go about your business. If he was a little socially awkward, he was a little passive, awkward with women, then he could forgive and forget and get past it. I don't see any men get punched in the nose by their girlfriend and they wanna make up and make it work. And I just love her. I wanna be there with her. And I'm like, what? You still got crusted blood on your top lip. And you wanna work it out? Yeah, you know, that's just a part of love. And I wanna be with her, I love her. I said, all right, hey, brother, go right ahead. I'm so fortunate, I'm a coach as long as you need me to coach, I'm a coach, but it wouldn't be me. I got the goal, I got the goal. Hey y'all, God bless y'all, I got the goal. I was at the movies. My phone just popped up, say 20% on here, 20% battery. Thanks for being a blessing. You really helped me transform. I really appreciate y'all questions. I got the goal, you know, get on ready for bed, get ready for tomorrow. I'm still got a few little work. Hey, so God bless y'all and I appreciate it. And I remember the day right now on towingassincademy.com, the love courses from, I reduce them from 50 to all of the $10. And then Black Friday, that's gonna be the biggest blessing of the year as far as the courses that you were not able to afford yet. It is gonna be a never seen before discount on 2020 on Black Friday. So just mark your calendars and put tonigassincademy.com bookmark. God bless y'all, we'll talk soon. And oh, hold on, oh, hold on. To my moderators, thank y'all. Thank y'all so much to the moderator for working hard. I really, really appreciate y'all. The moderators, they do that for free. You know, they don't work in my company or anything like that. They just support me on here and I kept seeing their name a lot. And they really, they have grace with me. They know that I'm not perfect. They know I'm gonna say some stuff that's gonna be a little off, little offensive sometimes because I don't always get time to fully explain everything I say because I'm talking off the top of the dome. Even though the spirit of the Lord be with me, you know, when you're talking, you just gonna say some stuff that could be misinterpreted. And they have grace with me and they understand and they keep showing up and supporting me. I'm gonna hate to lose them one day when I offend them too bad, but y'all just really thank them, thank the moderators for help keep the chat kinda clear cause it'd be so much more crazy if they wasn't in here deleting all the excess commentary going on. And I'm just one person, I did not go to the best school system so I can't read really, really fast everything that's on here. So I really appreciate y'all moderators for your help. God bless you.