 Hey everyone, I hope you're well. Welcome back to my channel. If you're new here, my name is Sepi and in today's video, I'm basically gonna be catching up with you guys and answering a lot of your questions. I asked you on Instagram what you guys wanna see other than my vlogs, because I feel like I film a lot of vlogs and fashion videos, but I wanna know like what else you guys wanna see from me so I can film that for you. So a lot of you guys have basically said that you wanna do like a catch up, like Q and A, mukbang type of video, or even a lot of you were saying that like you just wanna like ask me questions, relationship advice stuff, and I'm so down to do that. So I will let you guys ask your questions on there. If you don't follow me on Instagram, make sure you do, it's Persian bunny, but I just thought it's about time that we sit down, have a chat. I'm actually gonna treat myself to a McDonald's today because I just feel like having a fellow fish burger meal. I'll see what else I fancy, but I haven't had, I think since lockdown ended, I've had McDonald's like maybe once or twice. So I'm actually looking forward to this and I fancy a burger, so yeah, we're gonna treat ourselves and I'm gonna go ahead and answer your questions. So my camera doesn't sit where I've left you guys, so I can't even like drive and chat to you or like, I don't know, go to McDonald's and get the food and like, I don't know if it will sit properly, so I might have to go back in the house, but hopefully I can find someone to leave the camera whilst I'm eating. Hopefully I can find somewhere to like, the lean the camera. And then yeah, I'm just gonna change the music and we're gonna head off. Right now, I keep listening to this old song called, Grip Too Hard. You can get a big issue there by getting a store if you want it. Hello, hello, hello. Hey, please can I have a fillet-o-fish meal? Fillet-o-fish meal for you? Can I have it with a diet coke, please? Yeah, yeah. And can I get mozzarella dippers as well, please? Yep. That's it. All right, come on next time then. Thank you, thank you, bye. So guys, we have a security bag, we have, I think this one's just sauces, yeah. This one is the sauces. Okay, so you guys are wondering what I order in McDonald's. I guess, she's giving me salsa dip. I think that's for the mozzarella stick. But I get sweet curry sauces and then I have some fries, naughty. And then mozzarella sticks. I don't always get this, but fillet-o-fish burgers are so tiny that like you're not gonna get full off of this fillet-o-fish burger and if you do, you're not okay. Get off this channel, I'm joking. But yeah, this isn't like, it's not the most filling burger, it's literally tiny. If you guys aren't from the UK, look how tiny that is, please. What am I gonna do with this? Imagine this was like your whole meal. I just can't, that's so small. But usually I get double cheeseburger with Big Mac sauce, but I don't know why, I just really fancy the fillet-o-fish burger. So that is what we're going with and I want some diet coke. Yes, I love coke with ice. Honestly, it hits different. Let me have a bite by the way. I had literally missed that so much. Okay, so I'm gonna start reading the questions that you guys sent in and try and answer them. I've gone from the bottom and the first one says, how old are you? I am 24 years old. My birthday is on the 15th of March, so I am a Pisces. So yeah, I'm gonna be 25 next year. Also, sorry for annoying you, that's not on the meeting tone, but I guess that's what mukbangs are about. The next person said, would you prefer Iran or London? So in terms of living, I've only ever lived in London, so I can't say if I prefer one or the other. So I guess that's a really hard question to answer. But I love Iran, I love going on holiday there, but obviously as I've never lived there, I think it's hard for me to say I would prefer to live in Iran. But I think it's really nice. That's why I love going on holiday, like Istanbul, Iran, Dubai, et cetera, because I love the Middle Eastern culture, like it's like the culture that I've grown up in. So yeah, I love being around that vibe. It reminds me of home and my house and what that's like, so yeah, I love Iran. Next question, would you prefer to marry an Iranian or someone outside of your country? I don't have any preference of like if someone is Iranian or not Iranian or like where the person's from. I think so long as we get along well, like they have a nice personality that goes with mine, they're trusting, loyal, respectful. You know, that's what matters and like you obviously have to have a spark, like a chemistry, otherwise it's not gonna work. So yeah. Sorry guys, I feel more comfortable saying like this. I feel like you guys were like too far up there and I was like leaning over. Okay, next question. Are you thinking of getting your own place soon? I love living with my parents guys, I'm not gonna lie to you, but sometimes it would be nice to like have my own space. I think especially with like the quarantine period and everything, it's showing me like, I guess like it would be nice like to be like the next stage of life, to be like I've got a job now and to like have my own apartment or my own house or whatever. So I guess that would be nice, but like not right right now, maybe within like the next year. So I would think about it, it's in my mind, but I don't have any immediate plans, no. I don't know how people film these, it's so hard. Sorry for talking my mouth full. This literally goes against everything I've been taught by my parents in terms of etiquette. Next question, tips on how to get a guy to DM you and know those Insta stories don't work either. Okay, so how to get a guy to DM you? It's a tough one because like, why don't you DM him first? Are you in a situation where you can see each other in real life, like face to face? If so, like why not try it that way? You know what I mean? Like rather than try and get him to like DM you, that would be like better. But if you want him to DM you, I guess those small Insta stories, so you can reply to them. That would be my first tip. Second tip would be maybe reply to one of his stories, one of my friends like replies to guy's stories. I don't have the confidence to do that with a guy that I like. Like if I like a guy, I usually wait for them to make a move. I've never made a move fast, which one of my friends said I was weird for, but I guess everyone's different. I guess you can reply to one of his stories, see what he says. Also never chase a guy. You can always tell the guy who likes you, he'll make the effort for you. He'll like actually want to message you or go out of his way to like DM you or something. If you feel like you're trying too hard, there's probably a one-sidedness thing going on there. So don't like get your hopes too much. Like don't get your hopes up too much for it. And like actually think about like going off to someone who's worthy of your time and like actually is texting you all day or calling you all day or messaging you or replying to your stories or telling you you're beautiful or I don't know, like anything like that. Because if you haven't had that yet, trust me, we'll come along. There'll be a time where someone does do that. And if you haven't had that in a while, remember when you did have that and remember like not to settle because I think like settling is like a lot of like what I see that my friends do all the time. Even I was I guess doing it at some point where I felt like I had to make the effort because sometimes guys get really complacent with like the fact that like girls are just like coming after them rather than like them having to be a bit more of like, I don't know because I'm a bit old school. Like I like a guy who makes an effort and goes out of his way. The only time I make an effort and like I try and go after like a guy to hang out with him is when they're my friend. So like that's the only time you will see me messaging like, yeah, when we're going to dinner, when we're doing this, when we do that. And like I'm really confident about it because I don't really want anything more than that. But if I fancy them, I feel like if you're messaging them and they're not messaging you, they're not even playing games. Like I just think like maybe there's there's one side in us to it. Sorry, I don't know if like that's really harsh but I just think don't settle like wait till like there's a guy chasing you in your DMs or trying to get your number or like texting you every day. Don't settle, huh? Next question says, have you ever wanted to move to the US? So one of my friends recently keeps talking to me about moving to like Los Angeles or Miami. I like countries with a hot climate and I've never visited America. So I think I have to visit before I can decide if I'd ever want to live there. But I'm open to moving out of the UK for sure and moving to somewhere with a warmer climate because I just love hot weather. Never say never but for now, I don't know. Guys, I'm usually such a greedy person. Like I eat really fast. I can't believe how slow they are meeting this. I'm proud of myself. Try to find the first bit of this but it seems like there is no first bit to this. So I'm just gonna read what it says. It says, it's been two months and he started to become more distant with texts and calls but we usually meet every week. Should I be worried? Like I just said, if he isn't making effort like don't get your hopes up too much because I think if a guy really likes you he knows how to show you. And I think it's a two way street. The guy's watching this. If a girl likes you, she'll respond to your texts. She'll wanna hang out with you. She'll tell you when she's free. Don't like put up with like her being like a bit flaky or like just texting you when she feels lonely cause she's being blanked by the guy that she actually likes. Cause there's loads of people who actually do that. Yeah, if you're a guy and a girl's told you she isn't into you and then all of a sudden like she's into you whatever. Sounds like she's playing games, cut her off too. So it's a two way street. But if a guy's like being more distant, what's his excuse? You could ask him first, but then if he doesn't really have a good excuse for it like don't sit there twiddling your thumbs waiting for him because life goes on and there's plenty of fish in the sea. Okay, next question says, are you in a relationship or looking to get into a relationship? No, I'm not in a relationship. First of all, and second of all, no, right now I'm not looking to get into a relationship. I've just started work, things are going really well with that and they have a few like career plans, goals and stuff that I really wanna do and travel more and hang out with my friends more. I'm not saying if I met someone tonight and like I really liked them and they asked me out and it progressed that I'd be like, no, no, no, sorry. I've still got stuff to do, but like in terms of like, actively and openly like looking for a relationship or looking for someone or wanting to settle down, I'm not there yet. So no. Next question says, any advice on love, how to get over your fear of commitment or fear of abandonment? Okay, so I personally really believe that like, if, do I have something on my lips, sorry. I personally really believe like with someone who's right for you, if you know, you just know and like it clips and if there's any like red flags in your mind or anything stopping you, I feel like it's always there for a reason. So trust your instincts and like think to yourself, why am I worried that this person will like not be with me? And another thing is, it's not fair for you to carry forward what someone else has done with you to the next relationship. And you have to remind yourself that because just cause one person, it's like, in my opinion, it's like stereotyping. Like for example, if I say I'm a Iranian and then guys are like, oh, Iranian girls are all trouble. I'm like, oh, like you're one of them ones, like please stop all being to me. I hear a really comfortable for you because I'm not into stereotyping, like it's not good. So it's not fair for you to stereotype that your previous relationship is gonna be a reflection of your next one. If everyone was the same, then the world wouldn't progress, would it? So don't think that everyone's gonna be the same. Don't think that the last guy is gonna be like the next guy or the last girl is gonna be like the next girl. And yeah, keep your wits about you in the beginning and like if you're getting the signal that like you don't feel 100% confident enough to let go and catch feelings for someone, then there must be something stopping you, right? Something about them that's stopping you maybe. So bear that in mind, but like in terms of if it's from a previous relationship, like fears from that, then I think you just need to teach yourself to like let it go. Like not everyone's the same and yeah. You can't like judge one experience by like every other experience. It's like everything in life is like that. You can't judge everything by one bad experience. A lot of my friends also have like multiple bad experiences with the guys and like I feel like, and then like all men are the same or all men, da, da, da, da. And then I just feel like again, like maybe you should think about the type of guy you're going after or the type of person you're going after. Like let's say you're always attracted to the guy you met at the club who is talking to loads of girls and then you always get your heart broken or this and that. Like you have to look at what their personality is like and maybe you're attracting the wrong traits or you're attracting the wrong character of person and that's why you end up getting hurt. So you have to make sure that the person who you want to commit to also wants to commit. Like you can't force someone into wanting to commit with you just because you really like them. Okay, I guess we're still stuck on the topic of relationships because the next question says, how is your love life? My love life is kind of like not existent at all. So my love life is like, I'm not seeing anyone and I'm not looking to see anyone and that's the way it's going. In final year of uni, like I kind of really saw like what I want to prioritize and like, even though like for example, I like would meet someone that I would really like, I just felt like maybe like I wasn't ready or we weren't both like both in the same space. So yeah, I think I realized since my final year of uni that like I just kind of want to focus on me. So my love life is just me and me right now and I really want to take myself on holiday. Okay, next question someone says, how can you be an independent woman? I think the reason why people don't understand when they're younger, why school is important or why education is important is because it gives you a skill set to be able to become something of yourself and get a job or build a business or something along those lines. And I think it's really important to, if you guys are still in school, work hard at school and try and like give yourself goals that like, you know, this skill set is going to get me a job in this place, like somewhere that I really want to work or this field that I really want to work in, et cetera. Because working is ultimately what gives you your independence, like earning your own salary and living off yourself is ultimately what gives you your independence. When I was 16, I started like tutoring after I got my GCSE results. So I think like that really helped as well. So looking at part-time jobs, like you can, for example, babysit, you can work in like shopping malls, et cetera, but ultimately to be independent, like you need to work hard on yourself, develop a certain set of skills and start charging for those skills. You know what I mean? That's what we ultimately do by going to school. So, or by doing an internship or apprenticeship or whatever it may be. So yeah, work hard on yourself, dedicate hours of the day on building yourself, building your knowledge, all of that. Now ultimately helps you to be independent. I just realized maybe the person meant in terms of like being okay with being single and like not dating someone, in which case I don't know how to like advise that to someone. I think you need to actually be on your own and experience things on your own in order to know that you'll be okay. So maybe at first like it'll be hard for you because you're used to always doing something as a couple or this and that. Once you show yourself that you can go and have a lunch by yourself or you can have a dinner by yourself or like the best thing that I've honestly done was going to Dubai by myself. It was the best experience of my life hands down ever. Like I can't even explain how amazing it was just like sitting in a restaurant like when I first landed. And like the guy I remember the way to was like to me, is it just you? And I was like, yeah, just me, like table for one. And it was so nice. Like I can't explain to you what I went to Nikki Beach. Like it was so nice guys. Yeah. Once you do it, you'll see that it's really easy to be independent. Someone said, just asking, do you listen to classical Iranian instrumental music? And I love you too. I love you as well. And they said, PS, I love your vlogs a lot. Would love to visit around Monday. I'm half Indian, half Indonesian. Love you too. Thank you so much. And I really hope you do get to visit around Monday. It's so beautiful. Classic Iranian music. I'm getting like stuff like music of Sonati. I listen to when we go to like Sonati or like traditional Iranian restaurants in Iran, but in terms of sitting in my room and listening to it or in the car, I'm gonna be honest with you, absolutely not. The music that I listen to is more like UK, like hip hop and grime. I like R&B music. I like chart music. So that's the kind of stuff that I listen to. And I like like Iranian chart music as well. Not that we have charts, but like the typical like Sasi Mankan, Sami Beghi, Tatalo, Tohi, those vibes I love. Okay guys, I'm trying them lots of other sticks now. They're probably a bit cold cause I've been filming this video for like half an hour. Okay. Oh my God, the sauce is like a salsa I just saw now. It's like a spicy tomato. I like the sauce. This one looks like. Someone said, I know you're a junior doctor now, but in the future, which field of medical practice do you wanna practice in? So I really like obstetrics and gynecology and pediatrics. So one or the other. And in pediatrics, I'm really interested in neonatology. So basically I really like the beginning of life and like neonates and babies. So yeah, that's what I want to work in. Ultimately, inshallah. Someone else said, what uni did you go to? If you don't mind me asking. No, I don't mind you asking. I went to St. George's University of London. It was a really nice uni. So many of my friends are still there finishing their final year. So yeah, love it. And I'm probably gonna go back to visit. It's in the south of London in Tooting. There's loads of like good restaurants and stuff around there as well. So, and it's really accessible by the northern line. So I really like it. Finish that. That was honestly the right amount of food. I hate when my fingers get dirty. I literally don't eat crisps with sandwiches and stuff. I don't eat burgers with my hands because I hate getting my hands dirty. Last question I'm gonna answer is how do you continue after a breakup? So I know breakups can be really hard and they can get you feeling really down. And I'm gonna be honest with you. The first thing that always helps is time. So in the beginning, it's gonna feel rubbish. You're gonna feel really down and upset. And you're gonna feel like this pain is never gonna go away. And you're never gonna find anyone or you're never gonna find anyone else like attractive or you're never gonna be able to fall in love again. And all of that takes time. And how long it takes kind of depends on how long you were together and how deep your feelings were for each other and how involved you are in each other's lives. And that's the second thing to do with how to get over a breakup is you kind of need to cut the person out of your life. And like, when I say cut them out, I don't mean like go and block them and this and that. Like no need to be mean, but if you're always watching their stories, then I think it's good to unfollow them because that obsession over what they're doing isn't healthy for you. And you're always on edge or you're always nervous. Like, oh my God, I don't wanna open up. I'm gonna pick you guys up. Like, you're always on edge or you're always nervous because you're like, oh my God, I don't wanna open up Instagram and see like that like there's a girl's hand in the corner of his picture or like whatever. So, you know, in that sense, it's good to unfollow them and to make sure like that you're not gonna like fall into any sort of trap of like stalking them and like not being able to move on from it. I would also say third thing is go and go to the gym a lot or like go work out a lot because working out puts you in such a good mood and it helps with your like endorphin release and just honestly, when you feel healthy on the inside, you feel like better on the outside as well and it's just distraction. So, the last thing again is just distraction, distraction, distraction. Go out with your friends, find a good comedy TV show, moda family, friends, they're always good TV shows to go to whenever you're feeling down or like whatever, like you need your mind taken off things. Do that, go out to like restaurants. I know it's hard now because of COVID but we do have more freedom to go out versus the beginning of lockdown, which was really hard if you guys were going through a breakup then but try and distract yourself. I wouldn't say like, I know some people like, say like, oh, start dating someone else or something like that but I don't think that's healthy. And all my friends who broke up with someone then started dating someone else like ultimately needed to, after they broke up with the second person, have a period of being single and coming to terms with everything because they just jumped from one relationship to the other. So yeah, I think you need to give yourself that time and like another thing I'd say is like self-help books also really help. So the secret, the alchemist, even like you can watch the secret movie, you can meditate every day, you can read Abraham Hicks, all of these things like really in my opinion help you. And yeah, I hope that's helpful on how to get over a breakup but it's all about like knowing, like you have to tell yourself, this is shit. Like I know like it's really like easier said than done but like loads of people you know will have gone through heartbreak at least some point in their life. So like just tell yourself like it happens and you will pick yourself back up and it doesn't matter if you're 15 or 50, heartbreak will always hurt and you have to allow yourself to feel hurt at the start but don't mope and don't let it linger and you know, move on from it. Okay, so that is the end of this video and the end of our little McDonald's muckbang, cap chop, Q&A, whatever I'm gonna call this. I hope that you guys enjoyed this video. If you did then give it a huge thumbs up and subscribe to me down below. We're gonna be back with more vlogs. You guys also ask for more fashion videos and styling videos so I'll have a lot more of that coming for you. And any other kind of videos that you guys wanna see from me, make sure to leave it down in the comments and I will be sure to film them for you. I love you guys so much and I'll see you next time. Bye.