 Hello, my name is Matthew Coast and with me is Helena Hart and Today we're gonna be talking about how to tell if a guy likes you. So there's been a lot of questions about this and so Helena and I have become addicted to live streaming on YouTube and so So now we're just getting on here whenever we possibly can and we're talking about Different topics that are important to you and that I think there might be a little bit of confusion around specifically this topic about how to tell if a guy Likes you or not You know, it's interesting. We're kind of talking about this yesterday with this whole thing where You know, there's like what what happens a lot of times in our comments sections Is that a lot of people will Kind of misinterpret things that we say right That never happens. I never Know people misinterpret what we say and they like take things to the extreme, right? So if if we say, you know, a guy pulls away In their mind, it's like, okay. Thanks. Thanks. Yeah Yeah Hey, if you're if you're here watching right now, feel free to leave a like a high in the comments We love we love getting a little high Helena has this thing where she gets bugged by things One way or the other so I'm like, yeah, go ahead. What you know, what what if it's really gonna bother it It's gonna bother me and it's gonna bother her. So Yeah, so like I was saying today, we're gonna be talking about how to tell if a guy likes you and so The reason that this happened was because we we get a lot of people that are kind of confused about whether or not You know, what's going on when we when we're talking, right? Like, okay, is this guy interested in you if is he pulling away and when he's pulling away is he pulling away? because He needs some space, you know, he needs to like some time to kind of re-energize or you know, maybe he's an introvert maybe he's just You know in a place where he he needs a little bit of time to himself, which I think I think Helena and I were talking about this and we believe we believe this is a natural and normal thing for people to want is to have time on their own sometimes regardless of whether they're in a relationship or not and So is it that a guy needs some time or is it that he no longer is interested, right? Which is another thing that can happen which apparently creates a lot of confusion because if a guy leaves and he's just You know ignoring you and doing things like that not showing any interest at all You know, it's there's there's a line that gets crossed where it goes from this place of You know, he's he needs some time to himself to this place of He's not really interested Hello Man, I like I have a problem with pronouncing names sometimes and it always like freaks me out when I'm about to like So we have Karla like hi Karla and then how do you pronounce that you Eunice Eunice Eunice? Yeah, so we I so I have a list right here Different ways different signs to really tell if a guy is Interested in you if he's still interested you if you you know know a guy You're not sure if he's interested and there's kind of there's kind of different stages to it Right, and there's different environments and situations. So for instance, if you're in a situation where You're at work, right the signs that show that a guy is interested in you might be vastly different than like if you're in a bar for instance or if you're at a House party with some friends or a get-together and you have some friends that come over and a guy's interested in you He's gonna act very differently in that situation than he would if he's at work For a variety of reasons that sometimes I think are obvious, but it might not be And one of those is that a lot of guys are freaked out right now At work about showing that they're interested in somebody even though work, you know, it's funny I was talking to somebody the other day about this. There's this woman that was asking me about um about Whether a guy like oh she was saying that she would never like date anybody at work Like that doesn't ever happen, right? Like that's what she said to me And I'm like, are you serious right now? Like I think like Workplace romance is like one of the number one places that people find somebody in general so oh You go by Michelle. Okay. Well, hi. Hi, Michelle Okay, so um, so let's go over some of these things some of these ways to see that a guy likes you um and So the first sign that we have is that he initiates right so a guy that's interested in you He will initiate contact you will you will contact you he will um and the reason I don't know if you were here for our live stream that we had yesterday But we were talking about this topic of how to make a guy miss you right and so when a guy misses you He's thinking about you right and when he's thinking about you He wants to like re-establish that connection and in order to do that He'll send you a message and it's funny because I it's Like there's so there's a stereotype out there about women right and it's that women are like these intuitive people that really get what's going on with you know communication and stuff and I Think that women do have a special gift Generally speaking about intuition that men absolutely don't have like if if you send a guy signals He probably Like the likelihood that he's even going to like register that you sent him a signal is really low Right, whereas a woman when she gets a signal It's more likely that she's gonna see the signal and then try to figure out what it means Right, so that's the difference is that a guy won't even recognize it at all You'll be sending him you know flipping your hair and like giving him looks and smiling at him And he's gonna be like oh she looked like is there something over there or something I mean you won't even register that you're like doing these things whereas like women tend to Yeah, women tend to give Try to make meaning out of it so Anyway, he initiates so he'll think about you and he'll want to contact you and it can sound like anything I mean he might you know ask you about something. He might just tell you something You know like I've had women complain like oh well He just sent me this message that says you know like I'm doing this right now and it's like yeah He wants to talk to you He's thinking about you Yeah, he likes you. Um, so is there anything else you want me to talk about? No, I got distracted because Michelle typed in the question She said I gave this guy my number when he called me he asked to come over for sex I said I was going to call him back, but that's not what I was interested in doing Should I call him back and stand at my ground? No, if you're not interested in him Well, she says she's not interested in sex. Oh, what do you what do you want from him? Do you want to date this guy? Yeah? I mean some more info um Yeah, I mean so So one of the things that guides you I'll just talk about that. Okay. Um, one of the things that guys do I think we can actually pop this thing out. Yeah, it's hard to see Oh Okay, so um Yeah, so one thing that guys do Okay, so one thing that guys do um is They'll they'll test your boundary Right, so this is a typical guy thing that a guy will do is is he will test your boundaries and to see like what Kind of a woman you are going to be Right, so if he contacts you and he pushes for sex, right? Um, that may or may not mean that that's all he's looking for like in reality like And I talked about this a lot in some of my programs and in different places is that Like I think it's the statistic they did a survey um Gallup did a poll right Looking at I think it was Gallup. What one of those big companies did a poll um with men with single men about what they were looking for and I think it was like I can't remember the number was like 87% of men that they surveyed were looking for a long-term Relationship that would lead to marriage and having kids It was it was the overwhelming majority of men are in and I see this all the time I used to be in the men's dating space Um, I still talk to a lot of the guys that are in that space and it's funny just talking to guys in my life You know, I'll have guys all the time like start bragging to me like oh, yeah You know and I'm like I usually whenever a guy starts talking like that to me I always start probing him just because I'm curious about this And so I'll be like, I'll be like, yeah, you know, but um, you know, what do you really want? you know like what what is it that you're really looking for and Almost every time. I mean there's a couple guys that I know that are just good I just want to live a single life for the rest of my life, you know But most guys that I know are like I you know, really I'd like to find the one You know or really I'd like to find a great woman that I'd like to spend the rest of my life right and um Usually what comes after that is But I don't ever think I'll find her right and so Most guys are looking for something real Right, um, but they feel like the women out there Aren't the type of women who they'd want to have this relationship with And I know that can sound harsh, you know But it's usually like a lot of women telling me the same thing about guys You know like every guy I meet is you know, I mean like this or that or not what I'm looking for And so you have to realize that men are looking for something real You know, they're all looking for that real thing most of them overwhelming Are looking for something real, but they'll test your boundaries to see who you're going to be to them you know and if um He tests your boundaries for sex and he's like, hey, I want to You know, he pushes for sex with you. Um That may mean that he's looking just for Uh just for sex, right? Um, but it also might mean that he's just looking for sex with you Or it might mean I'm going to test her and see If I'm looking for sex Just sex with her or not And so you have to remember that there's kind of these different categories that can happen with a guy And so if he um, and we were actually uh, we were on the beach the other day We were walking down the beach and we were actually talking about this like um for a guy Guys put women into different categories and one of the reasons why A lot of dating coaches will say like Don't um, you know, don't put a uh Uh, don't have sex with a guy too soon What they're really saying is this that uh, it it can take some time For a guy to put you into a long-term Committed relationship status in his mind, right? And if you sleep with him before he puts you into that category Then there's a good chance that he's never going to put you in that category Whereas if you wait and create that deeper connection with him A connection that um allows him to put you into that category Then once you have sex with him, it doesn't change anything, right? And it's not a time period You know, it's there's like the 90 day rule out there And there's like the the three date rule out there and there's a bunch of different rules And I think they all suck and the reason I think they all suck is because they're completely arbitrary And they don't really take into consideration anything, right? Like the 90 day rule is is a great idea, right? And it's it's a um, it's a rule that like an overprotective father would give to his daughter You know like don't have sex with a guy for 90 days, you know, he's gotta prove his worth to you you know, I mean and and it's like um I had a woman that uh contacted me a little while ago and she was like She said that she was dating this guy for four months Before they ended up sleeping with each other and she ended up they ended up having sex And it was so bad that they ended up ruined the relationship that they had between each other You know and and they decided to part ways. So it has nothing, you know, I mean the um The amount of time isn't relevant, you know, I mean it's arbitrary having those rules is arbitrary Um, if you're looking at, you know, I don't I don't know what you're looking for. She wrote in more She just wrote in more. She does want to date him. She does. I didn't know if you were even. Yeah, I think she Yeah, so, um, it's better to uh Uh, yeah, I I actually um, I actually live in Denver as well. Um, I live in Lakewood Green Mountain area. Um, but you're you're right and I can't wait to go snowboarding Actually up there Michelle, I can't wait to go snowboarding next week in uh at Keystone. So anyway, um back to Man, I just go off on these tangents and it's like it never ends. Was there anything else you wanted to say about that? Yes, there was um, what was it? um Okay, you said Before they put you into that relationship category, right? So even if he would have put you in that relationship category, if you sleep with him before he's done that, um That can cause him to see you as something different, right? Is that right? Right, right. So You have to so What was I I don't know where I was thinking. I just want to clarification on that because it was a little bit Yeah, so he may have he may still Like you think there's a chance that he may still put her in that relationship category like what should well It depends. It depends. It depends. Um, I mean because he may have It depends on him and and that's why you need to have boundaries And that's why you need to find out, right? And that's why you have to be like no, that's you I mean like I'm willing to do this with you but not that. Exactly. Yeah. Um, and if you, uh, You know, let him Lead you to a place of sex before you've determined, uh, you know, what kind of a category he's willing to put you in Right. What ends up happening is is it will probably Stay in the sexual category forever and you'll probably end up catching feelings because that's Usually what most women end up doing is they get into a situation like that. They You know sexual situation because they're like, oh, yeah Well, I don't know it just felt really good at the time and we had you know I thought it would be fun and then they end up sleeping with them and then they catch feelings and then they come to me They're like, hey, I'm in a casual relationship with this guy. How do I make him commit to me? You know, and that's just a bad situation to be in. It's better to wait Uh, and and you know make sure that you're, um You know find out what category you're in before that ends up happening. So, uh, let's Got 24 more signs. So we need to We need to start getting through these things. Oh my god. Okay. So the second sign is that a guy will, uh, listen and remember Right. Um, so he'll he'll listen to what you say and he'll remember Um, what you said, right and you'll he'll bring it up later He'll say things that you said or he'll point out things that he's observed about you Uh, that he recognizes or remembers Um, if he doesn't really like you, um, he will Uh, he will forget everything about you. It won't feel important to him. Um, and you know, it won't be, uh, It won't be that great. So anyway, um So number three is uh, let's talk about Did you want to say anything about listening? No, I Okay, right. Yeah. Okay. So sign number three is that uh, he'll be in it's something I call being in sync with each other and and Um, like it deep in a relationship This means something a little bit different than it does kind of on the earlier stages of meeting a guy But being in sync with somebody really means it's like you're connected like you can feel what's going on with each other. You, um, uh You kind of know what's you know, what the person's going to say or do because you've kind of built this like really deep rapport with them um and in the earlier stages what it is is uh, it's it's called mirroring and um, what so what what a guy will do is he will like Uh, he will mirror your body. Right. So if like Helena's sitting here and she's like this You know, I mean I might end up being like that or like this You know, I mean because we're like in this rapport and like we're talking and you'll see this all the time Just just start noticing this with your friends because your friends And will tend to do this as well like you might both You know, you might all like cross your legs at the same time or you might like, you know I'll put your arms up like this or one person will put their arm up like that and then other people will start They'll just feel like compelled like they need to do the same thing that you're doing You know, whatever it is with your body language And when a guy does that it means that he has a certain level of being in sync with you and he's feeling Um, like like he likes you. You know, I mean is his body is revealing and this is this is completely a subconscious thing So he has no idea that he's doing this But he will like start mirroring what you're doing with your body. Um, and that's a good sign that he likes you um, so What what just to let you guys know whatever Helena goes like this She's like what it means is that she's reading comments on the screen like I was watching that yesterday I'm like, I'm like I'm like people know what she's doing right now. It probably looks really We'll get to your questions. These are really good questions. Um, so, uh, yeah Well, let's get through some more. Let's get through some more But yeah, the hot and cold thing and I don't know what to do. We'll we'll answer all of those. Okay, so, uh, so Sign number four I know we got to get through these signs Um, so he'll act differently around you than he will around everybody else and and this might not necessarily Be like he acts more comfortable around you. He actually might Like like if he's around his friends and he's like all open and like hang out and chatting and stuff And then like you're around and he's all like, you know kind of clams up It's because he's nervous. It's because he's like, um, like I want her to impress her I want her to like me and so he might start like, um You know acting a little bit weird or different Really just any kind of difference. Um, it might be that he's more playful. It might be that he's more touchy. It might be that he, um Jokes more it kind of depends on his personality and how he responds to To to being around somebody that he likes. So, um, when I was a when I was in high school, um, my My I had a teacher in high school who was telling me about She was telling the whole class actually about how like, um The differences between when she likes somebody and what you're supposed to be like, right? She's like, yeah, you know, they say that, you know, when somebody likes somebody else, um, you know, they start Being flirty and stuff and she's like, that's not me at all when when I like a guy I like try to hide from them and I like run away and like, you know, I mean like I'm like mean to him and like I like I like try to get him away from me because there's something that's sabotaging my relationships inside myself you know, I mean and so like, um uh So what you're looking for is something different and to act differently not necessarily um friendlier Not necessarily friendlier, although that could be it, but just differently than he is around other friends Yep, this can take forever So, uh, number five number five is that he will compliment Right. So, um, anytime a guy compliments you, uh, you know, you can just assume that that is a sign. It doesn't necessarily mean that uh, think so, um Think of you from an emotionally Attractive standpoint, but it does mean that he has some kind of attraction for you of some sort Probably the next sign is that he'll find excuses to be around you and to talk to me. And so, um I think what we're gonna do in in our next videos is, uh, have smaller lists. Yeah And then just have things where we just can talk about it if we want to Um, these are good though. Yeah, these are good. I mean, these are really good It's really good. He has just created a sign that I have. Oh, my handwriting is really bad Yeah, it's like chicky scratched. Um, so that might not be useful. But, uh, um Did you did you want to talk? Oh, no, I mean, I'm just I'm always multitasking like listening and looking at the questions and everything So like a few people are asking about hot and cold relationships Like is that do you want to try and tie that into this? Like what if a guy likes a woman? But he's hot and cold like what is that? You know what I mean? That's like something that everyone seems to want to know. One is in a long distance and the other one He told me he really liked me. I don't know what to do. And can you please talk about hot and cold relationships? How to call your partner out on it? Yeah Um Yeah, uh, can you give us give us some more details if you can because that's always really helpful So, I mean, it's a really common thing that we hear from a lot, you know It's one of the number one questions I get guy comes on really strong at first and then he backs off Um, how it depends how long you've been seeing each other If it's been less than like three months or so It could just be that he's just not the right one He's just not interested and then I know we as women that happens and we want to like dig ourselves in and Figure out what to do to get him back when he just he just wasn't the right one That's my opinion on that, you know, if it's early on if it's if it's like a long term relationship You say you're in a long distance relationship. So what happens? Does he? Disappear for, you know a week or two at a time It'd be helpful to kind of know that the details of it Yeah, I mean, there's so many different things that could be going on in a hot and cold relationship I mean, there's definitely generalized advice that we can give you about it, but it might not be perfect for your situation Because there's so many different things that could be going on, you know If if there a guy Is in a situation where you know coming from a guy's perspective and thinking okay, so i'm a guy And i'm being hot and cool, you know, um a guy might not even realize Yeah, I mean you think of it like you know, I mean, um You think of it like okay, he's on now and all of a sudden he's off You know, I mean, what's his problem with what's his deal, right? Whereas a guy is just like going through his life And he just feels things, right? Maybe he's feeling this pull Towards you and then all of a sudden he's not or maybe he's feeling this pull towards you But something else comes in and distracts him and he's like, okay, I have to deal with this right now You know, I mean, there's a lot of different things that could be going on there You know, it could just be that he's not interested, right, you know It could be that he has something out another priority that's in his life that's pulling him away You know, it could be a bunch of different things and depending on what it is depends on You know, how you should deal with it. Yeah I really found that like time the way we perceive time is really different than men in a lot of ways like a guy could go A couple days without you know initiating contact to us that feels like an eternity But to a guy that you know, maybe he was just busy with work and a couple days went by I've found that to be true working with you know what I mean? Yeah, absolutely I mean, that's exactly true. Um, if if a guy is like, uh You know, if he's feeling like or or he's distracted by something, you know guys are very like Uh single focus, right? You know, they're they're very much like in this, you know, focus tube And so if the focus tube is stuck on something that he has going on in his life right now He might not see anything outside of that at all even though, you know, uh, you know, that might be a problem for you or distracting to you. Um And so it just yeah, I mean and you know talking about priorities. Um, I don't want to talk about um, so, uh There there's kind of this thing out there where a lot of women are like I want to be a man's number one Right and I get that. Um I get that and I get that being important and I get that being a valuable thing um, although if I were you I think that I wouldn't be as focused on being his number one priority As much as I would being in his top like three Priorities right because if a guy has a business that's like really important to him And he needs to go and focus on this business sometimes, you know and make that a priority Like guys priorities will change, right? So if um, a guy is doing really well at work And everything's going great and everything's fine and it doesn't require his attention He might end up switching his focus of priority over to you Right and being like, okay, you're my number one priority right now because I don't need to spend time thinking about this Whereas, you know, things are starting to fall apart at work One thing that men have that I found that women Don't seem to quite get as much is this whole thing about being a provider, right and needing to be in a situations Specifically financially where um, he can take care of anything that ends up happening Right and so if he feels like that is being like pulled away from him Then he will be like for most guys that they're gonna be like it's like um It's like It's like the biggest emergency Ever in the world to them. It's like a you know, your house is on fire right now And I need to take care of it type of emergency Or most guys because they think I need you know, I mean like A lot of guys put their value as their their entire value as a human being Into their job, you know in in the west we look at our jobs and um, you know, we identify ourselves as those jobs You know, I mean, I'm a construction worker. I'm a mechanic. I'm a fireman. I'm uh, you know, I mean Like you're we're calling ourselves that you know, we we people say what do you do? And it's not like oh, well, I you know Like to lay on the beach and hang out in the sun, you know and and you know fry up some steaks on the weekend The question what do you do is asking us what our job is? Because that's how in in you know ingrained it is in who we are is it's what do you do You know, I mean, what do you do with your life? Right and your answer to that as a man is like everything Right. It's your identity. It's who you are. It's um It's very very very important. Am I going off on it? No, no, no, it's good. All right. It's important stuff. Yeah, it's important stuff Yes Michelle says what if you're the one who's asked what if you're the hot and cold person in a relationship? I'm the one that disappears. He gets mad when I do and I come back. Why are you disappearing? Are you not that into him? Do you just need a lot of alone time? What's going on there? Let's go. You know, there's somebody where there's someone there's someone where the guy's hot and cold and In her situation, she's the one. Um Yeah, so um, okay, let's go uh next Um, so uh, and by the way, if you're here and you haven't subscribed to our channel yet Make sure you subscribe to our channel to get more videos on how to have the relationship that you've always wanted We've got tons tons and tons of videos and tons of programs and stuff that um, that have helped a lot of women Create amazing relationships. We've helped women Attract, uh, you know the one for them. We've helped women Uh fix broken relationships. We've helped women men broken hearts and we've helped women get into marriages. Um, That that the absolute relationships that that they dreamed of and so um, you know, uh, Jump on our uh, if you're not subscribed yet make sure you subscribe and uh together with the girls You know, jump on our, if you are not subscribed yet, make sure you subscribe and to get more videos from us. So, what was next? Next one is, he finds excuses to be around you and talk to you. Do we already talk about that? Do we? I don't know. But if a guy likes you, he will find reasons. And so this is even like a workplace. So we were talking about the workplace before and how the workplace is a little bit different because guys are less likely to make some kind of move on you in the workplace. If you're in the workplace and a guy comes over and just starts talking to you and just like wants to talk to you and you're like, why does he keep coming over here and talking to you? It's because he likes you, right? That's a big sign that he likes you. You know, and if a guy likes you, he'll want to be around you. He'll want to be in your space. He'll start looking for opportunities to push things in the direction that he wants to push them in. He'll start talking to you about things that are going on in his life or things that he's planning on doing. And you'll gauge your reaction. And if you do like him, the best thing to do is to get excited about the things that he's talking about. If he loves sailing, right? He starts asking you about sailing and he's like, oh, what do you think about it? And you're like, I don't know, whatever, who cares? I mean, he's going to be like, oh, that sucks. You know, I was thinking about taking your sailing and I thought that would have been really fun. And you might have been like, oh, that would be awesome if you took me sailing. But, you know, you told him that it was just okay. That's the way that a guy gauges what he can do with you and where he can take you. And if he can take you to different places, he'll start talking about things that he does. And it'll give him a gauge as to whether he can take you on a date to do that for him or not. So the next sign that we have here is he's going to try to find out what your relationship status is. So we're actually, we're hanging out with this couple yesterday. And they were talking about how they went to Las Vegas. And the woman was like, this guy came up and started talking to this woman. And, you know, I think he was like buying her a drink or something like that. And then he's like, he asked her about like what she was doing and she said that she was going to go fly to like some other place. Because they own this airplane that they go flying around in. And he's like, he's like who's, you know, the guy's like, who's we? And she's like, oh, it's me and him, you know. And he's like, he's like, if you're not single, why are you talking to me? And she's like, what am I supposed to be mean to you? Like, you came and talked to me. Why am I going to drink? Like, I'll let that happen all day long. I forget about that. But yeah, guys will try to find out whether you're single or not. You know, if they're smart, if they're stupid, they won't. Or if they don't care, they won't. Which is something that happened with all the guys. You mentioned something before, I think Michelle mentioned something before about how guys are women will do some of the same things that guys do in these regards. And it's true, you know, there's a lot of similarities between these things. And I, you know, I don't go on another tangent net, please don't go on another tangent. Don't do it. I'm not going to do it. I'm not going to do it. Are you really going to kill you? No, is it going to kill you? No, I'm fine. Okay. I let go, I'm going to let go of things. Not always. There's some like things that I'm like, I'm like, I have to do this. But like, a lot of times I'm pretty good at like letting go of things that. That you are. Elena, on the other hand, is very bad. I'm the opposite. She's an opposite when it comes to letting go. So, okay, so the next sign is that he'll want to know everything about me. You know, and so one of the ways that one of the ways you can tell a guy's interested is that he'll want to learn about things that you don't want to tell him about. Right. That's how you'll know that he's interested in you because he'll, he'll ask you about something and you'll be like, oh my God, that's so embarrassing. And I don't want to tell him the truth. Right. And that's an indication that he really likes you. And an even bigger indication that he likes you is if you tell him this thing that you're embarrassed about. And he's like, and he's like, he's okay with it. You know, I mean, he likes it, even like if he likes things that you tell him about that you, you're like embarrassed about, you know, like you got a, you got a really crappy car and you're embarrassed about it. You know, and you tell him about your crappy car and he's like, yeah, whatever, that's cool. You know, like if that's a really good indication that he likes you. Or we were just talking about the differences between men and women the other day and we're talking about like, like it's typical that like the stereotype is that women have messy cars, but they have like clean bedrooms. And the other stereotype is that men have clean cars, but they have messy bedrooms. And I think there might be something to that. I've seen this or heard this or witnessed this many times before in my life. All right, so let's move on to the next one. So, so, so the next sign is that he's happy to see you. Right. And he's always happy to see you. So, if you run into a guy and like, you'll be able to tell that a guy likes you because a guy will like light up. You know, he'll like smile. He'll like, you know, feel good that you're, you're around him or you're coming around him. And that's that's a good sign that he really likes you is that is that. Sorry, I know. He'll be like happy for no. Yeah, you'll see him smile. Yeah. And you'll be like, what are you smiling about? I mean, that's what your thought will be like, like, why are you laughing right now? Is there something funny? You know, and you'll be like, Oh, no, I'm just having a good time. You know, and it's like, what he's telling you is he likes you. I mean, because a guy gets like that when he likes you. Yeah. All right, so you like that one. Helena likes that one in the last one. So stay to the end. The last one is the one that Helena likes the most. Okay. So the next one is you'll, you'll find excuses to touch you. Right. And this is really, especially if he's his love like we were talking about love languages yesterday and both of our primary love language is physical touch. Yeah. Right. And so, um, you know, to feel loved, you know, we have to be touched, you know, and so typically what a person does is they do to you. What you want, what they want you to do to them. Right. So if, if a guy likes touch, right, like that's his love language, he'll touch you. He'll like, you know, touch your arm, he'll like bump up against you, you know, grab your hands, you know, he'll like, he'll like put his arm around you and hug you like that. You know, like that's, that's how you like that's those are signs that he likes you. Yeah. But it might not be what, so his love language might not be what, you know, if you're really into getting gifts, but that's not how he feels loved. Look for how he's showing you like he might be something completely different. What I love his comments. You guys are cracking me up. They're great. I love the whole comment section of things. It's, it's, I just love it. Okay. So the next one is he'll joke around with you. Right. And so this can go either way. Right. Like we're, I was talking about before where a guy can either go like quiet or he can go open and get more playful and try to have fun and try to be more engaging. A lot of guys, when they like a woman, they'll start joking around trying to have fun with them or start, you know, poking them and playing with them more and just trying to like get up like reactions from that. Right. Like they'll try to get some kind of reaction because it makes them because they're like, oh yeah, you know, like it turns into like this fun game thing that they do. Helena's laughing because I do that to her. You take it to like an extreme. He likes it. He like gets me all like, right. Right. At the worst times, like right before we're about to go live. He just likes it. It's like fun for him. It's like his favorite. Okay. Okay. Okay. So the next one is that he'll get a little jealous. Right. So if you bring up the topic of like another guy or if you're like, going to go meet another guy or there's another guy that comes over and starts talking to you. He's going to get a little bit just a little bit. Right. Like not like crazy, like over possessive jealousy. You know, we were talking earlier about the like one thing and the other thing. It's like the so easy. And so the way that you'll see this is that he'll he'll he might do like protective things. Right. So he'll like ask who this person is like who is that guy, you know, or he'll like try to like pull you away from him or he'll come over and try to show some kind of like we're together type of thing, even if you're not together. You guys do this all the time. You know, it's like it's almost like it's like a mild form of like, I don't want to say possession, but it's it's like a bad way. Yeah, not in a bad way. Like in a healthy, you know, even jealousy, you know, a lot of people talk about jealousy. And it's like people think of jealousy as a bad thing. And in some ways, it can be a very unhealthy thing. If you're coming through jealousy, and it's really strong. Right. But knowing that you're jealous and not acting through your jealousy. It's a healthy thing. Everybody gets jealous. If you don't have at least a little bit of jealousy, there's something wrong. There's there's something that's dysfunctional there. Um, so anyway, so the next one is actually he likes to look at you. And yeah, so Michelle says we both smile at each other. And it's like, um, yeah, so you you he'll look at you, you know, and this has turned into like if a guy doesn't, if you don't like a guy and he's looking at you, you're going to think it's creepy. If you like a guy and he's looking at you, you're going to feel like butterflies or, you know, you'll feel excited. Um, and so if a guy likes you, he's going to want to look at you. He's going to want to spend time looking at you. Right. He's going to want to see you. He's going to want you to send him a picture of you. You know, he's going to want to be able to look at you. And when you're together, he might just sit there and look at you, you know, and you'll be like, what are you looking at? You know, and you'll be like, Oh, nothing, you know, but that's because he likes you. He likes looking at you, especially men are very visual. I don't know. They say that men are really visual. I don't know if that means that women aren't. I don't know what that means, but I know that guy as a guy, you know, and you're like somebody you're attracted to you're going to look at them. You're just going to look at them. You might even stare at them. You're just going to look at somebody that you like. So can I say that 12 more times? He's going to look at you. He's going to look at you. Okay. We have issues. Okay, so next one, next sign is he introduces you to his friends and family. And so sometimes people will sometimes guys will be embarrassed of especially their family, right? So this can be tricky if a guy doesn't like his family, or if he's embarrassed of his family, or he doesn't want you to see his family because he doesn't want you to not like him because his family's messed up. But outside of that, typically a guy will want you to meet his friends and family. And if he doesn't want you to meet his friends and family, that's a red flag. You know, like, basically, if he isn't showing you to his friends and family, it means he's hiding, right? And if he's hiding you, that's not good. There's something going on there. I don't know what it could be that, you know, you're one girl, it could be that he doesn't feel like your relationship could mean that a few different things. But if he's hiding you, or it could mean that he, you know, is broken in some way, or insecure, it just kind of depends. But it's a bad sign he's not showing you to it. He's not like, Hey, this is my friend. Hey, this is my family. So where were we? Next one. Okay, he focuses solely on you when you're with them, right? So one of the biggest complaints that guys have in the men's dating space is women on their cell phone. That is, like, the number one complaint that I get from guys is they're like, every time I go on a date with a girl, she's like, got her cell phone out and she's like staring at her cell phone the whole time. And then she like looks up, and then she's like back on her cell phone. It's the most annoying thing in the world. Well, if somebody really likes you, they're not going to be on their cell phone, you know, unless they're just, you know, unless they have a serious addiction or something like a seriously bad addiction, right? So if a guy likes you, he's going to want to like, you know, like when you're together, it's going to be like you two are together. You know, and he's going to want to just spend that time with you. And it won't matter what you're doing, right? Like, that's one of the things that I always say that I used to tell guys all the time is they'd be like, well, where do I take a girl on the first day? And it's like, take her anywhere. You know what I mean? If you guys like each other, it doesn't matter where you go. You're going to have fun no matter where you are. And if you don't like each other, it'll be a quick date. You know what I mean? Because, you know, you'll figure that out that you don't like each other and she'll be bored and you'll be bored and you'll be like, you know, let's just get out of here. You can go home and I'll go home and we'll talk to each other. You know what I mean? So yeah, you know, like, you'll want it to be like, you know, if there's other people, it'll be like, why are you bringing other people? And I'm like, why can't we just be us? You know what I mean? Or you'll want to create situations like if you're in a restaurant or a bar or something, and you're hanging out, you'll want to get into a situation where it's more isolated, where it's just the two of you. Good sign that he likes you. So the next one is that he does things for you. And, you know, this is kind of a challenge for a lot of women that come to us, because they'll be like, you'll be like, So it's a challenge for a lot of women that come to us because there's kind of this thing going on in our culture right now, the strong independent woman thing where a woman will be like, you know, I don't need no man for nothing, you know, and So any chance that a guy has to like do something for her, she'll like deny him that chance. Right. So like one of the instances is like, one of the instances is like if a guy tries to open a door for you, or if a guy tries to pick something up that's heavy for you, or a guy wants to help you with something that you're doing, right. And any of those kinds of things that happen. My suggestion is that if you like him, you should let him help you. Yes. Right. Guys, it's like a huge, it's a huge turn on for guys to be able to help a woman. Like it's a massive turn on. You know, I mean a guy feels like he's valuable to you. You know, he feels like he's useful to you feels like he's a part of your life. When you let him do things for you. And it's, you know, I know a lot of women are going to hear this cringe, but it's true. No, if you want. If you want a guy to want to be more in your life, let him do things for you. Yeah. And if he wants to be more in your life, he'll, he'll do those things for you. Right. We were actually talking earlier about like asking a guy for help. You know, it's like a magic. It's like a magic thing. It's magical. It's a magical phrase saying, can you help me with something. It's a magical phrase. So use that magic. Even if you think, yeah, or you know, if he wants to help you with something, but you know, you could probably do it better or faster, easier, a million little things that you could do probably faster than he could just try and just try it. See what happens. He'll be more attracted to you. He'll let him help you with stuff. Yeah, absolutely. Yep. So the next sign that we're going to go over is he buys you things. You know, we're kind of talking about that earlier. And it's kind of, you know, in this, this is such a touchy subject. So it's become like a taboo subject. And there's a good reason for it. You know, there's a lot of gold diggers out there. They're in America. It's weird. It's like the weirdest thing in the world where like the most we have like, you know, more wealth than like, you know, like there's so many people doing so well. We have such a high standard of living in America. And like we've got all these gold diggers out here. And it's weird. You know, there's a lot of guys that are freaked out about, you know, they're just absolutely freaked. Like as in the men's dating space, that's like the number two thing that guys complained about was gold diggers. You know, and that was one of the reasons why guys were like, Hey, where do I take a girl out on a date? Right. It's because they wanted to make sure that they weren't attracting gold diggers. You know, they wanted to make sure they weren't attracting a woman that was just like looking for a free meal or whatever. But going back to what I was saying, some guys are very, very, you know, it's one of the love languages, right, gift giving, right. And so a lot of guys feel like when they receive gifts, it's an act of love. Right. And so one of their expressions of love is buying things for somebody. Right. There's kind of a, you know, outside of the whole gold digger thing, there's kind of an expectation that men are going to provide for women in a financial way. Right. And for a lot of guys, giving a woman a gift of any kind is kind of like not only an expression of his love, but kind of like a symbol, you know, for him to the woman saying, I can be a provider for you. You know, it's, it's like. So I have this buddy, I have this buddy, I was just showing Helena picture of one of my friends out in Virginia. And God, I hope he doesn't end up watching this. But he, he's like a hillbill. Right. He like comes from the backwoods of Pennsylvania. And he, he was telling me about this date that he went on one time when he was in college. And he like, he's like, yeah, you know, I like this woman. And you know, like, I, so this is what I did and tell me where I went wrong. He calls me through. Right. It's like this hillbilly way of saying Matthew by saying through. Tell me what I did wrong here. You know, he's like, he's like, so this is what happened. Right. So there's this girl and I like her. And you know, we went on this date. And when I came to her house, you know, I had, you know, I had, I had skin the squirrel. Right. And I brought her the squirrel skin. And I was like, I was like, here you go. And she freaked out on me when she won't talk to me anymore. Oh my God, what planet do I live on? Okay. Okay, so here we go. Here we go. We got to get back to this. You might buy things for you. You might give you things if you like zoom. Okay, okay, okay, okay. So the next sign is that he will try to keep the conversation going. Right. And he might sound stupid. Right. Like what he says might sound stupid when he's trying to keep the conversation going. But he'll want to continue like the connection. That's what he's, he's experiencing when he's having a conversation with you is like this connection. And so he'll want to have a, he'll want to continue that and he'll do it, even if it sounds stupid, you know, he'll say stupid things like imagine you're texting with them. And he just starts sending, you know, I mean he like it's there's like a wall in the conversation, but he continues to say things, even if they don't make any sense. That's a great sign that he likes you, you know, continuing a conversation. And if he's, if he's smart and he's really socially savvy, he'll do it in a smart way, like he'll ask you questions or he'll do a good segue or something like that. But he'll try to continue the conversation going. Just like we would, we do that too. You know, we just want to keep that connection going on the phone over texting. Right. Right. Right. Just like, just like we do. I forget that I'm not a part of we, we, we women on this planet, we women, what we will do is we will continue to keep the conversation going. And it is up to us. Okay, I got to stop this. All right. So the next sign is that he'll try to protect you. Right. I just skipped a couple, didn't I? He'll try to protect you. Right. So we're actually talking about this loyalty thing the other day and when it's appropriate to be loyal and when it's not. For a lot of guys, loyalty for guys is really important, generally. And if he really likes you, he's going to try to protect you. And he'll do it when it doesn't even make any sense. Right. And you might even be like, what are you doing? I mean, he'll be like, you're like, no, I got to make sure that you're a good okay, you know, all right. And you'll be like, why, you know, I mean, like, I'm fine. I mean, I don't need that, you know, and like, and it's one of those things where like, being a guy is so, you know, I, you know, this whole the whole dynamics between men and women is fascinating, just constantly fascinating to me. And, you know, like you got to be like, I think she was talking about the squirrel. You got to be like, there's a little bit of a lag between like our recording and like when you hear it and when we see your comments. So we have to remember what we were talking about before. So for men, there's like this thing where like, you want to feel like a man, you know, and you're like, yeah, I want to be a man, that's part of my value is being a man. You know, and being a man involves being able to protect things. And part of the problem with that in today's society is there's not a lot to protect. You know, that's, that's a, it's a problem. It's a real problem for men, because we're like, okay, well, what do we even do? Yeah, I mean, because like, if we were at war, you know, if there was like war, like, hold on, let me give you a little bit of a taste of what it's like to be inside the mind. Okay, here's what we think about, right, if there was a war going on, right, men would be needed, right, men would be incredibly valuable. You know, and we would feel like we're like, you know, I mean, it would all you know, I mean, all men would be running around like, I'm a man, you know, like, because it would be valuable to protect people all the time, you know, and use that kind of masculine thing all the time. Being that we're in a society where there's typically, for most people, very little danger, real danger, regardless of how you feel about whether there's danger or not, there's typically very little danger for most people most of the time. And so for being a man, you're like, you know, like this whole thing where I'm like being a protector, and I'm like, you know, I mean, a woman needs me to like be strong and like be around and be able to make sure that nothing happens and to make sure she's safe. Like that doesn't exist for the most part. And so there are like expressions of this, right. So like, if you're walking down the street, right, and you're on the sidewalk and the guy like wants to stand like on the side of the street where, you know, the cars are, you know, I mean, like that's an expression of it. And it's for the most part meaningless, you know, or useless because, you know, I mean, if a car jumps the curb, you're both going to die. I mean, like there's no, I'm not really protecting you from anything. You know, I mean, but, you know, like it's an expression it's an expression it's it's this dynamic that has evolved through human beings for whatever it is. And, you know, it's ingrained in us, you know, and so we still feel it even if it's not necessary. And a lot of women push it away because it isn't necessary. And it hurts men when they do that to know and so if you like a guy let him do protective things for you. Yeah, or he'll tell you know, if you're not with him he'll say oh you gotta be careful about this or that and it might come across as like annoying or over protective but typically if a guy's concerned about something like that like oh you really got to watch out for that. Yeah, absolutely. Absolutely. Um, so the next sign is he'll avoid, he'll try to avoid to talk about it. And what what it'll generally look like is he'll be like, you know, and he'll be like, should I say this, I don't want to talk about that. But then he'll make a decision as to whether he should or not, whether it's appropriate or not to say. And usually he'll he'll avoid, you know, I mean, he won't say things about other women. He won't talk about other women. Um, like, especially like in the newer stages, like in the later stages, when it's already established when your relationships are established, and he already understands whether you're going to freak out or not. If he knows that you're going to freak out later when he talk when he talks about other women, he might completely avoid any topic that has to do with other women, all together. Um, and if he knows that you're going to be cool with it, him talking about other women, he'll feel more comfortable bringing it up. But initially in the first stages, what will happen is he'll um, he'll probably be very like, he'll be very cautious about what he says about other women, because he doesn't want to freak you out. It's almost kind of like this protective thing, you know, and so he'll um, you know, going back to the whole protection thing. Um, yeah, yeah, yeah, protection. Michelle says, you know, where she lives is kind of dangerous. He feels like he has to protect me when I'm out there. Yeah, exactly. Right, right. Yeah, I mean, if you're in Detroit, you know, I mean, and there are some cities in the US that that there is like a real danger, um, which is in some ways fortunate for men. In some ways it's not. Oh God, it sounds so weird saying that. No, but it makes sense. No, I get it. Am I promoting danger? I'm a man of danger. I like danger. I like when it's dangerous around me. Um, okay, so um, we talked, was there something else we were going to say? Okay, so the next sign, we're getting to the end of the signs here, which is really great. Um, and it's that, um, so the next sign is that he's going to face you. So this is a body language thing. And so what, what a guy will do is he'll go like this, right? Like if you're sitting next to him, he'll go like this, or he'll like, if you're like sitting in a chair or cross from each other, he'll like, turn his feet and his body, so that it's facing and pointing towards you, right? That's, um, it's, it's another subconscious thing that he has no idea that he's doing. But what we do is when we like somebody, we turn everything towards them, even if our chairs are sitting like this, we'll tend to like, we'll tend to like move our legs like that. We'll tend to move our body like this. We'll tend to put our arm up like that. You know, even if it's not like around her, but like over like this, or just pointing towards her, looking at her, you know, like having everything kind of facing her, even if it's awkward to do. Um, it's something that a guy will do. Yeah, I've heard like watch where his hips are pointed towards you. Yeah, yeah, his hips, his hips, his shoulders, his head, his arms, his hands, his feet, right? So all of those things, if they start pointing towards you, any of them, if any of them start pointing towards you, that's a good sign that he likes you. And it might even be that he's doing this, and he's not talking to you. Right. So he might be in a conversation with somebody else, or maybe two other people are talking, and he'll start moving his, his body, like in that direction, towards you. So that's that. The second body language tip we got today. Okay. So he goes out of his way. So he'll go, it goes out of his way for you. That's the next sign. The next sign is that he goes out of his way. And this can be smaller bit. Right. And this is this kind of goes along with the one that we're talking about before, where we talked about, like asking a guy for help. Right. If you ask a guy for help and he's like, sorry, he's so good look. You know what I mean? That's a bad sign. That's a really bad sign. But if, but if he's like, he's like, yeah, absolutely, I'll be right over there. And you're like, well, don't you have something else going on? And he's like, yeah, I'll cancel it. And I'm coming over right now. That's a great sign that he likes you. You know, if he's like, yeah, I'm going to drive over to where you are. And that's not convenient for me. If he's like, yeah, I will, you know, help you with this thing that you need, even though it's not convenient for me. Any time that a man puts you as a priority over anything else, right? Any time that he's like, I'm going to help you or do something for you or spend time with you or be involved with you or put energy, effort and thought into you as opposed to something else is a good sign that he has some kind of emotional connection to you. And he likes you. So the next sign is that he'll take an interest in your hobbies. Right. So you'll find out like what you're into, and he'll learn something about it. And so if a guy likes you, he'll, you know, it was kind of going back to that whole thing that we're talking about before where he like, he'll like learn about like everything about you, you know, and find out like the little intricacies or whatever. Like if a guy likes you, he'll take things that you're interested in and he'll learn about it. You know what I mean? He might look it up on Google and find out some things about it. Like, like, let's say for instance, that you're into salsa dancing. Right. He might not learn, you know, it's, it's, I even seen guys go out and learn salsa dancing just because they found out that a girl's into salsa dancing. You know, or they'll be like, or they'll go learn about like the terminology that is involved in it so that they can have a conversation with you about it. So anytime a guy goes and puts effort into learning about things that you're already interested in. That's a great sign that he's into. So the next sign is that he tells you that he likes you. So if a guy tells you that he likes you, that's a good sign that he likes you. Someone said something about that in the chat, way up at the top. A guy told her that he liked her. She's like, what do I do? Yeah, if a guy tells you that he likes you, you know, like, Carla, one guy, yeah, he told me he really likes me. I don't know what to do. Yeah, believe him. Yeah, I mean, it's one of those things where, yeah, you know, one of the challenges that a lot of guys run into, and this is actually kind of a make or break thing that a lot of guys have, right? A little secret about guys is that if a guy tells you that he likes you, or he tell it gives you a compliment or he says something really nice to you, and you like deny it, you know, you like deny him you deny what he's saying. It's a massive turn off for guys. You know, it's like, Oh, God, you know, like, why can't she just accept that I told her she's beautiful? You know, why can't she just be like, Oh, thank you. You know, or, you know, like, if a guy's like, Yeah, I really like you, you know, why does she have to start questioning, you know, it's like, I know that there's an insecurity that a lot of women tend to have around, you know, how they feel about themselves in terms of guys, especially if you're like really into a guy. But I'm telling you right now, it's like, it's a huge turn off. If you deny his thing where he's like, you know, I like you, you're beautiful, you know, I enjoy being around you. You're really cool in this way. You know, you're really good at this. You know, it's so much better just to accept it just to receive it. Right. It's it's this. And I think part of what it is really is this masculine. Right. So the masculine masculine is about giving. Right. It's about giving. And the feminine is about receiving. Right. So if I'm in my masculine and I'm giving, and the woman isn't receiving, I'm feeling like, like there's something wrong, like there's a disconnect. Right. Like we're not in sync. Like there's like maybe it's not going to work out like maybe we're not good for each other. You know, like that's the feeling that I get if I'm trying to give and a woman is refusing to receive. And it's, yeah. Yeah. So like he's giving you a gift, you know, it's like if you were to reject it, you know, it takes a lot of courage for guys to say something like that for guys to tell you that he liked you. Yeah. Yeah. It's hard. Yeah, it does. Especially if he's not like a lady's man. If he's not like used to kind of flirting with women, it's a huge risk to make any move. And so anytime that makes me that you are comfortable with is not against your values, you know, receive. So the next one is everyone else. Everyone else tells you it's obvious. Right. So if everybody around you is like, Hey, this dude likes you. And you're like, Oh, no, I'm really sure about that. I don't know. Why would you say that? He likes you. What makes you think that? He likes me. Yeah. It's not obvious to, you know, to us. Yeah. Yeah. So there's something that we say in the coaching community, which is that you can't see the picture when you're inside. Right. And so a great way to see what's going on with you and a guy is for somebody else to observe what is going on. You know, and that's why that's one of the reasons why coaching is so valuable in so many different ways is because you get this person that's outside of it, like looking at it and going, Hey, this is what's going on with you. So, so yeah, that's that's it. If you're new to this channel, make sure that you subscribe to subscribe button on the bottom side of this video. There's a subscribe button, you know, to get more videos. We're going to have more live streams. We're going to do lots of cool stuff on our channel. We're getting more people involved in it. You might have seen Adrian's video today that went out, which was really, really great. Adrian's awesome. We love her to death. We're both friends with her now. 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