 It was on like Donkey Kong comes out of the womb and they're like I get stuff done being this badass productivity machine if you don't feel like you're disciplined right now you're not starting behind the eight ball today we're going to talk about the five steps to be more disciplined today now I get it discipline doesn't sound sexy there's nothing nothing sexy about the word discipline or making yourself be more disciplined but it's not the discipline that's sexy it's the results of the discipline that is sexy it's the results of the discipline which creates the life that you truly want and we're going to talk about how to build your discipline and this is important because discipline isn't something that you're born with there's no person that just comes out of the womb and they're like oh my gosh I'm just a disciplined person no discipline is actually a muscle discipline is a habit it's something that you build and it's something that you create in yourself the same way that you go to the gym over and over and over again and start lifting heavier and heavier weights your muscles will start to grow up same thing exact same thing happens with discipline you might start off and not be a very disciplined person I used to be extremely undisciplined I used to just be lazy not do anything that I needed to not get anything done super late to everything that I did never accomplish any of my tasks and then slowly but surely I had little tiny wins and it wasn't like my whole life just shifted and I had this I went from completely not disciplined to the most disciplined person in the world there was never that shift it was years and years and years of just working on myself and realizing after five years after 10 years oh my god I'm a different person because I've developed this discipline muscle I've developed this discipline habit so for anybody who's watching this or listening to this realize if you don't feel like you're disciplined right now you're not starting behind the eight ball nobody is disciplined nobody's born with it it's something that you have to develop in yourself and the funny thing about discipline is that we don't need discipline for all of the easy things in life we don't need discipline to eat a pizza we don't need discipline to take a nap we don't need discipline to sleep in we don't need discipline to do any of those things what we need discipline for is the hard things not the easy things the hard things the things that you know you should be doing let that sing in for a second you don't need discipline for pizza you need discipline for you know a salad one of pizzas in front of you you need discipline to say no to that pizza and say yes this out you need discipline to wake up early and do your morning routine you need discipline to force yourself to go to the gym wouldn't be a lot easier just go to the bar and get a beer wouldn't it but going to the bar and getting a beer isn't going to build the life that you want the discipline is going to build the life that you want so once again it's not sexy but it's necessary in the results of discipline is sexy it's the life that you want the money that you want the freedom that you want the business that you want the relationships that you want but before we dive into my five tips on how to actually be more disciplined discipline is not about being perfect or being this badass productivity machine and you're just like I get stuff done you know it's not about that it's about winning more than you lose in this battle every single day right you're going to mess up it's okay we're going to talk about that later you're going to screw stuff up no big deal but it's about winning more battles than you lose on the discipline side it's about creating more than you don't and what happens is if you slowly start winning more than losing it kind of gets addicting you're like I'm going in the right path this is fun this is something I want to continue doing and you get a little bit better and a little bit better so I'm going to give you my five tips to help you be more disciplined and to build this discipline the first tip is this is I want you to challenge yourself to finish everything you may have heard the phrase or you may have heard me say it I say it all the time because I'm a firm believer in it the way you do one thing is the way you do everything and so I want you to challenge yourself not just to finish the big things not to get the reports done that your boss needs by the time that you need it I want you to actually focus on challenging yourself to finish the small things in life when you eat something instead of taking the plate and putting it inside of the sink can you take that plate wash it off by hand or wash it put it inside of the dishwasher because you went from the act of eating how do you close out the act of eating making sure the plate is clean that's a win okay that's just a little thing it's not sexy but the way you do one thing is the way you do everything so if you're not doing the little things and you're not finishing the little tasks and creating just the little tiny things that need to be done you're definitely not doing and finishing the big things so if you can have discipline to do the things that are almost minuscule almost don't even mean anything it makes it so much easier to start doing the heavy objects to lift the heavy objects later on down the road right so do the dishes you've heard me say this one before after you get done sleeping just make your bed listen I I'm being honest with you I hate making the bed I think it's I've always thought that making the bed is stupid if I'm being honest because I'm like I don't ever spend any time in my room the only thing that I do in my room is brush my teeth brush my brush my teeth after I get up I sleep I go and shower in the bathroom and then I leave and I never come back so I brush my teeth I shower and I wake up for my for my sleeping those are things that I do when I'm awake inside of my bedroom other than that it's just eight hours of sleeping every single night so to make my bed doesn't make a whole lot of sense but I'm in it for the act of discipline when I wake up in the morning I go okay I have almost finished the act of sleeping if I want to finish the act of sleeping I need to now make my bed it's about doing the little things because when you do the little things and you have discipline on the little things like doing the dish washing the cup making the bed then when you start to develop that little muscle of discipline it makes it easier to go you know what I need to go to the gym I'm going to force myself to go to the gym you know what I need to wake up at 5 a.m. I'm gonna start waking up it's about building you can't go in and just automatically start curling 75 pounds in the gym you know the 75 pound dumbbells you have to start with the smaller ones so why not start and have the discipline and to start to challenge yourself to finish everything finish the small things finish what you start don't allow yourself to stop anything early because one of the things that I see with most I've coached tens of thousands of people is that so many people are excited to start but they're terrible at finishing whatever it is that they want they're excited about their New Year's resolutions they do really well for the first week and they start to fall off in the second week and the third week basically they're completely off and they're back in their old routines so I want you to get the discipline of finishing what you start do not allow yourself to stop early or to give an excuse as to why you're going to stop okay so that's tip number one tip number two plan ahead and ask yourself this question how can I make what I need to have discipline and easier on myself so let me give you an example let's say that you want to start eating healthier okay you can eat healthier that is great that's a beautiful thing but then you ask yourself how can I make this easier on myself well one thing I could do is I could take Sunday and take two hours on Sunday and plan and create every single meal and if I do meal plans it makes it easier to stay on track to eat the stuff that I need to and therefore I don't go five hours without eating and then I find myself with really low blood sugar and then I just want to freaking eat a bag of chips and a bag of skittles right plan ahead for everything that requires the most discipline for you how can I make this easier on myself how can I make eating healthier easier myself why don't I take two hours of meal plan on Sunday perfect cool how can I make working out easier on myself I've done this before I've done this many times I forced myself to go to the gym and I get to the gym and I'm like well what the hell should I do and I'm kind of like just wandering all of the gym and picking up a couple things and doing a couple things and then I'm like I don't feel like I did anything in the past 45 minutes so maybe if you plan on working out four times a week five times a week maybe you actually have your workouts planned so all you have to do is show up so there's less resistance because what we're trying to do is we're trying to remove resistance in our brain when we know there's more stuff that we need to do like creating a meal we're less likely to create that meal because we're freaking busy let's be honest right but if I've already got the meal done it makes it easier because I'm like all I got to do is just take this food and put it in my mouth that's it right if I know that I've got to go to the gym and I and now I as I'm at the gym have to figure out the workout there's resistance that because it's going to require more of me so if I just plan I say okay it's today Sunday I'm going to work out Monday Tuesday Thursday Friday and I'm going to do chest and back this day I'm going to do biceps and triceps this day I'm going to do legs this day and I'm going to do full body the next day and I have my exact workout plans done makes it so much easier all I got to do is just show up right so plan ahead how can you make this easier on yourself I gave you a couple of examples with meal plans with eating healthier with working out but with anything that you're trying to get better at anything that you need to work at how can you figure out a way to make it easier on yourself and to plan ahead okay the next thing number three is to design your environment to help you let me give a couple of examples of how to how to do this remove temptation right so like if for me I'll be honest with you I am like a crackhead when it comes to sugar I know that when I have sugar when I actually have a bag of a couple of skittles if I have a couple skittles I want to crush the entire bag of skittles and I want to crush as many skittles that I could possibly get my hands on I'm like a crackhead when it comes to sugar so what I do is there's no sugar inside of my house that contempt me there's no candy there's no popsicles there's none of that stuff I remove the temptation I design my environment to help me be more disciplined right if I want to start eating healthier I don't have any crappy food that's in the kitchen I don't have any crappy food that's in the pantry I remove all of that stuff if you want to stop drinking alcohol for 30 days can you let's say you have a you even you even you even have alcohol in your house you have a bar set up can you take that alcohol and put it out of sight lock it inside of a closet somewhere right out of sight out of mind can you design your environment to support this discipline that you're trying to build ah think about that what about the people that you hang out with hmm okay if I want to you know let me just think back to the Super Bowl it just happened right I had friends over for the Super Bowl and I had friends over and and they were all drinking and I wasn't drinking at the time and so you know I had them over and it made it really hard not to drink because I wanted to drink just to have a drink with my friends but if I wanted to make that even easier on myself what I could have done is gone you know what I'm not even going to be around people who could possibly talk me into drinking now luckily my friends know that I rarely drink anyway so they don't try to talk me into it but when I stopped drinking when I first started getting out of it when I went from hardcore partying Rob to actually serious business owner and creating the life I want to Rob I got so much crap for my friends so much peer pressure and that was hard and I did well sometimes and I failed sometimes but what would make it easier is to not be around people who can't help me actually make this whole thing who can't support me who want to make it harder for me who wanted me to if I want to stop drinking who want me to drink right so design your environment if you're trying to be more positive and you're being disciplined to think of every single thought to make sure that every thought that comes through your head that happens to be positive you celebrate every thought that comes through your head that's negative you fix with a couple positive thoughts then it'd be really dumb for me to be around somebody who's constantly negative right so how can you design your environment you're in control of this don't act like it's someone else's fault that they're negative no you got around that negative person take responsibility for design your environment to get it done if you're like you know what I need to crank out two hours of hardcore work maybe what you do is you clear all of the crap off your bed or not if you're better off your desk you put it all away and the only thing that's on your desk is your computer your phone is in another room whatever it is you have to do to design the environment to make sure that you can be ultra productive at that moment right turn off all your notifications drop the notifications when you get a text message on your computer if you have an app you know a macbook turn off all of your email notification turn out everything that could distract you from the one thing that you need to do which is get stuff done you have two hours to work get it done don't allow yourself to slip into oh i've got my phone right here oh i got a text oh look i got a somebody sent me a facebook message no design your environment to support you in building up this discipline so that's number three is to design your environment number four this is super important for everybody realize it's not about being perfect it's about progress not perfection okay you're going to mess up you're not going to be perfect i promise you this you're going to mess up quite a lot in your life and so what you have to realize is this when you mess up don't judge yourself don't guilt yourself don't get emotional about how you messed up because you will mess up but when you mess up make adjustments right if i if i'm sitting down to be ultra productive like the example i just gave and i happen to find myself going down the rabbit hole of instagram when i'm supposed to be working i go oh crap that's right i'm supposed to be working right now what can i do what adjustments can i make well next time i could take my phone i could put it in the other room that's what i'm going to do right if i notice that i'm in the middle of my ultra productive time or what's supposed to be milk productive time and i happen to notice oh man i'm i'm in the middle of doing all these emails and that's not what i wanted to do how can i make adjustments to make sure i don't have this happening again i can turn off the notifications on this right when you mess up make adjustments don't judge yourself don't be hard on yourself don't talk trash to yourself don't make it harder on yourself than you need to you screwed up okay it is what it is it happened don't resist it it is the way it is but how can i make adjustments you know if you were planning on not drinking and you wake up with a big hangover well you probably need to make some adjustments as to you know maybe you have alcohol out or maybe you were stressed out or maybe your friends called you and there's certain people that you when you're not drinking maybe you shouldn't spend much time around or spend time around them during the day and not at night when they're going to get you wasted whatever it is it's going to happen you're going to mess up you're going to fall in your face that is life that's the way that it goes but when it happens when you mess up make adjustments it's about progress not perfection am i still going in the direction that i want to if i happen to screw up and take a step back am i at least taking two steps forward for every step back that i take progress not perfection take a deep breath and realize you're not perfect you never will be perfect and you're going to mess up a lot of stuff that's okay though it's about progress not perfection and then tip number five is to reward yourself reward yourself give yourself some sort of reward if you want to be super healthy for the entire day have one day where you have a cheat meal like when i was when i used to literally when i was hardcore and to be like really hardcore meal planning working out eating the stuff that i need to like i'm not anywhere near as hardcore as i used to be but i would be so hardcore for the entire week saturday night it was on like donkey kong you knew that i was about to destroy some food i get an entire freaking cheese and pepperoni pizza i'd eat the entire thing by myself then i would go to this place called amy's ice cream here in austin and i would order a big ol freaking ice cream and i would basically go into a food coma and pass out because i ate so much but that i ate so much and i was so rewarded that it really like the next week was actually easy for me to be disciplined because i was like holy crap i kind of went off the hinges there and also i ate so much i don't feel like i need to eat that again at least not until next saturday afternoons saturday evening well i'm gonna crush it again right another thing i used to do when i was uh when i was a salesperson is i would sit down and go okay i've got to make a hundred phone calls and so i would i would figure out a way to reward myself and so what i would do is i would set up with a called dopamine reward systems i didn't know i was doing this now i know the actual neurology behind what i was doing but what i would do is i would go okay every ten phone calls i can eat three skittles right so i'd have a bag of skittles and i would have them in front of me so i could see it and i was like oh my god i want the freaking skittles right because i told you i'm like a crackhead with skittles and sugar so like okay i can have three skittles after i get done my first ten phone calls i can have three skittles after my next ten phone calls and when i get done with my 100 phone calls which was my goal i can eat the rest of the skittles and so what i would do is i would reward myself and set up small rewards to get me excited to do what i needed to do versus just eating the entire bag of skittles you know having a massive sugar rush and then falling asleep after right so can you set up your life where you reward yourself for the discipline that you need one thing that i'm going to tell you this is something that really helps me out when i was younger i remember reading a book that changed my life that talked about this but what i used to do is i used to think to myself if i'm not where i want to be in my life yet i don't deserve a day off i don't deserve free time i used to live my life that way and i used to think that but then i came to realize i read a book called the one thing by gary keller and j popaz on and i read the book and i realized that i needed to actually start to set up my life where i had free time planned because when i go and have my free time it allows me that reward of free time allows me to go back into the work time the hardcore time and get the stuff done that i need to and to be focused on it but i'm the type of person and you're probably like this as well my goals are like the horizon i'll never catch them every time i get closer to them i push them just a little bit further away and a little bit further away because i want i keep thinking bigger and bigger and bigger so if i set up my entire life not to be rewarded until i hit a specific massive goal in my life i'll probably never hit that goal because i constantly keep pushing it further and further away and so you have to set up reward systems to reward yourself reward yourself with a cheap meal reward yourself with a day off and not having to work out reward yourself with you know a bag of skittles after you make 100 phone calls set up reward systems to start to help you out and to start to make you more disciplined hey thanks so much for watching this video if you want to learn even more about master your mind click right here and watch this video as well stop lying to yourself you need to first admit that you are a lazy person if you don't do anything and you're too lazy your life is not going to be what you want it to be