 Not only is that the biggest tragedy and it's so simple to fix you will not sit down for those two minutes Hey there, thank you for watching my My next video on Anthony de Mello This is the last of these videos. I'm going to make an Anthony kind of a few of his major teachings And this one is I get it's the last one, but it's the biggest one because in this video Anthony talks about The way to be happy the secret to happiness a formula for happiness Okay, so we've talked about The other three big ones. He's mentioned so far He's talked about the fact that your life is in a mess He's talked about the fact that you don't want to be happy and he's talked about the nature of attachments how destructive they are and how to Properly perceived desire Now with that said he talks about the Strategy for happiness the key to it all So what is it what do we generally think happiness involves we think it's involved success working hard doing things in the world getting a reputation out there status success wealth money everything else or we think it involves some sort of spiritual practice Right, maybe some of us are guilty of this You know, I'm not saying there's anything wrong with spiritual practice, of course But in terms of what Anthony is saying here, this is a fundamental thing that might help your spiritual practice Okay, let me stop rambling. What is the secret to happiness according to Anthony? Well, he says If you want to be happy You have to stop actively engaging in the process of making yourself unhappy, and then you'll be happy so Huge Now it sounds simple. It sounds annoying. Maybe right. It sounds like that's so frustrating What's he talking about here? He's basically telling us, you know, did you ever hear anyone say you don't have to do anything to be happy? You're already happy and you're thinking yourself. Yeah, I don't feel happy, right? I don't feel it It's because we're actively engaging in the process of making ourselves unhappy So experience in love experiencing happiness is an undoing Right, it's not about learning to do anything. It's about stopping What do we stop? We stop Buying into the thoughts we have the beliefs we have we stop judging we stop condemning ourselves We start to Accept ourselves and encourage ourselves. Okay, listen into those thoughts or we stop Living from our mind so much. Okay Stop relying on it so much to figure everything out and plan everything So that's what I mean by actively engage in the process of making ourselves unhappy That's what Anthony is talking about here. So what that involves is work Unfortunately, right? It's a process of inquiry that we do with ourselves and that's why there are no quick solutions when it comes to happiness It's like everything else in life really. It's about It requires a little bit of willingness on our part to Question things question things about ourselves that we are convinced are true And in that questioning we begin to realize, huh, I don't have to carry that belief anymore That was like a needle in my side for years. I can drop that now. I feel a bit better. Keep dropping other beliefs Okay, and that can be easy easier said than done, right? We're very reluctant to do that Because this is the last thing I'm going to talk about Anthony and maybe it's it's one of my favorite things he said It was he said Do you know what the biggest tragedy in your life is the biggest tragedy in your life is that All it would take for you to realize that you could be happy without the job without the relationship Without you name it all that would take for you to realize that you could be happy under That negative circumstance that you're worried about is for you to sit down for two minutes And really ask yourself could I be happy in that situation? Because you'll find out you could be It would only take you two minutes, but yet those thoughts plague us for years And it would only take you two minutes of genuine questioning to figure out. I actually don't need it I actually don't even need that thing. Isn't that crazy? And he also says Not only is that the biggest tragedy and it's so simple to fix you will not sit down for those two minutes Right, maybe you're watching this video and you might have a thing in your mind some Negative situation that you're worried about all it will take is for you to genuinely sit down for two minutes and ask yourself Would that be the end of the world? Because you know what you'll find out it won't be You genuinely will be even though that's hard maybe to think about that right now or to believe that right now But you'll find out that it's actually not going to be that big of a deal Will you sit down? That's so I'm not even telling you or forcing you or trying to convince you to sit down I'm trying to get you to be aware of the fact that I don't want to sit down I don't want to question that maybe which goes back to One of his other theories is other principles, which is we don't want to be happy. We actively engage We actively resist happiness sometimes so those are It did all of these videos by Anthony de Mello are really just sort of a primer an introduction to some of his key ideas Listen to Anthony Maybe read his books Or watch his videos online because they are so worth watching He had a lovely energy and And you could tell that you know, he was very real He was someone who sort of went through a difficult period You know a prolonged period of his life as he would say asleep until he sort of began to not only realize these teachings but to really Accept them and to live from them and that's where his nice energy comes from and So he's just so interesting to listen to so I would highly recommend it Guys, thank you for watching the video today please like and subscribe if you if you feel like you would like to and Also if you would like to contact me you can contact me in the link and We can set up a an online session. It's free free consultation to see if I can help you with the issue you might be facing And with that said, I will see you again in the next video. Thanks for watching