 Remember that was your first place and that's that's actually how could I you know I have I know why I blocked it out because you're old No, why I blocked it out That's where we watched boy. Good Back to our stupid rags. You can see it's of course. I'm Rick stupid. It is And I blocked that out of my mind is one of the worst experiences of my life where we watched boyhood Today we're doing a I think it's a Poem a poem like a spoken word kind of deal is a cocky because she does that shut up poetry. What happens when you don't like sex? That's I'm so sad for you 3d job. This is actually an asexual person. Yeah, well, that's understandable. Yeah, that exists There are people who are asexual. Yeah, and so that's they Don't have a sexual drive in them. And so they don't have that need In their relationship at all Which obviously to to people that aren't asexual obviously is a completely foreign concept. Absolutely. And so it's a very misunderstood Thing that people that people have that they can be in a relationship And there isn't that physical need it if they're both asexual people physical need. Yep But it can obviously happen for many many reasons But read this you can feel all the butterflies in your heart skip a beat for someone and yet you Not want to do it. Does that make your love any less? Does that make you incomplete? Confessions of an asexual romantic. What a great title By shreeti jaw is about choosing to love in a way that makes you happy just as much as the other person And what better way to do it than breaking into a song? I agree Shreeti jaw is one of the most popular indian television actresses along with being an award-winning actress She's also a critically acclaimed poet And I'm guessing from this. She's legitimately talking about the fact that she's asexual I know I know I I personally know an asexual person of quite a few friends actually Yeah, that definitively fall into the category of being an asexual person They have no desire for sexual intimacy at all But that but I I mean The answer I think is unequivocally of course somebody can love someone without having It's their choice and it's their what's their it's their body if they don't have to desire Yeah, the lie that that love has to have some sexual connotation with it to be love is Since it's just something people don't understand people make all these kind of excuses Of course, you just haven't found the right person. No, it's BS Same thing people look for people that are lgbtq to like oh, you you just need a good dick Yeah, people like it's so ridiculous. Yeah, people that just they don't understand something And so they just I thought you know from the stupid things from the title It says what happens when you don't like sex There are people who have Triggers and traumas in their life that cause them to be that way that actually should but that's not what we're talking about When we talk about a nice sexual person But you why do you need need or want sex? You can't put it towards I know and that ineffable reason. That's how I know I don't want sex for sure That was great. That was great. That was really one of the most they told me I haven't found the right one yet well, honestly As of yet, I have found the right few And I'm going to tell you those stories and then you'll find something's old and something's new Let's go back to the start the very first time I fell in love Things were said and rules were laid Holding hands and flirting was all right. Anything beyond that would not be okay So the problem was that I went beyond and kissed The very first time I was kissed and I I was kissed back. It was a discovery It was the closest to magic I've ever felt. So the best kisser I was going to be I learned new meanings of forever. I learned to work for again and better But then I couldn't catch up in rhythm or in rhyme as a cosmic alarm went off and everybody was ready for the first time I must have missed the alarm because I'm a late sleeper I wasn't ready or even eager but when they spoke of it. I joined in with equal vigor I kept falling in love Sometimes better rather times worse, but it was never on my mind and that seemed to be my curse So I kept avoiding it eventually. I did it but it It didn't seem meant to be Every time it happened. I knew I wasn't really being me So I told my friends and a problem with me was diagnosed A lot was said a lot was done Books were read new boys were met but problem remains solved by none Finally I was relieved when they wrote chance of no means no means no means no But when I said no and I meant no they said you've got to try a little more Arey, thodi koshish to karo How could you not why would you not know you do you don't know how I'll teach you I'll show you Oh my god, you've never felt wow But I had felt wow. I had felt wow in hugs and in kisses. I had felt wow every time fingers had run through my dresses nice But beyond the point when it went I was left all alone So I learned to lie in words and in words learn to lie Because I didn't want to hurt. I didn't want to lose And I was in love. Who was I to choose? Who was I to choose who had who was I to choose me who had none alive Who was I to choose me who had lost at love's every strike And this was the time when everybody was talking about sex learning and teaching consent and I had no one except for my discontent nice And this is not bashing my lovers. They were great This is not bashing my lovers or even my friends. They were taking care of me keeping the bargain at their end This is not bashing sex either. This is not to prove me greater. I do not celebrate celibacy. I'm not a sex hater And sex haters You think just the favorite child is the asexual kind go out with the boys or the girls your parents never really mind True, but for that to happen you have to come out And we're the only ones who have to use the word sex and not love to come out You see the irony there. I'm sure without a doubt But what must be done must be done. I've found a way to make this a little easy and as I go ahead I know I might sound cheesy They say you don't stutter when you're singing a song and as I go ahead. I hope you'll sing along I am a sexual Yeah The only There's another song there's another song that has the phrase cardboard cut out sex appeal And I always misheard it as couple times sex appeal for me. It was about holding hands holding hands to the point of chronic muscle ache I didn't know picking my way to love was such a terrible mistake I have to paraphrase songs. I have to paraphrase songs to tell you I feel all of it The butterflies and the bees in my very stomach split Why do you need or need or want sex words? I know and that's ineffable reason. That's how I know I don't want sex for sure And I'm not incomplete or in in any way less. I am complete but Confused isn't that such a beautiful mess? And I am broken in perfect and means mending of a different kind Don't tell me who I am not try to change my mind Last but not the least in LGBTQIA and asexual and an ally each and every single way And as I come here on this very special day, I'll sing one more time and I hope you'll sing along with me when I say I am a sexual Yeah, yeah, I'm not the only you better recognize me now. Thank you It was great. Oh, yeah, very very well done. Great. Um, yeah, it was beautifully beautifully articulated and I I loved it. I did too Sad and poignant and wonderful and and happy for her Yeah, I'm happy for her because she seems to be completely at peace and after a season of What's wrong with me? What's wrong with me of recognizing? There's nothing wrong with me. I'm asexual Yeah, and and because of that I'm okay with that and there's probably a whole lot of folks There's probably a there's probably a lot more than there's probably a lot of married couples Who one of the spouses is asexual But they're not they're not aware of it and they're not talking about it because it's such a problem for them Because it's interfering with the relationship because one of them is wanting sex and that's a very different thing If you don't know what asexuality is You should you should really look it up because it is a definitive Condition that somebody has that is the makeup of who they are They do not care at all in the way that like a child Doesn't compute that concept That's like not in their radar in any way shape or form and I I applaud her for being Both brave about sharing it as as well as clearly being at peace about it for herself It's really good. And it was just a really good poem. Yeah as well. So yeah, that was fantastic Let us know more from her and other poems. We've heard some really good poems. Yeah Love poetry, but yeah poetry is a wonderful art form Uh, so please let us know more that we can react to down below