 Hey survivors, I'm going to be discussing the dangers of interacting with Narciss and the damaging effects that this can have on you as a person. Please like the video, share your thoughts in the comments. If you haven't subscribed yet, please click the subscribe button underneath the video. Also click the bell icon so you can receive all of the notifications for my future videos. And please share the video with anyone who you believe may help. If you would like to make a donation, please click the dollar sign icon in the live chat. Or you can donate from my paypal, the link is in the video description. If you are interested in a one-on-one coaching session with me, please send me an email. My email is also in the video description. Interacting with a Narciss can affect you in so many ways. They can affect your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and behaviours. They can lower your self-esteem, self-worth, self-belief, self-assurance and self-respect. They can make you see yourself, other people and the world in a completely different way. Narciss speak a language that normal, healthy people do not speak. I believe that they created this language as a coping or defence mechanism. It was a way to deal with the constant letdowns, discomforts or disappointments in their lives. If they heard something that they didn't like, or if they saw something that made them feel a certain way, they would reinterpret it by bringing it into their realm and distorting its meaning. Narciss have a difficulty with experiencing any form of acceptance or neutrality. Certain things make them experience negative emotions. They may experience hatred, anger, envy or jealousy towards a person. But they cannot acknowledge those emotions. They have to project them onto you. Narciss hate any form of truth as the truth is against them. So it's all about distorting the truth and creating their own distorted meanings and interpretations of everything they see and hear. This is not only in the present moment, they will even rewrite the past and redefine your thoughts or beliefs about the future. When you interact with a Narciss, you are giving them an opportunity to manipulate your way of thinking. Once a Narciss gets into your mind, they can then make you see yourself as the people and world in a completely different way. Pay attention to subtle comments or backhanded compliments the Narciss makes towards you. This affects your self-esteem, self-worth, self-belief, self-assurance and self-respect. This will change the way that you see yourself in all kinds of ways. If they are targeting your looks, you may no longer believe that you are an attractive person. They could target your weight and suddenly you question whether you are too thin or too fat. They could also target your qualities or talents, the way you talk, the way you walk. There is almost no limit to what they could criticise about you. As a genuine honest person, you will likely trust what this person is saying to you. You will assume that like yourself, they are coming from a place of truth and honesty. But the Narciss actually has a hidden agenda that is to change you. To change your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and behaviours when they give you a subtle comment or backhanded compliment. They are aware that this is going to make you think differently than how you would normally think. You are going to start having negative thoughts about yourself. This will then lead to negative emotions which will lead to negative beliefs about yourself and potentially negative behaviours. Interactive with the Narciss will not only change how you see yourself, but it will also change how you see other people. The Narciss will plant a thought in your mind that a specific characteristic, quality or trait is not right or not good enough. At some point you may then see the same or a similar characteristic, quality or trait in someone else. Now that the Narciss has got into your mind and managed to distort your thoughts and feelings, this could now lead to the distorted belief that someone else is not right or not good enough because they share a similar characteristic, quality or trait to you. This could potentially lead to the distorted behaviour where you are now criticising or devaluing this person because your thoughts were previously distorted by the Narciss. Keep in mind that the Narciss may be aware of someone in your social circle who shares a similar characteristic, quality or trait. In this type of situation, the Narciss will use their subtle comment or backhanded compliment to kill two birds with one stone. So now you are seeing this person in a different or negative way because of the distorted thought that was planted into your mind by the Narciss which was done through the use of a subtle comment or backhanded compliment. A person who you would never have seen in this way if you had not interacted with the Narciss. Another tactic you may encounter with the Narciss is how they compare you to other people. They will pick you apart and psychoanalyze every little thing about you as a person. This could be your looks, characteristics, qualities or traits. It doesn't have to be a verbal comment but under the radar or in some subtle way they will plant the thought in your mind that something about you is not right or not good enough. They will then direct your attention to another person who they perceive to have more desirable looks, characteristics, qualities or traits. They may not even perceive this to be true. Remember the main goal here is to make you believe that this is true and this isn't just limited to your looks, characteristics, qualities or traits. This could be something you are doing in your work, a hobby or interest. They will always find a way to compare you to someone else. While doing this they will also be passive aggressive, they will make you feel uncomfortable. Naturally, you don't want to feel uncomfortable around this Narciss. You may be a codependent who desires to please the Narciss. So after they have planted this thought in your mind that this other person is better than you or doing it better, this may then lead to you questioning yourself. You may identify the problem of being criticised by the Narciss or feeling uncomfortable around them and then the possible solution is to adopt the behaviours of the person they are comparing you to. This isn't always the desired outcome of the Narciss. I don't think they always strategically consider the consequences of their actions but the more predatory types will. So now the Narciss has got into your mind and made you believe that you or something you are doing is not good enough. They have compared you to someone else and planted the belief in your mind that they are good enough to please the Narciss or to feel more comfortable around them. You are now changing yourself at the expense of your co-identity. Once the Narciss catches on that you are willing to change yourself to please them, they will then target more of your looks, characteristics, qualities or traits until you don't know who you are anymore. You feel like you are not good enough for the Narciss and a copy of whoever they tried to turn you into. You no longer recognise your characteristics, qualities or traits in yourself. You no longer want to see them as whenever you were trying to be yourself around the Narciss they would constantly abuse you. Even if you caught on quite early to what they were trying to do to you, even if you were being relatively authentic or true to yourself, the Narciss cannot see you in this way. They cannot see you as a genuine or authentic person. The reason for this is because they are projecting how they feel about themselves onto you. They do not believe that they are genuine or authentic. So when they witness your looks, characteristics, qualities or traits, they cannot help but to compare them to someone else. Narciss are inauthentic, so they see in you what they see in themselves. Because of this they cannot see you as a unique or authentic individual. Narciss are prone to group and generalise everything they see. They have a difficulty of accepting differences, it makes them feel uncomfortable, they have to feel like they know everything. Of course there are always going to be differences and there are always going to be things we do not know and for us we can accept that. But with Narciss they have to mould everything together, they have to believe that everything is the same, everyone can be compared and this can be very dangerous for you if you are interacting with Narciss for long periods of time. These dysfunctional behaviours will influence you and the way that you see yourself. You will begin to develop a distorted view of everyone and everything just like the Narciss. You will see things from a place of judgement rather than a place of acceptance or neutrality. This will affect your quality of life and your experiences. This is why nothing is good enough for the Narciss. Everyone ever satisfies or fulfills them because in their minds they have to know everything. Everything and everyone has to be familiar to them. They have to have a similar look, characteristic, quality or trait to someone else. And this isn't just with people, this goes for anything in life, it has to be compared to something or someone that they have seen before. So to them nothing is new and everything is old. Everything is the same, it makes them feel more comfortable, it makes them feel as though they are the all knowing, all seeing people they wish to be. Of course they cannot be all knowing or all seeing but when they condense everything in their minds as though there are no differences and everything is the same they actually believe it and the reason why nothing ever satisfies or fulfills them is because they cannot see anything as being good enough because that would reflect on them and their deeply denied belief that maybe they are not good enough even the person they were comparing you to. They may have planted the thought in your mind as though their looks, characteristics, qualities or traits are greater but when they are interacting with that person they were probably saying the same thing about you. A single interaction with a Narciss could influence your thoughts, feelings, beliefs and even your behaviours. Even if you interact with a Narciss for a long period of time this could even change you at a core level, you may not know what you think, feel or believe, you may have behaviours that are not true to you and this isn't just the effects that Narciss may have in you, this is also the effects of social conditioning throughout your school and work life, programming from media influences such as television, movies, music and video games, pressure from your family, friends or relationship partner, this isn't just about Narciss, the world is trying to change you and this is why you will find very few people who are true authentic selves. There is a way to get back to who you are, spend time every day looking in the mirror remembering who you are, remind yourself of your characteristics, qualities or traits every day, practice guided meditations on authenticity to get back to your true way of thinking, this will then lead to more authentic feelings, beliefs and behaviours, practice mindfulness, pay attention to your thoughts and feelings throughout the day, be aware of your thoughts and recognise whether they are true to you or something you have learnt from the Narciss or someone else, be aware of when the Narciss is trying to project their emotions onto you, when you are with the Narciss, practice the observed or absorbed technique, this will allow you to observe what they are saying or doing rather than absorbing it and accepting their thoughts, feelings, beliefs and behaviours as a part of who you are. 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