 Let's set up, let me see, set up. You too, see if I can get this here set up. All right, okay, the chat open. All righty, all righty. I want to go live Sunday night, but body wasn't having it, body wasn't having it. Two Bella, God bless you in the house. I ain't see the last couple of chats, glad you made it on in, in the house of the Lord. Yes, up, son, the Lord knew you about to start drinking. Hey, I'm glad you got the book. Anybody who has not got a woman's influence, you're living in sin and I'm gonna keep you lifted. I'm gonna keep you in prayer, but I would like if you go ahead and try to climb out that sin that you're living in for the sake of all of us, make sure you read that. Okay, first question here, let's get started. 90 minutes, I'm gonna be on here 90 minutes. If my phone, if my phone work on me, if my phone give it to me, I'll hold on right quick. Let's see about this hill. Make sure that camera good and where it need to be. One second, what about a man who has kids but wants to date a woman with no children? Well, don't sound too fair. So you got to look at it like this. Do you want to date a man with kids? Just like he has a preference that he wants, you get the right to have a standard. And so if you don't want to date a man with children, because you don't want to be a part of daddy daycare and dealing with baby mama drama, then that's your right, that is a standard because children are a part of a standard because of everything that comes with that. That's more than just a preference because that affects the bottom line, the foundation of the relationship. Are men capable of being faithful after women cheat back? Anything is possible. So is possible but is it probable? Probably not. So when a woman revents cheats, what they say, two wrongs don't make a right. That's pretty much what it is. It's never worth it. It's never worth it because now it's like, when a woman revents cheats, now it's like, okay, now we even, now we both sorry. Now we both trash. See, when a woman doesn't revents cheat, so if you're gonna stay, ain't no sense of revenge cheating because when you revents cheat, now you just as sorry as he is. You actually could be almost worse because you're going in retaliation to put your body in harm's way, to risk your health when you could let him be stupid by himself and moved on with your life and just left him hanging. But instead you go and put your body in harm's way, you go and get a soul tie out of retaliation. So basically cutting off your nose despite your face. Tony, please explain, bit of men. That's a whole book. That's a whole book. But typically what that comes from, what you'll notice from bit of men. The most common case is men who try to date out of their league, meaning they date out of their compatibility zone. And I'm just kind of putting them two words together but what I mean is it's certain looks that go with certain looks. It's certain looks that are attracted to certain looks. And so different types like certain types, well some men they'll take and because they got a paycheck, they'll go and try to get a type of woman that never goes for their type. But they seek an approval and they want this challenge and they go and try to get this woman. But this woman may view the man like look ugly. So he knows and he may feel like look ugly but he wanna try to get this woman. So now he goes to get this woman and she's only dating him because the man that she's attracted to, the man that she wants dogged her out. So she say, well, okay, the man I want dogged me out, let me get a little ugly shot because maybe he'll treat me better. Then she get in there and realized that her stomach turning and she's not really attracted to him and she start to act up. And she may end up tiptoeing out on him and cheating on him with her ex. Now he butt hurt because his prize, his arm candy, his trophy has just broke his heart. So now he about to go back to the women that he see on his level and he about to wreak havoc. He about to just run you through the mud. He finna make every woman pay. Then he on, he'll talk about a mick towel and a red pill because he butt hurt because the woman that did not want him did them wrong. And now he wanna take it out on every woman to be mad with every woman from that day forward. That's what the Bill Amman syndrome really comes from most of the time. When a man says he has trust issues, is that a red flag? How can he overcome? It's not really a red flag, but because every man has trust issues, to be honest with you. But a lot of times what you gotta make sure is, sometimes men, most of the time, men have trust issues because he can't trust itself. Misha, God bless you. Thank you for that blessing. God bless you. Reading bless tribe. Little brother Tony Tony, God bless you. Thank you, poor out in the light, poor out in the light. Tracy Reed, thank you so much for schooling us Tony. Hey, God bless you Tracy. God bless you, I so appreciate that. Let me see, what is a man's definition of a real one? A dummy. That's basically a cold word for dummy. Put up with everything the way that it's used today. Now I call my wife a real one because I'm a grown man. But typically the term as you hear it today, that mean dummy. And it's cause it's grown boys saying she a real one cause she let me go outside her head. She let me cheat on her. She let me leave her 10 times. She let me do all this. She let me do all this and she's still there. She a real one. That being in my English, she a dummy. What should a woman's response be to a man who asks excessive questions about a woman's child's father? Answer the questions. Really he's asking. Now if he asking questions about you, that's when you can kind of, all that ain't nothing in your business. That's my past. I'm not asking you about all your past. I'm gonna get to know me for who I am in the present. I'm gonna get to know you for who you are in the present. Point blank period. When a man asking you is because he wanna know if he crazy and if it's gonna be safe for him to enter your life or if he gonna end up in somebody freezer or on somebody slab or somebody roll. New day to see God bless you. We appreciate you more than you know. Hey, I really appreciate that. I really do. When getting to know someone, how do you let the guy lead the conversation? Not necessarily lead the conversation. You just ask questions. You just ask questions. You ask questions in a natural flow. You ask them a question. So what are you into? What do you like to do? He said, well, you know, I like to fish. Oh really? How long have you been fishing? Since I was eight, who taught you how to fish? Oh, okay, wow. So like, what's your favorite type of fish to catch? Well, I really like bass. Okay, now let me ask you this. Do you think you could teach somebody how to fish? Like if I want to learn how to fish, could you teach me how to fish? Oh yeah, sure. Yeah, we definitely go fishing. So you're not scared of the fish. You see what I'm saying? You just flowing. Before you know it, he all into it. He think he the most interesting man in the world. Now, now he start to drive his guard. Now he open up. But the thing about it is a woman ask a man one question. He get three words out. She, oh yeah, I know what you're talking about. And then so, and one time at Bandcamp, what happened was is it was this is him. And then she talking for 30 minutes. And so then now he like, mm-hmm. And as soon as you do that, that's when he make the decision. He finna put you on your bike and close your mouth. That's when he make the decision because now the world been telling him to shut up, suck it up, be a man his whole life. And now you telling him the same thing because you wanna do all the talking. What should I say to a guy? I'm not attracted to after seeing him in person. Wait till you get on the phone. And when you get on the phone, as soon as you get on that next phone call, or maybe two calls later, take a day off. And then when you get on that phone the day after tomorrow, you say, you know, I really been thinking and it's just a lot going on in my life right now. And it's just so much coming at me. And I just don't think this is gonna work. I really don't have the focus for it or the heart for it. I thought I did. I jumped out there, thought I was ready, but really I'm not. And I don't wanna waste your time. I don't wanna waste my time. I don't want the repo bad harvest. And so you go ahead and you just put it like that. The same thing that the line that me and give you is me, not you. It's not you, it's me. The same type of thing. You don't tell him you're really not my type. You know, I'm really more so into like six, four, chocolate, you know, beard. And you're more like five, eight, uh. So you don't tell him what the real reason is because that's when you can end up in somebody's freezer. Bethany Hart, God bless you, God bless you. God bless you Tony, watch your videos daily. Thank you for the wisdom you pour into my life. Hey, thank you, bless you. Now who is this? Okay, Ashley Beverly, God bless you. I took your advice and gave a man, I was talking to a second chance and he ghosted me again, which confirmed he wasn't about me. Now, I don't know if I gave you that second advice. Don't put that back. Don't put that on me. Now, don't put that on me. You might've heard me wrong. Okay, you might've heard me wrong. You might've made it mean what you want to make it mean. Cause I really don't be with all the second chances, but guess what? If he ghosted you again, good riddance. You got to be happy about that. Well, a man isolate himself to get himself together like their financial, car, career, living situation in order before continuing a relationship. We are on a break. Typically, no. Typically no. A man, when his finances down, he may be quiet. He may be reserved or he may be snappy. He may have an attitude, but a man won't let his wife go to work on finances and all of that. A man won't let his wife go to work on anything because he understands his wife is his teammate. He understand his wife is his activator. He understands his wife is who God created to go through stuff with. So a man won't let his wife go. He will let a woman he's not sure about go. He will let a woman that he needs some time to date around and look around and do some other stuff. He'll let her go. So that's what that is. Gee, God bless you, poor little life. Is it responsible to leave a job if a male coworker is emotionally or mentally harassing you? Is it irresponsible? Okay, I read that wrong. Is it irresponsible? Now listen, now with this here, emotionally or mentally harassing you, now listen. If this male coworker is like, what's that man name? On Hannibal, if he like Hannibal, if you get Hannibal vibes, if you get Ted Bundy vibes and you wanna leave, okay, I get it. You wanna get out of dodge and then let the supervisor know, let the CEO know. If you get them kind of vibes, I get it. But if you don't get them kind of vibes, well, he gonna go all the way and you could be in somebody's freezer, then I'll be right there first thing on the supervisor though. Ah yes, I wanna tell you about John Smith and what he's been doing and I'll be filing a report on his butt. By the third report, they got to let him go. Cause on that third time, now listen, I don't know what kind of lawsuit that y'all want. And so by that, because of the Me Too movement, people respect that Me Too movement. So they gonna move fast. You hear me? Because they don't want no lawsuit. So John, he'll be right up out of there and I'm trying to tell you. And if they don't wanna do nothing, I'll go right down to the EEOC, Equal Employment Opportunity Center. You can file a claim about any type of thing like that. And I'll put that suit right on. Put that suit right on them. I'm trying to tell you, I had to do it to a company. Ashley, God bless you. God bless you. The woman's influence truly spoke to me in ways I cannot begin to explain in 225 characters. Okay, that's how long they get y'all to write on it. Now I'm gonna read that again for people who watching what she just said. Okay, do you have the book? A woman's influence truly spoke to me in ways I cannot begin to explain in 225 characters. Now Ashley got plenty of sense because she asked questions on here. She got plenty of sense. So when asked to tell you that she can begin to explain. All right, now that's what she said. So I just wanted to thank you both for what this book has opened my eyes to. God bless you, God bless you. I tell you what, I thought it was, I was scared of the book. I didn't know how it was gonna be received. I wrote it and I ain't look back at it. I didn't go through it. I didn't proof it. I sent it right to the publisher and I let it go. And so it's been blessing me to hear that y'all getting something out of it. Cause I was scared. I was like, Lord, I don't know if this book any good. I don't know if this is my worst book ever. Cause I just, it was an out of body experience when I wrote it. And I think I just was giving way too much game in there. And that's why I just had to detach from it. Millie, God bless you, Millie. Hi Tony, what does it mean when a guy starts talking about marriage and you just started talking to him a week and a half ago? Hold on Millie, somebody. Candice, God bless you. I thought I saw you pop in there. So I had to catch it. When the guy started talking about marriage and y'all been knowing each other a week and a half ago to be honest with you is one of two things but it's not a good thing because even if he knows you're his wife just common sense insanity not to come off like a craze ball you know not to talk about marriage with a woman that you just met a week and a half ago. And even if he feels you're his wife he knows that he really does not know you and he needs to take some more time. So typically when a man talking about marriage a week and a half when a man talking about marriage really inside of six months to be honest with you like it's a red flag. He most likely a dog, he most likely a player. Even if he does wanna marry you he most likely a player because a man with sense gonna have more emotional intelligence he's gonna be a little more reserved he gonna save that conversation to an appropriate time like around month 12. But old grown boy player he gonna go and get that conversation out there because he knows a lot of women are desperate and marriage that's the lock that's the key to the lock. So he know when he say marriage a lot of women gonna drop them guards and go to getting happy. Okay. Kaia Lee God bless you I've been talking to a guy for three months he says he is in love with me but I don't feel the same way. Do I wait till my feelings grow for him? No. It's been three months you don't feel like that for him go ahead and let him go. That's your spirit that's your intuition telling you that that's not your husband. Women fall in love before men. If a man tells you before you if a man tells you he's in love with you and you don't feel that for him that's not your husband because a woman always gonna fall in love before a man if it's your husband and a man who tells you he's in love in three months he lying because men don't fall in love that fast. He may have love for you meaning that if you die he'll cry. Okay. One maybe two at three months you might get two tears but in love he not in love. Even if he knows you're his wife a man don't fall in love inside of three months. It's just not it a man ain't built like that cause you got to remember what a man built for. A man built to go overseas get on the top of a building look through a scope put one in somebody head who ain't even living it and ain't even did nothing to him. That's how a man is built. That same heart does not fall in love inside of three months. Point blank period. I don't care what a man try to lie to you and tell you. Thank you for your dedication to us. Open and honest just plain pure. Hey, God bless you. God bless you. God is the law. That's a name now. A cool God bless you. Why do you say no age gap more than five years? It seems like only men 20 years older than me want me. Me and my age 28 say I intimidate them. It may mean you have a older soul and you know, feel more mature. It also depends where you at, okay? You know, what part what region you in, what city, what state, what country, you know, where you at that plays a part. But the reason why I say don't go past five, think about it. A lot of times we don't look at it like this. Think about a five-year-old dating a zero-year-old. Think about it. Now think about a 10-year-old with a zero-year-old, okay? Now you're paying the picture, that's when they say it's like taking candy from a baby. The older the man is, the more game he know that you don't know. The more about this real world, he know that you don't know. So a lot of times the older man won't you, so he can raise you, so he can own you, so he can control you, so he can show you some things that you ain't never seen. That's why he won't you. And the men your age, yes, a 28-year-old man is like the equivalent of a 24, 21, 22-year-old woman. Because men do mature slower in the area of relationships than men. Libby. Now when y'all put these things in the chat, I'll be missing those sometimes, so y'all got to be careful with those. I don't know what's the difference between, maybe that's a sticker and maybe one is a super chat. I don't know what's the name of the one that show up there across the top, but that's the ones I'm gonna see now, so don't get mad if your donation go unnoticed when you put it right there in the chat because so many people be talking. Why do men go pull away when stressed? The same reason an adult go in the corner to die. You know, a man does not like being vulnerable and you seeing him sweat. Men not raised to let people see them sweat, let people see them worry, let people see them stress and cry. You know, stress is a weakness to a man, so he don't want you to see that, but what you got to realize is some men are fake stress to get some distance so they could cheat in peace, so you got to know the man. You got to know that man. Miss V, God bless you. So glad I found you, Tony. I watched every single video to the very last second. May God continue to bless you and your wife and children. Hey, God bless you, poor out in our life. Now, you're gonna see how that's gonna pay off in your life. You're gonna see how it's gonna pay off in your life. That knowledge gonna be applied. Lorraine, God bless you. Thank you, you confirmed that keeping my standard was right. God bless you. Frenchelle, poor out in our life. Bless you, 27, I've been abstaining. I'm around all my girlfriends who aren't. How do I overcome the feeling that I am wasting my youth? Thank you, God bless. Now, you got to shift your mindset. How are you wasting your youth by preserving your body, by keeping your legs closed? That's not wasting your youth. Now, if you land on the couch and you're not pursuing your goals, you're not pursuing your dreams, that's wasting your youth. But your youth does not equate to you being on your back. Okay, because this here, this is gonna work the same at 40. This here for you, it's gonna work the same at 50. 55, still gonna be down there. Aquafina, okay? That's gonna be there. So don't equate your youth to being on your back in fornication. Wasting your youth is not pursuing your goals and your dreams. So understand that now. You got to shift your mindset and you might need to get some distance from your loose booty friends. Your, you know, thought bodies. You might need to get you some distance from them thought bodies who think they youth is on their back. And when you get you some distance and get you around some women that is, you know, got some sense and value their body, get you in a life group at the church, get you in a new circle that know the value of their body and to stay off their back, then that's when you're gonna start to see things different. So you might need to change your circle. Oh God bless you. Seeing King, 16th God. I purchased what that never told his little girl. 28 lessons on love, eight mistakes women make in relationships. I have a lot of reading and learning to do. Hey God bless you. You showed doing the work. That's all my books. No, that's a lot of my books. Eight mistakes women making in relationships. That's my dad book. So I'll let him know you got that. He's gonna be proud to hit that. See, God bless you. My daughter's father and I have been talking. We've both been married and divorced. And our daughter is 16. Do you think our relationship will work? We've met in 1997. Now listen, I don't wanna put my energy on your relationship. And you asked me my opinion. So listen, I'm the wrong person to ask for opinion. Now if your heart said I'm doing something, cause see, listen, one thing I know about men is if you meant to be the one, he not gonna let you go and go marry somebody else. So if he got to let you go and go marry somebody else and divorce somebody else to then figure out that you the one, I'm gonna be a little hesitant. I'm gonna be a little hesitant if I'm you. Cause that just really ain't what a man gonna do. And so it's kind of like a man getting out his Lamborghini to go get in his Toyota and spend time with the Toyota. And then when the Toyota let down on him, he go try to get the car webs and the spider webs and the dust off the Lamborghini. Look, he getting that Lamborghini, he gonna tell that Toyota kiss his behind. So what you have to realize a man ain't gonna lead you to go marry another woman if you truly his wife. So a lot of times men come back out of a soul time, that soul time pulling them. So if he doesn't wanna be married again, he'll come back to you because it's a safe place. It's a safe place and he'll come back because he could get you where he want you to be. And then he could be a player, he could sleep around, he could deal with other women because of your soul time so strong with him too. So that you gonna get comfortable and get complacent and he know how to push your buttons, he know you. So that's why a lot of times men will come back to home base to the safe house. You know, like they had a safe house in the CIA. They'll come back on that. So that's what you got to realize and understand now. Now hold on, somebody's question disappeared on me. It was, it was to London. Then fired all the questions, they'll disappear now. They'll disappear, I don't know why you two do that to y'all. My kid's father is toxic, I don't want him. Two years since I left, my mind won't stop thinking of him constantly bad or good. I want it to stop, but how? You're gonna have to fill your mind with new knowledge. The reason why your mind keep thinking because your mind trying to self-sude, your mind trying to figure it out. See, you don't know me. What I mean by that is you ain't been on my mentor dot life. So you sitting there struggling by yourself and so you don't have no answers. And the fact that you don't have no answers, your brain trying to put it together. It's keep watching the game film. It keep replanting in your head because it's trying to help you self-sude. But see, you're not self-suding because you don't have any new knowledge. But when you get new knowledge, what I mean by this, when you talk about their relationship with a counselor, therapist, life coach, relationship coach, when you talk about it, now you're gonna learn. Oh, what I had was in love. It was self-hate manifesting itself. What I had was in love. It was lust that expired. What I had was in love. It was control. What I had was in love. You see what I mean? Now that new knowledge will give you closure. So you need to go to my mentor dot life and book your session with a coach. Millie, God bless you. My follow-up question is Tony, should I cut him off because he started talking about marriage too soon? Also, we don't live in the same state. Oh, wow. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Hey, I'm gonna ask you this. How much time you got to waste? Because it sound like that's what you're doing. How much time you got to waste? Y'all don't even live in the same state. You barely could trust a man to live in the house with you. What you need to do, go watch all my video. Go watch all my video. You, go watch all my video. They sound like you might be a little new here. Go watch the video, please. Take your time and just go, just watch these videos, spend some time with it. You're gonna get your answer. You're gonna get your answer because I don't really wanna speak on your situation too much because I don't want you blaming me like the other lady. Oh, I took you up by and he ghosted me again. Don't put that on me. Don't put that on me. Thank you, Tony. Not having S until marriage. Hey, God bless you. Uh-oh, hold on, now, hold on. Hold on, now, hold on. Somebody. Nashitra, God bless you. Nashitra, God bless you. For giving from saying name wrong. Bless you, bless you. Pour out in our life, Lord. Thank you, my brother. Purchase your life coach course yesterday. Also, a woman's influence is blessing me. Wanted to see if you could read my pictures. How men see me. Hey, God bless you. I can't see you right here enough now. But for what I see, you look loving and you look motherly. You look trustworthy. Now you do look like your cutter man if he get on the wrong side of you. But right here, you look like a ride or die chick right here. But the picture's so close, I can't really read you all the way. But visit me on my mentor.life. I was had a session today and me and the young lady, she sent me four pictures. I was able to read her pictures and analyze. But here, I can't really, you know, see you. But God bless you for that blessing. And thank you for signing up for the life coach certification. I understand when you finish the life coach certification, you could join my mentor.life as a coach and start getting clients. I coached a lady today. She knew the coaching and she even got booked four times on my mentor.life. It's the real deal now. But understand, the coupon code is my mentor. So use the coupon code on tonigasinsacademy.com. Question, at work, we have it on one, Emmanuel, God bless you for that in our life. At work, we have a Christian Bible study and there is attraction with brother in the study. However, he is younger. Would I be wasting time? Don't want to be deceived. He keeps telling the group he has been hurt in relationship. So suggest, take it to the Lord in prayer. Most likely nine out of 10 times, yes, you are being deceived. See, what that is, is you're supposed to be in there in the Bible study growing and getting closer to the Lord. But what's happening is the devil is putting that lust in your heart for this young man to block you from getting that message. So what you're gonna have to do is just take it all the way out of your mind, especially if he younger. And just pray and just ask the Lord to fill you up and let you go and then get the word. And if it's meant to be, Lord, show me unto him. Let him see me, a man who finds a wife. Now he ain't not telling y'all he been hurt in relationships. He wants some love and attention. So you could talk to him, you know, have a little conversation. Hey, brother, keep going. God love you, God bless you. Give him your favorite scripture. You know, since y'all in a safe space, but don't, don't, don't, don't let your mind go to running. Michelle Williams could see a lot of women. The mistake that a lot of women make is a lot of women telling God who their husband is before God and told them, for God and told you who your husband is. And so you got to be careful of that. Thank you for a woman's influence. I am in school at work. I listen to your anointed videos for hours at work. God bless you. Hey, you doing the right thing. Bless you and Sharif for your honesty and taking the time to break things down to us. I'm glad you got the book. God bless you. Jasmine, thank you. Bless you, poor out in her life. I've been single for four years and I'm content. My son, which is seven told me he wants a stepdad, but I don't want to be distracted. I'm focused on God and my son. Why tell you what? Nah, yeah, don't go get you no stepdaddy just for your son. But now you focus on your son, become even more focused, get a little more focused, tap into what he want to do to his heart. And it's what you could do as a single mom, whatever he's in, whatever he's into, get him a trainer or a coach or a teacher. If he played a piano, put him in piano lessons with a man, a married man, and you sitting there on the bench right behind him. Okay, because you don't leave him with a man, with a strange man. If he in the basketball, football, you could go on coachup.com and you could find a trainer in your area. When we come through this here at 19, find a trainer in your area and make that investment. And what happened, he gonna meet a mentor. What he really, he don't want to stepdaddy, he just want a male figure. So put him in the presence of good men, even if you got to hire the man as a trainer to help your son and whatever it is he's interested in. How to figure out a male's communication style outside of the smooth talking and sweet nothings. Can you give an example? Y'all really be on the whole book, don't you? Now, you need to first read, make it work. Got a whole chapter on communication. Now, the thing about it is, you gonna know a man's communication style when you been with him long enough. It just gonna be, you know what you got to ask yourself is, is this man approachable? If he the life of the party and he fun and he outgoing and everybody love him, then that may mean he's, that means he's approachable. If he the type that he like a silent gangster, then that man is not too approachable. So you got to understand, then you got to say, does he articulate himself? If he articulate himself, which I said all this in the video today, you must say and watch the video today. If he articulate himself, then that lets you know you don't want to set up no conversation with him. You got to catch him off guard. So, too bad I don't know why they be want to picture analyze. That started on my Instagram Q&A where somebody asked what they picture say. And the Higgled Trisha, can you analyze my picture please? Thank you so much. And I really don't understand this either. And listen, some of the stuff y'all need to ask in a coaching session, cause you don't come on here and get your feelings hurt. Okay, cause y'all know that, that I really don't know how to lie. And there's a whole lot of people, people know your name, your co-worker on here, your co-worker at work on Zoom tomorrow. Trisha came on there. Trisha asked the man, it was a black guy. And she asked him, read my picture. Oh girl, let me show you this video. Let me show you what he said to Trisha. Oh my goodness, this is gonna kill you. He told Trisha, you see what I'm saying? Your co-worker could be on here. So y'all need to sign up for a session to do this. Okay, I don't want to analyze nobody picture because I can't really see y'all. The picture's so small, all right? But Trisha, I'ma tell you from Rat 9, with your head turned sideways like that, with that red lip you got on, the vibe I get is like, you'll turn a man into a beef stew. That if that man cheat on you, he'll be chalked up and put into a stew. That's what that red lip, with that head turned sideways like that, that's what I get. Like you don't play no games. Like you will help write the episode of Snap. Do you know the show Snap? The way you looking at that camera look like you'll write your episode of Snap and star in it or a lifetime movie. Like you want to produce and direct the lifetime movie. With that right there, with that red lip. So that's what I'm trying to tell y'all. That's for one-on-one conversation because I'ma give you the perception, okay? Live it, God bless you. He says he is stressed out and the sacrifices he has to make is getting to him. Should I be there as a friend or give him space? Give him space. You know, give him space and then see what he say. Sometimes men just saying that for some space. So give him some space, see what he say. Don't chase him, don't baby him, don't do any of that. Don't chase him and baby him. Sometimes just give him space and see what he say. And sometimes men want that for some sympathy. He want alone. So don't give too much into it, okay? He got a friend in Jesus. You can't baby no man, all right? You, if that's your man, man, okay, rub his back. If that's your husband, that's your boyfriend, that's your friend with benefits, just give him some space, you know, and let him get closer to the Lord. Pretty humble God bless you. Question seven years, me and my baby daddy been together each year. He leaves me and my son because he can't do it anymore. After a few months of sleeping with women, he comes back because he misses us. Why does he do this? Pretty humble, God bless you, God bless you, Lord bless you. Lord be with him, bless him. Sis, now I don't know if you're getting a stimulus check or not, but you really gonna need a coaching session because I have to find the words to help you to say what I need to say to you. And I just, what I need to say, I don't really wanna say it on here, on this here, live in front of everybody, okay? But understand this, let me say Lord, give him wisdom. You're wasting all of your time. You're wasting all of your time. He does not love you and he does not love his son. The reason why is because he does not love himself. He don't even love the Lord, okay? What he needs is a child support notice on his doorstep. And what you need is to continue doing the work, falling in love with yourself. See, you a safe place. He don't come back because he miss y'all. He come back cause he ain't got nowhere else to go. He come back because you the hold me down chick. What that mean is you this here, okay? This what this here do. So he come to sit on you, all right? So you can hold him up. And when he get tired and he done rested up on you, now he running off to somebody else. And then he knows that you gonna stand still. He know you gonna stand still instead of moving on with your life. But listen, sister, it's been seven years. And you say me and my baby daddy, you ain't say me and my husband. So listen, you done wasted six years of your life. You done gave them six years too many, closed the door and move on for good. He don't want no parts of husbandry and fatherry. Okay, fatherhood. Y'all forgive fatherry. Made a word up. Maybe black queen God bless you part of your life. Why wouldn't a man see you as his wife if you were a good woman to him? Is it literally only financial or physical reason still trying to figure out what I did wrong for him to walk away? It's not that you did anything wrong. What you have to realize is you never be good enough for the wrong man. It's not that you're not his wife. It's that he's not your husband. Anchor, anchor train, camp God bless you part of your life. So look, you can't accept that. You can't put that on you as if you did something wrong. So it's, he's just a grown boy. He can't see a good woman if she slapped him and spit him in his face, spit in his face. He wouldn't know the difference. So what you have to realize is that a man who doesn't know how to love, he's not ready for marriage, he's not gonna recognize you anyways. And so that's what you have to understand on that. Don't blame yourself for that. You didn't do anything wrong. He just is not on your level. He can't see a woman's worth because he's not looking for a woman that's worth anything. He looking for a lapdog. He looking for a lapdog. He looking for a floor mat. I'm upset of the knowledge I'm gaining because I'm smarter than this, but I really struggle with opening back up on processing the knowledge, but it hurts to know that my ex was a grown boy. Hey, the truth will hurt you before it help you. And you got to understand that. I miss somebody, and I miss Camp God. Bless you for that blessing. I saw that right there. Let me see. Pour out in her life. Pour out in her life. Now we ain't got none of the fellas on here tonight. There must be a documentary on ESPN or something. Yeah, I was happy I missed Sunday night too. That Michael Jordan documentary. So I'm gonna have to miss them Sundays and then Michael Jordan documentary. Come on, I have to make it up to you. Like this too tonight, this will make up for Sunday night. So I'm gonna try to be back tomorrow night for the normal that I've been doing, the bonus I've been doing. Asia, God bless you. Hi, Tony. Does it mean that a man is getting comfortable and more open with you if he tells you that he feels like he can talk to you about anything? Well, the next question that you gotta ask yourself is, is he talking to you about anything? If he says he could talk to you about anything but he's not talking to you about anything, then he lying. He telling you that so you get comfortable and complacent and you drop your guards. So is he talking to you about anything? If he's not talking to you about anything, then he lying to you. Thali, God bless you, almost miss you. They tried to slide you up out of there. God bless you, pour out in your life. She love, bless you, bless you, bless you. My mom is on my mentor and she asked, can the image be made optional when posting her blogs? I told her I would ask on the next live, do this for your mama, see love. Thank you for that blessing. Ooh, see love, bless. She be showing up and showing out. Now listen here, do this for your mama, see love. Okay, go to Google and Google a stock image and just get a stock image. If it's the sky, if it's the sun, if it's a lily field and just get a one image and then have her save that image on her computer and just make that her feature image for each blog post. It could just be her thing. Or you could go to Fiverr.com and get a logo made for five dollars and just upload her logo as her feature image for each blog and that'll make it easy. But if it don't have a asterisk by the feature image for the blog post, then no, it's not required. So keep that in mind too. But I can't remember because I haven't written a blog in about a month on my mentor. So I need to check it out. But that's what I do. I use the same picture when I do a blog post. Ocean, God bless your husband left at five months pregnant for a woman married with five kids. Been no contact since. Divorce is not final. Found out via her husband that she's online dating. It's called about the baby hung up on him. Am I wrong? Whoo, I had to process that one. God bless you sis. God bless you. You need a support group sis. You need your support group. But no, you're not wrong for hanging up on it. I'm gonna tell you like this right here. A man who living like that. He gonna end up getting called home early. You hear what I'm telling you? Either that woman who, cause see a woman who married with five kids who cheating and online dating. She gone. She cuckoo for Cocoa Puffs. So she might be the one. You hear me? That put them in the freezer. So for a man, when you see a man that's that nasty you got to get gone. You don't want no parts of them. You ain't sending your children over there. You ain't talking to them. You don't want no parts of them because if lightning strike them you don't want to be in the car with them. If somebody come to snipe them you don't want to be nowhere near them, okay? If he got to go to jail you don't want to be a witness. You don't want no parts of a man that's living foul like that. When a man living that foul, you got to go. You hear me? Get as far as you can from that man. Believe me when I'm telling you not. Trust me. Cause he got it coming to him. It's like what's coming to him is so bad you all to start praying for mercy for his life. Cause you don't even want to see what's coming to him. No matter how bad you think you hate him you don't want to see what's coming to him. You're going to feel bad. You are going to feel bad. Trust me. So just pray for his mercy and just get your distance. Get your distance. Catherine God bless you. I broke off a relationship three years after I found my ex lied to me about getting into trouble dealing. We met months after but he only wanted no closure but said he wanted kids with me. How to stop thinking he's coming back. You can't stop your mind from working and so don't try to drink it or drug it. You can't stop your mind from working but what you're going to have to do is you broke off the relationship after three years and you broke it off after finding out he lied. So you left for something that you kind of still halfway considering as petty. You left before you really wanted to before you really thought that you should have and so you're trying to make peace now. So what you're going to have to do is you're going to have to do the work. You're going to have to get some coach and read the books. You're going to have to get new knowledge and you're going to have to get busy on your purpose, on your grind and it's going to help you. A.J. Dilla God bless you. I'll see you in there brother. I'll see you in there. Sabrina, only man in here. Sabrina, God bless you, poor thing in life. Even though I just joined the tribe, I know I need better guidance relationship wise. Thank you Tony for all you do. Bless you and your family. Hey, thank you. Thank you for that blessing. That's real thoughtful of you to come in here strong like that. Lydia, God bless you, poor thing in life. Hey Tony, thank you so much for your honesty and being very transparent. Your videos and self love class has been a true blessing. A woman influenced books are on the way. Awesome. Thank you for that support. Bree, God bless you. God bless you Tony. Thank you for your hard work and giving nature. God bless you for your giving nature. That's a blessing to me what you did that now. Thank you for who sent me that cash out too now because while I'm on here, people send me a blessing but somebody sent me a cash out because Caramel kisses. She posts my cash out and somebody blessed me. I really appreciate that. Caramel kisses, share, two Bella moderators and I don't know if the other young lady, Mama Tish. Yup, Mama Tish, you see that blue? Two, by your name, you're a moderator too now. God bless you. Now with Lydia message. Hey Mr. Tony, I'm 25 years old, no father. Why do I only attract thuggish men my age, flash, weed, money, guns, don't dress provocative. Uncles and older male cousins say I carry myself with class. That's just your area, that's just who you around. Now, at the same time too now, you probably gonna need to do your session so I could really give you some insight. I can't really see you right there but it's a lot of things that men read. Okay, it's a lot of things that men read. A man may read your eyelashes, okay? If you got triple volume, voluminous, triple extension, mink lashes, that thug might approach you. If he see your lace front, it's a little weather and that it need a update, a thug might approach you. If he could tell that it's sitting up a little bit and he could tell his tracks under there, he might approach you. So see, a man gonna read something. If your lips, if you African American and your lips look dark, like you might smoke a little weed, he gonna approach you. So see, men read small stuff that you might not even be reading. It might be a certain brand you got on. You got on MCM, instead of J Crew, he might approach you. You see what I mean? So men read little stuff that a woman don't even know of and it sound crazy to a woman, but men read people. That's how a man know if his life in danger cause he read his surroundings. So he read some from you that you might not even understand. Now the other part, he might be reading, like somebody just said, opposite a track, opposite door track. Sometimes these thug guys, they might want a woman that look like she thug misses with class. You see what I'm saying? So if you look like Mary J. Blythe, see you got Mary J. Blythe type vibe and then you got Foxy Brown type vibe. Both of them could come from the same block but Mary J look like she gonna make it out. So he might say, ooh, okay, she look like my type, but she look like she gonna make it out. So see a man might be reading stuff that have nothing really to do with you. See, look up, bless, look, poor, I didn't lie. Look, poor, I didn't lie. Lord, hit me now, Lord. Bless me, bless me now, cause she's showing up. She's showing up. She said, okay, I told her to watch Small Business Saturday to build social media and she asked what time you air them. They're not live. So she tell mom, she can watch them anytime she want to. They go up on Saturday and I put them in a playlist too. So if you go to my page and you click on playlist, you'll see Small Business Saturday. Tell mama she can watch them anytime. Mama say, what time? She hear them. They there all the time, mama. So anytime you get there, it's gonna be there. And if I ain't posted that Saturday, you can watch the one from the Saturdays before. I know it's in the morning, but can't pinpoint the time. She's growing her business and just published first book when the valve breaks. Look at that, mama showing up. Now, hey, you better get some lessons from mama. Now, you didn't say what your mama name was. Type a name in the chat. So some of the students could go book mama on my mentor.life. Somebody on here go book a session with your mama and send her that blessing. Now tell your mama she gotta keep an eye on her email cause any day she could get booked. And if she don't check her email every day, she gonna miss her session. We had a few coaches miss their session because they thought my mentor.life because it was founded by a poor, dumb country man like myself, they thought it was a gimmick. They thought it wasn't working. They got on there, got booked in a couple of days and missed their sessions cause they wasn't checking the email. Then realized, no, this the real deal. This the real deal. Hey, Tony, I'm trying to be more pleasant with my facial expressions. But if a man is scared off or intimidated by my resting face, should I even want him? Well, if you know that you have RBF, then you can't really blame him. Because if you looking like who shot John and forgot to kill him, then that's not really his fault because he reading your energy. You feel what I'm saying? So now if you know that you got gospel music on your brain, you know that you happy, that your self talk is, it's a blessed day today. You see what I'm saying? If I'm saying, you can let me tell you, if you look at my face, you can see what I'm saying. You see what I'm saying? So what's happening is, it's what you've been telling yourself. So how you can see my face and you can see what's in my head. That's what a man reads. So if you telling yourself, all these men, dogs, those sorry behind dogs, they probably ain't now when I'm gonna walk up to me. They're so sorry, they're so scary. They don't even know how to approach a woman. You saying that, it's gonna show on your face. If you saying, today is my day, I might meet my husband today. You hear me, whoo, they're humming on the way. You hear me, how you doing? How you doing? You saying that in your head, it's gonna show on your face. S.J. God bless you, S.J. God bless you now. Tricia, thank you for your accurate answer, Tony. Much appreciated. Oh Lord, Tricia say, Tricia say, Tony, that was an accurate answer. I will, I will chop them up and put them in the stew. He tried me, he wanna cheat on me, he gonna lose it. Lynn Butler, mymentor.com, God bless you. So her URL will be mymentor.life, it's .life, not .com. It'll be mymentor.life, or slash Lynn Butler. That's her name. Now y'all, somebody go search Lynn and book a session where I might book me a session with momma. Uncle Lisha, nah, oof, nah. Now y'all later with that red lipstick just scared me, she took me off my game. She said, thank you for your accurate. Nah, that's what I said, she not playing with y'all men. You wanna come in here with the games? She was sending you to meet the Lord early. I've been with my husband for 22 years and married for 18 years. I found out he emotionally cheated, no proof of physical cheating. And my naive to think he didn't sleep with her divorce. See, it's that too deep for him. You know, marriage, I can't just speak on marriage freely like that, especially 22 years. And I understand how words work, so I could say something that's playing in your head and it could cause you to do something. If that was your boyfriend, I'd go ahead and speak on it. But marriage, you're gonna have to, you're gonna have to visit my mentor.life. You need a real session. You got to make a real investment for that one right there, sister-in-law. You know, that's too deep. You can't throw 22 years away off a hunch, you know. Is emotional cheating, Sylvina, okay. Y'all tag teaming with emotional cheating. Is emotional cheating just as worse as physically cheating? Should you divorce for emotional cheating? Now listen to this right here. Let me help y'all understand something now. Emotional cheating leads to physical cheating. What you have to understand is, if you catch a man emotionally cheating, it's a good possibility he already physically cheating. But see, physical cheating is like this, okay. So people who physically cheating, that's in the back seat of the car. When I'm bound, thank you, man. If the tent dark enough, they could get it in right. Happening every day, okay. I'm in the trenches. I'm coaching these situations, okay. In the back seat, he, she could have her own place. Women doing good today. Women buying houses, women building houses from the ground up off their own money. Like women ain't broke. So after work, boom. He tell you he working an hour late. Boom, he left work early. They, she off the date. He been at her house for the whole half of the day from 1230 eating lunch to 430 when he posted to get off. And he been in there, Splack of Valley, S-P-L-A-C-K-E-L-V-V-I-E's. Splack of Valley, say my name. He been in there doing his thing the whole half of the day. You see what I'm saying? That's how it, it cheating is so easy. Trust me, cause I used to be there. It's so easy. A man could say I'm going to the store, go up to the, up the street to that woman house. That woman will be in her birthday suit. Let him come in on her by five minutes. He in and out in 10 minutes. Listen to what I'm telling you. Listen to what I'm telling you. So when you, like I say scratch a lot, find a thief. When you scratch an emotional cheater, you find a physical cheater. So that's what you have to realize. That's what you have to realize that you can't play with that now. So, okay, see, Lord, I just realized you gave $30. God bless you gave $255.30. I'm praying Lord pour out in your life mightily, mightily Lord show up and show out in her life. Keisha, why God does hate Tony? I'm wondering how do you be there for someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one? Do you have any advice for these kinds of situations? Now listen, your presence means a lot. So just being there, just listening. If you're in their presence physically, just rubbing their back, just hugging them. Don't try to be a pastor and give a sermon. Don't try to be a doctorate student and give a dissertation, just be there. Your presence does a lot, just you being there and just feeling your heartbeat or listening till you breathe in the phone. Understand that that presence does a lot. Now what you also can do is talk to a grief counselor or you can also Google grief counseling or how to support someone grieving. And I'm pretty sure it's grief counselors with blogs that kinda talk to you about those things. So you always a Google search away from some extra knowledge. But one thing I've learned is just presence. Just being there on the phone or in person, whichever you have the ability to do. And it goes a long ways. It goes, cause people remember who was there for them in their lowest moments. New member, met a man in 719. Thought he was single, found out he was married and had a girlfriend by 1019. He begged me back cause he said I was it. But by 1219, found out about a third woman. He's 51. Okay, now see what happened in Hill Curls, The Vine is he wasting all our time. Okay, cause you already know what you need to know about him. So he didn't waste your time. He didn't waste them, them three women time and now he was in my time. So he's wasting everybody time. Okay, so with a man like that, you just got to shut the door and go on about your business. Mesh, God bless you. Mesh, thank you, poor out of another life. This man is divorced. Let me see how much time I got left. Okay, I got 26 more minutes left. I feel like I already did my 90 minutes. Y'all hit him with some questions. This man is divorced, he said, but wake up with his baby mama because he has to watch the daughter in the morning because he wants her to know him. Should I give him a chance? I'm 27, he's 47. Daughter is two. No, if you give him a chance, you'll be his oldest daughter. That'll be your little sister, okay? He's 47, you 27. Me and having kids by 16, a lot of them, 18, 19. So understand he's 20 years older than you. So what that means is, that'll be your daddy. Okay, so understand that real quick. Hold on, I wanna say commercial break. Okay, back front commercial break. Damn that, God bless you. After 10 years married and no growth, no goals for himself, always excuses. Can't open up and talk. When is it time to call it off? After 10 years married, no growth, no goals for himself, always excuses. Now see, when it's like this right here in a marriage, this one is a little more clear. That's when it's a little more clear right there. No growth, no goals, always excuses. Can't open up and talk and it's been 10 years. That's when you got your answer. You already know your answer. You already know your answer. I'm not gonna say your answer for liability reasons. You already know your answer on that or not. See marriage, y'all gonna have to take it to the Lord in prayer and you gonna have to do coaching. I really don't do too much on marriage because that's a covenant with God. So you got to really be able to hear from the spirit on that one. X and I recently began speaking. Evac, God bless you. I feel like I'm seeing y'all already tonight. Boy, I don't know why. X and I recently began speaking because of some maintenance around the house that he normally did before we split. I had him blocked. He got very angry, asked about my boyfriend, then got mad, why? He just got a soul tie and he just pat it. He's got a soul tie and he got pat it. Don't take it to heart. It ain't cause he miss you. It ain't cause he love you. It ain't cause he want you. He just trying to show some emotion to make you think something that's to have you in the Q and A, asking questions. And so, I mean, we'll thank him for the blessing, but don't read too deep into it. That's just a man just trying to flex a little muscle. Keisha, God bless you. Tony, thank you for that advice. God bless you. Boy, I don't know why. Nisa, Em, bless you, bless you. Me and my ex of four years started over two months ago. Four years started over two months ago. We were broken up six months. I left. He was amazing for about three weeks. Now, he's not sure why he's gotten distant and energy has changed. Says he loves me and wants us to be best friends. Okay, Nisa, what the issue is here, you say four years, okay? What you got to remember, I don't know if you're new here, but if you're new here, what you got to remember, any time a man with you more than three years and he does not marry you, he don't want you. That's not your husband. So you gave him a year too much. You really gave him two years too long. Then you let him go. You broke up with him and he let you be gone for six months. That's another sign he didn't want you because he hadn't already had you for four years. So when he came back, he was amazing because it was the soul tie that brought him back. He came back out of ego, not out of heart and out of love. He came back out of ego. Now y'all listen to me now. When you let a relationship go after three years, gone about your business, you didn't gave that relationship the time that it needs to work. When you four years and you let it go, gone about your business, especially if y'all were not married. See, you can't be a career dater. He got you career dating, all right? If y'all had married and then broke up, okay, now we could talk because y'all actually took that step to be together until death does us part. But when you let somebody go, a boyfriend or a girlfriend go after you done put in three years, gone about your business. Gone about your business, over. Tomorrow, God bless you. Hey, Tony, I've been dealing with a guy since July. Since July, okay, coming up on a year. I guess you can call it a situation ship, okay? He says he appreciates me, but his actions really doesn't show. He goes missing ghosts when he has problems and Jehovah witness advice, please. Okay, nah, Jehovah witness ain't really got nothing to do with it. So that really don't mean too much. And if you're not a Jehovah witness, then that's a issue right there because y'all foundation different because Jehovah witness don't celebrate birthdays. So you sitting away on a birthday gift and he looking at you like who shot John and forgot to kill. So you have to understand that first. Are you trying to make some work that shouldn't even be working? The other thing what you have to realize is he's ghosting you. If a man already ghosting you and it ain't even been a year, he don't want you. He don't want you, sister. You wasting all your time. A man should not be ghosting you and already running in and out your life and it's been inside of a year. That's you gonna be in a life of misery and pain. So you need to cut that down. Cut it down right now tonight. Don't even look back. Listen to me. Go on about your business. Now listen to me. I'm trying to tell you. I ain't gonna leave you wrong on that one now. When these boyfriend, girlfriend relationships I'm gonna be real real with y'all on those now. X wants to get married. Cocoa God bless for that blessing done now. X wants to get married. Hey, I got 20 more minutes on here now. 20 more minutes. We're in the fourth quarter, y'all. Try to get your Gatorade in you. I need music Gatorade. X wants to get married but says that us Christians are, says that us, is he talking about you and him or you are hypocrites because we do a lot of things that we shouldn't in the Bible. But we want to wait till marriage to have intercourse thoughts. He telling the truth now. He ain't lying. He telling the truth. And that's why I try to tell y'all cause a lot of people be like, oh, the Bible say the voice is a sin. And I'm like, and they say everything else you doing in your life is a sin. So you doing all the rest of the sins but you just want to call that scripture cause you want an excuse to keep getting dogged out in their relationship. So if God forgive you for the rest of them sin he gonna forgive you for leaving that sorry marriage that you in that old cheating covenant broken marriage that you in. So now he telling the truth now but see this is the thing. It's deeper than sin. See it's deeper than sin because not all sins are equal in the sense of yes a sin is a sin but lying can't get you pregnant. See lying can't get you no STD. So stealing can't get you pregnant. Can't get you no STD. Coveting, lusting can't get you pregnant. Can't get you no STD. So see, I say that to say not all sins are created equal. So when you get on your bite, okay. When you on your bite now you creating soul ties. Now you conceiving that you got to be tied to him for the rest of your life. And he's not even your husband and the other thing is he's your ex. So when you are ex you don't get to come in calling shots when you are ex, okay. You are ex come in and sit down and shut up and play the role. Do what you need to do. Don't come in big wheelie style with your chest poke that calling people hypocrites cause you are ex, okay. So you lucky that I'm entertaining you ex because I was getting ready for my next. So that's what you have to realize. You can't let no ex come in calling you a hypocrite calling you out your name and then trying to get you coerce you to do what he want to do. No, playboy you gonna come back. We got to do this the right way cause we already did it wrong. That's why we broke up the first time. Misha unleash God bless you God bless you. Dorothy stay at home mom one and a half years. Broke up. He's offering to pay for me and daughter's new place in a separate city any concerns. The wealth of the wicked is stored up for the righteous. Thank you. Appreciate it. Thank you. Please send the wire account number one, two, three, four, five you hit me. Hey, that's, that's, that's your favorite added that part of his what he supposed to be doing. So yes, accept that money immediately. Let him pay for everything you want to pay for. And because you know, I already put it in time. Now let me see. Oatmeal gene God bless you have been in three different relationships. God bless you now each three years. First ended in cheating. Second, I left and last he left. Each man married the next woman they met after me. What am I doing wrong? So this does not happen to me again. Since I know that sound like a bad rom-com. You know, I know it sound like a bad movie. And, and you struggling with that, but you can't look at it that you doing something wrong. Okay. The first one cheated on you. The last one left. The second one you left is just the way the mop flops and the cookie crumbles. You know, it just sometimes that's a part of your story. So what you got to do is look back over them, what you call in losses and get the lessons. You're going to have to look at them lessons. When you evaluate it, now you might start to see it'll jump off the page. It'll jump off the page at you. So you're going to have to sit down and you can't watch the game film and see any mistakes that you made or that they made and learn from it. Then that's when you may need to sit with a professional and get some outside input. But don't, don't blame yourself for it now. Now let me see, make sure I ain't, okay. Two Bella nominating Glenn Rocks for moderator. Okay. Well, Glenn Rock set nine. Nine listen. Nine can't have everybody know moderating nine cause listen nine. Y'all want to be like one of the pastors that got four members and 12 armor bearers. So okay. But Glenn Rocks, he do be here. And Glenn Rocks is non-moderator. Glenn Rocks, he have been here. I do be seeing her. It just don't be on here, you know, promoting all kinds of people now, okay. And getting out of hand, but you know, help us watch for the hecklers. So Glenn Rocks, now you are armor bearer too. But I don't want to be more like one of the pastors with the 12 armor bearers and ain't nobody checking for him. Miss Crick God bless you, pour out in life. Can you publish a small, can you publish? Okay, that's supposed to send me five dollars and asking me, can I publish a whole booklet? Let me see if you like skin. And that sounds like a nice one and that kind of question. Can you publish a small tip booklet, eight pages on Amazon or you ask this for yourself or should you just make it a word document and give it up for free that way to coach the client? Okay, Lord, I had to get on through that question. I thought you asking me, can I publish it? Okay, yes, no, the booklet it needs to be 16 pages. If I'm not mistaken, last I checked it 16 pages. But if you got eight pages, the way you're gonna stretch that out is you give each page a title. And so you make it a title and then the next page you write the page, the lesson. And so that'll give you another eight pages and then you write an introduction, just saying what this is about, why are you writing it and that'll give you another page and then at the end, you write your note from the author, what you want them to walk away with, wishing them the best, that'll give you another page. So when you got eight pages, you can stretch it to 16 and make it a little booklet on Amazon. You can make it as cheap as, they'll tell you what the print cost is, you can make it a dollar more than that if you don't want it to be expensive. But also with eight pages, you also can make that a word document. So people who bump into it, they can buy it, but then your clients, you can email it to them for free or put it on a site like gumroad.com. You put it on a site like gumroad.com so that they can download it. Now I was just joking about you. About the light skinner.com. We'll have some feminists on here. Oh my goodness. I am unfollowing you. And you are a colorist. Oh my goodness. I thought you were different. But I'm telling y'all, I'll be going through it with these people and these comments, but these comment warriors. I mean, I do a whole hour long video. This video I did earlier today and I did a commercial break and I came back and said, had some of my, I had to get me some, some vizine. For one, I ain't getting no vizine. I just said that. Okay. Real I had coal in my eye and I had to get a commercial break and let my finger to get the coal out my eye. Did you know a lady watched that whole hour long video and her comment was, well, I'm gonna tell you like my optometrist told me, never use vizine because unless you're trying to get rid of red eye, cause it stretches your eye out and drives your eye out. I say that whole 59 minutes and 59 seconds. She say, this is my first comment. So you make your first comment a critique to a joke. I said, Lord, why you called me to work with women? I said, Lord, can you call me to fix on cause? I'd rather fix cause for single women. Lord, why you called me to this? I here trying to be a blessing to help people. And I got to be, well, I'll tell you. Now what you got to re-send? Cause now Glamrox just asked you, is you trolling? Cause now if Glamrox got to ask you again, you're gonna get blocked now. Now let me see, Joya, you saw that about the lady comment known when I said male lady. And she said, why couldn't be a male man? I said, Lord, if you're dating a 62 year old man and he's still talking to young women in their 20s on the phone and says he's not going to change. God bless him. God bless him. Now y'all got to do better now. Come on now. Glamrox website, Glamrox, like G-U-N-R-O-A-D Glamrox, that's a site where you can upload you know, e-books, films and stuff like that. You get a link and then you can post it all on your social media or email it or text it to people so that they can download. They can download the product and they can donate. You can make it zero and people will donate or you can make it a price. But Glamrox, if you go on Glamrox.com that's what you could put all. Now see, SJ, I done seen you three times but you in here complaining. How do I get my question answer? Right there where you put, how do I get my question answer? That's where you post to put your question. Then I saw you another time, do I need to post it again? It was still you putting how I get my question answer. Do I need to post again? Can you answer my question at 317? Just keep copying and pasting the question. Nine, nine, okay. I'll try not to get hood on here, nine. When the ex says I'm sorry, I wasn't good enough for you. I'm sorry I couldn't be what you needed me to be. I'm sorry I wasted your time. Is that sincere or deflecting it back on me? It's deflecting, he's not sorry because if he was sorry, he would have made the changes. If he was sorry, he could have did, right. Beyond beautiful God, bless you. Poor out in our life, Lord. I left my ex a one year long distance relationship, long distance relationship, broke up in October, one year long distance. He's still been finding ways to contact me even after I blocked him, begging to start over. Should I give him another chance? You gotta ask yourself, why did you break up with him? And you broke up with him after one year. See, one year is really that decision point. So at that one year mark, that's where you take and you say, is this my husband? And if not, then you move on with your life. So you gotta ask, did he exhibit deal breakers? Was he inconsistent? Was it enough that if you look at those behaviors and you multiply them by three, was it enough for you to leave? If the answer is yes, then keep it moving. But if you look back and you say, well, if you look back and you say, well, I left prematurely, I left for immature reason. You know, I cut them off kind of early, then yeah, you can see. But see, the other thing is you're gonna have to learn how to, you're gonna have to learn how to do long distance dating. Cause like I tell y'all, most of the time, long distance dating is not real. Hey y'all, I got about six more minutes now. Give Tony some time, man. This is a lot to do. Hey, thank you, Nenette. Thank you, Nenette. Nenette, understand how tough this could be reading 10,000 messages in this little old font that YouTube got on here. They need to have them font where you could blow it up like some of the older folks put on their cell phone in the text message with that size 32 font. Cause I'm trying to read it. I can hardly barely read what y'all writing to Beyonce with you, Nenette. And I'm looking for the ones that got the hashtag Q in front of it. Because I'm trying to see if I could see it. Now see this one thing I'm gonna see now, when that blessing come in at the top, when that color, I can't miss that. I ain't color blind now. I'm gonna see those cause shake off, bless you. When talking to a new guy, do you recommend the guy live in the USA? Or how do you feel about that overseas like Jamaica? Now I'm gonna tell you now, if you in the US and you go to talking to a guy in an island or in Africa, you know, typically Jamaica and Nigeria, you're gonna have to look a little deeper. Now it's good people everywhere in the world, but and I ain't talking about my people cause we all people of color in some cases, some people would be other races too, but Nigeria and Jamaica is known for some really crafty scams. So you're gonna have to take your time and be very diligent. Now my wife Jamaican now, so don't y'all take the wrong way, ain't talking about it, but I'm just telling you, my mama be on Facebook getting scammed by the men in Africa. So nine out of 10 times, I'm gonna be honest with you, you need the date of man that you can see. You when you dealing with men that's in a whole another country, I don't care what country it's from, where he at. If you can't see that man in front of you, you're gonna have some situation because it's a lot of men that do that online dating and they trying to get a woman in the USA so that they can start getting them the money grams and then Western unions, whether he in Russia, Asia, Jamaica, Africa, Asia. So you got to be careful when you doing online dating. I mean, long distance dating and you probably met them online, but see now here's the other thing. The only time that you really supposed to long distance date is when you already were in the same place with the person and y'all built and then they moved or they got deployed. That's when you take and you do long distance. But if you meet a person and it's long distance and you meet them online, you have to be, you got to take your time. Hey, I got two more minutes now. I got to go, it's getting people bed time so people got to get ready to go to bed. What time it is, probably about 11 o'clock. Me and my wife had our date night earlier today so that's why I had to come late. We had a long old hour bike ride and relaxing so I had, I was a little late tonight. Brittany, God bless you. I'm back with my baby dad, but we argue a lot cause he's in the streets and chose to go a day or so without talking to me. He says I'm tripping. I'm drained and tired of, maybe tired of the sorries. Am I missing something? Let me see, Brittany. If you look like a thug misses, okay. As you look like a ride or die. Now, that's what you got to ask yourself now. Are you a thug misses or are you a ride or die? And that's the role that you're playing and it ain't worth playing. I'll tell y'all ain't nobody worth riding and dying for other than Jesus cause he the only one died for you. So when somebody wanna play with them streets then tell them stop playing with you because that's why my wife left me because I didn't wanna leave the streets. I left the streets and dating and then I went back to the street life hustling after she married me. She came home and say I'm up out of here cause I refuse to be with a man that's in the streets. I didn't wanna leave them streets hustling and she packed us stuff and we're gone and that's where the 72 hour rule come from in a woman's influence. Make sure you read it now. So I'm gonna tell you, the man that came back then he'd go a couple of days without wanna talk to you or go a day without talking to you. That's cause he need to cheat in peace. It varied. You're not really gonna meet a faithful street man because love is a moral act. So if a man don't have morals meaning he into illegal activity he's not gonna be faithful. So you wasting your time. You wasting your time sister. And yet don't tell them who told you that cause I'm gonna tell you now he jumped frog with me, I'm gonna lay him down. Okay, so don't tell cause street men they wanna act a little different. All right, but he'll have to know. I was out there too. So don't tell them who told you that now but you're wasting your time. Asia, God bless you. Why do I always? Now I'm gonna take these last two questions. Don't nobody send no more blessings. Don't send no more financial blessing up there to the top. Cause I see it's just two up there. Let me answer these and get on out the way. And then as soon as I finish saying that somebody sends a blessing and I'm praying now God bless you. Now listen now somebody else send a blessing. Now hold on, now hold. Let me get through these questions now y'all. Don't add no more, all right. Why do I always attract men who seem broken with mommy issues? I'm securing confidence in who I am. And I seem to meet men that are threatened by that. God bless you Asia. See what that is Asia is the numbers. It's just the way the numbers fall. But you gotta understand it's more grown boys than it is grown men because it's more sin than it is righteousness. So you always gonna meet more men that's not on your level than you will meet men on your level. So what you gotta do is learn a lesson from the men that's not on your level. Learn how they approach you, learn how they walk, learn how they talk, read their energy, get the lesson and keep on going. Chrissy Rock, God bless you. By watching your video I have learned so much. I've even bought the new book. God bless, I now have cut a couple of guys off. Should I tell guys why I cut them off? No, you don't have to dig into their self-esteem. Just say, look, it's not gonna work. I don't wanna waste your time. Don't wanna waste my time. Just got a lot going on in my life. You don't have to tell them exactly why you let them go because you don't know what they're gonna do. You don't know where they spear that. You go to get in your car and then you got full flat tires. Then you fix your tires and you get in your car and you got sugar in your tank. So don't leave his ego intact and he'll just make up the reason in his mind. Just go on about your business. You don't owe nobody an explanation but God. Alexandria call God bless you. Now you came in as a buzzer beater, Alexandria, but I so appreciate you. Poor island of life, Lord. If someone is just meeting another person or let's say it cannot meet and just online dating, would you recommend doing a background check? Alexandria, you serious about this, huh? Nah, huh, background check? Nah, I'll tell you now, if you could get their government name, ain't no harm in it. Ain't no harm in it. I doubt, you know, if you get that government name, you could Google them. Nah, I wouldn't go spending $89.99 on the background check, but a lot of times the person in your city or wherever they at, if they got a record, they got a mug shot most of the time. So, you know, I wouldn't, it ain't, it ain't no harm to Google. I remember one of y'all relationship coaches that y'all be throwing his name out to me all the time. That's why I tell y'all, I don't stamp people. I don't stamp people till I meet them. Cause I remember one of y'all relationship coaches that y'all be saying the name to me the very first time I heard the name years ago. I Googled him and he had a mug shot for the methic violent. I say, okay, this is the relationship coach. Y'all keep putting in the same sentence with me and he didn't went to jail for it. I said, okay, all right. Got over, now I've since Googled and it's been exposed. Can't find the mug shot anymore. So he didn't gotta took down, but got over a million followers on several networks. And y'all, that's why I be telling y'all, don't be coming on here saying people name if you ain't even met the person. You ain't even sniffed them. And you just seen them online and then you keep wanting to say name, say, oh, work with this person. Oh, can you work with this person? You don't know these people. You don't know these people. Yeah, I'm a man, I know. You got to meet somebody. You got to feel their spirit. You got to meet their wife, see their wife, watch her talk, see if you can see her glow. You see what I'm saying? Before you just go stamping people and listening to people, you got to check their life out. You feel me? That's why I don't stamp nobody but Jesus. I don't stamp nobody but Jesus because that's the only man I know that little perfect life, spot free. Everybody else, God gonna have to be their insurance because I can't stamp on them. Hey, God bless y'all. I really appreciate you. I'm gonna try to do a lot tomorrow night. I can't really make no promises but I've typically been doing bonus lives on Wednesday. This tonight is to make up for Sunday. So God bless you. Mama Tish, bless you for that blessing. Tony, stay real, God bless you and your family. Hey, bless you, I really appreciate that. Hey, good night, God bless you and we'll talk soon.