 One, two, three. Hi. Welcome back to the channel. Hi. Welcome back to the channel. Me plus you is. Us. I'm kidding. Yeah, my name is Kwame. This is Elaine. And we're happy to be back on your screens. Yes. So as you can see in the title and in our thumbnail, well, we have some sharing to do. Yes, because as you know, we have a newborn. Yeah. And we're also on YouTube. As you can see. Yeah. And we had quite a process of thought and discussion and sharing on do we show the baby or not. Yeah. And we've also seen it in the comments, in the C section, a different C section. Who even says that? In the C section. People say that. In the comment section? People say in the C section. What did you hear that? Well, I don't know. I have to verify this. People say that. Do it in the C section. Dad, you would like to see the baby. And we understand that because he's so cute. But we decided not to show the baby. Yeah, we decided not to show his face at least on the internet, on social media. Yeah. We'll show the baby. As you see that this is the baby. You see maybe from the profile or the back. You know, this is like he exists and he's with us. And it's me plus you is us and the family's expanding. But we're not going to create content specifically showing him his face and that content around him is what we're trying to say. We're not going to do that. Yeah, we have like us with everything we do, we put a lot of thoughts in it. So we came up with three reasons why we are not showing him. And the first one is a big one for us, which is Consent. He's too small to agree to anything, really. And of course, we chose to record episodes and be on YouTube and be vulnerable and share things. Yeah, it's our choice. We're old enough to understand what it means, putting ourselves out there. Yes. But for him, he cannot choose it now. And I mean, he chose us as parents, but he didn't choose to be on YouTube. And he cannot speak for himself. So we don't feel comfortable if he cannot choose it himself. That it should be on our channel. Aside from that, I also think we can discuss parenthood without necessarily showing our kid. For us, we've always shared things that are talked about, things that are not necessarily visible, right? You just look at us, you hear our conversations. So I think we can still share who we are as parents and this new role and everything else that's coming at us full force without necessarily sharing him. So it doesn't really devaluate what we discuss. Yeah. Yeah, so that's also important. And then the second reason is privacy. Yeah, the second reason is privacy. And the privacy bit here is for the future. It kind of ties into the consent as well. But I mean, as we're putting stuff out there, we're leaving our digital footprints online. And there's so much about you that you think that people don't know. But by virtue of the fact that you're even having conversations, these targeted ads, and whatever you think you see, you have a conversation with somebody, and then all of a sudden you start seeing such things on your timeline. And I'm just saying that he hasn't asked for any of that yet, and he can't be the one to decide, wants to decide his digital footprints before he's aware of such a thing. So for him to, again, decide on his own. So starting with the consent. Yeah. Yeah, and I do think we already also put out quite a lot of ourselves in our conversations. So we're already sharing a lot. And I think for us, it's important to really be mindful of what we're sharing and what we're not sharing. And for me, personally, I had to get used to even interactions based on that people know us from YouTube. Because it's not like you meet somebody you've never, well, I meet somebody I've never met before, but often people who watch our videos, they feel like they know us because we talk about so many things, which is great. I think it's great that people come up to us. It's what the community is. It's a byproduct of us putting ourselves out there. We form a community, so technically they do know us. They do know us, but we've never met. But you start on that, the interaction is funny because I don't know you. So I start like here, I don't know each other. And you know a lot about me. And you know a lot about me. And that's also where people start from, from like, I know you, I know this and this and this. So even for me, that took a bit of time to, how do you navigate those kind of conversations and locally comment on a bit of media experience, of course, from his work at radio. So he could help me with that, but I would not want my child to go through these kind of interactions yet, or that people come up to us and immediately like shout his name or like say like, oh, you went here last week, right? I think I wouldn't feel comfortable with that. It might change in time, but for now, I already found that a lot to navigate, let alone I want to put that on him. I'm not so comfy with that. So that was the privacy thing as well. Yeah. And then the last reason. The last reason is the safety bits. Yeah. Because with, I mean, yeah, of course, with the openness to the whole, the world wide web. World wide web. Yeah. The openness to that whole thing also means that, I mean, the information about you out there or what people know. I mean, we don't even feel or we don't expect that the people who watch us have any ill intentions. And that's what also makes it easier for us to share this part of ourselves. But not everybody who watches us is thinking that way or not everybody who watches us is even for us in our community. People watch for their own personal reasons. Yeah. And some of those reasons might really not be like safe for the child. I mean, for us as adults, at least, we... We are adults, so we can manage it. Yeah, or defend ourselves to some degree. But for him, there's nothing like that. There's nothing barring except us. And if he's ever in a situation where we are not present, that makes him very, very vulnerable. And we'd rather the people who have access to him are people that we trust and know for his own safety. Yeah. And of course, there are also a lot of creepy people on the internet and people that I don't know. I would not want to expose him to that at this point. So we choose kind of with who we share him. And yeah, we're a bit mindful of that as well. And we would also never post any real-life locations for that reason, for example. When we do vlogs, mostly there's some time in between. So I don't know, I think it would be... You don't know what people, if they really want to meet you, they might, I don't know, check your real-life social media. I am not so comfortable with that in the first place. I mean, you post after you've left the place. Yeah, but not that everybody does that. Yeah. I mean, yeah. So that's also a safety thing. Like, we love when people come up to us, we have a conversation, all these things, but you don't want people to be able to track you or... Yeah, that's not fun. No, it's too much. She likes to be watched all the time. Yeah, so we're like, no, that's also not really what we want. And maybe as a disclaimer, it doesn't mean that people who do put their kids out there that we're like, whoa, why are you doing that? We're not judging that, but we just don't feel comfortable as parents. And I think there are many families who do it in a very respectful way, and they really... In the end, there are repercussions of it as well. Yeah, they do it. And they do protect their families. Yeah, but for us, it doesn't feel right to put him here on the tube. And I think there are also many ways to show him without showing necessarily his face. What's going to be said, like, from the back, or you will see him in our activity vlogs. I'm sure you'll see him running around at some point. But it's just not as visible as we would be, because this is mainly our channel. We are having the conversations, and he's part of us, but we don't want to put him out there yet. Till he can decide for himself that he can decide for himself, also protect himself against any possible... And I mean, there are a lot of opinions about this, especially because a lot of family channels or channels with babies on it do very well. Again, good for you. I think, yeah, we've never started this thing to... ...go very commercial and say, like we want to go for the big money and it's not our... Our channel is a part of who we are. And it's more like a diary of sharing. Yeah, and authentic conversations and, yeah, often authentic and commercial. Often, not all the time. They don't really go together. So for us, that wasn't a motivator or not a sole motivator to do this. So that also is not an argument for us to put him out there, because, yeah, we can do well by ourselves and still... Still manage. Manage. Yeah, so that's about it. It's very short and straightforward. So you will be seeing bits and pieces of him as best as we can. Yes, and we can still discuss... We'll still discuss parenthood. We'll still discuss things we explore with him, things we deal with him. The same way Nala is sometimes in our vlogs. She also cannot consent, but her digital footprint is a bit smaller. Yeah. Yeah, so we'll just go with that for now. And if it does change in the future? It might change. I mean, maybe it's really like a movie star. You know that? Yeah, so that's about it. We're done with this particular share. And we'll catch you in the next video. Catch you in the next video. Bye-bye.