 Just gonna say hi to hi to YouTube because I've just been fumbling around trying to sort this out, but Hello peeps. Welcome to another all-time live stream. I apologize for not getting on this Sooner, but my OBS has just been playing up a massive amount So I'm sorry that if to anyone who has been waiting on the YouTube side of things. I hope you're doing okay We are actually back now. So this will be going for about an hour from now. So Yeah, ask any questions that you like if Anything about autism, mental health, personal things anything like that go for it. Is it too late at 32? Too late for what? And is there an artist you think everyone should listen to? I think everyone should at least experience wonders of the Antwerp Or dyant word as some people call it The Antwerp There are a South South African rap rave Bands they used to be like my favorite It's not that they've got any any worse. It's just like I've just found some bands that I just like a bit more Hello, Angela. Hello, Oli Apologies guys. You've been waiting in like the other live stream things trying to come in Well, my OBS has just not been having it today So many apologies for that Favorite pairs work on me on steak and chips, of course How do you know if someone likes you? What would the hints be um? I think um You know just to just general general things it would be that that person just for some reason wants to hang around me a little bit More than you know, if it is like a group of them or something like that they might Be looking over a bit more than usual or talking to me a bit more and perhaps making jokes and things like that That that would be I guess a bit more of a hint but there's a lot there's a lot of things like And everyone's different everyone flirts differently as well So it's it's sometimes a little bit hard to to give like general like if someone does this then that And I think that's what that's what one of the biggest problems. There's a lot of like online Deating coaches or relationship coaches get wrong is that they feel like there's just this one like formula that you have to follow Or these signs that you have to look out for that are just going to immediately tell you if someone is interested in you romantically I Don't think it's like that. Everyone's very different especially for autistic like Sometimes it can be a little bit more apparent or less so depending on the person in my experience Ever since the last update OBS has been wacky Thank you very much for that. So it's not just me Being rubbish Hello, Josh Fuji. Welcome to the stream. I have you'd be very happy to hear that I have my My big jug of water or juice This water makes my tummy hurt Good evening. How are you mums wiggly? How are you doing? I can't remember what we decided to call you last time Wiggly, I'm gonna call you wiggly. I think And he says I haven't found my tribe tribe so to speak or my calling Hmm What do you mean? Do you mean you haven't you haven't found a friend group or you haven't found like a an online group or You haven't You know found some values that really drive you forward in the world or some piece of work What do you mean by that? Thank you. No, no worries stallion Or coffee. I should just call you coffee How am I? I've been sick this week. So I've been I've been a bit like groggy to be honest You can probably tell like in my voice as well. It's a bit kind of a bit rusty. That's because I've been a little bit sticky Wiggly, yes Yeah, everyone is okay and staying hydrated with some water Thank you. That is just you a G. I hydrate the official hydration reminder for the live streams. I Hope you're picking up now. Yeah, I'm not feeling too bad today. I'm a little bit sticky But I did want to jump on and these are the the regularly scheduled live streams I do so we are here and just a little Sort of Yeah, finding words Little piece of information if if you are wanting to watch one of my Streams where I look at other people's orders and content give my thoughts some mainstream stuff. Maybe Later on I will be going live to do just that. So if you are Wanting to join head over to my youtube channel after or if you're on youtube you'll probably get notified anyway I Hope it's not covid though. I'm not too sure to be honest I Could I could take a test? But that you know the first time I had it was it was pretty bad. It was like me. It was really bad the The subsequent times that I got it not so much. So I'm not really Worried about it. I guess I have been Just just keeping away from people as much as I can This past week Keep a glass next to the tap. I have have a routine that I drink every time I'm in the kitchen That's a good thing. I Have some some routines like that. I like the idea of like routine stacking Meaning that you like combine lots different executive functioning things that you have to do into like one linear path the only issue with that is that my routine Sometimes if I if I can't do the first thing in that routine stack then the rest of it kind of falls apart That's the only bad thing about it. But most of the time it does work well for me What up cuz hello same color and just as a lot of my friends and my son are sick. Luckily, I'm still feeling good That's interesting Yeah, I mean routine stacking is like I Find that really helpful for my life. Like I know a lot of us can struggle with like the elements of hygiene sometimes It's not so it's not something that that I struggled with now, but I definitely did when I was a lot younger I found that sorry Still still a bit sticky, I know it's gross Hello, Figgy. Hello, Passaggio. Hello, Olivia. Hello, Bello Love that name. It's awesome. I Hope that you feel better I'm trying my being systems working overtime Hmm is what it is cut for way Yeah, I know you guys you guys seem to love the hiccups in the last the last slight livestream that I did it was It is funny because I thought it was gonna be quite irritating and really loud, but some reason everybody likes the hiccups Oh my god funny It was quite funny to be honest. I wonder why chickens like eggs and sausages I Assume that yet. Yeah, it was a joke. So I'm not gonna answer literally although I would really love to The serious question how does one deal with RSD if I might need something some self time for a bit What do you mean by that? I do have a video on RSD video quality seems to be a bit under the weather, too That's a bit of a reason Sorry about that. It might be something to do with like the Connection, I don't know why that would happen, but my OBS just seems to be like Yeah Not not not working for me at the moment The hiccups really made me laugh It's funny how it takes a minute to process Autonomy the autonomy of literal thinking what do you mean? I Feel like I'm asking what do you mean a lot in this dream? Like I just I can't seem to understand things today I'm trying my best I'm trying my best I always get a hook up hiccups when I laugh a lot. Yeah, I get that too. I get that too So tonight I will be doing that stream. Well, so am I going to be doing I do have a video That will be coming out next week is going to be another presentation style video Which will be pretty good pretty fun If you haven't seen my presentation style videos, yeah, I highly recommend checking them out It's kind of like a new style that I'm going for on YouTube and it's pretty much like free Free one-hour presentations on a on a particular topic of autism It's not locked behind anything You can readily set job have a look at him. Yeah Do you want to hear me ramble for about an hour about the specific part of autism in a semi-prepared fashion? I'm like that I work what you mean Yeah, you guys are gonna have to be hyper hyper specific about things to for me to like Process things at the moment You're seeing you're seeing the the the the full power of my brain with Lucking energy and functionality The guy been string together a sentence properly. You're doing good Thomas. Thank you Good like man says like my mate needs alone time to recharge and I'm sensitive for being apart for some time I'll check the RSD post to thank you so much. Um, I Feel like that's that's more to do with like social batteries not not matching up I mean, how long we talking so we're talking like weeks then I could I could kind of understand but if it's a Couple of days. I mean just talking about, you know, my social battery It tends to be that anything above three days of interaction with anyone really It tends to be a little bit too much in the long term I can't do it for like a few weeks, but it's um, it's not good for my for my overall energy levels. So, um, I Think it really depends and Yeah, I Mean that get a film in like do you like what what kind of specific situation you're finding yourself in? How many days of this is this person wanting away and how many days are you wanting? Okay, maybe get give it a bit more. Hello, Pedro green screen today. Um Yeah, usually it would be working, but I'm actually doing it via doing this dream via the YouTube app the actual like desktop Google Chrome the browser the browser version there we go Because my OBS is just not working today why Any anyone have any tips for avoiding social hangovers. I went to a wedding three consecutive days now. I'm dead I've been dead for two weeks. Oh my god I Don't think there's much that you can do now but I'd say that the biggest one is to Scheduling breaks Make sure that you bring some stuff that you can do on your own to regulate Perhaps take someone or be be with someone Who you're close to and can sort of support you or advocate for you to take that time because I know like in my for myself You know, I have the plan right I'm gonna take a break at this time But I get very caught up in the whole like social rigor moral And just want to want to stay there and continue talking and socializing where it's probably not not the best idea So having someone around me to believe like oh, let's let's go, you know chill for a bet Usually helpful Apologize if I was unclear. Oh, no, you're not you're not you're not being unclear. My brain's just does not working very well We're talking weeks and months, but yeah, I think weeks and months is a little bit. That's that's that's kind of That's that's a lot. That's a lot of space You know, I wouldn't say that that's due to a social battery to be honest I'm lurking little person needs me Hello, sir. Hello, Austin. How are you doing? Just saying hi quick. How are you doing? Are you doing one of your streams today, too? It says I can manage just one social activity in a day. That's not much That's more than I can handle to be honest like Anything above like three or four social activities per week. It's a little bit too much for me Tie those were new suggestions to me. Good. I'm really glad Also, like make sure that you bring some sensory supports. I talk about that a lot, but it is really Really really helpful I would say I Might stream today more Batman. Nice. Nice Very cool Keep being awesome and still gonna be hair-listening. Oh, thank you very much I'm because I am streaming on my desktop some reason like it makes the audio in my headphones a bit weird So like the music that I would usually play is just kind of a bit buggy and and gross and muddy So I've been not listening to music Which I usually do so it's it's throwing me off a little bit Hugs Don't know is that what is some of the the more recent news? I guess a moment that we can chat about maybe I Haven't done that before maybe we should have a new segment This is what happening in the world Then again, like I don't really touch on like recent things Because I feel like a lot of people do so maybe maybe I might not do that you know keepers Safe from from current affairs as Decided to subscribe just subscribe to your channel. I love it. Love your input. Thank you so much. Yes. It's nice to have you here But like I said, there's no question about I'm just grateful for all the things you do here on streams and YouTube I've to learn I've learnt a lot Keep doing what you're doing, bro. Thank you. I much appreciate I think it's because the earbuds Prefer you listening to music and it it'd be louder. Yeah, I don't know why it why it happens like that. It's it's really weird And you do it just it literally just kind of Reduces the audio quality by like a half Space it sound awful and prefer to like listen to the the noise can't you know like like that that kind of Buzz that you get from it's not a bad buzz. It's like a Mellow buzz in the background that you get with noise canceling your phone. So that's what I'm hearing. It's not not the worst Hello, Scott Parker. How you doing? Welcome to the street Just so he says it does that for me all the time with a Bluetooth product. Thomas are knowingly I don't mind I don't mind the the buzz in the background. It's it's kind of I quite like white noise. So it's Any other type of noise that people have come up with I wonder how many types of like color noise people have nowadays Feel like there's a lot Bree says, oh, there's an autism news website. I'll find it world news. It makes me sad. There's an autism news website I did not know about this What is it called? Most most of the things happening is the pressing. Yeah But my hometown all of the people living in homeless tent cities have been housed by the city in new building for the winter Yeah, well, that's good. I hope it's not temporary. I Mean if they've done they've done that in general. It's a good thing But I would hope that they would be able to house them Scott Park said group presentation last week as narrative urgent was bogus I don't know if that was a joke or not, but I'm assuming it was I love doing group. I mean you could obviously tell like I like doing group presentations, but There is brown noise. Yeah You do with my headphones it did it with my earbuds as well, but I sold them That's brand of earbuds mine keep going out of my ears when I work out I do have I have that problem as well. I have to use extra extra small earbuds because my air canals are just like really really tiny It's got really really tiny ear canals It's our cousin part being neurodivergent Really really tiny ear canals guys So they do fall out, but these these ones are pretty good. I can sort of shake them around a little bit these are Sony WF X 100 Delta fiber Xm5 I think if you type something like do you Sony Xm5 or something like that it would probably come up But yeah, I Highly recommend them they're a bit pricey to be honest And the only reason why I do have another pair of these is because the last ones broke and Sony decided to send me the There you go. Josh would use get them up WF WF 1000 XM M5 these ones like some falls that they're pretty good in terms of noise canceling highly recommend They're great for the jet if you want to go to the gym like highly recommend Be noticing you put out a lot of burnout videos recently, but unfortunately I've already been there Yeah, I am I need to I've spent today sort of clipping up some of my other presentation videos My reels I imagine is what you're talking about So I will be putting out some different different reels soon Hopefully trying diversify a little bit. I can't sleep without the sound of my fan. Best white noise a hundred percent. I love my fan I Really said that there's one of the reasons why I really straw when it comes to like going to different places If they don't have a fan or they don't have like an air-con that has like a fan setting on it I just find it really difficult to sleep Your voice is so deep Thomas when you're sick Yeah, it is it's pretty raspy That's what my boyfriend doesn't want to sleep so hundred percent brown noise green noise. What are my colors of noise? Yeah, I'm not gonna read that. Oh, you have the XM files too. Nice Great minds think alike Well, you too. Well, let me send the links to the news. I but it's called spectrum news I think I've seen that yeah, is that the one with like the orange? Like Geographic image Pink noise exists, so you got brown noise white noise green noise pink noise I Recommend looking at tech tech radar and Andrew central they do articles on it Cool. Cool. I'm not dissing you but the camera be like minecraft blocks to take it offensively just neurodivergent honesty I love you YouTube shorts. Well, hopefully when it actually goes live, then it won't be a blocky a Blocky thing hopefully it'll actually like process a little bit But I can't really do anything about it at the moment because my OBS is not working unless usually where I stream from so I'm glad that it hasn't Tarnished the stream enough You guys do to go off, but yeah to do Probably have about half an hour left to the stream. So if you got any burning questions that you want to ask about autism and to have Relationships anything like that. Please go ahead would be much appreciated Just pretend we're new to 2008 on dial-up Yeah, break up pink noise need to know more about that Yeah, so we've got a lot of different colored noises. I didn't realize that noises had colors It's a bit strange of that Man, I got seven modules this semester a uni dealing with overload is my number one priority 100% I Think the most I have had a uni was five. So you be like taking on a lot My god It's very impressive So I'm gonna I'm gonna check out spectrum news. Maybe it might be might be a cool thing to do I don't want to read anything. That's like nasty but Spectrum local news or spectrum orders and research news, okay What would go with that one? I think that would be cool There's just a lot of gene stuff, you know, I don't think people want to be talking about that Although there is one about after 60 years scientists are still trying to crack the mysterious serotonin autism link That's a very small sample size that one You know, it's a little bit a little bit too in detail, but it might be a good thing to do at some point. I think On Thursdays I have six six hours of timetable lectures Only good for the four hours because two hours the two hour one overloads me and shut down It's good to hear that you're self-applicating Where and what degree did you do I went to the University of Manchester and I studied biomedical sciences Within the industrial experience and on that industrial experience, I went and I caught loads of mosquitoes in Thailand and dissected them and Crushed them up ran the genes through did all that stuff for the science. He thinks did some gel electrophoresis Yeah, yeah, pink noise is apparently good for sleeping I haven't tried them, but they're supposed to alter your brains EEG really I I'm always very like as a You know a science geek I'm always very Skeptical about things like that like how can you change the the EEG of your I suppose you can you can do it by like focusing on stuff but In what sense does it make that the EEG EEG better, you know Can't believe how deep Thomas's voice is There's a link in the gene the gene chain. I actually have it Which which genetic chain? It's um, it's it is something that I do want to get into at some point But I feel like for me as a content creator someone who's wanting to put out stuff that helps people I feel like People being aware of genes and stuff is not necessarily like What everyone wants to talk about and in fact if you start talking about genes? People get worried Evidently like Understandably rather. I'm resizing my watch bracelets at the moment. So I've been listening lost five stone in weight this year So all of them are massive Congratulations for you. That is impressive It says yeah, I'm glad you can have more critical view of the site though the gene research and study size Sizes I don't understand these things as a layperson. I Think that's all that you need really like if you can kind of I Think just just having an idea of what like statistics like I mean you've got to make sure that Studies that you're looking at have quite a large sample size usually Sometimes it doesn't really matter because the results can be so dramatic that they show up even in a small sample size, but if that generally if you have a larger sample size and you know, it's better and It's quite hard sometimes like looking for the literature because you've got a you've got to make sure that all the Methodologies up scratch like if they're doing a statistical like analysis of the of a certain population You can't really always extrapolate that out to other countries sometimes other places perhaps or regions Tars we great greatly appreciate the level of education you have given the world on autism. I Personally, I'm forever in debt to you. You are amazing. Thank you very much. That means a lot to me. I Hope that I can continue to do so if My brain will let me I'm doing a year in industry next year my second year of physical geography with integrated your interest. So that's really cool What are you hoping to do with? physical geography is that going to be stuff related to like sort of environmentalism like conserving Piece of land or like species and stuff or is it going to be more stuff to do like meteorology and stuff like that? I really don't have any idea. I know some of like the words of like the different subjections of you know Geography I suppose but I'm not really sure how it really No idea Rivers because I live in Wales. Oh, yeah, you got to get those what they call the the you the you bends I Was it yeah, I don't remember what they called like the the oxbow lakes. There we go oxbow lakes. I remember oxbow lakes from From GCSE geography I think I might yeah, I did I did GCSE geography. I didn't do a level you got this best believe that. Thank you. Thank you And thank you very much just reduce well Are you guys playing any cool games at the moment? I have been very much enjoying my game Yeah, I'm not sure if it's true All he says was wondering I was doubting to get hate heart rate slash monitor slash smart shop Smart watch that I can wear all day to give me a warning when the heart rate goes up I don't notice it myself when I talk faster and where I'm Enthusiastic or so any experiences with solutions to this recommendations over the tips Um, I think that that could be somewhat helpful. There is a word for that. It's called bio. I think it's called bio feedback And there's shown that it can be quite helpful for autistic people especially when it comes to like You know overall stress I think and feelings and emotions a lot of us do tend to Be clouded by that elixir fire and it haze a lot of the time And so having some other metric to look at and to work from can sometimes be quite helpful You know, you might you might be able to check out your Sort of resting heart rate and then if it's a little bit higher than usual you can sort of use that as a Somewhat somewhat of a call to action To do something about it or at least try and think about it a bit more. I think that could definitely be helpful 100% It's not the most accurate of things I think they are getting more accurate as sort of things go on but Yeah, I mean I've had a lot of history of using it as like an ex athlete I used to use heart rate stuff a lot to get like the right zones to cardio I can't even think about doing cardio I am considering and I probably should have considered this During black Friday I want to get one of those like bikes that you can get where you like It's like a stationary bike and it has like a screen in front and you can like race over people and stuff I'm thinking of getting something like that Just like encourage myself to do some cardio The only thing with that is that um, I need some space to put it somewhere So we'll have to see Well, my previous comments don't show Which previous comments? No, they don't seem to have V-royd? What is V-royd? I'm going to do construction because I don't like traveling because autism Yeah, well, I thought that I guess But I think as long as as long as you you get all of the The preparation And you perhaps You know the first couple of times that you travel somewhere. You try and do it with somebody Um, I'm sure you can get used to it. Like I definitely did when I was backpacking So after doing my year aboard in Thailand as part of my industrial experience Um, I Traveled around Southeast Asia for about two months Backpacking Uh, backpacking Um, and I I I'm not one of these people who are okay with like changes. I am definitely one of those people who Struggles with transitions Executive functioning New things just in general Um, and it was a little bit ropey at the start But once I got into it. Yeah, actually it was it wasn't too bad So if you if you are wanting to try something like that I highly recommend like You know, obviously put the measures in place and perhaps do a bit more prep than This people would do but I highly recommend not letting that Um hold you back from doing stuff like that. I love how you analyze things regarding research. Thank you A character creator I have h7 from polar that are used during sports, but it's not suitable for all day wear sadly The app doesn't allow settings like warning of raised heart rate, which is what I'm looking for Yeah, I I I guess I I mean the time being you could you could just You know make a mental note to trek in now and again or even if you Sort of go about your daily life and you feel like you might be stressed You could you try and confirm it somewhat with with the watch that could be helpful I'm trying like in bill in builds like a little bit more emotional sort of self-awareness And it says I played board game trick track yesterday With a friend it was very fun never played that before When I first read that I thought you meant tic-tac-toe it's like quality again quality Very quality in city skylands 2 I've had a smart watch had a chance To a metal bracelet as the rubber straps cause eczema to flare up. That's not nice Accra is such As such is not important. I think if I can detect my heart rate going up versus normal that will be sufficient 100% Basic ita activities tracker with heart rate monitors should do the job. Yeah I think you might have a filter for words on my comments are getting flagged um Basically I sent a link to a video for you to react to wonder if you found it. Uh, you can't send links in youtube um live streams I don't have any specific words filtered for like as in like I would Like choose some words to not to not be shown um, it would just be like youtube's basic detection system. So I don't know what they look for as well to be honest Learning to recognize raising heart rate myself would be the best option indeed. Yeah, and you can use those heart rate monitors to In the learning process like you'd be surprised Um, you might be able to like look at the heart your heart rate and see that it's high you're trying you know search search your body for For different Signs of anxiety. You can be like, okay, that is an anxiety sign No, there's there's kind of free categories that I look that I looked for When I was trying to figure out how to get over this this whole electrify me a thing one of them is uh, like physical signs. So like looking for signs in your body when you're anxious um That would indicate that that you're that you're anxious um, another one is like behavioral changes So it's like the way that you are approaching people talking to people um Is that like um as that changed somewhat so like for example anger is a good one. Are you becoming a lot more short? Uh, perhaps a little bit louder a little bit more kind of aggressive sounding That would be like a sort of behavioral sign and also the cognitive one, which is a little bit harder Which I think is a lot more to do with um for me It was a lot more to do with trying to Understand like how depressed I was because that was that was quite an important thing for me to communicate with people around me especially when I was a bit younger so Being being aware of when I was depressed was quite important and the only really way that I could tell is like um through behavior and also through mainly for like the cognitive differences that I was having Like is everything turning into something negative? Am I focusing on all negative things? um Am I catastrophizing am I doing all of these you know sorts of things so It's basically building up like a mental library Of different emotions that are very common for you and trying to find some some different ways of figuring out like Which which emotion you're in It's not like a scientific medical psychological Um thing that's out there. This is basically just just how I did it myself Um, I'd say I'm pretty good at it. I'm not the best like it's always going to be a little bit hindered Um in terms of like how quickly I can tell uh, but I always I always seem to seem to be able to um You know sift through it to some degree To a point where it becomes useful, you know That pitch call pitch quality. Okay. Now good Bree says so I was obsessed with RuneScape for many years in pre-teens as teens. I love designing The designing your own home home portion Do you think Do you play the the new RuneScape at all thomas? Um, I don't play the new RuneScape. I play the old school version I'm actually If you're gonna be a bit cheeky, I'm actually like um Basically doing doing something that doesn't require any attention in RuneScape at the moment. I'm just fishing Which doesn't require me to do much Um Yeah, I mean I I think it's a great game. I mean like a lot of the things that you can do specifically like they're very Attractive, I think to autistic people like some of the aspects of RuneScape I would say 100% I would have a thing I was curious what what about what is the benefit of an snri vs ssra What does noripranephrine do for somebody? I mean generally nor noripranephrine is like So it's also also called nor adrenaline so it's I can't remember the exact sort of pathways in which That works, but I imagine that they might be A little bit more excitatory I'm not sure not 100% it's been a while since I've Studied such like brain processes um I don't know if you if you're quite sort of sensitive to serotonin increasing medications I mean, it's not a serotonin increasing but it like basically the action of an ssri is to um prevent like the uptake um Of serotonin in like the synapses between your nerves so it prevents um The serotonin from being reabsorbed so it stays within these two connections in this synapse and um keep binding to to the nerve so It effectively like increases the amount of serotonin between those two Nerves those synapses and makes makes them fire a lot more um So if you if you find that you you have a lot of perhaps issues when it comes to like the side effects of having increased serotonin then I don't know perhaps an ssri might be a bit more applicable But I'm not I'm not too sure as I said like I'm not a doctor um, I'm not even like a brain scientist, so Perhaps um, redirect that question towards um, someone someone else I said, I always notice afterwards say an interaction. I feel empty and I notice that I'm sweating and be uh, pushing verbally talking faster, but never noticed during interaction. Yeah It's always like that that kind of hindsight thing, isn't it? It tends to be the case for me as well Um, I mean a good a good thing to do if if you're able to like figure out those things and notice them Then maybe it might be just be as simple as Like getting in the habit of giving yourself reminders to do so to like check in with yourself That might be quite helpful especially when um, there is other people sort of in the picture 100 percent Now you want to be able to Represent yourself the best way possible like the most truest way possible Have some time to think about know know how you feel about something before Committing for example How do you navigate small top to play with people you don't know? Well I just don't do it. But if I'm being honest like I just find it really boring. So I just don't do it um If I if I'm like with family members and stuff like that that I haven't seen before then I haven't seen in a while Then yeah, I I probably would Um do that. I think it's it's quite simple. It's just that it's not very interesting Like I don't mind like the whole You know exchanging names like what do you do and that kind of thing but as soon as you start talking about like recent news like The weather or um, you know, how's that weather guys? Uh, a whole a whole list of things that are just not really interesting Um, that's what turns me away from it. So I I try to get to the meat of a conversation Very very very quickly and if people don't want to Talk to me about that stuff then I tend not to talk to them Not saying that I like monopolize the topic of the conversation, but Just that I I prefer to have You know More in-depth kind of deeper conversations. I guess I found the Putting the watch two fingers With boomerisk it gets more accurate reading with most swap smartwatches Lola used to cut trees for ages Yeah, good old woodcutting. We love that I mean, I don't it's not very interesting It wasn't youtube isn't the link of the social media I I've been really bad with replies at the moment. So I apologize for that Uh, concrete jungle says does anyone have access to it in person adult support services where they live? um, I I have access to I think support groups I don't know if I have access to particular sources of support I know that a lot of the services that organizations and charities provide tend to be um Basically up to the age of 25. So if you're above the age of 25, are you gonna have a hard time finding anything? um, even even sort of post-18 it can be quite difficult um, to be honest How do I woman? Can anyone relate uh to having to go to con conferences at work and not being able to schmooze at all? um I don't think so I usually have a lot to say about like work that I'm doing So I'm like looking for any opportunity at all to like talk and share my ideas and stuff I thought so just wanted to confirm it's bleak. Yeah, I'm sorry about that concrete I'm sorry about that Now seriously, how do you talk to women? You're gonna have to be a bit more like I mean You just you just baiting like a literal reply from me at this point Um, so, you know, you find a woman and then you talk to them Oh my god You got you're gonna have to be a bit more specific with me. My brain is not Is is not um Wide for anything but literal things at the moment. I have access to support eight times a year. That's so good I'm really glad Guy iris whitey says hello there brother and chat. How are you guys doing? Not too bad, dude. How are you doing? Welcome to the stream Roger says, uh, oh hell yes just back from a training course I was fine on topic but ate my lunch looking out the window Yeah, well you gotta you gotta take as much of like self-regulation Alone time as you can when you are like at a conference or a course or Surrounded by people for an extended period of time 100% Like you you just it's not even like a bad thing. Like you should probably do that anyway Just to take breaks and all that Keep keep care of your mental There is literally nothing for adults to support socially in real life. Yeah, it's it's it's pretty tough um other other than Um content I guess you know I wish that there was more stuff that would be lovely I think you can find some people who are like life coaches and um psychologists and stuff you are who are neurodivergent Uh, which could could be beneficial But you probably have to do that online. You probably have to search quite a bit Find a good one By heavier support. There is a long waiting list. I'm in belgium Yeah, I mean they say that in the uk like the autism diagnosis should be at minimum like I think like three months like one to three months. It's not like that. It's like two years It's the same with support. It takes forever. I made a When I was at the peak of my depressive spell I basically went to the doctors and said that I'm really really not doing good And I could be like in an emergency situation at the moment No word of lie haven't haven't heard that from since It's been months. It's crazy The healthcare system at the at the moment is just just Doing poorly It's waiting for them to get back to me for me to say like I'm actually okay now Thanks Your brain is way too Is um in way too sarcastic mode. Yeah, I know I know I'm in a funny mood today. I think I'd notice I was until Um, I went there to get a drink. I realized everyone else was in groups chatting I do tend to be to be honest like outside of anything to do with work Or online stuff I'm I'm very quiet sort of introverted like person. I don't really talk much just in general When it comes to that stuff, I am like super super extrovert I like talk to everybody there and make conversations and like share contact details and things like that and Um, it's definitely something that I can do. It's just like In terms of just general casual conversation with people socializing Um, not so much. I'm happy. Just kind of chilling Listening hearing what people have to say all that I'm very shy. I don't know and normally don't talk a lot to people, especially people I don't know but when I met met my boyfriend for the first time I talk with him then The whole evening with my friends were very very surprised. That's great I must make make you feel quite chill No, not too stressed. That's good. That's a good quality to find in a partner It's got maybe maybe talk to women more like you to make easier I need are you um What is it? Uh There's actually a term I think temple grounding came up with I think it was called like selective mating or something like that I can't remember the actual term for it Find an autistic person Um, it's not called selective mating because you know, obviously at all mating is selective but Um, not all of it, but you know, I mean um What is it called When autistic people Like just find themselves dating other autistic people Autistic people Dating autistic people Temple grounded. What did she call her? Oh, my video comes up with her. What is it called? Really can't remember to be honest Communicating is key always. I mean, how else are people supposed to know how you feel? 100% 100% I'd be really interested and see what you guys think of my new um Autism dating autistic people Do autistic people dating video presentation thing? See what you think of some of the like negatives and positives that I've come up with I realize my next chapter they have to understand autism Um of being autistic Or be autistic. Yeah selective mutism now I love how blunt and direct temple grounded is so refreshing to watch I don't always agree with her though. Yeah, and I don't always agree with her too, but I I feel like When I did my podcast with her she seemed to be Um somewhat confused by like a lot of the negative reactions that people have towards her You know, we got to remember that she is like one of the sort of the pioneers she's you know, she's she's getting on in terms of her age, you know, she's I've done a lot of good work for us um in terms of like raising awareness of autism and things like that, but Yeah, she she does have some questionable kind of um sort of opinions um in my in my personal opinion but um Yeah, she it's quite an interesting interview. I just got that podcasting like after a long break I was like, oh my god Like I'm just just jumping straight in. I was I was just so unprepared. I was like, I can't believe I'm talking to you I was just like it was mad um Yeah, have you got misophonia? I don't have misophonia actually I know a lot of people do Am I causing you misophonia because I know that sometimes my my mouth does make a lot of noises Or for them speaking I have to edit my videos. So I definitely know I try and drink as much water as possible, but it just always seems to be the case Maybe I'm just the tutor Guy says for small talk. I just mask. Yeah, I understand that too Mm-hmm What's a brain scientist? I don't know why that made me laugh I'm getting help from autism understanding Scotland at the moment. They're helping me with a checklist um They know somebody That that can be a driving instructor to help me have more independence. That's really great for you. I'm really happy about that Awesome stuff Yes, it just feels good. We have a lot coming in a lot. Um of the same interests But he says I literally have some people who I meet Where I have no force in my head to say and I feel bad about it Then some people I click with I realize the click is Probs that the narrative version maybe Could be could be could be Selective mating. I don't think it is Selective mating. I think there's a there's a I think it's assortative mating I think that's what temple granded said grandin said like autistic people finding over autistic people I have a lot of like sort of um Questions about that that kind of theory I don't think that I don't think that necessarily all of us should be just dating autistic people. I I think we should try and Make it a bit wider in terms of like our selection of people because Although it can can be good to have someone who understands the difficulties that you have sometimes as well You tend to have the same difficulties as each other and sometimes having a different brain different neuro type They can help in situations That you find difficult And also like it really depends on the person, you know, like One autistic person is very different to another autistic person So it's the truth neuro type is but one element of the piece of the of the puzzle My brother has miss phoenix cuts time eating How and when did you learn not to engage with drama? Did someone teach you or was it a bad experience? um I think I don't necessarily I think it's just that I don't necessarily care about um I don't want to use like the flashy term but like negative energy. I guess Like I'm just not really like I'm happy and I like having sort of debates and interactions and Um, perhaps sometimes even arguments with people about about certain things either in my personal life or online, but Not when it's just like Like I I'd wanted actually like talk to them about it. I wouldn't want to Like send some Tweeting messages or like The comments or like it just doesn't really bother me, you know, like It's it's you you've you've got so many other Aspects to life that you You know, it's it's just an added source of stress. I guess it's just like Um, well, I have a goal in mind in my head I'm just wanting to try and get my stuff out to more people so that I can try and help some more people or at least Provide some support or some extra talking points um and sort of being Talking or being roped into like drama or negativity it just It just detracts from that a little bit you know It's not it's not meaningful to me and it's also Not pleasant to engage in I would say as well Are you able to go to cafe? Um, I find it harder to meet friends in winter because you kind of force to meet friends somewhere inside Uh, yeah, well, it depends as long as the cafe has a separate room Other than like the actual Place where like the coffee grinder and stuff is because the coffee grinder is just way too much To be honest, like I find that really difficult Found you a good way of dragging movies on youtube is to pin your youtube link Um, what do you mean pin my youtube link? Well, I suppose I could I could pin it on instagram, but I'm not trying to like drag people to one specific site I just want to try and engage with as many of you guys as I can um, I guess When you're live and I do yeah, I might I might do that at some point You could do that Can you try to do a video? thomas on if someone If and when someone dates another person who isn't autistic I have a lot of videos like that I have a lot of videos about dating people who aren't autistic 100% and a lot of posts as well I'll have to find that podcast with that. That must have been so cool. It was very interesting. I tried to talk to her about um Emotions and relationships Because a lot of the interviews that I find of her talking to people tend to be work related And it took a while for me to get to a point where I could talk about that stuff Um, it just seemed like she was she's obviously like so Experienced when it comes to speaking about her work and her brain and the way that she works and Her experiences with other people, but she's not necessarily um, sort of had the time to kind of sit down and Yes, have have a little bit more of a heart to heart kind of conversation about like Love and friends and family and things like that. And so I was I was quite honored to be able to to chat to her about that Or it was interesting at least It took a while to get there though I'm dating an adh dh and the mess mix The mess makes me crazy and the tidying tidying makes her crazy, but we're not as well Oh dear Autistic dating someone with early onset parkers I don't know if that was a joke or like a meme or anything or if it was serious. I apologize for Reacting negatively if it is serious, but I waited one year for an autism assessment in america When it came time to have it my insurance didn't cover and I couldn't afford it I'm sorry to air that s this really really irritating part of it, but You know, this is this is one of the reasons why we do I talk so much about self diagnosis and accepting on all that because like the accessibility of it is just very very low You know amongst other reasons to be honest, but If you if you're a part of the the communities, you know I Accept self-diagnosed people accept people who aren't autistic as well in this community. So Um, there is there's no reason for that, but it can come with some You know some very real benefits and disadvantages I have done I've done a video. I think about it was my um You know the rats into fake fake disorder cringe and also I was talking about masking as well. I think there's there's two two videos where I talked about that We have a local charity that runs a cafe stuffed by people with learning disabilities And it's so perfect low lights low music a checklist menu quite kitchen. It's all very peaceful That's so nice to have I did something similar when I was when I was a teacher or a special needs ta They had like a sort of a cafe Sort of time of the day where people could come in and get like um, you know drinks and food and things like that and I supported a very very lovely young man who um You know autistic Probably probably about you know, a sd3 in terms of the support needs that this person had but it was it was really fun just like You know Going about trying to try to figure out the orders trying to make sure that I don't step in too much But I also step in enough for it not to be stressful for them um It was interesting. Yeah any ideas or tips of what to do on a date Very very very kind of I guess, um broad question America's medical system is broken. I mean, it's not too great in the uk even to be honest at the moment Have you heard about the website or the guy who run us? Depet I swear you just you've disposed of that just to like see me crumble under my speech. Obraxia us deaf phyphony It's a website to understand autism and the biological factors slash hard to cope I better with the cofactors like immune abnormalities and neuroinflammation No, I have not written it. I have not um seen before Sounds interesting I did about three modules on immunology at university and I actually did a module on neuroinflammation. So Might be a good place for me to have a look. I appreciate that It's really interesting recommend it to everyone I'm seeing someone who is neurotypical, but they're a very fairly quiet person. I think that's why it works Well, that's what I said exactly like You know, not all neurotypicals are extroverted social gods either Some people have social anxiety anxiety disorders Um, so people just are generally introverted and like to do things by themselves and they don't necessarily have to be autistic There's just what I'm saying. It's like the neurotype is like a um a factor You know involved in that kind of thing. I watched um the first love on the spectrum But found they framed it very infantilizing. Yes I think I did a video on it like a couple years ago talking about love on the spectrum and it was the same like Very much highlighting reviews of the parents. It was very concerning to watch and like them the music choices and stuff Not good Movies are a great date because you get something to talk about movies then dinner Yeah, I guess so but then like if you're gonna do a movie you have to organize something before so you're not just like Sat in a cinema with someone that you don't know Like you have to at least get on for a little bit and then maybe go to the cinema and then afterwards you could you could do something else but Yeah, right guys, um, I'm gonna sign off now because I've been I've been live on in so probably for like an hour and a half YouTube about an hour so I am actually going to be going live Again this evening at some point Um, so if you want to I'm just gonna have my tea and I'm probably going to get get back to doing it And hopefully my OBS actually works this time um, so If you want to see me reacting to different Autism content online Uh, one of you part of that I will be going live later today Alrighty See you later in stah Take care Until you guys on youtube, I will see you very soon. Hopefully if my OBS works and um, yeah, it's been a lovely chat 100% Thanks guys. Thank you. Thank you guys See you in a bit. Make sure to like the stream if you haven't I always forget to say that