 Always, Ayelet, is the foremost internationally acclaimed authority on developing true connections. Ayelet is the founder and CEO of Universal Connections Inc., the world's premier relationship firm that is revolutionizing life through wholism and truth. A highly sought life and relationship coach, professional matchmaker, astrologer, philosopher, and author, Ayelet is always Ayelet. Today's show of the Always Ayelet episode is sponsored to you by Mt. Gox, mtgox.com, and usgoldcoins.com, and mezzigrill.com. Thank you and welcome to Always Ayelet. It is my sincere honor and pleasure to be here yet again, and I want to thank you, my viewers and loyal fans and audience, for your overwhelming response. It's deeply moving and touching for me that I've been getting such an overwhelming response to my first two episodes. It's my sincere honor and pleasure to be here and to share with you my unique insights to life, love, and relationships and try to expose some truth along the way as well. Tonight, joining me is a very special guest. Well, actually, before I introduce my special guest tonight, I wanted to say that I extend my deepest and sincerest heartfelt condolences to the families of the fallen Navy SEALs that perished in Afghanistan last week. My love and blessings are with the families. I was hoping to do a segment this week with a friend live from Afghanistan, but it didn't work out. God willing, next week we will be able to hopefully have that on the air. But my deepest condolences, and it's a travesty what the world has come to, and I believe every individual's responsibility to wake up, educate yourselves, get informed, learn, and work to make a difference and stop what is trying to consume and defile our beautiful world that is God's creation. The other very important thing I wanted to comment about this week is the word confidence. It's a big word I'd like for you, my audience, to keep in mind for the duration of the show. It has been brought to my attention that consumer confidence is at an all-time low. In 30 years, since 1980, we haven't seen such a low confidence rating. I will be talking about this in greater depth later on in the show in the Simple Truth segment, but confidence is a very important element both to our economic crisis and our societal crisis, which is adversely affecting our love relationships, our relationships at large, whether they be business, personal, political, etc. And with faith, confidence comes from the Latin derivative with faith, with belief. If we don't believe in ourselves, we will perish. We must have faith and believing in ourselves and believing in God or whatever it is we choose to believe in, but we must have faith. They say faith is blind, and that's the whole point. Actually, in my personal experience, faith isn't blind. I've witnessed miracles, I've witnessed because I'm conscious to it, and all you need to do is open your eyes and look around and see the miracles transpiring around us each and every day and each and every aspect of our lives. I firmly believe that will help to enhance your faith in life, in our fellow man, and in our hope and potential for the future. So, please keep that very important word in mind today. Audience, the word is confidence, and without further ado, I want to introduce today a very special friend, a very special guest, who's honoring me with his presence today. He's a dear friend. We are like-minded entrepreneurs. I think that's the best way to describe it. He's going to be joining me for the simple truth segment on life, love and relationships. We're going to talk about his life, love and relationships and his unique entrepreneurship and what he's bringing to us, to the planet, to the universe on how to make our lives better. Without further ado, allow me to introduce my very special guest, Solomon Abadi. Thank you. I yell it. You're very welcome. It's a pleasure to be here today. Thank you. It's great to have you. Thank you. So, let me just give you a little bit, some credits on Solomon. Solomon is a certified NASM, ISSA and TRX, which is National Academy of Sports Medicine, International Sports and Science Association, and a certified in suspension training as well. Very interesting. Solomon is a health and fitness coach, and he is the president of Brand New Day Fitness, which is an in-home fitness and meal planning service, and he's been doing this for the past six years. He does personal training, meal planning, and he's a healthy cooking guru. He creates the most amazing creations, and we're going to talk all about that as well. Very interesting, as are all my friends. Very interesting and exceptional people. I have to say I put them in a very small list. Solomon is also an actor and a jazz standard singer. He's a beautiful voice and very talented and very interesting. I think most compelling to this very unique background that he has and unique life that he lives is that he has a bachelor's in business administration from Baruch College. Baruch College. Baruch College, and you call it Baruch, I call it Baruch. And he has a degree in finance and investments and a minor in sociology. So, I think that's how we kind of, our sympaticos was born along those lines. So, tell me about you. Tell me about your work. What made you business, finance, investments, and now you're a fitness coach? Well, I, and the arts. And the arts? In high school, I was actually a little bit out of shape, and I went to Yeshiva. So, of course, being in school from the, we hours in the morning until late at night, you didn't really get a physical activity or any physical education. It's a very rigorous education. Yeah. So, I did significantly gain a lot of weight and over the high school. I would never have known. Yeah. Wow. You never would have known, but that's why I've made a total transformation. And I really... That's very scorpionic of you. By the way, fellow Scorpio, I did his chart before the show. But continue. But I've always a very... I love a challenge, you know? And I'm always very... The word would be, I guess, self-efficacy. I have a lot of self-efficacy. And I'm always up for a challenge. And I was able to get myself into the best shape of my life after high school, knowing that just being tired of being out of shape and just not happy with where I was. Were you in school? Were you in college? No, when I... Did you graduate high school? So, this is more when I started college. College. But you went straight from high school to college. Right. Okay. And that was a whole different world. Yeah. So, tell me about that. Tell me what prompted you. What were you going through personally, I guess, with how you were feeling or how you were presenting yourself to the world at the time that prompted you to find... Well, the finance, that was totally not me. I mean, I'm more into the arts and I was always more creative. So, what made you pursue the finance? Basically, it just felt safe at the time. Funny things, huh? It felt safe. Funny. After a whirlwind on the stock market last week. Yeah. And I just... I totally... And I never even... I actually never really worked, per se, in the... In the industry. Finance industry because I really never held that much of an interest to do that. But after college, I went to... So, I got myself into the best shape in my life. How? What did you do? I exercised. I ate right. I didn't know any... I used to yoyo diet and that was just all wrong. Just simple nutrition and getting myself more active. Can you give me some basic things or fundamentals to your training that you... I did my own... Do my own training, too. I recently just mastered... Well, the thing is, imagine going from somewhere where you're doing nothing. Absolutely nothing and eating just all wrong. Over years, that's going to put on weight and, of course, just the slightest difference in your daily routine of getting active, of watching what you eat, portioning food. Very important to portion your food. Okay. That was a major education to me and I just love... When I got myself into the best shape in my life, I wanted to really bring that to whoever came my way, that clients, anybody I met just to have them appreciate and just make it a part of their life. Not their life, but a part of their life. That's an important thing. What's the distinction? What do you mean by that? Well, because you see too many people, fitness is totally their life and they cannot get outside of it. Well, they're compensating for something else, generally. Right. Oftentimes you find, in my experience, I found people who were addicted to something or just recovered, they recovered addicts from whatever vice they were abusing. Then they'll find whatever program they found to rehabilitate themselves. Then they'll go from one addiction to another addiction, which is oftentimes an excessive display of exercise. That's not right either. Yes, you must be healthy. You must care for yourself. It's about caring for yourself. We were talking a couple of weeks ago about the superficial and the spiritual elements of our being. My hope premise is, of course, being whole with yourself, aligning your rational mind with your emotional mind and your body and your soul. I firmly believe that the work within supersedes the externals. The world in which we live is always focusing on externals, externals, externals. But the externals are equally important because it helps to balance. That's another very important word that I wanted to bring to the attention of the audience today is balancing. Balancing life with love, balancing diet, balancing ex- Don't make it all about one thing. You need to balance. Exactly. I think that's what's lacking. When you find anyone who's doing anything fanatically, and we're not going to get into religion because we both agree that we don't really love religion, anyone who does anything to excess that becomes fanatical about some element of life, whatever it may be, it could be food, it could even be nutrition. Like a fanatic, like, oh, I won't eat that because it's not... I mean, yeah, be conscientious, be aware. But sometimes if you eat a regularly bought cucumber from the supermarket, you're still eating a cucumber. And if you really can't afford to buy organic or you can't locate organic, at least you're eating a fresh cucumber. Exactly. So God bless, and at least you're on the right track that way. You don't have to come over fanatical about, you know, over seeking to de-dietize any specific area or element of life. But tell me more about, like, how, what prompted you to get into this business to start Brand New Day Fitness? Well, because I wanted to name... And I love the name. I love the name because I totally... I actually... I'm always looking forward. I'm always looking forward. I got the name from the Van Morrison song, Brand New Day. Oh, wow, cool. That's one of my favorite musicians. Basically, I wanted to make a change in people's lives. Obviously, finance is not that much of a... Well, it's an important part of life. It can be, of course. Finance is an important part of life. But I just felt like that was an area where I was always very interested in the way the body moves and body awareness. I'm very big on posture, balance. And as you say, balancing... Life, balancing, not having everything in one side excess. And just basically posture and balancing is just... Thank you for bringing that to my attention. Something I have to work on, too. I know. I mean, when I'm comfortable... I think generally when I'm walking, when I'm standing, but when I'm sitting, I tend to relax myself and not be as conscientious of it. But I was noticing in watching the previous segments that, yeah, I could... But that's what got me into acting as well is because it's so similar. Tell me about it. You're aware of your body. And you become aware of yourself. Of yourself. And that's the key. The key, my darling, to finding true love is to know thyself and be aware of thyself before you can ever expect to communicate to another who you are and what you are and what you need and expect from a relationship. So it's... So that's why I love you. You're fabulous. So continue to tell me about the alignment that you were working on. Well, just the fact that I remember in acting school, they told us, you know, it's okay if your body is not, you know, properly aligned. But the important thing is that you can bring yourself to that posture and that alignment and that you can... Because a lot of times it's too late. You really want to practice good posture and going to what we're discussing today, your topic for today, confidence, is it tells a lot about the way people perceive us, the first impressions. Confidence is a, you know, posture is a very big... That's the first thing that people notice. Tell me more. It just portrays confidence or not. The way you walk into a room or the way you present yourself. Tell me... It's a habitual thing. Tell me the importance of confidence in your experience and your business and your career and how you come across like your clients or you don't have to mention people's names, but tell me how confidence or lack thereof is an issue in your experience and your expertise. Well, I think that confidence shouldn't just be... In my view, if I may just add another few words, it's value we're lacking on this planet right now. Value, which is esteem, my darling, self-esteem. Value and confidence, and that's faith and value. These are the crux of what makes us human. And when we lose it, it has adverse effects on us emotionally, spiritually, financially and physically. And it's manifesting itself in the financial world right now, in the material world, and it's manifesting itself in the spiritual world. And that's why I know that what we're doing right now is so of the time. What you're saying, value, that's something that's created. That's not something that I think that... What I believe is that value has to be... I don't think that people see like training. I don't think people see the value until they actually can see you in action. Well, that's a misguided... That's what's wrong with a misguided perception. That's what's wrong. Value always is, and this is a very profound lesson from Mr. Scorpio, because the Scorpio value is shared resources. It's digging below the surface to find the real inherent value. Where do we find diamonds? Diamonds, gold, platinum, the most precious... Well, gold is like through the roof. Gold went up to $1,800 an ounce this week. $1,800, like $200 in like two days. It was insane. But where do we go to find the most valuable resources on this planet? We have to dig below. And same within. We have to dig deep within us. So my message, my darling Solomon, is that value exists. We need to have appreciation. Appreciation is a very important word in context with the concept of value. Value exists, but if we don't know how to appreciate, guess what? We're going to misuse and abuse and devalue and deride and mock and destroy potential. That is not intended for us. Our purpose in life is to create and to feed and to nurture and nourish potential, not destroy it. So I hear what you're saying and I agree with you that that is what the perception is. It's not everybody. No, you're right. You are right. 98% of the perception is that people don't value. You're absolutely right. And that's why I'm here. They don't have the value. They don't have the confidence because they lack the ability to appreciate their losing sight of what it's all about. And what I'm here doing or trying to do, and I believe with great success based on the response that I've gotten, is to reteach people that the value exists if you look within and learn to honor it. You need to honor the value that is you. And it means taking care of yourself. It means eating well, sleeping well, not smoking, not drinking excessively, not abusing substances that are toxic for your body, not engaging in toxic relationships, not engaging in toxic situations period. I don't know if you missed this, but I'm repeating for the audience again. We went through this in the first episode. The three principles I teach my clients in my life, love, and relationship lessons, you know, my yellow principles of life, love, and relationships, is rule number one, everything is indicative of everything. Anything and everything you want to learn about a person, whether it's life, love, relationships, business, whatever, you will learn within the first five minutes of knowing them. If someone already did you wrong, you already seen that they're not all there. Don't test them. Don't manipulate them. Just end it. Why continue the cycle? End it. It's not going to change. It's going to get possibly potentially worse. If you saw a red flag in the beginning, it is what it is. Now, I'm not telling you to overanalyze symptoms that might be superficial. If you can get to the core of the issue and see, like, you know, sometimes in the dating world, a young woman is met this great guy and, you know, he's still living at home and driving his mom's car and doesn't have it all together yet, but he's this brilliant entrepreneur. You know, like Bill Gates. Bill Gates had one vacation day from 19, was it, 1974 to 1983, I believe. Forgive me if I misquoted the dates, but literally, I mean, that's what it takes to become as successful as he is. You need to commit, you need to devote. So how many girls do you think passed him up when he was in his garage creating Microsoft? Oh, forget it. They're sorry today. Yeah, obviously, but my point is, so don't look at the superficial. Talk to the man. Talk to the woman. What are you doing? Why are you on your, you know, friend's couch? Why are you sleeping in your mom's living room? You know, what's going on in your life? What has brought you here? Sometimes it's not the superficial reason, but the answer to that question, if it's truthful and sincere, might be so compelling that that superficial thing is something that you would be willing to contend with. But back to what we were saying is rule number one is everything is indicative of everything. Anything and everything you need to learn about a person, you're going to learn within the first five minutes of knowing them. The question is, are you conscious? Rule number two is there's two sides to every coin. Every energy in the universe has a positive and negative manifestation. And it's up to each individual person to exercise his free will, his choice, to manifest the best of that human potential. And then rule number three is we attract what we are. So if you're attracting certain people to your life, look within and see what is this lesson I need to learn through this relationship. And if it works great and if it doesn't work, at least overcome that lesson, master yourself and grow from it and move on. But those are the three fundamental principles for my thing. So back to what I was saying about everything is indicative. With confidence, you'll know in the very beginning if something is right, if you can believe in it or not. And if it is, go with it. And if you don't, then just let it go and move on because it's not going to change or get better. But back to your experiences with confidence in your clientele. Can you tell me a little bit about that or how that's manifested in your experience? Well, like I said, I think that it's something that is built. And if it takes a couple of lessons before they finally, you know, see it. And that's okay because everybody starts at a different level. And that's why everyone has a specific program that's going to go through at their specific pace. Right. So can you give me some examples of how you may have directed someone who lacked confidence to maybe build their self-esteem or build their self-confidence in their working regimen and their training regimen with you? Sure. They come in sometimes, well, somebody will come in and they'll want something, let's say, their goal is maybe to build muscle. Okay. But that's not, overall, where do we have to start? We have to work on balance, core. Core balance, they need some flexibility. And the thing is that they will get to that goal of gaining muscle but we want to start from what you need right now is the fact that you need core, your balance, just to be in equilibrium. And just so that your body, to safely bring you through a program with heavier resistance, you want to start at something even though it may not seem like a lot of fun or something that you really need. It's something that we have to start with for you to, overall, reach the end goal. I love what you said before. You used the word habit, which is a very profound word in my lexicon. Tell me about habits and how they've, tell me how you've changed or transformed your clientele's habits to becoming more helpful. If, a lot of my clients are elderly. Okay. And they have, not too, you know, but we'll say that they're sitting at desk jobs and they are very tight and maybe they're hip flexors, they're calves and they're not, they're tight in certain areas. So their body is not moving the way it naturally is supposed to. So a squat is something that people don't look at as an important movement, but babies do it. And that's a very important movement for people to be able to be flexible enough to get themselves into. And that's why I stress flexibility first. And different mechanics of getting there and showing them how babies, it's a natural movement. People think it's, oh, this is not natural. This can't be natural. But it's because you're tight in certain areas. Right. If you watch the way a baby picks up a Cheerio from the floor. Right. They are naturally in the right alignment to do a squat. And it's just amazing to see. You see them, you see the knees, the everything, the way they are aligned is amazing. Right. But just it's really... We get conditioned. Right. We get conditioned as we grow and progress. I always say this, that when we're born, we have our purity, our truth. Everything exists within us. And as we mature through life, we become adversely conditioned by the plagues that plague our society. And it's sad, but I'm hoping to make a difference to change that. And with your work as well, I think we will make a difference to change that. Tell me about your cooking. I understand you're this healthy cooking guru. Tell me about it. Because that's one of my things that are very close and dear to my heart as well. Well, that's another thing. I actually didn't discuss that with you. But before even the finance, when I was in high school, I actually got myself very much into cooking. Wow. I wanted to go to culinary school. Wow. That was another thing. Wow. But I did work in that field and saw that it was not something that, you know, it was more glorious on television than it was or in your own kitchen. Right. That it wasn't an actual restaurant. Right, right. Because, you know, the end product is not like going through the motions like you would in your own kitchen, but everything is already done. Right. So it's not as rewarding as I had thought, just working in it. Let me, we need to take a break and thank our sponsors for them. And so when we come back, what I'd love to do is take a look at some of the dishes that you've created. Yes. 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Again, that number is 1-800-HOTCOIN and mezzegrill.com, where authentic Mediterranean food meets modern flavor, now serving breakfast at 8th Avenue and 55th Street in New York City, just a couple of blocks south of Columbus Circle. And I'd love to hear from you. So give me a jingle at my Ask I Yell at voicemail. That number is 2-1-2-5-6-9-6-9-6-9. Again, my Ask I Yell at voicemail is 2-1-2-5-6-9-6-9. If you leave a message, I may answer your question on a future episode of Always I Yell It on only1tv.com. Or if you like, you may email me at I Yell It at only1tv.com. That's I Yell It, A-Y-E-L-E-T at only1tv.com. So back to what we were saying. We were talking about your healthy cooking group. Tell me about that. Tell me how that developed in your life. You were telling me how you thought about being a culinary chef but weren't into working in a steamy kitchen. And so tell me about what you do now and what you provide. Well, a lot of times people, what I realize is people do personal training and on top of that, they don't know what to do outside of the training. So they're working with a trainer for an hour or two a week and that's the only exercise they're getting. And a lot of times, you know, they're not doing anything outside of that and they're just eating the way they normally did. But trainers sometimes don't go over that. Right. So you're more of a coach. But we're also very much in a specific only tell. We're not allowed to really give that much nutritional advice except for the ones who are really just in good standing health, not somebody who would be on, let's say, certain hypertension medicine or just as an example. But what I noticed was a lot of people do not have that, who are training, don't have that background of knowing what to eat. And that's why I try to give that to my clients as a service as well. Okay, so tell me about some of the dishes that you've created and that you prepare. So what you do is you go to people's homes and you'll personally take a hand on approach and coaching them through fitness with a rigorous training program but also guide them and prepare meals for them. So do you cater events? Like if we were going to have an office party, would you cater an event? Wow, how wonderful is that? And how do we reach you if we want to reach you for that? At infoatbrandodayfitness.com Okay, wonderful, wonderful. Or we can call you as well. Yes, 310-944-4445. Wonderful, so tell us about this fabulous looking dish. This is a salmon croquette with a small salad on top and a horseradish coulis. Beautiful, looks lovely, and I'm hungry. This is a Moroccan chicken with raisin sauce and roasted rooted vegetables and rice. And how is the chicken prepared? And Zatar chips. Oh wow. You know Zatar? Yes, absolutely. Very lovely. And by the way, I love to cook as well and FYI, we have something else in common. My mom raised us literally on all gourmet natural foods. No Gerber, no Gerber went through this body. Just my mother literally used to blend all our foods for us. This looks amazing. What is this? This is a roasted chicken and for those who love... Oscar's getting hungry now too. Those who love polenta, I've reduced those carbs and made it with red lentils. So it's a gorgonzola, it's a low-fat gorgonzola that I use. So it's just to get that creamy, lactic, you know, in that dish. But without those added carbs of the cornmeal. So we're using red lentils here. Beautiful. And it's got oven-dried carrots and an Israeli salad. Very nice. And it's chicken, roasted chicken. It's roasted chicken. Very nice. And this? This is just roasted vegetable. It's an antipas. Oh, very nice. Are they cooked olives? No, they're just... That's not a Mediterranean Eastern dish. Did you ever have a chicken with the cooked olives? That's so good. Chicken with the cooked olives. Yeah, I should try that. I don't know that dish. We should have dinner sometime. Yes. I should have you over. Definitely, because you would love my food. I cook this in the same type of fashion. And this is black bean soup and rice with creme fraiche. Beautiful. Very beautiful. But everything is very low-fat. I try to use only good fats. Extra virgin olive oil. Carbs. Good. Very lean proteins. Have you heard of quinoa? Quinoa. Yes, I live off of that. It's not great. I recently tried it not too long ago. I read about it. I heard about it. I was like, wow. And it's so good. It really is good. It's a complete protein. Do you use that often? Yes. Yeah, I heard. And it's originally from the Amazon. Yes. Or Peru. Is it Peru or Peruvian? I think it's South American. No, it's South American. But I think it's also grown in Africa. Oh, really? Okay. Cool. Interesting. But you're right. It's South American. I believe it's Peruvian and Amazon. Yeah. And this is? And this is an apple crepe with powder, Granny Smith powder. Wow. The rind, I read into powder. How creative. And I use a gave nectar in these dishes. Beautiful. So I bring down that glycemic. My darling, if you want to be, I mean, you have to get in the kitchen. I know it's hot in the kitchen, but you can do it. Yeah. But I love what you're doing because what I love most about you, as I do with all my friends is that they, or people that I actually admire, is that they pursue their passion. And I firmly believe that when you pursue your passion and you're doing it with all of your heart and excellence, success is just inevitable. And so I know you're destined for greatness. And I'm very proud and honored to have you as a friend and as my guest today. Thank you. So tell me a little about your personal life. Let's talk about, because we're going to, I don't know how much time we have left, but we're going to start our Ask I Yell at segment, which is an ideal time, I think, for us to get back to some questions. Actually, if I may, before we do that, there were a couple of points that I wanted to tell the audience from last week's show. Oscar, what baby? What? Okay. We're going to sit in, we're going to sit because the audience, okay. Oscar wants to drink, I think, but he's going to have to wait another 15 or 20 minutes until we're off the camera. Okay. Butalicious. And you had your water now. Yes. Let's show the world what a good boy you are. Yes. Tell them. Okay. And no kissing in public, darling. Okay. Excuse me, audience, but little boys come first. You know how that is. Okay. So what I wanted, there were a couple of points that I wanted to mention. First, please forgive me, but I missed, I didn't miss quote. I said the correct quote, but I misplaced the quote. Thomas Jefferson wrote the Declaration of Independence. He also wrote the Constitution. But I cited the quotation from the Declaration of Independence last week as part of the Constitution, which was my mistake. It was just a mistake. I'm speaking a slip of the tongue, if you will. So please excuse me. And for the audience tonight, I do want to give you the exact quote because it's a very important part of something that I'm working on, or a message that I'd like to convey. Thomas Jefferson wrote in the Declaration of Independence, he wrote, and he said, we hold these truths to be self-evident, that all men are creative people, that they are endowed by their creator with certain inalienable rights, that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness, unquote. So that is the quote. It was in the Declaration of Independence. Yes, Thomas Jefferson wrote it. He did also write the Constitution, but I misspoke. So forgive me. And what I'm trying to bring to the attention of everyone here tonight is the importance of life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness, and identifying and defining what it really is. Because God created us, or the source created us, or however you want to define our creator, we were created to have life and liberty and the pursuit of happiness. And in my view, 98% of us are prisoners to the plagues that pervade our society and that manifest in our society. And it's because the predominance of our lives are based on non-truths. And that is what I am so trying to sort of reinforce in my message is that the only way to have real love and your love, you know, you can't qualify by saying real love or true love because if it isn't true love, then it's not love. It's anything and everything but love. Okay? If there is no truth, if there is no honor, if there is no value, if there is no devotion, it's devotion as distinct from commitment because devotion is something we do from the heart. Commitment is something we do because we signed a contract and we're supposed to do it. And we feel this sense of obligation. Again, very fear-based feelings. And so what I'm trying to, I guess, enforce tonight is the message of being truly free. And the only way you can be really free is knowing who you are and having the courage to be true to it. And this is the challenge of life because life is going to try to throw you a curveball. My darling is it throws us lots of curveballs. I think we know this. And that's where we put to the test and put to the challenge of facing our fears. Courage, my darlings. I had this discussion recently. I'm often noted for my courage, my personal courage as an individual. And one day I was talking to a friend and I said, I'm afraid. I forget what the context was. I was just sharing in confidence with a very close friend. I'm afraid. And my friend said, you're not afraid. You're miscarriage. You can't be afraid. I said, what are you talking about? Of course I'm afraid. Am I going to let it get the best of me? No. That's miscarriage. Courage is mastery of fear, not the absence of fear. It's looking for your face-to-face and saying, guess what, I beat you because I have love and I'm choosing out of love. And this is a very important message, especially in this week's current events, if you will, the message of confidence, the economic crisis we're going through, the roller coaster ride. We went down 630 points, Dow Jones. I think it was Wednesday or Thursday. And by the end of the week, if you had slept through the entire week, it's like, you would have never known that anything had happened this week because we ended up exactly where we started out last week in such as life. And what it comes down to is know your truths. Know what's going on in the economic world. Know what's going on in the political world. Don't hear and read the propaganda. Don't read and see everything you're seeing on television, mainstream media. Read, educate yourself, inform yourself, and then make your own decisions, make your own informed decisions and find the courage within to believe in yourself. You know, I really believe this is a depression. People will debate it with me, but this is an economic depression. There's no money, prices are going up, value is going down, it's just, it's bad. And the only thing we can do, but it's an amazing opportunity, just like the recession of the 70s, you know, the greatest organizations, the greatest, that's why I believe in Brand New Day Fitness too, because the greatest organizations were created and founded in times of recession. So, look within yourself, find your path, find your unique individual purpose, and pursue it. What's the worst that can happen? You're down, so you pick yourself up again, and you keep on trekking away, because you'll get knocked down again, but you just gotta keep on trekking. If you believe in it, if it is your truth, you will prevail in the end. And again, I guess the key words is confidence, courage, and knowing yourself and being true to yourself, despite the challenge, despite the fear, despite the pain that you may confront, you have it within you and you owe it to yourself. Each of us owes it to ourselves and to our Creator. This is what God expects of us, not to be oppressed by, you know, socialist governments and communist governments. It is the reason this country was founded by our forefathers, the brave men of George Washington, and, you know, they were human beings also, so they were flawed just for the record, but they were human beings, but they were powerful, and they were entrepreneurs, and they were inspirational leaders and revolutionaries of our time. And it's the time, yes, Oscar is concurring with me. Right, Oscar? Right? They were revolutionaries of our time, and now we need to revolutionize what is pervading our society and get back to the basics of what makes us human individuals and why we are here, loving yourself, and it's about loving yourself, and it's about loving yourself. And I think that transcends everything we're talking about tonight. That's just the basic, and loving yourself doesn't mean saying you love yourself and saying, oh, I'm happy. It's caring for yourself, and that manifests in every element of your life, personal life, professional life, physical life, emotional life, spiritual life, all of these are part of you, and they must be aligned in order to have a holistic, love-centered life or to live a life of holism and what I call, or refer to as living a love-centered life. So, now that I've finished covering my... I have an Askayela question that my beloved guest from last week, Athena Reich, left. I left her unanswered with it. I'm going to get to in a minute, but why don't you tell me a little bit about you and your relationship patterns or what you've been experiencing. You're single, you're fabulous, fabulous and single, everyone. Solomon Abadi, but he's waiting for the right one to come along his path, and what you need to do now is work to identify who she is so that when she appears and reveals herself to you, again, folks, you might want to go back on my website, alwaysayela.com to publications and download the gift. It's a poem I authored recently. I composed it, wrote it and authored it. And it's the gift. It's how to find your true love. I know you're going to love it as well. But you need to know yourself and identify not the superficial qualities that often us, you know, excellent people, the people that try to strive for excellence and perfectionism. We often can be guilty of missing what's inside. My mother recently told me something to that extent. She said, it's going to be very hard for you to meet somebody because you got, you know, just the way standards are high, I guess, because she raised me. But that's okay, darling. But that's important to think. You can't be with someone who doesn't share those values. So you're going to find someone, if you have high standards, excellence in your day to day existence, if that's something that is inherent in your being, being with someone who doesn't do that is just, it's like an oxymoron. I mean, you're going to be in hell. You're going to live a living confinement of hell for the next 30, 40, 50 years of your life in a marriage as such. So you know now that you need to find someone who shares those high standards. But sometimes she may not appear on the outside. You know, you have to give people a chance. I always say true connections take time to develop. Give people a chance. Get to know them. The best love relationship you're ever going to find. You're beshared. She has to be your best friend. You have to be her best friend. And everything else will sort of fall into place. But tell me about your dating experience and what's happening with you. I haven't gotten really serious into the dating scene except for like really the last few months. I'm just being busy with career. But now, you know, you just know you just look the way it is today. You really like I have friends, they're all dropping like flies, getting married or moving and you know, you do want to share something with somebody else. Right. You want to share yourself. That's what marriage is. I always said no. I'm okay with being a bachelor, you know. Right. But you really do need somebody to You need a partner. Yes. A partner. And you know, there will be people that might debate that terminology but yeah, I do believe that your marriage your true love should be a partner. Not again, when we talk about assets, liabilities and capital if you want to go back to episode one. She's going to be an asset for you. She's going to increase your capital and you're going to do the same for her. Now, she's going to have some liabilities for you as a human. But at the end of the day, if she's your bicherte, if she's your true love you're going to have a win-win relationship a love-centered relationship that's founded on truth where you can look at each other and say, I truly honor you when she walks in the room you're like wow, because it's just like the most amazing person just walking the room for you and that's how you should perceive your beloved each and every time you value her and never take her for granted and you're going to value her for who she is as an individual and for what she brings to the table for you and you're not going to feel this sense of obligation, oh I'm married I have to be home for dinner at six o'clock or else ball and chains, no no, no, no, no I'm no wonder people don't want to be married anymore because that's what they're contending with because their foundation doesn't exist. Their foundation is based on lies and superficial qualification so of course they're feeling that way they don't want to go home what's that expression they have to get beer goggles before they can go home to the wife, you know or have their own time with their friends or whatever that is but true love, you still have to have your own time spoken as an independent, self-sufficient woman for the majority of my life you become accustomed to that but I'm willing to share I'm able to share myself and I want to be part of someone else's life and someone else wants to be a part of my life and that's what makes it love, it's a willing a volition from your heart that my darling is devotion someone, you need something and your partner is going to just do it for you done, done you don't even have to ask for it she's able to provide it and it's just done because that's love, that's devotion not commitment meeting you halfway caring for you trusting you understanding you right Oscar right? I've always said also conversation is very important you have to have an intellectual conversation I'm a fan of Bill Clinton for the record not his politics for the record, Bill Clinton he did some wrong there but he loves you but as an individual man I think he's one of the extraordinary men and we know he had some mishaps in his marriage etc etc but I do believe in their marriage in the end of the day no matter what the people will say about it but you know what he says about his wife no matter what has transpired good or better and different he loves to talk to her they can talk for hours because she's his intellect she doesn't know have interviewed Hillary but they obviously have some but I think that they have true connection potential they just want to stray or whatever it was God bless it all is to teach and to strengthen us and to make us grow but you must have an intellectual compatibility you must have an emotional compatibility you must have a spiritual and the most important thing is common goals and common values I mean not to profess because yes, especially you being a Jewish man I would always try to propagate that you marry someone Jewish and have Jewish children that's important to me and it's important to our our community, our culture etc but often times she can have the right values but not necessarily for a woman because the woman carries the tradition of faith and the Jewish religion I don't ever want to be quoted as advocating for a fabulous Jewish man to marry someone who isn't Jewish but if she were to come across your path and she wasn't and she willingly wanted to become Jewish that could also happen and she voluntarily converted not for you but because that's what she always wanted that could also happen but what I'm saying is it's not necessarily religion because religion is created by man humanity all of humanity there are non-Jews on this planet that are required to fulfill the seven Noach Maid laws of the seven commandments of Noach and not necessarily all of the 10 commandments or all of the 39 commandments of the 613 commandments of being a Jew but what I'm saying is that it's not religion it's values it's goals be clear about who you are what is your life like not what you're propagating on the internet or projecting onto the world that you wish you were but what are you really and when you're whole with that and you're sound with that then you walk around with confidence even if with all due respect you're walking around with confidence with a knowledge with a self-worth and a self-esteem that no one can take from you and until you meet that one that fulfills you that you can fulfill that you're going to be like wow when you see her and she's going to be wow when she sees you and it's a mutual thing then you know you found it kind of like you can have that in any environment and that's the thing it's not just that posture balance or whatever but it's also having it in any environment anywhere you go absolutely absolutely we are almost out of time can you believe how much fun this was so before I was going to ask answer more questions from Ask Ayala but I'm going to answer Athena Rike was my guest my very honored and darling guest last week and her voice is amazing I sent her out at AthenaRike.com she asked the question what is growing together and I've given it some thought she caught me it was towards the end of the show I didn't have time to answer it hopefully we'll have some time to answer any of your questions if we have a few more minutes left but after giving it some thought and I'm reading so I don't want to miss any important points it's like I just said growing together is you have to have a common foundation to begin with and your relationship must not have been founded coercion manipulation whatsoever it must be founded on truth and unbridled love pure love and it's pure to forms and if you want to know what that means you can go on my website always ayala.com and you can learn at large how I define what true love is it begins with having integrity it begins with being whole and we can work on that together as well if you want to reach me directly you can do so but how do we grow together in a relationship how do you know when you're ending a relationship or you're growing together when you're confronted with challenges so the answer my darling Athena is that when you're sharing a common goal and purpose at the onset of the relationship and you're equally contributing to that shared goal and purpose despite the challenge meaning you've made a conscious and subconscious agreement to this other person to your partner to embark on this shared journey together in whatever the capacity is it could be a business venture it could be a romantic venture it could be a marital venture whatever the agreement is whatever the terms of it is you're growing together when you are confronted with challenges that are inherent to your unique union your unique relationship but yet despite that you're still adhering to your common goals you're still equally contributing to that shared goal and purpose despite your challenges you haven't deviated or have betrayed that common goal and purpose and along the way you are mastering your individual selves and being true to yourself and your the sanctity of your union all the way right Oscar he knows this all too well because he's my and my cutalicious mind you right Oscar yes we're finishing up in 5 minutes baby okay so it's mastering ourselves along the way and all the while being true to yourself and the sanctity of your union and that was created by this couple whatever its unique purpose may have been that is how you know you're growing together if you haven't deviated from your path even if you as an individual are growing as an individual if you've already identified what your unique purpose is and now you're confident with challenges are you going to give up and throw in the towel hell no you're going to keep on trekking no matter what you're going to keep on trekking because if you believe it it will be and right when you're ready when you're ripened the fruits of your work will appear and present themselves and that my darlings is love and it starts with you I don't know how much more time we have do we have any 4 more minutes so do you have any questions for me the part of manipulation and I thought that was interesting because you always see friends of mine say you know you have to know how to play the game or you have to play the game and I really don't agree with that I love you for that and I absolutely love you for that and it says be in the moment beautiful live in the moment I firmly agree and firmly concur in support that be present be here and be true to all of you your pain your inner child and not only to sound or whatever you know Guru like or whatever there's a child within each of us that's crying for whatever it is that we need or want feed it serve her and be and just be and don't play the game all you're going to end up with is a nice fat divorce 20 years from now 30 years from now 10 years from now however long it's going to take for it to dissipate but if you start off with the games women I know there was this book written a few years ago and ironically they ended up divorced too the authors of the book the rules it was I did it I did my research and I tested the rules and my determination on that was if you play the rules you will get a boy but if you really want a man in your life women to the women viewers if the women in the world really want a man a real man in your life then be the woman that you are be true to who you are and he will present himself if you want a boy play the games lots of love to you and we'll see you in divorce court in 20 to 30 years and I know your divorce lawyer is going to make a killing with that because that's what they've been doing so wife I mean I love some lawyers here and there along the way but with all due respect to the legal profession isn't it better to live in love and harmony and peace and fulfilling yourself remember what Thomas Jefferson said and what our creator endowed us with life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness if you're not whole with yourself you are not capable of being happy no matter how smiling your faces on your nail on your mood of the day or whatever so I wish you a fabulous week ahead hang tough be courageous and with lots of love I am always I yell it until next week lots of love