 There is like an aspect of being open specifically about mental health or even autism for a fact around being a man. And I know that it's not mental health isn't something that's, you know, but I think more women on average experience mental health difficulties than men. But I think there's a lot of I don't believe that, you know, I really just I don't believe that that I don't believe that that women, you know, deal with mental health more than men, because there's not really a stigma behind, you know, women and mental health, at least not to my knowledge. And they don't, you know, you know, I'm not going to be stereotyping anything. But yeah, no, I just I don't I don't see how that could be the case. Because there are so many men that still won't today that you know, we talk about people being naive and just underreported. Yeah, yeah, it's 100% underreported. And people aren't talking about it because their image is more important than what's going on inside. You know, I mean, and so yeah, I don't believe that for for a minute. I don't think there should be any there should be any comparison to be honest. But I do think that people need to start being more alert and being more aware about the fact that you know, at least we're in the 21st century, you know, why is there still a stigma between men and mental health? It's just it's just it doesn't fit. You know, why do you think that stigma is? Do you think it's I think we are still, you know, this wall is it's evolving into into things that nobody really fought. But them traditional, you know, some of them traditional opinions and then views are still around. And I mean, I think it's I don't want to be called to say it's a specific generation. But I do think that I do think that that's I think I think, you know, people that, you know, have had more experience that think men should be menly. And you know, I think there's just so much of that naivety around, you know, and I think definitely like, you know, that there are a lot of core sort of values that we talk about with with men that I know empathize with a lot. And I think could be useful to a lot of men. But I do think that there is a that I've, you know, for I've been kind of thinking about it a lot recently. And there's there's two sort of aspects to to sort of my experiences being being a man and having mental health. One is you get these overly like extroverted, you know, very insecure men who feel like any, any sign of weakness or any sign of emotion or anything like that, that kind of toxic, that's kind of thing. Some men can be like that. And I have had a lot of people sort of throughout my life who have had that mentality and kind of made fun of me for, you know, having mental illness and not being able to get over it or taking antidepressants or, you know, perhaps not being as confident or strong in their eyes as they see it or even just making fun of me for for sharing things and being vulnerable. There's another aspect of it as well that people, and this goes for both men and women, people kind of assume that because of the way that you look like, you know, and I'm six three and you know, I'm fairly big and it's people kind of overlook it when I when I tell them that I'm struggling because they see me in my physicality. And I just don't think everybody not not even men and women. Yeah, it does or anything between. I know that there are some other life experiences that I think a majority of men might experience that that that perhaps women were experienced as much, which could be things like conflicts like, you know, you're more likely to be victim of a crime if you're a man. You're also more likely to go to war and experience like the front lines and, you know, come back with a lot of see that traditional. Yeah, this is what I mean about we talk earlier about, you know, traditional, you know, like it's I think some women, you know, women today would be annoyed if they didn't have the opportunity to fight for their country. And then we come back to these, you know, traditional, it's it's men on the front line, you know, like men should be big, brave and no, no, just no, because it's all right not to be all right. And that is literally it in it. I just I don't think there's any other explanation. It's just OK not to be OK is all right to say I do struggle. 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I think there's there's another aspect of, you know, modern day living that I think is quite hard to overcome. It's kind of a bit of a stigma is that we we're very much place like this idea that, you know, men are not as emotional as women. And that they don't feel or I can vouch and fully say that I guarantee that I'm emotional more than any woman on this planet. And I think anybody that's listening that knows me will also agree. I mean, I can't I can't already can't have any times I've cried since yesterday, you know, I've got an emotional person. I mean, what is it? Yeah. We're saying you're not allowed to to show emotion. You're a man as far as I'm aware. And that means that you are born with these parts. I still have these parts, you know, I'm still a man. It's OK not to be OK. And yeah, man, we're identified. Yeah, or I don't, you know, yeah, literally that. And it's like. I just think people really need to just I'm so positive. I try to be positive and I try to be hopeful for the the future and for people that are a lot more vulnerable. You have to be. You have to be with mental health, don't you? You have to be positive. Yeah, yeah, but I don't I. I'm always just like at times, I'm like, this is just impossible. This is not going to change. And and it's that where there needs to be more support available to people. I mean, waiting lists are so long, people are dying. It's not good. And we have very high rates of mental health within the autistic community, and we don't have a lot of support for it. You know, really, it's quite often, even if you do get support, it's it tends not to be very effective. No, no, no, no. You almost kind of situations with the rentals. Yeah, yeah, yeah. I think that that aspect of, you know, maybe an emotional just being absolute, it's absolutely ridiculous because being emotional isn't a masculine or feminine trait. It's not a human trait, you know. Yeah, like we wouldn't do it if, you know, we wasn't made to do them things. Like we wouldn't we wouldn't show these emotions. If we're really angry, it's like it's crazy thinking about work. We have the kids and like, do they not feel emotion towards their kids? And like, you know, you know, look for partners. It's yeah, so I've been around to us that are males that I've broke down and cried in front of because I've been really upset by something that said and they've just not. Gave a care in the world. And it's that they just you to to even think that we have in this conversation annoys me. Doesn't annoy me because it's a conversation that should be happening. It's just a you know, it shouldn't even be a reason for why we're having to talk about it. I mean, the world's evolving, man. And this just, yeah, it really does. It really annoys me because. I say I need to recognise when I've made an achievement and be proud of that. And to even be dealing with mental health. You know, that's that's that's an achievement. I should be, you know, mocked because I'm a male that is going through a hard time. You know, I just don't sit right. Don't sit right. I think. I mean, you know, there are aspects to to masculinity that I I find, you know, applied to me. And I think everyone has their own sort of definitions about what that means. But I do think that, you know, for a lot of for a lot of men, we do give ourselves a hard time for having these emotions rather than accepting them. And I don't think that ignoring them and knowing that they're there, but ignoring them and pushing them to the side and developing mechanisms to get around it and not talking about it and not being open and communicating about it. I don't see that as like a sign of strength or a sign of masculinity because it's it's running away from something. If you're struggling with mental health, if you're struggling with depression, saying that you're depressed and that you have these experiences and have these faults and emotions, I think it takes much more courage to push them to the side. There's not enough praise for being like, you know, I'm very I'm such an open person. If I think something, I say it a lot of the time without thinking. But. Yeah, man. We really just need to say that's the ADHD side of things mentally. But. It's just like. Yeah, literally what you said, I couldn't say I wouldn't say. But it's just just acknowledging that that took strength to say acknowledging that that hurt to say. But then then realizing, you know, that it's again, OK, just to not be all right.