 Every victim of a narcissist needs to see this now. Yes, if you have been victimized by a narcissist, you do need to watch this right now. The reason why you need to watch this is because it will help you to finally understand why you're not getting the results that you desired and expected. The results that you were led to believe that you were going to get, which is why you need to watch this video right now as I get into it and I explain to you what exactly is going on. You were dealing with a narcissist, someone who is self-absorbed and lacks empathy, someone who cannot understand or share your feelings and experience. So, yes, these types of people, they will put you on this hamster wheel where you were endlessly trying to please them, where you were constantly trying to make them happy. But they have these insatiable desires that can never be fulfilled because they're emotionally underdeveloped, they lack the maturity and because they lack the empathy as well, they're unable to experience things in the way that you might experience or in the way that I might experience it. So, yes, they will just keep you endlessly running on this hamster wheel trying to please them. When the reality is that there is nothing that you or I could do to satisfy that type of person, there's nothing you can do to make them happy. And that has nothing to do with you, it is not your fault. When you treat someone like a king or a queen, they will treat you like a peasant. When you treat someone like a celebrity, they will treat you like a fan. I don't know exactly what you're thinking. You're thinking if someone treated me like a king or a queen or like a celebrity, I most definitely would not treat them like a peasant or a fan. And my answer to that is yes, of course, because a lot of you who are watching this right now, you've done the work, you've earned it, so you're deserving of it. And it's exactly the same as me with 165,000 subscribers, over 40 million views. I've changed millions of people's lives all around the world. I've been doing this every day now for about five years. I've been working with doctors, psychotherapists, psychologists, business owners, even some celebrities as well. All kinds of people from all walks of life. And yes, I can stand here and quite honestly say, and I can humble myself right now, that if someone came along and treated me like a king, like a celebrity, I most definitely would not treat them like a peasant or a fan. I most definitely would not do that. And in fact, I would have a lot of respect for them. And I would want to uplift them and make them happy, put a smile on their face. Yes, I would want to do all of those things for them. If they recognize my importance and significance and the value that I have provided to the world, of course I can respect someone like that because I know myself, I love myself, I practice self care every day. I work hard and as many of you know, I play hard as well. So yes, it makes a lot of sense. Unfortunately for us, these narcissists cannot recognize our value. So no matter what you do, you will never, never be good enough for them. No matter what you do, you will never make them happy. And you will never be on the more positive side of them. Once they see who you are and what you're about and they realize that in fact you are superior to them in a lot of ways. And when they see that, of course they're only going to devalue you because it's this constant competition where they always have to outdo you. They have to one-up you. They've got to be better than you. And I can tell you right now that yes, this is a game that you are never going to win. Because these individuals have this arrogance and sense of entitlement to where overnight they just automatically think and believe. I admit, I'm that. I'm the shit right now. Even though I haven't done any work, I didn't do anything to get there. I'm just that right now. Just because I think I am in my mind or because I'm surrounded by all of these enablers and flying monkeys. Yes, that means I can do whatever I want. This is how narcissists think in their minds for real. They actually think like that. That they don't have to do anything. They don't have to do any work. They can just show up and now you've got to get down on your knees, you've got to worship them. And I can tell you that nothing is in it for you. You're not going to get anything out of that. And I know that from my own experience. Yes, I have done the work many times with a lot of narcissists that I've been with. I put in the hours. I went through the trials and tribulations, a lot of blood, sweat and tears just to get there. And in the end, yes, as you know, it was never good enough. I never got what I really wanted out of it. Which is maybe something long term commitment, a future, a family, children, all of these types of things. No, I never got any of that from the narcissist that I was dealing with, dealing with that I wanted it from. I never got that at all because it's all a lie. It's all a facade. And they really set you up a fail because you're never going to win with them. You can win on your own. You can win with someone else. I can promise you, you are never going to win with someone who is self absorbed and lacks empathy. Someone who without doing anything, like you can look back and you know they never did anything for you. And I was suddenly, they're the top dog, they're the king, they're the queen, whoever it may be. And you, well, you are just a peasant. You're nothing. Or at least that's what they want you to think. They want you to believe that it doesn't matter. Even if you waste your entire life, you dedicate and devote everything that you have, you sacrifice your life for them. They're not going to see it. At the end of it, they will say that you did nothing for them. And I can tell you those are the exact words that I got from a narcissist in my life. After all of the work I've done on my YouTube, I'm working every day. She would come to me and tell me to hurry up so that I can take her out of my car. When I'm making this money from this, which is my job, my purpose in life. And it doesn't matter. There are no limits when you're dealing with narcissists because they cannot be satisfied. They can't be satisfied at all. So it doesn't matter who you are, where you're from, it doesn't matter what you've done. They're still not going to love you. You can spend, like I did, hundreds of thousands of pounds, take the narcissist on trips around the world. You can buy them food every day, take them to restaurants, buy them clothes, buy them gold. You can buy them a car, buy them a house. You can buy them whatever you want. And you can also be everything that they want you to be. You can be their emotional punching bag, their emotional trash can. You could be all of these things for them. But it's not going to make a difference because it's nothing to do with you. And it's not your problem to fix. And when you recognize that, then you will realize it doesn't matter how great I become. It doesn't matter what or how much I try to achieve in my life. It doesn't matter if I give it all away to them. It doesn't matter anything about me. No matter what I change, no matter what I improve, it does not make a difference. And that is the conclusion that you need to come to whenever you are dealing with a narcissist. When you are dealing with a narcissist, you just have to accept that yes, nothing you do will ever be enough for them. And that will give you a sense of empowerment. It will free you from the chains, their grasp. Because that's how they keep you stuck trying to please them. When you've still got that hope, that expectation where you're thinking, alright, if I just hop over these obstacles, if I just jump through these hoops, then finally I'm going to get what I want from them. No, you are never going to get that. You're never going to get what you want from a narcissist. And as we all know, that is something long-term commitment to future. A real relationship with someone who actually gives a shit about you. Because yes, that is what we want. That's what we've been trying to achieve now for a very long time. And yet we always fail with these types of people. And these types of people are the exact same thing wherever you are around the world. They're always exactly the same. They do the exact same things and that is how you should know what you were dealing with. So, yeah, that's really it. And it just seems to go out to a point where you just recognize that they don't even matter. You should be indifferent, treat them with contempt as though nothing they do matters. Because they are never going to change or improve. They're always going to be the same. They're always going to be that way with you. Where no matter what you do, no matter how great you try to become, you could be the most beautiful, the sexiest, the most successful, most amazing, wonderful person on the face of the earth. And that still would not be enough for them. That would still not get them to understand. Because then they'll just turn around and look at it and say, oh no, now you're the narcissist. Now you think you're better than me. Now you're being selfish. Yes, believe it or not, that's exactly how these crazy people think. But they're not completely crazy because, yes, as I've said before, they do know what they're doing. And they do understand the effects of their actions. They do know that a lot of the things that they're doing are not warranted. But they always find a way to justify it. They always find a way to justify their wrongdoing, all of the bad things that they are doing to you. And what I would say to all of these narcissists around the world, why not for once in your life? Can't you just justify doing something right? Doing something for the benefit of other people instead of just yourself? Yes, that's exactly what I'd like to say to the narcissists around the world. But as we all know, as I've mentioned in this video already, that is not going to make a difference. Nothing you say, nothing you do will ever change them. It never will. They're going to be that way for the rest of their lives and not in a good way because we all know what they're like. We all know that they are self-absorbed. They lack empathy. Some of them may be grandiose. Others may prefer to play the victim. And yet they have this arrogance and sense of entitlement as though you owe them the world. You owe them everything that they think they deserve even though they haven't even done the work to earn it. Yes, they haven't even done the work to do that. And yet they expect you to get down on your knees and do what they want you to do. Well, that doesn't make any sense because they haven't even done the work. And what you should do, and I want you to do this, is get your notebook out, your pen, and write down throughout the time that you've been with them. Maybe it's a few months, maybe it's a few years. Write a list of the 10 biggest things that you have done for them within that time. And you could even extend that list to 100 things, include the little things as well. And then write another list. The things that they have done for you within that time. And then look back at that and also identify the impact that the things you did and have had on their life are the things that they did had on your life. Just get your notebook out and write that down. Look back at that and see what you think. Because, yes, it's the same thing around the world. It does not matter. You can do everything for them. It will never be enough. It will never be enough. But what it should tell you is that they are ineffective, they are incapable. They have nothing to give to you. But just look back at all of the shit that you've done for them. Look back at that and realize that, yes, you must be an incredible person. Because as I've said before, a narcissist, they pick the best of the best. And somehow, once they get around them, they can literally turn someone who is the best of the best or at least make them think that they are the worst of the worst. And it is completely insane. I mean, as I've said, I've worked with psychologists, psychotherapists, lawyers, even some celebrities, some of the people I've worked with, they look like supermodels. They really do. And, yeah, I want to stand up as well and be a model for that. As you can see, I am someone who takes pride in his work. I have a massive YouTube channel, which I've been doing this now for five years, as many of you know. I am a person who takes great pride in himself, in my appearance. And in everything I do in my daily life, I always try to be as empathic as I can. Even when people hurt me, I am patient, I am calm. And yet, yes, believe it or not, I have been victimized by narcissists as well. Many times in my life and in fact, yes, my entire life. Pretty much from day one, I've experienced it at all. Smear campaigns, gang stalking, I've experienced all of that. This is just what these sick people do. And I honestly think that they find pleasure in doing that. A lot of them do. Yes, that actually brings them enjoyment. And many of us, we find these videos purely out of curiosity and fascination. Yet we just can't comprehend, we can't understand how some sick individual could actually enjoy doing that. I mean, this is why these things fascinate us so much, because we just can't understand it. It's like, what are they thinking in their minds when they're doing it? What are they thinking about? Of course, as a narcissist expert and a psychology expert, I can say that, yes, they're only thinking about winning. They're only thinking about what can I do in this moment to get ahead, to gain some power, to gain some control and feel like I have something in this moment. Because that's all it is to these narcissists. It's all about winning in the moment. They're never looking at the bigger picture. They're never looking at the span of their life. It's all about what can I do right now to feel like I am winning when it's not supposed to be something short-term. It's supposed to be something long-term. But that is how you should know that they see us as objects, as something temporary, as a means to an end. That is how you should know that. Because they're always in the moment. They're always very impulsive. They're always operating from their reptilian brains. Because, as I've said before, a lot of them, they are just very weak and stupid. They really are. They couldn't fight their way over a paper bag if their lives depended on it. And unfortunately, yes, that is a fact. They can't even step back and actually see what they're doing a lot of times because they lack self-awareness. And when you lack that, you haven't really got anything in life. Because as I've said before, your value is determined by what you give to other people. And how can you give anything if you lack self-awareness and introspection? How can you give anything if you lack that? Which is why, whenever you're around them and you have an interaction or engagement, whatever it may be, and then you walk away from them, you will always feel like you're missing something. Like you're deficient in something. Like something has been taken away from you. You will always feel like that whenever you're around them because you're an empath. You will look at yourself and think, maybe I'm not good enough. Maybe something is wrong with me. When in reality, no, it's not you at all. It's them. You are coming into this engagement with them. And naturally, you expect there to be some equal exchange of value reciprocation. But as I said, you will never get that from them. You will never get that. And then you leave feeling disappointed. You may even feel some resentment because you were treated unfairly. And then they play along. They act like there's something wrong with you when you could have given them your entire life. You could have given them everything you had, but it still was not enough. And I can tell you that it never will be enough no matter what you do from them. It's not going to make a difference. It's not going to make any difference at all. You're always going to leave feeling dissatisfied, feeling like something is wrong with you. And a lot of times it's like, as soon as you feel like something is wrong with you, that's how you should know there is nothing wrong with you. Because I know in myself, if I feel like something is wrong for someone, of course I want to try and fix it. Of course I want to try and uplift them and make them feel good. Of course I want to go out and do that. But Narcissist, no, they will never do that. They will never do that instead. They will just make you feel like you are the problem. Like something is wrong with you. Like you're missing something, you're deficient in something. And in many situations you are after you've been involved with them. After you've been involved with them, then you are deficient in something. Your energy, your vitality, your belief in yourself. And of course that's where I come in to give you this information. To uplift you, to inspire you, to encourage you, to help you to become the best version of yourself and to live your best life. Because that's what I want you all to do. I want you all to go out into the world with confidence, with enthusiasm, knowing that yes, you can achieve something. And in fact you can achieve a lot more than what you were led to believe. And that's why I come out here every day and I do this. Because I know that by doing this, it will inspire you. It will uplift you. And I know that that is my mission in life. So give people a helping hand. Give them what they need to encourage them, to uplift them. So that they can get to where you are. Just as I do. In the hopes that I can get people to where I am. After all of the success, everything that I've achieved, everything that I worked for. Of course, I don't just want to walk this path alone. I want to bring people with me as well. But narcissists, no, they cannot do any of that. And they will never do any of that. But what they will do is put you on this hamster wheel. Make you feel like you're losing your mind. Make you feel like something is wrong with you. Make you feel like you're crazy. They'll gas like you. They'll devalue you. They'll degrade you. And by the end of it, you'll feel like you're nothing. You'll feel like something is wrong with you. When they're doing that all day, every day. You're not going to leave the interaction feeling good about yourself. Unless you're in a very strong state of mind. Unless you have a ton of experience like I do. And it's like something out of Star Wars, where you're like a Jedi. And you know what you have to do to defend yourself, to counterattack. Everything they're throwing at you. But if you don't know how to do that, then you will fall prey to these individuals time and time again. You will do that. But yes, as many of you know, I do offer what I'm on coaching. Which you can book on my website at isnarksurvivor.co.uk And I will be able to teach you these Jedi mind tricks. What you need to do to protect yourself from these narcissists. And I can give you something right now, which will help you. And that is that you need to recognize that everything they do is manipulation. And it comes from their weakness and fragility. And also a lack of emotional intelligence. And also a lack of knowing themselves and knowing who they are and what they stand for. That's what a lot of their behavior comes from. It's all manipulation. It's intended to deceive you. It's not designed to go any further than that. It is a means to an end. It's short term. It's just focused on them getting what they want in that moment. Because in that moment, they see you like an object. They want to extract something from you. And once they've got that, they're on to the next person. On to the next source of supply. And that could be anyone. It could be a coworker. It could be their boss. It could be a family member, a friend. It could be their own child. Sometimes you may not know where it is. But you can be sure that it is someone, whoever it may be. So yes, this is just one tip, one trick that you can use to protect and defend yourself against these narcissists. And for more, as I said, yes, you can book a session with me one on one. Once you get to speak to me on call. And you can book that on my website. It is Narcseviver.co.uk. Other than that, that's all I have to say for this video. And as always, you can give it a thumbs up down below if you enjoyed it. Let me know your thoughts in the comments section. As many of you know, I read your comments every day. Subscribe and check out my Instagram. Narcseviver YouTube and Instagram. I've got new pictures and videos of my travels every day on there. So yesterday's Narcseviver YouTube and Instagram. The sun is shining. I'm just going to continue to enjoy the rest of my day. I hope you will too. And I will talk to you in another one very soon.