 سلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته سلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته سلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته عن أهدادهم. ل Why you may ask because we sincerely believe that our youth are encountering the most serious challenge to their faith under the impact of the godless culture of modernity that they live under. memorize and other youth are being asked to give up certain family and social values that were part of their identity. وقتهم حقًا باستخدامهم، وخسراءهم في مكانكا ، لاحظة نكتب ويصبح مخلوقا من كل شيء قديم هل أنهم يفهم بشكل مدرنة أو لا يفهم بشكل مدرنة كثيراً كثيراً أن نسأل نفسنا في الوقت العام ماذا يحدث مع المشاكلة of our young people عندما يتركوا في مدينة المدينة أو المدينة هل يتركوا معهم؟ هل يتركوا في مدينة المدينة؟ هل يتركوا؟ هل يمتلكون؟ ماذا يفعلون ذلك؟ وعندما نتحدث مع هذه المشاكلات هل يتركوا معهم مع المدينة؟ ومشاكلة حياة؟ أو هل يتركوا في مدينة المدينة؟ this is partly related to the degree and type of faith practice at home initially many young people and their young faculty during colleges take a vacation from religion because they see religion regulating their lifestyle or rather restricting their lifestyle the new freedom that they encounter would include freedom from God himself not alone from religion but from God himself this is the time that I also take a vacation from God himself the new freedom that they encounter includes freedom from God because without God in their own perception and the culture around them everything becomes possible in their desires and behavior religion is given a tertiary place in their life the primary being science and the secondary being social pleasures the downsizing of religion however is due to the elimination of God from daily life at campus they have new friends and they gain new experiences and adventures they learn from all the students who are there before them and they have a challenge to be accepted and to belong to a particular social club their lives are busy and they have deadlines to meet and appointments to keep they are under P-pressure or more appropriately P-pressure because now they are in a completely different culture altogether it's not just the P-pressure it's everything that comes with it as well at that new setup thus they have no time for God at least in the first year of campus life this is mostly true for those who did not come through a strong religious background or affiliation at home as well how do they return to religion however in the latter part of campus life by observation and experience they realize that religion has some influence on morality and thus it has a role in shaping the future it is their religious morality which keep them out of trouble as otherwise they might be a victim of violence theft drug abuse alcohol and other matters related such as dates, rapes etc which are prevalent in campus life and you cannot avoid it or escape it unless you have a strong moral system that no one has an immunity against these challenges unless you have a strong principle system within you otherwise you would see yourself drifting without even knowing that you are actually drifting in these challenges that faces our youth in campus life sometimes even a minor encounter with the law in the state of so-called innocent fun because you know English language has some incredible ways of describing things can't we have innocent fun what is that supposed to mean tell me can you describe to me what innocent fun means alright so that we can understand what is that you are encountering that you consider to be innocent fun right is innocent fun something that will implicate the rest of your life just simply because you are relaxing momentarily for few minutes here and there and you will pay of your own life and your own repute and your own integrity simply for the so-called innocent life that students encounter when they go abroad or when they go into campus life once they go into this so-called innocent fun this innocent fun can ruin their record and career some of this fun is much below the intellectual level of decency yet they still call it innocent fun although it amounts to something which is the sound intellect of a normal human being regardless whether he's religious or not would detest something called as such as innocent fun the so-called new age of rationalism is characterized by its claim as the source of all human values that could be derived by each individual without any reference to a sacred authority such as God or the revealed messages i.e. everyone wants to seek his own standard of morality without any benchmark or against any benchmark but the danger in doing so especially to a young mind is that what you see as good someone may see as bad what you see as okay someone may see as harmful what you may see as innocent fun someone else may see as harmful outcome of certain engagement in certain work that could affect the rest of your existence and the rest of your life while secularism on the other hand can find the role of religion to the private domain of an individual creating the dichotomy which is the separation of different or concrete things between spiritual and mundane between private and public meaning secularism endorses and encourages what is wrong for wrong or what is God for God right and what is very funny in the misunderstanding of Islam as a way of life is when people mix the issues together for example i may view something as haram in a certain setup or harmful but in another setup i can legitimize the same haram because it suits me in that situation for example i may look at adobe as something abhorrent i may look at alcohol as something abhorrent but cheating at work to achieve my ends is legitimized why? because come on guys it's work we have to cheat right it's ok i have to bribe otherwise things won't get done and then we complain about the system when we are the one that feel the corruption in the system why? because it suits us and that is the very thing that imam kusayn salaamullala spoke against when he said إن الدين لعيفا على ألسن الناس يلوكونه ما درت معا يشهم لذنهم محسوا قلت ديانون إمام kusayn said what? religion is nothing more than something that people chew you know what you have time? you chew it over and over and over again to claim that you are religious ها بانا we doing amal of laylatul qadr today oh yaar excellent huh? let's go and finish it are we going for artikaf? good on those who go for artikaf may Allah bless them you know and reward them but is your artikaf that you are in solitude with Allah is gonna stop you from going into the breach of what Allah does not want you to breach in your practical aspect of your mind if it does not stop you then that is what Imam kusayn is talking about religion is something that we chew but when we are being put to the test little are the ones that remains steadfast towards the principles only few of these people will own fast to their religiousness in a practical sense and not only that we pride ourselves on you know cheating who double standard or monopoly or exploiting the market all under what all under the name of what the situation we are in forces us to be or to do something like that the same happens with our youngsters why? because the youngsters learn from the masters and the masters are the parents right? someone who wants his son not to tell lies he does not himself practice lies at home for example at someone goes home and their father wants his son to always be truthful yet the father himself teaches lying in practical ways someone calls and the son says dad someone on the phone I'm not at home yeah you tell him I'm not at home ah sorry I'll call dad is not at home okay we shut the phone dad is not at home now that same guy the same student goes to college his father ask him how's your religion going? 100% but he's drinks 100% but he's got 16 girlfriends dad don't worry don't you trust me? come on dad you raised me you know he's already telling lies because he saw it in action why would he stop? it's already been told to him it's already been said to him in that way or another and then we claim to be one the standard bearers of faith we are the ones who touch the alams and we are the ones who hold the alams and we are the ones who honor the alams and so on and so forth and then this goes on and on right? there is always a double standard in what is practical and what is not practical and we need and we owe it to our children who go abroad in particular to save God their system of morality on the basis of what they see at home secularism the night religion and its mediating institutions like for example the masjid and public any public function and influence in shaping matters of public policy under the denomination of rationalism and secularism there were questions about the significance of religion in the modern man and women's life amidst all this confusion and in the mindset of our youth parents must equip their children with the tools of survival in this challenging world they are living in or under here is where parents must realize the importance of the hadith which is narrated on the authority of Ali ibn Abi Talib on positive parenting what is positive parenting you may ask brothers and sisters and the word of Ali ibn Abi Talib is to train teach and raise your children to a time different than the time you were raised in don't deal with them on the same frame of mind that your parents raised you in because the challenges are different and the time is now different what may have worked for me it does not necessarily work for my child if something my father has implemented in raising me in a given situation it may not work for my child or for my daughter in today's world and Imam Ali spoke about this 1400 years ago he knew the time will constantly change and we have to evolve with time train teach and raise your children to a time different to the time you were raised in in other words positive parenting is an approach to parenting that aims to promote children's development and manage children's behavior in a constructive and non-harmful way you know that can be descending way of speaking to our children does not work that way of using authoritarian commands at home what I say must go if you don't like it take that quote okay it's either my way or the free way alright there is no sense of given take between the authority and the ones that are living under that authority it is based positive parenting on good communication and positive attention to help our children develop and grow positively we were grown up at home on a negative pattern everything we do God is gonna come into it and choke the hell out of us alright that's how we were raised if you do something wrong you drop a glass of water or you are already in Jehannam already you know especially if this glass of water happens to me you know like some fine china or some swiss or some I don't know Scandinavian crystal God help you right if you drop the vase at home you are already on that you know skewer that turns the lamp God is already barbecuing you inside that's what we were talking God is gonna kill you God is gonna choke you God is gonna hang you from your hand God is what I don't know what all these funny things that even God sometimes I think sits there and says where do these parents get this nonsense from you know I'm not sitting there waiting for one of the children to do something wrong to lash at him God doesn't behave in that way God's called himself حليم حليم in the sense that he is extraordinary become extraordinary patient with his you know a subject to such an extent that Allah is the one that appeals to us to come back even when we are running away from it let alone for Allah to lash at us and wanting to barbecue us no this is my servant my servant look what he said your evil is coming up to me while my blessings are descending down upon you no matter how far you go you will never find the doctor that can heal you like me so I await you to come back to me so I can heal your defects and show up coming where do you find such a doctor huh where do you find such a healer but Allah is the one that appeals and says my clemency and my mercy and my love is overwhelming even if you wander and hither and hither away I shall not wander in the opposite direction away from you you run away from me and I keep chasing after you this is the God that we need the positiveness of attaching God with our children or with our youth and attaching our youth with that kind of God because that's how he wants to be known he doesn't want to be known on his attribute of power he wants to be known on his attribute of mercy you know we have in the attribute of Allah the attribute of Jamal and the attribute of Jalal Allah wants to be known on the attribute of beauty not on the attribute of power we have reversed the cycle we introduce God to our children on the attributes and the basis of power so much so that they feel choked huh and they cannot wait for the opportunity to go to college because that is their free time from God as I mentioned earlier this is the opportunity thank God mom and dad are sending me to I don't know where you know Italy, America, Canada at least I don't have to deal with them for the next four years يعني I come for holidays doesn't matter you know I'll bear with them for two months or so but I know where I'm going back to I'm going back to my free time and my indulgence in what I find and feel is what I want it is based on good communication and positive attention to help children develop and grow in a positive atmosphere for youth of children of our kids who grow up with positive parenting are likely to develop the skills and feel good about them they are also less likely to develop behavior problem you find them growing naturally they are not complex kids they made it someone speak to them it's like someone invaded their space chill yeah stay with them don't come near me I don't want to know you now at least but when the space opens for them they want to include everyone the bad and the good the bad and because now it's the opportunity and they want to take every possible advantage of it what are some of the things that we need to train our children on an aura to ensure their survival and safety in such environments now about 12 points that we need to discuss strength in their face is of at most important in their faith strength in their faith even when there are being challenged they do not change their mind just to fit with the crowd so much challenge what proof is there that God exists we fall when we go to college life someone says you believe in God you know you come from a family that believes in God so you think it's normal to say yes the minute you say yes you take meat because the culture in college is a godless culture the culture in society is a godless society they don't want you in fact you feel so much shy these days to say the word God that even in the course of your conversation so that you won't be caught out as a believer instead of saying God you say gosh ah this guy is good you know he doesn't believe in God even when he's choking you know so it's good you're doing the right thing we don't want to even mention the word you know God so that you will not be implicated as being someone who belongs to the family of believers to be able to achieve that parents need to be available for the children this does not mean being with them at all the time but it means being available when our children needs help care and attention help our children learn by encouraging them to try things for themselves encouragement and positive attention help motivate our children to learn more and more when you see them doing something you like pay more attention and show them that you like what they are doing and they will be more likely to do it again and excel at it don't and I beg every parent and please pass on the message to every parent whatever you do don't ever make the mistake of taking your child's self-esteem away from him he could never recover from the shock because the worst thing that a parent could do to his children is to take their self-esteem and confidence from them they will never gain it back they will always feel that they miss something in their mind and they are always missing something of their intellect and these are not my words go and ask psychologists and they will tell you this they will tell you that a child's confidence is primarily built at home not in the outside environment not even at school and that's why sometimes you find children exceling better at school than others because of that instilling of self-confidence at home by the parents if you are a teacher if you are a parent if you are a mentor if you are an educator if you are a moulana if you are a sheikh if you are whatever you are you must always instill self-confidence in the one that you feel you have a responsibility towards and you feel that you owe them that much of your teaching and if you are mentoring it if you pride in being who they are they must not hide the characteristic that identifies them as Muslims and cause them to be different from those around them in addition they should be telling others about their faith and are themselves good living examples of what a practical human Muslim they are so that when people look at them they say you know what it's not what people say Muslims are because they are good Muslims around but if I hide my identity because of the Islamophobia that is spreading like wildfire in the world today then who's going to come and change the paradigm of thinking in regard to the fact that Islam is a way of life that is capable to be part and parcel of the modern world that we are living in and not only be part and parcel of it but the complemented and even at times to lead it but I don't think the version of Islam that we have today can lead even a community let alone a society or the world because of the way we carry on with our differences and the way we carry on with our own mindset capable and skillful our children are able to learn or we must instill in them the ability to learn new things with relative ease they utilize information in order to achieve the best and most efficient results now this is the question where are the parents that sit with their children and read something? nonexistent what do we do instead? we buy them an iPad حسنا هل أردت أنك؟ ونحن أردت لأولادنا أردت لأولادنا إذا أتحدث الناس يقولون أن هذا الشيخ يتحدث بشكل كبير يتحدث بشكل كبير إذا لم أتحدث ومتحدث ومجمعنا إلى المدرس ثم يقولون أولادنا لماذا تقولون ذلك؟ هل always kept quiet about them عندما نتحدث أنت تعمل عندما لا تتحدث أنت تعمل لذا أين أنت تعمل؟ أين أنت؟ أعلم أنت؟ هل أنت تنتهى لأولادنا لتتحدث عن سكشوالتك؟ في المدرس في حال الناس أن ترى سكشوالتك هو أفضل أفضل أن حتى إذا كنت تشعر about yourself أنه سيكون جيدا فهذا سيكون جيدا سيكون جيدا هل هذا ما تريد؟ هل يريدون أن أخبرك؟ ونريد أن تتحدث عن هذه الأشياء لماذا؟ لأنه ماذا أعلم عن سكشوالتك؟ لتحدث عن صلاح لتحدث عن روزا لتحدث عنه لكن كرآن تتحدث عن هذه الأشياء في حول أن تكون أعلم about our responsibilities عن هذه الأشياء لكن لا لن يجب أن نتحدث أعلم أن أولادنا لا يمكننا أن نتحدث عن هذه الأشياء ما أعلم أن أولادنا أن يتحدث عن الناس إلى جهنة أعلم أنت تتحدث عن فشاري قبر يتحقق أن يستطيع أن يكون في مجموعة في 3-4 ساعة أعلم؟ أنك ستكون جيدا لن تتحدث عنك أكثر أعلم؟ هذا أعلم الله العبيم أحد أخبرني أنه يأتي من درسلان وقال لك إذا كنت أعلم عن فشاري أخبرني أنه ماذا يتحدث عن فشاري أخبري أنه لا أخبري أنه يتحدث عن فشاري قبرًا ل3.5 ساعد أخبري مبارك ان شاء الله ان شاء الله ان هذه الناس يتكلمون عن فشاري كبر. ان شاء الله انك ستستخدم في هذه الدنيا وفي الآخرة. على الوصول هذا. إمام عالي يقول لفتح حالة مختلفة في حالةك. ونحن نتكلم ونقوم بإضافة فشاري كبر. لا أوجد أي شيء لها. ولكن أعتقد أن كل شيء في مداراته جيد. كل شيء في مداراته الذي الله يتكلم عنه في القرآن. ماذا الله سبحانه وتعالى يتكلم عنه في القرآن. يقول وكذلك جعلناكم أمة وسطة لتكون شهداء على الناس. ويكون الرسول عليكم شهيدة. الله سبحانه وتعالى يقول لفتح حالة مختلفة. يكونوا always in the middle. لا تذهبون لأكسرين. لا تكونوا فندوك. هل هذا the word you use? لا أعلم. أكسرين. لا تكونوا فندوك. لأكسر أن لا شيء يتكلم عنه. كل شيء لك هو حرام. وفي الجانب الأخرى كل شيء هو حرام. ولكن ماذا نفعل ذلك؟ يجب أن يأخذ هذه الأطفال. كذلك يذهبون إلى one group. كل شيء هو حرام. يجب أن يكونون في مداراتهم. لأنهم يذهبون. يذهبون بكثيرا في مداراته. تي تي تي تي تي حرام حرام حرام حرام حرام. يمكنه أن يمتلك. يمتلك 180 دقرات. يبدأ أنه يبدأ بالضبط. فهي يبدأ بالضبط. يذهبون إلى مداراته. يجب أن يجدونه لك. لأنه يفضل على شيء يسمى بالضبط. لم يريد أن أعرف أوه أكثر. لأنه يكون في طريقة ونقلعه في العمل. لأن ماذا تفعل؟ ماذا تفعل؟ تفعل المشيء. وهذا هو لديك لأخذ السيارة. يجب أن يضع المدفع فيهم. يجب أن يرى المدفع في أي شيء أخرى الذي يحتاجه في كل مدفع. عندما يمكنه. يجب أن يساعد في مدفع العالم ما أحاول أن أقول هو أن يجب أن يضع المدفع فيهم. يجب أن يساعد. يجب أن يرد من أخرين. يجب أن يجب في بعض المكان. لا تتحرك حياة لأبوك على أسلبك. إذا كانوا يفعلون ويجب أن يكونوا مجردين يجب أن يتساعد لأنهم لا تعرفون كيف يتساعدونهم. لأنهم لم يكنوا في المكان الأول. لا تعرفون كيف يتساعدونهم. كل شيء يأتي لهم. من المنين أنهم يحبون إلى المنين أنهم يقرون لا يجب أن يتعرفون كيف يتساعدونهم. لأنه يوجد 15,000 مدفع فيهم. هل تعلمون؟ يوجد المزاعدة. لا أعرفون! أعرف أن أبوان ص soldiers . who reached an age of 27 turning old. They are not married they are still living at home. They don't even know how to do their beds. They wait for their highness the mother to come and do it with them. And you know we complain. Our children are so lazy so lethargic they make me sick. و you know what that the mom comes to that 27 جاني you're okay today you want breakfast in bed I will bring it for you you are telling him you are telling him be as lazy as you can because I'll always be there for you to be lazy you know and when he gets up to wash himself the mom goes and does the bed he comes back everything is rich he said I have the best mom in the world and now he aspires for a similar wife و when the wife does not ascribe the standard of his mom, there is no marriage life anymore. Why? Because his expectations are that of his mother's expectations. She is the best cook, the best housewife, the best cleaner, the best assistant. So his expectation of marriage is what? When you marry a wife, you marry a vacuum cleaner, an oven, a dishwasher and a washing machine. These are the qualities of a good wife. That's what we are teaching our children. Right? And if we take that away from them and we start to teach them practicality like the Prophet ﷺ taught us practicality in the sense that he did everything himself صلى الله عليه وسلم. Everything the Prophet did himself. One of our راجح of دقلي sends a letter once to his wife in that letter. You know what he says to her? He says I am in Beirut. Beirut is a beautiful city because this is a merger. These are the words of a merger. He says Beirut is a beautiful city. He has gone to Beirut for a visit. He says Beirut is a beautiful city. But you know, the only thing missing in Beirut is you. His wife. Yet. Yet. His wife comes to speak after his death to describe what kind of a person he was and what sort of a merger he was. She says when he lived with me we lived together for 60 years not once he asked for a glass of water from me. He is a merger. And what do we think about our merger? You know they do nothing. Okay. This guy. He says not once his wife he asked for a glass of water. In fact he said. In fact. He used to come home and he used to find her preparing food and washing the clothes at the same time. That's what he used to tell her. Didn't I tell you many times when you want to perform a task don't do task, do task together because that's too taxing on you. Subhanallah. احنالا what are you doing? Just washing the dishes? All day you just wash the dishes? No, no, no. You must do everything because you are a robot. You are not a human being. You must do everything under the sun. That's when marriages fail because the expectations of our children are not there. Because it can't match the mom at home because we don't have daughters that are being taught the same tradition also because all of a sudden Subhanallah the mom wants to do that to their children and to their kids but she tells her daughter don't you dare let him take a ride on your back. Why are you taking your children to take a ride on your back? But when it comes to that to the wife don't you dare let him take a ride on your back. Whenever possible they help out we must encourage them to help out in various worthwhile causes and parents must encourage them to do so by having to join them at times in these activities. Don't push your child to sport and you go and chill in the golf club. Sorry, I don't know any other place to use but for example. Don't say you want the driver to take you to the soccer game. I'll get him, go. But dad I would like you to come with me. I don't have that. So that guy that child becomes heart broken because he see other dads waiting there and cheering their sons on while this son has no one to cheer him you know his self-confidence drops to there you know what he wants is that he wants is that he wants a whole moral figure in his life to look up to and we don't provide it sometimes. We need to develop in them what we call a strong personality. They always present their personal opinion and often try to convince people of their point of view. They do not change their mind easily and they enjoy talking from a leadership position not from a follower position. So when they are in a discussion group they are not with the flow. Well if the majority says yes we will say yes. But maybe the majority are saying yes to something wrong. Doesn't matter. I can't express myself. I'm not saying make them stubborn. No. This is positiveness in instilling them the ability to express their point of view. Right from a small you know age there was a child of taking much of your time I'll try to reduce my speech. I'm about to. This example and I'll carry on tomorrow Insha'Allah. This example and I'll carry on tomorrow. The Prophet ﷺ was seated once in a medallist. Okay. Next to him it happened that there was a child who was about 13-14 years old the UIS. Now the Prophet ﷺ was brought a glass of milk a jar of milk. So they gave it to the Prophet ﷺ the Prophet ﷺ does not drink out of his courtesy he waits for everyone else to drink then if there is anything left over he will drink it. If not doesn't matter. So he goes to the child son see all these elders sitting in the magicus the young boy says yes ya'Allah I can see them he says can I pass your tan to them and then we'll give you the milk out of respect to your elders look at the child in our children he probably dropped dead already already he's blushing or he's shivering he's developed Parkinson's disease all of a sudden he doesn't know what to do especially because he is in the company or in the presence of such a what a grand personality like the Prophet ﷺ right just like for example I used to remember when we were kids when a Mawlana used to come we used to hide behind our parents ya' he doesn't bite but we have been told don't go near Mawlana they have a special you know station okay good to teach them respect but not to the extent that they become fearful or even approaching or asking then how do they find out about their religion if they are frightened of him you can't okay so he said ya' he saw a lot can I speak he says yes you can he says I am seated to your right hand side right around the Prophet ﷺ he said you taught us priority is given to the one who sits on your right hand side he said yes he said since I'm sitting on my right hand side and you are the Prophet if you touch that milk first I'm not gonna give my turn to anyone sorry sorry am I saying anything wrong ya' Rasoolallah he said no you argued your point immacably you argued the Prophet did not denounce him he did not say who raised you man what audacious kid ya' he didn't say that he didn't break his self-confidence he didn't kill his self-esteem he said you know you argued your point in a very beautiful way brothers elders sorry I have to give the milk to him the child takes the milk look look look look takes the milk he said ya' Rasoolallah now I will pass it on to my elders Subhanallah now I will pass it on to my elders at least I made my point and this is my heart okay what do you do after that it's your derogative right it's your derogative it's your derogative what you do your choice when you not be able to express it but don't allow people to hijack your identity simply because you went to Harvard University or all that now you gotta come back after 4 years of medicine or 8 years of PhD and you gotta tell your parents or the community I still believe in God sure it's too much man no it's not possible no it's possible enough because you have a paradigm that you want to give to the world that you should be proud of in expressing in a logical and rational way because of your love for your identity and the confidence that your parents instilled in you anyway may Allah's parallel in conclusion allow us and grant us the wisdom and the ability to be in that position so that we can instill this positive parenting in our children so that we can achieve what we need to achieve in the appropriateness and the measures of raising them in a healthy and appropriate way with this I conclude وآخر دعوانا الحمد لله رب العالمين رسال الله رساله و بارك على سيدنا محمد وعلى آله طيبين الطاهرين a young sister here who has papers and pens if you need to ask a question just point to her and she gracefully be attending to you to write whatever you want to ask of her I'll start with the first question is there any book available with the translation of the book of the Quran by our Imam there are few like there is a book of Imam Al-Qadim سلام الله عليه but I don't know whether it's available in English I don't know whether it's available I know it's available in Arabic or this book at least it's attributed to an Imam As-Sadaq سلام الله sorry Imam Al-Qadim سلام الله عليه so there are if you Google or if you for example go to alislam.org I'm sure you will definitely find something along those lines you said a few days ago that women were made from the same substance as men by Allah women have the same intellect as men no difference the question my question is why cannot a woman be a prayer leader just as a man in a mosque you know why because men can't take it alright simple and if I speak people will also raise their eyebrows when a woman you know Allah سلام is physical right and it involves certain physical activities that some men if the woman is to lead in prayer and be engaged in certain physical activities of that sword they will say not Allah for anymore God knows what is Akbar it's nature I mean if someone let alone standing in front of you if she's sitting if she is standing beside you if a woman is standing beside you are you going to think about Allah anymore seriously seriously you know they think Islam is sexist Islam does not no no Islam is not sexist Islam is a religion that is practical that wants to avoid and here I'm not seeing all men are again as I said three days ago when God legislate He legislate at the minimum capabilities of people not at the maximum capabilities يعني for example they could be men who even if a thousand women was with them in one room and they were alone with her they would not be affected they have that you know power of control but there are men if they just see the breeze of a woman okay if they see just the shade of a woman they collapse so that's His capability He cannot control it so Allah once knows that some men out of that caliber He goes and He puts the woman right there smack in the middle of the prayer it's not going to work in that regard it's not going to work in that regard so God takes into perspective these issues in that reference the other issue why she cannot be a leader in the mosque for example is for the obvious psychological reasons that a woman goes through in her you know cycle of the month that she cannot be available to lead at certain time in that so she's not there so what do the men do she's not there but she's the leader of the mosque for example so in that time of the month what do they do so that is another dimension as to why she is exempt from leading the prayers in front of men in our Shi'a community there is a lot of emphasis on homes but not on zakat why and is zakat payable by the Shi'a community can you please clarify where there is any ayat in the Holy Quran relating to homes yeah of course in Surat Al-Anfaal Allah SWT in verse 41 Surat Al-Anfaal Allah speaks very clearly about the question of homes he says فعله انما غنيمتم من شيء فإن لله خمسه وله رسوله وله القربة والفقراء وكذا وكذا you know at least the items or the divisions in which the homes is paid however to say that zakat is not payable or it's not part of being payable in the jurisprudential of the Shi'a school of thought is not entirely correct because we know that in the Shi'a school of thought for example zakat is paid on what we call the four اعيان and on gold and silver once gold and silver reaches a particular level if you have if you are dealing or you trade in gold and you reach 81 grams of gold you have 81 grams which is not much actually you know 81 grams people have kilos of gold these days but we're not talking about gold of that you wear the the world of zina as they call it the world of ornament we're talking about gold for trading in a trading system if it reaches 82 grams then it to an half percent becomes payable on the gold silver cattle and the four crops which have to be if you are a farmer for example and you deal with wheat rice and and this type of of crops then you have to pay homes on that particular what do you call it crops or the cattle that you are dealing with as a business so that becomes payable from that perspective however the flip the coin our sunni brothers also have a concept of crops and it is not limited only to war parties as some people think no in fact our sunni brothers in the four school of thought which is the the the the the the the the that is buried underground and has value to it it accruces homes you if you pull out uranium you pay homes on it magnesium you pay homes on it oil you pay homes on it so imagine if the Muslim world pays the homes the oil that is dug out from underground لا أعتقد أن أي شخص يستطيع أن يتحرك شيئاً أكثر than a Bentley. وانتظر. لكنه لا يستطيع أن يساعد. لذلك لا أعتقد أنه حتى في مدينة سندي المدينة مثل أن الخامس يستطيع أن يكون محاولة بوتي. إذا كنت تذهب إلى محاولة وإذا كانت تبقى مدينة أخرى إذا كانت تبقى مدينة أخرى تبقى أكثر than that. فهذا ليس أن ينتهي إلى أن تكون مدينة أخرى إلى ما يستطيع أن يكون محاولة بوتي. إذا كانت مدينة أخرى إذا كانت تبقى مدينة أخرى على أن يدفع أو يدفع أمور معلم خامس يساعد. كما أقول أمور محاولة إذا كنت أصدق أن تصل إلى قرم من أشرة محاولة تجعلك أن أصدق أمور لما تتحدث عن ذكاتنا. يجب أن أقوم بعمل 2.5% لا يجب أن توقف هنا إذا لم أستطيع أن أستطيع أن أقوم بعمل 2.5% يجب أن أقوم بعمل 2.5% يعني أنك يمكنك أن تصل إلى موقع يوم 20.000 دولار إذا لم تستخدمك لأنك يجب أن تقوم بعمل 2.5% every year if you do not use that saved money يجب أن تقوم بعمل 2.5% after you pay all your expenses يجب أن تقوم بعمل 2.5% you cannot say I have a rose now I feel like a Bentley now you pay for the Bentley and buy it no problem because it's not an expense it's not a necessity it's a leisure you want to buy it and you have the money go ahead no problem pay for the homes on it first so homes is calculated you pay all your expenses rent mortgage food for what for a whole year all the necessary expenses for one whole year after you paid all your expenses for a whole year you had surplus of money that remained for a year unused you pay 20% on that money you pay 20% on that particular amount and not on the entire amount that you are earning at face value when children are sick we aspire pray to Allah for giving them health and make them well but mostly my daughters are not answered why is it that we are not good Muslims or that the child who is sick is not very religious and not a good Muslim please when you relate to Allah when you relate to Him from a religious point of view why because Allah said He Himself said alright Allah said to Ibrahim when Ibrahim left his family be the sacred mosque remember you know the ayah that speaks about it he said قال ربي امي اسكنتو من درية عند بيتك الحرام بيوادن غيري ديزا او الله I left members of my family near your sacred home in a barren valley مكاوز بارن there is no this فشعل افئلة من الناس ده ويقلي please let people slog to them so that they could help them because he left his wife Hajar and his son his wife ورزقوا من استمرات and provide them with means of sustenance من امان اميه what does he say he said provide those who flock to them with sustenance but only the believers among them إبراهيم said that what did Allah reply he said وامن كفا he said no no no we don't only provide for the believers among them we will also provide for the non believers as well so if someone comes because sustenance is a duty on Allah to give to people right so he does not implicate someone who has no burden or has not done any sin by the sins of his parents we have been told by the way that the Riyadh it says that if a parent goes against Allah the child pays the price but how is that possible when Allah Himself in the Quran declares and says وَلَا تَزِرُوا وَازِرَتَنْ وِزْرَ أُخْرَ no soul shall be burdened by the action of another soul how is it possible then we can come and claim that if the parent is not good the son will suffer the consequences that is injustice and Allah cannot be unjust because he made that law I shall not burden a soul with the defects or the shortcomings or the sins or the mishaps or whatever of another soul so why would the children pay the price now why is it then sometimes our prayers are not answered firstly and primarily when Allah takes your He knows better than you whether this Torah should be given now in 5 years in 10 years or not given at all so that you don't think it's going to come one day it may not come at all why because sometimes God preserves your Torah to the day of judgment to raise your right in that day because He sees fit that if He is going to give it to you now you may use this world and the Akhir يعني for example for example Qarul Qarul was the cousin of Musa peace be upon him he was poor but he was ultra-ultra religious يعني whatever Musa does Qarul will do he was they call him the pigeon of the temple and he was always in the temple you know or in the presence of Moses he kept pestering Moses pestering him pestering him make dua make dua give me something that I'll recover it give me give me give me give me give me يعني maybe it's not good for you maybe Allah is holding back because you may not know what to do with this money he says no I want it you know me I'm your cousin I'm this I'm that I'm this you know what he told him Moses thought Qarul a formula that changes sand into gold everyone is saying I don't have this formula now I don't know it by the way don't come after the lecture I don't know it I don't even know what it is okay but the rewire says that he taught him how to change sand into gold the guy became rich to such an extent that Allah when he describes his wealth he says one key to his treasure it's nine million to carry it nine million to carry one key to open one of his treasures over the course of time Moses used to send after him it's time to pay you know charity this is what charity I knew I was going to get this wealth haji look yesterday you were a beggar yesterday you were holding to my feet and saying Moses please please please now all of a sudden you are saying that I knew I was going to get it and he kept saying that until Allah says what فخسفنا بي وبي داري الارض he reached a level of defiance against Allah سبحانه وتعالى until Allah knew that he's not going to come back خلاص he decided he decided his fate and destiny Allah did not decided for him he decided his fate and destiny he decided to renege and to rebel Allah says we opened the land and we made the land smaller all his money and treasures because it's useless now the people who used to envy Karun what did they say they say oh my God thank God we didn't ask for what Karun asked so sometimes we don't relate from that perspective another time what do we do we look up we never look down that's why we don't find happiness because we feel that others are happy because we're looking up oh look at this guy they have no problems no issues they're always smiling they're always happy and they look at themselves in comparison to the one above them they feel they are disadvantaged but if they took a moment and look below them they will see that they are in the same happiness because it's relative to the ones below you and so on if the one below you looked at the one below him he will think he's in good term and in good standard but we never look down we always look up that's why we're never happy or we're never positive we implicate ourselves with being negative we don't surrender to our own happiness that is found within us because we are not looking in the right places the third reason is that Allah SWT wants to increase your level of patience you are someone who is absolutely not patient with anything so Allah slowly takes things away or delay them but it doesn't mean that Allah is not holding them to answer them there is a story that says that there was a man who was يعني it's a figure it's metaphoric metaphoric don't take it literal because people then will shoot me if they take it literally that a man used to walk and he used to always find a set of print next to him footprint right so one time he was really desperate for Allah to answer his door so he looked for a set of prints he didn't find them he said يعني الله now when I need you the most you're not there so Allah said how did you know that I was always there with you he said I used to see your footprint every time I wanted something I saw a footprint walking next to me now I want you you're not there he said whose footprint do you think is that the one you see in front of you he said mine he said no they are mine I'm carrying you now now I'm carrying you but you don't even feel it because you are doing gross in your wants that they never end the wants that they never end so don't despair from the mercy of Allah يعني الله okay alright so يعني look I sorry to say but I have a habit I don't know how to answer a question with yes and no because I feel it is not fair to the person who is asking the question so bear with me I know there is a lot of questions but I will not let you sit and go through all these questions at once before in banks before in banks in deposit it used to be called interest now the banks are calling it profit and loss they still call it interest is it still interest money or is it profit as interest is haram and you can't take it is it interest can you take it and give it to the poor and needy instead of leaving it in the banks sorry I know this is not the topic being discussed but I will appreciate if you can speak on this topic okay here there is difference of opinion if this question and I am being very academic here and I am not trying to create a rift I am being extremely academic if this question is coming from the perspective of the Sunni school of thought the Sunni scholars say that whatever the bank give on any investment with the bank is deemed interest and it's haram you cannot take it alright so if you are a Sunni brother and sister and you are investing money in the bank you are not allowed to take interest from the bank because it is considered as a form of usury which is riba which is called riba in our school of thought our Maraja of Daklit they say this they say if you put your money in the bank without any demands or negotiation on what the bank gives and you deposit in your money you don't even ask you don't go window shopping which bank is offering more interest and you have an amount of money you leave it in that bank the bank says you know here is the investment on your money that you left with us our jurists say this is not ruled as interest it is not interest because you didn't ask for it and if you were not given it you will not demand it so there is no consent on the part of you and the bank there is no consent the bank goes and invest that money makes a profit gives you a percentage on that profit the Maraja say you can take it alright in fact the recent fatwa of Ayatollah sustaining may Allah يعني prolong his life he says you can even leave off your investment from what you put in the banks because it cannot be amounted to interest it does not fall under that category and he is speaking from what we call from يعني knowledge he knows what he is talking about he is not just saying that for the sake of saying that he studied the bank system and he came to the conclusion that number one number two he says that to leave that money in the bank has also serious implications what are the serious implications that the bank may go and reinvest this money in something haram so in order to what they call it استقاد المال to rescue that money from falling into the haram you are better off taking it than leaving it in the hands of this monetary institution and you can use it yourself or you can give it to the poor people or whatever you want to do with it also can I as an individual get the authority to distribute in خمس and زكاد according to my wishes with the permission of the مرجعية yes without a doubt which مرجعية is liberal enough to grant me the facility go and ask I am not their representative so if you want to distribute it you are at liberty go and negotiate it with the مرجع and if he gives you the authority to do it feel free to do it and if you want to you can collaborate more on that you can come and speak to me in person and maybe I can give you some hints yes or yes I don't know what that means 7, 8, 6 alright please help if you can then pray for me my daughter my daughter in law keeps my grandchildren away from me I have two girls and one boy my I don't know what it says my something cries and prays to Allah to inflict the same pain on her no please when she has grandchildren my son has no say in the matter I don't like to pray this but what what to do can you give some dua to me or pray for me as I am left in pain I would say to the daughter in law be God conscious who let your children go to their grandmother because he does not fear to keep these children away from their grandmother and you will be responsible from an Islamic point of view from a moral point of view from a conscious point of view from an intellectual point of view from an ethical point of view not to keep these children away from their grandparents if you have an issue be transparent and discuss the issue but don't use the children as victims to get at your mother in law that's not Muslim morality is all about we've been talking about the human Muslim forget the fact you are Muslim you act as a human as a human act you're a humanity should dictate to you not to do something which is so appalling I don't know what the mother in law has done okay and I'm not coming to the rescue of the mother in law now I am speaking in as far as what the question is in fairness to the setup because the daughter in law may have another story to tell finally what I say is that we Muslims in all honesty it's a bad time that we learn how to be transparent with one another when we deal with one another يعني I know my mother in law has hurted me or she has done something to me don't hold that grudge until the day of judgement against her go to her and say to her mom if there is an issue between you and me I am married to your son it is not healthy to keep this issue piling up between us and if the daughter in law takes such a very courageous step I appeal to our mothers in law to also reciprocate the invite and say to the daughter in law I thank you for coming and admitting or wanting to discuss the issue but you know what our problem is it's our ego it's our ego we cannot do it we wait why should I go to her I am her royal princess she has to come to my sorry doorstep and even bend and then I will think if I will make her see her grandchildren what sort of nonsense is this this is not even humane let alone Islamic in our system of dealing with one another God is not affected by our obedience to him or our disobedience to him he is not elevated by our worship then why did he create us he create you to give you the free will to understand your value as a human being who has been given the opportunity to cherish the fact of existence because without existence you are a non entity and Allah reminds us no one knew him he had no existence whatsoever you were basically I was insignificant in creation God created you gave you the will power the free will the intellect and said to you now you are an entity you are recognized you are something of value you are something of value so show that value in its real essence when you pray you pray for the elevation of your own value not for the elevation of God's value God's value is beyond any kind of of pleasure in our life it is to measure our own attitude our own capabilities our own potentials whether we are indeed capable given that free will to acknowledge our existence on a healthy dimension as opposed to a negative dimension I have heard that if you have committed zina the only way to ask for forgiveness is to do tauba so I want to ask is there any kafara compensation for it there is no kafara for the act of zina if you have done it it's between you and Allah if no one knows about it you don't need to reveal it keep it between you and Allah and Allah is the one that is merciful and can forgive any sins as long as it does not amount to associating partners with Him that means even after death not before for example if someone does all the sins but dies and he does not associate partners with Allah there is the likelihood that Allah will forgive him his sins that's the only thing that Allah does not forgive associating partners with him so if you do tauba even now let's say I God forbid I start to associate partners with Allah but before I die I repent when kafara is finished it's gone there is no question about it anymore you won't be liable for it the liability is to die or to go out of this physical existence into the metaphysical world without having entered in a state of repentance or a state of awakening so to speak can you please explain joint family system in light of Islam joint family system in light of Islam is not to encroute on each others privacy or rights you want your parents to live with you and your brothers to live with you and your wife to be in hijab 24-7 Islam says because it's not fair simply because your brother needs to live with you and your wife has to pay the expense if she's in hijab and be in hijab 24 hours or be locked in her room so that his royal highness can sleep in the couch and watch TV 24 hours and the wife gets locked in Islam says you can't do that it is against the morality and the basic standards of human rights if you want your parents and you want to honor them which is something very helpful and very honorable of you you must create a separate chamber for your wife where her privacy is not encroute on where she can for example have even a room with its you know what we call you know its basic necessities such as a kitchen or a bathroom or whatever even if it was one room but she has the liberty to come out and feel free about her space then Islam says yes you can live as a family or if you leave a house where it is divided in quarters where no one sees one another where I have the right to choose my own furniture my own curtains my own food and not be dictated every day what sort of food we are going to cook today by the mother in law sorry mother in law please bear with me alright please bear with me alright because this is practical Islam if you want cultural Islam I won't keep my mouth shut and I will not preach but if I am preaching about practical Islam practical Islam says when a wife marries into a family she has the right to her privacy I eat she has the right to her food to her space to her clothes to her wherever رسول الله صلى الله عليه وسلم he refused for Fatima to stay with him refused so Fatima to رسول الله was what he used to say so Fatima she is the self that is sit right there between my heart and soul that's Fatima to the prophet he says daughter you are married now go to your home live your own life live your own space cook your own dinner do whatever you want no one can dictate to you the color of the couches or the color of the cushions you know you can't this is not marriage and this if we are going to be too controversial I'll leave it here please elaborate on the concept of Mut'a in Islam how is this different from Nikah or marriage it would be appreciated if you could provide some names of book reading material on the subject well from the outset Mut'a is a marriage let there be no what do you call it any misunderstanding that Mut'a is something that is not marriage in fact Mut'a is called a contract just like the marriage is called contract but one is permanent as in the permanency is on the basis of the intention of the couples to live together and cohabitate together because there is no permanency because that particular marriage can be aggregated by divorce so there is no permanency to it if divorce takes place everyone goes in a separate way the difference between the what we call the permanent marriage and the temporary marriage contract is that two things that is different in the permanent marriage the wife inherits the husband in the temporary marriage the wife does not inherit the husband in the permanent marriage there is no specification of a period of time or a block of time in the temporary marriage there is a specification of the time that these two individuals wish to cohabitate cohabitate with one another or live with one another now is the actual cohabitation in the temporary marriage center deemed a marriage in Quran and the tradition of the prophet and in the eyes of Allah yes it is a marriage okay can we stop it if we want huh ladies hello can you stop temporary marriage if your husband wants to exercise temporary marriage yes you can in one condition you draw a prenup today is going to be my last day in Pakistan you draw a prenup what is a prenup you draw a prenup means a conditional contract that when you want to marry permanently with a husband you put a condition on him not to marry temporary marriage as long as you are married to him if he signs that contract that is a consent on his part that he cannot marry temporary marriage and he has to be bound by that prenup if he signs the contract and he cannot go back on that on his word and why are you putting that condition you're putting that condition in the sense that if he does go and marry and he breaks his word or he breaks his his what do you call it the condition of the contract then you have the right to divorce yourself on his behalf without complications and you will still get your dowry whether he likes it or not that's practical Islam I know how prenups in this community is unheard of and I think I've shot myself in the leg already but I speak what Allah and Islam and Ahlul Bayt want me to speak is the religion I have been taught and I need to preach the religion as it has been taught by the Prophet ﷺ and the Imam in terms of books there are a number of books that are written on the subject and they are written in a very academic way and there are a lot of actually papers that are being given in that and by the way the marriage of temporary marriage was practiced at the time of the Prophet is not something that we invented right and for those who don't know history I can give you a name of companions who practice temporary marriage as a result of practicing temporary marriage they brought into this world very renowned and well known children of companions from temporary marriage and people of Awar married Asmaa the daughter of Asmaa daughter of Abu Bakr and from that marriage which was temporary based Abdullah ibn Zubair was born so Abdullah ibn Zubair is the product of the marriage of temporary marriage if people don't know history okay just as a something to keep in mind I can't think of the names now but if you want to send me an email I have actually few articles and books myself that I can forward to you on this subject we have respect for all Khalifahs and Imams but why do we quote only Hadrat Ali always two can we read namaz in car instead of missing it if schedule is busy firstly we do not only speak about Imam Ali if we spoke about Imam Ali it is because of the abundance of narrations that have been quoted on his Bihar and sometimes there are particular issues that we need to relate to that no one other than Imam Ali spoke about unfortunately this is a reality fortunately or unfortunately for example when we speak about the divinity of Allah and how to explain the oneness of Allah none of the companions of the prophet with all respect to all of them if we spoke about this subject matter none of them even Abil Hadid in his شرح of Naaj al-Balaq and even Abil Hadid is Mu'tasili Mu'tasili means he belong to the Sunni school of thought not the Shia school of thought even Abil Hadid when he wrote the interpretation of Naaj al-Balaqa in the preamble in the beginning of his شرح in the beginning of his interpretation he had this to say the words of Ali ibn Abi Talib these are the words of Ibn Hadid Mu'tasili as Sunni the Sunni Mu'tasili even Abil Hadid he says the words of Ali ibn Abi Talib above the words of people and below the words of the creator that's how we find his speech is in explaining matters then he says he says and in fairness to Ali ibn Abi Talib a close examination of all the respected companions of the Prophet even Abil Hadid says I'm quoting him he says with all due respect to all the companions of the Prophet none of them touched even the surface of explaining certain sciences about the Quran even the Prophet except Ali ibn Abi Talib and then he says such as the oneness of Allah the justice of Allah you know certain things that Ali ibn Abi Talib was able to speak about others did not so we do not we do not quote them because we don't want to quote them no we don't quote them in certain instances because there is nothing but we can corroborate the subject matter we are trying to address in that particular field but we can quote them and we do quote them from the members we say that they said this they said that if their words and statements corroborate the Quran we will accept it we have no issues by accepting it can we read namaz in a car no you can't read namaz in a car because you have to stand up one of the conditions of salah is that you have to stand up you can't be seated down unless you are الله صلى الله عليه وسلم unable to be in a position to stand up and my advice my humble advice is yes we do have busy schedule but let's organize our busy schedule around our salah and not organize our salah around our busy schedule okay just in the horizon if we can establish this for sure you can do your oftar the only reason why we delay it few moments and not 25 minutes because that's not ehtiyat that is becoming pedantic okay ehtiyat according to Marajah of Taklib is a maximum of 7 to 10 minutes not more than that that's how much it takes for the redness in the east to go away it does not need 25 minutes or 30 minutes for it to go and now we don't break our fast until the moon comes out sometimes with until an hour later and we think that we are still keeping our rosa Habibi the minute the time of rosa open whether you eat or not your rosa is open anyway do you know that you are not confined to eating if the time of rosa has come and the time is established to have happened whether you drink or not you are not considered fasting anymore it's finished it's gone it's over your fast is open already in that regard what you need to do is to establish that the time has actually taken place is comes far or is Taklib I think we spoke about comes yes it's an article of faith and it has to be followed is Taklib an article of faith or obligation that we need to follow yes and no now I know there is eyebrows how is it yes or no you don't want to be a mokall you become a mushda simple isn't it you become an expert you don't have to become a mokall simple يعني for example do we have to all be doctors yes and no how if in a community there are no doctors what do we have to do we have to make doctors Islam says if in a community there is no engineers there are no doctors not only that Islam takes it even beyond that if a community there is no what do you call them plumbers you know a plumber if there is a community that does not have a plumber if the whole community becomes responsible to fund someone to go and study the bachelor of plumbing okay you don't want to become a mokall try to become a mokall become a mushda become an expert because it is not possible that in every science around the world we need experts and we surrender to them but only when it comes to what determines and in the end we want to do it right everyone wants to interpret the Quran the way they want everyone want to interpret the Hadith as they want everyone want to practice Islam as they want imagine if everyone becomes his own information inside the imperial without even having to study the brothers simple logical question do you want to build a house in all honesty with you give your house to a butcher to build answer me I am giving practical example with you give your home for a butcher to build it no you will go and employ the best engineer under the sun to ensure that there is no problem with your house but you are investing your life do you want to invest your life in regard to your religion without having the basics in order to see yourself that what you are practicing is right or wrong instead of falling into harm without knowing because I don't know how to come out of a particular situation or how to interpret a particular situation in that situation تقليد becomes something important in order that if you ask at least you are safe as to what you are practicing and so on and so forth why are we question that you are not a Shia can't go for Haj or Ziyara if you have not given homes why my husband doesn't want to pray behind me I don't know I have already started praying he said man has to lead okay so this problem domestic problem at all anyway I think I have few more questions but I'll leave them with your permission to tomorrow to be able to answer them thank you for your attentiveness sorry if I raised my voice or tone of voice in answering this question it was not an attack on anyone it's just the excitement of the whole atmosphere and I do not preach at you I talk with you with the anticipation that we can all grow together in appreciating and understanding our Islam insha'Allah may Allah forgive me if I have been negligent in any point or in highlighting anything that does not or did not make sense or make any point and may Allah raise your ranks for listening to sometimes the gibberish you have to put up with when I speak to you and may Allah grant mercy and abundance of His pardon to the loved one of those who have departed among the organizers and the ones who are here can we all recite for them صورة البركة الجاتحة والصلاوات على محمد وآلي محمد