 Hello, welcome to Quark Talk. Today I am not crystal, I mean I am crystal, but I am goddess number one out of goddess threes here because today we have a steamy, sexual, just brooding sensuality of three women including myself to talk about something that is really rarely talked about. Why? This inner goddess, this concept of it, why is it that we have to repress it and hide it because it is something that we don't care or people don't want to know about. I mean it is embellished with every woman and man perhaps out there and it is time to talk about it because there is something in the air that is bringing those energies out and we have goddesses to talk about this. And who is it hot in here? Because you look at these ladies, it is not just because they are hot hot like men hot. We are going to talk about some really juicy stuff so please join us today on evoking the inner goddess within all of us. Introducing our lovely guest today, goddess number two! Kiyahi Lindsay. Gorgeous Kiyahi came on last time with your partner Doug and so today we are going to evoke what? We, well like you said there is something in the air and everyone is feeling it. All of my girlfriends are feeling it. It's this energy that's been brewing that you know we've conditioned ourselves to kind of keep under wraps in such a way instead of just really walking and maybe floating through life like goddesses do. Okay yes I hear you goddess number two goddess number three we've got Nicole Ramos who is also in the beauty and wellness industry and also a comedian. I love that. Thank you. Focusing on the divine feminine what's that all about? I think that there's a lot of jokes out there now just about like women and whether or not we can be funny or whatever and I think that a lot of women take this road that I'm just not going down. For me I'm going down like talking about the divine feminine and how to make it accessible in your life and see it in others and pump each other up and our partners ourselves it all starts with ourselves so. Yeah okay so starting with yourselves tell us about what the inner goddess means to yourselves and for people who don't even know what that means define it please. It has to do with energy I think and I'm half Chinese so we talk about Yin and Yang a lot the complementary forces some people talk about opposite forces but for me they're complementary and we've been just living in such a male driven world for so long really ignoring feminine things that female energy and they're very different energies but they're complementary you know and I think that's what it's it's rising now it's been a force that's been oppressed I think that when things are held back they come out roaring you know. Do you feel like it's repressed I mean you both feel I sense it's very liberating for you somehow you found your inner goddess and I don't know how and if you care to share but why is it so repressed with a lot of women we have different roles yeah we have many roles and I feel like I remember going through different phases like in my throughout the years you know wanting to be a mother wanting to be you know I wanted to accomplish all of these things in my life and so when you take on a certain role there's certain expected behaviors dress and you know so that's what it is it's these conditions that are put around our roles and during that time that you feel you didn't have you didn't really touch with your inner goddess at that time I think it came in and out I think I definitely came in and out being here in Hawaii we're so lucky because we are just saturated in beauty and I feel like I've always had a connection with the ocean so whenever I'm out near the ocean or in the ocean I just I feel the goddess energy more than ever you're both grew up here yeah I'm from LA originally but my mom was born third generation here right right but that that in touch with nature concept that mother earth concept for the inner goddess is really really important very important all of that energy and feeling the sun on your skin the ocean I mean it's just it's the divine feminine I googled I know it sounds kind of cheesy to google what inner goddess means actually you know what the first thing I saw was inner thigh but I'm going down with I'm gonna just throw out some stuff where tell me what you think about the the importance of that as as an inner goddess okay so the word flow obviously came up let's talk about that because I know you're a yogi and know if you are yeah okay so what is what is the significance of flowing for me connecting connecting to my inner goddess it is a flow it's a currency it's an energetic frequency and we have different tools I use I use yoga as one of my tools to connect the breath you can really you can really start to feel that flow when you when you quiet your mind and when you get into when you use your body in certain ways it does release energetic channels that help you to feel that that energy that source you know where that source that goddess is coming from it's coming from you it's coming from your alignment you know your willingness to to feel it for it so that's the key to come from yourself yes well a lot of times when it comes to sensuality a lot of us feel like we're getting it from outside source but how somebody tells you how you feel or how I feel about you because of how you you know it's just not from inside you right that's just the side effects of why are you laughing I don't know I'm just laughing because there's just something that's always like oozed off of me that I don't really see yeah like I was raised pretty nerdy you know my mom she was all into Star Trek and stuff like that so I was as a kid just like Star Wars and Star Trek and anything to do with nerdy space stuff and like this whole kind of everyone just kind of noticed that something came off of me which I really wasn't putting out there like I dress so I just can't I just don't fight it and I think a lot of women are there are some women who are like that there are some women you know who just need to get in touch with that but it does just kind of ooze off of us like women are just more sensual than men are but some people don't know how to find it or like it's been buried under layers of like you said motherhood shit burdens of responsibility for others lots of things that get in a way of us being in touch with who we are who we really want to be yeah I mean for me I just would want to talk about knowing yourselves and I think this for me is part of like being sexual being sensual there's like a difference you know what I mean how do you distinguish I mean I feel like both men and women are sexual I was talking about this with Kayah the other day that both men and women they're sexual beings right you know sometimes it's kind of like that more carnal aspects of things you know but sensuality is this kind of softness to it you know a kind of just a comhitherness that women have that men don't because they're so busy like so for me I would think like the first place I would get is I think every once in a while people have gotten bored of sex like women have gotten bored of sex every once in a while I'm not saying all the time right but so if women are bored of sex they need to start masturbating I mean we said no holds bar I mean this is the thing a lot of people and this is what the inner goddess is talking about right you've got to find something in yourself and that's maybe a literal way of searching for the question is how to connect and I was thinking one of them is to connect to their body and how do you connect with a body by knowing your body and knowing what feels good for you honestly how many girls out there know where the G-spot is you look like you really some people don't know their bodies right and how do you go and discover it in a way that you feel you own it yeah I mean who taught you how to masturbate right where did that come from is that the inner goddess I mean my did it started kind of young for me I mean I don't know I play the exploratory age I don't think I really like developed that muscle like I don't know what would I well I think for me when it really started because I was a serial monogamous for 11 years right when I was 18 when you had bored sex life I mean right no it was though to do it was like I was a serial monogamous so it's like five different guys about two years each just saying so then I went through like a big celibate period and that's when I really got to know I cuz I came out of like five different relationships and I was like who am I like what music do I like like I know they like me to dress like this but how do I like to dress like what's my right steve you know yeah so I think just kind of it's very rare that I've ever heard somebody else do that but you were somebody here was saying how some of the best things for me to just kind of like get back in touch with myself after I had just been like with a lot of guys so it's important to have time on your own to explore and to have that time to contemplate and reflect yeah I think I think that's what's in the air lately that's what's been in the air it's like most of our friends yeah they're all feeling that they just want to pull away just to create a little bit of space between their relationships their careers like whatever it is that's been absorbed they're absorbed all of their energy and once they they're realizing when they take time for themselves to just like check in like you know what do I what makes me feel sexy you know what do I want to you know just really yeah just clearing out everyone else's opinions that's on your existence you know pulling away just isolation and I think a lot of people just take it for granted that you you feed off other people's reactions or responses to you and that's how you feel like yourself it's not about how you feel exactly that awareness yeah that awareness is so key because you can get caught up in this world yeah and that's yeah I want to say another what I found was interesting in that stupid list was that to find your inner goddess is try not to multitask which is what I do all the time and why do they say that because this is there's a misconception that people think that an inner goddess is somebody who can accomplish and empower yourself that you can do anything but it's not it's not about being that superwoman it's not about that that meaning thing is so passe you know we're talking about ourselves inside as a person as a soul and and how you can just find simple pleasures in life right waking up and letting your goddess lead you instead of your you know all of these you know life coaches there's so many life coaches out there nowadays and you know one of the themes of these coaches is organization organize your life discipline yourself make that list these things do not work these are like the opposite of what we're talking about we're talking about waking up letting your goddess connecting making that your priority because when you make that living through that energy your priority then everything else just miracles happen you get to experience miracles every day in your life so if something comes to you that you don't really want to do do you feel your inner goddess telling you not to do that and you just go ahead with something else and trust it yeah like I don't know didn't you say you had an example of somebody ironing for her boyfriend and she just I mean this is like goddesses at any age you know so my mom's friend and her boyfriend had asked her to iron a shirt and so I didn't even know he asked her but we just found her like super angry and I was just like well have you ever just wanted to say no you can iron it yourself or no get one that's already ready to go or take your shit to the laundromat or whatever you know and she was like that's a thing we don't think about things or we think too much about things so we don't know what we really want hold that thought people because we're gonna take a quick quick break I want to come back and talk about why we should do the things we want to do and feel ourselves feel that inner thigh don't go away we're coming back to talk more hello I'm Dean Nelson host of planet of the courageous from a Tibetan point of view we chose to be on this planet because we enrolled in a sort of graduate school for courage just that we may have chosen this adventure is a leap of logic the question is how do we spend and make sense of this precious human life we are as a species extraordinarily successful dominating the planet and now with planetary size problems that are existence itself has created it takes 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burqa about these women in a very deprived as you know in Indian culture for the women to embrace what they want to do in life and it's really interesting because there's an older a widow who discovered her inner goddess but shamefully because the whole society shuns on a person in that age who God forbid she was a swimsuit or God forbid she actually has sexual desires it's just crazy and it brings you to think about how we as women have so much in there that just doesn't get discovered kind of sad so we're gonna embrace them gonna celebrate that so what do you think you both saw that film did you connect to any of the particular roles or why and the importance of that film what was her name which one that the older lady remember so she was she was on the she was on exactly she was the destiny of what would come of you by suppressing that goddess it she your goddess will never stop calling you and she was living proof of that you know so she snuck those she erotic fantasy novels right and she connected to it so easily and it was just it kind of took over her you know and we got to we got to see this auntie you know where the whole community called her auntie yeah you know she took on this role of mothering the community and yet she like snuck into the bathroom and oh yeah you know she got into the inner goddess you want to be happy for her right you're falling for her instantly looked what 10 years younger yeah yeah lubricated her since you had a glow she had a glow yeah yeah so that's important again you know we lose these things and you don't have to wait till you're a middle-aged widow to find your inner goddess I mean there are different phases for different things yeah it is the fountain of youth our inner goddess is our fountain of youth what about the younger girl the youngest girl in there she was the one in the burqa she was only a teenager right and she slipped out and she wanted to do things she respected her family's choices but she wanted to dance she wanted to dance I mean it she just wanted to dance and it's like when a woman connects to her inner goddess and does anything put on a bathing suit dance I mean it it just it's so much more than that and that's why people were freaking out and trying to make it like it was a bad thing yeah when she connected to that and dance yeah it was you know I remember going to a Tito Puente concert in Hong Kong years ago and my friend they're like let's all get up and dance and they said sure sure sure and then I got up and they chickened out so I was the only one standing up in the whole freaking concert hall but I was gonna sit down so I just started dancing and it was just it was so liberating just do what you want to do yeah yeah what are some ideas that you feel that people can learn from your experiences as goddesses hmm what are some important elements as a woman on my journey I felt whenever I didn't follow my my intuitions my you know if I never connected 100% to that flow yeah I did I started you know experiencing things that I didn't want to you know taking on jobs or taking extra work or becoming like that you know yes person you know when I didn't put myself first and make that a priority it's you know we're women we're caregivers we love to care for others but even if it takes ironing that stupid shit it really feels good but when does it you know when does it turn into you know something you're doing out of your heart to now someone expects you to do that you know it's such a fine line and we have to be brave enough and sensitive enough yeah sensitive enough to you know do it only if it's coming from your heart that day and it can change day-to-day but you know you know I'm trying to be on their side of the responsible mother who has obligations to her family and and obligations to whatever and how does that person do things for herself while she feels like she's obligated to do so much for so many people I think it's different for everybody like hey I was talking about yoga going to the ocean those are definitely things for me to like but I do like meditation and chanting everyone kind of has their thing that makes them feel like uplifted that makes them feel like they're beaming out of their heart zone that's the place where I think the end what we're talking about that feeling is that inner goddesses and not just ours but everyone's male female whatever so when you're in that place like in your beaming from that heart zone we just like food you should do those things because the longer you're in that place the more comfortable you are in that place and the more that you can go out when you're like in traffic or at work you can ask from that place yes and that's really what it's all about is activating your heart letting your heart be your emotional guiding system then like a logicking the f out you know just like a sharking out that's what we're that's what this world is nowadays it's like being a shark on this level on social media level it's like we are these dynamic beings and we exist on these different planes every day but it's so easy to let negative energy come in because there's so much our brains are wired to remember negativity stuff because since our first instinct is to survive we what creates that stress what creates that fear that negativity we're reminded of it to protect ourselves yeah the good stuff kind of doesn't get quite as lodged in there as the random bad stuff which is true horrible way to live remember the bad things yeah it's which is a horrible way so you might as well program yourself in the environment what makes you happy hmm and I think it's really important to once you do discover that inner goddess in yourself is that's really really going to take you through when you have challenging and depressing times yeah right do you have anything to say I mean that that's a big one right yeah I mean I would say how I used to suffer from anxiety you know and they got a point like my social life just created so much anxiety and I just unplugged from it all I just kind of quit that group of people and just kind of went inward and reassessed myself and now what I realized that anxiety is that kind of because you know we get excited in new situations it's hard to tell what's bad for you because your brain is you're just being pumped with so many different good-feeling chemicals like so when you meet sometimes let's say you meet somebody who's bad for you you know exactly okay you're like oh my god he's so hot but you know it's that because it kind of like you see things you're like oh or just creates this like stress like even if you're excited it kind of feels stressful you know when you meet somebody who's good for you it's excited and like even though you're in that excited state it kind of makes your heart beat which is confusing with anxiety your heart just like fluttering but it still feels good it still feels free it doesn't feel like you find good like good well I think that qualifying good is different for everybody but I want to feel that beaming for my heart chest I didn't let my heart zone you know like I just want to be able to be like we had sometimes you meet people and that's not how you feel but you still want to be confusing especially women who have transitional times like maybe they've been in a stale relationship for a long time and then they move over I mean I have a friend who in her transition her first partner was called the pilot later because it you know it lit up her dormant seriously that's awesome right now the phase that I'm in I I'm just extremely happy that I'm able to connect with that and have you always been a sexual person always so always my mother cannot keep clothes on me when I was maybe she was put me yeah anyway it's just me it's my connection to nature I know that's what it is because when I am when I feel salt and the sun on my skin is something happens to me you know I just I come alive like there's nothing that I'm missing that you know that is so beautiful because it's so pure what you're just saying right here you're talking about you are you know you are inspired and and look at my very pure natural organic thing I found my source I found where that is coming from and I know that I can go there every single time and and fill myself up with that and when I walk out I feel sensual I feel already I feel like I'm already there you know and I'm just so it's not what you're not how that I said something to you it's you embracing and that's that's where I feel like that's what everyone is looking for you know they're kind of looking for it in wrong places sometimes but it's different for everyone dancing could be music we just recommend people finding things that don't have to do with I mean if you have to pay for one thing things like a car should not be things like that new boyfriend right that bracelet you know that Louis Vuitton that that we encourage you to find it somewhere else be right shopping those things will come to you that that's the side effect of your connection you know when you find that pure connection that doesn't have anything to do with anyone else yeah that's what you're looking for that's the inner goddess in you that's what you're gonna that's what's gonna make you feel warm and rich and beautiful and you will exude that beauty you know that there's no cream there's no really I mean I know that's the fountain of you that will keep you looking beautiful to the end of time you have such a sexual relationship with yourself and with your partner I'm sorry you are you exude sexuality and that's a great gift so do you feel the need to nourish yourself in other ways too like do you still masturbate there I can I get masturbate I feel like anytime you have a chance to have an orgasm that's a good thing I think it's I think sensuality sexuality is a sign of alignment when you are in alignment with the whole of who you are when you're walking the walk and living your dream life just the way you envisioned it you know like really like believing in your inner goddess believing that you can trust yeah you know when you say notice someone trust that that came from my heart I didn't mean it to hurt you you know that way you can there's nothing holding you back or or would it say dimming dimming watering down your goddessness you know whenever we whenever we choose thoughts yeah that dilute our inner goddess yeah yeah you're you're moving yeah okay so don't dilute your inner what are some words that we want to take away today we only have less than a minute left just shoot them these I think that that one that we saw before about like you're going to be your longest commitment so make yourself a priority yeah you have to take care of yourself before you start taking care of everyone and as caregivers yeah yes hard to remember but I can't do it in the other way well you know again these key words self it goes back to self it goes back to flow goes back to purity it goes back to just our just find that inner goddess yourselves my god what else do you need blood okay thank you so much