 Hey everyone, how's everyone doing? Hope everyone's okay. Just out here at the beach. Enjoy the view. In this video I want to talk about how the narcissist isn't interested in you as a person. Now they might fool you into thinking that they are, especially when you first meet them. They act like everything about you is amazing. Like from the way you walk to the way you talk. Every little thing you do. The way you look. The things that you like or are interested in. It's like you can't do anything wrong. But when you think about it, it's all just really superficial. They never took the time to ask questions. They never took the time to really get to know you. They never really wanted to learn anything about you. Other than things that were offensive. Things that made them look or feel good. But other than that, they didn't really care. They weren't really interested. You see what a narcissist gets with you. It's not about giving anything to you. It's not about taking an interest in you as a person. It's all about what you can do for them. How you can make them feel. They specifically target people who are physically attractive, successful, wealthy, powerful, people who stand out. People who are going to give them narcissistic supply by proxy. People who are going to make them look good. Many of you who have narcissistic parents. You all know it's the same thing. It's all about the child's achievements. It's all about the child's looking good. Everyone wants to see being what everyone wishes they could be. But they never really take an interest in that child emotionally. They don't really care about you as a person. They don't take the time to get to know how you feel. Because they really don't care. It doesn't mean anything to them. All they care about is their own feelings. And when they targeted you, it's because they wanted to feel good. They wanted to feel better about themselves. And they were hoping that you could give that to them. Whether it was through your physical appearance, your success, your wealth, whatever it was. They were hoping that those qualities would rub off on them. But they were never interested in you as a person. Never expect a narcissist to value you for who you are. For the person that you are on the inside. All they really care about are superficial things. You being successful at something, making them look good, being too successful. You don't want to look too good. Because then they'll hate you for that too. They'll feel like you're outshining them. So yeah, they want you to be something just not something greater than them. You may feel like they're not interested in me as a person. Why did they want to be with me? Why did they spend so much time around me? That's just that, you know, did they ever really sit down and spend time with you? Can you remember a time where you just sat down together? What you talked about was you listen to you or ask you questions about yourself. Can you remember a time where they did that? Did you find that about yourself? Can I jack the conversation and turn it into something about themselves? All a narcissist really cares about is it's all about how a situation can benefit them. It's all about their feelings. And even when it seems like they care about you, it's only because the situation benefits them in some way. Otherwise they wouldn't care. Anyway, that's all I wanted to say about that. Quite a heavy topic, you know. As I said, I'm just out here at a beach, feeling the cold breeze pushing the waves crash against the cliffs. Anyway, the narcissist may never have been interested in you, but you've got to take an interest in yourself. I don't let them stop you from doing that. Remember all the things that you were passionate about. Remember the things that you like, that you were interested in. And start doing those things again. The narcissist may never have been really interested in you as a person, but that doesn't mean that you are not interested. Someone out there will look past just your qualities and abilities, and they will see the real person inside you where you really are. And they will value that about you. And they'll want to know more. When you're really interested in someone, God, you just want to sit down with them. You just want to listen to them talk forever. You just can't get enough of them. You just have this curiosity about them. You want to ask them questions. You want to know what they've been doing. You want to know just everything. You don't get that with a narcissist. And that's why you never really establish any real connection with them. It's all just superficial. Interest in yourself again. Start doing the hobbies and interests that you like again. You've just got to take the focus off the narcissist and put it back on yourself. Like they're always focused on themselves all the time. They're always focused on their feelings. So why can't you focus on yourself? That's just how you're going to see it. It doesn't mean that you can't take other people's needs into consideration. It doesn't mean that you can't care about anyone else. It just means that there needs to be a balance instead of your entire life revolving around someone else. Take some time just to think about yourself once, what you want. I hope that helped. I've got two premieres later today. So I hope you can join me there. Talk to you later.