 They automatically don't trust me from the jump. I've never given you a reason as of yet to not trust me, but because of your lack of trust because of whatever you've been through, maybe because I look like something you've been with before, maybe because I smell like something you've been with before, I automatically have to dig myself out of a hole that I didn't put myself in to begin with. And now I have to put myself on guard because I don't know how you're going to act because you don't trust me. I have to worry about you acting out of your distrust. In an alternative universe, what kind of woman would you be? In an alternative universe, no countries, no cultures, just what I would want to be as a woman in an alternative universe. I'd want to be nice, I'd want people to admire me from up close and from afar. I want to be admired for my graciousness and to smell like roses, stuff like that. I don't know clearly what it's like to be a woman, but that's just what I would be. What changes are black men looking for and black women? So I don't like to talk in absolutes, so I can't speak for every individual black man, but I think that there's a lot, probably almost, borderline of majority that would like to see black women be more approachable. I hate to sound stereotypical, but angry, and to be more appreciative of a black man and understanding that. I'm not taking away from a black woman's struggle because they go through a lot, but also taking into consideration the struggles of a black man, not trying to compare struggles like, I'm a black woman, so my struggle is worse than yours. Not that type of approach, but both just understanding they have different struggles, but I guess equal struggles to a degree. I think those are two major ones. I would say those two definitely, but I'm sure there's more. It's just up the top of my head. I feel like I should be diving deeper. Why won't you allow a woman to help you build or grow? Why would I not allow her to help me build a girl? I don't know if I would not allow her to, but grow and build in different ways. I would expect for myself before I get involved with any woman to already be at a certain level. That's just a personal thing that I feel like as a man, I need to be at a certain level before I engage with a woman. I feel like if I'm personally, for my personal goals and my personal stuff, if I'm not at the level that I'm happy with, that I don't need to be involved with a woman. I'm already be where I want to be at first. As far as building and growing, I believe that women are very important. I believe women have a very important role in men's life. I don't necessarily think it's to construct a man, even though some can, but I think that a woman's role for somebody like me would be more so helping on the building end like you described. But I have to provide her something to help me build with. If I don't have that already in place, she can't help me build. I have to give her something to help me build with. I can't just be like, let's build and then don't provide anything to build with. Okay. Okay, I want to ask this one. Do men all know what you need in a woman past the physical? Do men, does every man know what they need in a woman past the physical? I think that depends on the man that you ask. If I, saying past the physical, that question is interesting because saying past the physical, that's part of what us men look at for a woman. Every time that, like I got sisters, and every time that my sisters ask each other when they meet a new dude, they ask each other questions about the dude, and I never hear them, almost every time, and it could be different for different women, but almost every time one of the questions that comes up is, what does he do? That's a standard question. How much money does he make? Oh, he got money, that type of thing, right? When I'm with my guys, any time that I have talked about a new girl that I've been dealing with or that I'm thinking about being with, and I bring, I talk them up, nobody asks what does she do. Let me see a picture, let me see what she looked like. So I can't just negate the fact that the physical is a lot, the physical is a lot. So saying when you dig in deeper past the physical, then you have to get into the guys that are maybe more seasoned, that are thinking along the lines of a wife and what they want from a woman. They just want a one night stand, they're not thinking past the physical. I wouldn't, I didn't, but I think more seasoned men that are looking like for a wife, I think they have ideas in their heads such as somebody who can help them raise a family, like her looks don't raise your family, her character does. For me personally, like how she interacts with other people matters to me, how she interacts with other people, nobody, I mean, men like myself don't like to be with somebody that again, like it's not admired, not just for how they look, but like a stand up woman, like she's legit, like in how she carries herself, you know, where you can go out with her and you can bring her to any setting and you don't have to worry about being embarrassed because ultimately she's a representation of you and I think that that stuff matters. So I would say things along those lines and just somebody who when you give them something to build with, they know what to do with it. So I would say that. Is chemistry or compatibility more important? I would say chemistry. The reason why I say chemistry because chemistry and I've seen something on this like chemistry is more about suitable compatibility is something totally different. Like what do you mean? Well, compatibility is like two people can I saw this example before it's so great. Two people can be compatible in like two people can come from the same struggle. So because they understand each other's struggle, they're compatible. I went through this man. She went through this too. You understand me. You get me. But what happens when one of those people elevate when they get over that struggle? What happens to that compatibility? If that person is not grown with you, you're no longer compatible. Chemistry is more about who's suitable for you like you may not you may not have the same struggle, but you know what your goal is and what you need. You know what your end game is and how does that person contribute to your end game? Chemistry has a lot to do with that. That's just my personal view. So I definitely say that that chemistry is more important than compatibility. Okay. Define love. God. Define love in relationships. Define love in relationships. Love in relationships. A feeling. That's it. You can't collaborate on it. Like how does somebody show love or demonstrate love? Just tell me what you feel about love. I feel like love is important in relationships, but I don't feel like it's a defining factor. I feel like we talk about divorces and things like that. You ask some of these married couples in court. You can pull up videos, all these judge duties and stuff. I know she don't do divorce courts, but I mean these divorce court shows that come on TV and the judge just asks these men and women, they're getting divorced. Why you want to get a divorce and he says why and she says why and then she goes, do you love them? Yeah. That's a girl. Do you love? That's the guy. Do you love her? Yeah. But they still want a divorce. So love to me is, that's what it is, it's an emotion. It's a feeling, but it's not an end up beyond in relationships. And I think there are other factors that you have to consider alongside with love, but I feel like you can grow to love anybody if you spend enough time with them. I think COVID-19 is an example of that. People got married to people that they probably never thought they would get married to, but they spent enough time with them in the house. Spent enough time with them Netflixing and chilling. So then what is or what are the pieces of blue that keep relationships together? Love isn't it? Well, there's different factors. I would say finances is one, strong communication, trust. I will put these above love because if you look at the top three reasons why people get divorced, you'll see finances up there, you'll see infidelity up there. But if you ask somebody again why they cheated, I love that person, but they acted in a moment of lust or acted in a moment of weakness. And now if that person that they're married to decides to take them back, the trust is broken, how are you ever going to fix it? It's hard to erase something out of your mind once it happens. And so that's why I think things like trust because like prime example, trust, right? Let's zoom in on trust for a minute. Trust. I'm sure there are guys that have done this too. So I'm not just pointing a finger, but since we're on the topic of, since I'm a guy, I have to talk about my dealings with ladies. There have been ladies that I have been with who through their past traumas and past experiences where they automatically don't trust me from the jump. I've never given you a reason as of yet to not trust me, but because of your lack of trust because of whatever you've been through, maybe because I look like something you've been with before, maybe because I smell like something you've been with before. I automatically have to dig myself out of a hole that I didn't put myself in to begin with. And now I have to put myself on guard because I don't know how you're going to act because you don't trust me. I have to worry about you acting out of your distrust. And so now to protect myself from you acting out of your distrust. How can I, I can't be comfortable around you because I don't know what to expect. I can know what I hope, but I don't know what you're going to do and I got to protect myself. That's the reason why I would say something like trust is, is big and in communication. We talk about communication, people, we talk about communication like it's one entire bubble. Like there's different forms of communication, 70% of communication is visual. I think the other 25% or something like that is what you say and then how you say it, your tone. Those are the three main types of communication. I think that when you're, a lot of times when you talk to your girl and you see her mood, you see her mood and you see how she's acting and you're like, what's wrong? She says, I'm fine. You know, she ain't fine, but you got to be able to pick up on that because you could just take it for what it is. Another thing like guys, a lot of times if my girl asks me how am I doing, I say I'm fine. 99% of the time I'm fine, there's no hidden message behind it. I usually just say straight forward what I mean. And I think communication is important because men and women communicate differently. And a woman can't expect a man to communicate the same way as her vice versa, a man can't expect a woman to communicate the same way as him. We communicate differently. And so communication, trust, I think what I said, finances, come on, man. Come on, man. Like I was talking to, I want to say who I was talking to about this, but somebody, very close to me, we were talking about finances and it was a woman and I was like, you know, I was telling her why before I get involved with a woman or got involved with a woman that I had to make sure my finances were like, oh, great was good because I know that divorce is that's one of the top three reasons. And she was telling me like, she was like, yeah, you're right, you know, finances are important. You know, the guy and the girl got to have this stuff together. And I was like, hold up. I was like, yeah, you're right, but I feel like the guy got to have this stuff more together than the girl and they have nothing to do with I'm not being sexist about I'm just saying what it is based on facts. So we break this thing down, like you go on the hard times, okay, like this is the example me and her were talking about. Okay, let's say he goes broke and he got to ask you for $50. You give it to him. You don't give him to him. If you got it, don't got it. Cool. You give him $50. He's still broke. He asked you, y'all married now, ask you for another $50. Maybe you don't got it this time. Now y'all both frustrated. And the girl was telling me, yeah, you know, finance is important because as a woman, if you don't make enough money, you know, he's going to leave you. And I was like, conceptually, I get what she's saying, but the reason why it doesn't make sense is because over between 70% and 80% percent of divorces are initiated by the woman. So divorces aren't really happening because the woman is broke. It's happening because the man is broke. Or because the man, it's always, the financial burden is more heavily put on the man than the woman. And unfortunately, I think that is something that, maybe not unfortunately, just depending how you're brought up, but that is something that we overlook is that we get so caught up in relationships or young ladies get caught up in relationships. And they look at a guy's potential instead of what he actually is. I'm not saying there's nothing wrong with looking at the potential, but you got to understand when you make them vows for better or for worse, if he never get better, what if it gets worse? Are you going to be able to deal with that frustration? Are you going to stick around till he gets his money right? And I think that a lot of women have good hearts. They want to stick around. They're not evil villains. They want to stick around. But how long are you going to be with somebody and every time you go to the toy store with your child, they can't ever get anything out of the toy store? You can't ever just splurge a little bit. Like it's always a struggle. Every time you're going to get frustrated and it may not be today, might not be tomorrow, but eventually you're going to have enough. And I think we see that example happen a lot of times too.