 I'm an everyday woman, woman, woman In every way, yeah, yeah I'm living my life, life Living day by day Welcome to Every Way Woman. There are some major changes happening in the talk show world. I'm looking for Mr. Right. I'm looking for love too. What does it mean to be Ms. Wrong? Well, first I want to know what is considered Mr. Right. You know, because I think I'm perfectly fine. I mean, I'm not saying, I'm not saying like, like anybody that knows me, I'm not, you know, like, you know, like, that I think perfect. You know what I mean? But I think I got everything going on for myself, you know? Like, you know, so what, I mean, what is considered Ms. Wrong? Well, I think if I had to get, as a person, a woman carries a lot of baggage, a lot of her last relationship brings it to the new relationship and then expect the man to be right. That's how I would define Ms. Wrong. And also, a lot of women have these, like, big long checklists of what they expect out of their men, you know? He's got to be six foot two and all this stuff. But they're not bringing anything to the table. Well, it's the need of you to be six feet two. That's all right with that. That's all right. What do they need the man of their life? And he's five-seven. Do they say, oh, I'm sorry. You don't make my list so I know. No, but I think it's all about having yourself together before you're going to attract the person that has all these qualities that you want as well. I know. My girl Lauren Hill said it. How are you going to win when you ain't right with it? You know? You should know where to stop, Lauren. But she's right. I mean, if the core is not right and it's not together, then you won't be fit for anything. You know, two wrongs don't make a right. Okay, but I blame myself for a lot of the failures in my past relationships and I can't really get over that. And so I feel like I'm still Ms. Wrong and I don't know how to become Ms. Right to get Mr. Right. Ms. Don't apologize. Women, we love fast and we love hard. And so I don't want you to apologize for that. You manage it, but don't apologize for that. I think for me personally, it's the wrong timing. Like for me, especially everything that happened recently, it's like totally the wrong timing. So I want to give myself some more time before I try to look. What happened? My boyfriend passed away six months ago, so you can't just go into another. To me, he was Mr. Right. So how do you look for another Mr. Right? You know, you take that time to get yourself right. And that's what I'm doing right now. Well, I'll say for myself, when I was dating, I brought a lot of baggage and I know I was Ms. Wrong. And I was okay with that. I was doing something that was not right. One had a lot of expectations. And then I wanted my mate to meet that and he couldn't because I didn't understand. I didn't really know what I wanted. And I think that speaks to you, Jeblyn, because I feel like you're looking at these past relationships and you're trying to figure that out. But I think at this point, it's not even about the relationships. Are you good with yourself? Are you subtle? Don't look at the relationship to fix you or give you something that's missing from you. Can we just be real though? I mean, seriously. We think our husband's supposed to come on this white horse and galley up in our life. And really, my mama told me that the man might have one eyeball or wear glasses. Or he might be five-five. But as long as he treats you good, you should be comfortable with that. No, I don't agree with that. I'm not going to be attracted to a man who has one eyeball. So your husband got glasses? Yes, he does. One eyeball. And I think as a woman, I don't have to settle. I don't have to settle. I have a friend. He has one eyeball and he's six-one. And he got into an injury just because he got a patch in his eye. Don't make him no less attractive. It's not about the patch in his eye. It's about not settling. And I think in this quest for love, sometimes then I settle because I'm in such a hurry to find that. Or compromise or sacrifice. Because I'm like, oh well, I don't have to worry about that. I shouldn't care about his one eyeball. So that's been enough for me. So you're still stuck on the one eyeball. I said he has a patch now. But I'm just saying, sometimes that priority of looks is put up so high up there. And all the other stuff of how he treats you, what you make you feel, is nowhere on the list. But what I'm saying is as women, let's not stay there. Don't tell women that if you desire handsome man, as long as he treats you right, he doesn't have to be handsome. I'm not selling that to my daughters. I'm telling him he can be fine and treat you right. You get what you want. But not everybody's going to look like a more chesnore or a Ryan Gosling. Not Amber, not me. Anybody come through the door like that. He's not going to be with me. He can help. He looks like Ryan Gosling. He sure can. Oh, come on. We'll be right back with more Every Way Woman. With us, we'll be right back. Are you an Every Way Woman? Leah Roman. Leah, today we're going to talk about the one part of our body that we never speak about as relates to health. Our face. Give us some tips about just having a healthy skin regimen. That's what it is. You have to have a healthy skin regimen with cleansing, exfoliating, and moisturizer. That is very important to get the skin. You want to cleanse, remove excess dirt and oils, and also exfoliate to get rid of those cells. Your dead skin cells. Turn over and get healthy glowing skin and moisturizing because that plumps the skin, believe it or not. After I cleanse, exfoliate, and moisturize, let's say I want to have a makeup quickie. Make it a little nice for my man. What are some quick tips of doing a makeup quickie? So, Holly, you're beautiful as it is. But we're going to kick it out of a notch. What we're going to do is start with a highlighter. I call it a makeup quickie because sometimes women don't want to have the eyelashes and the blush and all of that. They just want to have something that makes them look nice, sexy, youthful, and fresh. Glowy is the secret. So, that's what you want to get a highlighter, a cream highlighter. That's the best to do. You don't want to get powder because it could get too cakey and it could also accentuate fine lines. So, you have to be careful with that. So, in having a makeup quickie, would it be safe to say that less is more? Absolutely. You don't want to do too much. As you can see there, she's already glowing here. And her skin is so beautiful. Just from that. Right there. And also, what you'd want to do is do blush and a cream blush. Once again, cream is key. Try to stay away from powders. What's the difference between cream and powder? You just look fresh. You look more fresh and then as we age, our skin lacks moisture and the powder kind of just sits on there and kind of makes you look a little bit washed out. I need that. As a mature woman, I need that. I need that powder. Absolutely, because you see how that it melts into the skin and it just has her sheen right here. It definitely has a different look than powder. Absolutely. There you are. And then, another thing, you don't want to go too dark with the lip. As we age as well, the lips get thinner. If you use dark lipstick, it's going to actually make your lips look smaller. I'm a mature woman. As I'm aging, my lips are getting thinner, so sometimes I may pencil in my lips. Should I be doing that? Because I know they're thinning, but I want to give them that full look. You can pencil them in, but you have to make sure that you blend. And blending is a secret to everything. But in this case, what we're going to do, we're not penciling it in because we want more of this natural look to her. And the secret is that gloss makes your lips appear fuller. And I'll show you, I'll get a clear gloss after I do this here. And I will show you what I mean by that. Okay. So we have cream eyes, we have cream rouge, and then we have a nice gloss. Right. And you want to get the gloss. And you can just go right about here in the middle here. And then on the top. And you're going to be using that instantly without lip injections, without anything. Holly, how does your quickie feel? Wonderful. Yes. And you see that radiant. And that was very quick. For more tips from Leah, please go onto our website at www.everywaywoman.com. Leah, thank you. Stay beautiful. Welcome back so many of us working folks are running around and we don't take the time to prepare our lunch. Chef Shelley is here to convince us that we can eat healthy even if we're busy. Chef you know what I'm out there all the time and I plan all my other things I plan my bags and all that all the work that I have to do but then it gets the lunchtime I'm like I don't have anything to eat and so you know there's fast food right there and I know Anna over here yeah totally fast food you know I do radio I'm a makeup artist you know I do this talk show I am always on the go so I definitely I'm happier here show us something because it's hard to cook absolutely but you know what there's always ways to eat healthy quickly so what we're gonna do today is something really simple it's a sandwich okay okay but it's a wrap so we're gonna wrap it it's a wrap sandwich so what we're doing is a tomato corn and sun-dried tomato with some sun-dried tomatoes and turkey wrap very simple all right so I'm gonna have Sunita help me here all right grab this wrap here and we have some ranch dressing and we're gonna just spread that on over here I like my real dressing what bread is that though it's just a regular flat it's called flat-out bread it's called you can use tandoor you can use what else can I add oh we have some cheese we have some better cheese oh I love me some feta it's very good very very good so now turkey turkey well this is lighter okay okay so what do I do do I put it all over you know what we're gonna do is we're gonna spread it all out okay I know because you know when you have that bite and it has nothing okay so okay one more okay what else what else you got for us okay so we have so pretty well we have romaine lettuce I like romaine lettuce a little crunchier it doesn't you don't need lettuce like cabbage you can this is the thing let me give you a secret on romaine lettuce romaine lettuce when you put it in a sandwich and you put it to go and you put it in like a ziplock bag it doesn't actually work as fast oh okay that's how we're dealing with romaine let's put some of this romaine in here all right okay just put it right there in the middle and then I'm gonna have Anna help me you know you can put as much as you like so the reason why I like these is because they have a little tart tank oh I love it okay we're gonna use some fresh veggies here which usually people don't put corn in their sandwiches but we're gonna do that today cuz I'm gonna wrap it up it's not gonna fall out that's something you can have a year round because you know usually I think of corn it's a summer vegetable but I can always find it a little bit pricier but how much do you put it you're just not gonna use as much as you're a tomato person lots of tomatoes if you're a corn person lots of corn I like what do you like can you use canned corn you can I like fresh corn it keeps the nutritional value a little bit better than can I prefer all fresh vegetables after that would be frozen okay can you use frozen for this you can but you would have to thought out and so now we're just gonna wrap this little puppy together can we wrap sure just in half or just wrap wrap wrap wrap wrap wrap you know you can do it like that well you can do it like that okay and then what you do is you just take up you can get some saran wrap or a wax paper wrap it real tight it's a little messy like what can you do well when you haven't wrapped in your wax paper and you just hold it like you do any sandwich it would be crazy all right well it's all for you I you can take that up haha thank you so much I won't have more for you are you and everyone well the saying goes the way to a man's heart is through his stomach so does that mean ladies looking for a man need to learn to cook cuz Felicia I know you don't cook the last time I cooked it was actually macaroni don't laugh yet the smoke detector went off I was like what did you make I just grabbed the you can't cook macaroni is that a real meal okay so but I love to cook Jessica and you cook for your man yes I do is that the way to a man's heart every guy likes to eat every girl likes to eat but when I actually do cook because I'm in between being a vegan I'm I got sick being a vegan but I'm sick of being fat so I don't know what's going on I'm in between but I stuff turf oaky down his neck and have to hear him complain about oh babe I don't want to eat like a rabbit so when I do cook for him I cook my slap it to your mac and cheese so I think that he loved me only because of my mac and cheese the way to a man's heart is through his stomach do you agree with that I do agree so then Felicia do you feel like you ain't gonna handle me because you know how to cook because you were saying to me before this that you would rather just give your man fast food then cook for him do you think that that's working for you it's nice like he's working I'm working I'm gonna get off work hey babe I'm gonna pick up some whatever I think there's something to be said about having that role of not just bringing home McDonald's and bringing home a warm meal for your man but I think it goes vice versa because of all yes we are in 2013 last time I checked we are not in 1952 exactly so you take care of each other I think that it's really important about sharing responsibilities why does the woman need to be in the kitchen slaving away while he's over there playing the extra love but make sure that it's either it's through his stomach or through other ways and thank you we'll be right back with every woman stay with us for tomorrow's stars are you in every one woman is proud to put our spotlight on up-and-coming comedian took we love welcome thank you thank you so much for being here so what makes you an every-way woman I'm an every-day one because I'm fearless I've learned in life that no I really just a gateway to yes so it's like you can't you know doesn't mean never and just not now it means not now it means but if you keep going then that no will some way and somehow turn into a yes you I mean you can't you can't fail if you don't you know if you try you must be a fearless woman I'm very fearless let's see what you have okay like some traditions just need to die like whoever said catching a bouquet of wedding mean you next to get married that's a lie like I've caught 13 bouquets you see this nothing I feel like it's weird though because I feel like weddings they give you a false sense of romance so especially for women so you have to be careful what type of man you take to a wedding with you I'm not gonna lie I slipped up I took a dude just because he was fine but he was like a sandwich specialist from Quiznos but don't trip because he had a side hustle because you know women we love those hustlers he saw t-shirts out of his homeboy trunk because his car was like in transition or something like that that's what he said but anyways like I said at weddings you have to be careful because you will get caught up in the hype like you have the flower girl throwing the flowers down you have the ring bear presenting the ring do you have all the bridesmaids and they look good because they have on the same color no matter how big they are and then all the groomsmen they look good because they have on suits like let me tell you something about a suit like a suit on a man is an instant upgrade like it'll take you from coach to first class immediately yes it will so I'm at the wedding with this dude he has a suit on so I automatically forget his flaws and then now they're exchanging vows and the bride is saying oh baby I prayed for you and God sent me my king and the groom is saying well baby when I met you I was a boy and because of you I'm a man like I'm getting so caught up in the hype that I'm looking at this fool thinking about having his babies like I got so caught up that I start selling t-shirts with him at the reception it's like oh okay one for 15 okay okay okay two for 20 two for 20 um I start introducing him as my fiancee it's like Auntie Lara I want you to meet my fiancee Jay oh no no I don't know his last name just the letter Jay not ja y or ja e ladies those are the type of men that will mess our lives up like their names are one letter it'll be like J or O or Q darn where it is um anything as a reason try to holler at us um I recently had hip surgery and because of it I had to walk on a cane but it's weird because I feel like my cane gave courage to do so would never have a chance with me um I'm at the club with my homegirls and the guy at the door he has a cane too so he automatically throws his cane in the air like I'm supposed to throw my cane in the air like we match we automatically go together um I feel like the presence of the cane made me look worse often what I really was I was at physical therapy and a guy in a wheelchair gave me a note and it said would you like to join me for dinner blink once for yes blink twice for no it's like sir I am not at your level of disability right now oh he don't understand me so I blinked once y'all who gonna turn down the free meal he sent the car to come pick me up one of those handicap access vans like ladies you have not lived unless you had a ride on one of those lifts those took me to more in steakhouse um I feel like your age determine what mechanism you use to try to holler at a girl I kind of consider your player card so if you're your 20s your player card is all about your looks how good you look so you can take your shirt off and be like look at them ads baby go on and touch them and you good like you can get the number probably and your 40s is about how much money you make so it's like if you give a girl $100 oh go get your hair and nails done then you might get some play you might get some action but when you're older it's all about your health so it's like if you're running like a 5k for Bank of America then you're good y'all when I was on the cane this 76 year old man tried to holler at me and when I told him I wasn't interested he hit me with his player card well um you know I do cardio three times a week like to reassure me that if I gave him that he wasn't gonna die on me not interested in trying to mess with somebody that looked like my grandpa but if he had a suit on might have gave him some play thank you guys I'm so queeta love we give love here on every way woman thank you so much for watching remember to ask yourself are you an every way woman are you in every way woman every way woman gives back to the community go to everywaywoman.com to find out how you can match our donations of undergarments for needy kids thanks for getting to know every way woman this has been an every way woman production I'm an everyday woman woman woman in every way yeah I'm living my life living day by day living day by day living day by day