 Let me see gentlemen coming on here just to Do a quick little video and not a Q&A Just getting a video up So I don't have to record it then try to upload it but I don't have long because Tating and I Sitting in the car waiting on my wife. She's in the store right now. So y'all make sure my internet working Don't know if my internet gonna connect securely, but we'll see because we out here and sometimes the Service is not the best But want to pop in because it's been some people who've been talking about here lately Passport bros and that's the thing with our society is We have a little we have a segment of society and that's why I say you got to always look around you got to do your own math like and You got a look and see so I have a friend that I played college ball with and he has a white wife and He met her after having a child with a black woman and then having another Black girlfriend But the young late the black lady didn't want them and kind of gave him a run around and then he met a young White lady at work and they started talking and she came into his job. They started talking and he He's from the island. So he didn't want to necessarily date outside of his race So he just kind of ran from it for a while But she stayed consistent and stayed there and she grew up around black people And because her dad was a coach and so always around black athletes So she more so relate to black people than white people and they hit it off and they got together And it was like a happenstance thing for them And then I got a homeboy I grew up with who he was raised in the white neighborhood His family his mom was the educator dad educator and he has a white wife and it's because of Black girls will kind of see him as as lame or say oh you talk white and so when I look at the And I know another black guy that I met not too long ago He's half white and he has a white wife, but his mom is white And so I say this to say We have these things that we make a trend because social media and one of the things that we fail to realize is that with social media And just like with anything what social media does is it makes one thing seem like it's the norm But when you really if you go down the line and it may be different from each person But when I go down the line the two guys I was talking to today That's in my circle. Both of them have black wives. My barber has a black wife My daddy got a black wife My best friend from kindergarten who was at the game tonight in my suite. He got a black wife so I know three black men that has a wife of another race and but yet We will say oh Black men and gave up on black women and But when you go down the line You got to look at every person you know not just on social media not just what you're seeing And now we're seeing a lot of interracial couples on social media and we're seeing a Lot, you know just being publicized and now it's on commercials and stuff too because it's a lot of Biracial couples with a black woman and a white man That's going viral from reels. And so now they're going viral on reels and tiktoks so now commercials are put in interracial couples because of that and But when you think about it is and then we have this this group of men that we saying is you know the norm and It's this black man who He despises himself. There's a black man the type of black man who despises his race He's insecure about his race. He's self-hating. And so he goes outside of his race and That man also is a minority. That's not the the norm and But you just got to go down the list and see now one of the things that's very common in Amongst black men is colorism and you'll see and so that makes some Women say the black man has given up on the black woman because colorism is a very real thing and We all know why when we look at it. We all know hey Black people and it's not just colorism amongst men we saw the study of Colorism with the kids who was looking at the baby dolls and they say which one is the good doll They chose the white doll which one is the bad doll they chose the black doll And so the media has in America has made black people hate our skin color for Centuries and so we see that and I remember talking to you hear all the rappers talk about a red bone a red girl and then That's self-hate that self-hate and Then you see and I remember a homeboy who I have who he's still single to this day in his mid 30s But I remember talking to him is like well man, what kind of woman you looking for? He like man, she got to be red But his mama is my color. He is my color. His siblings is my color But he's like she got to be red She got a hair long hair You know straight hair and it really comes from the the programming and it comes from self-hate and I remember family members would even say hey Get a Hispanic woman So you can have pretty kids With good hair and all of that stem from self-hate and this what we have to realize and we got to address and This one thing that men have to understand especially black men one thing black men got to understand is when you get out here You have to understand that as a black man You got to understand that there is nothing wrong with a black woman And as a black man, you got to look at black women And you got to look at the struggle of black women You got to look at what black women have been through you got to look at black women being put on the bottom the lowest wrong and You got to realize that black women have had to carry the country in America black women had to carry the country because the black women had to put up with the pain and the trauma and The anger of their black man But then they also had to feed and take care of Be the nanny be the housemaid for the white families so The black woman is in the white home in the foundations of America taking care of a white woman's kids and The kids falling in love with her they love her But then they talk to the spies her skin color and then she come home And she got to deal with her man who may be cheating Starting other families around the community who may be doing all of this and then that black woman Being human or start to take that out on her kids or take that out in another way And now we see this this mom hurt So it's so much Generational mom pain. I cannot tell you how many black women That I have talked to Who don't get along with their mama it's so many black women who Feel like they mama hate them. They mama jealous of them. They mama talk down to them They mama combative with them they mama against them and You have to think about that pain and then this narrative of the black woman is loud and she this and she that it's like When men are real men honest and the black men are really honest the black woman is the most loving the most trusting the most trustworthy Woman on the place on the face of the planet like the black woman is the most loyal woman on the face of the planet because When you look at what black women put up with from they man It's hard to find another race of woman who putting up with from putting up with that from they man Especially under the circumstances like you will see Asian women get the The foot of that man on their neck, but the man got money they got Family they got unity. They got money the kids in private school You'll see that in the Hispanic community too, but Because they may be disadvantage in a lot of neighborhoods the woman got the state out but with a lot of black women a lot of black women put up with no good black men who really can't even bring much to the table and So when we really honest about that, but here's the thing There's always this little segment this little remnant of men who they'll take and they'll say a You know black women if like women that and they'll get a voice and I'ma tell you We start to believe this and so so many women said oh So many women said yeah, we giving up on black men because black men has given up on us and that's not true black men ain't giving up on black women a lot of black men and gave up on themselves and In in turn don't know how to love a woman because they don't know how to love themselves and The thing about it is the media will exacerbate this narrative because you will see these black men who are self-hating and Who despise black women because of the one woman that cheated on them or that hurt them? These men will then start making noise start barking and they start speaking to this remnant of men who are but hurt So now you got this group of men who but hurt and They become the loudest online and that's how negativity works in the world in the space y'all got to forgive I'm out in public. So I got to keep my head on the swivel watching my surrounding I can't get caught up in the video. So I'm talking at the same time, but looking around So this ain't nothing but Lord speaking through me because I can't even really focus on what I'm doing and Listen to me now So now this noise start to be made and if you'll notice like okay The bless tribe the bless tribe got thousands of members in it probably close to 3,000 members in the bless tribe But in the comments of the video that I did should black women give up on black men It the bless tribe know where to be found in there and all the the detractors the people that's Going off going off. They in the comments and they against the video the way the algorithm work is the algorithm taking put alone comment that has words of Disagreement it bumps it up to the top Because it say a this gonna be this creating a dialogue it'll bump up certain comments to the top and Those comments to get a hundred likes But then the comments in support of the video it could be fifty or a hundred of them It'll hide those I'll see them, but it'll hide them and they'll get zero likes And so what the algorithm do is it promote negativity? That's how when you see somebody doing something whoever disagree with the post they comment at the top So our world loves Negativity our world loves drama and the reason being is because most people are not happy on their job Most people are not happy in their life Most people are not happy in their relationship. So when you go online, you don't want cohesion and unity You want chaos and drama because it's entertaining That's why reality TV is a thing because of all of the drama and people want to see that drama because their life May be unfulfilled But when you tap into a fulfilled life What you're gonna find when you get to that space to where you've chosen joy you've chosen happiness You really don't even watch reality TV no more. You'll stop watching reality TV You'll stop feeding off of negativity online You'll stop feeding off a gossip because you'll be in a place of peace and you will know what peace feel like And you will enjoy peace and you won't want anything to disrupt your peace And but see the way our world is is Because of the detractors because of the distractions because of the negative people it make it seem like this is a Polarizing thing it make it seem like this is everybody when really when you really literally count it If you count the the black men online who say they done with black women You're gonna have one hand one or two hands But then you're gonna go in the comments and you're gonna see another 10 20 people But then you got to realize is this is these people out of millions of people So we'll take a hundred people or even 1,000 people that we see online Pushing a narrative and we'll say oh, this is the new this the thing Black men don't want black women no more and it's because you didn't seen a thousand people But you got to realize it's a million and what you got to understand is the black men that's talking down on black women Those are the broken the hurting the ignorant the lame the loss Those are the men who they don't have peace in their life so the million black men that are Ready for love and want a relationship. They're not online Because they trying to get the six figures or seven figures or eight figures So they not online in the comment section. They had Starbucks sitting and working on a business They at church every time the doors is open they in the local small business groups the local entrepreneurship groups They in the local communities. They out in the real world. They in the gym They in the coffee shop. They in the church. They in the library They're not on social media in the comments. So therefore we see all of this thing We see all of these people and we see a thousand people say oh, well, this is the new thing Somebody say I see lots of black men with non black women Literally go down the list and count that really counting and see how many you know And you're gonna know three or four. You're gonna know five to ten But you looking at a microcosm You got to look at the whole world and the thing about it even when you look out when you look at our representation You look at the representation. That's hot deal. Okay, Barack Blight woman and LeBron James blight woman Dwayne Wade blight woman who on TV steve Harvey blight woman Tyler Pear don't know what he got going on. I'm trying to think of the black man. That's not Jay-Z blight woman Now you see Kanye West. That's right there some of them actors a lot of them actors They got different they be with different color women, you know all kind of women But when you get down to the street on the street level and you look at your uncles You look at your brothers. You look at your cousins You look at the people you know, you're gonna start to see that it's gonna be a Divide down the line and everything you're gonna be able to see you're gonna be able to see The reason why so you're gonna see Steph Curry blight woman Um, even his teammates got blight women You really you not seeing this as so much as we think But and look at your principal look at the principal of the school look at the police officers Look at like literally go out and do your research so you could shift your narrative because if you telling yourself Oh, don't nobody want me don't nobody want me then nobody gonna want you Because you already looking like tdj's blight woman and You you're not going to attract Anything because of what you telling yourself so listen There's a remnant of me or no good me and that's out there my wife done with appointments. So I got to go Nobody that's out there and so We got to understand that it's still a whole nother side of this it's a whole nother side of this and You have to know what you want in your life and change your narrative for yourself and stop just seeing believe in what The algorithm is pushing because it's gonna push what's gonna create the most drama Hey, so do your research spend the rest of the day going down your list Doing your research everybody, you know Even the people you see online and count it up and you do the math and you do the number for your demographic For your area where you at? Hey, God bless you y'all say hey to the Queen See you want to be on the camera. We'll talk soon