 Hi, I'm Matthew coast head dating coach and founder at commitment connection calm and in this video We're going to talk about whether you should let men make all the moves or not and The you know different masculine and feminine roles So but before we talk about that if you're struggling to attract the right man into a committed lasting Relationship make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz so today's question comes from a woman in our community and she's asking I Really want to understand the changing landscape around feminine and masculine energies as a woman Where's the line? Do we leave the men to make all the moves? And so the short answer is yes, you you leave men to make all the moves but That doesn't mean that you shouldn't take an active role in This whole thing here And and so, you know Yeah, you want to let men make the moves and it'll tell you a lot about how a man feels Based on what kind of moves he does or doesn't make But the role and you know again We're talking about masculine men right and the more masculine a man is the more he'll Want to take a role when you he'll want to do everything and he'll want to control everything and and if you want a really masculine man then you know step back and and let him do things and and If he's a little bit more feminine, you might have to kind of pry him a little bit more Or if he's confused about, you know, what his role is or how he should be acting which is Seems to be more and more men that are in that kind of position these days But for your role as a woman as being the feminine energy in the relationship your role is really encouragement and really What that is is Showing him that you're interested showing him that you like what he's doing Encouraging him to continue doing what he's doing and that just takes practice, you know, there's kind of a scale There's like one side where you're like, you know Showing too much interest and that can look needy And then there's the other side where you look way too disinterested and that you know for a guy that means for him that he thinks he's gonna get dropped into the just friends category which sucks in a lot of ways and so You know in court encourage the man encourage him to approach you Encourage him to call you encourage him to do the things that you want him to do Studies have shown just in the approaching category that a man won't approach Over I think it's over like 80% of men won't approach Unless they're given some kind of signal from you because men need that encouragement they need that invitation to come in and Approach you they need to know that you're interested and if he doesn't know that you're interested then You know, he won't continue to pursue you because he doesn't end up He doesn't want to end up, you know, just friends with you and so Yeah, that's it Be the encourager and practice it and you know, and you'll get better at it the more you do it So that's it for this video if you want more information about how to what's stopping you from attracting the right man Into a committed lasting relationship. Make sure you go to my website at commitment connection calm and take my quiz I'm Matthew coast and I'll speak with you again soon