 and if you're a growing flourishing person, you will not stand still as a person. You will constantly have reinventions of you because you are committed to becoming the best version of you. You can possibly be, which means you have to shed the skin as it were, of the old versions of you that were good in their time. But they are not good for who you are becoming next. And I think what happens is that we do life with people who love the version of you that they've always known. And so it gets difficult to reinvent because the people that have known you the longest are the ones that most don't want you to change. In case the next version of you doesn't give them the same space in your life.