 It's a whole other way of looking at compliments, isn't it? It's very subtle. I mean, this is something that, you know, when you study the Masters and you, they have such a compassion and caring, and they are very concerned with their pupils' thoughts and their beliefs, and they are constantly helping point out those things in a very gentle way. But as far as complimenting, especially when you get to appearances or even particular traits and so on and so forth, I mean, it can be very supportive. There can be certain traits that are reflections of holy relationship, are reflections of purity of thought that you can rejoice in with one another. But when we say compliment one again, once again, we're really focusing on the ego's attempt to compliment the body and, or particular skills that are associated with the body to raise them up as being important, and literally attempt to saying, you know, this is great, you have improved, you're a better self than you were before, and it still maintains that construct. It doesn't get beyond it. That's why the admonition is that we're not to adorn the body in a way that draws attention to it. It's that very thing of adding some reality to what's just a body, some importance to that. And it's not often seen that way, but if God is spirit and Christ is spirit and the body is nothing, and the mind attempts to raise up or make important that which is non-existent, then obviously we have a major identity deception that's going on here, and by withdrawing the investment in appearances and how things look, and focusing the mind's attention on healing, or that one intent, if you call it forgiveness, the miracle, however you want to go with the words, it's relinquished, it's laid aside, it's outgrown. Why would a mind that would see the body as nothing want to put any of its mind toward nothing? Yes. It would only want to do that if it believed it was that thing, and that was its chosen home, and it could actually make better that home. So once you can start to see the metaphysics of what's going on, then it's not a sacrifice to start saying. And the form changes will flow automatically from the changes in perception, the changes in thinking. It's not the other way around, otherwise you fall into the aesthetic trap. Changing the form, when the content in the mind hasn't been changed at all. Yes. That's sacrifice, that's deprivation. Yes, it's the part of the mind that's going to do it, it'll go through with it because the book said so or this and this and this, but there's still a belief that at some level it still has a value. There's a conflict that goes on in the mind, and the mind is split. That's where the resentment would come in. Like a coercion, I'm doing this for God, I'm doing this for, because Jesus tells me I have to, and so on and so forth, that Jesus wants us to start thinking like Him. And then the behavior automatically follows from the thoughts. But the thought level or the mind level is the only place where true change can take place. Changing the form, per se, is if it was possible to just change form, it's like changing constructs and holding the belief in the construct in mind still, and that doesn't solve anything. I can notice what goes on at a form level and use that to start bringing it back to my mind and my beliefs. I mean, I can notice how much time I spend coloring my hair or styling my hair or soaking in a bubble bath or whatever, whatever I do that pampers or beautifies the body, and just notice that I place some value in the body, obviously, by putting that much toward it and then just use that as a signal to go back in the mind and look at what's really going on there. What's the construct that's held in place that would have me put that kind of mind toward a body? What is it for? What is all this dolling up and so on and so forth for? And when you can really ask a fundamental question like that, then you can start to get a sense of the construct because those actions and attempts, the mind is acting and asking the body to play out fantasies that seem to reinforce that it is a body. It can have fantasies of pleasure, it can have fantasies of pain, it can have fantasies of attack and defense, so on and so forth, but the fantasies, it can no more truly attack the mind, but it can have fantasies of attack. If the mind could truly attack, then guilt would be justified. And the separation could have happened, I guess, in that framework. And the attack thoughts that Jesus talks about in the lessons, you know, I'm only vulnerable to my own attack thoughts. My attack thoughts are attacking my invulnerability, for instance, a lesson like that. It's still speaking at the split mind level, I mean those attack thoughts are in the wrong mind or are part of a split mind. It's part of the construct that we're talking about. And the healing comes from pulling back and disidentifying, from being able to watch those things, those attack thoughts without horror. Instead of being horrible, terrifying attack thoughts, they're just unreal thoughts and therefore the horror is gone. From the right mind, the thoughts are not horrifying because they're known that they're unreal. The Holy Spirit does not buy the false beliefs. He's anchored in, knows the true identity of the Son and the Source. So with relationships, it comes back to the mind watching, I mean it's watching the feelings, noticing my feelings and reactions. Those are my trigger points, those are my clues. Offer a gateway for me to go in and question the self-concept. Question my false beliefs and associations. That thing that you were talking about seemed kind of large and overwhelming, that leap to do that. Moment by moment is the golden opportunity of if one can watch one's feelings and have a willingness to see the world differently, a willingness to withdraw the meanings that have been read into and given to the world, to the perceptions. And that seems to be accelerated in so-called relationship with someone that doesn't always see eye to eye with me. Every relationship, those... Of course even if the person seems to see eye to eye with me. There's all that stuff that comes up about intimacy. It doesn't have to be, you know, the acceleration doesn't have to come about through being in so-called relationship with someone that I'm at odds with, as it were. It's really breaking the part. Even saying that there are special love relationships and special hate, these are just flip sides of this desire to see the split. There's the split again. The desirable friends and the undesirable friends, the good guys, the bad guys. Once again it gets back to the mind wanting to see that split out in the world. There really is no difference. The real relationship is a state of mind. It's not dependent on anything external. And when we speak about special love and special hate, I mean these are metaphors as well for a trick that the mind's trying to do. As if it knows what love is. Attraction, attachment. These are words that might be more suitable to love as this world sees it. Human fantasy. Yes, meet my needs. It's a humbling thought to remember that I don't really know what love is. That anything I have thought has been love in this world has not. And that is an open mind that can begin to get a glimmer of that. Because the seeking and the pursuing, it goes with that as well. With the change of perception, with the relinquishment of judgment, there comes a more stabilized perception and feelings of peace, feelings of wholeness and joy and completion and the seeking ends. Well, when I don't know what I'm looking for, I mean when I acknowledge I don't know what it is and I wouldn't recognize it probably if I saw it, then I guess it's kind of pointless to keep seeking in that respect. Yeah, even if the seed mind can say in a sense, I'm looking for love or I'm looking for happiness. I just want to be happy. But it's where one is looking for it. I mean, the seed mind counsels, the ego says, look out in the world. Look into the darkened glass. It says in Corinthians, you know, look for idols, for forms that will bring your happiness. So the mind is still looking for happiness, but it's just looking outward into the projection to find it, whereas inward is where it can be found. The light in the mind that the false beliefs and the concepts and the constructs has covered over is where happiness is, is where love is.