 Hi, welcome to Sunday morning coffee. Today we're gonna talk about group dynamics. So I am fresh off another exercise, workout, group experience. This is a new thing for me. You know if you've been listening that I've talked a little bit about. I started boxing. I'm going to a boxing gym that is crossfit and training and it's actually a women's boxing group and so it is just and it's owned by this this great family and it's just it's just amazing. So my coach is like 23 and she's just she's badass and I Cannot tell you I have never really understood this whole Hey get up early go work out before work. Hey get up early go to these classes where you're like pushed and people are yelling at you Come on. You can do it. Go go go, you know kind of like thing like crossfit and orange theory and that kind of heavy-duty stuff like I never understood that group energy thing that like let's let's beat up our bodies. I didn't really get it. Now I get it. I Get it. Okay. It's not just about It's not like this vanity thing where you just want to look good and everybody needs to exercise and are doing that for other people or for the world or for society or for Standards of beauty or health or wellness or fitness. It really is this incredible group dynamic that if you tap into that it just Fills you up it brings you into this level of Thriving like I really feel So alive I feel like I'm a whole new level of clear. I Feel like I have clarity. My head is clear. My mind is clear. I Haven't felt like this. I don't even know when the last time if ever I've ever felt like this so in the last three days I've been twice and The women's boxing club is only on the weekend. So I can go Friday Saturday Sunday. And so For this is the first time I added Sunday I just felt like I wanted to try it in the morning and see what was up. So now I get it so for those of you who I've totally Made fun of behind your backs For getting up and exercising before you go to work and doing the hardcore thing. I get it now I get it because It like fills you up with energy and it makes you it helps you to feel Just really present and good and It's not euphoric Really like the first time I ever went it was totally euphoric and sometimes I can get like this high And I know that's like endorphins and hormones and all that kind of stuff I get that that's actually a physiologically logical thing that happens in the body, but Today I really felt this group surge This like vitality that was like the vibration was raised Because the people who are there are there because they want to be there and they're there to be part of a group Experience not just because they can exercise by themselves But it just holds you and I was thinking about how The group the group experience for all of us. It's so essential, especially now So if you're in a women's group a women's circle a prayer circle if you're in an online group if you're in a workshop or a class or Any kind of groups regardless of what it's for if it's for your quilting hobby if it's for a book club If it's for a wine tasting or if it's for a biking bicycling club, whatever that is It it is so needed. We need the group Vitality we need the group dynamics We need them and for so long it's been something that I think Has been kind of forced upon us like when in the educational the traditional educational system at least in the us Has been like, okay, you got to do group projects Got to learn how to get along with other people Which usually means you have to learn how to just suck it up and carry the load for people who are lazy Because that's how life is going to be that's what the work environment is going to be There's going to be people that are favorites that just Get to ride your coattails. Like there's all this kind of negative I think thought Um belief system around group dynamics in part because it's been forced in ways that are inbalanced and not healthy and so experiences like this Give us the opportunity to repattern that to reprogram that and to raise our vibration And by being in a group by choice is different than it kind of being forced upon you I think in a learning environment But but if you think about this in the work environment, too Like you have work groups and things like that and you know, it's kind of like that There are things that you have to just deal with and manage but What if what if We could take this concept of groups This concept of teams and teamwork this concept of family And create something now here 2023 and moving on that means more That means more to us in our actual livelihood In our livelihood Breathing fresh air into this concept of group Let's connect soulfully. Let's connect energetically. Let's make a choice. Let it let's let our light bodies meld and blend and vibe together in a cosmic dance party. Let's do that Don't you want to do that? I know I know you've had Breaks in your trust experiences and relationships and connections in your families of origin In your workspaces in your relationships and your chosen Experiences as well. I know I know there's been breaks and trusts. I know that there's been breaches I know I know there's leaks. I know you've got some leaks And I also know that people have Take an advantage of your incredible energy and and your light But that doesn't mean That doesn't mean you shouldn't have light that light is bad that your energy your vitality your essence isn't needed It is It doesn't mean it is bad. It doesn't mean that that's the way people hurt you That's not people's way in to use you or manipulate you. This is a common misunderstanding. This is the over Exaggerated response in your body in your metaphysical body to Being hurt and understanding a collective wounding Around this concept of group team family connection Gives you this incredible freedom To release the negative or the bad or the or the old wounds or the old pain points and to allow Some room some wiggle room For your spirit your heart your soul and your body to be free From those old restrictions from those old social norms So here and now right here Let's connect. Let's become a group Let's become a group on sunday morning coffee. We already are don't you know, we are all connected in our heart space We are all empathic connectors To the degree at which we are able to actually feel or sense those connections in a positive and hopeful and a healthy way Is to the degree in which you are allow yourself permission to lower your resistance And to embrace your essence Because your essence your light is so much more powerful and more profound than any negative energy that could come into your space But you must believe that to be the truth So it's not about distrust or betrayal or being hurt or being used or abused even It is about honoring the integrity of yourself and believing that your light in your essence is The it It is the magic. It is the strength. It is 100 percent Everything it's everything you need nobody can take it away Only you can turn it down only you can withdraw it only you can pull it back And I understand the resistance Oh, i'm the queen of resistance. I know how to use resistance To avoid to distract to not participate to not show up because it's hard. Yeah, it's fucking hard sometimes Oh, I'm sorry. I need to take a drink of my Dunkin Donuts coffee this morning. I wish I had a sponsor. Wouldn't that be great? I'm just I'm drinking my hot coffee after I exercised and you know, 80 degree weather. It's fine. I'm good I know I know I'm okay. You guys. I'm okay. I'm feeling good Let's have a sip of coffee or tea or whatever it is that you're having in front of you maybe water Hmm what I'm trying to say is Nobody can take anything from you That's a myth Oh, oh it feels like it. Oh, yes, it does and it feels It sure feels like people just come at you and just give you all their crap I mean whether I mean are you a parent? Are you a mom or a dad? Do you have children? Okay, so you know what I'm talking about sometimes it feels like you just don't have a choice, right? You just got to take it you got to suck it up buttercup. Oh, I hate that phrase, but it's true, right? You've heard this. You just got to deal with it. You just got you just got to hold it in What does that mean? It means I got to hold it in. I got to take it. I got to take the crap I got to take the crap. I got to take it. I got to take it. I got to take it And not only do I have to take it but I have to protect everybody else in my group No Oh honey, that means martyrdom. Do you understand? I'm gonna say this is gonna hurt some of you Oh, it's gonna hurt some of you. Don't be a martyr. Oh poor me a martyr and a victim Oh, they are twin flames you guys martyr and victim. Oh poor you Because you won't stand in your beautiful light of integrity When shit happens and it everything sucks and you need to withdraw you can do that That's not what I'm talking about. I'm not talking about going back to your center coming into yourself taking a break Taking a respite doing what you need to do to be healthy. I'm not talking about that Those are like just self-care self-love behaviors What i'm talking about is when you go oh You use somebody else And the intensity to which you're feeling other people in your group in your family at your work As an excuse to not be yourself As a reason to hide Ain't nobody can hurt you like you can hurt you You're gonna have to believe this as a fact and as truth As i'm searing it with you because i know it I have never been more sure of anything in my life that the only person that can hurt you is you To the depth of what you've been hurt You are hurting yourself because you continue to play out the blame and the shame even if you've been perpetrated upon Tragically to no fault of your own Through abuse through whatever that is right You continue to hurt yourself punish yourself And hide yourself In a form of survival in a form of protection, but that's just misunderstanding. You're just misunderstanding That didn't happen to you because you're so bad Or because you're so great that you're shining and you're awesome and you shouldn't be so great It didn't happen to you because you stood out because of your energy No That's not true. That's just a misunderstanding So in this here now moment in this group dynamic Stand in your light. Let me see you I can see you. Anyway, you get it, right? Like i'm clairvoyant. I can see you I can see your light even if you try to hide it and blame it on x y and z and the disease or the ailments you have or The horrible life situation you're in right now to no fault of your own That you're handling or dealing with do you do you want me to oh girl Let me tell you do you want me to list all the things that are that are happening that I am constantly managing in my life You would not believe it the therapist the new therapist. I have she looks she looks at me and she's like, oh like I said, oh, no, there's more And I keep like I'm just making a list and I'm like it but it's just the way it is There's always so much going on There's always drama from other people coming at you. There's always drama around you in your environment. Look at politics Look at the environment. Look at, you know, there's so much that you can tap into and pull in That why don't we okay? Why don't we start to utilize this? Let's leverage this stuff Let's leverage all this stuff that's happening and moving and shaking and occurring around us and sometimes to us at us As group energy that is just misguided and misdirected And instead of that kind of group energy and mentality that's amped up It's like somebody's playing really loud music Then you go to a different place or put your AirPods in and you choose your own station But use the incredible Intensity of the energy that's around you to recognize that there is intensity of energy Why is there intensity of energy because you are intensity of energy? Even if it feels bad or too much It just means you have so much power. You have so much light. You have so much goodness You have so much peace. You have the opportunity to connect to love to grow to use that energy to harness all that stuff That's coming in or around you or flowing around you as good and healthy stuff You can take all this if you think of everything as energy instead of as good or bad Then you can use All the energy from all the groups that you're in all the networks you're connected to and harness it Isn't that what we do like With like solar power With electricity with like, isn't that what we do? Like it makes sense, doesn't it? I know there's so much. I know there's a lot and a lot is good Do you know why because a lot means abundance it just so happens it might feel like Not so great abundance, but it's abundance It is abundance So how about you say okay abundance? Wow, this isn't exactly what I was thinking, but It gives me the reminder that there's a lot of freaking power with energy With my essence and all this emotion that I'm feeling build up inside me based upon this experience that I've had Or based upon this memory that I'm recalling and reliving Or based upon this concern that I have for my child and the situation they're in or for my spouse Or whatever it may be It's all powerful energy. It's all Amplified and supported by the groups that we're connected to by the grids that we're connected to by the energy of our family Connection so in our spirit, we are all connected It doesn't mean you're responsible for everybody else or accountable for everybody else But you are responsible and accountable for yourself Always all the time You decide what happens to you. You decide what you need to do If somebody else does something and it's stupid and it affects you and it's not good You decide what happens after that You take that energy of that experience and those emotions and you use them For your greatest and highest good You amplify you glow you shine you embody and encompass The power of the energy from the group in the experience that you've had Regardless of if it was good or bad, that's a brain thing. That's what the mind is assessing which helps us, right? That's how we get through the world But your heart and your soul my friend That's where it's at And that is how we connect to each other and that is how we support each other metaphysically ethereally And the energy that you are Thank you so much for listening today to the Sunday Morning Coffee. As always, I appreciate you I just I'm so grateful that you're here with me and that we have this connection the soulful connection because we do We are we're a group here on Sunday Morning Coffee We're a group here on above life channel and I appreciate each and every one of you and I feel you Just as you can sense and feel me and one another as well All right Thank you so much for listening. I'm going to go finish my donut and finish my coffee as I'm sitting at the park here I hope you have a fabulous sundae Oh, I know it's a short week, but I do have client appointments available and just so happens I have another group scheduled for Tuesday Everybody anybody can join It is $40 a person right now. That's all that's all i'm charging for the hour Um that we hang out together and it's a small group. So there's not more than 12 people in the group And it is on the next one is on september 12th tuesday at 6 p.m. Central time take a look in The notes here in the description of this video and you can see a link to join It is called the inspiring psychic experience I do kind of a talk like this maybe channeling a little bit and then um Bringing some spirit guides and such have some conversation and then i'll give opportunity for you all to ask questions if you'd like to do that so Thanks so much for listening. I hope I've inspired your spirit today filled you with hope just like you feel me with hope I appreciate you Remember, this is your life and you get to live it and just live it