 And I talked about this in one of my videos and I got a lot of pushback from women but we were discussing if there's a man who caters to all of your needs, your bills are paid emotionally, he supports you. But the only condition is that he wants to have another woman and not means that he wants to sleep around because that's different. Discipline structure is just a non-monogamous relationship. So something says that out to me and it's a critique that we get nowadays with relationships or marriages that we don't try hard enough to make things work. And I agree with you by the way because I've also been in that space where my parents, they were together and after a certain point I'm like I was happy when they broke up. It was like a relief to me that they were no longer together and I don't think that people who didn't have a two family household, they don't understand that. Like you just assume that two people are there, it's perfect and it's always not, that's not always the case, right? But what is the middle ground because the critique is that we give up too quick and we aren't thinking about our kids because we're separating the household. So it's like what is the balance between the two and how do you expect people to navigate it because it's like we critique either way. Listen, Gen X, shout out to y'all because a lot of y'all are my viewers. Y'all are fully And this is what I mean by Gen X being fully shit. It is much as certain aspects of the culture, certain aspects of us as people were better back then. One thing that we are better at now than generations before, we're a lot more honest than our parents and our grandparents. We're far more honest. And I think part of what people are having a hard time doing is wrapping their minds around this newfound honesty. We talk about women now are fast and they're harlots and this, this and that. Whereas who you thought your daddy was wasn't really your daddy. It was the milk man. It was a lot more polished people they talked with. There was no social media, no camera phones. So it seemed like women back in the day were just these virginal, chastity belt wearing women. But no, they were getting down to let's be real. But to your point about like we give up more quickly, I don't, I think the difference though is there weren't as many outs back then. Grandpa needed, I mean grandma needed grandpa. She couldn't get a job by herself. She couldn't own property by herself. The difference now is you can get a job by yourself. You can take care of yourself. You can buy property. You can. So the incentive for you to want to or to relegate yourself to making it work to white knuckling it is not as high. And I think it's a natural progression of our society. We're going to have to reckon with that. And it's not to say that people back then were just more resilient. No, they just didn't have any options. Right. So we have options. So it means more now if we're able to make it work, despite the options versus back then, I didn't have no other options. Now in hindsight, we're looking back and saying, oh, grandma was resilient and grandma was strong. This and that. What else is she going to do? Grandma could have a bank house in 1970s. What else is she going to do? Right. Now she might even think that about herself too. Yeah, you know, these kids nowadays just let shit fall. But if she's being honest with herself and she had the options that you have today, she was the thing that keeps us in relationships now is a lot more arbitrary. And I think that we are struggling to figure out what that thing is just because we are so materialistic. And so if I know that I can get materialistic benefits by myself, I don't think that you have a, I don't have a use for you, but you do serve a use as just more arbitrary. I think the best case for monogamy, and I want to do like a town hall on monogamy because I have thoughts, but I think the best case for monogamy is children outside of children. I don't know if there are any other really powerful arguments, especially nowadays. Like I remember there was a girl who went viral on Twitter a while back, she was saying, what if we made marriage licenses, like driver's licenses, where every 10 or so years you can either reapply or it just expires. So it's not a divorce, it's not messy or whatever, it just license expires. When you consider the fact healthcare is better people living longer, when you consider the fact the world is more accessible, when you consider the fact dating apps people are also more accessible, we might have to reimagine this institution that has existed for a long period of time. You know, and I think because we're so idealistic, we're not even willing to engage in that. Like there are a lot of people who don't want kids. What's the point of you being married early then? Well, I think it's a mix of us doing what we are told to do. So it's just the norm. But then there's also a sense of ownership there as well. And I talked about this in one of my videos and I got a lot of pushback from women, but we were discussing, you know, if there is a man who caters to all of your needs, you know, your bills are paid emotionally, he supports you. But the only condition is that he wants to have another woman and not meaning that he wants to sleep around, that's different. Discipline structure is just a nominogamous relationship. What would be the reason for holding you back from that? And when you really sit and you really sit with that, a lot of it is probably, I would get jealous. I can't do this. I can't do that. It's often tied to a sense of ownership. You feel like you deserve to be attached to one person that one person is attached to you and it should just be that way. Like I said, I just believe it's worth a conversation. Harder understanding men, like I said earlier, is understanding that men males are not naturally monogamous. I think that is a hard pill to swallow. Even for us as men, but like we're not naturally monogamous. Even when you look at biologically, a low sperm count is 15 million. Average egg count is 300,000. And you lose it as you age as a woman, right? So like, I do think monogamy is something worth striving for, from a discipline standpoint, from a, you know, personality management standpoint, it's hard to have a bunch of women and a bunch of wives. Like people think about the threesomes and stuff like it, but it's a lot more than that. But again, I think it's worth a conversation, particularly from a community perspective, especially when you consider the fact that the type of men that a bunch of women are asking for are not in abundant supply. So either you can get with this, this dude, and disrespect him along the way, because he's, he doesn't measure up to all the things you want, or you can share this dude does. And it's funny, I was watching the episode of Great Vanuva back and one of the guests was saying that a monogamous society actually benefits men. And a polygamous society benefits women. Monogamy benefits men because even the lower ranked men are guaranteed a mate. But in a polygamous society, you can be Ms. LeBron James, you can be Ms. LeBron James, you can be Ms. LeBron James. So women, females of any species will naturally congregate around the apex dude. So yeah, I think at some point we're gonna have to like honestly sit with it and be like, okay, what do I, what do I really want? And if what I really want is going to be this top 1% dude, I'm gonna have to be Savannah James. I'm gonna have to, you know, I know LeBron ain't, you know, but he's LeBron though, he's the king, you know, or- You know LeBron, but she is. Well, I have some side pieces, and we have stuff hurry people have had to base her like they have to have other women. I actually don't, let me not say, I think Steph is, Steph's probably, you know what I'm saying, but LeBron, because even with the athlete thing, like you have to understand that at that level, like it's women sneaking into your hotel room. And I'm not talking about just women sneaking, I'm talking about IG models who have blue checks in their DMs are in your bed after a game. Again, not to say this is right, but like as a woman who understands men, there should be a sense of don't do it, but it's not right. But it's like. Yeah. Yeah. I think it's worth the conversation. Very worth the conversation. But you just have to be, I think that just to even be receptive to that type of discussion, you have to be able to remove yourself from your ego. And I don't know if a lot of people are there. I hope people can get there, but our ego definitely have us in a chokehold with a lot of things. I think what's difficult, you know, maybe when it comes to women being able to have that conversation is because I think a lot of, and correct me if I'm wrong, I've never been a woman. I got the other parts. A lot of women's sexual selection is deeply rooted in procreation and is deeply rooted in not only am I saying yes or granting you access to my body because I like you, but because some part of me even subconsciously is saying that you would be a good mate to not only protect me, but also protect our potential offspring long term. And that's why you see even on the physical, you know, plain women are selecting for height and symmetry and muscularity and things like that. And I think particularly because in the mating process, a woman's life is at risk. And then you look at post-partum, you look at all the things, pre-clampsia, all the things that are involved. There are a lot more boxes just naturally than a male has to check to get access to you sexually. And a lot of those boxes are emotional and mental boxes. It's not the same for men. So I think the assumption from women is that men have that same criteria, type of criteria to decide to have a sex with a woman as a woman does to decide to have sex with a man. And it's just not the case because our lives aren't at risk. I would agree with that logic. If you are talking about a woman who doesn't use sex to fill a void, because if we were following that logic, then a lot of women wouldn't be getting pregnant by men who are no good and don't take care of their kids because they would have subconsciously selected someone who should be a good father. But that's not really the case for a lot of people. So I'm not sure. I don't really know about that.