 They don't tell you what's right They don't tell you, you know, and you don't you don't live for the highs you live For constant high. I mean, you don't live for the highs when you know there's gonna be a big bust at the end So being selfish being self-interested Doesn't mean that if there's a line of cocaine here I'm gonna take it because you know what I'm gonna feel better afterwards Why not? Because I also realized because I can think that there's a negative consequences and In this case, I believe at least that the negative consequences greater than the high So I don't do it and you can apply this to The kind of food you eat, right? I sometimes emotionally we'd love to have that huge super great chocolate full of sugar and Carb piece of cake And we understand when it comes to food that we sometimes have to avoid that and the press You know not follow our emotions, but use our head. Well, again, that's same principle needs to apply and everything in life you might Be attracted to an incredible woman who is gonna incredibly destroy you And if you sat down for a minute and thought about it, you'd realize it, but you know, she's hot But way the benefit of hot one night of hot sex versus she's gonna demolish you, right? I wouldn't know what that feels like, but I've seen the movie, right? It's just not worth it. It's like the chocolate cake. It's not worth it But that's you need to be able to use this Consistently in your life in order to be able to make those kind of judgments and be able to be strong enough And this takes strength Because we're not taught this. We're not taught to stop and think Particularly with modern education, what's taught to emote. We're taught to follow our feelings. You know, we're very touchy feeling these days You know But that's not right. It's not what's gonna lead you to the right Decisions we're taught to listen to everybody's advice. Well, most people don't know what's good for you You know who knows what's good for you? You do If you spend the time to think about it Okay, so my pitch today is thinking It's thinking thinking thinking underlies everything everything in life and underlies the whole foundation of Self-improvement every aspect of it everything you hear up here over the weekend needs to be evaluated based on that Does this make sense? Is this the way I want to live my life? Is this gonna lead me to a better life and that's their burden to show you rationally through reason that it is that it's going to Hope I haven't spoiled the weekend. So I'm kidding. I'm kidding So that's self-interest so emotions good things But they're not tools for making decisions with emotions come from how do what do we have the emotions that we have? They keep us alive in what sense they keep us alive Yeah, but should we I just made a whole case for now making decisions in your survival based on emotions Because what emotions come from? Are they just random chemical whatever in in the body? Yeah, I don't maybe but I don't think that factors Have ever you had a change in emotion because change Changed leads one to understand what happens because have you ever had an emotion about something and then it's changed I don't know you loved a woman and they stopped loving her Yeah, it comes from your but not it's not even thoughts. It's conclusions. It comes from conclusions that you've come to It's an an automatic response the subconscious conclusions that you've made already. So it's all subconscious But it's the conclusions and when the conclusions change what happens to emotions Did they change instantly? No, it takes a while, but they do change So for example if you if you if you're in love with a woman and you discover that she is cheating on you, right? Do you immediately not love her? Wish it was that easy right, but it's not it usually takes some time because what happens is our minds are these Integrating machines they like to connect stuff and it takes a time for the subconscious to catch up with your consciousness So your emotions over time will change and they will change if you've come to a conclusion, but it takes time So emotions are responses to conclusions that we've come to in the past now sometimes We've come to conclusions in our childhood about things that we weren't even aware. We were making conclusions about and That leads us to have emotional responses today that we might not even understand because they're based on conclusions that we came to a long time ago And the only way to undo those emotions Go see a good psychotherapist if one existed Is ultimately to change those conclusions identify what they weren't changed But emotions are just concluding they might those conclusions might be wrong We might have had a Nasty mean mother and we came to conclusion about women Because of that when we were three or four years old without even really being fully conscious and being fully rational That might just be wrong and today we have certain emotional responses that just don't match to how we'd like to have This is why emotions are not tools of making decisions Because we don't know where the exactly they come from You know, I think the more we Interest the more we think about ourselves the more we study ourselves The more we know about our emotions the more we can fix the bad conclusions and therefore change our emotional responses But that's hard work and you're never quite sure you're there That's why emotions are not the way in which we make decisions The only time you want to make a decision based on emotion is in a true emergency, right when you just don't have time to think and then Emotions as good as anything else and hopefully your emotions are tuned with your conclusions and you're making the right decision But that's rarity. How many of us really live in situations while survival depends on making instantaneous decisions Almost none of us almost every decision we make we can afford to stop and think about it You know and I highly recommend doing that most of us get into trouble when we don't do that Say emotions come from thoughts they come from conclusions, but we don't always know if those conclusions were right We don't always know if those thoughts were rational and therefore we can't always trust our emotions And that's why we always need to step back and think them through maybe they're fine. Maybe that emotion is absolutely right Maybe it's not We have to be open to that So again, the mechanism is reason And as a consequence This is one of the reasons, you know Lying doesn't work Because of our means of survival if the way in which we create stuff is to reason reason means what reason means absorbing information and Analyzing it and being what about that information being honest about we want real facts You know the computer terminology of garbage in garbage out, you know, if you eat something to computer that's BS then you're gonna get BS. You're not gonna get good stuff out of feeding you have a computer up here It's kind of a computer. It's more than a computer, right if you feed a garbage It's gonna spew out garbage if you feed it lies You're gonna fail and You think that you can hold the lies separate from the truth good luck Because as I said our minds are integrating machines. They love to integrate stuff Our mind our subconscious doesn't know what what you've defined as a lion. What isn't it's gonna mesh them up most People who lie constantly can't tell the difference Now I'm pretty old particularly in this room, right and I have a hard time remembering what actually happens Right like a week ago. You asked me what do you do a week ago? I have to really think about it I don't remember. I really don't Now what happens when you lie? You have to remember what you did and then what else do you have to remember? What you told the lie and and the lie comes with all kinds of complicated circumstances right because you have to remember