 Love can be self annihilating because love means essentially somebody else has become far more important than yourself but at the same time it's pleasant, it's sweet, it drags you in, that's why we said it's self annihilating because if you do not annihilate yourself you will never know love, some part of you must die, if not the whole of you, at least a part of you should collapse that something else and somebody else has occupied that space within you which was you all this time. If you don't do that, there is no love, only calculation. So if love has to happen, at least a part of you must be annihilated, if the whole of you is annihilated, that would be great.