 when a man or woman is in a state of chaos, emotional chaos, if you will, or physical chaos. What I mean is your physical world, there's the emotional world and then your physical world, if it's not, you know, if the ground underneath you doesn't feel solid, the minute someone else's feelings require some level of attention, that ground underneath them isn't solid, causes them to retract, pull away, even go silent. Now, by the way, in midlife, you're going to have this, but for the most part, if the ground underneath them isn't solid, it causes them to be more focused on their own needs because they don't have a capacity to focus on someone else's needs. And sometimes, you know, the best interest is to end a relationship because they're not capable of going all in.