 Good day. May 40 here by the Sydney Opera House So I'm listening to this New Yorker article on do we change over the course of our life? All right, there's some people who see things more in terms of you know staying the same continuity and other people who see themselves more in terms of distinct phases, but there's one breakdown of personalities from study at University of Dunedin in New Zealand and they divide people into three camps that there are those who move towards life And so I think that would be roughly Compatible With the secure attachment so when people like you and you like them and they're good for you you move towards them And people treat you badly you move away from them so So there's probably the dominant personality type and you move towards life meet towards people and then There are those who move away from people so if you're Joining a new school in eighth grade right those who move towards will make friends join clubs Get socially active and then those who move away Will read a lot of books so I guess I'm a personality that likes to move away And then those who move against will cause trouble so Got a part of me that likes to move towards life large part of me that likes to move away from life and live stream and read books and Then another part of me that likes to move against life And this refers to the criminally inclined and the thrill seekers so I've got some Thrill seeking personality traits, but I think you see these tendencies all around you Are those who move towards other people towards connection of those who move away And there are those who move against and so if you have a relationship with someone who moves away Then that person's not likely to be very social All right, we have to take them to a lot of social events. They're going to need a lot of time on their own So we're probably talking about an avoidant personality Then someone who moves against the world All right, so someone is low in agreeableness It's going to create a lot of turbulence. It's going to rub a lot of people the wrong way All right, so Easiest relationships I would think would be two people who tend towards who towards life Towards each other towards other people towards connection And if you get a marriage between someone who moves towards and someone who moves away I think there'd be a lot of Emptiness lack of connection and If someone who moves towards life marry someone who moves against life Against the world Right again a lot of conflict Have a hard time imagining that would go too well There are socially effective personalities Less socially effective personalities, so socially effective personalities above average in agreeableness above average in conscientiousness more extroverted than introverted Open to new experience low in neuroticism and Jews generally speaking have These types of personalities These are the personalities that tend to make for success in life Be more extroverted than introverted to be less erotic To have openness to new experience To be more conscientious than average and to be more agreeable and disagreeable That people are more agreeable Obviously Kind of get along better with other people. They're going to have a better reputation in the community people are more likely to like them so There are studies that show that Jews have more socially effective personalities now we can shape our personality to some degree we all tend to become more conscientious as we age We tend to become more agreeable as we age we tend to become less neurotic as we age and We can do concrete things to become more conscientious more agreeable more extroverted More open it's new experience and Less neurotic and we're looking out of the beautiful Sydney Harbor As the Sydney Harbor Bridge there are tours where you can walk to the top. I think I see a bunch of people Top the Sydney Harbor Bridge right now